Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Imam Sha’rani’s Code of Companionship Series Rights of a Muslim When Death Draws Near
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He's saying here that there's people who are embarrassed to say
to a sick person at his deathbed, to make a will resolve his
matters. And then the person dies. While he has people's rights do so
then he's punished punishable for that. And then among his
inheritors, there's a massive coral.
That thing happens, he says which in which there's no good, and then
the majority of the wealth goes to, he says the government to the
rulers. Today, I would say a lot in many of these cases. There are
big, big, wealthy, wealthy families who have lost 20 3040
maybe 50% or more of their wealth
to the lawyers on both sides.
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Al hamdu Lillahi wa salatu salam ala so you will mursaleen wider
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Illa Yomi. Dean Emeritus, in the last point that we covered last in
the last session was
shot on he was encouraging you saying that another rate of one
brother over the other is that he helped him in getting married.
Because marriage is half of your deen, as we know, marriage is
extremely important. And for many, many people, marriage is what
gives them that additional comfort in life that they so desire,
marriage is a very natural phenomenon. To have a person you
can be close to, and share your emotions with and just have
somebody that you can get together with each day. That is
relationship is that kind of emotion is generally fulfilled
through marriage. So very natural human emotion, a human
requirements a human need. And if we are able to help somebody do
that, if you help somebody buy a house, great reward, you help
somebody buy a car, that's a great reward, you help somebody come out
of some difficulty, it's a great reward. If you help somebody get
married, the benefits of that are never ending.
Because for the rest of their life, Inshallah, if the marriage
succeeds, then you reap the benefits of that, they get
children from that. So you keep reaping the benefits of that,
until the progeny continues. So there's huge benefits in helping
somebody get married. Huge benefits, a lot of the time
because of certain cultural reasons or cultural blowbacks.
Which what I mean by that is,
in all good faith,
genuine desire to see good, you recommended somebody,
to someone,
and something went wrong. You didn't know, you had no idea.
The two just couldn't get along together for whatever reason.
It wasn't done with any intent of mischief. What is it you know,
somebody is involved somewhere else, and you try to a lot of
parents do this, they when they find out their child is involved
in a haram relationships, they tried to go and make them sit down
on getting forced them into a halal relationship, thinking that
that's going to break the Haram relationship, and it doesn't spoil
the other person as well. But genuinely somebody tried. And then
it didn't work out. And what people will do is that they will
then blame you, or you're the one who brought this person to us,
you're the one who made this recommendation.
What that does is actually stops people from making
recommendations.
Because they think something might happen, I'd rather stay silent.
And that's wrong as well. So it's all bad luck, that stops all of
these kinds of common ways of assisting each other mutual
assistance.
He's going to deal with some of these things. Anyway. So that's
the benefit that you get in helping your brother get married.
It's the right of one brother over the other to do that. The next
point, the new point here is women have killed us we are the lucky
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if your friend your associate your companion, somebody you know,
become sick, your Muslim brother
become sick.
becomes ill then do not become heedless of visiting them.
Make sure that you visit them. Do not miss that out. That's the time
they really need you most. And that's the time when when you
Do something, it will count a lot. It will bring much more
satisfaction to visit somebody when they're sick than it does
probably when they're not sick, because it means a lot more that
time. So definitely a person should not be heedless about this,
especially when they're sick. And even at that time, the other thing
one person person should be very considerate about considerate
about is to serve them to fulfill their needs, because at that time
they in a more vulnerable situation. They may be in need of
some kind of shopping, some kind of purchase something like that,
or whatever the case may be. That's why he says, especially at
nighttime, because in the daytime, sometimes people feel better. At
nighttime. Generally, sicknesses get worse. It's just the nature of
sickness, nature of illness, you feel worse at night than you do in
the daytime, the darkness has something to do about it.
Unless a person is aware of Allah, they look for the night to pray,
to have intimacy with Allah subhanho wa taala. But the
majority of people they'll probably feel much more
enlightened in the daytime because the sun, it helps brightness
helps. Drudge weather brings about miserable kind of reaction in
people anyway. So especially la cmrp late especially if it's at
nighttime. That's the time when they really need your help most so
be prepared to help them and serve them at nighttime as well with
their needs. That's why it mentions in a hadith that he
relates here.
He says that in a hadith he mentioned in what Julian yaru do
marry Iran
boom Sian Ilhan Omar who sub sub Aruna Alpha Malak. Anybody who
visits a sick person at night in the evening, any person who visits
the sick, sick person in the evening with him go out along with
him. 70,000 angels that make a stick far for him that seek
forgiveness for him until the morning
and whoever goes and visits in the morning, then 70,000 Angels will
seek forgiveness come out and seek forgiveness for him until the
evening.
hadith is related by Imam Abu Tao from Allah the Allahu Anhu. And
there's others who narrated as well.
