Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Four Simple Steps to Improving Our Character

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The importance of belief in Islam is emphasized, along with finding one's own character and balancing knowledge and anger. Success in Islam is emphasized, along with the success of Islam in bringing people to remember them and being recognized by others. The physical and mental health of individuals is also discussed, along with the success of Islam in bringing people to remember them and being recognized by others. Success in good character for personal success and social interaction is emphasized, along with the success of Islam in bringing people to remember them and being recognized by others.

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			Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al
Hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah Hamdan
		
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			Kofi on the human mobile or confy
Mubarak and it Goma your headboard
		
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			on buena wire dot
		
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			Jalla Jalla, who am in a word wa
salatu salam ala. So you will have
		
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			even Mustafa SallAllahu Derrida
already who are in early he or
		
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			Safi or Baraka are seldom at the
Sleeman Kathira on Eli Yomi Dean
		
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			and Bart
		
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			Allahumma salli ala Sayyidina
Muhammad wa ala Sayidina Muhammad
		
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			Robert Ecosa Lim
		
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			got along with the baraka with
Derrida
		
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			who the Laffer white marble
		
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			Rodolphe, we're already Daniel Jr.
hitting
		
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			record an abuse of Allahu alayhi
wa sallam
		
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			in
		
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			Arsenicum in a year, we're acabo
Kamini imagination yo milk.
		
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			A house in Omaha can
		
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			call in the view of sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam in the Melbourne
		
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			to Luton Mima macadam and a HELOC.
		
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			My dear respected sisters
		
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			our faith is generally an internal
thing. It's an internal aspect of
		
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			us where we hold these beliefs in
Allah subhanaw taala being our
		
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			Supreme Creator, and the one we
need to please.
		
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			And then we believe in the angels
and the prophets and the divine
		
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			Scriptures revealed by Allah
subhana wa Tada we believe in the
		
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			last day. We also believe in
destiny, that all good and bad
		
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			that happens in this world is from
Allah subhanaw taala.
		
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			That's a very internal belief. But
this internal belief of us it
		
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			actually governs the way we live.
It governs the way we behave, it
		
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			governs the way we conduct
ourselves with others, the way we
		
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			interact with others, the way we
instruct others, the way we
		
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			respond to others, and the way we
respond to others that is
		
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			obviously based on this belief in
our heart and it's also based on
		
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			certain faculties within us that
need a level of moderation for our
		
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			external behavior to be moderate
and to be acceptable in the sight
		
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			of Allah subhanho wa Taala the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam, he said that I was sent to
complete and perfect good
		
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			character with the MIMO OTA MIMO
McCurdy with a HELOC. Mima
		
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			mCherry, one o'clock I was sent to
perfect good character.
		
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			See, another way to look at this
is that faith is the basis it's
		
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			the it's the foundation of our
faith.
		
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			The foundations people don't see,
they need to be very strong,
		
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			though, for everything that's
built on it to last and to
		
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			stabilize and to, to stand up and
to persevere and to remain and to
		
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			endure the external elements and
to be able to deal with them in a
		
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			way. So both a structure on the
outer corner when for example,
		
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			this masjid, mashallah, as soon as
I came, I haven't been to this
		
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			masjid for a very long time. And
when I saw it, it looks like a
		
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			mashallah very strong structure.
It has like a castle like
		
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			appearance. And it's a very strong
structure. Now we can look at the
		
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			foundations, but obviously, to the
purpose of the external facade of
		
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			this building. And the way it
looks, is to look beautiful, to
		
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			look attractive, to look inviting,
it's a muscle at the end of the
		
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			day. So all of these things have
been taken into consideration. But
		
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			at the same time, it also has to
withstand the elements it has to
		
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			withstand, it has to be
protecting, it has to be
		
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			protected, protecting of those who
are inside of the rain, etc, etc.
		
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			So not only is it doing a work of
inviting, which is a transitive
		
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			kind of action, where it's
actually sending a message. But at
		
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			the same time, it's also
protecting inside as well. Now,
		
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			all of that, obviously, is based
on design. And it's based on what
		
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			went into it and the foundation
that's there, our Islam in a very
		
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			similar way. That was that's what
forms our basis, our foundation,
		
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			however, the external aspect of
it, that the beauty of it how you
		
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			can you can be a person of
affection, of love, of
		
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			understanding of compromise of
assistance of compassion, how we
		
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			are like that. That's all based on
our character, how we show and
		
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			express our character. At the end
of the day, our foundations of
		
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			Islam could be whatever they are
inside, but if they're not
		
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			translated, and they're not
showing outside, that we're
		
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			inviting people, to Islam to
goodness to beauty, we're not
		
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			tolerant with people we're not.
		
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			We're not compassionate towards
people. And we're not able to
		
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			respond to anything that comes our
way in an amicable in a good way.
		
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			Right? So that means that our
structures got a problem and
		
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			that's probably based on the fact
that our foundation is also
		
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			problematic to a certain degree.
So essentially, our Imani yards
		
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			are a very internal thing that
forms our basis, but what we're
		
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			going to show
		
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			To others, and what we're going to
how we're going to deal with
		
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			others, that's all based on our
clock and character. So the side
		
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			that we show to others, that's the
side of our character, which is
		
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			obviously based on our belief. So
today, we want to study this link
		
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			between these two, to see how we
can improve the outside and thus
		
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			also improve our inside and then
improve our insight to be able to
		
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			improve our outside. So firstly,
we need to take this fallacy out
		
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			of our mind that, you know, you
could be praying a lot, you could
		
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			be fasting every Monday and
Thursday, three days a month,
		
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			Ramadan, of course, and all the
other sunnah and muster half days
		
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			of the year. But then when it
comes to meeting with people were
		
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			very ugly about that. You know,
we're not very, very amicable
		
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			about that the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam said that meno
		
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			metallophone What are how you have
human law yet live? What are you
		
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			love? The believer is a place of
affection. The believer is a place
		
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			of Congeniality. It's a place of
honor. It's a place where you
		
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			don't you feel good with that
person. There's benefit to be
		
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			gained from that person. And then
the Prophet sallallahu sallam said
		
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			law Hira, there is no good, there
is no good and merit in the one
		
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			who is neither affectionate and
congenial, like that to others, or
		
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			who's not treated in that way,
because people shun that person,
		
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			because of some evil of them.
Remember, a deceptive person, for
		
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			example, to just highlight one
aspect of bad character, a person
		
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			goes on this deceiving. Deception
is never going to work, work
		
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			permanently, you can deceive some
people for some days, but you
		
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			can't deceive everybody all the
time, right? Because that's just
		
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			the way Allah subhanaw taala has
created us in humans. And the
		
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			nature of deception is that, in
fact, one of the earlier mentioned
		
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			is that deception, you know, this
habit of being deceptive being two
		
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			faced, not showing your true self,
but actually, you know, saying one
		
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			thing to one person saying hello
to another person, or deception in
		
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			any way whatsoever, whatever that
we may be. That it's like, it's
		
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			like a short blanket. You know, if
you've got a short blanket or a
		
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			duvet at home, and it's cold, you
want to cover your head, then your
		
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			feet are gonna get exposed. And if
you try to cover your feet, then
		
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			your head is gonna get exposed. So
you're constantly in this turmoil,
		
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			that things are becoming exposed
of us. If we're deceptive, and
		
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			we're trying to cover that up,
we're trying to lie here. That's
		
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			why they say that deception comes
brings about lying, lying, it's
		
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			part of lying, actually, it's part
of falsehood. And you know, the
		
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			problem with falsehood is that if
you don't ever lie, then you never
		
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			have to remember what you said
last time. That's the beauty of
		
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			it. Because it doesn't matter what
you say, you don't have to make up
		
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			a story. You can just be honest,
you are what you get, you know the
		
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			user you are what you see
essentially, that's the way humans
		
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			should be. That's the way Muslims
should be. That's the way
		
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			believers should be so that a
HELOC, the outside is actually the
		
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			structure as we show it outside.
And that has to be based on
		
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			certain Islamic Imani faculties
inside. Now let's understand those
		
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			Imani faculties just to give us an
understanding the person we know
		
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			to have had the absolute best
character in the entire history of
		
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			man is the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam. That's why Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala says to him in the
Quran, we're in luck Allah Allah
		
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			hood Okay, now him that you are
		
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			on the most sublime character,
meaning you are on the most
		
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			excellent level of character and
you know that there's nothing
		
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			beyond that. So that's the praise
that he gets from the Lord of the
		
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			worlds from the from from the one
who sends down good character who
		
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			instructs us to have good
character that's a certification
		
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			from Allah subhanaw taala. Now the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam Abdullah, the Allah one
relates that a probably selasa
		
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			used to constantly, constantly
encourage good character and teach
		
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			good character. And that's exactly
what the Bruce Rossum himself said
		
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			he gave two he said two things.
Number one, he said that imagine a
		
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			structure a beautiful structure,
right? Like when I came to the
		
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			masjid, I really liked the
structure. So now you've got
		
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			somebody who goes around a
structure, just totally admiring,
		
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			the way it's been constructed.
It's been designed the way it's
		
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			been laid out. And everything in a
Sunday when they get to one place
		
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			of the structure, all of a sudden,
that there's this glaring, missing
		
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			piece, or missing brick or a block
or something like that, and it
		
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			just looks out of sync. It just
totally destroys the harmony of
		
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			that structure. Right? The
consistency is suddenly
		
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			interrupted with this brick or
with this block, or with this
		
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			finishing that's missing. So then
he wonders what is that? So the
		
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			Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam
after striking this example, he
		
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			says that Erna till Colombina I Am
that I Am that brick. So I have
		
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			come to complete and perfect, good
character, the cherry on the top.
		
