Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Help Yourself Overcome Anxiety and Hypersensitivity
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The speakers discuss the benefits of managing one's life with anxiety, fear, and negative emotions. They stress the importance of avoiding overwhelming emotions and addressing health issues to manage one's life. The speaker also emphasizes the need to practice positive thinking and focus on positive things that have happened to one to avoid negative outcomes. They stress the importance of avoiding negative emotions and helping people to avoid negative consequences.
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Allah subhanho wa Taala continues to discuss until it says Hola,
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What Allah subhanaw taala says here is that the insan has been
created
with anxiety, it's something that is within a human's potential to
be anxious. So being anxious about certain things actually helps us
to take care of them. If we had a carefree attitude to everything,
and we were laid back in everything, then in that case,
what would happen is that people wouldn't be too worried about what
to do next and take care of their affairs and responsibilities, we
wouldn't have much progress and people would be very laid back
redundant. So there's a set of benefits in in having that concern
for things. But just like with everything else, everything that
we have even our internal faculties, our feelings are
characteristics, they need to be on moderation in balance, they
need to have they there needs to be an equilibrium. Otherwise, what
happens is that it then begins to harm us. And it is extremely than
detrimental. And that's what the problem is. So what we want to
speak about today is how to deal with anxiety and fretfulness how
to get over extreme worry how not to try to get there in the first
place.
Now, let me give you an example. You got some people who are just
always so concerned about things to such a degree that actually
debilitates them. Concern about things enough to spur you on to do
something about them is actually very beneficial. But if it's
something that's going to debilitate you, because you're
just worried about possible outcomes, you're worried about
negative outcomes rather. Because when your mind when a person's
mind goes in overdrive, then the mind can go in various different
places. I mean, you we all understand what kind of thoughts
Our minds are capable of, and especially with shaytaan, who
tries to rule us and tries to mislead us, by
debilitating us through extreme concerns and worries and griefs
and anxieties to such a degree that we feel overwhelmed and
overpowered and we feel helpless. And that's essentially what
shaytaan wants to do from us. And that is very debilitating. I'm
sure we've all seen people in that kind of estate. And we will say,
why can't they just snap out of it? Why can't they just help
themselves, but sometimes we do the same thing. And I think it's
very important whether we are prey to this all the time or whether we
fall vulnerable to these things all the time or not. It's just a
good idea that we understand how to approach these things, just so
that we can insha Allah protect ourselves better and maybe we can
help others as well.
I'll give you an example.
I came back from Hajj recently. May Allah subhanaw taala accept
and generally when a person comes back from Hajj, they generally
tend to have a bit of a cold or a bit of sore throat or something
like that a bit of a flu maybe. And because, you know, Hajj is a
very stressful situation you are mashallah day and night you are
totally changing your schedule, different climate food is
different, lots and lots of people and there's just the body becomes
vulnerable sometimes and the immunity the immune system becomes
a bit weaker Sometimes, though, mashallah, the heart gets
stronger. And I think this is all part of it. I think a person when
he comes back with some kind of, you know, cough or cold or
whatever the case is, and just to suffer that for a few days, I
think that's just kind of like the final wash after the hygiene or
some, maybe final
few sins, hopefully that that have that were remaining. This just
helps inshallah with the sub and patients to alleviate those and to
eradicate those things as well. So here, the problem is that it's
it's 17 1819 and 20 degrees outside that's that's the
centigrade and majority of people are not don't have a jacket on
necessarily, right they got maybe just some warm clothes on
Some people don't even have that. But most people are not with a
jacket. But I felt cold. And I'm looking around and everybody else
is fine, but I'm having to wrap things around me. Right? Why is
that 95 98% of the people outside don't have a problem with that
weather, but I am having an issue? Well, it's because of my raise
level of sensitivity to cold, I feel just feel more cold, the
degrees the same outside, the reality is the same for everybody.
