Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Muhasibi’s Risalah Part 11 The Pressure to Conform
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim, did we discuss last time about
commanding the right but not doing yourself? I think we discussed
that last time if I remember correctly.
When you, I think we discussed in detail, which was
if you're commanding people to do good, but you're not able to do it
yourself.
So we, the point there is that as long as you have an intention to
do good yourself, and you're not being absolutely hypocritical,
you're telling people to do wrong, and you're purposely doing the
wrong.
But if, as once as Hakimullah but martial Italian artillery said
that he gave a very strong lecture by on on anger. And he said,
sometimes I give lectures, based on what I feel is a deficiency
within me. So this gives me an opportunity to take heed, in fact,
sometimes very effective to tell somebody else to benefit yourself,
if you want to do it as well, because then
psychologically, you feel that you would be
hypocritical if you didn't act on it yourself. So he provides a lot
of encouragement.
So that would be fine. Otherwise, the order might have written that
if, if it was only the pure and extremely righteous and free of
sins, who would,
who could do a marble marble from the heel, and anyone could tell
anybody anything.
Then after a soul, allah sallallahu sallam, nobody would
have been able to do a role model for nearly Moncure.
Because there's nobody else who's just so pure as such. So the idea
is that it's not see her not see her has to come from a sincere
heart, then it will affect. So the more than see her there is, the
more goodwill there is in the heart. And the more further and
concern there is in the heart,
then the more that nasiha will penetrate anyway. But otherwise,
it's nice to tell somebody,
the way the media has made it is that you should be open about your
sins. That's the way to celebrate the freedom. That's the way
because the way they play it is that if you hide, then you will
struggle for the rest of your life, you will be leading a double
life. This is the whole concept that brings out a number of
people. So the whole idea there is that they say is that why don't
you just celebrate with him because we are living in a
postmodern world and where literally, there are no bounds,
the only bounds If you harm somebody else, because that is
human rights charter.
And
in an absolutely free world, they should not be, they should be none
of these curves at all.
So
everything is very flexible, everything is very bendable. There
are no limits. Even gender is fluid, they say you can be
switching, there's no ethically nothing wrong with that.
So in the world that we're living in, we get used to that idea.
We get used to it, because it's what we're listening to everyday
when the politicians you know, the whole, when they speak, when the
media speaks, this is what we get into.
And this is why
a lot of people who are struggling inside with various different
various different sexual vices as well.
Whatever that may be, whether that
even if even people who are struggling with their own
sexuality as such, they listen to these things.
And it makes them even more despondent before they were
dealing with it. Now, because the narrative out there is just come
out, just celebrated. People should get used to it.
So this creates even more psychological pressure, actually,
in the human being, humans will always be struggling with
something. Because there's very few people who are completely in
tune. Those are the people of Allah subhanaw taala, who've
managed to overcome all of these struggles, and now they're in a
state of the tranquil soul.
You only get to come out of the struggle, or most of the struggle
at least when you get enough water in, which is a very, very
difficult stage to get to requires a lot of efforts. But generally
people will be struggling.
And when you struggle like that.
That is what
everybody has a struggle. You know, whether that be with too
much eating, so should just people go out and eat
lots and lots when binge eating just keep eating. Should they do
that?
Somebody likes Coke a lot. Somebody likes drinking a lot.
Should they just keep drinking because that's what they feel like
doing. Why should they up themselves? Why should they
struggle with themselves just do it and then die is just dime 30
years instead of 60 years what's the big deal?
Or become sick to your freedom? This is who makes
These decisions, it's all about the trend outside that make that
is what provides the limits as such in the minds of people. And
then after 10 years is another one, the limits and boundaries are
redrawn and then everybody has to follow suit.
That's basically the world we're living in.
Before you could actually,
before you could actually define cities with the culture of the
people, if you read these old travelogues and the books written
by the early scholars on Bolden,
this is written one called Sonata Kasim
where he's discussed different cities and each city had a very
unique character.
Each city has a very unique character, not just by the
buildings, by the people.
The buildings were quite, I mean, the buildings weren't the big
deal. What was the big deal was what was available there in terms
of greenery and fruits and products, natural local products
because nowadays a globalized world so you get everything
everywhere.
You go to any duty free shop in the world and you get Toblerone,
that's what you get. What's the point of bringing back Toblerone
home?
To Fifi
big bags of Mars chocolate, whether you go to Sri Lanka, Sri
Lanka got to do it. Most chocolate. That's an American
company. Do you understand it's just so boring? Well, now
the whole world needs to be the same. Now. That's what they say in
a globalized world. Listen, before it'd be completely different what
you get in Makkah, you couldn't get somewhere else.
The people were different.
They've even gone as far as discussing the women of each area
that this is their quality. Where's all that now?
