Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Marrying Outside of Your Madhhab
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What issues should one consider when marrying someone of another
50 month of how does one deal with this? When children are born, I
would be very careful about this. I mean, if it's the format hubs,
right, if it's the format hubs, and they generally have a lot of
other an etiquette and respect between them, so I don't think
that should be a problem. But you do need to understand when you get
married, you probably do need to agree beforehand that okay, we
will bring our children up as healthy or Maliki's or whatever it
is, you know, whatever they're going to have access to in the
local market. That's what's important that you take on the
mother hub of what's available there. I've seen cases or horror
cases that I've dealt with personally, where a Hanafy, for
example, is married to Salafi or a chef, he has married a Salafi and
they just Subhanallah they just, especially when they extreme, they
just keep arguing about things to such a degree that one of them one
case that I just dealt with recently, he told his wife that
you're careful, right? Because he was extreme Salafi. And she was
either Hanafi or something. And he says, You're a caliphate
eventually. That's what it came down to. He tried to change up and
he couldn't, he says, You're a governor. And then he divorced and
went off and they've got children. Right. So it's generally within
Hanafi Shafi is the Maliki's, you know, between them is quite fine.
But when you have selfies, then that causes a lot of problem,
right? Because the whole selfie methodology, unfortunately, their
understanding is that they are exclusively right, and everybody
else is wrong. Whereas for Hanafy, is we don't think that we think
we're right, but we that we could be in error, right? And the chef
is we respect them for what they've done. Right? So we don't
have that much of an issue unless somebody wants to become an
extreme Hanafy and start, you know, condemning or Shafi is that,
you know, if you have that that's a problem. But generally that
doesn't happen. Right? So
Hanafy says the American America Maliki brother, it should be fine.
As long as again, the Maliki brother is not one of those who
has a superiority complex of Merrick is that they're the best
in the world. Right? Because we do have some of that as well, just as
we have some people in the Hanafi school who are like that, so as
long as he's willing to respect you, and allow you to be Hanafy.
And he, and you can decide between you. I mean, I think the children
should be whatever they have access to. And it's not going to
cause confusion for them in their own community. And it's going to
be easy for them. So if it's Hanafy in the community, that's
what they should probably become. If it's magic in the community,
that's fine. It's just whatever they can bring the children up. I
mean, one of my teachers, he is actually married to a Shafi their
children are all brought up a share phase. Right now he's a big
hunter Fisher himself, but the old brothers that's a possibility.