Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Muhasibi’s Risalah Part 13 Developing True Honesty
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The speakers discuss the importance of humility and respecting one's own truth in disputes. They stress the importance of humility and not arguing for one's own truth. The discussion then delves into the origin of the word "ar lie" and its origins in Basra's culture. The speakers also discuss the benefits of working with the datch and focusing on the hereafter, as well as the importance of the Insha Allah.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi wa Salatu was Salam
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Imam Al Maha CV says what the world little hockey? Wha hoo
what the world our little healthy work, Darla who which means
when it comes to the truth, of course for Allah subhanaw taala.
But anything related to truth,
then submit to that.
Humble yourself for that
exercise humility with regards to the truth.
What that level and submit to it
generally speaking, whenever a person is in a dispute,
well, there's some confusing matter,
generally to do with disputes, especially if it's about a dispute
over
that a dispute in which a person's
wealth is going to be impacted. Something, it's an argument over
possessing something owning something, the right to have
something.
Or if it's an argument about
who did better an argument about who's correct in terms of the
argument.
In all of these things, this is a
an advice, if we follow, you will gain a lot more respect than the
perceived respect that people have when they want to win an argument.
You may win an argument because of having more supporters around you
that are cheering you on. Unfortunately, what we've seen in
the world is that when people argue, generally speaking, it's
the louder ones that win. So the one who can make a loud noise,
they don't win, they just get away with it, they kind of have the
last word,
especially when you have a free few supporters around you who also
have loud voices, and just drowned otherwise out, then generally
that's considered winning, but is it really winning? When a person
is connected to Allah subhanho wa taala, the hereafter and has what
we call the CIFA of CDT of sit.
Right, this is always wanting to be on the true side. On the fair
side, this is a characteristic, this is a character trait, I don't
care what happens, I'd rather be on the truth, even if I have to
say sorry, even if I have to say, Okay, I was wrong, you win, I'd
rather be on the side of truth, because the person on the side of
truth is always going to be better off in many, many senses.
Both in terms of this world, because you will feel much better
with yourself. Because you know, the most difficult part is to say,
sorry, I was wrong.
Right? And maybe face up to some consequences of that. But once
it's over, you will feel so much better, and you won't have any
kind of burden in your heart. So the only difficult part is the
part about saying sorry, that's the only difficult part.
In fact, you're gonna get used to doing that. So that becomes easy
as well. Because the path of truth is supposed to be easy. It's
supposed to give you comfort. So initially, if you're, if we're
defensive generally, and we learn to start saying sorry, it is a
barrier that you have to overcome. And being a you know, being able
to say sorry, it's not easy all the time. So there's a barrier
that stops you Oh, what people are gonna think of me I was wrong. So
what
so many other times I've been right, this time I was wrong, no
problem. The truth should prevail when you want to respect the truth
because of Allah is the truth. And truth comes from Allah subhanaw
taala and you want to respect it for Allah sake. And essentially
what you're doing is you are doing the water a little hack. You are
Hume humiliating yourself, humbling yourself for the sake of
the truth. And
the hadith is very clear that Mandawa Allah Allah Hera, Farah
hula,
anybody who humiliates himself humbles himself for Allah subhanho
wa taala, Allah will raise him. So that's going to come. So just
think about it like that next time you're in a dispute, you know,
you're wrong, or you think you're wrong, or at least whatever it is,
try to just understand that this is an act of humility. And Allah
subhanaw taala will give me the respect that I may try to preserve
here by continuing on, on the wrong opinion as such,
was at that level, and just just submit to it? Because after that,
you will feel so much better. You won't be carrying that. You know,
you you're not, you know, the worst part is that when you are
wrong, but you convince yourself you're right, that's even worse
than knowing you're wrong. And just arguing for it. That's bad.
Well, but the worst eventually what a person like this will do
because they have to ask themselves, am I really right or
wrong? No, no, I was right for this reason. And you talk to
somebody and say, Look, this is what I did. No, no, no, is he's
right, you're you're right. He shouldn't have done this in the
first place, or whatever the case is. There's many ways of
justifying things. It's all perspective at the end of the day,
right? There's deception in the world, right? Deception exists. So
anything can be deceptive. So what you start doing is you start to
cover yourself up, and you start to justify yourself. And this then
leads to hypocrisy, which is a disease as Allah says that people
will be Maradona, in the heart is a disease. Because hypocrisy is a
disease. It's about playing to covering the truth in your heart,
convincing yourself and acting like somebody else. This is a
disease and it's very dangerous. And you don't want to live like
that anybody who is true to Allah subhanaw taala doesn't want to
live like that. They want to be as honest as possible, and fair as
possible.
