Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Are Alimas Difficult to Live With
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I'm currently looking for a suitable spouse. The issue my
parents face is that the majority of prospective spouse would prefer
not to marry an anima due to cultural misunderstanding that all
animals are difficult to live with, as they throw around Islamic
rulings in all situations and make life hard for others. I don't know
why people have made this an issue that animals are like that. It is
such a, this is such a repugnant attitude that people have had yes,
we've had some black sheep within the early mass, and within Adams
as well. But for some reason, I've heard people beyond that he did
for Allah ma. And Alamos. He said, kind of something similar about
animals throwing around fatwas, maybe he's dealt with some bad
experience with one of his friends, or whatever the case is.
And because of the oral argument, the way I've seen from my actions,
I've dealt with a lot of animals. I'm married to Anonima. Right. And
I've, you know, in mcta, we've dealt with many ideas, and so many
others, I've taught many audiences, right, I've taught 70
ideas at one time, right, so I, you know, from around the world as
well. And the thing is that it's all about personality. Some, some,
some individuals, women who have an extreme personality, whether
they're an Halima, or there's something else, they're going to
be extreme. That's the way it is that you know, they haven't done
the therapy hasn't been done for whatever reason. So then they're
going to just use the end in a wrong way. But that's one in you
know, 1000, maybe
don't blame all animals. But anyway, that's something that's
going to have to be remitted. I personally, do not consider myself
Anonima. But as I studied the full course, in graduate, I'm perceived
as one, I have been told to look for an Ireland and Ireland to many
However, this does limit the possible choice, which is making
more difficult find someone.
I don't know why, I mean, I guess people do have this issue. But
there are so many Allamah out there who are looking for animals,
it's just that you have to find out, you just have to ask the
right kind of people. The problem, I think, is where you've got these
kinds of limitations. And then you've got cultural baggage. So
you can only get married to,
for example, somebody from this village in Pakistan or India, then
you're highly restricting yourself. Right? I think parents
need to understand that, okay, if we need to find an item, then open
up the scope. Open up the scope, broaden your horizon, that other
people do it as well. So I think that you probably need a more
personal answer to this in terms of your situation, you know, as to
exactly what what your limitations are. But I would say just broaden
your horizons, make lots and lots of dua to Allah subhanaw taala,
especially at tahajjud Robina habla and I mean, as far as you
know, the reality and that's another one, rub Bella Thermae,
further one, the Hiral verything all of these doors abundantly and
inshallah you should find somebody find other avenues, even if
they're non traditional avenues but hallowed avenues. A lot of
these marriage websites, these matrimony websites, some of them
are really junky, but there are certain decent ones as well. And
it's completely Halal to use those that as long as you're not there
looking at people, right and just messing around there for a serious
that's unfortunately, one way to do it. You know, it's just instead
of the, one of the aunties in the village who is matchmaker, this
has just become a company who's helping you matchmake so
essentially the same thing as long as there's not not much haram
invoices, there are some better ones than others. So I think it's
j is to use them if you don't have any other means. Some people think
I can't go there, and they're suffering