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			So the prophets before me, they
taught good character, but Islam
		
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			teaches the highest level of
character, and that's what He
		
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			expects of the of its members of
each one of us. That that's how we
		
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			act with everybody around us. It's
very important. That's why the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said it decayed that with
		
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			the most room for inner who lays
obeying Allah He lays Sabina who
		
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			have been Allah hijab that be wear
or be careful. Be warned of the
		
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			Dawa.
		
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			The door or the back door or the
curse of the Muslim, the person
		
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			who's oppressed in any way shape
or form, because he has a direct
		
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			link, that person will have a
direct link, or whoever it is he
		
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			or she will have a direct link
with Allah subhanaw taala there is
		
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			no veil in between the doors
accepted against a person that's
		
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			oppressing them. So somebody
asked, What about a gaffer, he
		
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			said, even a Kaffir of loom is a
Muslim, so you can't even oppress
		
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			kuffaar You can't even oppress non
Muslims, disbelievers. You know,
		
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			what are people of other faiths,
however, you know, you want to
		
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			categorize that. So it's very
important that character is heard.
		
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			Now wonder Allah mentioned from
from previously, that character is
		
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			based on three main faculties of
doubt, some have said four
		
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			faculties, but three main
faculties and if we look at the
		
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			soul of Allah, sallAllahu, alayhi
wasallam, having the best
		
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			character, he had these faculties
in complete sync, in complete
		
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			moderation, complete equilibrium.
And these three Faculties one is
		
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			that the faculty of knowledge,
knowledge, to know how to live in
		
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			this world, but our pursuit of our
knowledge need that there are
		
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			limits to it, because we are human
beings, we're limited in beings,
		
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			creatures, individuals, we don't
have the knowledge of everything
		
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			that's possible out there. That's
why beyond a certain realm, we
		
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			have to then rely on Allah
subhanahu wa taala, we have to
		
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			rely on what Allah subhanaw taala
reveals in His scriptures for us
		
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			to gain that knowledge, for
example, in the knowledge of the
		
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			Hereafter, of course, you can work
it out by logic as to this there
		
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			should be a place to, to give, to
give people a lot of reward for
		
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			what they've done in this world,
this world doesn't have the
		
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			ability. It's very constrained, it
can't Allah subhanaw taala in this
		
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			world give sufficient reward as he
would like to give. So he's
		
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			created a special place called
Jana, and likewise, for punishment
		
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			is created to place place of a
call hellfire. So you may be able
		
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			to work that out logically. But
really, at the end of the day, the
		
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			real knowledge of this has to be
based on a belief of the unseen,
		
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			which we get from Allah subhanaw
taala. So, it for us to go into
		
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			realms and go into philosophical
aspects of the metaphysics of this
		
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			world to try to understand how
things work, whereas we haven't
		
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			been given the programming of
them, then that is going with
		
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			beyond the equilibrium. On the
other hand, some people may be
		
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			guilty of this. But on the other
hand, whereas some of us are
		
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			guilty of the other side of
shortcoming, where we don't even
		
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			study what's necessary for us, we
think it's just enough to just
		
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			make sure you do your salad on
time and so on. But we don't know
		
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			how to do our trade and business.
We don't know how to deal with our
		
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			neighbors. I'll give you an
example. I went to one of the I
		
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			was in one of the one of the towns
close by, and one of the Northern
		
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			towns, I was dropping my family
off, I was gonna go for solitude,
		
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			Asia Times, it was dark, I was
dropping my family of her friend's
		
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			house. Right. And I was going, I
was going for solid. So as I was
		
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			dropping them off to three
minutes, what I suddenly noticed
		
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			that on the left hand side house
of the house that we were dropping
		
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			the family of it, there's somebody
looking from the window, right?
		
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			There's somebody looking from the
window. Now, it's not like they
		
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			just look to see who's there.
Because obviously, neighborhood
		
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			watch is a good thing where you
know, it's coming to your
		
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			neighbor's house, you have to be,
you know, fearful of these things,
		
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			you have to be careful about these
things. But this person kept
		
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			looking, this person kept looking
for the whole duration that we
		
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			were there. So I thought, okay,
maybe they're waiting for
		
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			somebody, maybe she's waiting for
somebody to come through and just
		
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			watching that maybe their guests
are going to come or something
		
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			like that. And then I went away to
the masjid, I came back then after
		
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			half an hour or something, I came
back. And as we're leaving them
		
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			from this place, we suddenly
noticed that there's somebody
		
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			looking now from the next window
from the other side, the right
		
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			hand side. And it's not like they
just kind of peek. Okay, who's
		
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			that? Again, it's this constant
watch until we left. And it was
		
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			just like you're being watched.
You know, like, I know, the
		
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			government watches us, but they do
it clean this timely. This is
		
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			like, you know, a watch. And it's
quite, it's bad luck. You know,
		
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			one is the level that you need to
be careful of who's coming to your
		
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			neighbor's house. But then there's
this other level of making them
		
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			and they get feel uncomfortable
that somebody's watching us. Now
		
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			the problem is that some of you
who are listening to this who may
		
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			have experienced this or who you
know who who who might have this
		
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			happening around them, you might
be quite used to it. You might be
		
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			thinking once you make a beat
making a big deal out of but
		
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			believe me, that's bad. Luck is
bad character. You know, one is
		
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			that you kind of just peek out
from the curtain. Nobody kind of
		
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			sees you one. I understand that.
But this is blatant where you like
		
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			half open and and you're watching
as though it's a show going on.
		
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			That's bad luck. That's why Imam
Shafi Rahmatullah. He says that
		
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			travel because travel has five
benefits. And one of the things
		
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			that he mentioned in there was
that one of the benefits of
		
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			traveling is that you learn good
character, and I thought over that
		
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			for a very long time.
		
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			What does that mean by good
character in one of the
		
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			commentaries? What I what what had
been explained was that, you know,
		
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			if you think about this for a
while you'll you'll understand
		
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			this that sometimes what happens
is that we have some inherent bad
		
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			character qualities within our
community or families that we have
		
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			gotten used to, because we've
grown up with it, we're quite used
		
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			to it. Right? When we see it, it's
not a problem, for example, in
		
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			certain areas of the but it's
quite normal Backbiting is quite
		
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			normal, we are alumni will sit we
will listen to the but we won't
		
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			even think it's bad SubhanAllah.
And then when you move to another
		
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			area, and you travel, and you go
and you stay with other people and
		
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			Subhanallah, you notice that
they're very careful about how
		
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			they speak about somebody, they're
not willing to do that. And that
		
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			is exactly what happened to me, I
went to one area where I moved and
		
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			Subhanallah, I noticed that people
were very careful about what they
		
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			spoke of how they spoke about
other people, that's when I
		
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			realized that you know that
there's a problem here, do you
		
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			understand, so sometimes we get
very accustomed very used to bad
		
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			characters, or traveling really
helps us. The other thing is
		
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			obviously to just have penetrating
insight. Because the way we are as
		
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			the other might explain it is that
you'll see you'll see a splinter
		
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			in somebody else's eye, but you
have a big log in your own eyes,
		
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			and you won't see it. So you've
got major problems in your own
		
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			self, we won't see it because we
love ourselves too much. But with
		
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			others, it will create hatred for
them, just by seeing a small
		
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			defect in somebody else. So
somebody's got a small defect, and
		
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			we'll start to hate them for that
defect. And we have this animosity
		
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			in our heart towards them. But on
the other hand, we've got major
		
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			problems within ourselves because
we love ourselves so much. The
		
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			Arabic word of Proverbs says, how
Bucha your me why you seem that
		
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			the love of something, the love of
something makes you blind and
		
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			deaf, so you can't see it because
you love yourself that's dominate
		
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			this is quite a natural, not
natural human phenomenon. These
		
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			are just quite natural things that
we could even be excused for, in a
		
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			sense, but not as believers,
because that's exactly what Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala is trying to point
out in the Quran. And the prophets
		
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			of Allah has told us over and over
again, in the Hadith, that these
		
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			are things that we need to
realize, and we need to see. So
		
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			these may seem insignificant, but
that's really what builds our
		
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			character. So the first one is to
know the knowledge of what's right
		
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			and what's wrong. What's the best
way in doing things, what's our
		
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			responsibilities of knowing Allah,
subhanaw, taala, etc. To have
		
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			insufficient knowledge is another
extreme, which many of us may be
		
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			guilty of where we don't know how
to act in a particular way, or do
		
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			something in a particular
situation. So that's knowledge
		
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			number two. Number two, is what
they call the hot labia, which
		
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			means that the faculty have anger
within us. Now, again, that needs
		
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			to be in equal equilibrium, it
needs to be balanced. What that
		
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			means is, if somebody's got too
much anger, what's it going to
		
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			lead to, it's going to lead to
them always being red in the face
		
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			is going to be it's going to lead
them to be always angry, and
		
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			always like stern looking, and
always like ready to just, you
		
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			know, lash out at somebody more, a
more extreme expression of that is
		
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			how some of these rulers when they
have this anger, they go on a
		
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			rampage, they kill people, there's
an isolation taking place.
		
