Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Inspirations from the Prophet’s Life (S) at UCL
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So the brothers and sisters nice to be in your midst today this
evening.
We want to speak about from the life of the prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam things that hopefully we can learn from and
imbibe within our own lives. I think that's the purpose of it.
Allah subhana wa Tada says about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam were in Nikka la vida hooky now when you are on the most
sublime of character, you're in the most sublime of character. Now
for us to be able to benefit from what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam did in his life and why he did certain things. I think
it's important to understand who the Prophet sallallahu sallam was,
especially in terms of his character, why it was so perfect,
why he had the perfect moderation because we, when we look at
various different events in his life, were just left completely
astonished. How did somebody have such a balance? How did how did
somebody have such an ability to pay the rights, the due rights of
everybody he was speaking to, or he was dealing with how he managed
to deal with issues in some of the most complex moments of his life,
for example, I will I will highlight some of these examples a
bit later. But basically,
sometimes what you have is that you have
a certain demand in your life, it's only a single demand, the
entire focus is that particular demand, when there's a single
focus on you to do something, there is no other competing
demands upon you, then it's very easy to meet that demand. So if
there's one thing that I'm supposed to do today, right, I'm
supposed to go and do my shopping today, then it's easy to do that,
because I can single mindedly with one focus, go and do my shopping.
If it's an assignment that I'm supposed to supposed to complete.
And I've got no other contending assignments, contending chores, or
any other responsibilities on that day, then I can do that. Now
imagine if I've got my deadline today. And this, somebody calls
up, and he's saying that we're coming into town, your best
friend, well, you haven't seen for a while, a relative and auntie,
somebody else, I want to see you today. Now you know that you have
to pay them their rights as well. Right? You want to meet them as
well, you want to make sure that they don't go without meeting you.
But then you've also got this right. That is when you get to
competing factors, paying for your time, attention and focus. How
does one deal with that that is extremely complicated. You will
see in the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that
he is dealing with many different events in a single day in a single
moment. And then the wonderful thing is that he's actually able
to fulfill all of those demands, whether they be sentimental,
emotional demands, or whether they be demands from other people. He
is the super Imam, that everybody is looking for the Imam, the
leader, the Muslim leader, that's supposed to be able to do this,
and, and this and that and everything, and be able to meet
all the demands. That's who the Prophet salallahu Salam was. So
while we may not be able to become the super Imam and the super
leader that he was, we can definitely at some level or the
other benefit from him in our in our own lives in whatever way
shape or possible and for that, obviously, we need to know more
about him. I'm only going to give you about five or six or seven
examples, quick examples. I don't want to give any lengthy lecture
today. I was actually hoping that the other speaker would have done
his job and I would have just had to fill in a few maybe blanks here
and there and then, you know, left you to it. But really what I want
to do today is rather than giving you a big monologue, a one sided
discussion, I'd like to actually hear from you. Because I want to
hear what your challenges are and how what challenges I should
actually speak to because at the end of the day, I've never been a
pharmacist never intended to be one never been in a pharmacy class
even so I have absolutely no idea right? Except that when I go to
the doctors and they send me to a pharmacy even though I've got it
all automated so that I get an email or a whatsapp or sorry a
text message from the farmer saying pick up your medicine is
already right. I haven't done the home delivery one yet. So that's
my that's my
respond, you know, that's my interaction so far. So I'd like to
hear from you doesn't have to be related to pharmacy, it could be
related to university life could be related to life in general, it
could be about perceived notions of what to do in the future,
various different challenges that we fear, or we have some
trepidation about, I want to hear from you. So what I'll do is I'll
give you a few. And then I'll let you ask the questions. And if you
want to be anonymous, that's completely fine. Send a little
note down. And we'll read that note, if you don't want to voice
out your questions, if anybody doesn't feel comfortable. So
please, if you've got questions about anything, let's give because
this is a very general topic. Right? This is an extremely
general topic topic, I just want to make it as useful as possible.
So the first thing again, these are just a few of the points I'm
picking out from the life of the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam.
Otherwise, you could go on speaking about him for forever.
One is, I think one of the things that, of course, also was very
good in doing was recognizing people's talents, especially his
companions, recognizing their skill, pointing them out,
highlighting them, praising them even and then using them and
essentially signposting people towards their potential. So for
example, you've got one of the companions, everybody will know
Him His Beloved, if not a B robber. Now, he is not from that
community, there seems to be racism. At that time, there is a
bias towards people of a different color, right? And within that, the
actual leader, the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam
before there's any movements for black rights, and so on and so
forth, or anything related to that, right, any any decision or
sorry, any idea, any movement about rights in general, anybody's
rights for that matter, right. The only thing that mattered in those
in those times in the time of Jehovah is basically whoever was
the fiercest, whoever was the fiercest or the person who's
considered to have a type of honor from before tribal honor, for
example. So the prophets of Allah who I use and when he sees biller
or the Allahu Anhu undergoes all of that persecution, which I don't
need to repeat.