So that's what he's saying. Just Just be very careful about this.
That's what he say. Because this is the trait of the believer, the
righteous believer at the moment aside,
for in the home, either out of well haka, sobre la, when they
realize what the truth is, they rush to the truth, they hastened
to the truth. They don't then dilly dally about about the wrong
the falsehood becomes clear in their hearts.
Then they become so averse to it. They become so averse to it that
they start hating it so much
that they just move away from it. That is idea why should I remain
on the untruth? Why should I remain on the false falsehood? I
know I'm false I know I'm wrong. Why should I carry on like that?
I'm carrying baggage I'm carrying dirt that's the way they look at
it
I'm or ignore obeyed
once he made an opinion he gave an opinion about something and made a
big blunder made a mistake
while silly pinata
he disputed with him
so both of these guys I'm not even obeyed in Wall Street you know, I
thought they became the leaders of the mortars delights afterwards.
There used to be with the hustle and bustle the Rahimullah the
first Hadith in
this ama have not obeyed the marble journey. These were the
people who had denied other or something at the beginning. They
became the you can say the founders of the mortar Zillow
group direction list, they will with Hasan basally. But anyway, in
this case,
while sillimanite I thought
disputed him on that point and would have not obeyed. So I'm
going to not obey them. It became clear to him that he is he was
wrong in that masala in the issue.
So, he says okay, fine. You said my beanie or banal happy Midnight
Hour.
Is it okay I take my word back. I take my opinion back because I
have no enmity with
with the truth. So why shouldn't I take the truth? I have no I have
no problem with the truth so that you see the perspective.
Even though hydrological Ernie Rahimullah he mentions in his
study with Daveed.
This is a book on a smart origin. This is a book on the narrator's
of Hadith 1000s and 1000s. He discusses their life and who they
were and all that right.
Their biographies.
This one, there's a person whose name was Obaidullah. YBNL Hassan
Allenbury or Baitullah. YBNL Hassan Al ambery
died in about 167. So in discussing his biography,
he is Obaidullah. Ibnu YBNL Hassan was one of the
leaders of the halal Basara the people of Bosler, he was one of
the great religious leaders of the people of Basra. He was one of
their fuqaha one of his their jurists, and he was also the Tavi
of Basra, the big scholar, right obaidul LIONEL Hudson
one of his students Adorama live nobody. Many people may have heard
him because he Narita Hadith, Abdul Rahman, even though MADI he
has an array of he's a student of his he relates our once we were in
a janazah in a funeral and I asked him about a masala
we knew in a janazah your mind is occupied, you're not sitting in a
class. you're out and about, right? There's something that
you're thinking about. He asked him I must Allah and he made a
mistake in it.
No, no, you know what I can I can I can ask you a question. Oh, I
found you. I've been wanting to ask you a question. I asked him a
question. I made a mistake. So I said to him, a slug Allah
May Allah correct you reform you
grant your salvation however you want to translate that the opinion
it shouldn't be this and that.
Now why did he ask him the question in the first place? If
you knew what the right answer was, Well, maybe he didn't know
what the right answer was. But the answer that he did receive
definitely was wrong was off track. You know, sometimes you
think of a masala and you think the answer should be like this,
but you're not sure. You ask your teacher.
He gives you something totally contradictory and you just can't
understand how that's possible and say, No, that has to be wrong. I
thought about that one that has to be wrong. Shouldn't the answer be
like this? For a taco satin, he lowered his head for a while. And
then he said, he reasoned and said, What is an allergic rule?
What an assaultive? He says, Okay, I take my word back.
You know, I'm on the, basically I'm in humility. Right? I take my
word back. Learn Hakuna venerable will help create a habit in a
human coonara Sand filled bottle.
This is the way these people used to think. Look at the way he
explains it. He says that, take an animal. He says I'd rather be the
tail of truth, then be ahead of Bartylla falsehood.
Rather than being at the front of wrong and falsehood I'd rather be
at the back and truthful, very interesting.
example he gives there may Allah subhanaw taala have mercy on him.
Again, another story in the daddy with daddy with no Hotjar Alas,
Kalani, he says this one is about murder Cubano middle al kofi.
Malik Abner middle el Koofi. He died in about 159 Hijiri
Imam Muhammad even are humble says that I heard Soufiane ignore
Marina saying
somebody said to this murder give no middle it tequila fear Allah
so he went and he put his cheek onto the ground
so there must have been a masala an issue and somebody said you
should you need to fear Allah. So he went and put his foot
on the ground to say look, I've been submitted to Allah. Let's I
mean, obviously we're not telling you to do that. It's just an
expression of how people were so
inclined to be truthful because this is the Siddiq in What does
Allah say about the CDT and you know when we read Al hamdu Lillahi
Rabbil Alameen wa Rahman and Rahim murdy Kiyomi Dean, you can do it
you can stare
it did not sit autonomous docking guide us to the straight path.
