Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Muslim Neighbours
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my dear brothers and our dear listeners, dear sisters,
dear friends,
the topic that is for today has been announced is rights of
neighbors. Now, everybody has I'm assuming everybody here has some
kind of neighbors, and we already have a relationship with them.
Most people, if they're decent human beings will try to have a
decent relationship with their neighbors anyway. So what are we
going to do today is we want to understand how the professor Lord
is the lump specifically spoke about neighbors. And then
the things that he said, which then Inshallah, if there is
anything that we can do better, then at least we learn from that.
And also, then our behavior to our neighbors will become what we do
for our religion as well. And not just because we're trying to be
good people. So then we get reward for that. Well, we'll get rewarded
for doing it in the name of Islam to please Allah subhanaw taala,
then we'll actually get reward for that. So I'm going to mention a
few Hadith to set the scene first, the prophets of Allah Islam
specifically spoke about neighbors.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, that Gibreel alayhi
salam, the angel kept on advising me and counseling me regarding my
neighbor's
until I thought that he was also going to include them in my
inheritance in inheritance. Inheritance is for your closest
family members, not for every family member, it's for the
closest ones. Right? So for example, your cousin usually
doesn't get unless the closer ones on there, for example, you said
that, I felt that oh, the amount of emphasis that Djibouti robbery
is Salam is saying about looking after the rights of your
neighbors, I felt that he was going to even give them
inheritance because they so close. Now, why would you think that
because your neighbors are living next to you, if you have a
neighbor, and he's living next to you, in some ways is actually
closer to you than your relative, your neighbor, your your relative
may be living in another town, on another street, now the end of
town or in another country, and here's your neighbor, usually,
usually speaking people, traditionally, and still in
villages and other places people usually live with their family. So
it will be one brother living here, his brother will be next
door and his brother will be next door. So usually your neighbors or
your relatives anyway.
Right? So if you're, if your neighbor is your relative, your
cousin, your brother, whatever, then one, right is that he's your
brother or your relative, that's one, right? Because he's your
neighbor, he has another eight. And if he's Muslim, if he's your
brother, and so on, he's gonna be a Muslim, then he's got another he
has three rights. But if your neighbor is not a Muslim, he still
has, he still has the right of being your neighbor. He may not be
related to you, he may not be a Muslim still has the one right of
being a neighbor.
And inshallah as we carry on, we'll have a discussion. So the
Prophet salallahu Salam really, really focused on this and
emphasize that. The second Hadith I have is the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi salam said something hadith of Sahih Muslim, the first one
that I mentioned that was from Bukhari and Muslim This one is
from sahih. Muslim is that men can have up to Allah Who will
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anybody who believes in Allah and the Last Day he has to honor his
neighbor. Yeah, Allah if you're a movement, you believe in Allah and
the last thing you better honor your neighbor. It's a hukum it's a
religious obligation, meaning it's a lucky religious obligation to
honor your neighbor, Allahu Akbar. The third hadith is the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in a lot, it's a slightly longer
Hadith and I'll explain these in detail later to the Hebrew ra
Hattie Diedrich, don't
you can say, harm your neighbor. Make him feel bad.
by the smell of your food by the smell of your pot. Now there could
be multiple ways. If you're cooking something really delicious
and he's going to bring water in their mouth
and they don't have it
and you're not going to share it with them, then that's one way to
harm them. That's one way to make them feel bad.
Another way to make them feel bad is to cook
to cook something so
mashallah smelly.
Right? That
that they get bothered by that right I don't know what kind of
food that is. But you know if there is something like that. So
it's just about are they going to now if you're it's easy if you're
cooking something wonderful to share something that's easy,
right? Then they feel good as well. Right?
Then he said illa Anta very fellow human, unless you give him some
unless you laid out some for them. What initial rate of Archaea if
you buy some fruit
for Adela, give him some as well.
We're in lambda file. If you don't want to give him any, then further
kill her sarin, then bring it into your house covered so they don't
see it.
