Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – He Does Not Like Me
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The speakers discuss the benefits of being attached to a situation where one can't admit to it physically and the associated emotional attached it has. They also mention a proposal that is being criticized by a woman named Mariah and is a comprehensive proposal that is good for everyone. The speakers emphasize the importance of avoiding harmful elements and making a Sahara every day until the day it happens, while also mentioning a woman named D who is being removed from her work and turned away from her. The speakers also stress the importance of emotional attachment and being attached to something, as it is not a permanent fix.
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One thing that is extremely beneficial, especially when it's
to do with sentimental things, right, where you really want to
position where you really want to buy a car where you really want a
particular dress, where you really want to marry, marry somebody in
particular, but it's not forthcoming. Then one thing that I
found to be very useful in these cases is the dua obviously hora.
And essentially the reason I say this is because when your heart
becomes attached to something which you can't receive, which you
can't acquire, which you can't get, it's not coming to you, for
whatever reason, and you're feeling very sorrowful because of
your emotional attachment. You're headed head over heels in love or
whatever the case is, then, what do you do? It's literally a one
sided misery because the other side doesn't care. They don't even
know maybe, or even if they know they said, Well, that's your
problem. So it's such a isolated form of misery, that you're so
alone, and it can be so bad because nobody else wants to share
your misery. Talk to Allah subhanaw taala. Read the dua of
istikhara. The DUA obviously for is famous. It's popular you can
you can find in many different places, right? Read the door
obviously Hora is the Hora de da is Our Allah, I ask you now listen
to this carefully. It's I asked you, Allah Khomeini as the hero
can be ill Mika was stuck with the Euro can be Karateka was stuck
with the Roca because erotica was a LUCA in follicle, our theme for
in Nicotiana, what are LM? O Allah, I ask you, because you
know, I don't know, meaning, you know, the consequences of things,
you know, what's going to happen in five years, or 10 years or 20
years, or 30 years and 50 years, you know, essentially everything
and I know nothing, I really have no idea I can only see what's
happening right now just about, and I asked him from your Goodra
from your Omnipotence from your power, because I have no power,
because I have no real power to really do things and I am in this
in this state of helplessness.
And I asked you from your great and mighty grace mean for the
legal of him? Because you know, and I don't know.
I asked you is the hero look, it means I asked you for the best. I
asked you for the head. I asked you for the most excellent thing.
And that's what it is, is the harder comes from the word higher
higher means good and excellence right virtue is the horror is the
heart is the horror from Estacada is the it's the heart is the hero
is the heart and it essentially means to ask for this goodness
because we don't really know in what is goodness whether to do the
business or not to marry this person or not.
So then we say Oh ALLAH in Ghana had an Amana hire only Phoebe new
Amanda she while PBT Emery it's such a comprehensive to Aswan
Allah, if this matter that I'm contemplating or that I'm so
emotionally attached to it is good for me. If it is good for me for
my
if it's Clayton if he Dini for my dean, right is good for my dean
warmer, ashy, and it's good for my livelihood and my life in this
world. Right Mariah she while PBT, Emery and it's also good for the
consequence of my affairs, meaning, my my, the last thing
that's going to happen to me or the life hereafter, so essentially
for my future that is so comprehensive because we're not
only asking is it good for my team, but we also asking it's good
for my dean and my dunya it's good for my my life in this world. And
it's also good for my deen and it's also good for my Akira it's
such a comprehensive door so if this thing this activity this
proposal is good for me for this world and the hereafter and for my
been in dunya then give it to me for its it says he really Medina
you are ash morass, you were activated and he felt that they
really were serially or directly fee, then ordain it for me for
Kadir holy, then ordain it for me. And then make it easy for me,
facilitated for me, so it's not that it's ordained for me, you
will get it, but you will get it after a lot of hardship. No, give
it to me, ordain it to me and make it easy for me. All right. Now,
look how comprehensive the province of the lessons words are.
Give it to me, make it easy for me to get it right now sometimes a
thing you could get, it could be easy for you to get it but it's
going to be bad for you. So then it says what Berek Levy and give
me Baraka in it. Bless me in it. So if it's good for me, then don't
just give it to me. But give it to me make it easy for me and even
bless me in it so that I'm happy with it and it's good for every
aspect. We're in going to have a number of short run a short run
DVD knew about it and if this matter is evil for me, bad for me.
