Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Midlife Crisis
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The "med strict" situation is a "med strict" crisis where people desire to keep their marriage together but refuse to admit it. They describe it as a "med strict" situation and describe it as a "med strict" crisis. The "med strict" crisis is when people reach their "med strict" age and become "med strict" again. The "med strict" crisis is when people will divorce their spouse, but sometimes they will also divorce their spouse. The "med strict" crisis is when people reach their "med strict" age and become "med strict" again.
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Subhanallah Subhanallah This is talking about one brother over the
other. I've had cases in the recent past, at least to husband
and wife cases where the husband is doing something wrong haram
haram flirting or maybe complete Zina in one case, probably
completely another other one flirting for sure. And he wants
his wife to tolerate it. He won't and she's saying, you know, she
obviously wants to keep the marriage together. But he wants it
that both cases he wants said that she doesn't say anything to him.
She agrees with him. Does Madonna essentially, right? Doesn't say
anything to him.
He's willing to lose his kids over it.
This is just the passion of the knifes
over whelming one to such a degree that they're not thinking
straight, he will regret it five years down the line 10 years down
the line. After his head His pleasure is grown a bit older. And
ajeeb achieved thing is that this is all happening in midlife. When
you get to 14.
I call this midlife crisis. I told the woman this I told the sister I
said this a midlife crisis. Do we believe that in Islam, I said it's
got nothing to do with faith. It's just the way you feel you've come
to half your life. And some people, they just feel that their
life hasn't been successful. They haven't had fun. So now they're
looking for some weird fun, so they start acting like children.
I'm not joking. This is this is an ajeeb age, you have to be careful
when you're 40 is also mentally mature. But if you're wrong, and
you just don't have the guidance, you will fall off. And you will do
some crazy things and some people have lost a family.
This is the case this is the time when people will divorce their
their spouse, if they've had a seat. Sometimes people will bear
it Barrett Barrett, they've got problems with their spouse, right
genuine problems. Sometimes. It's when they get to this midlife age
that they will finally have enough courage to take
to take the step of divorce, whether that's from the wife or
the husband,
this is a very critical age.
What do other people do in this age, some people they go and buy a
motorbike.
Have fun.
Some people they want to start traveling, I happen to know some
people they want to maybe start smoking, just different things
just you need something different at this time. I don't know if any
of you have experiences where that age. But if you're if your focus
is Allah, then this is the age when you will get closer to Allah
achieve. This is the age when you will be in
when you will be in spiritual crisis. If you don't think you're
good enough with Allah subhanaw taala. That's where he member has
already mentioned that anybody's if anybody's virtue and good does
not overcome his evil by the age of 40, then he has less chance
afterwards. Because he has a possibility at the age of 42. When
I say 40 I don't mean bang on dot age 40. Like you know, it's around
that. And remember, you become 14 Islam before you become 14 in a
Gregorian sense. In about 3039 You'll start feeling this, it's
that period
if you get past this, Mashallah. But it's a time when you should
use it to get closer to Allah,
spiritual crisis, find somebody to help you
read the Artola Sama, one of the most powerful was that
there's two doors that I always like to make, right, that I found
to be extremely useful.
One Allahumma zakenna hubback will help me and Fermina herba who are
in the UK,
of Allah grant us your love, and the love of those whose love will
benefit us by you. Which means good company, which means good
company. This is Subhanallah It has helped me it's a very powerful
tool and so very important. I if somebody asked me, you know, I
hate this question. What's your favorite Hadith? What's your
favorite Quranic verse? You know, some people, they kind of reduce
it down to that. I don't like that idea. But it's only asked me
what's your favorite toy? This is one of them. And the other one is
Robina hablan. I mean, as well as in our theory, Tina Kurata. Ian,
where's your Anna Tina Inaba.
Our Lord, grant us from our spouses, those that gladden our
eyes and from our children.
So wife can make it for Husband Husband can make it for wife, he
says as much wives whatever, right? Whatever the connotations
and from a
Our children, from our progeny prejudice into the Day of
Judgment. So if we don't even see our progeny, progeny be beyond the
second generation, on the Day of Judgment, Inshallah, when we get
up, we'll have these 1000s of people, maybe millions of progeny,
who knows that we're glad in our eyes, because Allah would have
accepted them for something so wonderful. Those two are very
powerful, though, as I believe, one for yourself, and one for you,
too. It's all about St. Karma, isn't it? It's all about
steadfastness. In this world, it's all about negotiating the problems
in this world. That's our biggest challenge. That is our challenge.
Because it's a matter of Tofik for Allah subhanaw taala, he just has
to remove his assistance, his care, his attention, and then a
person will naturally just
inclined towards the dunya. And that's essentially one meaning of
the love, which means here we learn elder law means to leave
somebody to stray Kaitlan essentially what it is, is to
forsake when he forsakes them, removes his mercy from them
removes his attention from them, then they are naturally going to
just sway towards the dunya because that is
the human shadow.
zillion and nasty how Boucher hurts when you say we've been in
welcome healthier and more control over them.
I mean, fidgety. And while cannot even makan 30 minute, the heavy
oil filter and all of these things that Allah subhanaw taala
mentioned as as challenges for us. So those two to us, very
important. So this midlife crisis is just an natural experience that
people have. Right? Not everybody has to have it, you might not feel
it. Right? You may not experience it. But if you do see yourself
acting weird at the age of 40. around that age, where you want to
do something radical, maybe this might these words may help. I
don't know. I'm hoping because sometimes a person doesn't know
what they're doing. And after dealing with a lot of people for
many years, I see that this age is that weird age. That's why I
mentioned it spontaneously to this to this system, which is is that
Islamic even to think that way. It's a reality. It's a phenomenon.
It's a reality. It's got nothing to do with an ideology, or a
religion. It's just the way people are La Ilaha illa Allah protect
us, Allah help us