It's just completely different world we're living in now. Makes
it much more difficult. In a sense, there's no difference. So
that just creates in us the psychological pressure just to
conform.
And isn't that our biggest challenge? Today? Isn't that one
of our biggest challenges today. And if we don't have a heart and
we don't build our hearts and we don't do enough remembrance of
Allah, then we lose it completely because that we have no Basilar
lifts. Because what we have to understand, there's something
showery Allah Rahim Allah discussed this quite deeply in a
very, very elaborate and sophisticated way, which is, you
know, today's not the place to mention that. But basically every
time you do to dhikr of Allah, and you call out to Allah subhanaw
taala make any connection with him.
The knower descends upon you. And that's exactly what we do in
Morocco to set ourselves up that we imagined that no, because the
Lord is there, and when you do the vicar, you will receive the note
then goes beyond the person. Depending on how strong your your
thicker is.
Depending on how strong your vicar is, the node that comes down
the faith arm the emanations that come down from Allah will Arla
from the upper levels, the baraka, the blessing.
This
spills over,
spills over to around you.
Now, imagine a room of people doing vicar there's going to be
some stronger hearts than others, the vicar is going to be stronger
than others. So the benefit of praying together, solid Jumar at
least once a week, for example, you do it with a bigger
congregation, sitting vicar gatherings, you benefit from that
even if you're weak. If we're weak, we're sitting with others,
we get the benefit of the overspill.
Right? These are the baraka to speaking about if the evil eye can
have such a penetrating effect, then why not the good eye? Why
not? The effect um, there's been many studies on the heart, how
hearts and train other hearts, the most powerful heart will entrain
other hearts to them. They did they've done these studies they
fixed, you know, they've wiped people up. And they've actually
seen how all of this functions.
So
can you imagine a person who has been sitting in one place for the
last 30 years, doing one hour of liquor a day, or reading this much
Quran every day?
Can you imagine the baraka in that there's one
just speaking to somebody I think two weeks ago, one and a half
weeks ago,
that he spoke about
Hafiz Padilha before you sat next to him, and he reads il L,
Hezbollah and all the others. And he says you can just feel it
because he's been sitting in that place for so many years. Doing
that
That's the benefit you get of getting together get from getting
together.
So,
by doing vicar we actually create blessing. That's why the promise a
lot of them said that the house don't leave your houses.
Would you call them cemeteries, by not praying by doing all your
prayers in the masjid, and not doing any norful at home because
the process was always in his sunnah and awful.
In his house, the only time he sat in the masjid after Salat was
after fajr and acid to deal with this be heard then you turn
around. And after fajr, then he would sit there he would ask about
dreams and so on. Others will allow this allottee would just
leave pretty soon.
We need that to strengthen the inside, so that our basura
continues. Without basura in this world, we are gone finished.
Because the the trends outside are too powerful.
It's just easier to conform than to resist.
How many people have that this is the difficulty. This is the
fitness surrounding. These are the temptations around.
You know it's very difficult. There's no way you can
fight against those unless you have good company or you have your
own boss zero. And good company. The benefit of that is the same
that you're getting an overspill, if you don't want to do it
yourself, then you have good company. So, you know, you're
you're taking from the excess, that's what it is, you're
basically tagging along with somebody else
catching a ride. So minimally, we must have good friends, we must
surround ourselves with good people, we must interact with good
people. As far as possible. At work, we have to interact with all
sorts of people, okay, that's fine. We're
restricted in that sense, where we have to do something like this,
but then we should find time, where and that's why we go to the
masjid.
Now, this hadith, I'm not sure if it's a hadith or not, it's been
related by hydrosol Maha CV, but the editor is mentioning that he's
not he's not not found in any of the book. So it's, it's wisdom
anyway.
Whoever advises others, whoever can counsel others, but doesn't
receive the counsel himself,
not effected himself
and
tries to prohibit others doesn't abstain himself
who tells others not to do something and doesn't stop himself
pretty much similar meanings in a sense, then he is by Allah Minal
has been he's of the losers.
So this is somebody who purposely is telling people but
has no concern for himself.
For example, there's
so clip ones of this Pakistani, very famous, kind of pseudos
scholar kind of religious
who claims to be racist gives very powerful by and he's got a gift of
the gab. It's not anonymous or anything, but people
so what they've got is they've got all of these clips of him. Because
the reason I picked that up is because there was Junaid Jamshed
he had criticized Junaid Jamshed for something he had said there
was some controversy some time ago. So he is one who kind of led
a bit of a campaign initially behind him. So one of the clips
was that before the camera actually starts, he's the swearing
away
be really bad Swiss, like, you know, to the people in the studio.
All sorts of things completely indecent.
And then as soon as it starts then he's got another role to play.