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			There's, you know, there's ethnic
cleansing, there's, there's
		
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			murder, there's killing just on a
whim, you know, her judging the
		
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			use of you know, his story, you
know, some of the recent
		
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			happenings in these countries are
based on an excessive anger set
		
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			problem. That's because it's out
of equilibrium. Now, on the other
		
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			hand, you can't say, well, we
can't have any anger at all,
		
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			because anger is very essential to
us, we need a certain level of it
		
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			of this faculty of anger, right.
So now, if somebody has to too
		
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			much of a shortcoming in that
regard, then there's going to be
		
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			problems there as well. For
example, you're going to be you
		
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			know, if you have got if you if
you've got shortcoming with your
		
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			faculty of anger, then it's going
to lead to cowardice. You're going
		
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			to be sitting there, your your
mom's being abused, your family is
		
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			being abused, your profits being
abused, your religions being
		
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			abused, and you just can't care
less, nothing in you is there to
		
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			inspire you to stand up and do
something to respond, you know, in
		
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			a good way. We're not saying
respond in a bad way. We're not
		
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			saying you have to get up and get
angry about it. But to even
		
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			respond, this is like, You're so
calm, right? It's not even calm.
		
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			It's like actually lassitude. It's
just total, total laid back
		
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			attitude. That's what you call
cowardliness. Right? So you won't
		
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			even fulfill the rights that are
required for you as a human being,
		
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			to be able to stand up for
yourself and do something, you'll
		
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			have no self dignity, you'll have
no self esteem, you'll have no
		
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			self respect, because you don't
mind being abused because you just
		
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			nothing moves in you Subhanallah
right, that's what you call we
		
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			need equilibrium in our other
beer. Now the third one is called
		
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			Shania, which means the desire
aspect now that manifests itself
		
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			in different ways in terms of
eating in terms of, you know,
		
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			sexual relationship, and all of
that husband wife relationship,
		
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			that that's where the shadow Ania
now that's a major problem again,
		
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			because if that is not in
equilibrium, and you've got too
		
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			much of it, then it leads to all
of these harms. So a person is
		
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			then indulgent in what they eat.
		
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			stuffing themselves and becoming,
you know, they've got diseases and
		
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			problems and so on, but they can't
curb their desire, right? They've
		
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			got issues, they're still doing
that. They just you know, it leads
		
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			to gluttony, it leads to obesity,
etc, health problems, we know it,
		
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			but we still do it because the
chapeau within us the desire for
		
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			this food is out of sync, right.
On the other hand, the person will
		
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			not be satisfied with the halal
ways that Allah subhanaw taala has
		
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			given them to fulfill their
desire, husband and wife properly
		
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			know, they'll be looking at
others, the wife will be
		
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			complaining about it, the husband
will be complaining about the wife
		
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			if the wife's got that problem.
And today, this is a major
		
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			problem, right? This is where
* etc This is
		
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			* is based on an an out
of sync equilibrium, you know, an
		
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			out of sync faculty of shower,
where we're going beyond that, and
		
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			then people go even beyond that,
they actually commit Zina,
		
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			etcetera, etcetera. That is where
it's excessive. Now, on the other
		
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			hand, there is a shortcoming as
well, it could be a shortcoming.
		
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			The shortcoming is that a person
is just again, just so laid back
		
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			has just no desire that they don't
even fulfill their spouses,
		
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			spouses rights, and then spouse is
frustrated, and SubhanAllah. We've
		
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			got problems with this as well in
our communities. When we know that
		
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			all three of these are kind of in
moderation. He mentioned him like
		
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			a graphic equalizer, where if you
put one side up, it thins the
		
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			voice, or it raises the higher
tones. On another hand, it raises
		
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			the bass, you know, this is what
we're talking about needs to be in
		
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			complete balance. And the most
balanced individual ever to live
		
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			was that Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam.
		
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			He had the perfect equilibrium.
That's why somebody comes to him.
		
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			And once they were there was a
there was a Jewish individual who
		
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			had read of the Prophet salallahu
Alaihe Salam signed the new
		
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			prophet signs, and he'd absorbed
all of them. And he just wanted to
		
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			satisfy one more where it which
was about this anger issue. So one
		
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			day, he lent some lent some money
or lent something dates or
		
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			something, sold something to him,
that you'll pay me later, or
		
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			you'll give me the dates later.
And then a few days before it was
		
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			supposed to be due right earlier
than the time limit earlier than
		
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			when he was stipulated. He comes
to the Prophet salallahu Salam,
		
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			and just very roughly says to him,
man, you guys, you know, you, your
		
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			family. He specifically indicated
his family, you guys have not
		
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			alone. You guys always delay debt,
you know, you delay repayment of
		
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			debt, you have this problem and so
on. And the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			sallam was very calm, or the
Allahu Akbar he got really angry.
		
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			So let me sort this person out. So
the prophets Allah, some said,
		
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			Said, said to Omar, radi, Allahu,
and he said, Your Honor, I didn't
		
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			expect that from you, I expected
you to have advised me. Right, I
		
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			would have, you know, I would have
expected you to advise me that
		
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			look, you should pay back in time.
And then you could have advised
		
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			him to say, Look, you should give
more time. Now, the professor
		
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			Lawson could have argued and said,
No, man, you've come three days
		
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			before, you know, you have come
three days before and become
		
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			defensive. And at this aggressive
attitude, you're gonna say, Look,
		
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			I'm not, you know, like, there's
some people when they get angry
		
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			about these things, I'm not gonna
give it to you for two weeks now.
		
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			I'm gonna give it to next year
now. And then they messed him
		
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			around. But the process hasn't did
the total opposite. That's why the
		
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			those were very close in, they
said that, you know, when people
		
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			acted in this insolent way towards
him, he became even more Clement,
		
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			which was so beautiful. They acted
incidentally, rudely aggressively
		
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			towards him, it actually made him
more calmer. If it was personal.
		
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			If it was religious, then then
then he wouldn't stand for that,
		
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			for religion, he had to stand up
for a straighter when it was
		
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			personal, he would just be very
forgiving. So that's what he told
		
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			me tomorrow, the Allah one, you
should actually be advising me to,
		
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			to repay him and make good in my
debts and so on. And, and he you
		
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			could have advised him that look,
give him some time and so on. So
		
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			now then he told him, what are the
Ilana look, since it's happened,
		
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			you go now and give him what give
him the dates that he wants, give
		
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			him the payment that he needs, and
give him one extra as well,
		
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			because of what's happened. So
when they were going, suddenly
		
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			this person told her mother the
Allahu anhu, that, you know,
		
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			honestly, speaking, this was just
a test that I knew, I saw all the
		
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			other signs, and they were
perfect. This was just the last
		
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			time that I had to see that if
somebody acts weird with him like
		
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			this, if somebody acts rudely with
him like this is just going to
		
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			increase his forbearance, clemency
and His mercy and His tolerant
		
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			nature. And I've seen that today
and the person became a Muslim.
		
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			Right. So now, of course, there
are places where you have to get
		
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			angry, where you have to show your
anger, there are places like that,
		
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			but again, it just needs to be
governed in this particular way.
		
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			So we've got the three faculties,
the faculty of knowledge, we've
		
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			got the faculty of anger, we've
got the faculty of desire, they
		
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			need to be imperfect moderation.
Now with the force, Hola, and then
		
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			the Sahaba you will see that most
of them were very close to the
		
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			same balance of Rasulullah
sallallahu sallam, but nobody was
		
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			as perfect as a solo.
		