One thing he mentions after this though, he says Why am Buffy
reliably the Allah cooler in the Marine is the person who's
visiting the sick person, it is inappropriate for to stay behind
for eating to go and eat at their house as well. It says it mentions
in a hadith either either hydrocodone Tala Cola, Andrew
shake.
Anybody who visits a sick person, don't eat anything that had hadith
is related Muslims will fit those who model the Allah Juan, this
obviously just talks about a dislike. And it's understandable,
it's reasonable, that if the person is sick, for them to
prepare food for you, you know, you might say well, what's How
long does it take to eat? It's not about that. When you prepare food
for somebody, if it's as simple as just plunking something down in
front of you. And here it is not like that is it? It's not a shop
that has everything workers in place, and you just have to give
them a package or something like that. This preparation has to be
done, you have to get the right kind of plates, you have to lay
down something, you have to set it up, you have to make sure you have
I mean in our in the way we do it. It's not just about one dish, it
has to be a few things, you know, there's a lot of effort and
formality that goes behind it.
Now, it's not just a simple dish that you put in front of somebody.
Otherwise, you have this fear that people will make fun of you that
all they gave me was one dish of rice.
Or one dish of soup was a bowl of soup or something like that.
Generally people require all these other weird little things to you
know the kind of side marginalia, as we call it, right? To good to
go with it. So that's why all of that formality, you will be
forcing them into that formality. So just refuse to eat. However, if
it is a person, for example, you're very close to family
members, for example, you know, you've gone to your father's
house, he seek your son's house, and there's other people there who
can do all of that formality is completely fine. That is not a
hard and fast rule that you cannot eat. It's not haram, let's put it
that way. It's just disliked. It's discouraged spirit that it's
discouraged, because of the difficulty that it will entail the
person or his family, but if it's not, and they find with it, and
they insist that you eat and they will actually feel bad. If you
don't then take it as an offense, then in that case, it'd be
probably better to eat with them. So again, it just you just have to
play it according to the situation. In fact, it says that
generally. If a person understands the R dub of visiting the Sunnah
Adama visiting, they'd have no time to eat. The Sunnah other
visiting the Sikh is purely there to make the person
feel good, you go in you do that you don't sit around. And that's
all you do. And then you leave. It's just about making them feel
good, making them feel cared for somebody cares for you. And then
you leave. There's no time to sit around and make the host or make
their family feel obliged that it must offer you something. Because
generally, people don't immediately bring in food or
something to eat. They wait for a while, and then they bring it
just on a side point, sometimes you go to visit somebody, and you
want to visit five people. That day, that's your visiting very,
because people are very restricted in their terms of their time so
that you want to visit five different families. When you go,
they they don't they want you to stay there for two hours. They say
like, Why did you come for half an hour? I shouldn't have come at
all. I said, Okay, fine, I won't come them.
You know, generally what I say is, you know, I thank Allah that I've
even been able to come for half an hour, I need to leave. So what
they do is they don't they just sit and talk to you for half an
hour, right? And then after you say I need to leave the cell but
you haven't had anything then go into the kitchen, spend another 45
minutes I'm bringing you something.
So
I know that the best visits that I have are people who are mashallah
understand your situation. They suss it out right from the
beginning.
And there's certain aroma that you visit who are like this is what
they completely understand. They will ask you How long do you have.
And based on that they will do everything that that's that's the
best kind of host hospitality, the right has to be done according to
the comfort of the guest. So don't insist on things that will
unnecessarily inconvenience them. Visiting should be made easy,
especially in this time and age when visiting somebody is so
difficult. So if it does happen, then make it a good experience.
Make it easy.
And that's why as a host should try to understand how much time
these people have and don't insist on beyond that. Because the person
genuinely may not have time and you may discourage them in the
future.
So these are all different things, but there's no hard and fast rule
to any of this. It just has to be done according to what is best at
that point.
While keeping the main other in consideration, the next point he
brings, we're talking about somebody visiting the sick. So
with that he's got another point he says women hacking Aki Aki and
Yoshida who ill will see here is a hydrological wizards, whether it
whether it whether it be higher, Toby EV Dalek, well far either to
Fidelity Kumar Aluma, you can tell the Allama Shalini must have been
consulted by many, many different people, he must have gone and
dealt with numerous situations, cultural problems, social
problems, and thus all of that he's is what enriches this book of
his. So he says that another write of one brother over the other is
that he should encourage him guide him to write a will. If he is
about today, or if he is in his final days, then you should
encourage him to write a will
is a very difficult thing to do. Because encouraging somebody to
write a will gives a signal that you expect them to die.
And that seems to be contrary to what people think you should be
doing at the time, you should be giving people hope. You shouldn't
be expressing the idea that they die, I find it very difficult to
respond to those kinds of questions. You get questions for
dua, you get requests for dua, you know,
on by email or something. My grandmother is in hospital, the
doctors have said this, that and the other, you know, they'll make
it totally extreme and it probably is an extreme says you can you
make dua for her recovery.
