Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Imam Sha’rani’s Code of Companionship Series Free Yourself from Selfishness
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I said when we went to Syria when to visit this 92 year old sorry,
in Mauritania and to visit this 92 year old scholar, and he reminded
us of this fact. He says, I'm open to meeting you because you're a
believer, for the sake of Allah. And that's probably been your
intention for meeting him. Otherwise, Wales we weren't gonna
get anything from. We thought we'll just get some Tabarak some
Baraka because of Allah Subhan. Allah is a man of Allah
Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim
Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam, ala Murthy. rahmatan
Dillard, Amin while he was Safi, edgy Marine, a mother.
This is actually quite a unique collection
of this in this particular section, the collection is of all
of those Hadith that have been related by the different Hadith
scholars from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam about
virtues of companionship for the right reason.
Now this tells us a number of things before I start looking
before we start reading these Hadith and benefiting from them, I
want us to keep a few things in mind. The companionship that's
mentioned here, is purely one for the sake of righteous piety and
benefit for the hereafter. This is not necessarily obligation, it's
not
underpinned by an obligation that we have to have this
companionship, it's a very beneficial companionship, it's one
of the most reliable companionships that is, hopefully
going to get us into gender. But it's not an obligation as it is to
have companionship of this nature with one's parents, for example,
with one's brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts, nephews and
nieces and children, our blood relatives. That's not what we're
speaking about here.
In particular, that is obligatory, a person cannot sever ties with
their kin, their blood relatives for more than three days, that is
a big sin. So what I want to do is, I want to just keep that in
the back of our mind, that that's a very, very important
relationship. And if we are reading the virtues of this
encouraged and beneficial relationship with others for the
sake of Allah subhanho, wa, Taala and piety, then it strengthens and
gives us an understanding that relationship with our kin is even
more important. But here, because we generally scholars and others
they speak about, and people generally know about importance of
kinship, and threat of family, they don't know as much about
having relationships with others, or extended members, or neighbors
or other things. That's why this is being spoken about here. And
there's some really amazing Hadith, that sometimes you don't
feel like doing something you don't feel like visiting somebody
you don't feel like speaking to somebody, if we remember these
Hadith,
then it will give us a reason to speak to somebody nicely, for the
sake of Allah subhanaw taala. to befriend somebody, you can only
really help somebody if you feel that you're going to get something
out of it for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala and I say get
something out of not in return from that person directly. But
because of Allah subhanaw taala we're doing it for reward, we're
doing it for this reason to please Allah subhanho wa taala. So it's
some really amazing Hadith here. The first of these Hadith, which
is the famous one related by Bukhari Muslim about the seven
people in the shade of Allah subhanho wa Taala on the Day of
Judgment that we read in the last session, it's the seven people and
all of these people are such that they go against the norm of people
in those positions or in those states. Whenever a person becomes
a ruler, they have everything at their disposal, they have wealth,
influence power, the ability to impose their rulings. So generally
what happens is, it gets to your head, and people are unjust in
that position. So when somebody is not unjust in that position, and
is just in that position and Imam an ideal that he gets a special
place. Generally, there's an attraction between men and women.
If a situation presents itself, where a person of the opposite
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opposite gender, who is of good standing,
who is sought after in a sense, beautiful and offers themselves to
you for haram
that is such a difficult situation to resist. So anybody who does
resist that they must have something that makes them
befitting to be in the shade and they have judgment. So among all
of these people, people who hide their sadaqa so much that they
right, the left does not know the what the right
Handys spending, and the youth who spends his youth in the worship of
Allah subhanho wa taala, which is a very difficult thing, in the
time and situation, especially when we live in, if this sort of
loss Allah was telling about his time, can you imagine the
difficulty of that in this time.
So these are all people who go against the grain, go against the
norm of a special resilience and piety and fortification in their
heart. So they get the shade on the Day of Judgment. So one of
them is two people who love each other purely for the sake of
Allah.
That is also a difficult thing to do. So that's the first Hadith
that is underscoring the importance of this, when you meet
your brother in the masjid any any person and you make salaam with
him, he needs some help, you try to help try to facilitate,
sometimes we can't go out of our own way to do something, we try to
point them in the right direction, give them good advice, all of
this, all of this comes, then doing that with Allah in mind that
I'm doing this for the sake of Allah, not because I feel I'm
gonna get something from them.
Or people are gonna say this about me. So for no other exterior
reason, purely for the sake of Allah, then that person is also in
the shade of David and he is parallel to the King who is just,
he is equal to the person who resists a temptation that is
openly facilitated. So you can imagine what reward we're talking
about, and his numerous Hadith to that effect. Now, regularly to
have birth in law, that's what a promise a law some said to people
who love each other for the sake of Allah. Now, we have to
understand here pure love, not love sexual love all the time,
amorous love, not that kind of love, we're talking about, we're
talking about pure love for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. When
you give yourself you're willing to break yourself for somebody
else to join them, that's what it's talking about. So, not every
kind of companionship is a praise companionship, sometimes you may
be with somebody because of the evil.
