Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – How to Beat the Post Ramadan Blues

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The concept of Mashaurn is designed to break the body and make you feel tired and tired. People do not want to be around anyone, and the church's culture prioritizes staying true to one's beliefs and bringing perspective to experiences. The speaker emphasizes love for Allah and how humans have a desire to do things they love, such as kissing the Prophet's stone to show their love for something. The presence of Allah is the most important experience, and courses and lectures provide a foundation for understanding Islam and its essentials.
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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has allowed us

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to come through this month of Ramadan that

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we've just had mashaAllah.

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And what a beautiful month it was and

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the lights of the month of Ramadan and

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so on.

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Now the thing is that I don't know

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if I was able to explain this but

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Imam Ghazali mentioned something that really made life

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a bit easier for me because you know

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when you're fasting you feel broken, especially by

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Asr time, by late afternoon you feel weary,

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tired, you feel lethargic, you feel like sleeping,

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does anybody still feel fresh mashaAllah all the

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way until Iftari time and they're exactly the

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same, they can do, anybody like that?

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So I used to feel really bad because

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you know when you listen to these stories

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or read these stories in Fada in Ramadan

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and these people who mashaAllah they're just so

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energetic and they accomplish so much, so you

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feel a bit bad.

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Why am I like that?

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Okay maybe it's health issues but what else

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is it?

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So you start feeling bad about that.

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So Imam Ghazali said actually no that is

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designed like that.

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Ramadan is designed to break you, not in

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so many words, Ramadan is designed to break

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you which means that it's to cause hunger,

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to make you hungry and to make you

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sleep deprived.

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Why?

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What do you get out of doing that?

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The benefit of that is that when you're

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not like that and you're well fed and

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well slept and you're fine, then you're a

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lot more confident and you're just more negligent

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in that state.

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You're just focused on the dunya in that

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state.

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Whereas when you're broken, you're wondering, it makes

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you think why am I doing this?

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I'm doing it for Allah.

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Do I have to do this?

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What do I get out of doing this?

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And then mashaAllah Allah gives us this amazing

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excitement at Iftar time.

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What a dopamine rush that Iftar is.

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It's an amazing rush that is.

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Can you imagine if you had Iftar every

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hour and you got the same feeling that

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you get once a day?

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That would be amazing.

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The purpose of that is to break you

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and make you think and reflect, to understand

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what the real purpose of it is.

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So when you're not so hungry and the

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nafs is being deprived, it helps us to

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overcome it and overcome the bad ideas and

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reflect.

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That's why this is the time to make

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resolutions.

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This is the time to make resolutions because

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we've actually gone through such a stressful time,

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but it's a positive stressful time.

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Sleep deprived, deprivation, food deprivation, lots of worship

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and so on.

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That's why after Ramadan can be different from

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what it used to be before Ramadan.

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At least that's what Allah's design is.

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But unfortunately, we go back to doing exactly

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everything the way it is.

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Let's not lose that.

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It's been a week only.

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Let us not lose that opportunity.

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Let us maintain at least some aspect of

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that Ramadan and let us prolong some of

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the things and extend some of the things

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and endure with some of the worships that

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we didn't avoid and the paradigm shift and

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the difference in our thought process.

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That's very important.

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He's got a call yesterday from some brother

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I've never met before, though I've talked to

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him many times, so I kind of know

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him, but I've never met him.

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And he happened to be in Umrah for

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the first time.

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He's a businessman and he's in Umrah and

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he's been on my case for like a

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day or something.

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I need to talk to you.

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I said, OK, fine.

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I gave him some time and we spoke

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and he said, you know, I've been here

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for this many days.

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And aside from the first time I saw

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the Kaaba, I just don't feel that same

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thing and that same urge to just go

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there all the time as all of these

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other people are going, you know, crowding around

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the black stone and getting to the door

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of the Kaaba.

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I don't feel that urge.

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And I don't feel that same sense.

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So I listened to him.

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Essentially, that was his comment.

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Like, why don't I feel like that?

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Am I just completely messed up?

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So now I try to bring some sense

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into it because I've had that experience.

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So what I what I what we mentioned

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is, I said, number one, I think I

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don't know what you're comparing yourself to because

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I'm not in your mind.

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I'm not having your experience.

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I'm not with you.

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I can't sense what you're sensing.

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I don't have your experience.

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But maybe just to put some perspective of

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it, are you comparing yourself to what you

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have read in Fadhail Hajj?

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He's a Tablighi brother, and I know he

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was in Jamaat like just two months ago.

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Have you read Fadhail Hajj and you're listening

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to all of these amazing stories in Fadhail

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Hajj?

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Fadhail Hajj has some amazing stories, really inspiring

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stories, exceptional stories.

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I said, all of those stories are exceptional.

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Otherwise they wouldn't have been in that book.

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I hope I'm right.

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They're not your regular stories, they are exceptional

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stories, that's what they mentioned there of the

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people's experiences of Hajj and what they experienced,

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what they saw, what they witnessed.

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So if you're going to compare yourself to

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them, then, you know, that's going to be

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a big shock.

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So stop comparing yourself in that sense.

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He was talking about Tawaf, you know, and

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so I said, number two, what you have

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to understand is that don't compare yourself to

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other people as well.