And you make dua for the recovery but my daughter generally is a May
Allah give her ease. May Allah give her ease? May Allah give her
recovery, may Allah give her ease. Because sometimes there's people
who fight.
There's a person who's who's who's
has many problems, may organs have failed. And the doctors have said,
there's not really much of a chance.
But what the hospital can do, a lot of the time they can intervene
by just keeping the heart pumping, or the brain alive somehow.
But the life is going generally going to be a miserable one
because it has been for the last five years or seven years.
They've just been in constant pain.
But people think it's their it's their religious religious
obligation to do everything to force the hospital and the doctors
to keep the machines on. And that's not the case. That's
artificial.
then the three that's artificial. The only thing in Sharia that you
cannot do is to deprive somebody of basic nutrients. That means
food and water. That's something you cannot stop. But as long as
they're getting that, however, they're getting that, whether
through a drip or any other system, medication therapy,
artificial intervention of that nature is not necessary, and that
person should not feel guilty. Yes, if there's a likelihood and a
chance, then yes, do it. But if there's, if the doctors are
telling you, it doesn't seem likely, and you're just hoping for
a miracle,
then sometimes it's better that you let the person to Allah
subhanaw taala, if he wants to give him recovery can give it to
him without intervention.
So it just in that situation, it becomes very difficult for some
people. So there's a lot of conflicting emotions at that time.
So one of the conflicting emotions is the cultural reason for just
giving somebody hope, not speaking about death,
not speaking about death whatsoever.
So what should you do? Well, there's a religious obligation
here that this person or rather, religious obligation is a
religious recommendation here that a person should write a will,
especially in this country, it's very important
in Muslim countries, or in countries where they will just go
and distribute the wealth according to the Islamic shares.
Then there's, it's Mr. Hub, in that case, it's it's just a
recommendation in that case, to write a will, because it's going
to be dealt with properly anyway. But in this country, it's more of
an obligation. Because generally, what happens is that the court
will not distributed according to Sharia, they will distribute
according to half goes to the remaining surviving partner first.
And then after that, it goes in
equal shares to the children.
And then there's 40%, that goes to the government, inheritance tax,
big, oppressive tax that is very oppressive 40%. The reason why
it's oppressive, I say that is oppressive is because in London,
if your house is worth a million pounds, for example, then how do
and there's one surviving partner? How do you sell the house to pay
the 40? How do you pay 400,000?
How would you pay 400? That? Well, obviously, I mean, it's there's,
there's a relief because of the surviving partner and so on. But
for some people who's got two houses, maybe your addition
commercial property or something like that, you'd have to sell it
to pay 40%. Of that means sometimes the house is sold as
well, to pay it off. So are you really better off with a high
price with an elevated price of your home?
You're not really going to sell your home and go anywhere? So
what's the point of a high price?
You know, for most people, my house is worth a million pounds,
they say, What are you going to do with it?
You still living in the house, you don't want to move out of the
city? So what are you going to do with that house.
So these are just all dunya
these are just various Doonesbury deceptions that we're dealing
with. So in this case, the natural cultural reaction would be don't
say anything. Whereas the Dini recommendation is that writer will
do something.
Although in this country writing well, at the last moment, you
can't save yourself from inheritance tax. Seven years have
to pass before that, for you to get that relief. Anyway. And I'm
not a lawyer. I'm not I'm not a I'm not, you know, this is not the
point here. But these are things that you need to look at. The main
thing for a deceased person is he should be encouraged to do
something that to try to do something that will prevent any
kind of quarreling after he dies.
In terms of what he leaves for his family members, that is what the
most important thing is, resolve your issues. Don't die leaving a
fire raging behind you.
Sometimes that's not possible.
There's a case that I was dealing with in which a mother is trying
to leave the equal shares for her children before she passes away so
that there is no problem after it. But they are creating a problem
while she's still alive and disagreeing, refusing to accept
what she is giving them because they think or at least one or two
think they will get more. If she dies without distribution.
And her life is miserable literally. They're not even
letting her die in peace just because of the world.
So she has this situation
Going where she wants to die leaving it in peace. But in trying
to distribute it beforehand, it's causing her great agony and great
misery.
So this is these are just weird things that you work in this world
that happened in this world. Allah help us all, Allah help us all. So
in this case, don't worry about what social says encourage them,
maybe don't do it in public, but encourage them, make them do
toboe. That's another thing. Tell them to repent. Tell them to maybe
seek forgiveness from others. At the end of the day, if they do
die,
they will thank you in another life, they will probably thank
you. Because if they have sought forgiveness for excesses they've
committed from of people, family members and others, maybe
outstanding debts or outstanding other rights, whatever it may have
been, or maybe solving the issue of the family and the inheritance.
They will thank you and everybody else, maybe other people will
thank you as well. And at the end of the day, you do it for the sake
of Allah subhanaw taala it's your right for this brother to do this.
It's your rights, Allah will reward you even if others do not
appreciate it.
