Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Overeating and Excessive Sexual Desire (Through Ghazali’s Ihya’)

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The importance of balance, moderation, healthy eating, avoiding health issues, and achieving joy in life is emphasized in achieving joy. The presence of men in relationships and the focus on afterlife are also important issues. The negative effects of excessive sexual desire and the importance of healthy eating are emphasized, along with the need to detoxify oneself and seek professional advice to avoid dangerous behavior. The danger of porn and "redessertification" of sexual activity is acknowledged, but the importance of helping others to achieve their dreams and potential is emphasized. The speakers also emphasize the importance of seeking professional advice to overcome addiction and avoid danger, and seek professional advice to detoxify oneself and detoxify oneself and avoid danger.

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			Hamdulillahi Hamdan cathedra on
the human mobile era can feed
		
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			Mubarak and ally.
		
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			Can you help Rabona Jalla Jalla
who I'm in our
		
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			are salatu salam, O Allah say you
will have we will Mustafa
		
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			SallAllahu to Allah Allah you are
the or B or Baraka are seldom at
		
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			the Sleeman gifi are on laomi Dean
Amma bad
		
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			call Allahu Tabata Kota Isla Phil
Quran Majeed, they will for
		
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			Connell Hamid
		
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			Kulu shabu wala 234.
		
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			So, the cola hula, we
		
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			do respected friends and our
brothers and our sisters.
		
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			There are many, many ways in which
a person can either have
		
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			shortcomings or can have access in
their life.
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala wants us to
be the perfect human being
		
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			perfection. And beauty is defined
as proportion.
		
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			Proportion means when you consider
something to be beautiful, it's
		
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			because it's in the right
proportion,
		
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			the symmetry, the equality, the
moderation is in proportion and
		
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			human beings are naturally
inclined
		
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			towards beauty and towards perfect
proportion.
		
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			So, in everything,
		
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			including not just our physique,
not just the way we look.
		
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			A lot of the time, the way we look
is not something we have much
		
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			control over.
		
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			I mean, I know people have plastic
surgery, and they do facelifts and
		
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			they do facial fillers. And they
do a lot of these other things to
		
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			try to correct what they think is
a flaw. And in some cases, it's
		
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			not a flaw, they just want to
aesthetically, look more pleasing.
		
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			But what we have to understand is
that more importantly, looks are
		
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			important. We're not saying
they're not important, because
		
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			looks are important for a lot of
people. But what's more is that
		
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			when you get something, whether
that be a product, whether that be
		
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			somebody you live with somebody
you stay with, just looks are not
		
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			going to be enough. Especially if
it's another human being. For
		
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			example, you want a business
partner,
		
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			you want a spouse, a husband is
looking for a wife, a wife is
		
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			looking for a husband, if your
entire focus is just outward
		
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			beauty, then that's not the right
way to look at it. Because that's
		
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			not why you get married or this
that's not why you do a business.
		
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			You're not just gonna look and
stare at somebody's beauty all day
		
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			long.
		
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			That's not what people are there
for. You interact with people.
		
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			In turn interaction is probably
more than how much you look at
		
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			somebody.
		
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			Interaction is where the real
beauty needs to be. Because
		
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			interaction and interaction comes
through a HELOC and character
		
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			through conduct.
		
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			How'd you get conduct how'd you
get the perfect conduct? Well,
		
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			there's several things within us
which have to be balanced to get
		
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			the most perfect or as close to
perfect as possible character. If
		
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			somebody gets angry too quickly,
then they can't have good
		
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			character.
		
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			Unless they control that anger,
they learn to control it. Allah
		
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			has made us all in different ways.
Some of us He makes us get angry
		
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			quickly. Some of us get angry
quickly and calm down very slowly.
		
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			Some of us get angry quickly, but
we come down very fast as well.
		
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			And some of us don't get angry
quickly. It takes a long time to
		
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			get us angry.
		
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			So these are different challenges
that we all have. Then there is of
		
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			course greed
		
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			of the stomach wanting to fulfill
the stomach, which then comes from
		
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			the eyes. It comes from the tongue
it comes from the taste all of
		
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			that is linked.
		
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			So we have to have moderation in
all of these things. If you have
		
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			too much, then we will be
indulgent.
		
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			It will lead to problems like
gluttony. Gluttony means
		
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			overeating.
		
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			Unfortunately, today it's become
very easy to overeat.
		
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			The reason is that just take the
example if you go to a hotel, a
		
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			decent hotel, a five star four
star hotel and you just go for
		
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			breakfast, how many things will be
on the menu for us to eat?
		
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			What's the variety? If you look at
just the cereals, there will be
		
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			maybe about four or five different
types of cereals, not just a
		
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			cereals. There'll be lots of other
things you can add into the
		
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			cereal.
		
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			Then you go to the bread
department. And there'll be
		
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			various different types of breads,
and things you can eat with the
		
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			bread.
		
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			And then depending on where you
are, there's going to be many
		
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			different types of foods. So
generally, when you see all of
		
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			this food,
		
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			unless we have a discipline, then
you want to go and try everything
		
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			out.
		
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			And
		
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			it's, why are we trying everything
out when everything is going to
		
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			become the same once we eat it?
		
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			And is it even healthy to have 10
different types of foods, or five
		
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			different types of food at once
going into your stomach? You might
		
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			I mean, most of us are educated
about these things about chemical
		
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			reactions, foods mixing with one
another causing different things.
		
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			SubhanAllah. You know, when you
think about it, this way that
		
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			we're putting so much of a
		
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			complicated mixture of things in
our body, the pleasure of it was
		
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			only when we were looking at it,
they look beautiful. And then when
		
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			we ate it,
		
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			after it, it's gone into the
stomach, and it's going to the
		
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			stomach has to work hard. Now, to
deal with this.
		
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			The stomach has to process this,
it has to go through this whole
		
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			industry inside for it to then to
take the benefit the beneficial
		
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			part of it, and to remove the
harms of it, so that it doesn't
		
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			stay in the body.
		
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			So that's a very difficult one.
And out of the two major
		
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			challenges that human beings have
one is filling the stomach, and
		
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			the other one is fulfilling
		
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			the desire of the private parts,
so fulfilling the desire of the
		
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			stomach and fulfilling the desire
of the private part. These are two
		
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			things. Now where do you think the
eyes come into this, the eyes are
		
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			linked to both parts. So there's
certain things you see and you
		
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			want to eat them. There's certain
things you want to see, and you
		
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			want to fulfill your sexual desire
through them. So the eye is like a
		
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			satellite for both of these
things.
		
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			I mean, of course, the ears you
hear some
		
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			description of some kind of
special food or restaurant, and
		
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			the way they cook their food and
present it. And then that brings
		
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			the water into your mouth makes
you salivate and wanting to have
		
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			that.
		
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			So there's a these things are
linked to both of these desires to
		
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			fulfill them. But which desire Do
you think comes first the desire
		
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			of the stomach or the desire of
the private parts, which one do
		
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			you think comes first, for a human
being?
		
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			It has to be this desire for the
stomach, because even children
		
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			have that.
		
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			Now children, when they get
hungry, they want to cry, they
		
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			cry. That's not necessarily greed.
This is just the desire to eat.
		
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			So then as you grow up, you're
told about many different things
		
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			and you want to try them out and
you want to eat them.
		
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			And then after that, as we
continue to grow up, then we
		
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			actually have the desire of the
private part, that also now starts
		
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			to show its desire. So now we have
two things to fulfill.
		
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			And some Alama they consider that
some psychologist or Lama they
		
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			consider that both of these things
are related. So what that does is
		
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			that if we're over eating, then
what we're doing is we're
		
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			actually, we're going beyond the
balance beyond moderation. Because
		
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			we're putting into ourselves many,
many different things. The Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
Don't slay your heart, don't
		
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			destroy your heart, with too much
food and drink. Because the heart
		
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			is like a farmland.
		
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			If you have plants, some people
think that because plants need
		
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			water, that you should, you should
water them. Now, anybody who's
		
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			done gardening, they will notice
that there are two problems with
		
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			watering, there's two things you
have to be careful about. One is
		
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			that you should water it so that
the water only reaches the soil,
		
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			and you don't water it from the
top so that it makes the leaf
		
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			soggy because sometimes that
creates a bacteria and that
		
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			destroys the flower. So you're
supposed to water the roots
		
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			through the soil only and not the
leaves in some cases, in some
		
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			flowers. Number two, you can't
over water is when you water it
		
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			too much. It loses its ability to
deal with that. So likewise, when
		
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			it comes to the heart, when it
comes to the human body, we need
		
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			some food. But we need to provide
that food and water in the right
		
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			way. Not in the wrong way and we
don't overwater it otherwise the
		
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			system can't deal with it. And it
creates so many different
		
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			problems.
		
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			So that's why he also said a
descendant of the Malian salaam
		
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			can fill no
		
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			A container, which is worse than
his own belly. That from a food
		
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			perspective, from a medical
perspective is considered to be
		
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			one of the greatest wisdoms
probably ever said. Because most
		
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			people, most experts will agree
that it's what we eat that defines
		
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			us, in many cases, defines how we
are what we do. And I know that
		
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			Western medicine doesn't focus.
Allopathic medicine,
		
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			unfortunately, doesn't focus too
much on the effects of certain
		
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			foods. And that's why they pretty
much say you can eat whatever you
		
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			want, they just tell you not to
eat for a short while, but
		
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			otherwise, when you do eat, you
can eat whatever you want,
		
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			generally speaking, whereas most
of the ancient medicines, medicine
		
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			systems of the world like AI, a
Vedic medicine, Unity medicine,
		
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			Chinese medicine, they speak about
how each of each food has a
		
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			certain effect, a heating effect,
and a cooling effect. They can't
		
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			be wrong.
		