Because in this person's mind, evil is the cool thing to be the
gangster style lifestyle, for example, you get influenced bad
influence by being with this person. So you want to stay with
that particular group, that particular clique of people
because they give you this certain feeling of supremacy, feeling of
influence, protection, all of these different reasons that
people do it for, or to get something haram that you want. It
is it's easy. If you stay with these people, you're safer that
way as well. You know, you get a discount, and so on and so forth.
Right? I don't have to spell it out. I'm sure people understand
what we're speaking about. So that is obviously not a software model.
That's not a praiseworthy companionship, that's a serious
companionship in something and people will die for each other,
they will kill for each other. In fact, sometimes that relationship
is is much stronger, right for the wrong reasons than other
praiseworthy relationships. But that doesn't make it a good one.
The depth of it doesn't make it a good relationship, that has to be
the right reason. That's why for example, Musa alayhis salam,
there's a verse there's this sequence of verses, where Dr. Lee
was here on min Lee Runa offish to be as real as Shrek woofie. Emery,
he asks Allah subhanaw taala, to give him his brother as his
companion, so that he could strengthen himself by him.
He Musa alayhis salaam had a bit of a stutter, he wasn't able to
speak as effectively as his brother. So he asked that his
brother also be put together with him. So then, after he mentioned,
that, give my brother to me to be my companion, and so on and so
forth. So I can strengthen myself by with with him and so on. At the
end, he says something.
And this is the crux of it, why are they getting together? Again,
who said b hacker girthier, oh, and of Karaca caffeine era, so
that we can glorify you abundantly, we can glorify you, as
well.
Because sometimes, doing something alone is more difficult when you
got a companion to do something with and if you can find a
companion for good and virtue, then there is no better companion
than that. That's why the pious wife, the pious husband, that
companionship is a wonderful companionship because it's going
to be a companionship that has to be there. So if it can be a pious
one, then it's also for the sake of Allah.
So then you get this reward as well. 24 hours a day, seven days a
week, throughout the years that you're with your spouse, because
one of your reasons for having the Thai spouse in the first
Last place, and her reason for having a payor spouse in the first
place is for the sake of Allah. So it's marriages, a sunnah, having a
pious company, that's that company is more intention intimate than
any other company in sha Allah from that you will have pious
children, you're more likely to have pious children from a pious
union, a truly pious union, you'll have pious children. It's all it's
all success. It's all success, success after that. So he says,
can you still be happier cathedra one of Karaca caviar, can you do
some behavior cathedra whenever Karaca kathira. And that's his
words, so that we can glorify you, and we can remember you abundantly
glorify you abundantly. And
remember you abundantly. So anything, any kind of
companionship that does not take you to this particular honorable
form of objective, then the, then it's not a true companionship
that's mentioned in this hadith, there's no benefit, because then
you can't expect any of these fruits to be gained from that. See
today, unfortunately, companionship is based on
selfishness is based on benefits. You We keep in touch with certain
people, because we feel that they have been able to benefit us in
the past.
And that's not the right reason. That's a logical reason. But it's
not for the sake of Allah. You can have the same companionship.
Of course, if somebody is going to harmful to you, there is no need
to have companionship, unless it's one sided, where you're trying to
help them out. Because you don't want to take evil from them. But
you want to give benefit to them if you can. So it's still good
companionship in that sense.
Right, let's look at a few other Hadith. There's another Hadith
that
related by Muslim,
a person visited a friend of his a brother of his, who he had for the
sake of Allah, essentially, we generally don't understand them to
be brothers. Nowadays, we think this is like a good pious rent. So
however we translate it, in Arabic, it's called 100. Allah, a
brother for the sake of Allah. Anyway, he went to visit his
brother, such a person who he knew for the sake of Allah, Allah
subhanho wa Taala sent an angel in the form of a human being, it
seems, who met him on the path on his road on his way as he was
going there. So where are you going? So you know, somebody
starts talking to you in the train or in the bus or in the coach or
car service station, whatever, Brother, how are you? You know,
where you going? Oh, I'm going to such and such a place. I've got a
brother in this particular village who I'm going to visit halacha in
the human near met in Cairo, Baja, do you have a business with him
some kind of agreement, some kind of transaction with him by which
you expect to profit.
You know, you're going to make a sale deal, whatever it is, says
No, later on the web to houfy Allah, I love him for the sake of
Allah.
Even the words he's using, alright, I'm doing this purely for
the sake of Allah. He's a brother of mine for Allah. I'm just going
to visit him for the deen. I'm gonna visit him for the Dean
brother, you know, you know what I'm saying?
Call up ship.
So this angel in the form of the human being says, oh, except the
glad tidings, I'm just a messenger from Allah to you.
To tell you that, just like you love him for the sake of Allah,
Allah, Allah loves you too.
Now, this may not happen to all of us, we may not have this
experience, Allah may not send this angel to all of us, yet
somebody will, you may find some righteous person will tell you,
who will give you that glad timing.