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			last and last because only
Rasulullah Sampson was perfect
		
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			because that's Allah subhanho wa
Taala is doing with the price a
		
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			lot of Salam. But so you see that
Omar the Allah and His angle was
		
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			just slightly above that of
boubakeur, the Allah one that
		
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			whenever, whenever he was really a
worker, the worker, the loan would
		
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			try to be the more forgiving one
way as I wanted to say, you know,
		
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			let's take this approach instead.
So you've got the equilibrium row
		
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			now, where are we in this on this
scale? That's what we have to look
		
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			at, if we've got a problem with
getting angry a lot, that we need
		
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			to work on that. And that's how
the professor Larson was told us
		
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			to work on is now how would you
work on these things? Firstly, you
		
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			can't work on these things, unless
we noticed that we've got a
		
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			problem. And I think today, this
is the absolute biggest problem we
		
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			have. You know, I'm telling you,
there are people who will come to
		
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			me, and you know, with all
honesty, they'll they'll tell me,
		
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			this is what we see. And you have
to be able to take it as a
		
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			publisher, right, I've learned to
take criticism, what that means
		
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			is, if I send a written piece to
somebody, and they come back, with
		
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			no red lines on it, saying,
mashallah, it's good, I will never
		
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			send anything back to that person.
Because that's not what I want to
		
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			hear. We want this to be as
perfect as possible, as as good as
		
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			possible before it goes out in the
public, you're going to publish a
		
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			book, for example. So if I've
written something, I want you to
		
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			criticize it. This is the time for
constructive criticism, not
		
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			negative criticism, constructive
criticism, I don't have to
		
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			necessarily take everything. So I
will find editors that are willing
		
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			to give honest feedback and look
at it, you know, in a constructive
		
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			way. So now, let's say I've sent
it out to three people, I don't
		
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			have to accept what all three of
them say, if I did it become a
		
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			different piece of work. But I can
look at it, I can evaluate that.
		
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			Okay, yes, this one I agree with
this one I don't agree with this
		
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			one will be suitable. This won't
be beneficial, but not this one.
		
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			Right? Because not everybody is
going to come from the same
		
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			direction as your methodology as
your perspective as the way you
		
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			want to provide things. But you
have, you can't be offended. Look
		
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			at all of the red marks on here.
You can't be and I used to get
		
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			offended. But then I noticed that
there's no point getting offended.
		
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			At the end of the day. It's a
learning process. It's for
		
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			enhancements for betterman. So
now, how are we going to learn?
		
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			We're never going to be able to
rectify ourselves unless we
		
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			realize what our problems are.
Now, how do we learn what our
		
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			problems are? That's what's most
important. So this whole
		
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			discussion today, right is about
now how to learn our problems so
		
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			that we can then rectify
ourselves. So are you willing to
		
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			listen to that? Right? That's the
question we need to ask ourselves.
		
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			And believe me, there's simple
things, but it just needs a step
		
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			and concern. Without the step and
concern, nothing's going to
		
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			happen. And there's no way we can
rectify ourselves just like that.
		
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			You can do as much salata as you
want, but you got this problem.
		
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			Some you know that they say that,
in order that is a statement that
		
00:27:49 --> 00:27:52
			bachpan sage or others with your
parchment, that Nissa tea or
		
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			parchment, the criteria, what that
basically means that bachpan
		
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			parchment bitumen means you know,
what you've got in your, your,
		
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			your infancy, or in your
childhood, you've developed some
		
00:28:01 --> 00:28:06
			bad habits, it's gonna stay until
you're 55. Right. And in fact, it
		
00:28:06 --> 00:28:09
			just gets stronger and stronger
and stronger, it just becomes
		
00:28:09 --> 00:28:14
			more. So part of us that we don't
even really realize it's a
		
00:28:14 --> 00:28:17
			problem. We're so used to it, you
know, subhanAllah, we're just so
		
00:28:17 --> 00:28:20
			used to it, somebody else comes
and says, you know, this is what
		
00:28:20 --> 00:28:24
			these are. So now how do we
correct ourself? How do we realize
		
00:28:24 --> 00:28:27
			what our problems are? So now,
there are many ways of course to
		
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			do this, but the four main ways as
prescribed by the Roma, right or
		
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			suggested by their OMA, that's
what we want to look at today.
		
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			First and foremost, one of the
best ways is to actually find that
		
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			accomplished Sheikh, an
accomplished guide, right? An
		
00:28:44 --> 00:28:47
			accomplished guide, somebody who's
worked on themselves, who's made
		
00:28:47 --> 00:28:51
			this a mission of their life was
actually worked on under somebody
		
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			else and being tutored and, and
trained in that regard. So they
		
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			know, you know that they know the
nature of this because they they
		
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			understand the science, of good
character and bad character. For
		
00:29:03 --> 00:29:07
			example, Imam Ghazali, he's got,
you know, in his large work, you
		
00:29:07 --> 00:29:10
			got monotone we don't have to lie
in, in the work Mana masuleh, one
		
00:29:10 --> 00:29:13
			of the all of these great
scholars, they've written the good
		
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			and bad character, somebody, they
talk about anger, they talk about
		
00:29:16 --> 00:29:19
			jealousy, they talk about enmity,
they talk about love for this
		
00:29:19 --> 00:29:24
			world, they talk about greed, they
talk about, you know, over eating,
		
00:29:24 --> 00:29:28
			etc. They talk about these things,
they tried to identify these
		
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			things, they tried to talk about a
cure for these things. So it's to
		
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			find somebody who's been trained
in that way, which is, you know, a
		
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			spiritual guide for example, and
to find the most accomplished one
		
00:29:40 --> 00:29:43
			and then try to say look, I want
you to help me out here and then
		
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			you try to get them to adapt they
will suggest it and of course it
		
00:29:46 --> 00:29:50
			and thicker certain other methods,
then they'll they'll probably
		
00:29:50 --> 00:29:53
			point out okay, this is what we
think is what we think now because
		
00:29:53 --> 00:29:56
			they're a spiritual guide. We will
find it easy to take from them.
		
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			The problem is that a perfect
spiritual guide is very difficult
		
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			to come to because Jen
		
00:30:00 --> 00:30:03
			already with human beings, we all
have some kind of, you know, some
		
00:30:03 --> 00:30:06
			kind of defects or whatever. So if
you can find the best possible
		
00:30:06 --> 00:30:10
			guide that you can write, and just
the best possible guide, or
		
00:30:10 --> 00:30:13
			sometimes that's very difficult,
you can always find somebody
		
00:30:13 --> 00:30:15
			that's accomplished in that
regard. And there's a lot of
		
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			charlatans out there as well,
there's a lot of in, there's a lot
		
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			of people out there who are
abusing this method. So you have
		
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			to be careful. So now, if you can
find somebody of this nature,
		
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			that's your best bet. Because
you've got somebody a
		
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			professional, it's like going to
the professional doctor, right? If
		
00:30:31 --> 00:30:33
			you don't have a professional
doctor, then you're going to check
		
00:30:33 --> 00:30:34
			up online, you're going to ask
somebody, like, what's your
		
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			experience how to deal with this
disease? Right? That's the way we
		
00:30:37 --> 00:30:40
			do things. Right? When you can't
go to a doctor, you can't get an
		
00:30:40 --> 00:30:42
			appointment with the doctor,
sometimes that's, that's what's
		
00:30:42 --> 00:30:45
			happening in our NHS system, you
can't get appointment for weeks.
		
00:30:45 --> 00:30:48
			So what do you do? You know,
you're just either looking online,
		
00:30:48 --> 00:30:50
			or you're asking friends or family
that how do you do and they tell
		
00:30:50 --> 00:30:53
			us get some healthy and get some
other than, you know, put that on
		
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			there? And so on, and you should
be fine. Right?
		
00:30:56 --> 00:31:01
			So that's the first option. The
second option is find a sincere
		
00:31:01 --> 00:31:04
			friend, all of us can do this. In
fact, whether we got a spiritual
		
00:31:04 --> 00:31:06
			guide or not, we should have a
sincere friend at this level. The
		
00:31:06 --> 00:31:11
			biggest problem in our communities
today is that the concept of Mr.
		
00:31:11 --> 00:31:15
			Bill Maroof. And now he and
LaMancha, is that we only do it on
		
00:31:15 --> 00:31:18
			a formal level as part of a group
now, we don't do it on an
		
00:31:18 --> 00:31:20
			individual level as Muslims are
supposed to be the Prophet
		
00:31:20 --> 00:31:25
			sallallahu sallam said, a dino
Naseeha, the dean is
		
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			is wishing well for others is this
compassionate? Thought about
		
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			others. That's what the dean is
all about. So now what we've got
		
00:31:36 --> 00:31:43
			is, our problem is that we've got,
we're just too scared, frightened,
		
00:31:43 --> 00:31:47
			reluctant, embarrassed, for
whatever reason, to tell somebody
		
00:31:48 --> 00:31:50
			that this or that or the other.
		