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			It just can't be all wrong. And
with certain foods, you actually
		
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			feel it sometimes that certain
foods like dates, for example,
		
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			have a heating effect, even though
they're not actually thermally
		
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			hot, but they have a heating
effect to the body. Anyway, I'm
		
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			not a I'm not a medical doctor,
I'm not a physician, so I'm not
		
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			gonna carry on with that. But
another thing the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
that for the human being
		
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			a few small mouthfuls, local
Imams, a few small mouthfuls
		
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			should be sufficient to keep their
back straight.
		
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			Now, if only we could do that, our
culture doesn't allow that this is
		
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			the problem.
		
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			If you have a baby, a child
growing up and they don't eat
		
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			much, parents get worried they
take them to the doctor, a child
		
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			isn't eating
		
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			shouldn't be a blessing that your
child doesn't eat much so that
		
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			hopefully when they grow up, they
don't grow up with all of excess
		
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			fat.
		
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			When adults stop eating too much,
and you go to an invitation you
		
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			don't eat them people get a bit
annoyed that you don't eat too
		
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			much. Okay, maybe you can indulge
when you're at somebody's you
		
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			know, when you're invited to
somebody because maybe you can
		
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			indulge once in a while. But if
you're being invited all the time,
		
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			then it becomes a big challenge
that everybody wants to feed you
		
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			special foods and dishes it
becomes much more difficult
		
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			because our culture is not. I
mean, yes, dieting is supposed to
		
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			be cool, but when you go to feed
people, the normal human culture
		
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			is that you make them eat, and you
insist that they eat.
		
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			So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam said that if you cannot
		
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			suffice with just a few mouthfuls
to stay straight,
		
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			then let him fill 1/3 with food
1/3 with water we drink and the
		
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			other keep for the breath.
		
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			Now, when you tell somebody that
		
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			they will give, they will they
will give certain responses that
		
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			it's okay the F can find its way
through anything. It's very
		
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			difficult to completely seal a
place to allow no air to come in.
		
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			So they use this to say it's okay
fill your stomach up the air will
		
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			make its way anyway.
		
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			Once Hassan Al basura Rahima hula
he relates from a shot of the
		
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			Allahu anha who says that
		
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			knock persistently
		
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			on the door of paradise and
shouldn't be open for you. If you
		
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			try hard enough, you'll get into
paradise. Now that sounds like a
		
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			great and easy, easy advice. But
the question was asked how should
		
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			we do that said with hunger and
thirst. But the hunger the
		
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			hungrier you remain and the
thirsty you remain, then it is
		
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			easier to know why is that? Now we
have to look at several other
		
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			Hadith and advice to understand
this because just this on its own
		
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			why how does how is hunger
beneficial? And how is thirst
		
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			beneficial for us? Because we
understand that if you're hungry
		
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			you should eat keep the sugars up.
Make sure you stay healthy,
		
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			especially if you have diabetes,
you're told to eat several times a
		
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			day in at least small amounts so
that you don't get low blood sugar
		
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			which is a genuine problem.
		
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			Look man once said to his son or
the Allah one he said, Oh my son
		
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			when the belly is full, then the
intellect sleeps.
		
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			When the belly is full, the
intellect sleeps, wisdom is
		
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			silenced. And all the other
members of the body, all the other
		
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			limbs of the body, they become too
lazy and slothful to perform any
		
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			acts of worship. We feel this when
you had a good hearty dinner. You
		
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			just want to relax for a while. I
mean, the biologists etc. They'll
		
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			explain that obviously it's
depends on the type of food as
		
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			well. There are certain gases
because food when it goes into the
		
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			stomach, it has to be processed in
a certain way. It releases certain
		
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			gases that those gases they
		
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			Go up to the brain. That's why if
somebody hasn't been able to
		
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			relieve themselves, they feel very
tired and sleepy, and they come to
		
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			a doctor, so they feel tired and
sleepy, maybe they just need to go
		
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			toilets, maybe they just need to
relieve themselves sometimes.
		
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			So different foods obviously have
different impacts impacts on us.
		
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			Now,
		
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			let us just talk about hunger in
general. Now, most of us
		
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			Alhamdulillah we get food to eat,
especially if in Western
		
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			countries, we get food to eat.
However, to understand the
		
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			benefits, and the virtues of
hunger, May, inshallah encourages
		
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			us to eat less.
		
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			I know this is something very
difficult, because we've been
		
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			doing it for so long.
		
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			And if we've been doing something
for so long, it becomes very
		
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			difficult to change. But the way
to bring change in our life is to
		
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			listen to the benefits. So I speak
to myself first because this is
		
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			something I have weakness for when
you have good food that you eat
		
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			it. And this is a problem. And
it's not easy.
		
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			So there are various different
ways. I mean, one of the ways
		
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			could be there's several different
diets that have been around a lot
		
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			of those they don't they work for
the short term, there was the
		
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			Atkins diet diet. Now there's the
new one, which is the low carb
		
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			diet is just given a new name,
what's the new name of the low,
		
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			low carb diet now?
		
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			I forget what it's called, maybe
you guys don't know.
		
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			He used to be called the Atkins
diet. And now it's called
		
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			something else. And you can lose
pounds really fast. You can lose
		
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			kilos very fast with that. But the
problem is that How sustainable is
		
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			it after the year that you're on
it, because eventually becomes
		
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			difficult to do that because it's
unnatural.
		
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			Right?
		
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			The best diet they say is the the
five and two diets, which is too
		
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			fast for two days.
		
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			Monday and Thursday as as is
encouraged in Islam as well,
		
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			Monday and Thursday. That's
probably the most sustainable to
		
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			be honest, we can just learn to
fast Monday and Thursday. That's
		
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			probably the most sustainable and
slowly, slowly, the lesser we eat,
		
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			hopefully, we will become less
accustomed to eating more over
		
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			time. Anyway, here are some
virtues we hope to have we pray to
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala that it
inspires us some of this clicks in
		
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			our mind and inspires us that the
next time there's so much food in
		
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			front of us we take it easy.
Firstly,
		
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			purification of the heart, the
illumination of the natural
		
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			disposition and the sharpening of
one's insight. A person gains
		
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			through eating less, because when
you've eaten less, you feel
		
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			lighter. For even physically, you
feel lighter. If you're going to
		
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			eat less, you're probably going to
eat
		
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			less variety. And generally
speaking,
		
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			we now have access to different
qualities of foods. In the modern
		
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			world today we have access to
different qualities of food, where
		
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			there's less food, than there's
going to be less variety because
		
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			everybody's struggling. So there's
only one type of rice, maybe two
		
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			types of rice, wheat, etc. But
mashallah, in countries like this,
		
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			we have a whole variety. You want
organic rice, you want black rice,
		
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			you want white rice, you want
jasmine rice, you want basmati
		
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			rice, even the basmati rice,
there's about 20 different types
		
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			of various different degrees.
		
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			So in everything, we have such a
variety.
		
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			So what may be a good idea for
those who can do it is to eat
		
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			less, but it's more wholesome food
because we know that the market
		
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			now is all based on creating more
profits. So a lot of the food is
		
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			on the lot of the cheaper food
that is is is not produced very
		
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			well.
		
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			What's very interesting in the
time of the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam, they saying that
one of the first bidder, and this
		
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			does not mean a religious bit
unnecessarily of haram or
		
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			something like this, but he's
talking about an innovation of
		
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			practice. One of the first
innovations in the after the time
		
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			of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam was for people to start
		
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			sifting their flour, so that all
of the only the purest part
		
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			remains and all of the chaff, the
the wholesomeness goes away.
		
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			In the time of the Prophet
sallallahu, Sunday would just kind
		
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			of blow on it just slightly just
so that the more rough stuff goes
		
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			off, but the other roughage would
be there, which is actually good
		
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			for the body. But now the whole
bakery system, how they produce
		
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			bread now is that the cheapest
flour is the bleached flour that
		
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			has been processed. It's been
bleached to look white because it
		
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			looks white flour looks better.
The brown flour doesn't look as
		
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			good. Unless you're unhealthy,
then only that looks good. And the
		
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			other one now makes you discus
you. And now if you actually want
		
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			to buy good brown bread with all
the roughage, it cost you more,
		
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			which is supposed to be natural
that actually cost you more
		
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			So for example, if you buy the
most ancient form of bread that's
		
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			available, which is called a
sourdough bread. Sourdough bread
		
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			is made up of three, only three
ingredients. It has no yeast
		
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			either.
		
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			It's just made of a flour, flour,
a sourdough starter, we water and
		
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			the wheat. That's all it's made
of. And it lasts for several days.
		
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			And it's supposed to be that most
ancient form of breadmaking.
		
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			Anybody tried sourdough here?
		
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			Only one person
		
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			SubhanAllah. Once you start
sourdough, you can't. But it's
		
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			very expensive. One loaf of normal
bread, but a normal bread, maybe
		
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			$1 $1.50. A sourdough is at least
250 $3 minimum. And the good stuff
		
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			is $4 and $5.
		
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			I talked about dollars, euros,
		
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			euros pounds.
		
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			So as you can see, the whole world
is different now. Even the fish
		
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			that we have the salmon, which
everybody enjoys, generally, most
		
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			of it is farmed.
		
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			For and what's the problem with
farmed salmon.
		
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			They add they have to add pink and
red color to it to make it red and
		
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			pink. Otherwise, because of the
condition in which they farm it,
		
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			the fish don't come out with the
right color. How can you have
		
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			salmon which is not red or pink,
		
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			other fishes white. But the
distinctive feature of salmon is
		
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			that now if you want to get wild
salmon, which is naturally pink or
		
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			red, it costs 22 times or nearly
three times as much 100 250% is
		
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			increased on the price.
		
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			This is the kind of stuff we're
eating.
		
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			Right and in abundance is cheap
and it's available. And the
		
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			variety.
		
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			For example Buchla, which you can
get now nearly everywhere you want
		
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			even in the western world was
something that was restricted to
		
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			the Ottoman kitchens where it was
initially developed. Today, Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala is put in front of
us maybe as a fitna as a
		
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			challenge.
		
