Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Eating at Your Uncle or Aunt’s House

I've heard there is an ayah in the Quran that says to children that

their aunts and uncles houses are like home does this mean that they

feel at home at their mama George's house? In terms of being

free to eat while they would? Like they would at home nowadays people

get offended that oh, look at so and so. And he she thinks they are

entitled to eat here, etc, without feeling generous, that these are

my nieces and nephews with the Islamic ruling on this and then I

on that topic. You see, what it says is that Lisa Alikum heritage,

there should be no problem with you to feel fine about going to

eat at your Mum, Dad, Uncle aunt's house, because you're so close.

Right? You're so close. And in those days, it was like everybody

was living very close together anyway, so it was socially very

close as well. Nowadays, unfortunately, we've got so many

problems in families that everybody becomes a separate

entity. And anything that a child does, they reflect it on their

parents. Now people say, Lee is not being taught manners. They if

a child does something wrong porch, poor kid, you know, they

people say that that's because of their parents, they reflect to

your children did this and all that kind of stuff. That's just

totally wrong. parents aren't telling their children to do this.

If children is misbehaving or it may be a bit greedy likes eating a

lot. Come on, don't put that on the parents. So I think this is

yes, if some parent is sending their children always to somebody

else's house at lunchtime and forcing them to eat there. So that

they save their own food and they get somebody else's wood that's

wrong. But if casually they're there anyway, they come to play

with your children, or whatever the case is they came to visit.

There should be no problem with that. Unfortunately, we have these

weird cultural issues sometimes. So this is

it's just a social problem. That's what I would say it's got nothing

to do with Islam in that sense. Having said that, you can go to

somebody else's house and you shouldn't feel bad about eating if

they offer you.

But you should feel much more comfortable in your own auntie's

house.

You know, if I've gone to my Auntie's, often, they've got food

there already. And they come and eat and I'm hungry than I need.

What's the problem?

So people shouldn't feel like that.

People shouldn't feel and

that you should never

project from children onto the parents. It's just very unfair, I

think.

Because children learn from many environments, their parents aren't

necessarily telling them to do this.