He commands him and he instructs him to become dumb. What has been
the voice of the Muslims? I mean, essentially, the voice of the
Muslims, the Imam, the Imam is the one who leads the prayer. The
other one is the is the one who announces the prayer. More likely
the announcement of the prayer goes out further than even the
Imams recitation, because in communities around the world,
especially Muslim communities around the world, you'll hear that
Advan now one of the things that's related, at least from Omar, the
Allah one, if not from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that
if it wasn't for the fact that
the leaders like the Prophet sallahu wa meridian, would it be
would be busy dealing with the affairs of the state, the affairs
of people and the religious affairs, they would have also been
any mom, they would have also been given the reward of a more other
than the reward of the one who calls for the prayer is huge.
That's why I think it was Oh my God, Allah who actually said that
if it wasn't for the fact that I had to do everything else as well,
I would also be I would have also been the motivation. Because
anybody who does have done anything, anything that here's
that, here's that call to prayer, whether that be an animate being
or an inanimate objects. I know, I know, we're getting into a
different and pharmacy has got nothing to do with that. But
consciousness, you know, do silent objects have consciousness. That's
a new idea that it's not a new idea. People have been discussing
it in Islam, we believe that things have
a level of consciousness. That's why Allah subhanaw taala says in
the Quran, we're immune che in Illa u sub B Hobi, Hammurabi.
There is nothing except that it glorifies its Lord. Then Allah
says wala kin Latiff Kahuna does this, we have them, but you don't
comprehend the glorification.
Now, that's extremely difficult for people before our times to
have ever comprehended. But today with Smart Objects, you know, we
have smart gadgets, we have smart objects, and more and more and
more, they're trying to build AI, artificial intelligence into
things. So it doesn't seem as far fetched anymore as it used to be.
For example, when the Prophet sallallahu radiocentre went on his
ascension to from, from Makkah Makara Rama to Masjid Al Aqsa
Jerusalem in one night when it would have been impossible to have
traverse that distance in a few hours. At that time, it was
impossible. But the world has shown today it the world has shown
technology has shown how that's become possible. You can easily go
from Madina Munawwara it's only a you know, several 100
and miles from Madina Munawwara to Jerusalem, you can get there in a
few hours, right? It's probably a two hour flight or so that's been
shown, then the prophets, Allah Hassan went from there, up to the
seventh heaven and beyond to meet Allah. Now, that still seems quite
far fetched for a lot of people. Now, if somebody says to you, do
you believe that as Muslims?
Right? What answer would you give them?
Right? You just believe it, but doesn't make any sense. It's not
scientific, how does somebody go that way? Go though he didn't have
a spacesuit on. All right, at least to go up there. There's a
lot of pressures, there's a lot of
there's a lot of other energy out there, and you need to have be in
a space to to be able to withstand that. So how did he do that? So
that's where people start getting a bit confusing. But remember, the
one thing that's very important is that it's not your own my
responsibility to prove the details of that ascension journey.
Because that's not something that we can do right now. Right, that
we were not in responsible to prove that all we are responsible
to do, which is very easy to do nowadays, is to prove that it's
from the realm of possibilities, that it is a possible thing, it
can happen it's not an inconceivable idea. And today more
than ever before, this is become a this is become a possibility. Abu
Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu when he was told the prophets of Allah some
didn't tell him that I went on this ascension to the seven
heavens. It was actually one of the enemies of Islam. When he
heard it from the prophets, Allah Islam, he came to Abu Bakr, Radi
Allahu is his closest friend. And he said, Do you know what your
friend is saying? He's saying X, Y, and Zed. So he said immediately
if that's what he's saying, I believe that because I can believe
even beyond that. Now, that's clearly power of faith that he
would believe in the promise of law is something that is so at
that time, probably even inconceivable
today, people have gone to mosh pit, not people. But things have
gone well to the moon to other places, and to Mars, we've sent a
rover there. And it's just a matter of time, they seem to get
beyond that. So does it now become within the realm of possibilities?
Well, what about the spacesuits?
Well, the way things are moving nanotechnology and other things,
isn't there a possibility that you could probably have some kind of
resistance built into you or sprayed onto you or something like
that? Eventually, all of that now is within the realm of
possibilities. Another simple example the Almighty Allah Juan is
standing in the front, and he's giving a hoot where he is talking
to his companions. Suddenly, he says Surya, Surya, the mountain.