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			As much variety of foods that
would have only been available to
		
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			the very rich and upper class,
like the very rich and only the
		
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			elite class about 100 years ago.
Today, you and I even if you don't
		
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			make any money, we have access to
this.
		
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			So it's difficult. That's what I'm
trying to say it's very difficult
		
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			to do this. There has to be some
special Iman and the only other
		
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			people that I've managed to see
who become disciplined, or people
		
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			who have had a heart attack
		
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			or have some serious health
conditions, then they wake up and
		
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			they think okay, I better be
careful now, because I love my
		
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			body more than I love my food. I'm
supposed to love my body more than
		
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			I love my food. So here are Imam
Ghazali mentions 10 different
		
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			benefits. Let us look at these 10
benefits. The first is that when
		
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			you eat less inshallah there'll be
purification of the hearts it'll
		
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			be easier to focus on purifying
the heart
		
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			because you'll be able to do more
deeds, and we'll be able to
		
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			inshallah indulge less, if not
above 30 Allah on reports, the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said, the heart of whomever
		
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			it is fill and then sleeps will
grow harder.
		
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			And that's why then he said, There
is a card for everything. And as
		
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			the card of the stomach is hunger.
		
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			That's why there's the card that
we have of the hunger is in
		
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			Ramadan. Ramadan is around the
corner, we're told to eat less
		
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			throughout the month.
		
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			That says that, but we also need
sadaqa throughout the year in the
		
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			forms of other other types of
hunger, other types of fasting as
		
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			well.
		
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			Number two, eating less softens
the hearts. When the heart is
		
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			soft, and due to certain
circumstances, it will be effected
		
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			more powerfully by the remembrance
of Allah subhanaw taala if the
		
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			heart is softer, because remember,
meat is one of the most effective
		
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			most
		
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			detrimental things for the heart.
Both cards geologically, as they
		
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			say that eat less red meats. They
say white is better than red and
		
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			fish is better than white. That's
what they generally tell you.
		
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			That's cardio logically from a
cardiology perspective. But even
		
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			from a spiritual perspective,
we've discussed this several
		
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			times, I'm not going to discuss it
too much now. But there there is a
		
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			homage to the Allah one who spoke
about that. And the idea is that
		
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			if you eat 14, for 14 days, if you
eat meat every day, your heart
		
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			will get hard spiritually. So if
that happens, and not just I mean,
		
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			we have to understand this not
just with meat, it's with eating
		
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			too much as well. I think we have
to be fair and say that just if
		
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			you come off meat, but you start
eating other stuff in abundance,
		
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			it's the same kind of thing.
Right? Because eating too much
		
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			will harden the heart. If the
heart is soft, the thicker we do
		
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			the prayer we do, inshallah that
will hopefully benefit us more.
		
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			Number three
		
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			By eating less it helps to control
and a base, the soul does knifes
		
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			because one of the, when you want
to control something, when you
		
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			want to train something, you
generally deprive it of what its
		
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			addiction is. So slowly, slowly,
it gets used to being without the
		
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			addiction.
		
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			So if our addiction is food, and
we try to train it, then it means
		
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			it will get less. That's the whole
one of the biggest purposes of
		
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			Ramadan is to decrease our eating,
our drinking, and our sexual
		
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			*. These eating and
drinking is related to the
		
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			stomach, sexual *
related to the private parts. How
		
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			does that help? The way it helps
us quite simple.
		
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			eating drinking and sexual
* with one spouse is a
		
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			lawful endeavor. It's lawful to do
so.
		
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			So what the Prophet sallallahu ALA
is what Allah is telling us is
		
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			that in Ramadan, you decrease
this, and you're not always going
		
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			to want it. You're going to go to
work and you're going to want a
		
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			cup of coffee cup of tea, you're
going to feel tired. You say you
		
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			can't have it. Because I'm fasting
you got 10 hours left.
		
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			So the nostril ask again, no, I'm
really thirsty. So you can't have
		
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			it.
		
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			Slowly, slowly, it will stop
asking after the third and fourth
		
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			day you don't feel like having the
coffee anymore. You get used to
		
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			it.
		
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			You get used to it. The benefit of
this is obviously that when you
		
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			get used to that, we get used to
controlling ourselves and saying
		
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			no to ourself. So hopefully if we
do this for 30 days, then after
		
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			Ramadan, if it wants something, it
should be easy for us to say no,
		
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			you can't do it.
		
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			If it wants something haram if he
wants to overeat says don't do it.
		
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			But unfortunately what happens in
Ramadan is that Ramadan, the best
		
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			of foods come out in Ramadan.
		
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			The woman gets some special Baraka
in their time and the ability and
		
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			they cook all these new things
that they never cook otherwise and
		
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			we end up sometimes just doing
kava of all of the hunger of the
		
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			day in the evening. So it ends up
becoming the same thing sometimes
		
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			unfortunately.
		
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			Whereas Ramadan was supposed to be
frantically Ruta the collegial
		
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			Talk Leader Shut up the clean all
manner but unfortunately it's like
		
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			we have to do cover for it. May
Allah subhanaw taala help us that
		
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			is why the number three was it
will help you control you enough
		
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			if you control the enough in Halal
things because at the end of the
		
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			day food is halal although the
other might have mentioned if you
		
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			eat beyond satiation beyond being
satisfied it becomes haram to eat
		
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			that extra LACMA sometimes you
know you're eating at somebody's
		
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			house and they say have some way
said no.
		
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			They say no, no, it's a more it's
okay it's okay. And you have to
		
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			tell them then It's haram after
and how is it haram? This is halal
		
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			food you're telling me my heart up
my food is haram. The food is
		
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			halal but the way you take it is
haram.
		
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			Number four
		
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			eating less inshallah will help us
a will help us never to forget
		
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			Allah's trials and torments
		
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			or those who are afflicted by
them, it creates a sympathy and
		
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			empathy for the poor and those who
do not have
		
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			because we when you start staying
hungry, you feel the pangs of
		
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			hunger
		
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			and you start realizing how other
people feel and inshallah that
		
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			will make us help donate more and
help others but number five is
		
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			breaking of desire to sin and
achieving mastery over the soul
		
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			which commands to evil.
		
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			I explained a bit of this in
number three already, which is
		
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			that the less we eat,
		
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			then inshallah we can have control
over even haram things as well. I
		
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			explained both of them there
		
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			are issues with the Allah one has
says that one of the first
		
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			innovations to appear after
Allah's Prophet sallallahu Some
		
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			died, was that people would eat
now to their film. They started
		
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			eating to their fill. And when
people's bellies were satiated,
		
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			then their souls.
		
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			They bolted and ran after things
of the world.
		
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			There's a connection between
eating too much
		
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			and fulfilling the desire.
		
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			There's a connection between those
two things. Number six, it will
		
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			help you sleep less. You've got
people who say I sleep but I can't
		
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			wake up for Fudger I put two alarm
clocks on I still can't get up.
		
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			Now sometimes I mean, one of the
things you tell them okay, sleep
		
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			early.
		
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			Right sleep early, but sometimes
they may even be sleeping early
		
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			but they may be eating too much.
Eating sometimes going to sleep it
		
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			actually helps you sleep longer.
		
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			Once I went to another country on
the other side of the world
		
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			So when we got there, it was
afternoon. And it was nighttime in
		
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			the UK.
		
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			And our host asked, Do you want a
now? Or do you want to have a two
		
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			hour rest and then eat afterwards.
So on the way we haven't had any
		
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			proper food they've been eating
along, you know, bits and bobs. I
		
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			thought I'm not feeling too hungry
right now. We just go to sleep,
		
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			wake up, but I couldn't get to
sleep.
		
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			I just couldn't get to sleep
because of the jetlag, and the
		
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			different timings and then it was
time to wake up. And then we ate.
		
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			And then I had to go and visit
somebody and I started feeling
		
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			sleepy.
		
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			So Allahu Allah, if that was the
food, or if that was just finally
		
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			you know, your body clock kicking
in. But generally speaking, I
		
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			mean, the, you eat more,
especially rice and things like
		
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			that there are certain foods you
eat them, you need to sleep
		
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			afterwards. That's why the people
who worked on the farms, that's
		
00:30:51 --> 00:30:54
			what they used to do. They still
in India, for example, in Gujarat,
		
00:30:55 --> 00:31:00
			in one section, at least afternoon
is rice, every day, they eat rice.
		
00:31:02 --> 00:31:07
			Now they work in the fields, they
sweat, they work hard, they need
		
00:31:07 --> 00:31:11
			the carbs, right, they have a
little nap as well. Now we're
		
00:31:11 --> 00:31:14
			eating that same kind of food from
those countries in Western
		
00:31:14 --> 00:31:16
			countries where we don't work so
hard enough.
		
00:31:17 --> 00:31:20
			That's another thing. I don't
know, if anybody's looked into
		
00:31:20 --> 00:31:23
			these things, there are several
things that I'd like somebody to
		
00:31:23 --> 00:31:27
			actually study eating a certain
diet of a certain country in
		
00:31:27 --> 00:31:30
			another country, while changing
your lifestyle.
		
00:31:31 --> 00:31:37
			And the other thing, which relates
more to Indian Pakistani spices,
		
00:31:38 --> 00:31:42
			we're using the same huge
collection of spices from those
		
00:31:42 --> 00:31:46
			countries which are very hot
climate in cold climate countries
		
00:31:46 --> 00:31:51
			where they're not indigenous. How
is that helping? How is that? Is
		
00:31:51 --> 00:31:55
			that harming is that helping?
Because there's a reason why Allah
		
00:31:55 --> 00:31:59
			subhanaw taala has created certain
spices in only some countries in
		
00:31:59 --> 00:32:03
			some areas and not in others and
why people there have them and not
		
00:32:03 --> 00:32:07
			in other areas. Nowadays
Mashallah. You can go into many of
		
00:32:07 --> 00:32:09
			these stores and you can find
things from all around the world.
		
00:32:10 --> 00:32:11
			Right?
		
00:32:13 --> 00:32:14
			Whoever wants they can have it.
		