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You don't know why they're going for the

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black stone.

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I would have been love.

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Allah forgive us.

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But maybe we've gone and tried to kiss

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the black stone just to show how macho

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we are, that we can get through it.

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It's a possibility.

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I'm a big guy.

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I can just get through, shove everybody out

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of the way.

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Let me show you how to do that.

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And believe me, once I did it, I

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know actually it was I got to the

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Multazam and when I got out of that,

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Shaitaan just overcomes you like, look where you

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are.

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It is all of these guys and you're

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right there.

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I would have been lying in a shape

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on your regime.

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So you have no idea why people are

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going there and we're not we're not underestimating

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everybody's intention, but let that not make you

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feel bad as such.

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Right, so that that was just to kind

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of bring him down.

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However, the other side of the story is

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that Hajj is a journey of love.

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And if you don't know what love of

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Allah is, you're not going to get half

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of what you're supposed to get there.

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Why should you go around seven times around

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the Kaaba?

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Because you're unfit.

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So at least do some exercise once in

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your life.

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No, you go around because that's the house

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of Allah.

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Your your love of Allah is what takes

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you to his house because that's as close

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as you can get.

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When you have a lover, you want to

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be as close to them as possible.

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Anything you love, you want to have it

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in your possession.

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If it's a human being, you want to

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hug them.

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People hug their cats and their animals because

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they love them so much.

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So you hug them.

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You want to kiss them.

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You want to be close to them.

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So when you're going around the house of

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Allah, you are essentially saying, this is as

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far as I can come, Ya Allah, I'm

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going around your house and only a crazy

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lover would do that.

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I know you're not inside, but this house

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is attributed to you.

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I can do that because, you know, let's

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just say that you are going past your,

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you've got somebody who's very special to you,

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who lives in, who lives in Leighton and

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you're just going past Leighton.

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You just see the board.

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What are you going to think of when

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you see Leighton?

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The board, you're going to see Leighton Stone.

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You might remind you're going to see one

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stone on a big deal.

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We see Leighton.

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Yeah, he or she lives there.

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You're immediately going to think that.

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So going around the house is essentially that's

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what you're doing.

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Then if you get, I told him, go

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to the Multazam, I said, get to the

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Multazam, put your chest there, hug it like

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the Prophet ﷺ did where he showed us

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how to do that and put your, put

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your cheek there and then you'll see that

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that is the most experience.

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That's the most amazing experience, to be honest,

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that that's amazing.

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That is what the Prophet ﷺ did.

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Allah has allowed us to do that.

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That is the love.

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That's the physical love we can show.

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If you want to translate that into a

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physical love and if you want to kiss

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something, go and kiss the black stone because

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humans have this desire to do these things.

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I said, you need to go Umrah, he

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was in Umrah, I said, you need to

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go Umrah multiple times or you learn love

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at home and then you go and you'll

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see the difference or you go and you

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learn it there.

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Similar, somebody else contacted me about just over

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a week ago.

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I've been doing dhikr, you know, my own

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dhikr sessions, my own dhikr amount.

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And mashaAllah, sometimes I feel it and most

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times I don't and I can't bring that

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presence.

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So I said, it's not really something you

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can turn on and off all the time.

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That the presence of Allah, you can't turn

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on and off.

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Sometimes you can bring it on, like if

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you're really focused.

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But I said, the whole purpose of these

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adhkar are to get us into the presence.

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That's why we sit down and say la

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ilaha illallah, subhanallah.

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Otherwise, that's not the real dhikr.

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The real dhikr is to always be thinking

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about Allah, but we don't.

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So we sit down and we forcefully do

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it or put ourselves, compel ourselves to do

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it so that we're always remembering him.

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So what the person was saying is that

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when I'm doing this, I'm not sometimes in

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the present where you're not going to be

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because it's not our state yet.

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That's what we're trying to create.

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So now don't stop dhikr because you don't

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feel that because the dhikr is to get

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there.

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A lot of people say, I don't feel

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right, I don't feel it.

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So what's the point of doing it?

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You're doing it to create that effect.

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You're doing it to always think.

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That's why you're doing it.

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With anything else, you get bored of the

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same thing.

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But with Allah, the more you do, the

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more he will finally come and allow us

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to have that presence.

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So hopefully that gives us some understanding of

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this.

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May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give us

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the tawfiq and give us really allow us

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to go to his house and to really

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benefit from there.

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The point of a lecture is to encourage

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people to act, to get further, an inspiration,

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an encouragement, persuasion.

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The next step is to actually start learning

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seriously, to read books, to take on a

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subject of Islam and to understand all the

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subjects of Islam, at least at their basic

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level, so that we can become more aware

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of what our deen wants from us.

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And that's why we started courses so that

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you can actually take organized lectures on demand

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whenever you have free time, especially, for example,

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the Islamic essentials course that we have on

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the Islamic essentials certificate, which you take 20

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short modules.

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And at the end of that, inshallah, you

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will have gotten the basics of most of

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the most important topics in Islam and you'll

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feel a lot more confident.

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You don't have to leave lectures behind.

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You can continue to listen to lectures, but

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you need to have this more sustained study

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as well.

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Jazakallah Khair and Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

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