But everybody perceives them differently. The majority of
people don't feel cold the way I did, and the way old people may
do. So I thought about this for a while. And it's the same thing
with griefs and worries, there are always going to be issues in front
of us. And they could be very simple issues, they don't have to
be very complicated. Or maybe they could be a bit more of a difficult
issue. Now it's up to us how we want to approach that if you want
to be bold and a bit carefree, willing to take a few risks, and
you have some experience, then they won't affect you. Whereas for
some people who are very sensitive, they just won't even
venture in that direction, it will deplete them. They may, there's a
lot of people who have great ideas to do things, but they never end
up doing them. Because they don't have the humor or they don't have
they just too beset with worry about the possible possible
negative outcomes that may come out from something like this. And
this is what debilitates people now, from a statistical point of
view, let us just
from a statistical point of view, let's just quickly look at
people's concerns and worries and how many of them actually
transpire and come to be. I mean, this is just normal research that
this is just normal research that tells you about these things. It
says that if you take a general person's average concerns they
have about something's right. Generally, when a person feels a
bit apprehensive about whether something's going to come about
happened in the way they wanted, or a bad thing is going to happen
or not a concern about something 40% of the things that we worry
about will never happen. This is a kind of statistic. Now, this is
obviously, the average 40% is just not going to happen. So you can
minus 40 personnel, you're only dealing with 60%. Now, out of that
now 30% of the things that people are generally worried and
concerned about, they are about something of the past, they're
done, they're a done deal, and there's nothing you can do about
them anymore. But there's still 30% of the things that that will
concern people will be things about the past. And they
essentially what they're doing is they actually crying over spilt
milk. So 40% will never happen 30% Are things in the past that you
can't, you don't have any control over you need to we just need to
get over them and try to do something better for the future.
So that 70% 12% 12% statistically involve the affairs of others and
actually do not concern us at all. So 12%, I've got to do with other
the other people in terms of the concerns that we have 10% relate
to sickness, whether that's real or imagined. So now, you've got
only 8% left. Basically, 92% is something that you don't really
have much control over. Because 40% will not happen. 30% is about
the past 12% is about somebody else, and about 10% is about
sickness. So all we've got left now is 8% of your worries are
actual worries to be concerned about if there's anything but
there's only 8% of that. So now you can decrease and you can rest
you can relax, you can breathe, you can breathe comfortably and
say okay, that's not going to happen in sha Allah. So this is
just purely from a statistical perspective, that's why 92% chance
that you're worrying about something that will never happen
to you 92% chance that you are worrying about something that will
never happen to you Subhanallah only 8% chance that it will happen
92% chance that it will not happen. This is the average. And
scientists that year university have actually discovered a worry
gene that can be inherited. Sometimes if I if if the mother
was very worried kind of person, sometimes some of the children are
like that. But it's the what the studies show is that you can
actually overcome it. It's not something that is just going to be
a bit more challenging for some people than others. But that is a
possibility, but it can be overcome. So now let us look at
what Allah subhanaw taala says in the verse that I read at the
beginning in Al Insana, Holika Heluva. Now this shows that Allah
subhanaw taala says man was created anxious, meaning that's
within a man to do that. Allah says Holy call in son or daughter
Eva, the human is weak. So yes, that's a weakness, but it's all
relative, we have weakness. So when we have an anxiety, there is
a benefit of having that while there's a massive debilitation and
negative impact if you allow it to overcome a person then Allah says,
so Allah says, in the inside a holy cow Khalifa either Messiah
Shall Rouge Azusa, what is master hula Jairo Manu Ah, il mousseline.
But he and he is fretful in bad times and miserly in good times.