Now, nowadays, most of the time, houses are slightly larger and
more private, with driveways and things like that, or at least a
little yard or something. So you don't really see that. But when
people are living so close to one another and they're singing out
sitting around outside, like in villages, they're gonna see
everything you do. Right? You're gonna see what you buy, they're
gonna know everything. That's kind of the scene we're talking about.
So if they don't know it's okay. But if they see you then it's like
just share it's all about sharing. That's like, I would say that one
of the things here and then he says while I read up her, a person
should not come out with his fruit. This This doesn't refer to
fruit this this refers to anything like desserts,
or anything like that.
Whether you're hooked up when a duck your son, your child should
not go out with it. Li the Bihar Weller The Who, so that his child
feels upset, angry and frustrated, and feels deprived. Now today, I
mean, I don't think they're going to feel bad about fruit maybe. But
one of the worst things that you can do, right really, from
experience only one of the worst things you can do is have your
children give them ice cream, right whether from the ice cream
man or outside and there's their friends are there and you don't
get it give any to them. So your children are mashallah they're
eating ice cream and the others, you know, children are with ice
cream.
That's one of the worst that you can do. Or you give your children
the sweets and you don't give them if you want to give you general
put them take them to the side and give it to them there so that they
don't feel about it's just bad manners say, well, the children
should understand better not these are children. Whenever they see
sweets or ice cream, then they get excited. And if they can't have
any, they feel very deprived.
So share it with them. If you are going to do that, then the
promise. So that's a hadith of tabula rasa. And you know, that
one got very detailed. There is a another narration in which it says
that don't prevent the air from coming to their house by building
something in such a way that they don't get fresh air. And, of
course, lots of things like this, like within the council
regulations, that you can't prevent lights
and other things from them. That's I mean, Islam has all of that
discussion from before then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
once said to Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Allah either if you cook married
button, if you cook some, some curry, for example, if you cook
some broth of some sort for UK theater, Ma, and even if you he
didn't say this, but what it means is that even if you don't have
enough meat to put inside, at least add extra water
and share it with them.
And consider your neighbors. So you might not be able to give them
lots of meat in it, but at least a bit of meat with some you know
with some sauce. So make more sauce out of it. Just so that is
considered. Its considerable like that, especially in Ramadan is an
opportunity to and people share things like this anyway. Right?
You don't have to just share G Luffy. Right. And Michigan. Yeah,
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you don't have to just do geography you can give anything,
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Under am I bringing water to your mouth? No, no.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Walla Walla
Walla, Walla, Hila human three times by Allah
The person is not a believer, he is not a movement. He is not a
movement. Wallah. He is not I mean three times is very angry. Right?
Very, very passionate about this. Peter Woman Yeah rasool Allah they
said, Who are you talking about? Yeah rasool Allah Who are you
speaking about? You're so passionate. Allah, the liat man
Jar Jar Rahul Baba eco, the one who's neighbor is not safe from
his harm.
The neighbor is not safe from his harm in the sense that this person
constantly troubles his neighbor.
Now, who is a neighbor? Let's discuss that before we talk about
the specific rights. Who exactly is your neighbor? How many
neighbors do you have? Right? What do you think? How many neighbors
do you have? How many houses you know, is it 40 houses? How is that
40 split up 40. From this side, 40 from this side, 40 from this side,
40 from the back, that is one opinion.