Of course, just do it in a way that will mitigate the hands if
there's any harms perceived. Imam Sharon, he says something very
interesting, which totally applies to today, he says, is to hear
aplomb in Coaly him little Marie the OC fermata wha hoo, cuckoo
Nursey. Ali will walk I've been a water 30 murder, how you Rafi was
the hubba exoteric material, a little hook army
is saying here that there's people who are embarrassed to say to a
sick person at his deathbed, to make a will resolve his matters.
And then the person dies. While he has people's rights do so then
he's punished punishable for that. And then among his inheritors,
there's a massive quarrel.
That thing happens, he says which in which there's no good. And then
the majority of the wealth goes to he says the government to the
rulers. Today, I would say a lot of in many of these cases, there
are big, big, wealthy, wealthy families who have lost 20 3040,
maybe 50% or more of their wealth
to the lawyers on both sides.
So you've got this very wealthy family, huge assets.
I haven't seen it as much in this country yet, because we're still
not there yet. But it's happening. It's starting to happen. Talking
about other countries, where three generations of for generations,
five generations, wealthy wealthy people, and minimum 2030 to 4050,
maybe even more of the wealth of that family has been lost
to lawyers on both sides. So the families kind of split in half.
Well, sometimes it's five people on this side, and the rest of the
whole tribe on this side. And huge amounts of money are made by
lawyers in between.
If they could have just thought, Look, this is gonna take five
years. This is what mustards do as well sometimes when committees
fight with each other, they spend 60 70,000 in each site, Masjid
money sometimes, and they don't get anything out of it.
This Masjid I think, is a good example of that. Or a bad example.
So
alhamdulillah the stability now?
hamdulillah I'm not stroking any politics here, okay. I was just
mentioning it as a reality so other people can benefit
inshallah.
It's not worth it. You'd rather think look, I'm going to do this,
how much money we think we're gonna waste in the next five years
doing this. The agony, the grief, the problem, the expenses. Come
on, let's just, let's just split that in half. Or you take that
much, I'm going to spend that much anyway, you take that which caught
us just do it.
With the chef here with the money in when he first started working
in Karachi. He was among other people, he was with some other
people and they had bought a place to establish a mother to serve
something. And in one of the initial meetings, there's an
Quarrel came up about whatever. So move the chef is
mostly turkeys father, Rahim Allah.
He decided to just walk away, says, If this is what it's going
to create, my whole purpose of this is to do it for the sake of
Allah. But if this is the kind of quality it's going to create, I
want nothing of it. He was one of the main people in that project
who had secured this location and put a lot of effort behind it. He
walked away from it. A lot of people said, What are you doing?
But he said, No, there's no sadness that there's no pleasure
of Allah subhanaw taala in this, he walked away, just within a
year. He had the whole of Quran Gedolim Karachi that whole entire
A state, Allah subhanaw taala gave me something better,
initially started off somewhere else apparently.
So to walk away from a quarrel,
the Prophet sallallahu sallam said anybody who walks away from a
quarrel, and avoids it.
If he's wrong,
he should walk away anyway, he's wrong anyway. But still, because
it's such a heated moment and emotions get the better of you the
promises and provides an incentive here, that even if you're wrong,
and you walk away from it, you still get a place in Jannah.
Not in the highest levels of gender, but you get a place in
gender for that you get a special place in gender for that. And if
you are right, and you walk away from it, which is even more
difficult to do.
Because then the first case you have, you should or you shouldn't
be doing it in the first place. But still to give you an
incentive, and it also is taking people's emotions in mind, because
this is a very heated emotions, especially when you have to defend
yourself.
But if you are right, and you still walk away from it, you get a
house in the highest levels of gender. And this is what women
want more efficiently. So I've had in mind, so he walked away from
that he got that place in Jannah, the high level agenda, and then
the next within the next year, he also got the whole plot of land as
well.
So he walked away with both a plot of land in this world, a high plot
of land in this world, and when in the in the era as well. It didn't,
you had he had to have done this on trust, you didn't know that you
were going to get something next year, did you? It was purely for
the wanting gender, but Allah also gave a reflection of in this
world.
That's the kind of thought process that needs to be in our mind.
Then things will work out. May Allah give us that Sophie.
Then the next point he mentions, again, on the same theme theme
that somebody is sick. Well, I mean, how can I use here are in
the WHO Illa Saba, is that correct? The highlighting of the
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water here behind happy?
Now you are seeing that these may be final moments. Now one thing
you must remember that if somebody becomes extremely ill, and they
seem to be, it seems to indicate the last moments, then they
suddenly seem to get better.
That's a very deceptive moment. It happens to many, many people, they
seem to get it they get this kind of new lease of life for a few
hours or a few days. And then it goes again.
Death is a very strange thing. And a person who's entered state and
state, it's very difficult to understand such a person we can
only understand it from the experiences of what we seen. For
example, one person that I know whose mother was in, who was from
Madina, Munawwara origin, he was in America but his parents were in
Madina, Munawwara his mother was sick. And they took her to did
that despite her protest to a hospital, because in Medina, the
hospital wasn't that great. So and she just wanted to get back.