So
this is the benefit
of meeting people for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala.
I said when we went to Syria, when to visit this 92 year old, sorry,
in Mauritania and to visit this 92 year old scholar, and he reminded
us of this fact, he says, I'm open to meeting you because you're a
believer, for the sake of Allah. And that's probably been your
intention for meeting him. Otherwise, well, it's we weren't
gonna get anything from. We thought we'll just get some
Tabarrok some Baraka because of Allah Subhan. Allah is a man of
Allah.
If not a circuit
is a historian.
And also a hadith scholar, right? He relates from a pseudo allah
sallallahu Sallam a slightly different version. Sabra confusing
Bellagio Mala villa in La Villa, there'll be seven people in the
safety of the
the shade of the throne on the day when there'll be no shade except
To shade, when is the person that God Allah fathered Aina person who
remembers Allah subhanho wa Taala to such a degree that his eyes
start weeping, his eyes start watering. So it's a serious
thought about Allah not just a passing thought. You really think
about Allah subhana wa Tada and you say, thank you Allah. Or you
say, save me Allah, depending on your situation, and tears come
from your eyes. And then the next one is the Roger in your head boy
Abdullah, you boo hoo Illa Allah, a person who just loves another
servant of Allah purely for Allah sake, for no other reason.
And then he carries on I mentioned the rest of them which is the man
whose heart is suspended always in the masjid link to the masjid
because he just loves the masjid when she said that he could be he
just loves the masjid
gives him a sanctuary. But this also tells us that for the masjid
to be like that, it's made like that because of people. And
sometimes it's people who will spoil spoil other people's
experiences in the masjid by talking too loud, by bothering
them by doing things strange burping too much all of these
kinds of things.
So the better the experience we can have in the masjid. Hopefully
the more people will enjoy being in the masjid. But clearly this
person overcomes all of those issues. Right? Even if there are
some irritable people in the masjid. Even if there's politics
in the masjid. He still loves the Masjid. He goes beyond these
things. shaytaan works in weird ways, strange ways, clever way.
slideways I was an imam in America. And I've dealt because
I've had to actually deal with it directly. And because we have such
a small community, you could actually tell when people were
missing. And then you'd ask them and the one brother, he will
complain that the reason I don't come is because that particular
person, I have a problem with him. But the other guy is not coming to
the masjid I then when you asked him, he said he's not coming
because of the other guy. So literally, the shaytaan has one on
both sides, because both of these people are not coming because of
the other. And nobody's there.
To understand it was just such a crazy scene in many cases, the
easiest way for the shaytaan to deal with this.
And then he carries on. The different thing in this hadith is
why don't you run canovee Surya team. So you know, we have the
general seven people that are well known. This one adds one other
person.
He says a man who was part of a Muslim expedition.
With a group of people, they met with the enemy,
they suffering a setback and a defeat. So one is everybody runs
away. But now what this man does is he tries to protect them. So
he's going out of his way to protect them in their defeat, so
that they don't suffer a greater defeat until either he's able to
take them to safety and save himself or that he has martyred.
So that's a very special individual when everybody's
running, you actually go in bravery and valor and try to help
the situation and rectify it.
Imam Bay hotkey relates in a smart or SIFAT again, another version of
this hadith, there's a few versions, seven who will be under
the shade, who Allah will shade under a shade of his ash on the
day well, there'll be no shade. And again here you've got the
person who are you learning to have in law to people who love
Allah Subhana Allah who love each other for the sake of Allah
subhanaw taala and in this one you have another one, you have ordered
a lot during uni here and mahadi Milla a person who keeps the eyes
subdued from looking at the things prohibited by Allah.
So some is literally just sprung on us, brought with it, the well
needed heat, but has also with its heat power,
cause people to shed off much of what covers them. And which then
makes it makes it a fitna for it denude the people. This is the
power of the sun to do that.
We're not going to we're not going to complain to the sonobuoy.
Right? We have to just worry about ourselves in dealing with that.
Allah help us looking right left down, it's sometimes all the same,
you know? So Allah help us why you don't have a set fee subete Allah,
the eye that is standing God in the path of Allah subhanaw taala
as a night duty watchman guarding the borders, guarding the people
that from impending attack, wine on bucket in Shatila and the eye
that
He cries out of the fear of Allah subhanaw taala generally in these
all of these Hadith Hadith when he mentions that they will be under
the shade of Allah subhanaw taala is thrown
what does it mean? That it could be literally taken as being there
a shade on the day when the sun will be very close, there's that
but more clearly speaking. It doesn't have to be just as blunt
as that. Okay, this is the shade. This is not shade. You know, when
you get VIP treatment, then you get food with it, you get, you
know, additional services that come with it. It's not just about
being in the shade, right? It's theory I Atilla if you
Rahmatullahi. They're going to be receiving the Mercy of Allah
subhana wa Tala. They're going to be looked after by Allah subhanaw
taala. So it's not just simply doesn't have to be just the shade.
If Allah is going to provide that special VIP place, then there you
go.