Now Saudi everybody knew was in battle, many 1000s of miles away
in Hora sun, you know, further or in Asia. And suddenly Omar on the
other end, speaking to him as though he's taken a call, right in
telling him watch it, you know, with a walkie talkie. Today for
us, it's so easy to understand that. But that time, it was
amazing. When Satya came back after some weeks or whatever it
was, they related to him that Omar or the Allah Juan was giving a
fatwa. And suddenly he started talking to you. He says, Yes, I
was there, my forces were there. And we didn't know that the
enemies were behind the mountain, and that we were going to be
attacked from there. So I suddenly heard a voice of Omar saying Saudi
Assad near the mountain. So it was very good that that happened,
otherwise we would have been attacked. So that story was
corroborated later. Sounds fantastic. Sounds sounds like a
fantasy. But today is that difficult. You think you could
have an earpiece on right today, we would actually probably need an
earpiece, right? But tomorrow, they you could just have a chip
built in where you speak and somebody else will be able you
could be you could be communicating with somebody else.
Can you see how things are becoming much more realistic, and
not difficult? I'm saying this because a lot of these things
actually create a lot of dilemma today, in the minds of people, to
me, turn them away from the faith and make the faith seem
fantastical. Right and strange. So
going back to the oven, this all came from the oven right? The
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave one of the highest
positions which is to become the oven to below the Allah one who
was an African slave. And he saw the talent in him. He saw the
ability in him he also knew that maybe he needed encouragement, he
needed to have a high position. And that's why the people used to
really respect bill out of the Allahu Anhu afterwards, to such a
degree when the Prophet SAW son passed away, beloved, the young
left Madina Munawwara and he went to Syria. He went to Sham he's
actually buried in Damascus. I've been to his grave. He is buried in
Damascus. He wouldn't come back one day it's there's a story
that's related that he saw the prophets on Wiseman his dream that
yeah, Bilal will Maha Jaffa What is this
changement from us, how come you've left us? How come you don't
come and he just went straight to Madina Munawwara. And when he got
to Madina Munawwara
people found out his there. And they knew that he's not going to
give the event because he would just remember the profit and loss
and too much it was just too difficult for him to give the Iran
but what they did was they told Hassan and Hussein or the on the
grandson children of the profit and loss him to request. And it
says that he gave them a van. And when he gave the van, the men, the
women just came out of the houses, because it was just a reminder of
how it was when the Prophet sallallahu lism had been around.
They connected that that was their connection back to the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Another example which I could never see happening here, right,
is the story of the province of Assam had a freed slave that he
made like His Son to such a degree that when the parents of that
particular individual, his name was Zaid, Zaid Ibrahim, Aretha,
when his parents came to take him back to wherever he was from, he
refused to go with me. He says, No, I want to stay with the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. That's how his
relationship had become with the birth now he had a son. His name
was Osama. Right. His name was Osama ignorance aid he was about
now his father Zayed had passed away he had been martyred in the
battle against the Romans in a place called muda muda which is
located in a place called character day in in Amman, in
Jordan. It's south of Ironman you need to dry for a few hours. It's
closer in the direction of the Dead Sea down south. It's
politically made a massive monster there were three companions that
died on that day holding the holding the standard of the
Muslims against the Romans.
So now it's it's the last year it's towards the last year of the
profits of the Lawson's life, the 10th year of migration.
The son of Zaid, really alone his name is Osama he's 17 years old.
And the prophets allah makes him the commander of the army against
the Romans. Right there was going to be maybe an impending attack
from the Romans in a particular area. So he makes him the, the,
the leader of the army. Now there are some much older, greater
warriors, right, that are part of that army, and they are all behind
him. Right? He is their commander. And there was criticism. Now
people criticize this fact that how is he made the leader? Right,
criticism is a human trait. They did it at the time of the province
that allows them as well, just like we do it here. Right? Just
like weed people do it now.
So the Prophet salallahu Islam heard about the criticism, and he
got extremely angry. There's a hadith in Sahih Muslim from
Abdullah Muhammad Ali, Allah Han, who says that the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wa sallam was on the pulpit, speaking to the
congregation. And he says that if you are criticizing his,
his command, his leadership,
meaning Osama Ignace aid who's 17 years old, you did the same with
his father. Right? You did the same with his father earlier on.
Now, what you have to understand here is that making somebody was
17 years old, imagine making him even the head of the committee in
a masjid I mean, forget committee in the masjid. Imagine just making
him a committee member.
Right. Imagine even become a committee member. I've had cases
in one particular Masjid committee, where most of the
the members are kind of my father's age about around 60. And
there's somebody my age who was going to perform a certain task
for them. And I heard some of them saying that he is not.
He's not old enough. He's 40 years he was 40 years old.
He has about two or three children.
And he also is an accountant in a law firm, and he's dealing with
millions of pounds a year, probably more than any of the guys
on the committee, but he is not theirs.
Do you see what I'm saying? With the Prophet? Salallahu Alaihe
Salam, he's the leader of the muslimeen he's putting a 17 year
old kid up there a 17 year old I mean, I mean, I don't you see if
somebody complains about a 17 year old people today, I don't blame
them because we're still trying to wean them off. Like games and
stuff like that, like get serious man you need you got a life ahead
of you. So I can completely understand where maybe people are
coming from right. But come on. Now. One is that you put somebody
up like that, you get criticism, right, you're criticized for it.