Another opinion is that it's 40. All around. So 1010 1010 Usually,
it's the people we can see it depends on where you live, if you
live in larger houses, then 40 houses will be, you know, maybe a
mile or two, right? That was not my, you know, maybe a mile or
something. So that'll be alone. And they probably don't even see
you, you don't even know them, usually, in a smaller community,
concentrated communities, smaller communities, right. Unlike in
cities, unlike in big cities, especially in smaller areas, 40
houses were the people you would be seeing day in and day out, you
would know each other. That's how it usually is, we are living in a
time when sometimes you don't even know who your neighbor is. You
don't even know who your neighbor is, sometimes. I've seen cases
like you know, if you're in, you know, terraced houses, it's easier
to know who your neighbors are. But if you live in houses with
driveways and things like that, then it gets a bit more distant. I
remember once in America, while I was living there, I was in a post
office waiting in the line. And one of the guys was helping a
woman fill in her passport form. He was one of the workers in the
policies helping her fill in the passport form. So as he's fitting
in, he asked her for her address. When he came to address it, hey,
you're my neighbor, they only found out then there isn't he
doesn't even know that's a neighbor. Sometimes we live in
such an individual world individualism, you know that you
don't even know who they are. And I think that's very wrong. Because
if something happens to your house, more than your cousins who
live far away, it's your neighbor, that's going to be there first.
That's really important to understand. These are the people
that's going to affect you. That's why in the Sharia, we have very
specific laws about that how to respect the neighbor, one had one
Hadith mentioned that one of the worst things that you can do is to
have Zina with your neighbor's wife.
Like that is considered to be extremely bad. Xena is bad anyway,
fornication is bad, but with your neighbor's wife because that's a
for that trust that you are violating as well. Zina is bad,
but you're also violating a trust because his wife is expected to be
at home while he's at work and there you are flirting and then
you know, I will the will Allah subhanaw taala predictors. So
another opinion about who your neighbor is, or how many neighbors
is that if you were to shout out? That's one opinion if you were to
shout out outside your house, who would hear you
now if you if you live in a very, very bigger state, then nobody's
going to hear you. Right? But this is obviously speaking about close
how many people will hear if you had to shout out and scream help
help how many people those are your closest neighbors? Those are
your that's why there's a Hadith from eyeshadow, the Allahu anha
the prophets She said, Yeah, rasool Allah, I have two
neighbors.
And if I only have like, a small amount to give her dear, I've only
got one box of
meat. I wish the right sweets. Who should I give it to? And it's
going to look bad if I split it in half. Then who should I give it
to? Which one
for ILA au Hema, oh D which one should I give that give gift to
tourists awesome, said Ella, Krabi, Hema mink bourbon, the one
who has the closest door to you,
the one who has the closest door to you, this assumption is that
you're probably going to know them more, there's gonna be more
interaction. That's not always the case. Sometimes you might be more
friendly with two doors away neighbor than your than your
neighbor. Right? There might be a very quiet person, or not engaging
much, or whatever the case is. So it's all based on who you think is
the closest and who will be maybe offended. That's another thing
that we have to consider as well. We don't want to offend people.
It's very, very important.
It's Hurriya is not necessary, but if you do it, then do it with in a
way that sensitive that is considerate. That's what it's
that's what he's saying.
Right now let's look at the neighbors rights. What are the
neighbors rights? Many of these are found in Hadith. Some of them
are just common understanding and decency. What are they number one
If they become sick, you should visit them. So you know, I mean,
we, if our relatives become sick, we have a tradition of visiting
them. But also with our neighbor, that should be the case as well,
we should visit them. Of course, if they don't like you as a
visitor, then then that's fine, we can just maybe give them a call or
send a text message, or send them a note saying, I'm here to help
you please let me know if any, because sometimes some neighbors
don't like you to maybe visit. Some people are like that, that's
fine. You just have, we just have to show them that we're there for
them.
We are present. That's all we have to do. Right? So that if they need
us, Inshallah, they can come.
Cromwell Marilla, who in pallava, who, to actually give them a loan,
if they ask for it, they have a right to a certain degree, it's
not my job, it's not obligatory, but if they need a loan, and he's
only gonna ask you for a loan, if you're close enough. I remember I
was living in a flats, whole set of flats. And there was this one,
one guy,
really nice guy, really nice guy, he used to have a little kid, and
one day just comes and knocks on because you, you don't have this
like Brother, can I can I is not a Muslim is a? What do you call it?