That's this clear hypocrisy. I mean, it's this clear hypocrisy.
One is you make a mistake and you swear, right you can't help it you
just hear it around you so merciless and somebody gets very
angry and says it but this is a matter of fact he's just normally
just those those you know to be words and M words and whatever
they are.
He continues he says wala to harlot, water to harlot Ihlara.
Palin, Tolkien don't mix except with an intelligent and righteous
person, an intelligent and righteous person.
If you if you're just with worshippers, with no intelligence,
it could lead to be the art. If you will, the intelligent people
then they understand how to go about things and hear intelligent
just doesn't mean somebody who's very clever, but somebody who
understands who's got the perception of Allah subhanaw taala
intelligent in the deen
What are two journalists
Illa Lehmann Basilan. Not just any animus well, don't just sit with
any ironing but sit with the iron him that has some bizarro
Now I know in this time we may be struggling to find even orlimar
with good basura
but we take what we get, we take what we the best we have access to
or what we can.
Who we can reach because it's difficult.
So do not sit except with Alamin, Basilan.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked a you Julissa,
you know how you run
a USA you know, how you don't? Which of our sitting companions
are the best? What kind of sitting companions should we have called
them and the Karakum Biller, he wrote here to
those whose just site reminds you of Allah.
Not that their site doesn't remind you this, most likely what this is
saying is that their actions don't their actions
are different from what they can give you a good hotbar a good ban
on reminding of the era. But you don't see that from them. And this
is my understanding of it by the way. You don't see that from their
demeanor.
Hypocrisy maybe.
So those that remind you just their sight, just their presence
reminds you of the hereafter and I think this is probably speaking
about
you feel the presence of the vicar you feel the benefits you're
within the radiation of that was the comfy l Miko Manticore who and
then of course, his words they continue his words
his conversation increases your in your knowledge
increases you in your knowledge, where the color come below here at
Yama, Lu and his armor should be such that it reminds you of the
era.
The armor should be such that it reminds you of the era. Hasson
basally Rahim Allah He used to say that the dunya
is entirely a darkness.
And it is by default. If Allah had not been Allah, if Allah was not
more nowhere to send our tea will not Allah Who to summarize the
world they'd be darkness in this world. Because intrinsically
that's what it is. There's light everywhere, but intrinsically be
darkness.
So a dunya could Luhan Volmer Illa Majelis Allah Allah ma except the
Majelis with the Anima.
Those are the places where you get some light
that was his source of getting light.
And
for those who were there yesterday, as I mentioned
that Abner Josie did a survey of the automa before him if not Josie
were around the sixth century or so. He said he did a survey of the
scholars before him because you know, he wrote histories. Ullman
Tom fatale Hill,
something but oh man.
So he is somebody who's really read huge amount of books. And he
wrote numerous biographies. Your heroes suffer to suffer a number
of others as well.
So he said I did a survey to find out who had reached perfection in
both knowledge and in a bother because there's many who are known
more for EBA Zahid, even
though they have knowledge, they could have been fuqaha, as well,
but not masters of everything. And then there were others who are
masters in sciences, but you don't hear the worship site as much. So
he said, I did a survey and I came to the conclusion that there were
three people who could stand up to that. And the first person you
mentioned is haselwood bacillary.
And there's no doubt about that. The second person you mentioned is
Sophia Anna 30, which most people don't know that he was a great
worship, but they didn't see him as a Muhaddith because that's
where he's most famous, you know, but according to him, he was also
one of those. And number 33 was
Ahmed Imam Muhammad even though humble.
Now these three are chosen over the likes of Shafi, the likes of
Abdullah hymnal Mobarak the likes of fool a luminary yard for the
Lindner yard, and you know, all of these people they chosen See,
there must be something and even though Josie doesn't mess around,
he knows his stuff, right?
So these people they managed to achieve both. So out of them is
hustling and bustling. And he's saying that anybody who
the dunya is darkness for him his personal perspective, it's not
necessarily from Hadith, you know, he's a Toby. So he's not
necessarily from Hadith this, but this is his perspective that he's
got penetrating insight. He just sees that aside from the majority
of the true Allah ma, it's all darkness.
Sauce source have to get light
armor if no Mamoon I'll owe the Al kofi.
He was a web
But he was around in the time of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wasallam but he didn't meet him. So he's not a Sahabi
they have a special name for these people they call mcdata mean
mcdata mean, the people like always Cudney the tabbies like
category as a category, but they also have the shot of being what
they call mcdata Me and people who are alive.
heard the call became Muslim, but didn't. So
this particular interview americano Mamoon, he was a Kofi
who was, you know, there from the time of Joe Hillier, he didn't
meet the Prophet salallahu Salam.