00:32:16 --> 00:32:18
			So it'll help inshallah a man who
eats and drinks abundantly will
		
00:32:18 --> 00:32:24
			sleep abundantly as well. Number
seven, lengthy acts of worship are
		
00:32:24 --> 00:32:26
			made it easier for somebody who
eats less.
		
00:32:29 --> 00:32:35
			One of the cabinet of the past he
said, I want So Ali Al journey,
		
00:32:35 --> 00:32:40
			eating barley porridge with his
fingers. How do you eat porridge
		
00:32:40 --> 00:32:42
			with your fingers?
		
00:32:43 --> 00:32:46
			You generally people eat porridge
with a spoon because it's very
		
00:32:46 --> 00:32:50
			runny. And if you're going to eat
porridge with your fingers, you're
		
00:32:50 --> 00:32:54
			going to get very less. So he
said, I saw him eating porridge
		
00:32:54 --> 00:32:58
			with his fingers. What made you do
this? I asked him, he said, I've
		
00:32:58 --> 00:33:01
			done all the calculations, he's
talking about efficiency.
		
00:33:03 --> 00:33:06
			He wants to be very productive. So
he's figured out an efficient
		
00:33:06 --> 00:33:12
			system. He said, I have calculated
that the difference between
		
00:33:12 --> 00:33:16
			chewing breads and eating in this
way is 70 SubhanAllah.
		
00:33:17 --> 00:33:22
			I can do 70 Subhan Allah more if I
eat this then if I eat bread, so I
		
00:33:22 --> 00:33:25
			have not chewed bread for 40
years.
		
00:33:27 --> 00:33:31
			Ignore Josie Rahmatullah here
today. He said that he went to, I
		
00:33:31 --> 00:33:34
			think it was Egypt, he went to for
a short amount of time to study.
		
00:33:35 --> 00:33:39
			And he said that we had absolutely
no time to cook any food. And we
		
00:33:39 --> 00:33:43
			were two young guys, we would go
to a class, we would then run to
		
00:33:43 --> 00:33:47
			the next class. And then we would
write our notes and we had no time
		
00:33:47 --> 00:33:49
			for anything else. But one day, we
went to the shake, and the shake
		
00:33:49 --> 00:33:53
			wasn't there. So that's half an
hour, 45 minutes free time. So we
		
00:33:53 --> 00:33:58
			saw that there was a somebody
selling some really tasty fish
		
00:33:58 --> 00:34:03
			fresh. So we bought some fish. We
took it home. By the time we got
		
00:34:03 --> 00:34:07
			home, it was too late to fix it,
to clean it and to cook it.
		
00:34:07 --> 00:34:10
			Because we had to rush off to the
next class. You said
		
00:34:12 --> 00:34:15
			it was only after two to three
days that we had enough time we
		
00:34:15 --> 00:34:19
			saw that the fish was gonna go
bad. So we just ate it sushi. We
		
00:34:19 --> 00:34:20
			ate it raw afterwards.
		
00:34:21 --> 00:34:24
			Now, of course, not everybody's
gonna do that. There are some
		
00:34:24 --> 00:34:27
			people they're so into their work
that they miss food and they just
		
00:34:27 --> 00:34:31
			have a quick bite here and there.
They just grab a sandwich. They
		
00:34:31 --> 00:34:32
			just grab a smoothie, you know?
		
00:34:33 --> 00:34:36
			I don't know. I mean, that's not
the same thing. See what I'm
		
00:34:36 --> 00:34:39
			saying? But that's it. You don't
need to do I'm not saying you need
		
00:34:39 --> 00:34:41
			to do that. These are just ideas.
		
00:34:43 --> 00:34:48
			Number eight bodily health. Which
results will result from eating
		
00:34:48 --> 00:34:52
			less? I don't think the doctors
will tell you otherwise that that
		
00:34:52 --> 00:34:56
			is for sure. Right? You will get
bodily health and with bodily
		
00:34:56 --> 00:34:59
			health. Most diseases are caused
by over
		
00:35:00 --> 00:35:03
			Eating. And that's why the profit
or loss, I'm said that you will
		
00:35:03 --> 00:35:08
			have the worst vessel you can feel
is eating too much. And then
		
00:35:08 --> 00:35:12
			number nine, he says, which is
obvious reduced expenditure,
		
00:35:14 --> 00:35:15
			you will spend less, you'll have
more money.
		
00:35:16 --> 00:35:17
			If you buy less.
		
00:35:19 --> 00:35:22
			If you become used to eating
little, you will have a saving.
		
00:35:23 --> 00:35:24
			And
		
00:35:26 --> 00:35:30
			otherwise, you need more more more
food to save more money to bring
		
00:35:30 --> 00:35:33
			more food. And number 10 is
		
00:35:34 --> 00:35:38
			when you have less when you eat
less for yourself, it'll be easier
		
00:35:38 --> 00:35:42
			to let some put somebody else
before us to be self selfless.
		
00:35:43 --> 00:35:47
			It'll be easier to be selfless and
to help others and to put somebody
		
00:35:47 --> 00:35:51
			else before us to give our surplus
to the orphans and the poor.
		
00:35:51 --> 00:35:54
			Because most people they collect
because they want to collect for
		
00:35:54 --> 00:35:57
			the family, they want to establish
their family, they want establish
		
00:35:57 --> 00:36:01
			their children. Now if we can get
our entire family used to doing
		
00:36:01 --> 00:36:05
			this, then inshallah hopefully we
can give out more to others.
		
00:36:05 --> 00:36:08
			Because then we don't feel so
greedy for ourselves that I can
		
00:36:08 --> 00:36:13
			buy more for myself. May Allah
give us the trophy? May Allah give
		
00:36:13 --> 00:36:14
			us a Tofik.
		
00:36:15 --> 00:36:20
			I'm going to move on to the next
topic, which is about the private
		
00:36:20 --> 00:36:25
			parts because it who has a good
discussion of this I will cover
		
00:36:25 --> 00:36:28
			some aspects from his work in sha
Allah. May Allah bless him, may
		
00:36:28 --> 00:36:32
			Allah have mercy on him. He says
that no, that man has been made
		
00:36:32 --> 00:36:36
			subject to sexual desire for two
beneficial reasons why do human
		
00:36:36 --> 00:36:38
			beings have sexual desire?
		
00:36:41 --> 00:36:45
			I was just having a discussion
with somebody about paradise.
		
00:36:46 --> 00:36:47
			And he was wondering
		
00:36:49 --> 00:36:50
			why there's an
		
00:36:52 --> 00:36:57
			I'm not sure if I understood his
purport his intention correctly.
		
00:36:58 --> 00:37:01
			But he said this whole concept of
rural eating and having this
		
00:37:01 --> 00:37:05
			concept of fulfilling your desire
in paradise, isn't that like a
		
00:37:05 --> 00:37:05
			lonely thing.
		
00:37:07 --> 00:37:12
			And as long as you do it right, it
should not be taken as a lowly
		
00:37:12 --> 00:37:15
			thing. You and I would not exist
without it.
		
00:37:17 --> 00:37:21
			The whole reason Allah subhanaw
taala has placed this P Muslims
		
00:37:21 --> 00:37:26
			need to understand because there's
a such a prohibition of Zina and a
		
00:37:26 --> 00:37:31
			discouragement towards illicit
sexual *. And lead
		
00:37:31 --> 00:37:35
			Takara was Zina and don't go close
to Zina. It gives this impression
		
00:37:35 --> 00:37:39
			for some people have an impression
that maybe sexual * is a
		
00:37:39 --> 00:37:39
			bad thing.
		
00:37:40 --> 00:37:42
			But it's not supposed to be a bad
thing.
		
00:37:44 --> 00:37:49
			Doing it well is a sadaqa do it
well, doing it well is a keeping
		
00:37:49 --> 00:37:53
			the balance of your that's why the
Prophet saw some got very angry
		
00:37:53 --> 00:37:55
			when somebody said they will not
marry.
		
00:37:56 --> 00:38:00
			And at least in the Hanafi
understanding,
		
00:38:02 --> 00:38:06
			position, to get married. And then
to worship Allah as best as you
		
00:38:06 --> 00:38:10
			can, is superior to not getting
married and worshiping Allah.
		
00:38:11 --> 00:38:14
			Because it's more of a challenge
with marriage and is part of
		
00:38:14 --> 00:38:17
			procreation and the prophets,
Allah son wants us to increase the
		
00:38:17 --> 00:38:22
			Ummah and sexual * done
properly is a pure thing is a
		
00:38:22 --> 00:38:25
			beneficial thing. But as we know,
shaytan comes and creates a
		
00:38:25 --> 00:38:28
			problem with it. And that's why
we're told to recite the DUA.
		
00:38:30 --> 00:38:34
			For some people, a G for some
people, they say the sexual
		
00:38:34 --> 00:38:37
			experience gives them a taste of
the Hereafter of the blessings to
		
00:38:37 --> 00:38:42
			come. Look out Ronnie mom, because
early says he's he says the first
		
00:38:42 --> 00:38:46
			there are two beneficial reasons
of why sexual *
		
00:38:48 --> 00:38:53
			has been given to people. Number
one is that by knowing its
		
00:38:53 --> 00:38:57
			delight, because one of the
highest forms of delight is
		
00:38:57 --> 00:38:58
			through sexual *.
		
00:38:59 --> 00:39:02
			A person is able to draw an
analogy
		
00:39:04 --> 00:39:07
			which gives him an idea of the
blessings of the hereafter.
		
00:39:09 --> 00:39:12
			Sexual * gives us an
idea of the great blessings of the
		
00:39:12 --> 00:39:15
			Hereafter that if it's if
everything else is going to be so
		
00:39:15 --> 00:39:19
			much more than we tasted right now
a fruit we taste food we taste
		
00:39:19 --> 00:39:21
			paradise is going to have even
greater
		
00:39:22 --> 00:39:27
			than imagined sexual *.
How can that be even greater when
		
00:39:27 --> 00:39:28
			it's so great already?
		
