Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Marrying Outside of Your Madhhab

			What issues should one consider
when marrying someone of another
		

			50 month of how does one deal with
this? When children are born, I
		

			would be very careful about this.
I mean, if it's the format hubs,
		

			right, if it's the format hubs,
and they generally have a lot of
		

			other an etiquette and respect
between them, so I don't think
		

			that should be a problem. But you
do need to understand when you get
		

			married, you probably do need to
agree beforehand that okay, we
		

			will bring our children up as
healthy or Maliki's or whatever it
		

			is, you know, whatever they're
going to have access to in the
		

			local market. That's what's
important that you take on the
		

			mother hub of what's available
there. I've seen cases or horror
		

			cases that I've dealt with
personally, where a Hanafy, for
		

			example, is married to Salafi or a
chef, he has married a Salafi and
		

			they just Subhanallah they just,
especially when they extreme, they
		

			just keep arguing about things to
such a degree that one of them one
		

			case that I just dealt with
recently, he told his wife that
		

			you're careful, right? Because he
was extreme Salafi. And she was
		

			either Hanafi or something. And he
says, You're a caliphate
		

			eventually. That's what it came
down to. He tried to change up and
		

			he couldn't, he says, You're a
governor. And then he divorced and
		

			went off and they've got children.
Right. So it's generally within
		

			Hanafi Shafi is the Maliki's, you
know, between them is quite fine.
		

			But when you have selfies, then
that causes a lot of problem,
		

			right? Because the whole selfie
methodology, unfortunately, their
		

			understanding is that they are
exclusively right, and everybody
		

			else is wrong. Whereas for Hanafy,
is we don't think that we think
		

			we're right, but we that we could
be in error, right? And the chef
		

			is we respect them for what
they've done. Right? So we don't
		

			have that much of an issue unless
somebody wants to become an
		

			extreme Hanafy and start, you
know, condemning or Shafi is that,
		

			you know, if you have that that's
a problem. But generally that
		

			doesn't happen. Right? So
		

			Hanafy says the American America
Maliki brother, it should be fine.
		

			As long as again, the Maliki
brother is not one of those who
		

			has a superiority complex of
Merrick is that they're the best
		

			in the world. Right? Because we do
have some of that as well, just as
		

			we have some people in the Hanafi
school who are like that, so as
		

			long as he's willing to respect
you, and allow you to be Hanafy.
		

			And he, and you can decide between
you. I mean, I think the children
		

			should be whatever they have
access to. And it's not going to
		

			cause confusion for them in their
own community. And it's going to
		

			be easy for them. So if it's
Hanafy in the community, that's
		

			what they should probably become.
If it's magic in the community,
		

			that's fine. It's just whatever
they can bring the children up. I
		

			mean, one of my teachers, he is
actually married to a Shafi their
		

			children are all brought up a
share phase. Right now he's a big
		

			hunter Fisher himself, but the old
brothers that's a possibility.