Some people may
BACtrack the prophets of Allah Assam did not backtrack. He
defended him. Right. He got up on the member and he started saying,
if you've done this, you know if you're doing this now to him, you
did the same to his father in the hula Holy Quran, he is definitely
worthy of leading you. He's definitely worthy of leading you.
Right? And what a Mullah he, by by Allah by Allah. He is He is one of
the most beloved people to me as well. Now, this is not this was
not favoritism, just because he's the most beloved person. I'm going
to put him up there. I just need to clarify that. He defended him.
He said he's the most beloved person to me, but he is also
worthy. After that, as this army was still on the borders, they
hadn't gone forth they hadn't set out yet. And the news that
probably Stella Lawson passed away. So later on, it went
afterwards in Abu Bakr Radi Allahu anhu, his leadership, he allowed
it to continue because there's no way he could make that change.
Now, that Prophet sallallahu Sallam had said that Osama would
be the leader. All right. So that is basically finding potential and
using that potential, supporting it, defending it. And regardless
of the age.
Number two, he always to show gratitude
to those who do something good for you, who do you a favor. That's
extremely important to do, to give thanks to those who show your
favor, because that's
an important human interaction. That only is beneficial because if
you do something for me, and I show you gratitude, you'd want to
do more for me. So there's a personal even a selfish motive in
that it's just ingratitude, arrogant not to do so. The Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not really need anybody's help,
Allah was sufficient for him. But Abu Bakr the Allahu anhu, assisted
him. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam remembered this, this is
just one example. He said that there is nobody who has done more
favor to me with life and property as Abu Bakr, the Allah one.
Because you know the stories, I don't want to repeat the stories
to you about Abu Bakr, then his sacrifice for the Prophet
sallallahu sallam. But the fact is that he is remembering that. And
he's somebody who's really up there, he doesn't have to remember
anybody, he doesn't have to thank anybody, especially if it's their
obligation, religious obligations to help him anyway. But he shows
that this is something beyond for example,
a question that could come into our minds, right, is that our
parents,
sometimes we get a bit upset about our parents, right? Sometimes it's
a normal thing it can happen. We don't always see eye to eye with
our parents, and sometimes we can be a bit upset about them. So
I don't know has this question come into anybody's mind? The only
reason my parents are doing anything for me, it's because it's
the human emotional
demand to do so. Or number two, it's their religious obligation to
do so. Because God has made it an obligation to them, or it's just
their emotion to do so. Otherwise, I don't. So then basically, what
we're doing is we're really taking out the whole favor aspect from
it. Because when you make something an obligation, he had to
do that, she was obliged to do that. You suddenly take out any
emotion, so you don't then have to show gratitude. Can you see what
I'm saying? Does that ever come into anybody's mind? Right? So
even if that's the case, right, if you're if has an obligation, you
had to help me, it's still as the professor was showing us to
actually show gratitude, because that's a human trait doesn't
matter why they're doing it. I've got an obligation, you've got a
different obligation. Your motive could be selfish. Your motive
could be however it wants. It's not that's not up to me. I've
received some payment from you. So let me thank you.
Let me thank you. So
these are I'm talking about the very subtle kinds of things
hopefully, hopefully, they're resonating the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, he's very intelligent. Right? Many things
that he's done, have all these have all come right so far. And
when you've done a few things, and you've had a few successes, we
start feeling more confidence. We build our confidence like that.
Those people who are have a lot of
who don't have enough confidence when they start something, and
then they get a success and then another success, they start
getting very confident. Now we have to be careful you don't
become overconfident. Because at the end of the day, we're human
beings and human beings have weaknesses. Right regardless,
right? So
The Prophet sallallahu so not only is he
not only is he having success after success, not only is he
commanding so much respect, not only are people you know, honoring
him to such a huge degree,
according to our religion Gibreel and Islam is coming to him the
angel is coming to Him God is speaking to him, Allah is speaking
to him. Why would I need to consult anybody else then?
Why would I need to ask anybody anything?
But Allah says in the Quran, we're Shiva we're home there's actually
a whole Surah whole chapter saying Well, shall we just sort of the
shura Shura means consultation. And the command there is worship
with whom Phil amor seek their counsel, seek their advice, seek
their opinion, right? With regards to the matter. Now, what's very
interesting is somebody does somebody's done a study on this.
And what they've shown is that every time the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam asked for
opinion of his companions, then he generally went with the majority
of that opinion, even if it went against his own opinion.
On one occasion, he had an opinion,
Abu Bakr, the Allahu Anhu had an opinion on one or the other had a
different opinion. And he went with his opinion, and Allah
subhanahu wa taala revealed in the Quran, follow the Kitab Amina
Allah has subaqua Noma circle.
