Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A I Don’t Feel any Love for My Child

One of my children is very sick and I have spent most time looking

after a child however, I feel that I do not love that child as much

as the others. Please make dua for me until How can I ensure equality

in my children? Love is something that obviously Allah places that's

the natural love that Allah places in your heart. So I would first

like to know what you mean by love that you don't love them as much,

right? What does he mean by that? What kind of love are we speaking

about? If as long as you are being fair, and just to all of your

children, and your love for a certain child doesn't make you

give them huge amounts that makes the others feel bad, then it's

okay. However, one is what you call herbal Fitri, which is

natural and herbal. Fitri is the natural love you just have in your

heart for some like the Bronx or LA some head for Asia, above all

of the other waves. But then there's horrible acne, you don't

like a medicine, you don't like to do certain exercise. But

rationally you convince yourself that this is beneficial for you.

And then you develop a love and a liking for it. So maybe that's

what you have to do. And ask Allah subhanaw taala for assistance and

help look for the good qualities of this child. I know the

difficult look at this child as your source for the Akira that

every effort you make behind this child, you're going to be

benefiting in Sharla for this. So there's huge amounts of benefit in

that regard. This child may be your Janet's. So love this child

for that sake.