00:39:29 --> 00:39:31
			It's to give us an idea to
encourage us towards the
		
00:39:31 --> 00:39:31
			hereafter.
		
00:39:33 --> 00:39:35
			That's why somebody told me that a
sheikh,
		
00:39:36 --> 00:39:41
			a certain Sheikh saying that you
can actually reach reach, become a
		
00:39:41 --> 00:39:42
			friend of Allah
		
00:39:43 --> 00:39:44
			attain Wilaya
		
00:39:45 --> 00:39:49
			if you understand sexual
* correctly, because of
		
00:39:49 --> 00:39:54
			what it can benefit you in the
right way. Just the problem is
		
00:39:54 --> 00:39:58
			that there are so many sexual
vices nowadays. Just like as I
		
00:39:58 --> 00:40:00
			explained all of the different
choices
		
00:40:00 --> 00:40:04
			is a food products that make it
difficult for us to moderate
		
00:40:07 --> 00:40:08
			we have to understand one thing.
		
00:40:10 --> 00:40:12
			But medicine is beneficial.
		
00:40:14 --> 00:40:18
			Medicine is sometimes bitter.
Somebody takes benefit medicine,
		
00:40:19 --> 00:40:24
			and they benefit from it. So then
they think that
		
00:40:25 --> 00:40:28
			it must be because of the bitter
taste. So then they start loving
		
00:40:28 --> 00:40:29
			everything bitter.
		
00:40:30 --> 00:40:34
			That's, you're going to consider
that to be a very strange idea.
		
00:40:35 --> 00:40:39
			Medicine is not beneficial because
it's bitter.
		
00:40:40 --> 00:40:44
			It's bitter. As a side reason. Not
all medicine is bitter, some
		
00:40:44 --> 00:40:48
			medicine is bitter. So we have to
be able to understand what
		
00:40:48 --> 00:40:53
			something is for. And not
confusing, some other aspects of
		
00:40:53 --> 00:40:58
			it. And that's when it comes out
of moderation. So he says the
		
00:40:58 --> 00:41:00
			first benefit is that you'll be
able to understand what some of
		
00:41:00 --> 00:41:03
			the pleasure feels like of the
Hereafter.
		
00:41:04 --> 00:41:05
			And the second one
		
00:41:07 --> 00:41:11
			for the delight of the sexual act,
work to last with the greatest
		
00:41:11 --> 00:41:14
			pleasure of the body. I mean, I'm
being a bit graphic here because
		
00:41:14 --> 00:41:18
			it's the discussion. Right? So
hopefully, these children don't
		
00:41:18 --> 00:41:21
			know what I'm talking about
anyway. Right? Because they say
		
00:41:21 --> 00:41:23
			that one of the things that you
can't explain to anybody is the
		
00:41:23 --> 00:41:25
			pleasure of becoming burlier.
		
00:41:27 --> 00:41:30
			You just can't explain that to
somebody. You can explain how a
		
00:41:30 --> 00:41:33
			fruit tastes. Has anybody had
durian here?
		
00:41:35 --> 00:41:40
			One night, if I was to explain to
the rest of you what durian tastes
		
00:41:40 --> 00:41:47
			like, maybe it tastes like sweet
jackfruit mango onion mixture?
		
00:41:47 --> 00:41:52
			Maybe? Right? It's about there.
But you can't really, I mean, can
		
00:41:52 --> 00:41:56
			you mix those ingredients in your
mind, you take a mango, take
		
00:41:56 --> 00:42:01
			jackfruit and you take onions, you
mix that together, make it like a
		
00:42:01 --> 00:42:06
			cream. And it has a very strong
smell. But it tastes wonderful.
		
00:42:08 --> 00:42:10
			Now, that's very difficult to do
right now.
		
00:42:12 --> 00:42:15
			But same thing with sexual
*. So that's why he's
		
00:42:15 --> 00:42:19
			saying that for the Imams has
already saying that the delight of
		
00:42:19 --> 00:42:22
			the sexual act work to last, it
would be the greatest pleasure for
		
00:42:22 --> 00:42:22
			the body.
		
00:42:24 --> 00:42:27
			That's where Allah just gives us
instances of it. And then it goes
		
00:42:28 --> 00:42:33
			instances, and then it goes all
good things like that. You have to
		
00:42:33 --> 00:42:36
			work hard to get them and then
they're gone. Right.
		
00:42:38 --> 00:42:41
			The second is, the second point is
that it allows the human race to
		
00:42:41 --> 00:42:43
			continue and the world to abide.
		
00:42:45 --> 00:42:47
			That is the purpose of sexual
*.
		
00:42:48 --> 00:42:50
			Allah could have made it
different, but he added the
		
00:42:50 --> 00:42:54
			benefit of the pleasure in it.
Otherwise, it would have been a
		
00:42:54 --> 00:42:57
			mechanical process to create a
baby, you do this, you do that
		
00:42:57 --> 00:43:00
			there'll be no pleasure in it.
People may not want to do it.
		
00:43:01 --> 00:43:05
			Somehow Subhan Allah. And that's
why they say that when in the
		
00:43:05 --> 00:43:11
			West, where sexual promiscuity,
sexual license licensure,
		
00:43:11 --> 00:43:12
			licensure, what's the word?
		
00:43:14 --> 00:43:17
			licentiousness. I think that's the
word I can't even pronounce it.
		
00:43:18 --> 00:43:21
			It happened after they created the
pill,
		
00:43:22 --> 00:43:25
			in the 1970s or so, and the pill
was developed
		
00:43:26 --> 00:43:27
			after that,
		
00:43:28 --> 00:43:32
			that is when I mean before that
women have to be very careful.
		
00:43:33 --> 00:43:37
			Right, men used to go around and
do what they want. But women had
		
00:43:37 --> 00:43:40
			to be very careful, because they
would have to then carry the baby
		
00:43:40 --> 00:43:44
			if they got pregnant. Soon as the
pill was developed, they said that
		
00:43:44 --> 00:43:46
			is the freedom of the woman
		
00:43:47 --> 00:43:49
			that basically just expanded the
Zener.
		
00:43:51 --> 00:43:55
			And to be honest, there are now
research taking place research
		
00:43:55 --> 00:44:00
			showing that how you see we have
to deal with the afternoons when
		
00:44:00 --> 00:44:04
			when women have this issue of and
then the bleeding pattern changes.
		
00:44:04 --> 00:44:06
			Because remember, what you're
taking in through the pill is
		
00:44:06 --> 00:44:11
			hormones. Right? And that creates
a whole change in the body, a
		
00:44:11 --> 00:44:15
			woman has a lot of hormones, this
is creating a whole different
		
00:44:15 --> 00:44:20
			system within in effects you
sometimes very negatively.
		
00:44:22 --> 00:44:25
			Factors a weight and lots of
things, you know, depending on
		
00:44:25 --> 00:44:27
			which pill you take, and so on.
And he says that even when you go
		
00:44:27 --> 00:44:31
			off the pill, it takes nearly two
years for your body to go back to
		
00:44:31 --> 00:44:34
			normal to regain its natural
state.
		
00:44:36 --> 00:44:41
			And most women, I'm assuming are
taking risks, taking pills, rather
		
00:44:41 --> 00:44:45
			than using other methods because
that's more difficult for men and
		
00:44:45 --> 00:44:48
			so on and it's just safer for
women to do this.
		
00:44:50 --> 00:44:51
			We need to look into this
		
00:44:52 --> 00:44:55
			just because everybody's doing it
doesn't mean you do the same
		
00:44:55 --> 00:44:55
			thing.
		
00:44:57 --> 00:45:00
			Our bodies and Amana I'm not I'm
not doing Conspiracy.
		
00:45:00 --> 00:45:03
			theories here. I'm not trying to
rile up some kind of weird idea.
		
00:45:03 --> 00:45:05
			I'm just saying we need to look at
this carefully.
		
00:45:06 --> 00:45:09
			Right? And there's not enough
money to look at these things
		
00:45:09 --> 00:45:13
			because it's against the
capitalism. It's against
		
00:45:14 --> 00:45:17
			consumerism, right, because people
want to just sell things like
		
00:45:17 --> 00:45:18
			this.
		
00:45:21 --> 00:45:25
			Then he says sexual *
also contains many evils. It has
		
00:45:25 --> 00:45:28
			these two benefits, primary
benefits, but it also contains
		
00:45:28 --> 00:45:32
			many evils, which may destroy both
our religion and the world. If it
		
00:45:32 --> 00:45:33
			is not controlled.
		
00:45:34 --> 00:45:35
			It may destroy both things.
		
00:45:37 --> 00:45:40
			If it's if it's not controlled,
then the body will not remain in
		
00:45:40 --> 00:45:42
			equilibrium. Just like with food,
it will
		
00:45:43 --> 00:45:46
			not be moderate.
		
00:45:47 --> 00:45:50
			Likewise, with too much sexual
*, you have the same
		
00:45:50 --> 00:45:51
			problem.
		
00:45:52 --> 00:45:53
			That's why
		
00:45:56 --> 00:46:01
			you know, Rob bene la to Homina
muda Takata, la Nabi.
		
00:46:02 --> 00:46:08
			In the end of Surah, Al Baqarah.
You have this, this verse, part of
		
00:46:08 --> 00:46:14
			the verse Rob bene la to her Milna
Mala Takata la Nabi. Oh, our our
		
00:46:14 --> 00:46:21
			Lord, do not make us bear do not
burden us with that which we
		
00:46:21 --> 00:46:22
			cannot bear.
		
00:46:23 --> 00:46:27
			That's why it's been said that
these words refer when correctly
		
00:46:27 --> 00:46:34
			interpreted to powerful lust. Lust
is very powerful. It has people
		
00:46:35 --> 00:46:39
			it, it causes people to go and
commit a lot of haram. It spoils
		
00:46:39 --> 00:46:43
			family. It creates many, many
problems.
		