00:31:51 --> 00:31:52
			I remember
		
00:31:54 --> 00:31:57
			on one occasion, there was a
person who went
		
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			monana chef to another, another
place for a program. And
		
00:32:05 --> 00:32:09
			he had been very busy during the
week, so he hadn't cut his nails.
		
00:32:09 --> 00:32:12
			So he was slightly larger. So the
person who came to pick him up,
		
00:32:12 --> 00:32:18
			was a friend was another scholar.
And he picked him up and then they
		
00:32:18 --> 00:32:20
			went to the house, they had
something to eat. And then after
		
00:32:20 --> 00:32:24
			that, they were going to the place
for the program. And as they got
		
00:32:24 --> 00:32:29
			into the car, the the local shake,
he gave him a nail cutter. And he
		
00:32:29 --> 00:32:32
			said do not see her. He says I
think it's a good idea if you cut
		
00:32:32 --> 00:32:36
			your nose. Now the other person,
he can't get offended by that,
		
00:32:36 --> 00:32:38
			though it came with sincerity,
that look, you're gonna go in
		
00:32:38 --> 00:32:41
			front of people is good that you
can maybe you've forgotten before
		
00:32:41 --> 00:32:44
			he didn't judge him or anything
like that. It is not like Man,
		
00:32:44 --> 00:32:46
			what a dirty person. Yeah, he
didn't say any of that. He just
		
00:32:46 --> 00:32:49
			said, Look, this is what it is. He
acted proactively, he didn't have
		
00:32:49 --> 00:32:52
			a bad ideas about reactive
proactively, and the other person
		
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			took it, that's very important
that we do, we you know, that's,
		
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			that's what I'm talking about.
We've just lost it. We can't even
		
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			tell other people's children
anything anymore. You know, like
		
00:33:02 --> 00:33:05
			2030 years ago, when we were
growing up, you'd get told off by
		
00:33:05 --> 00:33:08
			by somebody else's parent in the
masjid. Right, if you were messing
		
00:33:08 --> 00:33:11
			around, or if they saw you out
there in the wrong place, or going
		
00:33:11 --> 00:33:13
			with the wrong company, they'll
tell you, there was a communal
		
00:33:13 --> 00:33:17
			kind of, you know, you can say
there was a communal kind of
		
00:33:17 --> 00:33:21
			scrutiny in that. Now, it's just
so individualized, that we don't
		
00:33:21 --> 00:33:23
			tell anybody anything, we can't
even tell our friends anything
		
00:33:23 --> 00:33:28
			just out of fear of being, you
know, being offensive, and
		
00:33:28 --> 00:33:31
			SubhanAllah. That's a problem. So
that's why we actually have to now
		
00:33:31 --> 00:33:34
			look for somebody who's sincere,
and go to them and say, Look, you
		
00:33:34 --> 00:33:36
			know, we've been friends for how
many years, man, you know, we've
		
00:33:36 --> 00:33:38
			been friends for 20 years, 30
years, we've been friends since
		
00:33:38 --> 00:33:40
			but you know, since we were young,
		
00:33:41 --> 00:33:44
			you know, I want to add another
dimension to this. I want you to
		
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			be just honest with me one day,
right? Observe me for two weeks
		
00:33:49 --> 00:33:52
			and just be honest with me, and
just come and tell me what you
		
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			think my problems are. And, um,
you know, I promise not to get
		
00:33:56 --> 00:34:00
			defensive. I promise not to get
angry. I promise not to hold a
		
00:34:00 --> 00:34:03
			grudge against you, and not to
become judgmental. See, because
		
00:34:03 --> 00:34:06
			there's a lot of fears in this.
What it is, is that if you tell
		
00:34:06 --> 00:34:10
			somebody, right, even if they told
you to tell you sometimes they
		
00:34:10 --> 00:34:12
			might feel that you're gonna turn
around said but you're like that
		
00:34:12 --> 00:34:15
			as well. So what if you like that?
You're asking me about you right
		
00:34:15 --> 00:34:22
			now. I remember once our, I was
working with another Imam. And he
		
00:34:22 --> 00:34:25
			mentioned something to me that,
you know, this is how you do
		
00:34:25 --> 00:34:28
			something which I hadn't realized,
or maybe I thought differently.
		
00:34:28 --> 00:34:32
			And then mashallah, I was happy
that he told me this. Now, I have
		
00:34:32 --> 00:34:35
			been thinking of I had been
thinking about this image that
		
00:34:35 --> 00:34:39
			he's got three problems the way he
sits, which I shouldn't be telling
		
00:34:39 --> 00:34:41
			him because at the end of the day,
it's everybody solid that he's
		
00:34:41 --> 00:34:44
			responsible for, that I am
responsible for. So it's the way
		
00:34:44 --> 00:34:47
			he sits the way he does this and
the way he does that, but although
		
00:34:47 --> 00:34:51
			these three things had been in my
mind for a few months, and I'd
		
00:34:51 --> 00:34:55
			been wanting to tell him when he
came and told this, my issue to
		
00:34:55 --> 00:34:59
			me, you know, he pointed out, you
know, something about what I was
		
00:34:59 --> 00:34:59
			doing
		
00:35:00 --> 00:35:04
			I could have thought that let me
tell him right now. So but then I
		
00:35:04 --> 00:35:08
			refrained. And I said, if I tell
him right now, it's gonna feel
		
00:35:08 --> 00:35:12
			like I'm just doing it out of
spite. I'm doing it because he
		
00:35:12 --> 00:35:15
			mentioned something. So it's not
going to be sound sincere, then
		
00:35:15 --> 00:35:18
			he's not going to take it. Because
the reason why I want to tell him
		
00:35:18 --> 00:35:22
			is not to make him feel bad or
make him feel low, or to criticize
		
00:35:22 --> 00:35:25
			him, it's so that he can improve.
And if I told him right now, he
		
00:35:25 --> 00:35:28
			might take it wrong. So then I
didn't tell him at that time.
		
00:35:30 --> 00:35:34
			Do you understand? I need to find
a time where it's just totally
		
00:35:34 --> 00:35:36
			neutral. And I tell him look this
and it shouldn't sound like I'm
		
00:35:36 --> 00:35:40
			telling him because he's told me
so that he doesn't take it. But so
		
00:35:40 --> 00:35:43
			you just have to look for this.
But at the end of the day, find a
		
00:35:43 --> 00:35:46
			friend and talk to them and say,
Look, can you please help me out
		
00:35:46 --> 00:35:50
			here? Right, I'm growing up. I'm
nearly 40 years old. I'm nearly 50
		
00:35:50 --> 00:35:55
			years old. I'm nearly 30. And you
have to remember that 40 is like a
		
00:35:55 --> 00:35:59
			maturity mark. That is where
things get solidified. And what
		
00:35:59 --> 00:36:03
			Imam has already mentioned, is
that if your good does not
		
00:36:03 --> 00:36:07
			overtake your bad, whether that be
in your sins, or whatever it is,
		
00:36:07 --> 00:36:11
			sins and good deeds, or a HELOC.
Bad luck and good luck, then after
		
00:36:11 --> 00:36:15
			that, you've got less of a chance
because you've matured, it becomes
		
00:36:15 --> 00:36:20
			solidified. Right? And that
becomes difficult. So you want to
		
00:36:20 --> 00:36:23
			change now you can't change when
you're 13 Anything one, you know,
		
00:36:23 --> 00:36:26
			one year, I'm going to change your
con, because it's so difficult to
		
00:36:26 --> 00:36:30
			move things. We're so used to the
way we are so we need to start
		
00:36:30 --> 00:36:33
			changing right from the beginning.
I know we're going to constantly
		
00:36:33 --> 00:36:36
			make mistakes, but we need to
reflect over them. So find a
		
00:36:36 --> 00:36:38
			sincere friend. Um, what are the
Allahu Anhu
		
00:36:39 --> 00:36:41
			after the Prophet sallallahu
Sallam time?
		
00:36:43 --> 00:36:47
			He went to Salman al Farsi
rhodiola, Juan, some of us he was
		
00:36:47 --> 00:36:50
			an older wise person, you know,
he'd been through a lot. And
		
00:36:50 --> 00:36:53
			Amara, the Allah one who trusted
him. And he said to him, you know,
		
00:36:53 --> 00:36:57
			Salman, I want you to be honest
with me, and I want you to help me
		
00:36:57 --> 00:37:02
			out here. I want you to tell me
what my problems are. So someone
		
00:37:02 --> 00:37:05
			can see you Allah Rama said, I
can't please please forgive me.
		
00:37:05 --> 00:37:09
			Please. Excuse me, right? I can't
tell you anything. You know,
		
00:37:09 --> 00:37:12
			because Tang Roemer. How you going
to do that? He's excusing himself,
		
00:37:12 --> 00:37:16
			but I'm gonna do insisted. So then
Salman vasila, the Allah one, this
		
00:37:16 --> 00:37:20
			is their sincerity said, Okay, if
you insist, then this is what I've
		
00:37:20 --> 00:37:22
			noticed. Now listen to what they
notice. He said, one thing I
		
00:37:22 --> 00:37:26
			noticed is that you have two
dishes when you sit to eat.
		