Maybe from the Caribbean? I think he was, it was like, Can I borrow
some money? Right. So I found some change, I had like two, three
pounds, I gave it to him. For the rest of the time, we stayed there
for the next 234 years, he was so obliged, a small amount. But he
was so obliged, because he needed that day, because to buy something
for his child or something like that, you need to have that,
because we live as a community. So we need to create that bond
between us so that we look after one another, and you feel good. If
you move into a neighborhood, a friend of mine, a big scholar, he
said he moved into a new area.
And he moved into one area and stayed there for a few years. Then
he moved into another area. The new area he went to it was very
few Muslims there. But he says that the reception I got there was
much better than the first area which had many Muslims, this was
in Birmingham, right? He said, When I moved into the other area,
I got notes through my door saying we are your neighbor number so and
so we seen that you moved in, if you if there's anything we can do
for you, let us know. It's just a good welcome when you come to a
new area, especially otherwise, if somebody swears that you when you
go to a new area and you're the first welcome you have have from
your neighbors is that they're going to be swearing in causing
you problems and don't park your car here and all that kind of
stuff in this bad way. Like Mecca haga, like wherever I got to, you
know, you just it just boils your whole mood. That's why they say
that before you buy a house, look for a neighbor, because they're
going to make a spoil it for you. Right because what's the point of
having a really nice house, bad neighbors constantly gonna happen,
they might be reporting,
you know, unnecessary things to to the authorities causing you
problems and you want to build and so on. It's just Allah, Allah give
us good neighbors. And if you have good neighbors, thank Allah
subhanaw taala and maintain it.
So if he needs a loan, give it to him within your capacity, whatever
you can give, right as a good time.
Assisting them if they need help, if they need to pick something up,
if they need to move something, they've got a little leak and you
know how to sort it out if they need to jumpstart the car,
take some shopping in move something out, got somebody
bothering them outside, etc, etc.
Beyond the it says that a person should constantly ask them how
they are to see how they are. Because sometimes we've had cases
in this country where somebody's died, and they've only found them
after two months. Nobody knew. Okay, that's a bit exceptional
cases, but to constantly try to find out how they are
trying to be part of the difficulties which means to
console them and to give them support or if they're happy than
to congratulate them and say we're happy for you as well. hamdulillah
like if they have a wedding or something, then you know you give
them a gift or you say if they need any help. Would you like to
use my parking space? You know hamdulillah my son had a wedding
neighbor he said look, this is going to be empty your your
your guests can use it that just feel it's a simple gesture doesn't
cost much right? But mashallah, it makes you feel good about your
neighbors. Yes, not building in such a way that you're going to
bother them, unless it's something that you have a right. But still,
it's better to do it in a way that doesn't bother them that doesn't
block them in some way or the other.
Giving him good advice. Like if he's getting some work done and
you think that that's bad work, or he could do it better or use a
different product for you know, a wall or a new shed he's making or
a pipe
work or a leak or something, if you know better, well give him
some advice. Let him use your ladder. You know, if you've got a
lead and he doesn't have a ladder, or something of that nature
if they die, then to follow the journals, I mean assumption is
that if they're Muslim, otherwise you can give condolence, if it's a
non Muslim, you can still give them condolence, we don't take
part in the Burial Rites of another religion, but we can
definitely go to their house and condole the rest of their family.
Of course, some of the things we've already mentioned, which is
to not cook in a way that bothers them, right, and then not even
give them right, especially in Ramadan, a study time, giving them
at least some amount of food every now and then even if it's a small
amount, as a gesture of goodness making dua for them, Allahu Akbar,
making dua for them, it had benefited for us, if our neighbor
is happy, we'll be happy. If our neighbor is upset, then he's gonna
cause problems to us. So I mean, the dua for them is a dua for us.
The next one is very interesting.
