Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – He Does Not Like Me

One thing that is extremely beneficial, especially when it's

to do with sentimental things, right, where you really want to

position where you really want to buy a car where you really want a

particular dress, where you really want to marry, marry somebody in

particular, but it's not forthcoming. Then one thing that I

found to be very useful in these cases is the dua obviously hora.

And essentially the reason I say this is because when your heart

becomes attached to something which you can't receive, which you

can't acquire, which you can't get, it's not coming to you, for

whatever reason, and you're feeling very sorrowful because of

your emotional attachment. You're headed head over heels in love or

whatever the case is, then, what do you do? It's literally a one

sided misery because the other side doesn't care. They don't even

know maybe, or even if they know they said, Well, that's your

problem. So it's such a isolated form of misery, that you're so

alone, and it can be so bad because nobody else wants to share

your misery. Talk to Allah subhanaw taala. Read the dua of

istikhara. The DUA obviously for is famous. It's popular you can

you can find in many different places, right? Read the door

obviously Hora is the Hora de da is Our Allah, I ask you now listen

to this carefully. It's I asked you, Allah Khomeini as the hero

can be ill Mika was stuck with the Euro can be Karateka was stuck

with the Roca because erotica was a LUCA in follicle, our theme for

in Nicotiana, what are LM? O Allah, I ask you, because you

know, I don't know, meaning, you know, the consequences of things,

you know, what's going to happen in five years, or 10 years or 20

years, or 30 years and 50 years, you know, essentially everything

and I know nothing, I really have no idea I can only see what's

happening right now just about, and I asked him from your Goodra

from your Omnipotence from your power, because I have no power,

because I have no real power to really do things and I am in this

in this state of helplessness.

And I asked you from your great and mighty grace mean for the

legal of him? Because you know, and I don't know.

I asked you is the hero look, it means I asked you for the best. I

asked you for the head. I asked you for the most excellent thing.

And that's what it is, is the harder comes from the word higher

higher means good and excellence right virtue is the horror is the

heart is the horror from Estacada is the it's the heart is the hero

is the heart and it essentially means to ask for this goodness

because we don't really know in what is goodness whether to do the

business or not to marry this person or not.

So then we say Oh ALLAH in Ghana had an Amana hire only Phoebe new

Amanda she while PBT Emery it's such a comprehensive to Aswan

Allah, if this matter that I'm contemplating or that I'm so

emotionally attached to it is good for me. If it is good for me for

my

if it's Clayton if he Dini for my dean, right is good for my dean

warmer, ashy, and it's good for my livelihood and my life in this

world. Right Mariah she while PBT, Emery and it's also good for the

consequence of my affairs, meaning, my my, the last thing

that's going to happen to me or the life hereafter, so essentially

for my future that is so comprehensive because we're not

only asking is it good for my team, but we also asking it's good

for my dean and my dunya it's good for my my life in this world. And

it's also good for my deen and it's also good for my Akira it's

such a comprehensive door so if this thing this activity this

proposal is good for me for this world and the hereafter and for my

been in dunya then give it to me for its it says he really Medina

you are ash morass, you were activated and he felt that they

really were serially or directly fee, then ordain it for me for

Kadir holy, then ordain it for me. And then make it easy for me,

facilitated for me, so it's not that it's ordained for me, you

will get it, but you will get it after a lot of hardship. No, give

it to me, ordain it to me and make it easy for me. All right. Now,

look how comprehensive the province of the lessons words are.

Give it to me, make it easy for me to get it right now sometimes a

thing you could get, it could be easy for you to get it but it's

going to be bad for you. So then it says what Berek Levy and give

me Baraka in it. Bless me in it. So if it's good for me, then don't

just give it to me. But give it to me make it easy for me and even

bless me in it so that I'm happy with it and it's good for every

aspect. We're in going to have a number of short run a short run

DVD knew about it and if this matter is evil for me, bad for me.

Negative for me, harmful for me. In terms of my Deen my livelihood

and the consequence of my affairs which means my hereafter and the

rest of my life and my hereafter

But then

turned me away from it.