Finally, when the doctors released and they were on the way back, she
kept asking, are we in Medina? Are we in Medina? Are we in Madina?
Munawwara. And they've kept saying, no, no, no, it's about a
four or five hour car drive, when they finally got into the limits
of Medina one hour? And she said, they told her yes, that's when she
dies.
Now, how does a person do that? Allah knows best. So very, very
particular, very peculiar experience.
My mother Rahim, Allah when she was in hospital, bed cancer had
really
spread everywhere. And she was in hospital, but she was very
uncommon. And then she just started saying one thing, take me
home, take me home, take me home, just telling my brother this. And
then she tells me this. And,
you know, we were hoping they could do something in hospital.
That's why the whole conflict in you know, the whole emotional
conflict going on here, that she's saying that, but we think it's
better for her to be lost. No, because they think they can do
better for her. Finally, this was very peculiar, that she will say,
Take me home, take me home. And finally we said, Okay, how does
you notice? So we managed to get a release to go home. And that's it.
After that she didn't speak. And the next day she passed away. So
she just wanted to die at home.
And Allah gave her that. So how do they do that? Like, how do people
do this? At that deaf time?
It's a very interesting, kind of, we can only know if we experienced
it, but then you can't experience it because you'd have to die after
it. And people at that state don't generally
write books or you know, mention the experiences
It's a kind of a very strange moment. And a person who is with
Allah subhanaw taala.
So anyway, he says that when you see that final moment, then it is
a right to have one brother over the other, that you should spend
the night with them until the morning.
You see that final moment, especially if you think they're in
that's it, their state is finally going to end in death. Because
it's very possible that the death may be written at night. And it
would be them very good that you that they depart from this world
with you by their side,
having fulfilled in a state of fulfilling his right
you can't do this for everybody. And you can't do this in hospital
nowadays all the time. You know, they only want two people when a
Muslim especially when an Asian Muslim is in hospital to get like
50 people coming to visit the whole condom comes and the nurses
get really perturbed because with everybody else it just might get
one visitor if they're lucky. And with Indian Pakistani people,
Mashallah. The whole they're gonna stand God down there.
hamdulillah
but you can't do this with everybody. But this is obviously
the closer you are then it's possible and you can't have
everybody sleeping in the room Kenya. Right was staying with
them. But this refers to somebody who you're very close to.
Well, I mean, how can I ask you I'll ask you a yes doctor who is
into Sabah Isla de Mina Kerbin Olivia O'Meara. This is a very
kind of peculiar thing. I don't know how much of that we deal with
here. But I guess people do
you saying another right of one brother over the other is that you
should
believe Him and accept. If your friend if this brother of yours
attributes himself to some great luminary of the past, some great
individual of the past like some big video of Allah, or some big
island, or some Emir or some leader of the of the past.
My father, my great great grandfather, pre ancestor was this
big
would you call it so and so in the Avant, you know, Army or something
like that? Whatever it is.
You know, there's a lot of people they claim to be Farooqi,
descendants of armor Farakka, the yellow one, Siddiqui, obika,
civica, the allowance
what's the other one Alwi. Either way, they become LV with a V,
there's no v in order to there's no v in Arabic, but they become
Elvis. When we get the V from either we see the world Wow, they
become Eloise. And then what's the other one? With my knees?
And of course, say it's shorter.
And there's many, many other families.
In the Arabs, you have the sons and the sons and these other
famous families. So any if somebody claims to be from Alaska,
that's his problem.
I mean, you don't have to give him anything for it. But just don't
deny it either.
Right, don't deny it either. Leave it where he needed to be
mentioned, that if your brother attributes himself to any great
luminary of the past, then be aware of trying to discredit that
attribution, even if it even if you discredit it in yourself,
because then what you're doing is if there is a reality to it, you
are entering between that and trying to sever it. And in Islam,
ancestory
genealogy, right, is very important. That's why marriage is
so important. And that's why things have to be harder and so on
to get that from.
If you come in between that then you are disrupting the system.
In fact, he says under Dynafit and he says, What are the Dynafit
unsavoury Khufu discrediting or trying to question genealogy and a
person's connections in that is, is a form of disbelief. I'm not
sure where he gets that from because he doesn't mention it's in
a hadith says it's been related. Allah subhanaw taala knows best
way, however, to say to somebody that you are not such when they
are such is a major sin. That much has proven how is it a major sin?
It's a major sin because you're accusing them of something they're
not an accurate accusation of to somebody, accusation of somebody
or what they're not. You're accusing them and saying, You're
not this whereas they are that that's a major sin, a false
accusation. The next point he brings up
is women happy Lucky. Lucky Allah
You can figure out who he is and then what you're gonna want to
learn so B is a tougher killer to wallow in as a young Phil calm
whereas automatically to Jimmy and alpha ability you can Furby *
in some would call a shapeless I'm a Sookie a moron her ill akanu
Murphy and Baba and insulin and no ha they don't even know. Let's
actually Ali Islam, Luffy hayati, wala, Marathi. And this is another
right of one brother over the other
is that you do not make tech field,
you do not charge them with disbelief for any sin that they
commit. Even if people begin to believe that the person has
committed it.