Right? If it hadn't been a decree that's already been written, then
there would have been a punishment that could have come and afflicted
you. Because of the opinion you followed, you are supposed to
follow the other opinion.
Whenever he made, there was one battle where he asked, Should we
stay here? They're going to be attacked, right? They were going
to be attacked? Should we stay here and defend ourselves in the
city? Or should we go outside?
So one opinion was we stay inside? The other one was that we go
outside? Because the majority opinion was go outside even though
is it? Because the majority of opinion was a what was against his
opinion history when were their opinion?
So why would he do that? When he's divinely guided, he's getting
guidance from Allah, he can't do any wrong. Because even as a
leader, now we're not all leaders, but we're going to have some form
of responsibility, we're gonna have some form of responsibility,
whether that be just household responsibility at some level or
the other. Right, whether that be in a work environment, whether
that be in a class in brand, we're gonna have some responsibility,
even if you know, it's always a good idea to get the idea of
people. Right, just so you don't have to necessarily follow the
majority, though. That's a good idea sometimes. Right? As long as
you got decent people, I mean, when you've got loads of people,
right? Just anybody? I mean, you can tell what Brexit is done.
Right? So majority is not always right, you have to remember that
the majority is not always right. That's why one of the flaws of the
democracy is that it's prone to induct it's prone to,
it's prone to campaigning for the wrong thing, because people don't
have information. And people can be manipulated. Right? So that
doesn't mean anything majority is not always approved. But if you've
got a panel of experts, on a certain thing, majority there has
more weight, generally speaking, it's never going to be foolproof.
But it has more weight in that sense. But anyway,
he would generally ask his companions before making a
decision. In fact, not only his companions, he would even ask his
own family, of course, right? There's numerous occasions where
there was some tension outside, he would come home and he would ask
his wives, and one of his wives would give him an idea. And that
would be the best course of action. Because there's always
going to be people who you have to remember there's all these people
who are outside of our little pressure balloon that are going to
see things differently. And they can sometimes advise us because
we're too involved sometimes to be able to see it correctly. In fact,
not only that sometimes he even consulted with people about his
private affairs.
For example, the famous story which I don't want to repeat, when
Aisha Radi Allahu Anhu. His wife was
slandered for as slandered and accused of having committed sexual
* with somebody else, or having been with somebody else.
So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he asked the Sahaba
What should I do in this case because it was a really strange
issue because there are the hypocrites were the ones finding
the rumors, and it was a very difficult situation. He was
prophesized and was waiting for us.
Something from Allah. That's why Abu Huraira the Allahu Anhu said
that I've never seen anybody consult his companions more often
than the Messenger of Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam, I guess it
helps people to stay involved. So on that particular occasion Sahil
Bihari he said, oh people, give me your opinion regarding these
people who made a forged story against my wife, how should we
deal with them? What should be the response?
Of course, another thing that we could give you numerous examples
about is the His gentleness in his dealing, even with the, in fact,
one of the things that I've learned from that is, the more
silly somebody acted with him, if it was a personal issue, the more
silly somebody acted with him, the more weird somebody acted with
him, the calmer he became
me, I know that about me, if somebody acts silly, then I get
really angry. And if they're really silly, then I get very
angry, right? Because I don't mind somebody making a genuine mistake.
But if somebody is acting unfair, I get very get very upset, right?
But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam if it was something that
somebody had said about religion, a violation of religion, he got
very angry, because that wasn't his matter anymore. It was not a
personal issue. But when it was a personal issue, he just took it
really easy.
He took it as like somebody, in fact, there was a Jewish trader, a
Jewish person who had lent hymns had done a deal with him to be
paid at a certain time. He had to go and give him dates at a certain
time or something. The person came up about a few days before
to say where's my dates? Not only, uh, where's my where's my payment.
And not only did he say that, he added, he said, you know, you,
your family, they always delay in payment. You guys have a trend,
you guys have a trait of delaying payments, that he, he actually
wanted to make it personal. The reason is that he'd been told by
some of his religious advisors, that the next prophet is going to
have a very particular trait, some particular traits, two of them,
you've already seen. One of them was that anybody who's foolish
anybody who's foolish, the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him is
going to act extremely chemically with him very forbearing he wanted
to test that out. So he set up the scene.
So now when he started speaking like this, or model the alarm got
very angry. And he said, How dare you speak like that? So the
Prophet saw some said to Omar, ready Allah who are now you know,
when you're in trouble, and somebody comes in, defends you,
that could be the breath of fresh air for you. Imagine if you've got
three or four people, they all you saying something to you, and you
got nobody, and then suddenly somebody defends you? That is
like, the greatest sense of relief, isn't it? Like, wow, okay.
Yeah, you know, but he said to Omar, radi, Allahu, and he says, I
would have expected something other than that from you, you
should be advising me that I should pay in time on time. And
you should be advising him that he should be more patient and take it
easy. That's what you should be doing. Can you see what I'm
saying? Is that when the tension is there at its peak, when people
lose their minds? He's still balanced?