In insurable Eman Imam Bihac is another collection of Hadith
Charbel, Ema and the branches of faith where he deals with all of
the Hadith related to the branches of faith the 67 so branches of
faith are 70 branches of faith according to the Hadith, right so
laughter. In this hadith, Shula Lawson said razza laterally
Burdell Imani biller here toward alienness Rasul Allah, the
foundation of intelligence, pure intelligence.
If a person is truly intelligent, then they will know that after
Iman, after after the that is the first dictate of aqua, Aqua is the
most valuable thing Allah has given us are called the
intelligence because it's only by intelligence that we're able to
see the right from the wrong and make out these things of course,
with the help of the Tofik of Allah, but after an after Iman and
faith through alkyl the second most important thing is a double
the illness. The word means acting in a friendly manner, creating
love between people, with people. So essentially extending out to
people
on the basis of love for them, what are they what do they fit
duniya la Honda Raja Twinfield Jana and those people who are
these people of love between them in the world, they have a high
degree in Jana, they have a special degree in Jana. So what is
you get into Jan any Jana but a person who is loving with others
for the sake of Allah they get a special pacing agenda.
They get an additional you can say upgrade in Jannah. Let's put it
that way.
Today it's the time of upgrades in everything. Upgrade your phone
contracts, upgrade your phone handset, upgrade your flight.
You know we use the term upgrade and everything
was still and then he says woman cannot load Rajasthan fill Jana
and anybody who has an A level in Jana, he's going to be in general.
So if you want to get to Jana, this is an act that you do that
gives you a special place in Jana. A special place in general means
that you're going to be in Jannah.
But doing something for the sake of Allah purely requires a certain
level of fortitude, seriousness resolution.
May Allah give us that
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ammonia tabula NASA same thing, what Steena will highly illogical
Lee Berberine Maharaja and committing oneself to good
whether it be a righteous person or an in righteous person, you
still try to help both of these individuals.
There is a need persons are unrighteous person, you still try
to help them come out of that. Help them in something else, not
support them in their unrighteousness in the wrong in
their transgression, but in something by way of humanity you
could help them and hopefully they will come closer to the deen in
that sense. So it's just trying to do good where possible.
Imam thoracotomy, he relates a lot Minoo yet and if what you love the
believer deals affectionately with others and is dealt affectionately
by people. If a person is harsh, doesn't understand when somebody
deals with them affectionately takes it wrong. There are people
like that.
You try to deal do something nice to somebody, they take it wrong.
They twist it around, they look at it negatively.
And you get in trouble.
Inshallah you'll get your reward from Allah, but you get in
trouble.
So clearly what it's saying here is that this person has to be
welcoming,
approachable.
And that's exactly how rasool Allah Allah Islam was because
Allah says in the Quran will open the Father and Holy evil called
beeline for do mean how
If that had you been harsh
and severe and tough like that, they would have run away from
around you. But the reason they were able to come because love is
a very important thing. In fact, they did a study on how people are
inspired by others. And the fact that a person can show affection
and love to people is a very critical factor in being able to
work with people and influence people and inspire people.
That's a very important fact, human thought. And then he says,
well ahead of human life live, what are you love? There's no good
in the one who doesn't deal affectionately with others. No. Do
others deal affectionately with him? Well, hi, you're Nancy and
Pharaoh, homeliness, the superior one among people is the one who is
most beneficial to the people.
So always this idea, and I think this was put in another way by our
shapers of money, so Matala, so once he was leaving, he was going
on a journey. So give us some advice. Just like a small advice
is giving us advice all the time. But when you ask somebody for
advice, and they give it framed as a particular advice is sometimes
stick to memory. So he says, try not to do anything that will harm
somebody.
Okay, that's so general, but it's actually really covers everything
because backbiting somebody is going to harm them. Don't do it.
So it deals with that as well. Don't cheat somebody, on deceive
somebody, and so on and so forth.
Okay, next Hadith narrated by Imam Abu download. Man, I have Bonilla
he will abogado Linda.
Whoever loves for the sake of Allah and hates for the sake of
Allah.
You don't like something because they're doing wrong. They're
blaspheming Allah, violating the laws of Allah.
What our authority Allah or Mina Allah
gives us for the sake of Allah with holes for the sake of Allah
not for selfishness, not to take more. But for the sake of Allah if
he withholds it with holes because he knows he's going to spend it in
the wrong but gives for the sake of Allah, even though that person
may wronged them sometimes. obika Siddiqa, the Allahu anhu, who used
to spend donate to one of their relatives.
His name was Mr.
Paul, he used to donate to them.
Now, unfortunately, Mr. Got involved in the slander against
the daughter of a booker syndical actually Allah. There was the
slander against him. Long story, I won't go into his story, but he
was also somehow carried away with that. So overgrown and of course
as a father, he got angry and he says, I'm not going to spend on
him anymore. Allah subhanho wa Taala wanted to keep the status
over cordial and very high. So he reveals the Quran Well, I'll tell
you will refund from income or sanity a YouTube will Kurosawa
Masaki in Omaha Gina bcbd. La well yet for well, your Suero Roger
Abel and Al fayed Allah Who
says that people who have of substance they should not now
refuse to give to the people of the of the relatives and so on.
