Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Difficulties Why always me

Having said that, even if a person is in some other kind of sorrow,

some other kind of state of depression because of something

else, then you have to realize, even if you don't feel it at this

point in time because shaytan is going to make you even more

depressed than you are, and he's going to try to avail you from any

feeling of optimism, any feeling of relief, any feeling of opening,

whereas opening is there for you from Allah subhanahu wa taala

that's the thing that you have to understand Allah subhanho wa Taala

there's a number of things that he promises and that's what we have

to realize. Number one, Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran

in number three, use Ron sama in nama illusory Yusra in alumna

Surah Surah Al Insha Allah, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

sallam is being addressed here, an initial lega Sadhak will garner

and CO Izaak Allah the and Kodava heroic, and that is, didn't we

expand your heart for you? Alumnus Rahula casado? Didn't we expand

your * for you? And we we took off and we relieved you of

the burden that was burdening your back that was breaking your back,

heavy burden? What our fattener look at the clock. And we raised

your mention, we elevated people's remembrance of you mentioning you

you're you're being mentioned all over sallallahu alayhi wasallam,

or a foreigner like a big rock for in Merrell ersity, your salah, in

the murderous or your Salah. And then he mentions because with

every difficulty morosely or sort of means difficulty and hardship,

use run, there is ease and then that is repeated twice that you

have to remember in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala doesn't

repeat things redundantly. He's got many things that he can say.

So he doesn't have to just repeat things. Whenever something is

mentioned in the Quran. And it seems to be repetitive. There is a

particular meaning that is intended by the repetition. And

here it's to really drive into the minds of people that you have to

realize, and it's very difficult normally for people to believe

this, to understand this, comprehend this and accept it when

they are in difficulty. Because difficulty is not an easy thing to

deal with. So Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling them over and

over again that look with your difficulty there is going to be

ease. There has to be there can't be just difficulty all along

difficult. You have to come with ease. And I think the best

exemplar we have is Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, look

at the difficulty he went through even though he was the most

Beloved of Allah subhanho wa taala. Right, this is the best

example that we can provide. Because if the Prophet sallallahu

alayhi wa sallam,

it is the most Beloved of Allah subhanho wa taala. And Allah

subhanho wa Taala loves him more than anything else, more than

anybody else. And he puts him He allows him to go through all of

this hardship. One of the wisdoms in that is that his ummah can deal

with that as well, to learn that their profit went through such a

hardship.

And

he bought it through. There were times when Rasulullah sallallahu

alayhi wa salam used to cry to Allah subhana wa Tada. Make

extensive to ask to Allah subhanho wa Taala he never left Allah. He

never, never left Allah subhanho wa taala. And that's the main

thing. What shaytan will want us to do is that Allah is not there

for you. Allah is not there, he can't really help you. Right?

Because look, you've been making dua for all of these times, can't

Allah see what's going on with you? This is the shaytaan talking,

right? This is the shaytaan that talks in our mind when these kinds

of thoughts come into our mind. It is extremely important that we

connect ourselves to Allah subhanaw taala. Because Allah

subhanaw taala says, I am with you. I am with my servant, the way

he thinks of me, I am with my servant the way she thinks of me,

and in the abdomen and are in the Vani appdb I am with my servant,

as they think of me, if they think I'm greatly powerful, and I can

really help them and they trust this in me, and they've shown

their trust, then definitely I will be able to help them. Now you

have to realize that Allah subhanaw taala also says something

else now because a question is going to normally appear in our

minds, she thought might put the question in, or you may just be

out of habit, unfortunately, that we've tried so much. It just takes

too long. Sometimes it's never coming. I've been in this misery

for so long. Whatever that misery is, you know, maybe I just can't

find the person of my dreams. Maybe I just can't find the girl

that I really want to get married to other the guy that I really

want to get married to. Right. So you've got many different types of

griefs. For example, you just have to keep

asking, you know, you just have to keep asking Subhanallah because

what it is, is Allah subhanahu wa taala says another thing, which is

very important to put this whole thing in perspective. He says,

Learn the strategy Luni Do not rush me, Do not hurry me, do not

try to hasten me, I go according to my own timetable, Allah

subhanahu wa taala has written everything according to his

knowledge. See, Allah subhanho wa Taala has eternal knowledge of

everything that is to occur, exactly how they are going to

occur. And all of these things are actually written in the divine

tablet, that this certain person will come to live in the world,

they will live for this long, they'll have a free will to do

this than the other. But Allah subhanaw taala just knows

everything because he has eternal knowledge. So Allah is saying, Do

not rush me. If you look at Musa alayhis salam, his dua that he

made to Allah subhanho wa Taala was only accepted 40 years after

the DUA was made. If that's a profit, if that's a profit as

though is taken 40 years to, then you can imagine where our status

is with that. Obviously, this requires belief, this requires

belief. But at the end of the day, we can look at this from a

different perspective. If you don't want to agree with this,

then look at it from this perspective, that okay, if you

give up Allah where you're gonna go, who else is there that can

help you, you've probably use all of your worldly contacts Anyway,

you've probably used all of your human contacts. That's the first

thing that people do, unfortunately, right. That's the

first thing that people normally do. The main thing that we have to

realize is that if we do give up Allah subhanaw taala. And we

think, well, he can't really help us anyway, we're just going to

become worse, the status quo is going to remain the same. In fact,

it could become worse, because now we actually have nobody else.

Because if you think that I can ask such and such a person for for

help. Well, you can ask him anyway, despite your reliance in

Allah subhanho wa Taala reliance in Allah subhanaw taala, crying to

him and asking and pleading him and humbly and treating him does

not preclude the fact that you can ask somebody else. Because this is

a world of a superb This is a world of means and you should ask

other people for help if you are in depression, because you're

divorced, for example, or if you're in depression, because

you've got really miserable, you've got a really miserable

husband, for example, then that's the point of that is ask Allah

subhanho wa taala. But Allah subhanaw taala is not forcing you

only to ask him he's telling you go and get some help. Get somebody

who can help you go to, you know, go to a counselor, for example, go

to your local and go to parents, if that's what helps, you know, go

to a counselor, somebody that can speak to you, you should be

getting help. So the thing is that asking others for help is not

against our code. Asking for help is not against our cool you have

to realize that that's very important to understand.

We ask Allah subhana wa Tada We ask Allah subhanahu wa taala for

help. So in the nights were crying to Allah subhanaw taala and in the

daytime, we can be asking others for help. It's just that we should

not only turn to Allah subhanaw taala after every other

possibility is been exhausted.