Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Are Parents Allowed to Ban Children from Speaking to Relatives
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If a mother tells her child not to talk to her fathers cousins, and
their wives and children, does the child have to obey this? Or is
this breaking family ties? I think this ties into what we were saying
earlier, the end of the day,
if she's got a genuine reason for that, because they are really,
really bad influence, they are outgoing, they disobedient to
Allah subhanaw taala. They're a bad influence that, you know,
they're making, helping the child commit sins, that's understandable
to break ties for that reason, as long as it's done with some
justification, understanding, right, consult a scholar generally
about this. But if it's just because she doesn't like him, then
you're depriving your child of half the family and those, you
know, sometimes there are issues between the husband's family and
the wife's family. Right.
And, but, each of those families they find with the children, they
don't pollute them, they don't poison them. So they just fine,
but it hurts the mother or it hurts the Father, for him to see
his children going to the nanny's house, you know, to the maternal
side. Because he just feels that the children may be pulled more
towards that side, even though they're decent people in that
sense, they just have run with him or he has run with them, or the
other way around.
So it depends on the situation you have to be honest. At the end of
the day, your children need a healthy you don't want to deprive
them of one side of the family. Allah has given that as a natural
structure that Allah has placed on this earth to fit the structure of
a child having extended relatives on this side and that side.
Why why why should you stop people from seeing their own relatives?
Allah has put put them in a situation that they've got blood
from both sides. So it's not allowed, unless there's a real
harm that comes from it.