They should well yeah, cool. Well, yes, for what they should pardon
overlook. So that is done for the sake of Allah. Allah loves that.
So he wanted his Siddiq to do that. Oh, Bukhara. syndical, the
Allah one
very tough thing to do them.
But you know, the more you hear this stuff, this is said, from
experience. The more you hear this, the more you're able to
think that way. In these situations, when you don't know
these Hadith, we just think like normal people. And unfortunately,
there's a lot of selfishness in the world. It's a human trait.
There's a lot of selfishness. There's a lot of greed. There's a
lot of anger, a lot of rage out there. Now, if these Hadith are
not hitting our ears and our hearts and our minds day in and
day out and beautifying them, then when we in that situation, there's
no way we're going to do this because people generally don't
resent the Narcissus overcomes, but believe me, when you do look
at Hadith over and over again. And it may be something that you're
not involved in straightaway. But it does come to mind and you you
try to create that kind of temperament, massage approach in
your mind that, okay, I'm just going to for the sake of Allah,
you know, we're repeating today for the sake of Allah for the sake
of Allah for the sake of Allah. This is what should be bouncing in
our own in our mind, so that he finds a place that the next time
we're involved in this where we would have generally acted with
revenge.
Anger, we're gonna say no, we're gonna do it for the sake of Allah.
If that much can happen, then we're successful.
We've made an improvement in our life and enhancement.
And you know, it feels so good when you can do that.
It feels so good when you can do that. Because you're doing it for
the sake of Allah. And with Allah, people find comfort.
with Allah, people find comfort. So you will be more comfortable by
doing that. Because if you act with if we act with selfishness as
many people would do, it's not going to make you feel good. You
may have one over the other. But you still feel that there's still
a war on.
There's still a problem, still a controversy. But if you're able to
overcome that, you've suddenly freed yourself from selfishness.
That's a major accomplishment.
It's a major accomplishment and you did it for the sake of Allah.
So then that makes you feel even better because Allah makes you
feel better. The rattler you just invoke the Rockman of ALLAH
SubhanA wa Tada.
So very important point this is
it.
So for the sake of Allah for the sake of Allah let this be in our
mind. Anyway, the next Hadith, no, and then he's so the Buddha was
narration is whoever loves for the sake of Allah hates for the sake
of Allah gives for the sake of Allah withholds for the sake of
Allah. That person's Iman is complete. Because fee for Allah
for Allah for Allah is everything he does. That's his motto.
Another Hadith related by Buddha with US dollar money and hobo
villa, he will move the villa.
Superior action
that Allah loves, is love for Allah, and hatred for Allah.
Now, hatred for Allah, as I mentioned briefly before as well,
it's when a person
dislikes bad things, for the sake of Allah.
It helps people come out of against the lifestyle, they should
know this is bad, this is not this, my love here is not for the
life of Allah.
Bad Company, because of that doesn't mean you start hating the
people, you hate their actions. As long as those people will hold
those actions, there's going to be an issue there. But if those same
people need some humanitarian help sometimes then that being for the
sake of Allah will allow you to help them because you can see
beyond you don't want to be in that company because it infects
you. There's an infection. I call that an infection essentially.
Because it gets into the inside and makes you feel good whereas
you're not supposed to feel feel good with that kind of a
situation.
So
hating for the sake of Allah does not lead one to commit crimes
should not need one. As you have some extremism that could be taken
you know could be misunderstood through this generation. So that
should not be misapplied.
Another hadith is again without afterall, Imani unto him, Bella,
the best of Eman is that you love for the sake of Allah waterbodies
Allah you hate for the sake of Allah. What does that mean?
Lisanna Kofi decree Allah you use your tongue in remembrance of
Allah, one to hibel in Nassima, to humble enough sick
and you love for people, what you love for yourself.
Now, what does that mean? How would you love for somebody where
you love for yourself? One is okay, I like this tablet. So I
would like you to have one of those tablets as well.
But then, some scholars have taken this to another level and said,
You love for yourself to be superior than others. So how do
you reconcile that with wanting somebody else to then be superior
as well? Because if you want to be better than other, how do you how
do you apply this hadith.
So there is a bit of a, you know, that needs to be understood.
But then
one is to feel good about yourself to feel like you want the best of
something. But as long as it doesn't prevent you from somebody
else allowing somebody else to have it as well. Then that's fine.
There's enough space in the world. People don't understand that.
There's enough space in the world. There's so many people that go
around to go around for for anything. And then he said the
province also said what Takara Allahu Mata Krahula and fcwc you
dislike for them what you dislike for yourself.
What intercooler Hi, Ron Oh, Lita Smith. And when you speak you
speak good otherwise stay silent.
