Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Midlife Crisis

Subhanallah Subhanallah This is talking about one brother over the

other. I've had cases in the recent past, at least to husband

and wife cases where the husband is doing something wrong haram

haram flirting or maybe complete Zina in one case, probably

completely another other one flirting for sure. And he wants

his wife to tolerate it. He won't and she's saying, you know, she

obviously wants to keep the marriage together. But he wants it

that both cases he wants said that she doesn't say anything to him.

She agrees with him. Does Madonna essentially, right? Doesn't say

anything to him.

He's willing to lose his kids over it.

This is just the passion of the knifes

over whelming one to such a degree that they're not thinking

straight, he will regret it five years down the line 10 years down

the line. After his head His pleasure is grown a bit older. And

ajeeb achieved thing is that this is all happening in midlife. When

you get to 14.

I call this midlife crisis. I told the woman this I told the sister I

said this a midlife crisis. Do we believe that in Islam, I said it's

got nothing to do with faith. It's just the way you feel you've come

to half your life. And some people, they just feel that their

life hasn't been successful. They haven't had fun. So now they're

looking for some weird fun, so they start acting like children.

I'm not joking. This is this is an ajeeb age, you have to be careful

when you're 40 is also mentally mature. But if you're wrong, and

you just don't have the guidance, you will fall off. And you will do

some crazy things and some people have lost a family.

This is the case this is the time when people will divorce their

their spouse, if they've had a seat. Sometimes people will bear

it Barrett Barrett, they've got problems with their spouse, right

genuine problems. Sometimes. It's when they get to this midlife age

that they will finally have enough courage to take

to take the step of divorce, whether that's from the wife or

the husband,

this is a very critical age.

What do other people do in this age, some people they go and buy a

motorbike.

Have fun.

Some people they want to start traveling, I happen to know some

people they want to maybe start smoking, just different things

just you need something different at this time. I don't know if any

of you have experiences where that age. But if you're if your focus

is Allah, then this is the age when you will get closer to Allah

achieve. This is the age when you will be in

when you will be in spiritual crisis. If you don't think you're

good enough with Allah subhanaw taala. That's where he member has

already mentioned that anybody's if anybody's virtue and good does

not overcome his evil by the age of 40, then he has less chance

afterwards. Because he has a possibility at the age of 42. When

I say 40 I don't mean bang on dot age 40. Like you know, it's around

that. And remember, you become 14 Islam before you become 14 in a

Gregorian sense. In about 3039 You'll start feeling this, it's

that period

if you get past this, Mashallah. But it's a time when you should

use it to get closer to Allah,

spiritual crisis, find somebody to help you

read the Artola Sama, one of the most powerful was that

there's two doors that I always like to make, right, that I found

to be extremely useful.

One Allahumma zakenna hubback will help me and Fermina herba who are

in the UK,

of Allah grant us your love, and the love of those whose love will

benefit us by you. Which means good company, which means good

company. This is Subhanallah It has helped me it's a very powerful

tool and so very important. I if somebody asked me, you know, I

hate this question. What's your favorite Hadith? What's your

favorite Quranic verse? You know, some people, they kind of reduce

it down to that. I don't like that idea. But it's only asked me

what's your favorite toy? This is one of them. And the other one is

Robina hablan. I mean, as well as in our theory, Tina Kurata. Ian,

where's your Anna Tina Inaba.

Our Lord, grant us from our spouses, those that gladden our

eyes and from our children.

So wife can make it for Husband Husband can make it for wife, he

says as much wives whatever, right? Whatever the connotations

and from a

Our children, from our progeny prejudice into the Day of

Judgment. So if we don't even see our progeny, progeny be beyond the

second generation, on the Day of Judgment, Inshallah, when we get

up, we'll have these 1000s of people, maybe millions of progeny,

who knows that we're glad in our eyes, because Allah would have

accepted them for something so wonderful. Those two are very

powerful, though, as I believe, one for yourself, and one for you,

too. It's all about St. Karma, isn't it? It's all about

steadfastness. In this world, it's all about negotiating the problems

in this world. That's our biggest challenge. That is our challenge.

Because it's a matter of Tofik for Allah subhanaw taala, he just has

to remove his assistance, his care, his attention, and then a

person will naturally just

inclined towards the dunya. And that's essentially one meaning of

the love, which means here we learn elder law means to leave

somebody to stray Kaitlan essentially what it is, is to

forsake when he forsakes them, removes his mercy from them

removes his attention from them, then they are naturally going to

just sway towards the dunya because that is

the human shadow.

zillion and nasty how Boucher hurts when you say we've been in

welcome healthier and more control over them.

I mean, fidgety. And while cannot even makan 30 minute, the heavy

oil filter and all of these things that Allah subhanaw taala

mentioned as as challenges for us. So those two to us, very

important. So this midlife crisis is just an natural experience that

people have. Right? Not everybody has to have it, you might not feel

it. Right? You may not experience it. But if you do see yourself

acting weird at the age of 40. around that age, where you want to

do something radical, maybe this might these words may help. I

don't know. I'm hoping because sometimes a person doesn't know

what they're doing. And after dealing with a lot of people for

many years, I see that this age is that weird age. That's why I

mentioned it spontaneously to this to this system, which is is that

Islamic even to think that way. It's a reality. It's a phenomenon.

It's a reality. It's got nothing to do with an ideology, or a

religion. It's just the way people are La Ilaha illa Allah protect

us, Allah help us