Then to define that straight path Sirata Latina and underlay him The
path of those who you have showered your bounties upon Allah
you will not do barely human or dolly not
the ones who your anger has come upon, and not the ones who have
been astray. So in the Surah is general here, but in another surah
Allah subhanaw taala tells you who these people are that Allah has
showered their bounty upon my Latina Anam Allahu Allah him Minh
in a been was Cydia teen or shahada II or soil him what has to
know like he got off Erica.
This is those people who Allah has showed His bounties upon meaning
the prophets, the truthful ones are Sidiki champions of truth
whose state is of truth, they just always want to be on a two
Regardless, this is the state I'm talking about. It's complete
opposite of New York.
The shahada,
the Masters, and sila heme, the generally righteous and pious, now
Siddiq in generally going to be righteous and pious, but this has
been singled out and he's mentioned second after the
prophets, the prophets were always truthful. You can't allow
falsehood in your heart, very wrong.
Just very wrong, you will live with that for a while.
It will haunt you.
And if it doesn't haunt you, then that means your your heart is
diseased. If telling an untruth, living an untruthful life doesn't
haunt you, then it's even worse. Because if it haunts you, then you
have the time to to make Toba and change. If it doesn't haunt you,
it means the disease is so there that you just can't see it.
That's really bad.
Then he says what a dim thicker Allah eternal CORBA who
there's no other way for this. remain with the vicar of Allah,
perpetually do the Dhikr of Allah and you will then gain his
closeness.
You know, the simple thing is just keep taking his name, and you will
get close to Allah. Just keep taking his name. It's as simple as
that. Really.
Meaning that's a simple theory. It's just very simple. The
difficulty is just making sure we do that
none of these people became great. Close to Allah.
except with the Dhikr of Allah subhanaw taala
you have to spend time for the Dhikr of Allah.
This is one of the greatest, when in fact it's not the only benefit.
This is the greatest one of the greatest of the benefits of
remembering of Allah. The Quran Allah
YBNL AIIM
Rahim Allah
in his book called forward
he's got
numerous benefits that he mentioned the Dhikr of Allah. I
think out of that we have 33 or something.
We have 33 of them discussed online, we got a lecture on that.
But
we'll just
go over those 33 quickly and then there's there's some more. This
just tells you the benefit. See, whenever Allah subhanaw taala
speaks about love, he speaks about
will Lavina Amanu Aisha the hood Bonilla, the people who believe
they are
most intensely in love with Allah subhanho wa Taala that if there's
something that you can fall intensely in love with, it's Allah
subhanho wa Taala and then does everything. So I says a shed do
severely intensely in love with Allah subhanho wa taala.
And the way to do that is a verkeerd in Allah to become a
verkeerd in Allah cathedra with the carrot.
Those who cathedra means abundantly those who remember
abundantly from the main male and female men, who will remember
Allah Burnley and FIM and women who remember, abundantly.
And the reason why every moment of your thicker will be beneficial,
even if you find a minute to do this. And just think, Okay, I've
got I'm in a bus right now, or I'm in a car or whatever I'm driving,
just have a general habit just be hanging there on your dashboard
somewhere on your indicator light or whatever it is that you have.
That's very nice. It's very easy. When you see it there, you'll just
pick it up. And so even if you find a moment, even if it's a
minute, do something and just think this is for my art career,
I'm just building up there, this is going to be a benefit. It's
going to illuminate my day, it's going to bring some light into my
day, it's going to make me that much closer to Allah, it's just
about trying to get the most out of it.
You know, getting this addiction with liquor somehow.
He mentions here that
in the vicar of Allah subhanaw taala, there are more than 100
benefits. First and foremost,
it satisfies the Most Merciful One, if it satisfies the Most
Merciful One. The reason why it's called a rock manda is then he
will give you mercy.
Where through the shaytaan and it repels the shaytaan, it really
makes him feel bad. When you zero will hum remembering Allah will
remove your grief, because it's a form of tranquility of the heart
may not, you know, reading something five times may not get
rid of your concern, worry. But the more you read it depending on
the strength of your worry.
That is how that is how much you need to then get rid of that worry
because it will give you some tranquility, it will give you it's
not going to it's not going to remove your problem necessarily,
but it will remove your psychological problem. If you've
got a problem, a physical problem, a practical problem that's out
there, you may not get rid of that, but you will understand how
to surmount it how to deal with it, you won't you see if you're
not strong enough inside to deal with the problem, you can't really
the problem.