This is what the price of
Imam Muhammad relates. And Allah heya Kulu Yeovil Kiama, Allah
subhanho wa Taala will announce on the Day of Judgment, Al Maha buena
de Jelani, where are those people that used to love each other? Due
to my majesty, meaning for the sake of my majesty, because I'm
the greatest Lord, where are those people who used to love each other
for that day?
For who used to love each other for that reason, and the OMA
within Luhan V Lindley today I'm going to give them shade in my
sheet.
Mr. Muhammad also relates a lot min Allah you highly to NASware
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the believer who mixes with people so that he can benefit them and
help them. Right generally, the prophets Allah some said, The
believer who mixes with people and interacts with people,
and bears patiently with patients, their inconvenience, their harm,
their problems, their irritation, etc, etc. But lives among them
deals with them is superior to the believer who does not intermingle
with people, and is not able to be patient over the inconveniences.
Which means both of those states are allowed. The promise of loss
is just saying this one is better, though. Because with such a good
person, being amidst the people, you can expect some good to be
eventually spread how little despite how little it maybe, if
all the good people are just going to stay away from people, then
it's going to become a distinction. Those are the bad
people. Those are the good people. I don't mean you guys, by the way.
Right. So once that distinction is made, that's very harmful, you
need good people, among bad people as well.
So staying among bad people for that, I mean, I don't mean going
into a club for the sake of you know that we don't mean that,
you're obviously mean that. It doesn't mean even bad people just
being with people in general, trying to help trying to just be
there trying to speak nicely, trying to
just spread good, trying to be a breath of fresh air
amidst all the heat.
And realizing there's going to be issues.
Realizing this is a Hadith for that is people with, you know,
people with a vision people want to do something, imams have
messages, people who want to work with others, leaders, motivation,
people, that if you're doing this for the right reason, and
interacting with people so that there can be some good that comes
out of it, and you are patiently bearing the issues. You can't make
everybody like yourself, you can't make everybody and design people
the way you want them to be. People are going to be different,
there's going to have to be a level of tolerance.
And once you stop imposing your
idea of how people should behave on people, and getting angry and
frustrated, then you've liberated yourself.
Of course, encouragement is one thing, but getting angry because
somebody's not constantly complaining. You can't be like
that.
I sat with a taxi driver the other day, coming back from Heathrow.
And I don't think he had a single good thing to say.
Well, he had a single good thing to say he just like complaining
about everything, everything from the costs of living here to
everything.
This is just pure negativity. Allah helping. It's just a pure
negativity. It's the reality. What complaining to your complaint with
somebody else about how difficult cost is unless you're trying to
get a bigger tip or something? Right? This is a waste of time.
This should there's no sugar there. We're better off than so
many other people in the world. But there's some people just
always old man things are expensive. There's a lot of
expenses. People just go on about it to people who are not going to
be able to do a thing for them. It's understandable you go and
talk to a politician come on man do something about it. But you
just talking randomly just complaining about this, that and
the other. Everything's a complaint
complaining about the way somebody's driving, just constant
complaint, just just constant complaint about just negative
attitude.
negative attitude is a bad thing.
That clearly makes it difficult for a person to interact with
people because they're always going to be focusing on negative
understand realize recognize people are there is bad is even in
the world. That's why another chauffeur this time who I sat
with, who was 70 something years old and he was still chauffeuring
people around, right. I asked him, How do you drive?
Right? How do you he says, Look, I just consider that. Most drivers
are crazy. That's my opinion. So then I just have to be careful
then.
And you know Subhanallah that's very true, because when I tried
driving in Morocco,
you can't drive in a predictable way.
like you can in England, where everybody obeys the rules. There's
one lane, you expect what people ask about, yeah, you do get some
abnormal situations. But most of the time, it's quite
understandable, predictable driving. But in some other
countries, the driving is not predictable. You just have to
drive slow. And just expect something to come in front of you
and be ready to stop. Then it gets easy. So same with life, just
expect there's going to be issues. Things don't always go according
to predictability. Right? It's somebody's gonna run in the middle
of the road, you're gonna have to slam your brakes, but just don't
be going so fast that you disturb the people in your car. Because
when you slam on your brakes, people do lurch forward that's
inconveniencing yourself and your family. So just don't do things
like that. Just take it easy.
It's just like driving in some places.
I say Morocco. I mean, India, Pakistan, it's all the same, it's
probably worse. So it doesn't make a difference. The next hadith is
Which Imam Muhammad also relates in the author Carol Islamia, and
to him a fella who a tobacco thriller
author called Aurora aura means a support an oath, that means the
firm is most established, strongest, most reliable, the most
reliable support that you have for Islam, that you will stay on Islam
is that you love for the sake of Allah and you hate for the sake of
Allah, your attitude towards its loving for the sake of Allah
hating for the sake of Allah. This is essentially what underpins most
of our interaction with others. That's why these two things I
mean, they're not special things that you only do sometimes loving
to Allah and heating for Allah are not special things you do
sometimes, they are what underpins most of our interaction with
people.
