Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Eating at Your Uncle or Aunt’s House

			I've heard there is an ayah in the
Quran that says to children that
		

			their aunts and uncles houses are
like home does this mean that they
		

			feel at home at their mama
George's house? In terms of being
		

			free to eat while they would? Like
they would at home nowadays people
		

			get offended that oh, look at so
and so. And he she thinks they are
		

			entitled to eat here, etc, without
feeling generous, that these are
		

			my nieces and nephews with the
Islamic ruling on this and then I
		

			on that topic. You see, what it
says is that Lisa Alikum heritage,
		

			there should be no problem with
you to feel fine about going to
		

			eat at your Mum, Dad, Uncle aunt's
house, because you're so close.
		

			Right? You're so close. And in
those days, it was like everybody
		

			was living very close together
anyway, so it was socially very
		

			close as well. Nowadays,
unfortunately, we've got so many
		

			problems in families that
everybody becomes a separate
		

			entity. And anything that a child
does, they reflect it on their
		

			parents. Now people say, Lee is
not being taught manners. They if
		

			a child does something wrong
porch, poor kid, you know, they
		

			people say that that's because of
their parents, they reflect to
		

			your children did this and all
that kind of stuff. That's just
		

			totally wrong. parents aren't
telling their children to do this.
		

			If children is misbehaving or it
may be a bit greedy likes eating a
		

			lot. Come on, don't put that on
the parents. So I think this is
		

			yes, if some parent is sending
their children always to somebody
		

			else's house at lunchtime and
forcing them to eat there. So that
		

			they save their own food and they
get somebody else's wood that's
		

			wrong. But if casually they're
there anyway, they come to play
		

			with your children, or whatever
the case is they came to visit.
		

			There should be no problem with
that. Unfortunately, we have these
		

			weird cultural issues sometimes.
So this is
		

			it's just a social problem. That's
what I would say it's got nothing
		

			to do with Islam in that sense.
Having said that, you can go to
		

			somebody else's house and you
shouldn't feel bad about eating if
		

			they offer you.
		

			But you should feel much more
comfortable in your own auntie's
		

			house.
		

			You know, if I've gone to my
Auntie's, often, they've got food
		

			there already. And they come and
eat and I'm hungry than I need.
		

			What's the problem?
		

			So people shouldn't feel like
that.
		

			People shouldn't feel and
		

			that you should never
		

			project from children onto the
parents. It's just very unfair, I
		

			think.
		

			Because children learn from many
environments, their parents aren't
		

			necessarily telling them to do
this.