Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Are Alimas Difficult to Live With

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			I'm currently looking for a
suitable spouse. The issue my
		

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			parents face is that the majority
of prospective spouse would prefer
		

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			not to marry an anima due to
cultural misunderstanding that all
		

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			animals are difficult to live
with, as they throw around Islamic
		

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			rulings in all situations and make
life hard for others. I don't know
		

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			why people have made this an issue
that animals are like that. It is
		

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			such a, this is such a repugnant
attitude that people have had yes,
		

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			we've had some black sheep within
the early mass, and within Adams
		

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			as well. But for some reason, I've
heard people beyond that he did
		

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			for Allah ma. And Alamos. He said,
kind of something similar about
		

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			animals throwing around fatwas,
maybe he's dealt with some bad
		

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			experience with one of his
friends, or whatever the case is.
		

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			And because of the oral argument,
the way I've seen from my actions,
		

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			I've dealt with a lot of animals.
I'm married to Anonima. Right. And
		

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			I've, you know, in mcta, we've
dealt with many ideas, and so many
		

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			others, I've taught many
audiences, right, I've taught 70
		

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			ideas at one time, right, so I,
you know, from around the world as
		

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			well. And the thing is that it's
all about personality. Some, some,
		

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			some individuals, women who have
an extreme personality, whether
		

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			they're an Halima, or there's
something else, they're going to
		

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			be extreme. That's the way it is
that you know, they haven't done
		

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			the therapy hasn't been done for
whatever reason. So then they're
		

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			going to just use the end in a
wrong way. But that's one in you
		

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			know, 1000, maybe
		

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			don't blame all animals. But
anyway, that's something that's
		

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			going to have to be remitted. I
personally, do not consider myself
		

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			Anonima. But as I studied the full
course, in graduate, I'm perceived
		

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			as one, I have been told to look
for an Ireland and Ireland to many
		

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			However, this does limit the
possible choice, which is making
		

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			more difficult find someone.
		

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			I don't know why, I mean, I guess
people do have this issue. But
		

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			there are so many Allamah out
there who are looking for animals,
		

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			it's just that you have to find
out, you just have to ask the
		

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			right kind of people. The problem,
I think, is where you've got these
		

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			kinds of limitations. And then
you've got cultural baggage. So
		

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			you can only get married to,
		

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			for example, somebody from this
village in Pakistan or India, then
		

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			you're highly restricting
yourself. Right? I think parents
		

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			need to understand that, okay, if
we need to find an item, then open
		

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			up the scope. Open up the scope,
broaden your horizon, that other
		

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			people do it as well. So I think
that you probably need a more
		

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			personal answer to this in terms
of your situation, you know, as to
		

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			exactly what what your limitations
are. But I would say just broaden
		

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			your horizons, make lots and lots
of dua to Allah subhanaw taala,
		

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			especially at tahajjud Robina
habla and I mean, as far as you
		

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			know, the reality and that's
another one, rub Bella Thermae,
		

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			further one, the Hiral verything
all of these doors abundantly and
		

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			inshallah you should find somebody
find other avenues, even if
		

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			they're non traditional avenues
but hallowed avenues. A lot of
		

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			these marriage websites, these
matrimony websites, some of them
		

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			are really junky, but there are
certain decent ones as well. And
		

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			it's completely Halal to use those
that as long as you're not there
		

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			looking at people, right and just
messing around there for a serious
		

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			that's unfortunately, one way to
do it. You know, it's just instead
		

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			of the, one of the aunties in the
village who is matchmaker, this
		

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			has just become a company who's
helping you matchmake so
		

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			essentially the same thing as long
as there's not not much haram
		

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			invoices, there are some better
ones than others. So I think it's
		

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			j is to use them if you don't have
any other means. Some people think
		

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			I can't go there, and they're
suffering