How do we learned that? At a moment of tension where you could
even be excused, we say, Oh, it was a moment of tension. When
people then say it makes stupid remarks, racist remarks or
whatever Islamophobic remarks, then what they do is like or anti
semitic remarks, generally. And then they come and say, Oh, it was
just one of those days the lads party you I was had a few more few
too much to drink as though that's an excuse. I drink and then you
can just do whatever you want type of thing. Right? But it's that
moment of stress. That a Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam still
gets it right.
That's amazing. We ask Allah that Allah make us allow us to do the
same thing.
The other one can you imagine? Your house? Your mosque? Somebody
comes and starts urinating inside.
Now you know that story right? I mean, a lot of people know this
story a better incomes and start urinating inside the mosque. Can
you imagine that happening today? What would they do?
That, you know, you could just imagine, now some companions
natural reaction. They did go to stop the person immediately
grabbed him said Leave him.
Leave him.
How do you have such control? Why do you leave him? Because it's
harmful to stop somebody midway? He's already messed it up. Let him
at least don't harm him now. Right. When I read that, I was
just like, wow, you know, that's just amazing.
That one demand is that the mosque is being polluted. The other
demand is that this the other pressure tension, whatever you
want to say is that this person
He's going to be harmed. Okay, we can wash the Masjid. But if he has
a bladder problem afterwards, that's going to be more
complicated.
Who would think about these things? So then after that, he
just said, Okay. And then he called the person and he said,
Look, you know, these mosques, they're not a place for this.
Therefore reading Quran and prayer and remembrance of Allah, they're
not for this kind of thing. Now, you might think that, you know,
the Masjid had a nice carpet and so on so forth. How could somebody
go and do that? They didn't have carpets in those days, right?
They, it was just probably pebble, right, it was just probably sand.
So that was just a natural piece of land that they did. I mean,
when I visited, when we visited Mauritania, we actually saw some
of this, right, where they would just build a structure around. I
remember in that one place we went to in there in LA in like, really
late at night. And it was just beautiful, just mounds of sand.
And the sheik had a building, then there's other tents and
everything, and it just built onto the sand, you're just sand
underneath, you just got a you know, like a little, some kind of
rug on there that you're sleeping on. It's quite, very natural, very
organic. Right? So that's what it was. So I can understand how this
could have happened. Otherwise, for somebody to come and do that
in our must, they must have a that must be a conspiracy. Like, why
would somebody else do that unless it's completely crazy.
Okay.
The prophets of Allah Islam used to use a lot of examples to
convince people. Again, that's another thing. For example,
there's a man from the blue fissara, the fissara tribe, he
came to the privacy laws, and he says that my chat, my wife has
given birth to a baby who's dark.
Right. And essentially, what he was trying to say is that I want
to disown that baby. I want to disarm the child.
Now, here we take go and do a DNA test, right? The Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wasallam said to him, that have you got camels? Do
you have camels? He said, Yes, I've got camels. What color are
they? He said red. Now, RED cameras are very expensive. In
those days, this guy had RED cameras. Are there any gray ones
among them?
So he said, Yes. There are some gray ones. Why is that? Do you
think why have you got some gray ones within your red cup? They're
all from one progeny. Basically, they're all from one.
One progeny. Why have you got gray ones within the red ones? Why? Why
do some cameras beget great cameras, even though the red said
perhaps it's
essentially says got an arrow kanessa Which basically means that
maybe this is a chromosome from one of the ancestors? Essentially,
he said and similarly, perhaps it's hereditary. So he said, if it
is hereditary, right? Then he says perhaps this is hereditary as
well. Why would you have to reject your child and say your wife
committed adultery, for example. And it was clearly it wasn't I
mean, there have been other cases when there were adultery cases. So
he did allow somebody to disown their child because that's clear.
That was a clear issue.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam even told jokes. In fact,
there's a hadith in the Shama. Shama Al is a wonderful collection
by Imam to maybe, of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam in
various different roles. So the Prophet said, was on what perfume
he used to use, how used to live, how to spend his night, how he
used to eat, and is one of the end how he used to live and interact.
And one of the Hadith say that the promise I was on was so amazing
that he would be so casual with us, though, he's our Prophet. But
when you sit down and talk about old days, he would sit and just
relax and talk about them. And he would speak to us in a very casual
way as well. He wasn't just somebody you had to like tiptoe
around. He could also be very casual. That's why there's the
famous story.
two instances, you've probably heard them. The Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, an older woman came to the Barber Salon and said,
I want to go to paradise. How do I get to Paradise and he said, All
women are not going to go to paradise. Now that's a blunt
statement. And she started crying, she started weeping like all men,
all women, not in paradise, what seven, said everybody's going to
be young when they go to paradise. So he was basically just telling
her you will go to Paradise, but you won't be old when you go
there. Because everybody is going to be about 30 to 33 years of age
in paradise, they will remain that age forever. Because that's the
peak age to enjoy and Paradise is about enjoyment. So you'll only be
about 30 something years old when that's where he's another guy came
to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and his particular
convenience means of conveyance was injured, so he needed to get
back home came to the Bronx. Awesome. Can you give me something
Can you give me an animal that I can ride back home?