He came with modern renewable remember he had been sent as a
coffee or a judge or a governor to Yemen. So when model metabolism
came back,
he came with him
from Yemen, and he then settled in Kufa
with very, very righteous man,
great worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala
his students about his hargus sebe history is about his haka. subete
you mentioned Girnar either route Yasuki Allah, He was such a man,
that if he was seen, you remember ALLAH, just this, it just remind
you of Allah, I cheap.
He died in 75 history
It also mentions about the great Therby Mohammed Dibner serine.
That when he would pass by in the market, to get whatever he needed
through the markets, anybody who saw him would start remembering
Allah Subhan Allah hamdulillah ilaha IL Allah, Allah Allah Allah
Allah see that
hola Mother, have you mentioned this in 30?
Of course hasta la sierra the Rahimullah was the same as well
should I think no Abdullah, one of his students, one of his
companions has imbeciles. It says that when we used to go into his
when we used to attend his Mejlis
Goodna either the Khalifa al Hassan
Hara Jinnah or Walla Naru duniya che and when we would come out
from that Mejlis we would not think that dunya to be anything
completely come with it was just as dose of
an antidote. You know, you pump yourself up with the dunya outside
you go into his Majlis and he just extract extract it from you.
Detoxifies you is the detoxification process of Allah
URIs have not obeyed says that when a person would look at
hassen.
He would just benefit from him, even though he didn't see him
doing anything. Or he didn't even hadn't heard him yet.
This is that overspill, I'm telling you about just he's got so
much coming to him that other people are busking and showering
in it.
Okay, we'll continue Inshallah, another time this there's a lot
more. There's a lot more about this. Let's keep it on time.
May Allah subhanaw taala grant us that kind of company. Hola. Hola.
zuka hubba hubba me and pharaoh now her Boo in Dec. Allah grant us
your love and the love of those whose love benefits us in your
court. So here it is even more that you see that
Allah mopping it now if it can your house and our philosophy with
your house.
Well now we ask You for Your forgiveness and your mercy of
Allah we ask you for your closeness.
Oh Allah despite whatever we are however we are. Oh Allah, we bow
in front of you we prostrate in front of you when we pray of Allah
we ask you for acceptance we ask you for a life of purity and piety
or Allah we ask you
to make our surrounding conducive for your worship of Allah we are
constantly in struggle. We ask You for assistance. or Allah we ask
you for help in our struggles of Allah we ask you for enough smoke
in we ask you for enough spotlight in Allah except our doors who
Allah except Allah gathering here. Oh Allah, make this a source of
your pleasure and your satisfaction of Allah we asked you
to make this is source of your pleasure and your satisfaction. We
asked you to make the source of blessing from you. Source of mercy
from you source of forgiveness from you.
Oh Allah accept everyone here.
and all of those who are listening are Allah we ask that you accept
all of us in your grant. In our homes great baraka and blessing,
remove all of the difficulties remove any problems. We will
remove any restrictions that may have been brought about by the
sins that we have committed. Oh Allah, we asked you forgive
forgiveness for our sins, for all the sins whether we remember them
or we don't remember them. Oh Allah, we ask You for discernment
insight basura Oh ALLAH to understand to illuminate our path
in this world to the hereafter, we ask you to make us from the fact
is even in the hereafter. Oh Allah we ask you to make us of the
successful ones of both worlds, to grant us the best of both worlds,
to grant us the good Ivana Ilaha illa Allah to make the our the
final part of our life the best of our life, and Allah to make
standing in front of you the best part of our existence. Oh Allah,
we ask You for genital photos. We asked you for the company of the
messengers, the prophets, the shahada, the Saudi Hina, Sydney
18. Oh Allah, we ask You that You make us among them. You make us
among the Siddiqui in the Salah Hain Oh Allah we ask that You
grant us these further in these virtues. These stations are Allah
we asked you to imbibe our heart with all of the good character
that we are required to have that we need to have in this world. Oh
Allah, we ask that you guide us and guide through us. Oh Allah,
you make us guides of our own families at least and then for
others of Allah, we ask that you make us a force of positivity,
positive change in this world. We're bringing people to Allah
subhanaw taala to bring people to you, or Allah, grant us the love
of your messenger as much as we should have. Our Allah grant us
his love of Allah grant has the ability to follow in his
footsteps. And all of these sides of him that we mentioned, oh Allah
make them true inspirations for us true source of inspirations for
us. Oh Allah remove the difficulties we may be having in
our life in terms of trying to practice our faith. The challenges
that are out there allow us to overcome them. Allow us to be good
forces of change and positivity. And Oh Allah, we ask that you
grant your great abundant blessings upon our messenger
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and you granted his company
in the hereafter. Subhan Allah be collaborators with Aaron Murase
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