00:46:44 --> 00:46:50
			Just now Somebody contacted me it
was a sister. She's saying her
		
00:46:50 --> 00:46:51
			husband had an affair.
		
00:46:53 --> 00:46:58
			Her husband they had a perfectly
fine life. husband had an affair.
		
00:47:00 --> 00:47:02
			And the woman he had an affair
with got pregnant
		
00:47:05 --> 00:47:08
			whether with precaution despite
precaution, I don't know.
		
00:47:10 --> 00:47:15
			She found out the wife found out
the husband is now very sorry,
		
00:47:15 --> 00:47:19
			because he's a practicing person.
But he felt he made a mistake.
		
00:47:20 --> 00:47:23
			He had a discussion with the other
woman and because she's not
		
00:47:23 --> 00:47:23
			married,
		
00:47:25 --> 00:47:27
			they were going to have it she was
going to have a divorce or sorry,
		
00:47:27 --> 00:47:28
			she was going to have a abortion.
		
00:47:30 --> 00:47:33
			Then it turns out later and the
husband I think the wife forgot
		
00:47:33 --> 00:47:36
			about it. Okay, I forgive him
whatever. Then later they find out
		
00:47:36 --> 00:47:38
			that she's keeping the baby.
		
00:47:39 --> 00:47:43
			Now this is causing such the
husband he's very sorry, he's
		
00:47:43 --> 00:47:47
			asking forgiveness and everything.
But now you've got your you
		
00:47:47 --> 00:47:48
			brought a baby in the picture.
		
00:47:50 --> 00:47:51
			What are you going to do now?
		
00:47:53 --> 00:47:53
			You know,
		
00:47:55 --> 00:47:58
			this way of saying how can I I
know there's a baby out there
		
00:47:58 --> 00:48:02
			who's his child is going to cause
complications in the world. Let's
		
00:48:02 --> 00:48:03
			just one example.
		
00:48:04 --> 00:48:08
			Just one example. You see a lot of
activists they talking about?
		
00:48:09 --> 00:48:11
			People shouldn't talk about
getting married again. Most people
		
00:48:11 --> 00:48:14
			don't get married again. I think
people talking about getting
		
00:48:14 --> 00:48:17
			married secret wedding secret
because second wave this standard
		
00:48:17 --> 00:48:20
			or secretly cars and so on. To be
honest, when you look at it
		
00:48:20 --> 00:48:27
			carefully, a secret Nikka only a
few people are doing that. They're
		
00:48:27 --> 00:48:30
			the ones who have some a bit of
consciousness because those have
		
00:48:30 --> 00:48:33
			who have no consciousness, they
just committing Zina, because it's
		
00:48:33 --> 00:48:35
			so easy to do nowadays.
		
00:48:36 --> 00:48:38
			It's so easy to do and get away
with it.
		
00:48:39 --> 00:48:43
			But it leaves so many problems. So
just like
		
00:48:45 --> 00:48:50
			the private parts, they have
benefits, that it also has many
		
00:48:50 --> 00:48:55
			many evils which may destroy for
somebody both their religion and
		
00:48:55 --> 00:48:58
			then duniya if it is not
controlled and subjugated
		
00:49:01 --> 00:49:05
			so that's why there's a few doors
which are very beneficial. One is
		
00:49:05 --> 00:49:09
			this one Rob banana to her Mila
Amara taka telenovela
		
00:49:11 --> 00:49:15
			and another one which is very
beneficial is Allah Who mfine be
		
00:49:15 --> 00:49:20
			halal and haram ik wa Nene Be
Fugly common see work? Very
		
00:49:20 --> 00:49:24
			beneficial. What it means is Oh
ALLAH suffice me Give me
		
00:49:24 --> 00:49:26
			sufficient to give me happiness
		
00:49:27 --> 00:49:29
			with the halal away from the Haram
		
00:49:30 --> 00:49:36
			so if it's a man is gonna say I've
got a wife a good wife make me
		
00:49:36 --> 00:49:38
			satisfied with her
		
00:49:39 --> 00:49:43
			so I don't have to indulge in
Haram make me satisfied with the
		
00:49:45 --> 00:49:47
			with the halal not with the Haram
		
00:49:48 --> 00:49:51
			and make me independent from
everybody but you.
		
00:49:53 --> 00:49:57
			You see what I'm saying? This dua
is generally recommended for
		
00:49:57 --> 00:49:58
			getting out of debt.
		
00:50:00 --> 00:50:02
			Generally this government has
mentioned it's about getting in
		
00:50:02 --> 00:50:05
			debt because when a person is in
debt, they may, it may force them
		
00:50:05 --> 00:50:10
			to do haram deals, how selling
haram haram things so then they go
		
00:50:10 --> 00:50:13
			into that the other direction. I
believe that it works in this case
		
00:50:13 --> 00:50:19
			as well. So if you've got a woman,
she's seeing others and you know
		
00:50:19 --> 00:50:22
			shaytaan is coming to her a man
shaytan is coming to him. Because
		
00:50:22 --> 00:50:24
			there's a lot of attraction out
there. There's a lot of
		
00:50:26 --> 00:50:30
			there's a lot of fitna out there
for both men and women. If you
		
00:50:30 --> 00:50:33
			keep reading this dua, Allah will
give you satisfaction with your
		
00:50:33 --> 00:50:33
			spouse.
		
00:50:36 --> 00:50:38
			And another dua, which is very
beneficial.
		
00:50:39 --> 00:50:41
			Because a lot of the time
		
00:50:42 --> 00:50:46
			a person has a spouse, but then
they may have a bit of a weakness,
		
00:50:46 --> 00:50:50
			they may have some defects,
everybody has a defect, everybody
		
00:50:50 --> 00:50:53
			has a bad quality or something. So
what's going to happen is that
		
00:50:53 --> 00:50:55
			they are looking somewhere else
and they think they have a good
		
00:50:55 --> 00:50:58
			quality. But they haven't really
lived with the other person to
		
00:50:58 --> 00:51:02
			understand their bad quality, they
just see a few qualities. That's
		
00:51:02 --> 00:51:05
			why the Allah mentioned that
there's a DUA, which is very
		
00:51:05 --> 00:51:10
			beneficial. Robina Hublin Amin as
well Gina was Maria Tina Kurata,
		
00:51:12 --> 00:51:16
			which I'm lucky that email. So
this is the third door, our Lord,
		
00:51:16 --> 00:51:20
			grant us from our spouses, and our
children progeny.
		
00:51:21 --> 00:51:26
			Those that will delight our eyes
and gladden our eyes. That's why
		
00:51:26 --> 00:51:30
			the automa then writes that if you
do have problems with your spouse,
		
00:51:30 --> 00:51:34
			you find some defects, focus on
the good, everybody has positive
		
00:51:34 --> 00:51:36
			and negative focus on the positive
and keep reading this door.
		
00:51:37 --> 00:51:43
			It is possible that within a short
time, Allah will either remove the
		
00:51:43 --> 00:51:48
			defects or he will make you blind
to the defects even if they still
		
00:51:48 --> 00:51:53
			have them. And you will focus on
the good points, the good
		
00:51:53 --> 00:51:54
			qualities
		
00:51:56 --> 00:51:59
			and that will suffice you and make
you happy. At the end of the day,
		
00:51:59 --> 00:52:04
			it's your personal happiness that
matters. For some people, if their
		
00:52:04 --> 00:52:07
			car has a slight problem, they
can't drive the car, they need to
		
00:52:07 --> 00:52:09
			get it fixed. Other people say
it's not a problem.
		
00:52:10 --> 00:52:13
			It's a very personal thing of the
way Allah makes certain people
		
00:52:13 --> 00:52:18
			feel. If Allah can make you feel
satisfied with the halal away from
		
00:52:18 --> 00:52:20
			the Haram hamdulillah that's
sufficient because it's personal
		
00:52:20 --> 00:52:24
			pleasure that we want. We don't
want shaytaan to promise us wrong
		
00:52:24 --> 00:52:29
			pleasures. This is the thing.
Another point Imam Ghazali makes
		
00:52:29 --> 00:52:32
			Rahmatullah Hey, Ali, I'm going to
just make one or two more points
		
00:52:32 --> 00:52:35
			and I'm going to open it up for
questions, Inshallah, the desire
		
00:52:35 --> 00:52:35
			for women.
		
00:52:37 --> 00:52:41
			He's talking to men. For men, the
desire for women, which is the
		
00:52:41 --> 00:52:43
			greatest of all desires,
		
00:52:46 --> 00:52:51
			is susceptible to excess defects
and equilibrium. Basically, the
		
00:52:51 --> 00:52:56
			man's desire for women can either
be excessive,
		
00:52:57 --> 00:53:02
			just all the time, the way we're
saying, Give me wrist all the
		
00:53:02 --> 00:53:02
			time.
		
00:53:03 --> 00:53:06
			And then he wanted, he said, If
you don't, I'm gonna get another
		
00:53:06 --> 00:53:10
			wife. So then she feels pressured
and see what I'm saying some
		
00:53:10 --> 00:53:11
			people blackmail.
		
00:53:12 --> 00:53:16
			I mean, I know sometimes some
women that they act more reluctant
		
00:53:16 --> 00:53:19
			than they should do. Right than
normal. That's that's another
		
00:53:19 --> 00:53:22
			issue here. And everybody's
mature, and you need to understand
		
00:53:22 --> 00:53:27
			this. All right, other times,
their weakness is defect, they
		
00:53:27 --> 00:53:31
			don't have enough. They're not
some some waves are complaining.
		
00:53:32 --> 00:53:36
			He just comes home at night, late
60s out with his friends goes to
		
00:53:36 --> 00:53:36
			sleep,
		
00:53:37 --> 00:53:38
			and so on and so forth.
		
00:53:40 --> 00:53:43
			And number three, some people are
mashallah moderate. So it could be
		
00:53:43 --> 00:53:46
			three, three levels of
relationship.
		
00:53:49 --> 00:53:52
			Access obtains when the intellect
is overcome.
		