00:37:27 --> 00:37:32
			You don't have just one dish, you
have two dishes, right? And number
		
00:37:32 --> 00:37:35
			two, I see that you have one
garment for the evening and one
		
00:37:35 --> 00:37:38
			garment for the day and one
garment for the night. So you have
		
00:37:38 --> 00:37:39
			two got two sets of clothing.
		
00:37:41 --> 00:37:45
			Now, imagine if somebody came and
said Imagine if somebody came and
		
00:37:45 --> 00:37:49
			said that to us. It's not even a
big deal for us. We have four
		
00:37:49 --> 00:37:54
			dishes nowadays the way our doubt
sir. I've been to Tao it's where
		
00:37:54 --> 00:38:00
			you've got a chicken biryani and a
meat biryani. They both offer
		
00:38:00 --> 00:38:03
			love. It's not haram. We're not
saying we're not giving any fatwas
		
00:38:03 --> 00:38:07
			here. I've been to Adalat where we
had to literally ask for the rice
		
00:38:07 --> 00:38:10
			because there was more meat in the
biryani than there was rice. Or if
		
00:38:10 --> 00:38:13
			you've ever noticed that this is
the new sense of indulgence
		
00:38:13 --> 00:38:16
			because we have so much money in
this country. Right? You got more
		
00:38:16 --> 00:38:19
			meat and masala then you have rice
man, Where's the rice before you
		
00:38:19 --> 00:38:22
			have to look for the meat, the
Promise of Allah some said if you
		
00:38:22 --> 00:38:26
			don't have enough meat, then add
an extra cup of water, spread the
		
00:38:26 --> 00:38:30
			broth and give and give to your
neighbors. Today we got more meat
		
00:38:30 --> 00:38:35
			than we got rice in many of our
doubts SubhanAllah. And that's
		
00:38:35 --> 00:38:38
			that's an issue. So for us for
somebody to come and say You mean
		
00:38:38 --> 00:38:42
			you've got two things, that's
going to be quite crazy. But this
		
00:38:42 --> 00:38:46
			is their level. So according to
that level, according to the Zohar
		
00:38:46 --> 00:38:52
			and asceticism of the Sahaba
Salman al Farsi really felt that
		
00:38:52 --> 00:38:56
			that is beyond the level that's
that's not the level that you
		
00:38:56 --> 00:38:59
			should be at. He should be more
precise. And you know, on whether
		
00:38:59 --> 00:39:03
			the alarm said to him is that as
he says, Is there anything else?
		
00:39:03 --> 00:39:07
			He said, Is there anything else?
And Salman Farsi Odilon said No,
		
00:39:07 --> 00:39:09
			there's nothing so it remember
look, he didn't point out anything
		
00:39:09 --> 00:39:12
			haram, anything mcru or anything
of that nature. This was just
		
00:39:12 --> 00:39:17
			superior, less superior, more
Taqwa based, right? So then what
		
00:39:17 --> 00:39:19
			the Lord said to him, as far as
these two things are concerned
		
00:39:19 --> 00:39:23
			that you mentioned, I've dealt
with it, consider them done.
		
00:39:23 --> 00:39:27
			They're sorted out from that day.
That's all it was. That's why
		
00:39:27 --> 00:39:31
			later we don't have the time to go
into this right now. But what are
		
00:39:31 --> 00:39:36
			the alone refuse until the last
day to eat any delicacies? He had
		
00:39:36 --> 00:39:39
			absolutely refused. In fact, when
the Sahaba persisted, they
		
00:39:39 --> 00:39:43
			actually had to send out Isha and
half Saturday Allahu and Houma,
		
00:39:43 --> 00:39:46
			the wife of Rasulullah sallallahu
wives over Sudha Saracen and one
		
00:39:46 --> 00:39:49
			of the Ramadan was daughter. He
had a lot of respect for Aisha
		
00:39:49 --> 00:39:52
			Radi Allahu Anhu as well, that to
go and try to convince him that
		
00:39:52 --> 00:39:55
			you have many guests that come
from all around the world. There
		
00:39:55 --> 00:39:58
			should be a better dish in front
of you, which you eat from as well
		
00:39:58 --> 00:40:00
			and they eat from that
		
00:40:00 --> 00:40:03
			You have a garment that you wear
specially for your delegations
		
00:40:03 --> 00:40:07
			that is of that caliber, because
you've got patched garments on.
		
00:40:07 --> 00:40:10
			And he started crying in front of
them and he said that have you
		
00:40:10 --> 00:40:14
			come to turn me away from the era
to the world is this how
		
00:40:14 --> 00:40:18
			Rasulullah sallallahu sallam was?
This is the oneness he had that he
		
00:40:18 --> 00:40:23
			received from Salman Farsi Radi
Allahu Anhu. He stuck to it until
		
00:40:23 --> 00:40:27
			his last day. And he refused. One
day when they kept persisting, he
		
00:40:27 --> 00:40:30
			said, You know what you think? I
don't know what good food is, you
		
00:40:30 --> 00:40:32
			know, it's like, for example,
somebody who say, You think I
		
00:40:32 --> 00:40:34
			don't know what Bukhara is is,
		
00:40:36 --> 00:40:39
			right? Are you think I don't know
what I don't know. There's some
		
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			other good restaurants here,
whatever you think, I don't know
		
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			these places. But it's not for me.
Again, this is not a halal haram
		
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			issue, go, you know, you can go
and eat in his Halal place as long
		
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			as they're halal. It's not a
problem as long as you're not
		
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			committing anything wrong. But
this is just the level that they
		
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			were at, we need to talk according
to our level as well. So our
		
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			obviously the advice we'll get. So
now remember, if you do do this
		
00:41:01 --> 00:41:04
			with somebody, and you should
think of somebody right now where
		
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			you can do this with your friend,
your brother, your sister,
		
00:41:07 --> 00:41:11
			somebody that you think is going
to be honest, don't be defensive.
		
00:41:11 --> 00:41:14
			When they do tell you something,
take it, you don't have to agree
		
00:41:14 --> 00:41:17
			with everything. Because you might
know why you do certain things.
		
00:41:18 --> 00:41:21
			Don't be defensive, just listen,
and then thank them, and pray for
		
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			them and make dua for them. If
you've if you think they're doing
		
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			the same things, don't tell them
at that time, if they're willing
		
00:41:27 --> 00:41:29
			to hear, and you think they've got
the ability to listen and tell
		
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			them another time. So that's the
second possibility. So first is to
		
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			have an accomplished chef guide
you number two is to have a
		
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			sincere friend. Number three, is
to learn from what your enemies
		
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			say about you. We all have
somebody who's going to criticize
		
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			us at some level, whatever that
may be right? Now, at the end of
		
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			the day, when enemies criticize
us, or when anybody criticizes us,
		
00:41:52 --> 00:41:55
			or speaks against us. You have to
remember there's going to be a
		
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			level of exaggeration. That's this
game that there's game of enmity
		
00:41:59 --> 00:42:03
			and debate and argument. It's
based on exaggeration. That's why
		
00:42:03 --> 00:42:07
			it's very detrimental. Your your
cause to say things about them
		
00:42:07 --> 00:42:10
			that they're not really they've
got a percentage, but you you
		
00:42:10 --> 00:42:14
			bloated up just you you you
enhance it just to make it sound
		
00:42:14 --> 00:42:18
			bad. So yes, what our enemies are
going to say about us is not
		
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			necessarily all going to be 100%
True, but they is going to be an L
		
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			they could be most likely an
element of truth in it. So let us
		
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			judge scrutinize what our enemies
are saying and not just dismiss it
		
00:42:30 --> 00:42:33
			complete and thinking, Is there
any way this will happen? Is there
		
00:42:33 --> 00:42:37
			any truth to this? And if and if
there is try to find it, and then
		
00:42:37 --> 00:42:42
			try to rectify it. Right? Don't
don't just dismiss it. As I said,
		
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			there is exaggeration, you have to
take away that exaggeration.
		
00:42:45 --> 00:42:48
			Exaggeration is a big problem.
Some people exaggerate a lot. I
		
00:42:48 --> 00:42:51
			had a friend who used to
exaggerate his exaggeration level
		
00:42:51 --> 00:42:52
			was about 40%.
		
