Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A How to Learn Good Manners

			We often hear that we need more
other than knowledge and this age
		

			we hear less often just how to
have good other what would you
		

			recommend to the spiritual
aspirant who wants to have
		

			exceptional other? Well, first and
foremost you start reading the
		

			books on AdMob Right? So there's a
number of books on AdMob
		

			essentially, Adam is putting into
practice what you know.
		

			So there's a number of approaches
to this one is that you read books
		

			and other for example is a famous
book called min edible Islam by
		

			Sheikh Abdul Fattah hobo hood has
been translated into English as
		

			having it's called Islamic
etiquette or something. There's a
		

			double so I've done a whole series
on the mum, Sharon is a double
		

			Saba, it's, it talks about all the
other of the people of Allah, of
		

			the widow of Allah, how they deal
with things very deep, the whole
		

			series is online. So you can
listen to that because the
		

			original book is in Arabic, we are
working on an English translation,
		

			then there is a double mashallah,
which, again, there's an English
		

			translation of the original Urdu
By Hakeem along with one lovely
		

			thought we write a lot. And then
the next thing that you must do is
		

			to read the stories of the sahaba.
Now what that does is, it tells
		

			you how the Sahaba took the
Hadith, and operationalize them
		

			practicals them basically. So when
you see the Hadith in action,
		

			basically, the number four is the
best way to learn other is to be
		

			with an other person, other
because humans, they literally
		

			benefit from others without even
realizing being in their company.
		

			So changing your scene, finding
good company, of people to sit
		

			with who have good other, it's
very difficult sometimes to find
		

			that kind of company for you know,
you may say, but then you learn
		

			certain things you contrast the
way you do things with what they
		

			do things traveling, helps in that
regard. Right? Traveling helps in
		

			that because sometimes, within our
own community, we're so used,
		

			everybody's so used to doing
backbiting, for example, that it's
		

			not even a big deal anymore. So
people don't even feel bad about
		

			it. They okay with just just
criticizing people with maybe not
		

			opening doors for people, you
know, whatever the case may be. So
		

			that's why it's beneficial to see
a contrast with other people.
		

			Always look at other people and
anything beneficial that you see,
		

			try to implement it for yourself.
That's why P Salesianum. was asked
		

			man at the back who taught you
other and he said nobody, I just
		

			saw the foolishness of a foolish
person and I avoided it.
		

			Right. So, the believer is the
mirror of a believer. So anything
		

			you see good in somebody else you
try to take on for yourself, take
		

			a role model. So these are the
various ways