Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Dealing with In-Law Issues

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speaker discusses their experience with their in laws and how it has affected their ability to be themselves. They also mention a book about a healthy Muslim marriage and encourage listeners to subscribe to it.
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Okay. If I live with my in laws

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and try my best to show good conduct

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towards them, however I have, I am more

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mute and silent than talking. I've been married

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for over a decade and it is affecting

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me now because I'm not able to be

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myself. The science is killing me. Is it

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best to move out?

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I would say so. I mean, if you've

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got the

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opportunity and ability to move out, then

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that's always the best. Hopefully, your husband thinks

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the same, and hopefully,

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your in laws don't cause a big problem.

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But I've seen in so many cases,

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even close to me,

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right, that when they actually moved out, initially,

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there was a bit of a bad feeling.

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But over time, it's actually a much better

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relationship than to be suffocated because just I

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don't know why people don't understand that sometimes

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it just doesn't work.

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Right? And try as you might try to

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tell each of those parties you do this

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and you do that. It just doesn't work.

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And whoever doesn't understand that, I think they

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they need some help because seriously, it doesn't

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work sometimes. Unless it's a miracle then. And

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over a decade, then what else? So good

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luck to you. I've got a book coming

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out which deals with,

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some of these issues, inshallah, especially this issue.

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Dealing with in laws, some strategies, and things

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like that.

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Inshallah, make duh, it's coming out in about

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a month or 2, called the handbook of

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a healthy Muslim marriage, right, based on 20

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years of, obviously, marriage and consulting with these

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kind of cases.

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For listening. May

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Allah, bless you. And if you're finding this

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useful,

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you know,

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as they say, do that like button and

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subscribe button and forward it on to others.

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