Now this is negative, this is negative that when something good
happens to you become miserly, and when they are bad times and you
become very fretful and you have no Torkel. Then Allah subhanaw
taala makes an exception says there are people who are exempted
from this who don't believe that who don't act that way who avoid
this state, and that is people who, those who are regular in
their prayers, they are constantly finding solace in their Sadat in
the prayer, their prayer is proper is not just ritualistic, they are
actually focusing, they are actually connecting to Allah
subhanaw taala. They are actually feeling the presence of Allah
subhanaw taala that is a massive antidote to worries and concerns
and griefs for a lot of people. For anybody. That's what the
professor Lawson says that the coolness of my eyes is in solids
curato it is solid. And that is a massive, what Allah subhanaw taala
says these are the exemptions, who give a due share of their wealth
to beggars and deprived. So the first one is spiritual. The second
one is when you become active, and you do some social work, these
people will not have this kind of concern and worry, who take part
in action, who give wealth to beggars and the deprived who
believe in the Day of Judgment, their Eman is strong. So that
means that they believe on the Day of Judgment, that if somebody has
oppressed me, if I've been oppressed by somebody, if my
rights have been taken by somebody, I need not worry as much
right now. Because in the hereafter when the day matters,
when it's the time that matters, Allah subhanaw taala will be very
just and oppressed will be the oppressed will be events, and the
oppressors will be taken care of by Allah subhanaw taala and
punished, then Allah subhanaw taala at the end, then he says,
and they fear the punishment of the Lord. So the Imam is strong,
they believe in Allah, and they don't want to do anything wrong,
they can be careful about that. And then it continues. And there's
a number of other characteristics which you can check up in Surah
till marriage, which is the between verses 90 and 35. But
then, finally, Allah subhanaw taala tells us and informs us
about the benefit of such a person who avoids this grief and worry
and miserly sadness, and so on, and who prays and so on, they will
be honored in the gardens of bliss, fie Jannetty Mokra moon,
they will be honored in the gardens of bliss, this is the way
that we want because that's our ultimate ending how we want it. So
that's what Allah subhanaw taala says. Now let's look at a few
examples of anxiety. If you look at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam
the prophets of Allah who are alayhi wa salam had many causes to
worry about, because Subhanallah the amount of things that he was
doing, that he was responsible for the task that he had been
Subhanallah if you're given a task and you and it's a mountain, it's
a momentous task that you feel Subhanallah How am I going to be
able to even take care of this, believe me, it really makes you
concerned, it really gives you that anxiety, am I going to be
successful in this endeavor or not? And the prophets of Allah ism
is given one of the greatest tasks of all, which is to remove the
ignorance of the world to remove the darkness is that prevailed?
Because for nearly 600 years, just about nearly 600 years, no prophet
had come into the world after essentially his sudden, he had
come 560 or 70 years before. And now for all of those centuries,
there have been no prophet world had just sunken into darkness. His
job was to lift it out, to bring back the light, what a job what a
task Subhanallah now, what happens is he receives a number of
revelations ye he sees Jabril at Eastern RGB lighting console, he
received direct revelation, suddenly it stops. Now the people
around him who are his enemies, they begin to chide him, they
begin to censor him, they begin to mock him, and they say that your
shape on has abandoned you. They refer to Allah shaytaan. So your
shaytan has abandoned you. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is
concerned because he used to gain a lot of solace, a lot of comfort,
a lot of reassurance and baraka and blessing through the Wi Fi and
revelation that used to come but this was just Allah's plan. So the
prophesy Lawson became extremely worried and concerned. Then
finally, finally Allah subhanho wa Taala sends him Surah to Doha.
What Doha and it's called sorta to die, it starts off by a swearing
by the morning Allahu Akbar. It starts off swearing by the morning
what Doha and Doha for a lot of people they know that a lot of the
time their anxieties are worst in the night. Night is just one of
those states that people mostly because of the darkness just
because of how our bodies are made our our interaction with light and
darkness. So generally for a lot of people darkness brings about a
lot of misery and anxiety.
when morning comes they feel better when the sun shines and sun
comes out. They feel a lot better. So Allah subhanaw taala just
starts off this is what Doha by the morning by the morning light.
Well lady either soldier and by the night when it envelopes
everything when it dark and then when it covers everything, Mao was
corrupt Bukovina cada you Lord has not abandoned you. Your Lord has
not forsaken you.
So that is right from the beginning Allah tells him directly
that your Lord did not forsake you. Your Lord has not abandoned
you. Mao was a corrupt bukhoma color. What a hero to hire like
Amina Lula. And that the ending the next life, the final
consequence, the final abode is more superior for you is better
for you than this world. So don't worry, there may be difficulties
in the beginning, but later there will be openings they will be
conquest, they will be victories, they will be successes, and you
will reign supreme. So what I'll ask you to do highroller communal
hula What are so for your ote corrupt Buka for Tada. And your
Lord will give you will bestow upon you
and you will be made well satisfied. What Allah will give
you, it will make you happy, it will make you satisfied. Well, so
for your de gras Buddha for Tada. Now, this is the initial message
to the Prophet salallahu Salam that you will get all of this you
will be satisfied, the later time will be better than your earlier
time, the hero will be better than this dunya and your Lord has not
forsaken you. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala takes a number of
mentions a number of statements that relate to how we need to deal
with this.