00:42:53 --> 00:42:57
			Right? What that means is, if
something was this big, he'd say,
		
00:42:57 --> 00:43:01
			Oh, is this big? Right? So
eventually, I used to think how
		
00:43:01 --> 00:43:04
			come everything's so big, then
eventually, I noticed that that's
		
00:43:04 --> 00:43:07
			just his background is like that
they just exaggerate a lot than I
		
00:43:07 --> 00:43:10
			used to tell him openly. So then I
judged his exaggeration level to
		
00:43:10 --> 00:43:13
			be 40%, I would joke with him as
well that you know, you exaggerate
		
00:43:13 --> 00:43:16
			every so then in the future,
whenever he would talk to me, he
		
00:43:16 --> 00:43:20
			was I'm not exaggerating this,
this is really this big study was
		
00:43:20 --> 00:43:22
			quite cool. You know, but this is
a very close friend of mine.
		
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			So exaggeration, obviously takes
place. And number four, the other
		
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			way is, and look, these are not
mutually exclusive ways. You could
		
00:43:30 --> 00:43:33
			use all of these things. Because
sometimes your spiritual guide, he
		
00:43:33 --> 00:43:37
			doesn't say, you know, live with
you. He doesn't know you sometimes
		
00:43:37 --> 00:43:40
			as close as your friends do. He
knows aspects about you probably,
		
00:43:40 --> 00:43:42
			if you reveal them to him that
your friends don't know. But then
		
00:43:42 --> 00:43:44
			your friends deal with you
everyday they travel with you,
		
00:43:44 --> 00:43:49
			etc. So you can still benefit from
a shake and a friend and enemies.
		
00:43:49 --> 00:43:52
			Right? Most people have some kind
of enemy at some level or the
		
00:43:52 --> 00:43:55
			other, right? Somebody who's
criticizes them or whatever. And
		
00:43:55 --> 00:43:59
			if you don't, hamdulillah number
four is again, when you see things
		
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			in others.
		
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			For example, Imam Malawi, he
mentioned that how bad is booklet?
		
00:44:08 --> 00:44:11
			You know, when you see somebody
who's stingy? How bad does that
		
00:44:11 --> 00:44:15
			make you feel? How a verge? How
much of an aversion Do you feel a
		
00:44:15 --> 00:44:20
			man well, how can a stingy person
this could be right? Just the way
		
00:44:20 --> 00:44:25
			you feel like that about them? You
may have that same problem, right?
		
00:44:25 --> 00:44:27
			At some level, and the people who
don't have that problem, they're
		
00:44:27 --> 00:44:29
			gonna feel the same way about you,
even if they've got the problem
		
00:44:29 --> 00:44:31
			that feels like that about you,
because that's the way we are. We
		
00:44:31 --> 00:44:35
			see the bad character in others,
we feel really bad about it. And
		
00:44:35 --> 00:44:38
			especially if we have that same
problem at some level, we actually
		
00:44:38 --> 00:44:43
			see it more in others Subhanallah,
right, because we can relate to
		
00:44:43 --> 00:44:46
			it. And we get even more angry
because we have it so we get angry
		
00:44:46 --> 00:44:49
			society. It's a psychological
problem that we have, right? It's
		
00:44:49 --> 00:44:52
			humans deal with this. So what
he's saying is that, look at
		
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			others, look at the things that
turn you off about others and turn
		
00:44:56 --> 00:44:59
			that into yourself and see how you
can see if you've got the same
		
00:44:59 --> 00:45:00
			problem and can
		
00:45:00 --> 00:45:03
			Record. That's why somebody asked
me Sally has salon man at the
		
00:45:03 --> 00:45:06
			back, you've got such beautiful
character who taught it to you is
		
00:45:06 --> 00:45:10
			that nobody and nobody taught me
good character. I just saw the
		
00:45:10 --> 00:45:16
			acts of a, you know of people that
I disliked. And then I looked into
		
00:45:16 --> 00:45:19
			myself and just corrected them in
that. So a believer is the mirror
		
00:45:19 --> 00:45:23
			of another believer, when we see
things that turn us off in others.
		
00:45:23 --> 00:45:26
			Let us look at ourselves and see
if we just have to, at the end of
		
00:45:26 --> 00:45:28
			the day, it is all based on
honesty. Are we going to be honest
		
00:45:28 --> 00:45:31
			with ourselves? Are we going to be
looking for enhancement, if we're
		
00:45:31 --> 00:45:34
			just satisfied with our life,
despite the difficulties that
		
00:45:34 --> 00:45:37
			we're dealing with in our life day
in and day out? Most of the
		
00:45:37 --> 00:45:40
			difficulties are based on our own
character, we bring it upon
		
00:45:40 --> 00:45:43
			ourselves. We just need to be
honest with ourselves. Use any of
		
00:45:43 --> 00:45:47
			these means ask Allah subhanaw
taala to make us better believers
		
00:45:47 --> 00:45:50
			because of being a better believer
that is also to offer becoming
		
00:45:50 --> 00:45:53
			better in character. There are a
number of doors to this effect.
		
00:45:53 --> 00:45:57
			Allahu mehg I'm sorry, Rottie
hieromonk Allah and ELT, which I
		
00:45:57 --> 00:46:01
			learned at Salah Hatton. That is
if you if you want to repeat it
		
00:46:01 --> 00:46:04
			once with me at least you've read
it once hopefully you can memorize
		
00:46:04 --> 00:46:08
			it. And I'll translate it that is
Allah Who mudgil Surya Rottie
		
00:46:08 --> 00:46:15
			hyaluron min Allah Niyati hyaluron
min Allah Niyati Wha, annuity,
		
00:46:15 --> 00:46:21
			sorry, Hatton, what that means is,
Oh Allah, make my inner self
		
00:46:21 --> 00:46:27
			better and superior than my outer
form, and my outer expressions and
		
00:46:27 --> 00:46:32
			so on, and make my outer form
righteous. So we're asking for
		
00:46:32 --> 00:46:35
			both. But we're asking that our
inner self is actually even better
		
00:46:35 --> 00:46:38
			than our outer self. Because most
of us are more concerned about our
		
00:46:38 --> 00:46:42
			outer self, right? And how you
know, how we, how we dress and so
		
00:46:42 --> 00:46:46
			on and so forth, make that pious.
So it's not just the dress that's
		
00:46:46 --> 00:46:48
			going to be pious, it's going to
be our acts that are going to be
		
00:46:48 --> 00:46:51
			pious as well. Dressing piously
helps our acts as long as we're
		
00:46:51 --> 00:46:54
			concerned about that, right.
Otherwise, we give a bad name and
		
00:46:54 --> 00:46:58
			we shouldn't be doing that. Right.
But it helps us but with this dua
		
00:46:58 --> 00:47:01
			inshallah it will be even, it will
be even more powerful. So, we ask
		
00:47:01 --> 00:47:04
			Allah subhana wa Taala for this
and hopefully, Allah subhanaw
		
00:47:04 --> 00:47:08
			taala give us it Sophie because we
are the flag bearers of the
		
00:47:08 --> 00:47:11
			Prophet sallallahu Sallam and of
this Deen. And whether it's to
		
00:47:11 --> 00:47:14
			other Muslims around us or to non
Muslims out there, the best form
		
00:47:14 --> 00:47:18
			of Dawa is the way we act, the way
we behave the way we interact.
		
00:47:18 --> 00:47:21
			That's why Imam Hassan you another
thing he mentioned is the human
		
00:47:21 --> 00:47:26
			nature is such that it steals from
other people's behavior, we will
		
00:47:26 --> 00:47:31
			take more from what we see
somebody do than what we hear them
		
00:47:31 --> 00:47:35
			say. So a bond can be whatever,
but if the person giving the band
		
00:47:35 --> 00:47:38
			is not acting right, then there's
going to be less of an effect of
		
00:47:38 --> 00:47:40
			that bond, because people are
generally going to see how the way
		
00:47:40 --> 00:47:42
			they act, and they're going to
take from that because that's
		
00:47:42 --> 00:47:46
			human nature to take from other
people like that. That's exactly
		
00:47:46 --> 00:47:49
			what that's why even though Josie
Rahmatullah it, he says it is to
		
00:47:49 --> 00:47:52
			be subleases or something else. He
says, read the stories of the
		
00:47:52 --> 00:47:56
			pious reason is that sometimes you
could be just among people that
		
00:47:56 --> 00:48:00
			are not very righteous, or they
have bad character, and you just
		
00:48:00 --> 00:48:02
			can't get out of that you can't
see what's right and wrong. If you
		
00:48:02 --> 00:48:07
			read the stories of the pious, you
will learn from their good
		
00:48:07 --> 00:48:11
			character. And that's how you
learn it. May Allah subhanaw taala
		
00:48:11 --> 00:48:14
			give us the Tofik May Allah
subhanahu wa taala allow us to
		
00:48:14 --> 00:48:17
			recognize the faults within us and
to correct ourselves so that we
		
00:48:17 --> 00:48:20
			become a better source of
inspiration for others. May God
		
00:48:20 --> 00:48:23
			may Allah subhanaw taala accept as
well for the service of his Deen
		
00:48:23 --> 00:48:26
			at some level, at whatever level
that may be so that when we die,
		
00:48:27 --> 00:48:30
			people will remember us and will
will remember us for our good
		
00:48:30 --> 00:48:32
			character. Remember, people with
good character are always going to
		
00:48:32 --> 00:48:35
			be remembered. One thing that will
stick out to people is your good
		
00:48:35 --> 00:48:39
			character. Regardless of what
situation you are in, the good
		
00:48:39 --> 00:48:43
			character will always endure,
right, they will make dua for you.
		
