Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Are Alimas Difficult to Live With

I'm currently looking for a suitable spouse. The issue my

parents face is that the majority of prospective spouse would prefer

not to marry an anima due to cultural misunderstanding that all

animals are difficult to live with, as they throw around Islamic

rulings in all situations and make life hard for others. I don't know

why people have made this an issue that animals are like that. It is

such a, this is such a repugnant attitude that people have had yes,

we've had some black sheep within the early mass, and within Adams

as well. But for some reason, I've heard people beyond that he did

for Allah ma. And Alamos. He said, kind of something similar about

animals throwing around fatwas, maybe he's dealt with some bad

experience with one of his friends, or whatever the case is.

And because of the oral argument, the way I've seen from my actions,

I've dealt with a lot of animals. I'm married to Anonima. Right. And

I've, you know, in mcta, we've dealt with many ideas, and so many

others, I've taught many audiences, right, I've taught 70

ideas at one time, right, so I, you know, from around the world as

well. And the thing is that it's all about personality. Some, some,

some individuals, women who have an extreme personality, whether

they're an Halima, or there's something else, they're going to

be extreme. That's the way it is that you know, they haven't done

the therapy hasn't been done for whatever reason. So then they're

going to just use the end in a wrong way. But that's one in you

know, 1000, maybe

don't blame all animals. But anyway, that's something that's

going to have to be remitted. I personally, do not consider myself

Anonima. But as I studied the full course, in graduate, I'm perceived

as one, I have been told to look for an Ireland and Ireland to many

However, this does limit the possible choice, which is making

more difficult find someone.

I don't know why, I mean, I guess people do have this issue. But

there are so many Allamah out there who are looking for animals,

it's just that you have to find out, you just have to ask the

right kind of people. The problem, I think, is where you've got these

kinds of limitations. And then you've got cultural baggage. So

you can only get married to,

for example, somebody from this village in Pakistan or India, then

you're highly restricting yourself. Right? I think parents

need to understand that, okay, if we need to find an item, then open

up the scope. Open up the scope, broaden your horizon, that other

people do it as well. So I think that you probably need a more

personal answer to this in terms of your situation, you know, as to

exactly what what your limitations are. But I would say just broaden

your horizons, make lots and lots of dua to Allah subhanaw taala,

especially at tahajjud Robina habla and I mean, as far as you

know, the reality and that's another one, rub Bella Thermae,

further one, the Hiral verything all of these doors abundantly and

inshallah you should find somebody find other avenues, even if

they're non traditional avenues but hallowed avenues. A lot of

these marriage websites, these matrimony websites, some of them

are really junky, but there are certain decent ones as well. And

it's completely Halal to use those that as long as you're not there

looking at people, right and just messing around there for a serious

that's unfortunately, one way to do it. You know, it's just instead

of the, one of the aunties in the village who is matchmaker, this

has just become a company who's helping you matchmake so

essentially the same thing as long as there's not not much haram

invoices, there are some better ones than others. So I think it's

j is to use them if you don't have any other means. Some people think

I can't go there, and they're suffering