00:53:54 --> 00:53:57
			When you get access is when
intellectually you've understood
		
00:53:57 --> 00:54:01
			something wrong, and your heart
wants something different. So a
		
00:54:01 --> 00:54:05
			man's concern is so distracted
towards the enjoyment of women
		
00:54:05 --> 00:54:09
			that he's unable to tread the path
of the afterlife, the whole focus
		
00:54:09 --> 00:54:14
			becomes just gaining pleasure that
dominates everything else. So if
		
00:54:14 --> 00:54:17
			the focus becomes making money, it
will dominate everything else will
		
00:54:17 --> 00:54:22
			neglect our families as well at
our work, if the focus becomes
		
00:54:22 --> 00:54:25
			women for men, then they will
dominate everything else.
		
00:54:27 --> 00:54:30
			Or it may even overcome a man's
religion.
		
00:54:32 --> 00:54:35
			So forget your dunya you'll spoil
your dunya will also spoil your
		
00:54:35 --> 00:54:40
			religion so that he's drawn into
obscene activities. Essentially,
		
00:54:40 --> 00:54:45
			when a person is going into sexual
deep sexual vices. The reason is
		
00:54:45 --> 00:54:48
			that they're not happy with the
proper way. So they're going into
		
00:54:48 --> 00:54:52
			the sexual vices, whatever form
that sexual vices that just
		
00:54:52 --> 00:54:57
			talking about over indulgence.
That's why Imam Ghazali is talking
		
00:54:57 --> 00:54:59
			about that desire effect.
		
00:55:00 --> 00:55:04
			goes into the excess, it may end
up becoming just amorous passion,
		
00:55:05 --> 00:55:05
			or fish,
		
00:55:07 --> 00:55:11
			which constitutes utter ignorance
of the intended purpose of sexual
		
00:55:11 --> 00:55:17
			congress. And it causes a person
to descend to the lower level of
		
00:55:17 --> 00:55:20
			animals. That's not what it
shouldn't be about.
		
00:55:21 --> 00:55:24
			Yes, it should be enjoyed. We're
not saying don't enjoy it and just
		
00:55:24 --> 00:55:27
			do it for procreation, it should
be thoroughly enjoyed the Prophet
		
00:55:27 --> 00:55:30
			sallallahu Sallam actually
encouraged and talked about the
		
00:55:30 --> 00:55:35
			importance of foreplay, and for
men not to just be with their
		
00:55:35 --> 00:55:38
			women, and then not satisfy them,
but just satisfy themselves. The
		
00:55:38 --> 00:55:40
			Prophet saw some spoke about all
of this.
		
00:55:41 --> 00:55:45
			Right, I've got a book coming out
in sha Allah, the handbook to a
		
00:55:45 --> 00:55:48
			healthy Muslim marriage. And
there's a section in there that
		
00:55:48 --> 00:55:51
			discusses this, very importantly,
that people should understand.
		
00:55:52 --> 00:55:55
			And then of course, there's both
the Muhammad's book on the more
		
00:55:55 --> 00:56:01
			specifics of that subject itself.
To break the power of amorous
		
00:56:01 --> 00:56:06
			passion, in its early stages is
easier. Because it's like you're
		
00:56:06 --> 00:56:10
			riding a beast that's heading for
a door or a gate he wants to
		
00:56:10 --> 00:56:17
			enter. To stop it from entering is
easy, you can do that. But to try
		
00:56:17 --> 00:56:20
			to treat this afterwards becomes
much more difficult.
		
00:56:22 --> 00:56:26
			It's then like trying to pull the
animal by the tail to stop it.
		
00:56:27 --> 00:56:32
			It's easier to stop an animal with
the reins, than if you're off the
		
00:56:32 --> 00:56:34
			animal and it's doing its own
thing and you're trying to stop it
		
00:56:34 --> 00:56:38
			with its tail, it becomes very, it
becomes very difficult, much more
		
00:56:38 --> 00:56:38
			difficult task.
		
00:56:40 --> 00:56:43
			And of course, one of the other
harms of it is that excessive
		
00:56:43 --> 00:56:48
			sexual desire causes the intellect
to be overcome, which is condemned
		
00:56:48 --> 00:56:50
			because everybody's just thinking
even in the praying salah, they're
		
00:56:51 --> 00:56:56
			waiting for the next move. That
becomes very dangerous. In fact,
		
00:56:56 --> 00:57:00
			for social person to even keep
well who may be difficult, right?
		
00:57:00 --> 00:57:05
			So insufficient sexual desire is
also bad. If you have insufficient
		
00:57:05 --> 00:57:08
			sexual desire, that's also bad
because you will not be fulfilling
		
00:57:08 --> 00:57:12
			the responsibility of your spouse.
Sexual desire is a praiseworthy
		
00:57:12 --> 00:57:16
			thing, when it is done with the
proper etiquette and moderation
		
00:57:18 --> 00:57:21
			and obedience to Allah subhanaw
taala.
		
00:57:22 --> 00:57:24
			So a final few things, as I
mentioned.
		
00:57:28 --> 00:57:31
			We pray to Allah that he makes it
easy for us to fast,
		
00:57:32 --> 00:57:35
			at least weekly, Mondays
Thursdays, if possible.
		
00:57:36 --> 00:57:39
			Another few things is don't go
shopping when you're hungry.
		
00:57:40 --> 00:57:43
			Because you end up buying more,
even things you don't need because
		
00:57:43 --> 00:57:47
			you're there's a concept that the
eyes are hungry than the stomach.
		
00:57:49 --> 00:57:52
			And that's why they say that, you
know, if you are very hungry.
		
00:57:54 --> 00:57:57
			The reason why you should eat
slowly, is because if you eat
		
00:57:57 --> 00:58:01
			fast, you eat faster than your
brain can catch up and satisfy
		
00:58:01 --> 00:58:04
			itself. I don't know what they
call this in medicine. But I'm
		
00:58:04 --> 00:58:07
			sure we all experience it. That
sometimes you eat a lot and you
		
00:58:07 --> 00:58:10
			still feel hungry but you know
that this man generally fills you
		
00:58:10 --> 00:58:10
			up.
		
00:58:12 --> 00:58:15
			So sometimes the Eisah so if you
eat slowly, it takes the
		
00:58:17 --> 00:58:20
			let's bring catch up and you feel
like okay, I've had enough now.
		
00:58:23 --> 00:58:25
			Benefits of Eating with three
fingers.
		
00:58:26 --> 00:58:31
			Then it slows down the pace. I
know some of us come from cultures
		
00:58:31 --> 00:58:32
			where you eat with the fist
		
00:58:34 --> 00:58:37
			where the rice is eaten with the
fist. You take the rice like this
		
00:58:37 --> 00:58:38
			and you make it into a ball.
		
00:58:39 --> 00:58:41
			And then if you see somebody
eating with three fingers, they're
		
00:58:41 --> 00:58:44
			gonna think this like, if it's a
man I'm gonna think you're a woman
		
00:58:44 --> 00:58:45
			eating like this.
		
00:58:47 --> 00:58:52
			That's why one of my friends is
named Sheikh Hamza is he's really
		
00:58:52 --> 00:58:52
			big guy.
		
00:58:54 --> 00:58:57
			He's I think he's nearly as tall
as me, but he's bigger than me.
		
00:58:58 --> 00:59:00
			He was studying with some
Mauritanian shoe you know
		
00:59:00 --> 00:59:05
			Mauritania like Saudis like
Bangladesh. They eat rice with
		
00:59:05 --> 00:59:09
			their fists with the whole hand.
Right of Ronnie's as well right
		
00:59:10 --> 00:59:12
			now not with the whole land
		
00:59:13 --> 00:59:15
			three fingers what oh, just you
guys
		
00:59:18 --> 00:59:21
			but you waste a lot of rice. They
drop a lot of rice on the floor.
		
00:59:21 --> 00:59:25
			Yeah, because I remember I was
with the funny friends and when
		
00:59:25 --> 00:59:28
			they eating a bit they eat from
the center right now everybody
		
00:59:28 --> 00:59:31
			eats together but then on in front
of you drip drop a lot of rice.
		
00:59:31 --> 00:59:34
			There's a lot of wastage hopefully
you guys don't do that inshallah.
		
00:59:35 --> 00:59:40
			Different cultures, two different
things. So they they were his some
		
00:59:40 --> 00:59:42
			of his teachers as well. They
started laughing why you eating
		
00:59:42 --> 00:59:46
			because he's bigger than all of
them. They're thin. He's the
		
00:59:46 --> 00:59:51
			biggest and he's eating with three
fingers like this. So somebody one
		
00:59:51 --> 00:59:54
			of them said to him clearly job
		
00:59:56 --> 00:59:58
			which basically means eat like a
man.
		
00:59:59 --> 00:59:59
			So
		
01:00:00 --> 01:00:05
			He said, I couldn't get after the
return. I'm eating like the most
		
01:00:05 --> 01:00:08
			superior of men, which is the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
01:00:08 --> 01:00:10
			sallam. So we sometimes forget
that kind of thing.
		
01:00:11 --> 01:00:14
			I'm not saying it's haram to eat
with your fist, but it's just
		
01:00:17 --> 01:00:20
			to slow ourselves down. If you can
eat when, when when you're hungry,
		
01:00:20 --> 01:00:21
			hungry, then
		
01:00:22 --> 01:00:26
			then it gets difficult. May Allah
subhanaw taala give us the TOEFL.
		