He's probably Yeah, I'll give you the offspring of a she camel.
That made it sound like he's gonna give him a baby camera he says
what am I going to do with a baby? Come on I need to get home. I
can't ride a baby camel basically. So the rock is awesome said to him
like Angie thinking this was also isn't every camel, the offspring
of a she camel.
Right? It's exactly what it is inside. You know those committee
guys, they think that it doesn't matter how old you are, you're
still my son, you're still my daughter. You don't know anything
as though they were older when they started. Right. So the
process awesome is getting the person to think these are
permissible jokes. You just don't do crazy jokes, right? You don't
do crazy jokes, you know, get people to basically be in really
compromising situations and then you spread that on social media.
And then that becomes a major trauma for this person. That's
problematic. But a nice innocent true joke is actually appreciated,
in many cases.
Time management and giving everyone their due. That's what
that Hadees talks about. When he came home. He gave them their he
spent time at home. Right when he was outside. I just don't know how
he did it. He was the Imam. He was the leader of the Masjid. He was
the counselor. He was
the commander of the army. He was a he was a husband to nine wives
at once. People can't even deal with one they keep complaining.
All right. The he was a husband to nine wives. He had children though
all of them died young, right? Except Fatima. Radi Allahu anha
Well, the sons all died young the daughters died at a bit older at
older ages, because but he never had an grandson and no no
grandchildren except Hassan Hussein from Fatima, the Allah
one.
He fulfilled every responsibility very difficult, you will be
struggling. We just don't have enough time in the day. And he was
able to do that. The other thing is that I don't think he brought
stress home from outside. Can you imagine what he was dealing with
outside? He did not bring that stress home and just lash out at
everybody when he came home, and that's something we need to
understand because eventually you're going to be working
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I'm the Rila. So there's going to be stresses at work, you don't
come home and you don't bring that home basically and at home, it
needs to be another thing that's very difficult to be able to
balance and not carry your tensions on to others. And this is
the practice of Asana is very good for a just final point, another
moment of tension.
The Prophet saw some son whose name is Ibrahim for the Allah one
he passed away at a young age.
Now when your son and you know he's had a few sons before that,
who also passed away, and now Ibrahim or the Alon, he passes
away.
You'd feel very upset. And clearly the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam
shed a few tears. He did that when his grandson grandchild passed
away, shed a few tears. The Sahaba got a bit confused because he'd
been you know, in that time there was there was a trend,
a ritual, a custom that when somebody died in your family, you
would actually hire if you didn't have them in your family, you
would hire whalers. These were these women who would come and
they would basically tear up their hair, tear their garments, and
well, and that was seen as a good sending off. Even in some African
tribes. Now they actually have a like this whole merry,
it looks merry, but that's what they do. They beat drums and they
do other things and they dance and everything like that. It's just
people have different traditions. We said that's not a time for that
kind of stuff.
Right? So the prophets Allah was seen weeping. So that was really
something how can you tell us not to people not to well and so on,
but you are seeing weeping he says this is just compassion. This is
just mercy. This is emotion you're allowed to release that emotion.
But you can't go overboard. But at the same time, while he may have
done that, his there's a concept in Islam, which the bros awesome
had the highest level of which is called a robot bill.
Allah, satisfaction with the decree of Allah. That's a very
important concept, it's very difficult to get a good portion of
that, because it's a very difficult thing to do. Because
essentially, whatever happens to you
to then any, you know, even the worst thing that happens to you
think, well, Allah knows I leave it to him.
That's very tough, because we're going to, it's very difficult to
even think like that at that time. But the prophet saw some had the
highest level of that Rodarte Bill cover.
So
there was a, there was a scholar who had son passed away.
And he didn't he was he was seen smiling on that day.
He was seen smiling on that day. Somebody asked him, How are you
doing that? Now, obviously, this must have been a lot of effort to
have done this. He said, Well, I'm just satisfied by the decree of
Allah.
But was, is that the way to be satisfied? Can you not even shed a
few tears? There's two tensions here. One is that either emotion I
feel if you lose somebody, that's one emotion which wants you to cry
out. The other emotion is Don't sorry, the other demand of your
religion is that don't lose yourself. At the end of the day,
we're all going back to Allah. Don't lose yourself. How do you
reconcile the two? This particular scholar bit famous scholar that
I'm talking about? He did it by smiling. But I think that's
extreme. That's been shown to be because the Prophet salallahu
Alaihe Salam in the story I gave you. He wasn't smiling, he did
weep.