You do not charge it unless there's a proof that they've done
an act of disbelief.
Why? He says, clearly, people are not very scrupulous these days in
what they say. So be very careful when somebody says something.
They've said something and you've charged him with disbelief, they
may have made a mistake. In the stand, they may have made a
mistake.
And it's very difficult, he says, to know exactly what kind of
expressions statements and words
become a word of disbelief. People, especially some people who
have a lot of harshness in them would like to give fatwas and
they're not qualified.
He you know, who goes on during the career of others. If you if
you check online,
most of those who are doing the career of others are not scholars.
Some unfortunately are or they claim to be learner people, but
most are not. They're just people who kind of are really hyped up
about some movement. That is a very touchy feely style movement.
They've got shit that in them, generally, these people, you'll
see by their nature, they are extremists, just by their nature.
It just happens that they are in this particular group. If they
were another group, they'd be extremists. In another sense, they
are generally also people who came from a very bad background. And
another extreme is background of taking drugs and all of these
kinds of things. And now they found this, they take it to
another extreme, they just have extreme mentality, their site,
their whole psychology, and their approach to the world is an
extremist one. A lot of them, I can't speak to everybody, but a
lot of them are like this, they just extreme nature. So they just
happen to be extreme nation, in this case, as well.
So a lot of the expression of extremism that you see out there
is based on a person's extreme nature and his fitrah rather than
he's just using whatever it is the ideology or the group or whatever.
He's just using that as an excuse to justify his extreme nature and
to give that to his extremism. That's essentially what it is. So
he's saying, Look, how can you do the fear of somebody you have to
give them the better you don't even know what makes the Korean
and what doesn't.
But you see what these people will say that no, this that's just a
senior turn, or this guy is there's a person Subhanallah, he,
I noticed that he doesn't make salaam to me, I see somebody who
can stay silent.
And then after that, I realized one day, he came and asked me
about my Arpita, about where Allah is.
And then I had a big discussion with him and everything like that.
And the problem with some of his work on this point, I don't like
to quote the name of the groups generally. But this is a very kind
of self extreme set of eating, I'm hungry, a lot of selfies have
calmed down a lot. But there's still some, especially the new
converse, they're the worst. Sometimes. They've got the ship
there with them anyway. So they've got the extremism in them anyway.
So they're just using in this case. So the problem with selfies
that you cannot argue with them.
Because they just feel they just see the world in one particular
way. They're not appreciative of the other opinion or you want to
listen to it. They just think everything else is wrong. It's
just a very bad ideology to be in because your world becomes very
dark. Your world become very restricted, despite despite it's a
bite of vastness, the Dean becomes
a liability despite the merciful nature of it. That's what happens
in people who are that's why a lot of them dry out eventually, and
just lose it.
So, after a long discussion, I realize I'm not getting anywhere.
So he says, No, I understand. I can't pray behind you. By that
time I'd left him on but anyway, I'd left being the Imam. I said,
you got a problem because you're both massages close to you. Both
Imams believe in the same ideology that I have. So then he knew he's
cornered, he says, but I haven't heard them myself. So I can't you
know, I'm still gonna pray there. Allahu Akbar. Well, good for him.
At least he's praying. But I know that he still does not make salaam
to me. He just comes with the space and just walks past. Allah
help and assist
Instead of us, Allah help and assist all of us.
I was just trying to tell him, just open your mind to understand
the other opinion. That's it. Just open your mind to just understand
where the other people are coming from. You don't have to agree with
it. But at least you will find in yourself the ability to understand
why they think that way. So that at least the harshness that you
feel towards them will be diminished. And at least there
will be unity that will be created in the Muslim community. Because
this is what creates the most disunity. That's why our
Mujahideen these countries cannot do anything because of this
disunity. Afghanistan got messed up that way, Syria is getting
messed up in the same way. It's the disunity that's creating them.
This that really attitude. This not appreciate you don't have to
agree with what somebody else's, but just listen to why they saying
what they say. That's the important thing.
You know, like there's many cases where I'm convinced that I'm
right. But you have to listen, and Subhanallah there have been many
cases where you start to understand why somebody else is
doing. And you sometimes understand that they've got a bit
of truth to what they're saying, and you enrich yourself better.
And that is very important. So nobody's telling you change your
opinion, but at least appreciate. At least the venom will come out.
At least you will no longer will be a venomous snake. So at least
let's detoxify the situation. We can still get along. continue
praying the way you do no problem. But at least we can detoxify the
situation. So then he says that shekel Islam is Sookie one of the
great he was the sheikh with some of his time, Great Scott is him
and his son,
some great scholars at that time. So she called her son Sookie.
