Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Are Parents Allowed to Ban Children from Speaking to Relatives

If a mother tells her child not to talk to her fathers cousins, and

their wives and children, does the child have to obey this? Or is

this breaking family ties? I think this ties into what we were saying

earlier, the end of the day,

if she's got a genuine reason for that, because they are really,

really bad influence, they are outgoing, they disobedient to

Allah subhanaw taala. They're a bad influence that, you know,

they're making, helping the child commit sins, that's understandable

to break ties for that reason, as long as it's done with some

justification, understanding, right, consult a scholar generally

about this. But if it's just because she doesn't like him, then

you're depriving your child of half the family and those, you

know, sometimes there are issues between the husband's family and

the wife's family. Right.

And, but, each of those families they find with the children, they

don't pollute them, they don't poison them. So they just fine,

but it hurts the mother or it hurts the Father, for him to see

his children going to the nanny's house, you know, to the maternal

side. Because he just feels that the children may be pulled more

towards that side, even though they're decent people in that

sense, they just have run with him or he has run with them, or the

other way around.

So it depends on the situation you have to be honest. At the end of

the day, your children need a healthy you don't want to deprive

them of one side of the family. Allah has given that as a natural

structure that Allah has placed on this earth to fit the structure of

a child having extended relatives on this side and that side.

Why why why should you stop people from seeing their own relatives?

Allah has put put them in a situation that they've got blood

from both sides. So it's not allowed, unless there's a real

harm that comes from it.