First and foremost all of these are to do with our code so far,
all of these are to do with reliance and Allah subhanaw taala
keep your reliance strong in Allah and you will be successful. Then
Allah subhanho wa Taala tells him to do two different things. And
this is extremely important for us that anybody with concerns and
worries, this is the strategy they must use. Number one,
Allah subhanaw taala says Allah Mujib k a team and for our while
we're gender cabal and for Hedda waterjet, aka Elan for Alana. He
reminds him of three things, didn't you find you what you found
as an orphan, but then you were taken care of, and you were given
refuge? Weren't you then
found without direction. Once you found without knowledge, unaware,
darlin, the stronger term there would be deviant. But that doesn't
apply here because it's talking about being unaware in this case
for Haggadah, and thus Allah subhanaw taala guided you. And
then Allah subhana wa Jennika Elan for Algernon when found you in
need and thus he enriched you. So Allah subhanho wa Taala gave you
guidance, you are very helpless as an orphans. orphans are some of
the most help helpless categories of people that we have, because
they have nobody. widows are helpless. But orphans are even
more so they can't fend for themselves. They can't work, they
can't do anything. They are the most vulnerable people in our
society. And the Prophet said Allah was made to go through that
stage. But Allah says, wouldn't you like that? But you were then
taken care of when she then in need. But you were then supplied
and you were provided? And Weren't you then unaware? And Allah
subhanaw taala guided you? So it's done in the past? So this is a
focus on the past? That look, haven't you had good times in the
past? Why are you worried about having you done good things in the
past? Haven't good things happen to you in the past? Haven't you
been taken care of in the past, when you've been more vulnerable,
when you were a child and so on? We can all think that way. Allah
gave us things to look after us.
Now it's talking about activity, keep yourself busy, go and do
something for somebody else. So Allah subhanaw taala says after
that, or is it a doll and father Oh, agenda items for Amelia team
are further Takahara what a messiah Illa forgotten her. While
I'm been here, Matthew, Rob Baker for Hadith. It tells him to do two
three things now, which is actively doing something. The
first three things were reflection, we're just to get
positive in our life. And that's why many therapists today are
saying that if you suffer from anxieties and things of this
nature, depressions and so on and over, you know oversensitive to
grief and worries about things and you're always fretful about
things, then what you should do before you go to sleep, is that
you should take a pen, and you should actually write down a
number of good things that have happened to you. The reason for
all of this is because our mind has unfortunately become
habituated in that in a person who's like that, to think about
negatives all the time. It's just a habit to think of negatives. And
thus you just start focusing on negative Haven't you seen people
were always talking about negative things. When they assess a
situation that you know about, that is not as bad as they making
up they still make it to sound bad, and you can you can see
through it because
Do you actually know the reality? So when they talk about other
things that we don't know about? Right, we sometimes take their
words for granted. But when you actually find out, we'll find them
speaking about things that you do know about, and you see them
exaggerating and being overly negative, then you realize that
that's actually a negative trait that they have. And the way
they're coloring the picture, the way they're painting the picture
and depicting the scenario and incident to you, it's actually not
the reality. And this becomes a habit, right? And you'd rather
have a habit of being positive about things and overlooking the
negatives than being focused on the negatives and overlooking the
positives, because that is detrimental is bad for ourselves
and is bad for others in what we say to them. So Allah subhanaw
taala first tells the prophets, Allah Islam, to think of all good
things, therapists do the same thing today to make you write
things out that have been good, that that good things that have
happened to you. So you slowly, slowly start focusing, turning
away from the negatives, then
the Prophet SAW Allah Islam is told to be active. So he's saying
that anybody who comes to ask you a messiah, Allah, right, anybody
who comes to ask you who is in need, do not ever repel them? Do
not ever chase them away? Do not ever shoo them away, do something
for them. Right? Well, I'm Malia, tema, and he the orphan look after
them do not repel them either. So when an orphan comes to you, when
a person who's needy comes to you, you and you see somebody like that
look after them. That is exactly the same case with the Rohingya
issue today. We are basically WhatsApp people, that's what we
are. We're seeing all of this being downloaded onto our phones,
we're seeing the images, we're seeing the videos, and so on, so
forth. We're going on about we're forwarding them to others. But
really, what is the benefit of doing that? The only benefit of
that is to raise awareness, and you can do that. But why don't we
take the second step and actually do something about it, which means
either collect some money, send some, you know, do some
petitioning, do some campaigning, do some lobbying for our
government to do something because that's what's in our hands to do.