He says that the Creed is Amarone Hmm, it's a very dangerous thing
to do. Very dangerous. He says, what's the minimum effective? The
key rule? What is the minimum effective it the minimum effect is
you are essentially saying to somebody who you think is gotten?
I mean, you know, a lot of people who think they should do the
clear, they think they should do it as a responsibility. Shut the
responsibility, think they need to do it.
Now, what are they doing? Essentially, they are saying
essentially, see, when you say you're a cafe, it doesn't seem to
be a big deal because it's become so cheap. What does it mean? If I
call somebody a gutter? What am I saying about them? I am saying
that you are going to be in * forever. I'm saying you are in
* forever. You should not be treated as a believer in this
world or in the Hereafter. That's essentially what it means to do
the fear of somebody. Now, doesn't that become a bit more serious?
What is calling somebody covered? Big deal. And I don't think I
mean, those words even mean anything today the way people use
them. But when you say to somebody, you're going to be in
* forever. And you are not to be treated as a Muslim in this
world. And the next now things started becoming a bit more
serious. When you say caffeine, you're used to people who you
think are caffeine, you know, for the people in this mindset. He's
used to people, Garfield's praying with them, because he thinks the
rest of the guys in the masjid aka fear, right? There's some people
like this, believe me, or at least he thinks they may be covered. He
doesn't hurt them. It's a very bad situation. There's two extremists
we've got. We've got some extremists who go to Mecca Makara.
Madina Munawwara. And do not pray behind the Imams there or have a
doubt in their prayer behind the Imams, they because they are ultra
selfies. Well, because the Imams are selfies and because these
people on the other side, so they have a miserable time in Madina
Munawwara como karma. And there's another group of people who are I
don't know which ones worse really, because there's another
group of people who cannot pray in the majority of mosques around the
country, because they're not
there Salafi mosques or whatever was there, you know, whatever
other ideologies there are. Which one's worse, the one who goes to
Makkah Makara Madina, Munawwara, and feels out of water Fiza is my
prayer really valid or not, you know, praying behind the Imams
day? Or is it the one who has a problem praying in the majority of
mosques in America or UK or India or Pakistan or anywhere in the
world, for that matter anywhere in the world, for that matter?
Which one's worse? That's the other.
That's punishment for your extremism, that you don't feel
comfortable. And that's not that's not how Islam is supposed to be.
Because if you think that the majority of people are corrupt,
Garfield corrupt, you know, you are the most corrupt of them.
That's what the prophets of Allah Islam said. You say people are
fasted and corrupt and you're the most corrupt of them.
What what are you why are you so special that you've got the truth?
And nobody else the majority doesn't? You got the truth.
How'd you get it? And the majority didn't get it? Is that Allah's
Rama on the OMA? Allah loves this OMA you think he's gonna get the
majority of the be Garfield's and Deviance the way you say there?
And how did you get chosen?
You just became Muslim got caught up in the wrong group, and they
brainwashed you this way and gave you an exclusive this mentality.
That's what it is that's the reality of it. Again, I'm not
saying you need to, you know you need to change your opinion but at
least appreciate the other person's opinion and tolerate it.
And finally, under the key issue, the profit center, Larson said
there's a hadith sahih, Hadith, Macaulay de vaca
Houma when you call somebody, a calf, each one of you is going to
have to take ownership of that name of that title of that coffee.
So if the person you're calling a caffeine is a caffeine according
to Allah, then you're fine. It's like imagine that you've said, You
are coughing, these words, they become like a bird or something,
and they go towards that individual. If he is a cough, and
they find their place colors finish, you're out of it, they are
covering, if that person is not a golfer, according to Allah, then
those words come back, they go left, right, trying to find the
place to settle. And if they don't find any coffee has to settle on
meaning the one you direct it to it, come back comes back to you.
Now you may not be a golfer, but you get the sin of gopher because
of that.
That's why it's very dangerous. So I'd rather err on the side of
caution. A
lot of people use this, you know that they say to that, but why are
you so
restraint in giving these? You know, why are you being so
cautious about it for it, it's better to be cautious, to be
honest.
The next point, he says is Elia data who either work or FEMA I am
believe that if something unbecoming is done by your friend,
somebody does something that is not completely decent, whether it
be a major sin or a half sin or whatever it may be, then do not
hate him as a person for that do not hate him as a human as an
insert. Because as an incident as a human, he has great potential to
change and so on. Hate his act, essentially, that's what he's
going to discuss in this one. It says in color, we say the ideal
house Rahima hula, one of the sheiks ideal house, his main
shape, he says that he used to say, either were too gnarly for
Ironman or Morana. And how could the other the other with the other
sialorrhea
Our antagonism towards the one who the shady Sharia has told us to be
antagonists antagonist towards is a religious requirements.
We read that before, to hate somebody for the sake of Allah.
