Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Marrying Outside of Your Madhhab

What issues should one consider when marrying someone of another

50 month of how does one deal with this? When children are born, I

would be very careful about this. I mean, if it's the format hubs,

right, if it's the format hubs, and they generally have a lot of

other an etiquette and respect between them, so I don't think

that should be a problem. But you do need to understand when you get

married, you probably do need to agree beforehand that okay, we

will bring our children up as healthy or Maliki's or whatever it

is, you know, whatever they're going to have access to in the

local market. That's what's important that you take on the

mother hub of what's available there. I've seen cases or horror

cases that I've dealt with personally, where a Hanafy, for

example, is married to Salafi or a chef, he has married a Salafi and

they just Subhanallah they just, especially when they extreme, they

just keep arguing about things to such a degree that one of them one

case that I just dealt with recently, he told his wife that

you're careful, right? Because he was extreme Salafi. And she was

either Hanafi or something. And he says, You're a caliphate

eventually. That's what it came down to. He tried to change up and

he couldn't, he says, You're a governor. And then he divorced and

went off and they've got children. Right. So it's generally within

Hanafi Shafi is the Maliki's, you know, between them is quite fine.

But when you have selfies, then that causes a lot of problem,

right? Because the whole selfie methodology, unfortunately, their

understanding is that they are exclusively right, and everybody

else is wrong. Whereas for Hanafy, is we don't think that we think

we're right, but we that we could be in error, right? And the chef

is we respect them for what they've done. Right? So we don't

have that much of an issue unless somebody wants to become an

extreme Hanafy and start, you know, condemning or Shafi is that,

you know, if you have that that's a problem. But generally that

doesn't happen. Right? So

Hanafy says the American America Maliki brother, it should be fine.

As long as again, the Maliki brother is not one of those who

has a superiority complex of Merrick is that they're the best

in the world. Right? Because we do have some of that as well, just as

we have some people in the Hanafi school who are like that, so as

long as he's willing to respect you, and allow you to be Hanafy.

And he, and you can decide between you. I mean, I think the children

should be whatever they have access to. And it's not going to

cause confusion for them in their own community. And it's going to

be easy for them. So if it's Hanafy in the community, that's

what they should probably become. If it's magic in the community,

that's fine. It's just whatever they can bring the children up. I

mean, one of my teachers, he is actually married to a Shafi their

children are all brought up a share phase. Right now he's a big

hunter Fisher himself, but the old brothers that's a possibility.