We don't do that kind of stuff. We just sit back and fret about it.
It's actually doing something. And as the professor Lawson, as Allah
says, In the Surah, to Doha, or Doha, a lady that says the same
thing, when you when there's your team, then you need to do
something you don't just repel them by not doing anything. And
lastly, what Allah subhanaw taala says, What am binaire Murthy Rob
Baker for Hadith
and when it comes to your the bounties that Allah has given you
Binette material because your loads bounties that he showered
upon you His gifts, and think about it be positive, what are the
gifts that you have Subhanallah, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
salam said in a hadith, you know, when you compare ourselves to
people in so many parts of the world, and probably the majority
of the world, there's one Hadith a small part in the province of
Assam said that anybody who wakes up in the morning, with good
health, decent enough health that you can pass through the day, you
don't know suffering from serious illnesses, you have security, and
you don't feel frightened. You don't feel you don't feel
threatened, you actually have secure Al Hamdulillah. We have
that in this country. And may Allah allow it to continue and
enjoy and prosper. And may Allah bring about security in other
parts of the world. It's bad, it's bad when you don't have security,
you have security and you have health two things. Number three,
you have your days needs you have food for the day.
Then it is as though the person said then this is as though the
whole world has been put at your, at your feet. The whole world has
been rolled up and given to you because that's all you need. You
need security for the day. You need your food and sustenance for
the day. And you need your help for the day. And day by day. If
you're getting this then you've got the whole world that's all you
really need. Subhanallah so what Amma be net material bigger for
Hadith acknowledge the bounties focus on the good. That's why
therapists that you focus on the positive things, many positive
things have mostly likely happened to you. There's no point fretting
over the wrong even though things do happen in our lives, but try to
focus on the good.
You see what we have to understand here, going back to the original
discussion that it's a level of sensitivity, it just
hypersensitivity to two things that concern people, while most
people will just deal with it, for example, there is a percentage of
people that can never fly, I actually ran into somebody
recently, they just can't fly, because they have a massive phobia
for flying even though it's actually more dangerous to ride in
a car than to fly in a plane in terms of the statistics of what
could go wrong in a car and what could go wrong in a plane and
you'd have to take literally 1000s of flights for that probability to
even exist that something wrong would happen to you but they just
have that phobia Subhanallah it just something in their mind. Now
that's, you know, whether that's a medical issue or psychological
issue. Allah knows best I won't deal with that because that's not
my realm. But what I'm saying here is that it's hypersensitive, just
like when you have a flu and a cold, you get more hypersensitive
towards
The cold even though other people don't feel it. So same thing here,
there's going to be concerns in our life, majority of the people
will have no problem with those things, but we will get anxious
over them. That is not the character of a Muslim. That's not
the character of a believer, we have to remember, try to surround
yourself with good people that talk positively otherwise, it just
aggravates the matter. It compounds the matter. I'll give
you an example. Allama Rumi,
a great Sufi from from Kanye, he gives a story. It's a very
interesting story. There was a race really one of these rough and
tough teachers who just seemed to be very merciless. And he was just
like a slave driver he had, he seemed to have no mercy for the
children. It was just very rough, very tough. And he's probably
living in a place where you can't actually go to the police and
complain, or you can go to the head teacher, they don't care, you
know, because it's the teacher, they just whatever the teacher
says goes, right. So now,
there was some clever, there was a clever student in his class, he
says, we need to do something about this. So he hatched a plot.
He said, Tomorrow when the teacher comes, right? Everybody must say
to the teacher, as they come in, oh, teacher, you look so pale
today, are you sick? You look different today. Your faces all
pale. So they all decided to do this. And of course, there's some
students who are frightened the beginning. But that one clever
story says, No, we need to all do this. And there can't be any harm
in this. So the next day that student walks in first, the
teacher is all sitting there ready? And students and Oh,
teacher, you know, how are you today? You look so different
today, You look pale. Now, the teacher immediately dismisses that
thinking that, you know, he just has to hold up that kind of very
strong and rough and powerful mode. So he says Go, go go sit
down, prepare for your work.