Why we behave in certain ways
with others,
whether we're buying or selling, whether we're speaking to
somebody, whether we're asking somebody for directions, these if
we can have this in our mind, and all of these things are enhanced
by that. This is what is underwriting all of that. That's
why also another Hadith that Imam Muhammad relates with Asahi Chang
is in the mood to have been in the mood to have been a villa hula
Tora Bora for whom Phil Jana Kal Toka. With toilet a Sharpie will
her be for you call human with a for you call her Willa e l Moto,
ha buena villa.
Verily, the people who love each other for the sake of Allah, their
chambers, their places of residence, their apartments in
Jannah will be seen by people like stars are seeing the Eastern or
the western star that is illuminated a scene, they're going
to be high up, they're going to have the highest high rises,
meaning the highest of the chambers. So somebody's going to
ask people are going to ask Who are those for them? You know, like
when you're being given something and then you see something up
there? Like, what about that one? Whose is that one? Like trying to
say can I have that one?
He says, Oh, these are for the people who love each other for the
sake of Allah.
Remember the earlier Hadith anybody who loves for the sake of
Allah gets a special status in paradise. And that's why he also
said another Hadith similar, the most beloved action to Allah
subhanho wa Taala is love for His sake and hatred for his sake. In
fact, people are looking for sweetness of faith, men Sabra who
are usually the Halawa Iman for your humble Allah you boo, inland
Allah, anybody who, who makes happy that they can feel
experience, the sweetness of faith, the sweet taste of faith,
then they should love a person only for the sake of Allah.
Again, that's what I mentioned. loving somebody for the sake of
Allah, which is loving the people, Allah's bondsman. People. humanity
in general,
is not a independent, mutually exclusive action. It's what
underpins our attitude to people. That's why the program is
mentioning so many Hadith about this.
So many Hadith and be ready because it underpins our
interaction. And that's why here, it says that anybody who does
that, who makes that their approach, they will start tasting
the sweetness of faith, because they'll, they'll avoid Riba. They
will avoid backbiting. They'll avoid unnecessarily cheating
somebody harming somebody arguing somebody that purely doing things
for the sake of Allah. They're going to be satisfied with Allah
Rama Allah is going to be on them. They're going to get the sweetness
of faith that's going to be their reward.
Then Imam taba Ronnie relates are absolutely better than he
manipulated the handbook in a nurse, the true intelligence of
the Iman, with Allah. faith in Allah is the hub of illness,
creating love with people
spreading love,
creating love, just being a loving person.
And, again, just to clarify, don't think love is this kind of this
you know, the sloppy kind of,
you know, love we're talking about where you're swinging all over the
place. Now it says being decent, good, soft, compassionate. That's
what we're talking about. The pure love. Unfortunately, love has been
restricted to either an amorous sexual kind of love, or this kind
of sapi kind of feeling. There's another head he said there'll be
three people in the arch in the shade of the arch and three the
throne. So he only three I mentioned. That doesn't mean that
there can't be more in this hadith only three I mentioned the postman
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a person who wherever, whatever direction is facing in whatever
he's doing.
He knows that Allah is with him.
Person has got such a presence of woof of Allah, such a presence
with Allah subhanaw taala that regardless of where he is, he
always knows Allah is with me.
Whether he's busy or not busy, most of us we only remember Allah
when we're praying or when something bad happens. But now
this person always remembers Allah subhanho wa Taala and the next one
is the person who is who is approached by a woman of high
standing and he leaves her for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala he
leaves the Zina for the sake of Allah. What our children have been
each other and him now and a person who loves for the Majesty
of Allah subhanaw taala
Okay, let's do two more Hadith and then we'll leave the rest of the
next time. He says there's another Hadith that's also related. Al
Maha buena Villa hiya Allah Cara see yemenia put in how that Ash.
Now this is more detail about the special places agenda for these
people. So not only do they get a special degree, special chambers,
but also in the you know, once a week people are going to go to see
Allah subhanaw taala. So there's going to be special seating there.
Right? And what do you call a seating that's the best seating
so the VIP works now they've got v VIP, very, very VIP, you know,
that's what they say, in Indian place. Like this is no VIP. This
is an English
very.
So this is just the way you know, five stars. That wasn't enough
seven stars. So that's the dunya the paradise it's you know beyond
a stylus it's just sort of on the way it is. So that's the nature of
this world everything is bested by something else,
if that's a tongue
and he said that in this hadith Rasulullah sallallahu sallam said
the people who love each other for the sake of Allah will be on kursi
on special platforms, special seating places that are made of
sapphire.
Now to appreciate this, you need to see a sapphire.
What color is a sapphire? Blue? It's a very special blue.
Right? The Sapphire, the natural sapphire the stone. It's a really
beautiful blue. And the chair is going to be made of that. So
imagine what it's going to look like to be sitting on that
around the OSH that's a closed place
in what you call those places, but it's going to be the closest place
very close place. What are you done? He's also related that Allah
says wotja But mabati will moto have been a fear
one motor journey seen a fear while motorbike really interfere?