But if you if we get if we start remembering Allah subhanaw taala
and we, our Tawakkol increases our love for Allah increases, our
focus on the hereafter increases. Thus, all of these things to do
with the dunya will decrease. And thus you then feel more
independent, you feel more in control. That's the way I see
benefits you
were she was so rude, it will bring about happiness.
Well, Your call will call Bowell burden will also benefit you. I'm
not going to talk about these in detail because we've already
covered that online. You can see that they Insha Allah, but it
strengthens the heart and the body.
The heart is stronger, how to strengthen the body I can
understand strengthen the spiritual heart but how they spin
strengthen the body. The way I see that is it strengthens the heart
if you assume that you feel better, and everybody knows that
the less depression you have, the less illnesses and sicknesses that
you will have. Right? The happier you are, the more you're able to
surmount sickness, cancer, you can fight against it they say right
depending on your the strength of what you have, and other things
where you know we will call the weather watch while watch it will
illuminate the heart and your face you will make your face
resplendent would you in your mind and now there are especially in
the hereafter but even in this world
People who do a lot of thicker they can it can be seen in their
face wage labor risk. It will also give you Baraka bringing you
sustenance, because you'll get more Baraka in your sustenance.
You may not get millions, but what you do have will go a long way,
and you may get millions. But definitely you'll get more Baraka.
There'll be less darkness in the home and you're in our wealth.
We're exible Mahabharata well hello our
it earns you
sweetness and all of Allah subhanaw taala you gain that. Were
you ready to Mohabbat Allah heeta Allah ality here rural Islam and
eventually it will give you the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala
which is the whole spirit of Islam is to gain while Latina Amanu
eyeshadow Hogben Nila those people who believe they are supposed to
be the strongest and in most intense in their love for Allah
subhanaw taala Were you already thought America well enough, but I
will CORBA and it will create in you knowledge of Allah knowing
Allah returning to Allah, Inaba, which means always returning to
him after anything, it's like okay, I go back to Allah.
Resorting to Allah while Corbin close to Allah so closest to Allah
subhanaw taala well Hayato club and give your heart life away from
the malnourishment because the sustenance of the heart is
the food for the heart is the vicar of Allah. And some say
sleeping with that.
Were thicker Allah He loved and then Allah will remember you.
Because Allah says that the one who remembers me I remember him in
a gathering even better than him. That the avec la vida Qurani the
call to who female in Hadith minnow in a gathering much better
than his which is among the angels and others.
So
these are just some of the flower it.
What's very interesting is that,
you know, Sheikh Mohammed said Hindi
Rahmatullahi Allah who they call Majid Al Thani.
He was born nine 970. Around that time, he died in 1030, or
something like that.
He was only about 60 to 63 when he passed away. But what's very
interesting about him is that he was inside hint, which is in
Punjab in the Indian side of Punjab today. It's about five out
of a few hours, few hours away from sod on boarding up close by
I've been dissident. So
he, there's a shake that came from Cobble,
whose name was
Hajah. Bucky Biller, they call him, right. That's where he became
known as he came from Kabul, very low key personality.
I think he remained in Lahore for a while. And then after that, he
came to Delhi and he settled there. And somebody told Sheikh
Mohammed sir Hindi about him. Now until then, there was no
Naqshbandi yet in the subcontinent. Right. It was all
primarily just the camaraderie so roadworthy and so on. Now, he'd
come, because he had gone to study in Morocco, na transaksi, Aina,
some erkunden in other places, and there he had taken the 30
governors from India from somewhere, and then he had come to
Hindustan. Now he had been either taught I forget, he said, he'd
been told, or in a dream or by somebody else, that you will find
somebody in the subcontinent who will then do massive work there.
So although he was very low key and you know, he wouldn't give
people better, you won't let people come and sit with you know,
as much and so on would be very reluctant and so on.
When we did a little funny writer, Sheikh Mohammed said Hindi heard
about him and he went to him.
Something just clicked, and he told him he must stay.
And I think he met him only twice or thrice, for different periods
of time, within within a few years, and then Kasia Bucky, Willa
passed away. And then when she government said Hindi when he
returned home, he just went from strength to strength and then
the Naqshbandi cells that I just spread all over.
It's interesting how that happens. And then when you have * in La
Jolla, who used to be Naqshbandi before, so a few centuries later,
right 300 years after * Abdullah he is unexplained the
first and I think shake shake passes away, becomes a Chishti and
then the Chishti system spreads.
Allah just use his different Silsila as at different times, and
essentially what they are is just the means to get close to Allah
subhanaw taala that's all it is.
Stop that was
Allah subhanaw taala uses different people for different
things.