Negative for me, harmful for me. In terms of my Deen my livelihood
and the consequence of my affairs which means my hereafter and the
rest of my life and my hereafter
But then
turned me away from it.
Right? Suddenly, if he knew him as you were arguably foster if who
Annie firstly, foster if who Annie and take it away from me, was
really funny. And who knows, sometimes we're in a state where
we really want something because we got emotional attachment, but
it's not forthcoming. It's not coming to us. So we're saying,
take it away from me, well, it's already out, right, maybe we can't
get it. The problem is that we're still attached to it, we're
attached to something we can't get. So far stiff knee was really
funny, and who take it away from me, and then take me away from it
turn me away from it as well. This is the part that I want to focus
on. This is the part which will D touch you from your emotional
attachment. This is really powerful. Because you're saying,
if this is bad for me, and my emotional attachment is all in
vain, and is bad for me, then take it away from me and not take me
away from it as well. So it's not that, okay, I can't get it because
it's bad for me. But I also now don't want it. And I've realized
that it's not good for me, and I'm not going to get it and I'm not
going to pursue it anymore. And out of my emotional attachment,
I'm out of my depression, that is so powerful. And then it's not
finished and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has
the best in mind for all of us. So then he says, walk directly
through Gan, Sama, Aldini Bay, and
decree for me, ordained for me the best replacement, essentially,
wherever it is. So if it wasn't that guy we were after. Right? If
it wasn't that, boy, that man that you wanted to get married to, but
he's not agreeing to it. Right? He's not agreeing to it. And now
you've asked Allah subhanaw taala, to remove it from you and remove
you and turn you away from it as well. Well, obviously, you want to
get married to somebody that's nice. So you ask Allah subhanaw
taala is part of the same dua you say and ordained for me the best
wherever it is, because I might not know where it is. I may have
overlooked this point before, but give me the best wherever it is,
and then out of the knee Bay, and then make me satisfied and pleased
with it as well.
You cannot have a more comprehensive da, this is one of
the most comprehensive things of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wasallam Subhanallah, it is so comprehensive. And believe me if
your heart is broken in a situation like this, right? Even
if it's in a marriage make istikhara. And this common
understanding that you only make a Sahara for three days or seven
days is not really found in Hadith. It just says make us the
Haram, the Sahaba used to say we used to we used to be told to make
us the Hara. And I remember I will show you one of my sheiks, he told
me, you need to make a Sahara every day until the day you get
married, even if that's three months, because essentially is not
just about choice people think that is the car is all about
making a choice is not only about making a choice is about asking
for the good wherever it is. So if you're all fixed up, even if
you're all fixed up, it's all agreed, you know you've been
engaged and all the rest of it. Continue to make a Sahara until
the day it happens.
Right until the night before it happens. Because if it's good for
you, Allah will make it good for you make it better in every dollar
you make is never redundant. You always get something for it. Even
though your DUA must have been accepted you still continue to
make dua you'll get benefit from Allah will raise your status.
Allah will remove sins from you remove other calamities from you
and give you even better because it shows that you are asking Allah
subhanaw taala don't live out there with broken hearts go to
Allah because Allah subhanaw taala is there for you. He has told us
we just need to enlighten ourselves of the way to the way to
ask Allah subhanho wa Taala the way to turn to Allah subhanaw
taala to increase our reliance in Allah subhanho wa Taala and the
best of our examples is Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
So we look at his examples. And Allah subhanaw taala made him
happy, as he said in the Quran, we will make you happy, we will
elevate your vigor. And this is exactly what's happening with the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam, and it's declarative is very
powerful. And you can find in many of the DUA books you can do a
search for it online, you'll probably find this the harder you
read it ponder over the meaning don't just read it, like, you
know, like something that you don't understand and you know,
there's normally the underlying parts and you kind of just think
of your think of your delimiter because that really is not going
to give the vigor from your heart and the real, you know, the real
humility from your heart in front of Allah subhanaw taala read also
the meaning or ponder over the meaning while you are reading the
Arabic because the Arabic is more powerful. May Allah subhanaw taala
relieve all of those who have broken hearts out there. May Allah
subhanho wa Taala give us the best May Allah subhanaw taala grant is
topical and guidance and light so that we can always look for the
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