Keeping their secrets, keeping their covering. So if you because
your neighbors you could see through the backyard or something
that happened or you could hear, you know, sometimes terraced
houses, you can actually hear the shouting from next door, right?
And you go into a man, my neighbor, they fight husband wife
is always fighting. You tell people that and they don't want
anybody to know, that would be me. But
even if they're not Muslim,
yes, if you're telling somebody who can sort it out for you,
because it's bothering you, and you can tell them, that's fine.
That's a, that's a genuine complaint, but just to talk, then
that's wrong, because that we're violating so keeping the keep
keeping the paradox, they call it you know, do right, keeping the
veil
avoiding throwing things in their yard, or in their path. For
example, if your house is on a slight incline, and if you clean
your yard, it's all gonna go into their house and clean your yard,
but then push it out to the beyond into the gutter. So it doesn't go
into them. You have to think up to that level, say, Well, I just
pushed it down in my house I didn't put it into it just came
there. Now we have to be kind of what happens if our other neighbor
pushed it into our yard, or it came from there. So we have to we
have to consider these things.
Of course, no Argh, try not to conflict and argue and say bad
things in any way like that. And responding to his greeting if he's
a Muslim then salaam otherwise good morning, good afternoon. How
are you how is everything speaking to them in a civilized, decent,
sensible way, in in a compassionate way. Don't be
arrogant against them, they might not have as much as you, you might
have a better car, they may be struggling, right? You might have
a better job. So you look down upon them. So you talk to them
arrogantly. I'm better than my neighbor, I'm superior to my
neighbor. You may be Allah has given it to you, but Allah gave it
to you and Allah doesn't want you to show off with them. So don't
look down upon them. Don't disdain them.
Don't play loud music. Don't play loud nasheeds. Just because the
sheets are Hala. lockira is halal. And you pray so loudly that they
get bothered, especially at nighttime. You know, when they're
trying to sleep or your TV is too loud, or your your, you know, your
Netflix or whatever are the biller, you know, whatever people
are on to write.
The next point is, if they are bothersome, then be patient to the
best of your ability. What that means is try to avoid getting too
angry. But try to deal with it in a sensible way to try to solve the
matter, because you could get angry as well. And then you're
just gonna have arguments for how long
you're gonna live there. Are you thinking of moving out? Is he
going to move out? No. So how can you argue for so try I know it's
difficult, but try to raise try to be soft and hopefully they will
see try to send them some gifts. I've seen this on a number of
occasions. A friend of mine is a is a Mufti sob. He moved in to a
particular house. And there was racism. This was in American
California. So they, his neighbors, they started causing
issues. So he found out that that one neighbor was causing a lot of
I had birds, he had a bird. So what he did was he went and bought
this really nice bird cage. Anyone gave it to him as a gift. Very
thoughtful. Like I know your hobby. Since that day, mashallah
that neighbor stopped bothering him. What gifts can do is amazing.
What a hadiya can do is mashallah, right? What a hadiya and a gift
can do is very, very, very powerful. That's why Allah
subhanaw taala says in the Quran, while a tester will have center to
what I say here, good and bad can never be the same. Right? It
variability here.
arson repel, respond in a way that is better respond in a way that is
better for either Larry Boehner Kobina who are Dawa. Even if
there's somebody who has enmity with you, they hate your guts,
right?
And who will even have him he will eventually become like a very
close friend, just by being good. So do that. Right? Do that, yes,
sometimes it might require that you might respond with a bit of
firmness, but still be good, as you know, that's how we should be.
Okay, the next one is don't look at them, while they don't peek
into the yard, don't peek into the like, if you can see through the
window, we shouldn't be looking into it.
We should avoid that, or trying to find out some of their secrets, or
find out what they're doing.
And then revealing that to others is even worse. Speaking about your
neighbors badly to others, unless it's a genuine complaint you're
making
or causing tail bearing punch or you know, doing things like that,
right.
But bothering him at the time of the arrest, especially Be careful,
you know that your neighbor takes the risk that a certain time.
