Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – How to Beat the Post Ramadan Blues

Allah subhanaw taala has

allowed us to come through this month of Ramadan we've just had

Mashallah. And what a beautiful month it was, and the lights of

the month of Ramadan and so on. Now, the thing is that I don't

know if I was able to explain this, but Imam Ghazali mentioned

something that really made life a bit easier for me because you

know, when you're fasting, you feel broken, especially by us of

time. By late afternoon, you feel very tired, you feel lethargic,

you feel like sleeping. Does anybody still feel fresh?

Mashallah, all the way until if daddy time in the exactly the

same, they can do anybody like that. So I used to feel really bad

because you know, when you listen to these stories, or read the

stories in following Ramadan, and these people who mashallah they

just so energetic and they accomplished so much, so you feel

a bit bad? Why am I like that? Okay, maybe it's health issues,

but what else is it? You know? So you start feeling bad about that.

So Imam has already said actually know that that is designed like

that. Ramadan is designed to break, you know, it's not so many

words, Ramadan is designed to break you. Which means that it's

to cause hunger, to make you hungry, and to make you sleep

deprived.

Why? What's the, what do you get out of doing that? The benefit of

that is that when you're not like that, and you're well fed, and

well slept, and you'll find that you're a lot more confident, and

you're just

more negligent in that state.

You just focused on the dunya in that state. Whereas when you're

broken, you're wondering, it makes you think, why am I doing this,

doing it for Allah? Do I have to do this? What do I get out of

doing this? And then mashallah, Allah gives us this amazing

excitement. And he started saying, what a dopamine rush If thought is

such an amazing rush that is, can you imagine if you had if thought

every hour, and you've got the same feeling when you get once a

day, that would be amazing.

Okay, the purpose of that

is to break you and make you think and reflect, to understand what

the real purpose of it is. So when you're not so hungry, and the

knifes is being deprived, it helps us to overcome it and overcome the

bad ideas and reflect that's why this is the time to make

resolutions. This is the time to make resolutions, because we've

actually gone through such a stressful time, but it's a

positive, stressful time. sleep deprived, deprivation, food

deprivation, lots of worship, and so on. That's why after Ramadan

can be different from what it used to be before Ramadan. At least

that's what Allah has design is. But unfortunately, we go back to

doing exactly everything the way it is, let's not lose the oven,

it's been a month, it's been a week only, let us not lose that

opportunity. Let us maintain at least some aspects of that

Ramadan. And let us make prolong some of the things and extend some

of the things that endure with some of the worships that we

didn't avoid. And the paradigm shift and the difference in our

thought process. That's very important. He's got a call

yesterday from some brother I've never met before, though I've

talked to him many times. I kind of know him, but I've never met

him. And he happened to be in Omaha for the first time. He's a

businessman. And he's in Andhra. And he's been on my case for like,

a day or something, I need to talk to you. So I said, Okay, fine. I

gave him some time when we spoke, and he said, You know, I've been

here for this many days. And aside from the first time I saw the car,

but I just don't feel that same thing. And that same urge to just

go there all the time, as all of these other people are going,

you know, crowding around the Blackstone and getting to the door

of the car, but I don't feel that urge. And I don't feel that same

sense.

So I listened to him. Essentially, that was his coming. Like, why

don't I feel like that? Am I just completely messed up?

So now try to bring some sense into because I've had that

experience. So what I what I what we mentioned is I said number one,

I think I don't know what you're comparing yourself to, because I'm

not in your mind. I'm not having you experience. I'm not with you.

I can't sense what you're sensing. I don't have your experience. But

maybe just to put some perspective of it. Are you comparing yourself

to what you have read in Fall hedge? Is that doubly your

brother? And I know he was in Jamaat, like just two months ago.

Have you read for vile hygiene? You're listening to all of these

amazing stories in Fidel Hodge father and he has some amazing

stories, really inspiring stories, exceptional stories. I said all of

those stories are exceptional, otherwise they wouldn't have been

in that book.

