Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Are Parents Allowed to Ban Children from Speaking to Relatives

			If a mother tells her child not to
talk to her fathers cousins, and
		

			their wives and children, does the
child have to obey this? Or is
		

			this breaking family ties? I think
this ties into what we were saying
		

			earlier, the end of the day,
		

			if she's got a genuine reason for
that, because they are really,
		

			really bad influence, they are
outgoing, they disobedient to
		

			Allah subhanaw taala. They're a
bad influence that, you know,
		

			they're making, helping the child
commit sins, that's understandable
		

			to break ties for that reason, as
long as it's done with some
		

			justification, understanding,
right, consult a scholar generally
		

			about this. But if it's just
because she doesn't like him, then
		

			you're depriving your child of
half the family and those, you
		

			know, sometimes there are issues
between the husband's family and
		

			the wife's family. Right.
		

			And, but, each of those families
they find with the children, they
		

			don't pollute them, they don't
poison them. So they just fine,
		

			but it hurts the mother or it
hurts the Father, for him to see
		

			his children going to the nanny's
house, you know, to the maternal
		

			side. Because he just feels that
the children may be pulled more
		

			towards that side, even though
they're decent people in that
		

			sense, they just have run with him
or he has run with them, or the
		

			other way around.
		

			So it depends on the situation you
have to be honest. At the end of
		

			the day, your children need a
healthy you don't want to deprive
		

			them of one side of the family.
Allah has given that as a natural
		

			structure that Allah has placed on
this earth to fit the structure of
		

			a child having extended relatives
on this side and that side.
		

			Why why why should you stop people
from seeing their own relatives?
		

			Allah has put put them in a
situation that they've got blood
		

			from both sides. So it's not
allowed, unless there's a real
		

			harm that comes from it.