Right? Suddenly, if he knew him as you were arguably foster if who

Annie firstly, foster if who Annie and take it away from me, was

really funny. And who knows, sometimes we're in a state where

we really want something because we got emotional attachment, but

it's not forthcoming. It's not coming to us. So we're saying,

take it away from me, well, it's already out, right, maybe we can't

get it. The problem is that we're still attached to it, we're

attached to something we can't get. So far stiff knee was really

funny, and who take it away from me, and then take me away from it

turn me away from it as well. This is the part that I want to focus

on. This is the part which will D touch you from your emotional

attachment. This is really powerful. Because you're saying,

if this is bad for me, and my emotional attachment is all in

vain, and is bad for me, then take it away from me and not take me

away from it as well. So it's not that, okay, I can't get it because

it's bad for me. But I also now don't want it. And I've realized

that it's not good for me, and I'm not going to get it and I'm not

going to pursue it anymore. And out of my emotional attachment,

I'm out of my depression, that is so powerful. And then it's not

finished and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has

the best in mind for all of us. So then he says, walk directly

through Gan, Sama, Aldini Bay, and

decree for me, ordained for me the best replacement, essentially,

wherever it is. So if it wasn't that guy we were after. Right? If

it wasn't that, boy, that man that you wanted to get married to, but

he's not agreeing to it. Right? He's not agreeing to it. And now

you've asked Allah subhanaw taala, to remove it from you and remove

you and turn you away from it as well. Well, obviously, you want to

get married to somebody that's nice. So you ask Allah subhanaw

taala is part of the same dua you say and ordained for me the best

wherever it is, because I might not know where it is. I may have

overlooked this point before, but give me the best wherever it is,

and then out of the knee Bay, and then make me satisfied and pleased

with it as well.

You cannot have a more comprehensive da, this is one of

the most comprehensive things of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi

wasallam Subhanallah, it is so comprehensive. And believe me if

your heart is broken in a situation like this, right? Even

if it's in a marriage make istikhara. And this common

understanding that you only make a Sahara for three days or seven

days is not really found in Hadith. It just says make us the

Haram, the Sahaba used to say we used to we used to be told to make

us the Hara. And I remember I will show you one of my sheiks, he told

me, you need to make a Sahara every day until the day you get

married, even if that's three months, because essentially is not

just about choice people think that is the car is all about

making a choice is not only about making a choice is about asking

for the good wherever it is. So if you're all fixed up, even if

you're all fixed up, it's all agreed, you know you've been

engaged and all the rest of it. Continue to make a Sahara until

the day it happens.

Right until the night before it happens. Because if it's good for

you, Allah will make it good for you make it better in every dollar

you make is never redundant. You always get something for it. Even

though your DUA must have been accepted you still continue to

make dua you'll get benefit from Allah will raise your status.

Allah will remove sins from you remove other calamities from you

and give you even better because it shows that you are asking Allah

subhanaw taala don't live out there with broken hearts go to

Allah because Allah subhanaw taala is there for you. He has told us

we just need to enlighten ourselves of the way to the way to

ask Allah subhanho wa Taala the way to turn to Allah subhanaw

taala to increase our reliance in Allah subhanho wa Taala and the

best of our examples is Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

So we look at his examples. And Allah subhanaw taala made him

happy, as he said in the Quran, we will make you happy, we will

elevate your vigor. And this is exactly what's happening with the

Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam, and it's declarative is very

powerful. And you can find in many of the DUA books you can do a

search for it online, you'll probably find this the harder you

read it ponder over the meaning don't just read it, like, you

know, like something that you don't understand and you know,

there's normally the underlying parts and you kind of just think

of your think of your delimiter because that really is not going

to give the vigor from your heart and the real, you know, the real

humility from your heart in front of Allah subhanaw taala read also

the meaning or ponder over the meaning while you are reading the

Arabic because the Arabic is more powerful. May Allah subhanaw taala

relieve all of those who have broken hearts out there. May Allah

subhanho wa Taala give us the best May Allah subhanaw taala grant is

topical and guidance and light so that we can always look for the

best working with that Rana and hamdulillah here Abila Atomy