00:48:43 --> 00:48:46
			And then in the hereafter Subhan
Allah, the Prophet sallallahu
		
00:48:46 --> 00:48:49
			alayhi wa sallam, that's where he
said the closest person that's the
		
00:48:49 --> 00:48:52
			Hadith already in the beginning,
that the claw person, the best
		
00:48:52 --> 00:48:55
			person and the person closest to
me in the hereafter is the one
		
00:48:55 --> 00:48:58
			among you who is going to have the
best character because after your
		
00:48:58 --> 00:49:02
			worship, the best way to get
closer to Allah subhanaw taala is
		
00:49:02 --> 00:49:05
			not through external artefill
although that is one way but it's
		
00:49:05 --> 00:49:11
			through good character because
good character is is its social,
		
00:49:11 --> 00:49:14
			its interaction with others and we
are social creatures. We don't
		
00:49:14 --> 00:49:17
			live in caves we live among
people. That doesn't mean that you
		
00:49:17 --> 00:49:20
			do that and not novel because they
both can be done they're not
		
00:49:20 --> 00:49:23
			mutually exclusive things you do
you actually know off and extra
		
00:49:23 --> 00:49:26
			worships and stuff like that and
so on. But good character is going
		
00:49:26 --> 00:49:30
			to be where, where the benefit
lies, where the greater benefit
		
00:49:30 --> 00:49:33
			less and it's a greater focus. May
Allah subhanaw taala Miko external
		
00:49:33 --> 00:49:36
			sounds like that as well.
Allahumma into salaam Inca Salam
		
00:49:36 --> 00:49:39
			Tabarrok the other jewelry where
the Quran Allah homea Yaga Yun
		
00:49:40 --> 00:49:44
			therapeutic studies Allah homea
Nana Yamuna Allah Allah subhana
		
00:49:44 --> 00:49:47
			kidnapper nominal * mean,
just Allahu Allah, Muhammad and
		
00:49:47 --> 00:49:51
			Muhammad O Allah except our
gathering today. Oh Allah except
		
00:49:51 --> 00:49:54
			our gathering in this Masjid today
we've come purely for your sake of
		
00:49:54 --> 00:49:56
			Allah. There's nothing else has
brought us here except that we've
		
00:49:56 --> 00:49:59
			come to learn about your deen of
Allah. Oh Allah
		
00:50:00 --> 00:50:03
			had this intention that we have in
our heart, oh Allah accepted in
		
00:50:03 --> 00:50:06
			the fullest of manners despite our
other defects, Oh Allah, Oh Allah,
		
00:50:06 --> 00:50:09
			all the pollution in our hearts in
the darkness in our heart. Oh
		
00:50:09 --> 00:50:12
			Allah removed that from us. Oh
Allah, the baraka that is in your
		
00:50:12 --> 00:50:16
			houses in this world which are the
masajid Oh Allah allow this newer
		
00:50:16 --> 00:50:19
			to continue in our hearts of Allah
sometimes we go outside and this
		
00:50:19 --> 00:50:22
			new rule disappears because of a
sin that we do. Oh Allah protect
		
00:50:22 --> 00:50:25
			this new rule that we get when we
come into massage. And when we do
		
00:50:25 --> 00:50:28
			good acts of Allah give us the
trophy to remember you at all
		
00:50:28 --> 00:50:31
			times. Oh Allah, whether that be
in doing our mundane daily tasks
		
00:50:31 --> 00:50:35
			like cooking, or Allah allow us to
start our cooking our cleaning, or
		
00:50:35 --> 00:50:38
			whatever we may be doing with
saying Bismillah and while we're
		
00:50:38 --> 00:50:41
			doing our cooking mail, Oh Allah,
you give us a trophy to be
		
00:50:41 --> 00:50:43
			remembering you and to do your
ticker to say subhanallah
		
00:50:43 --> 00:50:47
			Alhamdulillah, Allahu Akbar, to
glorify you, so that the baraka of
		
00:50:47 --> 00:50:49
			this is also in our cooking and
that's how we feed our families.
		
00:50:50 --> 00:50:53
			Oh Allah, Oh Allah, Oh Allah,
we've seen for many, many years,
		
00:50:53 --> 00:50:56
			so Allah, we've had bad character
overload, we've put so many people
		
00:50:56 --> 00:51:02
			off, Oh Allah, we may have on the
Day of Judgment amount in full of,
		
00:51:02 --> 00:51:05
			of bad deeds that may be put on us
because of what your messenger has
		
00:51:05 --> 00:51:09
			told us that our good deeds will
be taken up by those people that
		
00:51:09 --> 00:51:11
			we've spoken bad about that we've
said something bad about, that
		
00:51:11 --> 00:51:15
			we'd have abused in some way or
the other, oh, Allah, Oh, Allah
		
00:51:15 --> 00:51:18
			satisfy all of these people and
allow them to forgive us, or you
		
00:51:18 --> 00:51:21
			satisfied them, even if they don't
want to forgive it Forgive us in
		
00:51:21 --> 00:51:23
			such a way that on the Day of
Judgment, we don't lose our good
		
00:51:23 --> 00:51:27
			deeds, and that we that we
maintain our good deeds, and their
		
00:51:27 --> 00:51:30
			bad deeds are not put on us
because that is the greatest sense
		
00:51:30 --> 00:51:33
			of loss and that is the Greatest
Loser. The Biggest Loser as your
		
00:51:33 --> 00:51:36
			messengers, Allah, Allah has told
us is the one who will have to
		
00:51:36 --> 00:51:39
			carry the burdens of others on the
Day of Judgment, Oh Allah, we
		
00:51:39 --> 00:51:43
			don't have enough even for
ourselves in to take in this to
		
00:51:43 --> 00:51:46
			the next world of Allah and if
that's diminished, and we can't
		
00:51:46 --> 00:51:50
			even earn any more, and then their
bodies are put on us. Oh Allah,
		
00:51:50 --> 00:51:53
			then, then what have we done in
this life? Oh Allah, Oh Allah, Oh
		
00:51:53 --> 00:51:57
			Allah, we can only ask you because
there's nobody else whose door is
		
00:51:57 --> 00:52:00
			open that who can who can listen
to this bleep plea. Only you have
		
00:52:00 --> 00:52:04
			the power to change these things
around. Oh Allah, you change them
		
00:52:04 --> 00:52:08
			for us or Allah You accept us. Oh
Allah, you imbibe us with good
		
00:52:08 --> 00:52:11
			character, oh Allah all the
blameworthy character traits that
		
00:52:11 --> 00:52:14
			are in so Allah you allow us to
understand them and allow us and
		
00:52:14 --> 00:52:18
			help us to to remove them. Oh
Allah allow us to have good
		
00:52:18 --> 00:52:21
			friends around us and good show
you around us that can help us and
		
00:52:21 --> 00:52:24
			our Allah allow us to learn from
the things that are around us. And
		
00:52:24 --> 00:52:29
			oh Allah allow us to, to, to be to
be concerned about these things.
		
00:52:30 --> 00:52:33
			Oh Allah make the best day of our
lives make the best day in our
		
00:52:33 --> 00:52:37
			life, the day that we stand in
front of you. Oh Allah that we
		
00:52:37 --> 00:52:40
			that would that make that the best
of our lives. Oh Allah give us the
		
00:52:40 --> 00:52:44
			best of both worlds of Allah or
remove all of the difficulties in
		
00:52:44 --> 00:52:47
			our lives or law remove all of the
problems in our lives or law
		
00:52:47 --> 00:52:50
			remove all of the issues that we
may be facing in our lives. Oh
		
00:52:50 --> 00:52:53
			Allah allow us to be better people
and allow others to be better with
		
00:52:53 --> 00:52:57
			us. Oh Allah, any conflicts we
have among us or law remove them
		
00:52:57 --> 00:53:00
			and all the permissible needs that
we have our law fulfill them. Oh
		
00:53:00 --> 00:53:03
			Allah. Oh Allah give us the Karim
Allah Allah Illallah on our
		
00:53:03 --> 00:53:07
			deathbed and Allah grant us gender
to fill those in the company of
		
00:53:07 --> 00:53:10
			your beloved ones. Subhan Allah be
corroborated here million seafood
		
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			was salam and Selena Al
Hamdulillah.
		
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			Hola