The next student comes in a few moments later, and he looks at the
teacher he says, Hello, Teacher, how are you? You know, you look
different today? What's going on? Are you Are you sick? So now the
teacher again tells him to sit down. But clearly now, these two
people have said it. And this is how humans react. He starts
feeling that is there something wrong, the third student comes in.
And he says something similar in a very sympathetic tone. So now the
teacher is building up the story for himself. And he actually is
now looking at himself. Am I really sick or not? Right? And
when all of the students have said that they've come in, they're
actually the student, the teacher actually now does feel bad. And
his face does change slightly. And he decides to call it a day. He
stops the class early and he goes home. When he goes home, his wife
is completely surprised that he never comes home so early. What's
going on? says How come you home so early?
And he just looks at and says, can't you see that I'm ill country
see my face has changed. Even the other strangers are sympathizing
with me about this, the students are sympathizing with me, you got
no sympathy, you got no sympathy, he starts an argument with a says
give me the blanket and, and the pillow I'm going to sleep. He made
himself sick, a rough and tough guy makes himself sick because of
what other people are saying, Stay away from negative people stay
away from negativity, that is basically the lesson of this
story. Stay with positive people, it will impact you positively. You
talk about negative things, it's going to impact you negatively,
it'll make you look at things the same way as they look at it. And
I've seen this as an example. Right? There was a woman that I
know she lived in an apartment complex with others, there was
another woman who was going through some miserable time with
her in her married life. And every day, every two days, when they
would meet, she would give her like a running commentary as a
soap opera, her whole life story was being told to this other woman
for you know, for for a few weeks. And the husband of the second
woman, the husband of this woman who was listening to the
stereotype found that she was now becoming edgy and agitated. And
similarly, you know, anxious, and
would you call it concerned as well. And what they discovered is
that this is actually just happening because she's listened
to the other person's story every day, and it taken a big interest.
And soap operas are actually designed to be you know, they're
artificial, clearly, but they're designed to create controversy,
and, you know, just be saucy, and be, you know, all of these
dramatic and everything else. And then sometimes we do the same
thing in the house and everything's artificial. That's
the problem. So even when you use words towards your husband and
wife to you or towards the spouse, it's just basically copied from
something and it's artificial. It's just doesn't work the same
way because that's the set scene that's been made up that's been
designed. Whereas we are natural human individuals that should just
say things in a spontaneous natural matter with a lot of more
love and concern and concern and affection for the other person. So
these are the issues that we have. So to to to finish. All we need to
do is a few things as men
should insert to Doha as the prophets Allah. Some did, though
that was a message for the prophets of the Lord assembly was
a message for all of mankind. Number one, let us just think
about the past and dwell on the past that there's great things
that have happened to us. We should never dwell on evil things
that have happened to us because they've happened already. And they
don't have to happen in the future. That's number one. Number
two, go get up and do something, clean the house. Right. There's a
lot of people who survive by
cleaning the house and just just doing things this is their way of
distracting themselves. Go and volunteer. You got we got this
Rohingya problem. We constantly have different problems, go and
volunteer and do something, collect some food, collect some
money, go and volunteer at your local center, your local masjid,
your local school, local Institute's, there's just so many
different things that you can go and help your neighbor, figure out
something, think of something.
Because what happens is that when you are occupied and doing things
for others, then your troubles our own troubles become miniscule,
they become insignificant, we see the trouble of others and that
gives us an extension to work on others than just concerned about
because we think we can't help ourselves. When we help others. It
gives you a great amount of satisfaction, a great amount of
satisfaction. And studies show that helping others gives you that
kind of satisfaction, when you actually are able to produce
something for others. So think about the past, think of the
positive things about the past and try to actively do something for
the future. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us
Tofik and divine endurance, divine divine capability, divine ability,
benevolence,
Providence to do these things for the sake of Allah subhanho wa
Taala and to remove our concerns and griefs and remove our problems
in over sensitivity of these things. May Allah subhanaw taala
help us may Allah subhanaw taala help us and may Allah subhanaw
taala assist us working with that Reiner and Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil
Alameen