Well motors will interfere.
My love has is necessary is mandatory
for the following groups of people.
One is those who love for my sake, who love each other for my sake.
Again, start loving your spouse for the sake of Allah. Start
loving your children because Allah wants you to love them not just
because you feel like loving them.
You're gonna it's gonna be the same thing. But when you
Do it for the sake of Allah, we get this reward.
Right. And that's love we have to do, we have to deal with it. But
then try to extend that that's our training ground, I say. So start
training with the people, we need to love that this is for the sake
of Allah.
And then extend that out to others as well.
So people who love each other for my sake, number two people who sit
with each other for my sake,
this can visit that brother.
For the sake of Allah, he's sick, not gonna get anything out of it.
But for the sake of Allah, so he's sick, or he's just had a setback,
let's go and make him feel a bit better. See if he needs any help.
His mother died in Pakistan. Whatever the case is, all of this
is done for the sake of Allah, not because of culture
shouldn't be done because of culture. You don't get the reward
for them. You still do the same act.
Okay, the next one I'll muda badly interfere, who are helping one
another one another struggle for the sake of Allah, essentially
helping one another. And number four, what is really interfere
visiting one another.
Specifically visiting, so that visiting the second that will also
come under this, what the GRE is in sitting together.
There's a number of other Hadith I think.
Let's just do this one more point because it brings another another
idea here.
The prophets Allah some said low and that they need to have buff
Allah.
If two of my servants if two servants loved each other for the
sake of Allah, one was in the east, one was in the West.
Nowadays, a lot of this happens, right? You learn about somebody
online, on Facebook, on Twitter, they seem to be saying some decent
things. So you develop some love for the sake of Allah ones in the
East ones in the West, you may have never met them in this life.
You just had correspondence with them
for Oh, Julissa, are they? No it says then le Gemma Allahu bueno.
Maya Well, pm on the Day of Judgment, Allah will bring the two
together. And he will say her the lady Quinta to him, boohoo fear,
this was the guy used to like for me.
You've never seen him before. But Allah will do the introduction.
So as you can see, there's a lot of coverage on this point because
it underpins a lot of our interaction. Another one
Subhanallah means just complements what we said before. He says,
Whenever two people love each other for the sake of Allah, Allah
will place for them a special seating place, make them sit on
it. On the Day when he takes the Reckoning and accounting of
everybody until he finishes the accounting. Basically, you stay in
the VIP turn until we deal with all of your immigration process.
And it does feel nice to be honest, I mean, I was wandering to
Abu Dhabi recently because it was a invitation for a special
conference. As soon as you get there to take your pass that they
have a name, they take you out of the side, nice van with nice cold
water and everything. And I thought maybe they're gonna
interrogate me. But then when I saw the nice words and everything
well, I go, you know, it doesn't seem too bad. take you to another
one coming to the VIP terminal, right? VIP terminal, they take
your passport, your baggage tags, you sit there enjoying some food,
sandwiches, dates, T et cetera. And in about 510 minutes, they
bring your passport stamped, and your luggage right there. Put you
in a car take you right out No, no problem at all. So if that's going
to happen on their judgement, why not Subhanallah first class
service, I'm only mentioning this just to explain what it feels
like.
No sweat.
Like there's no sweat in it. You know, generally, when you're
traveling, normal class is the last sweat involved in that
rushing, making sure you get there in time, making sure your luggage
is within the right size, dimensions, weight and so on.
Getting to the place on time, then your seat who you're sitting next
to cramped, all the rest of it. Right. But here it's just
Subhanallah if we can all be given that first class in the hereafter
from Allah subhanho wa taala. Really, you don't break a sweat.
So you just take him from one place to the next one place to the
next. Get a massage get this get that that's that's the whole thing
they're doing. This is supposed to remind us of the hereafter.
That's why the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, Man, I have Coleman
who showed off his zoom Rottie him himanta Barani relates this in his
marginal Khabib anybody who loves a group of people, a certain type
of people, certain group of people who will be gathered with that
group on the Day of Judgment. So this group of pious people that
you don't, you can't even get close to for what
Be reasonable you love them, you want to be like them, and you try
to be like them. But you can't be like them. Like, it could be the
sahaba. It could be gone, people write the machete from the past
the Sahaba of the past the prophets of the past, I just love
the prophets. I just love the Sahaba Subhanallah I wish I was at
that time, that kind of real seriously, not just vocalizing
real serious meaning you will be gathered with them on the Day of
Judgment.
This is just an additional investment we're making.
We can't put our entire hope in that, because there's a lot of
other deeds we have to do. But we can put a great hoping that in
fact we can put into hoping that but as long as we don't sacrifice
or
as long as we're not messing up in other things, may Allah subhanaw
taala
give us the Tofik to correct our interaction, and really begin to
love people and show affection. And just be nice to people for the
sake of Allah subhanaw taala May Allah make it easy for us? May
Allah help us in this regard working with Arwa Al hamdu Lillahi
Rabbil aalameen.
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