Right? So our antagonism towards who Allah has told us to be
antagonists towards that's a short requirement
and our antagonism towards the person themselves as a human being
committing that sin that they're committing. That is a natural
demand. Most people will conflate the religious requirement of
hating the act that a person does to hating the person themselves.
Because this is how we naturally fare. We just want to lump the
whole thing with the sin.
And then he says,
why what was sad to be sure, elf it probably a year fortune.
And the right way, is in fulfilling the Sharia in just
hating the act, not in fulfilling your emotions, not in following
your emotions of also wanting to hate the person. Right? There's a
very fine kind of, I hope you understand, well, highly fantasy.
But both of whom did that even semi or unwilling to work out a
female haram says most people, their tendency is to start hating
the person who they hear has fallen into some kind of unlawful
act. They start hating the person themselves as opposed to just the
act. Most people do not make this distinction. Now, how many of us
think when somebody does something wrong, that that is act that he
could become a better person? We don't think that we we should
start be we should be that discriminating. We should start
thinking that in such a refined way. Then he says
he's talking about the nature of people he says that if people hear
that somebody has spoken about them bad, they've said something
and not very nice about them.
People exaggerate in the hatred so much that they find them Johanna
Allah who fathered an undertaker. They'll even start hating his
show.
children forget him say you know, not him only. If somebody if you
hear that somebody spoken bad about you start hating his
children's well.
Maybe we are totally unprofessional in that in that
regard
we're lucky Runa Hoosier that Ananda then then they will.
They will disdain him. And what Obama is I'm about to do that
other woman who will see when a party he law who people will think
that they are justified to disdain him as well and will harbor and
will and Amina Janel, Molly the court or Abdon, eternal being
accouter Allah.
This statement is a very heavy statement. It takes a lot to
understand it and appreciate it. He's Subhan Allah is saying,
it is lost on many people, that it is absolute ignorance ignorance to
disdain somebody who Allah is taking care of, and who Allah
brought out of, out of non existence into being
that is extremely deep.
He is saying
it is absolute ignorance that you don't recognize
that it is insane. It is absolute ignorance that you start
disdaining somebody who Allah is taking care of his allowing to
live in this world. Allah created this person brought him out of
nothing into being and you are disdaining that be?
That seems extreme.
Like what kind of Rama did Sharon you have to? Well, it was actually
a shave earlier for us who said this. But you know, when
you receive when you learn this type of mercy towards others,
that's when your life becomes easier in this world. Because then
you have most people approach to people. And those people will be
the most successful because they will be led by their compassion.
Now, that's what we need to do when we hear something bad about
somebody make a separation between the individual and the problem.
Factoria Hakim in 30 he says oh brother. Beware of this in the
Hapa Tala America and Dr. Adam in Colombia. Be very careful about
this because Allah subhanaw taala did not command you to disdain and
humiliate anyone of his creation when America and don't get a
father who are Mohali fatally shot at law, the only thing Allah told
you tell you is to oppose the bad act and the sin that he is
committing nothing more than that.
For that model, I'll see what and how so go ahead.
Command the disobedient person to do good
prohibits him from evil, what antihero tequila, but at the all
the time you must not disdain him. And then you will actually see
that your
advice to somebody will get much further will reach much further
because you will do it with compassion for the person and for
hatred of the act.
It just makes a big difference
with the Americold who Sallalahu it was on fish sheduled at FIU
and just think of it just reflect over what the Prophet said Allah
some said about the
the theme garlic, the Gaudi plant in Mahershala tune Accra hurry
haha. He said, It is a plant. I dislike it smell.
He didn't say you know, most of us, I hate garlic.
When you don't like something when you say I hate garlic, but who
cares about your hatred?
I hate garlic. They say that's not what the Prophet sallallahu sallam
said, but both of them said that that plant I don't like its smell.
So he did not dislike its entity. Its whole its whole, he disliked
it smell which is just one of its characteristics.
So from that we should understand that our
enmity, hatred, antagonism to even a disbeliever
is only that of a characteristic and that characteristic is
disbelief.
Because the whole effort the evidence for this is that if that
same individual human creation of Allah becomes a believer and he
becomes good in his belief, then we are not allowed to have any
antagonism towards that person.
This is very deep. This is just really kind
Have clarifies, you have to think over it, allow this kind of
thought process to take over our mind, Inshallah, then you'll see
that will do much better, your data will will go further, when
you have that kind of, you know, people who are out in huge and all
that as well. Same thing, a lot of the time, if we get into this mode
that those guys don't come to the masjid or we come to the masjid,
you end up with a superiority complex and sometimes become worse
than the person outside. Because the arrogance destroys us, we have
to have a compassion for those people, how to bring them in for
salads, you see, if you have a compassionate you think about it
this way, then you will see that your data will will be much more
effective inshallah.
Jala we stop here. We'll continue the next time.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the Tofik. To understand this,
to bring him into our life and to improve our perspective and to
bring more mercy in ourselves. Well, he read that,
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