Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A How to Learn Good Manners

We often hear that we need more other than knowledge and this age

we hear less often just how to have good other what would you

recommend to the spiritual aspirant who wants to have

exceptional other? Well, first and foremost you start reading the

books on AdMob Right? So there's a number of books on AdMob

essentially, Adam is putting into practice what you know.

So there's a number of approaches to this one is that you read books

and other for example is a famous book called min edible Islam by

Sheikh Abdul Fattah hobo hood has been translated into English as

having it's called Islamic etiquette or something. There's a

double so I've done a whole series on the mum, Sharon is a double

Saba, it's, it talks about all the other of the people of Allah, of

the widow of Allah, how they deal with things very deep, the whole

series is online. So you can listen to that because the

original book is in Arabic, we are working on an English translation,

then there is a double mashallah, which, again, there's an English

translation of the original Urdu By Hakeem along with one lovely

thought we write a lot. And then the next thing that you must do is

to read the stories of the sahaba. Now what that does is, it tells

you how the Sahaba took the Hadith, and operationalize them

practicals them basically. So when you see the Hadith in action,

basically, the number four is the best way to learn other is to be

with an other person, other because humans, they literally

benefit from others without even realizing being in their company.

So changing your scene, finding good company, of people to sit

with who have good other, it's very difficult sometimes to find

that kind of company for you know, you may say, but then you learn

certain things you contrast the way you do things with what they

do things traveling, helps in that regard. Right? Traveling helps in

that because sometimes, within our own community, we're so used,

everybody's so used to doing backbiting, for example, that it's

not even a big deal anymore. So people don't even feel bad about

it. They okay with just just criticizing people with maybe not

opening doors for people, you know, whatever the case may be. So

that's why it's beneficial to see a contrast with other people.

Always look at other people and anything beneficial that you see,

try to implement it for yourself. That's why P Salesianum. was asked

man at the back who taught you other and he said nobody, I just

saw the foolishness of a foolish person and I avoided it.

Right. So, the believer is the mirror of a believer. So anything

you see good in somebody else you try to take on for yourself, take

a role model. So these are the various ways