I hope I'm right. They're not your regular stories. They are

exceptional stories. That's what they mentioned of the people's

experiences of hygiene, what they experienced what they saw what

they witnessed. So if you're going

Compare yourself to them, then you know, that's going to be a big

shock. So stop comparing yourself in that sense.

He was talking about, you know, and so I said, number two, what

you have to understand is that don't compare yourself to other

people as well. You don't know why they're going through the

Blackstone

I was a biller, Allah forgive us that maybe we've gone and tried to

kiss the Blackstone just to show how much are we that we can get

through it?

Some possibility, I'm a big guy, I can just get through shove

everybody out of the way. Let me show you how to do that. And

believe me, once I did it, I know actually, it was I got to the

militarism. And when I got out of the shaytaan just overcomes you

like, look where you are. It is all of these guys. And you're

right, there was our bIllahi min ash shaytani regime.

So you have no idea why people are going there. And we're not we're

not under estimating everybody's intention. But let that not make

you feel bad as such.

Right. So that was just to kind of bring him down. However,

the other side of the story is that hij is a journey of love,

love. And if you don't know what love of Allah is, your you're not

going to get half of what you're supposed to get there. Why should

you go around seven times on the garden, because you're unfit so at

least do some exercise once in your life. Now

you go around, because that's the house of Allah.

Your your love of Allah is what takes you to his house, because

that's as close as you can get. When you have a lover, you want to

be as close to them as possible.

Anything you love, you want to have it in your possession. If

it's a human being, you want to hug them.

People hug their cats and animals because they love them so much.

So you hug them, you want to kiss them, you want to be close to

them. So when you're going around the house of Allah, you are

essentially saying this is as far as I can come here, Allah, I'm

going around your house. And only a crazy lover would do that.

I know you're not inside, but this house is attributed to you. I can

do that. Because, you know, let's just say that you are going past

your you got somebody who's very special to you who lives in

who lives in Layton

and you just going past late and you just see the board, what are

you going to think of when you see leads and the board?

You're going to see Leytonstone you might remind you're going to

see ones that no no big deal. We see later on Yeah, he or she lives

there,

you're immediately going to think that. So going around the house is

essentially that's what you're doing. Then if you get a turn and

go to the military, and I said get to the militarism, put your chest

there,

hug it like the Prophet saw some did way he showed us how to do

that. And put your cheek there. And then you'll see that that is

the most experience. That's the most amazing experience to be

honest, that that's amazing. Right? That is what the person

did. Allah has allowed us to do that. That is the love that's the

physical love, we can show if you want to translate that into

physical love. And if you want to kiss something on Kiss the

Bloodstone

because humans have this desire to do these things, I said you need

to go ombre if he was in Oman, said you need to go home or

multiple times. Or you learn love at home and then you go in you'll

see the difference or you go and you learn it they're similar

somebody else contacted me about just over a week ago I've been

doing vicar you know my own secret sessions, my own vicar amount. And

mashallah, sometimes I feel it. And most times they don't, and I

can't bring that presence.

That's there is not really something you can turn on and off

all the time. That the Presence of Allah you can't turn on and off.

Sometimes you can bring it on, like if you really focus. But I

said the whole purpose of these ADKAR are to get us into the

presence. That's why we sit down and c'est la ilaha illa, Allah

subhanaw taala. Otherwise, that's not the real vicar, the real vicar

to always be thinking about Allah. But we don't. So we sit down and

we forcefully do it, put ourselves compel ourselves to do so that

we're always remembering him. So what the person was saying is that

when I'm doing this, I'm not sometimes in a prison we're not

going to be because it's not our state yet. That's what we're

trying to create. So don't stop vicar because you don't feel that

because the vicar is to get there. A lot of people say I don't feel

right, I don't feel it. So what's the point of doing it? You're

doing it to create that effect. You're doing it to always think

that's why you're doing it. With anything else, you get bored of

the same thing but with Allah the more you do it, the more he will

finally come and allow us to have that presence. So hopefully that

gives us some understanding of of this May Allah subhanaw taala give

us the tools he can give us really allow us to go to his house and to

really benefit from their work without

Rana annual hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen.

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