But his heart was connected to Allah that Okay, so there's the
human release of emotion, which is completely fine. But
intellectually, you know what you're doing, you can understand
why this may have happened. Even if you don't you know that at
least you trust in Allah, trust in God, and that you consign your
matters to him. So
I think I'm going to stop here. But that's what keeps me going
with the Prophet salallahu Salam, to learn about these things. And
to just hope that one day, I can just be even a part of this, I can
help so that I just be a better person. And I ask Allah for help
for all of us, that we can benefit from this light, that the progress
that awesome has left us in his his life. And we ask Allah to
facilitate and make it easy for us. And JazakAllah here for
sitting patiently. And we can now take some questions that you have.
Yeah, so the question, I mean, everybody can hear, right? That
the question is that? How did the process of law some react when
when the need arose to admonish somebody? How did the process the
law, some react, because obviously, every situation would
be different? Sometimes. So again,
what our brothers said is that sometimes, you know, you may need
to be paid, wise, and was other one patients, you said, Why isn't
patients are probably two totally different ideas. Anyway, he was
the professor awesomes. Entire action, I think, would be
characterized by by wisdom. And wisdom demands, that in certain
cases, you just tell somebody sternly, you just tell somebody
nicely. When we say nicely, it basically means somebody calmly,
and that's sufficient. That's enough for them to know that you
are just admonishing them. But there was an occasion where the
Prophet salallahu Salam said things in a much more stern way,
when he felt that, for example, in the case of Osama the Allah one,
he says, What is this that I see that people have been criticizing?
Right? That was a very direct way of saying, Don't do that. And then
of course, then the promise also, I'm told one person don't get
angry when he asked him for advice. So I think every situation
demands that there's a certain way that you react to it.
And one of the things which is very important that shows us in
the issue with the Bedouin, who came in urinate in the mosque. One
of the things which is actually highlighted by many scholars is
that you can't tell somebody off if they don't know that they had
to do something in a particular way or not. So a lot of the time,
we assume that just because I know that something is halal or haram,
or something has to be done in a particular way that they should
know as well. And I can tell them off, I can only tell them off
after I've given them the knowledge that that thing is
correct or not, or that they should do it this way or that way.
You see what I'm saying? So there's actually levels of this
that you have to look at and I think we have to learn from the
way we do it. So that the next time we just get better the point
that I think it's very clear
Some people, they just want to make a point in telling somebody
something, the focus is not that they change, or they think
magically will change the harsh or you can tell them. That's not a
good idea. Right? harshness doesn't always work at all, in
some cases is needed. But it doesn't work always. I think if
what I've,
what I've been trying to do is I'm thinking, how can I convince them?
What can I use that will convince because that's what I want. That's
my ulterior objective is that I convinced them. And to do that,
you may have to sometimes say the way it is brutally honest,
sometimes you may have to say it in a roundabout way, you may have
to use a euphemism. And sometimes you even have to give them a
turning off. It just depends.
And sometimes it's easier done with with strangers, because you
can be controlled with your own, for example, when you have
children, with your spouse, because you're so used to
some people, they think it's okay then to just be harsh all the
time. That's where you have to really worry about it.
Should we react to?
How should we react to parents now?
That's a difficult one, because it depends on where we are with
parents is the whole was the whole family, nonpracticing. And then
suddenly I became religious, you know, like one family member
becomes religious. Now he wants to change everybody overnight. Is it
a case of that, you're going to need a lot of patience. Remember,
it's very difficult to change somebody militarily, which means
basically doing military military armor Bill Maher, often Danila
Mancha, right, militarily commanding someone to do right, it
turns people off. So we have to thank Allah that Allah has given
us the guidance, and we have to make a lot of dua for them. And we
have to try to plant the seeds, and try to find the best way that
you think will affect them. And you have to have a lot of
patience, you have to have a huge amount of patience. Because the
more you keep pushing, the more they're gonna put up a resistance
is what human beings do. So the best policy there is just
patience. And slowly, slowly try to make changes. I've seen many
young men and women who became better practicing people, but
because of the positivity that they expressed, it may have taken
510 years. I know one guy whose father now goes and sits in
Attica, February, whereas 10 years ago, I would never have expected
him to do so. Because his son became righteous. And he bought a
positive change to the house, people saw that that religion must
do something when practice must do something for him. Because a lot
of people are not practicing because they're,
the culture wasn't from the practicing one. They're from a
clique of people who don't practice for them to come out of
that they're going to be really embarrassed, because their own
friends are going to say like, Hey, you just become very
religious. Now. You become this, they have names for them. That's
very difficult. They have to see
the reason the benefits for them to change, and if you're in that
position, we're in that position, we need to see the best way to do
that and make a lot of dua, and you'd be surprised.
Okay, a final question if there is one otherwise, I will retire for
the day.