01:00:27 --> 01:00:30
			And may Allah subhanaw taala allow
us to control ourselves because
		
01:00:30 --> 01:00:34
			Inshallah, if we can control these
two things, most of the problems
		
01:00:34 --> 01:00:40
			of our life can be, can be sold in
sha Allah, the health issues, the
		
01:00:40 --> 01:00:44
			greed issues, gluttony issues, so
may Allah We ask Allah to help us
		
01:00:44 --> 01:00:48
			despite all of the challenges
around us, the ease of food, the
		
01:00:48 --> 01:00:51
			variety of food that we have, as
May Allah allow this to be a true
		
01:00:51 --> 01:00:55
			natural for us. And this not to
look like a network, but be a
		
01:00:55 --> 01:00:58
			fitna for us. Because that's
really what the issue is, isn't
		
01:00:58 --> 01:01:03
			it? They have so much that we over
indulge, and the poor people have
		
01:01:03 --> 01:01:07
			so less that they can't even fill
their stomach. Subhan Allah, Allah
		
01:01:07 --> 01:01:11
			give us a trophy. Qualquer Dhawan
hamdu, Lillahi Rabbil Alameen? How
		
01:01:11 --> 01:01:15
			can be hungry? angry because of
hunger?
		
01:01:16 --> 01:01:19
			Oh, being cranky because of
hunger.
		
01:01:20 --> 01:01:23
			Now, I need some medical help
here. Because I have a view of
		
01:01:23 --> 01:01:28
			this. If you have low blood sugar,
you can you explain this. If you
		
01:01:28 --> 01:01:30
			have low blood sugar, you get a
bit cranky.
		
01:01:31 --> 01:01:35
			Right? When you've had less food,
or you haven't had food for a
		
01:01:35 --> 01:01:38
			while, and you have low blood
sugar, you get agitated easily.
		
01:01:39 --> 01:01:43
			Right? It happens to me sometimes.
So the family knows that. Okay, we
		
01:01:43 --> 01:01:44
			can feed him something.
		
01:01:45 --> 01:01:51
			Right? In fact, one of my sons, he
used to cry a lot. Just suddenly,
		
01:01:51 --> 01:01:54
			like he's getting very angry and
very crying. It's like, Why is he
		
01:01:54 --> 01:01:54
			crying for?
		
01:01:55 --> 01:02:00
			Once he's eaten? He's fine. So we
know with him, you know that he's
		
01:02:00 --> 01:02:02
			hungry. So just feed him Don't
delay the food.
		
01:02:03 --> 01:02:04
			How do you look at that medically,
		
01:02:06 --> 01:02:10
			is that low blood sugar creates
agitation you need to eat because
		
01:02:10 --> 01:02:13
			of the low sugar in your system.
So if it I mean, for the person
		
01:02:13 --> 01:02:16
			who feels like this, they should
probably get themselves checked
		
01:02:16 --> 01:02:16
			out.
		
01:02:17 --> 01:02:19
			If because if they have a
condition like this, then it's a
		
01:02:19 --> 01:02:23
			bit of a medical condition. So
then make sure that you eat on
		
01:02:23 --> 01:02:28
			time. Right Just so that because
being cranky is not a good. It's
		
01:02:28 --> 01:02:31
			not good. hamdulillah my close
friends, they know that if I'm a
		
01:02:31 --> 01:02:34
			bit like when they call me and I'm
not then they know that it's
		
01:02:34 --> 01:02:35
			probably hungry or something. So
		
01:02:36 --> 01:02:38
			but you can't use that as an
excuse, either.
		
01:02:40 --> 01:02:42
			What is your advice for people
with the * addiction because a
		
01:02:42 --> 01:02:46
			lot of people think they will stop
when they get married. But that is
		
01:02:46 --> 01:02:50
			not the case in marriage gets
distracted by it. Marriage is not
		
01:02:50 --> 01:02:55
			the full solution to *,
because *. I've got a
		
01:02:55 --> 01:02:57
			whole lecture. It's what's it
called?
		
01:02:58 --> 01:03:02
			There's a whole treatment based
lecture that I've done, we ask
		
01:03:02 --> 01:03:04
			Allah to make it easy for people
because it's a very difficult
		
01:03:04 --> 01:03:10
			thing. And there's a psychology
behind it. That people who are
		
01:03:10 --> 01:03:14
			independent, the the they actually
eventually when they keep looking,
		
01:03:14 --> 01:03:18
			there's a friend of mine who's a
big He's done a lot of research on
		
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			this is in Michigan, and he does
PowerPoint. So he sent me his
		
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			PowerPoint is and basically what
they're saying is that when you
		
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			get involved with *, if there's
a certain part of the brain, I
		
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			forget what it's called, that it
creates the impulse in and
		
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			eventually, you don't even enjoy
what you're watching you keep
		
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			looking for other things. What you
have to do is you have to detoxify
		
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			yourself because Alhamdulillah
Allah has created a bait brain in
		
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			a way that it can fix itself and
rewire. Right? So you have to stay
		
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			away for a while and do some scar,
etc. Food, there's certain foods
		
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			which are also considered to be
harmful for this product. For
		
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			example, one of my friends, he
suggests cutting out red meats,
		
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			because that creates heat in the
body that creates impulses to do
		
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			this towards sexual activity.
		
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			Several other things don't stay in
bed longer than you need to be
		
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			like first thing in the morning
last thing at night only getting
		
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			your bed to go to sleep. Because
the way that sit that state is
		
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			very conducive
		
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			for suitable for that kind of
thing.
		
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			And I think these doors that I
mentioned, Allah homoclinic
		
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			Because really, if you the whole
idea is that I need to do this
		
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			because this isn't satisfying me.
And women are getting destroyed
		
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			because of this. Although
unfortunately some women also have
		
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			this problem as well. It's not
just in men. So I would suggest
		
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			you go into some some academy.com
		
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			and
		
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			it
		
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			was on curbing sexual desires or
something like that. I forget what
		
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			is the title, it's on the if you
look for the word you'll you'll
		
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			find it. This is we've tried to
provide solutions from different
		
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			places, and you keep me you keep
making dua to Allah subhanaw
		
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			taala. It's a very difficult thing
for a lot of people, because so
		
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			many people are involved and the
addiction is so strong.
		
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			developed, it's called Developing
immunity in a hyper, hyper
		
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			sexualized society.
		
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			I mean, if this if this question
came from a woman, I from home,
		
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			and then I'm going to suggest to
you when a husband gets caught,
		
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			because I've had so many questions
like this, when a husband gets
		
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			caught, he's going to deny it.
Because the woman is going to
		
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			freak out.
		
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			The woman takes it very personally
that he's doing this, it makes her
		
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			think, aren't a good enough. He
doesn't like me anymore. He
		
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			doesn't love me anymore, right?
Sometimes. So what happens then is
		
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			that it makes her freak out. And
she doesn't react to it in a way
		
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			that helps the husband, the
husband and tries to feel guilty
		
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			and just hides it. You want to
help your husband to open up to
		
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			you? By showing him that, look, I
understand it's a problem. We're
		
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			going to work through this
together.
		
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			That's very important. Because
otherwise it makes a relationship
		
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			in verse
		
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			number two, it has a problem,
though, just recently
		
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			heard about the case of a guy
who's telling his wife to do all
		
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			the stuff he sees online. And
she's not willing to do that,
		
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			because some of it is just
		
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			completely crazy.
		
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			That and he said, No, you must
you're my, you're my wife, you
		
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			must do whatever I want you I've
got my right.
		
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			That that needs. Because in that
case, how's the wife? You see in a
		
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			case where he knows he's guilty,
she can help him. But if he thinks
		
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			he's right, and she must just do
these haram things.
		
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			And he thinks she's just trying to
get out of it. Then he needs
		
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			therapy. She used to make a lot of
dua, he needs to get help, but he
		
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			has to understand he's got a
problem to get help. But still,
		
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			what the wife does makes a big
difference. Right? She can help
		
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			still to a certain degree in that
case. Insha Allah, Allahu
		
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			mandocello in Ceylon Tabata
theater children anywhere the
		
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			Quran Allah homea
		
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			medical mysteries Allah.
		
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			Allah ilaha illa Anta Subhana
Allah in Konami know what you
		
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			mean? Just Allah one Mohamed Amma
who?
		
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			Oh Allah we ask you to send your
blessings upon us and to treat us
		
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			with your mercy and your
forgiveness of Allah forgive us
		
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			all of our sins of Allah remove
all of our problematic traits and
		
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			and oh Allah give us good
qualities of Allah give us control
		
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			of ourselves over our eating and
our desires of Allah allow us to
		
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			only fulfill our desires
		
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			in that which pleases you of Allah
protect us from fulfilling our
		
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			desires in that which is
displeasing to you. of Allah.
		
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			Grant us pious and righteous
spouses of Allah grant us healthy
		
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			lives of Allah grant us healthy
lives in this world and especially
		
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			healthy lives in the hereafter.
Protect us and our children from
		
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			all of the fitna and the trials
and tribulations which are out
		
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			there of Allah, we ask You for
giving us from all of our sins,
		
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			however, and whenever we committed
them, especially those things
		
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			which has brought difficulties in
our life caused health problems in
		
01:08:50 --> 01:08:54
			our life, cause darkness is to
come in our life, brought
		
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			conflicts within us and remove the
light and the blessing of Allah We
		
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			ask that you also forgive us for
those things that have become part
		
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			of our life. And we no longer
consider them since Oh Allah grant
		
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			us understanding of Allah grant us
blessing. Oh Allah send Your
		
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			abundant blessings, and our
messenger Muhammad sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam, and all of those
who've worked so hard to
		
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			allow these programs to be
organized, and in whatever way or
		
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			shape that they have contributed.
How Allah make this a source of
		
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			sadaqa jariya for them, and may it
be a source of blessing for them
		
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			and their families, and for all of
us to be forgiven, before we leave
		
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			from this place, and Allah make
the rest of our life better than
		
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			the previous part of our life.
Make the remaining days of our
		
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			life to go better than the
previous days of our life, and
		
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			ultimately make the best days of
our life our final days of this
		
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			life, and especially the time when
we stand in front
		
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			have you on the day of judgment of
Allah we ask that You grant us
		
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			gathering among the righteous on
the day of judgment, and that you
		
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			send your abundant blessings on
our messenger Muhammad sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam, and that you
grant us his company in the
		
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			hereafter. Subhan Allah big Robin
is that the IMEI of a phone or
		
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			cell set on one or more saline
hamdulillah