Okay, try your best to not let the children you know, try your best
not to let the children play out at that time. For example, you
might be some old guy was to sleep, you know, at some odd time,
well try your best. And
the worst thing you can do is to be so bad to him that you force
him to leave.
Right so you can bring your your friend next door or your cousin
next door. Right? That might sound like a very strategic way of doing
it. But you know, that should be avoided as well. So that's, as you
can see, it's just a lot of practical advice that we have from
our Sharia and the Hadith. MashAllah very emphatic about this
to say that what Allah healer you mean one law healer you mean one
law healer, human person is not a believer by Allah is not a
believer who the one from whose
harm his neighbor is not safe. May Allah subhanaw taala make our
neighbors safe from our harm, and us safe from their harm. And Allah
allow it us to do certain things to improve. And our job should
actually be to teach the goodness and the light of our faith with
others and we share that this is how we're going to be able to make
a difference in sha Allah in this country by good luck and character
otherwise, everybody else is against me Allah subhanho wa Taala
give us Sofia, may Allah accept and may Allah grant us wonderful
communities while he read that one. Anil hamdulillahi rabbil
Alameen Allahumma and to Silla wanting to sit down with the work
the other jewellery with a chrome Allahumma yada yada you erotica
mystery Thea Hana, Yama, nun, La ilaha illa Allah Subhan Allah in
the Quran I mean it mean Allahumma salli wa salam ala Sayyidina
Muhammad wa either early say you didn't Mohamed Anwar Burdick wa
salam, O Allah have mercy on us. Yeah, Allah have mercy on the
entire Ummah, on our families and our children of Allah have mercy
on our neighborhoods and our communities and our neighbors
Yeah, Allah. Allah Allah bless us all with your light. Bless us all
with your guidance versus all with with your Toba with your
repentance Yeah, Allah bless us all with repentance of Allah bless
the soul of your acceptance yeah Allah bless us all with your mercy
bless her soul with your generosity bless us all with your
special attention. Yeah, Allah bless us with your special focus
and your benevolence and your kindness Yeah, Allah, especially
during this month, which is a month of kindness and generosity
of Allah so many people give to one another. Oh Allah make us also
of those who give to one another. protect us from jealousy protects
us from stinginess, miserliness, bad feelings, enmity, hatred Ranko
and other bad aspects of the heart year Allah Oh Allah grant us good
neighbors Yet Allah Oh Allah grant us wonderful neighbors make us
good neighbors as well Yeah, Allah allow us to share our light with
one another Yeah, Allah share our guidance with one another Yeah,
Allah Allah Allah bless this Ramadan and make it better than
any Ramadan before it Yeah, Allah. May Allah make us closer to you
than we've ever been before. Yeah, Allah, Allah Allah bless this
masjid and all the other massaging and all the projects that we have
in our messages and our institutes of Allah allow them to be
completed, oh Allah protect our institutes of Allah from all those
who are under Muslimeen from all those who seek to harm us who seek
to restrict us who see to cause us problems here Allah protect us, oh
Allah protect us. Allow them to see the beauty of what we have.
What we have here Allah allow us to be there is allow us to be
those who allow others to see the beauty that that we
have a valid Islam and our faith yeah Allah people are struggling
out there yeah Allah people are empty Oh ALLAH people are thirsty
allow us to share our faith and our Allah relieve our brothers and
sisters who are suffering in Palestine because Sudan and other
places Yet Allah relieve their problem grant them their dignity,
their honor, and their freedom. Yeah, yeah Allah and Allah Allah
grant them much better than what they have last year. Allah Oh
ALLAH assist us all and assist the OMA and make us a means of the
goodness of this make us productive individuals allow us to
be accepted for the service of your deen Yeah, Allah Subhana
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confident. You don't have to leave lectures behind you can continue
to live, you know, to listen to lectures, but you need to have
this more sustained study as well. JazakAllah Heron salaam aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato.