Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Developing Immunity in a HyperSexualised Society

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The conversation between a man and his wife discusses the importance of women controlling their desire and finding solutions for unmarried women who may not be able to achieve their sexual needs. The speakers emphasize the need for holistic clothing, avoiding explicit sex, and avoiding sexual embarrassment. They also discuss the benefits of fasting, avoiding sexual activity, and making a commitment to sex. The segment emphasizes the importance of mitigating one's actions and staying away from the danger of offense, as well as helping people through their struggles and finding success in their lives.

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			Learn her off murder Rahim Al
hamdu Lillahi wa Salatu was Salam.
		
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			Why does she even know Celine why?
He was so happy about raka seldom
		
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			at the Sleeman cathedral, Ilario
Medina, Amma Bard,
		
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			literally in the last three days,
three to four days if to get to be
		
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			more accurate about I think it was
the last three days, I got two
		
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			calls, and both from different
countries.
		
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			And both of these calls were of
the same nature.
		
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			They were pretty much saying the
same thing. The first lesson he
		
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			called me, and we've had you know,
we've we've been connected for
		
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			quite a while.
		
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			He's in a country in Europe. And
the other person is also from
		
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			somewhere within the extended
European countries. Basically, he
		
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			says, Look, he's a young guy who
has been trying to get married for
		
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			a long time.
		
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			But he can't, there's just a
number of factors, right, we've
		
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			which I've discussed with him
before this discussed before, just
		
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			can't get married, finding the
most suitable person while he's
		
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			studying, can't get a house yet,
so on and so forth, not religious
		
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			enough. He can't find somebody
religious enough, numerous things
		
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			that just make it very difficult
for him to currently get married.
		
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			So he says, How can I remain
steadfast on my bean? If that
		
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			can't happen? So obviously, within
that there's a number of number of
		
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			issues that he's raising as to
what he's asking about. Clearly,
		
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			the discussion is not that I can't
get married. So how do I get
		
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			married? That wasn't the
discussion, because we've had that
		
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			discussion before. The point is,
how does he remain steadfast in a
		
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			state that he can't currently be
married?
		
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			Number two, another person called
me for the first time from
		
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			somewhere else. He's originally
from Pakistan, but is a PhD
		
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			student somewhere else in Europe.
And he says that the temptations
		
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			are just too bad for me. While he
may be fixed up, he can't bring
		
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			his wife over. So initialized to
just get married then.
		
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			But that was obviously not a
practical solution that was gonna
		
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			happen. So he's just saying, How
do I remain steadfast? And I'm
		
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			saying you're asking for a
miracle. To both of these,
		
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			basically, my first response was
that you're asking for a miracle.
		
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			But that's to say that you're
asking for a miracle is merely
		
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			saying that there's no answer to
it? And that's the wrong answer,
		
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			to give. So that was just just to
kind of make them think that look,
		
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			this is going to be difficult, but
you're you have to really
		
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			work hard to solve this situation.
First and foremost, both of these
		
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			people asking me the question,
		
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			tell us two things. Number one, it
tells us that this this is a
		
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			massive frustration across the
board for a lot of people, even
		
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			for married people.
		
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			While they may have an outlet to
remove their sexual desire, or to
		
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			fulfill their sexual desire, the
overstimulation of our society
		
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			where everything is sexualized
		
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			makes it very difficult, even for
people who have who are married
		
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			for both men and women. By the
way, this is not just a man thing.
		
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			For a lot of women, this is a
case, it may not be for some
		
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			women, but it is for other women,
and which is quite shocking. When
		
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			you first hear about that you
think this is a man problem with
		
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			the increased testosterone. But
there are problems with with in
		
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			the over sexualized culture that
we live in for women as well.
		
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			Maybe less than men, hopefully.
But there is. So even for married
		
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			people, it's a difficulty. So for
unmarried people who have no
		
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			recourse to anything, what do they
do?
		
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			So I said, it's like asking for a
miracle. You don't want to do the
		
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			solute solution. You don't want to
find a solution. The Prophet
		
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			sallallahu sallam said something
as simple as if you see, it was
		
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			talking from a man's perspective,
that if you see a man, if a man
		
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			sees a woman that kind of attracts
him, and then gives him an urge a
		
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			sexual urge, then come home and
fulfill your sexual urge with your
		
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			wife, for she has what she has,
that was our idea that wants your
		
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			sexual urges been fulfilled, then
your sexual drive would have
		
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			calmed down.
		
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			But when you don't have a wife,
then it makes it even more
		
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			difficult.
		
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			Now the Sahaba Of course, you
don't hear
		
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			within the sahaba. You
		
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			There were very few cases of Zina
that you hear about. And of
		
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			course, you know, they used to get
married multiple times. So they
		
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			had many outlets in that sense and
so on their situation was a bit
		
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			different to ours. That's not a
norm for us. So it basically the
		
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			responses that I gave and then I
came back I then in order to speak
		
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			about it more, I said what do
other people suggest about
		
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			controlling sexual desire? So we
find that there's a number of
		
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			steps.
		
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			First and foremost, the thing
which will drive sexual desire a
		
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			lot of people think in fact one of
the brothers just
		
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			are told me that I've done so
much. So far, every time I do is
		
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			too far when I feel really guilty,
I do step four, I seek
		
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			forgiveness. And then after that,
within a short time, I feel very
		
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			good for a while, and then after
that it breaks again.
		
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			So, I said, Yes, exactly, you're
putting the AC on, you're having a
		
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			wash, let's just say that you're
having a really nice hosel. And
		
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			then you're going back in the
dirt. So you're gonna get dirty
		
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			again, don't think that just one
step forward is going to be
		
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			sufficient for you to then remain
pure and chased afterwards. And
		
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			for these desires to go, there's a
number of places where these
		
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			desires come from. And that's what
the problem is. So he needs a very
		
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			holistic look.
		
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			In fact, in my research that I was
doing online to try to find ways
		
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			of controlling sexual desire,
aside from one place that talked
		
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			about the medical condition of
*, and, you know, over
		
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			sexual desire, an overdrive in
sexual drive in sexuality based on
		
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			they said that it could be a
bipolar order or some other some
		
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			other disease of that nature or
some other problem of that nature.
		
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			Everywhere else was telling you
how to increase your sexual
		
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			desire. Every other article I read
was that these are the foods that
		
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			dampen your sexual desire. So cut
down on them and do this instead,
		
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			don't take too much Maryon, and
you know, do this instead, it was
		
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			the opposite way to increase the
sexual desire as though people
		
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			don't have enough. It's really
weird. It just tells you the the
		
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			trend of the society. And along
with that, if you see what's
		
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			happening right now, with this
Harry Weinstein problem, and
		
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			everybody's coming down, not just
him, but so many others. And it's
		
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			all coming up, because now people
have found enough courage to speak
		
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			out. And it's just recent, may
Allah protect us, but it's just
		
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			really sad. How were these kinds
of accusations are flying not just
		
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			against non Muslims, but against
Muslims as well.
		
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			So clearly, that's a very
sexualized industry, that the same
		
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			person who's been there accused,
he's been in the movie business
		
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			for decades, producing movies of
that nature, where everybody is
		
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			expected to act in a particular
way. I mean, the same people who
		
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			are then accusing him are still
coming on, even when they're
		
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			coming to voice their accusation
to tell their stories
		
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			to speak about their sexual
harassment, which is really bad,
		
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			of course, you know, regardless of
what the circumstance was, it's
		
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			just bad anyway.
		
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			They're coming, still dressed
		
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			in a very unhelpful way.
		
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			So when they come for something
like that, they still don't get it
		
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			that there is still the problem is
on everybody's part, not just from
		
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			one side. Yeah, maybe it's more
from one side than another side. I
		
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			don't want to blame the victim.
But that can't be an excuse
		
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			either. For, you know, not making
them culpable as well, or not
		
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			making them guilty as well for
something not making making them.
		
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			The reason sometimes, the industry
has been made such such an such
		
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			it's taken, it's been taken to
such a sexualized level, that even
		
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			while you talk about sexual
harassment, you have to dress in a
		
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			particular way, because you can't
be seen dressed in any other
		
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			modest way, for example.
		
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			But that's not our topic. Let's
just get back to it. How do we
		
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			deal with this situation? Where if
you're going to school, if you're
		
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			going to college, if you're going
to work? Are you just going
		
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			outside? You know about your
normal, everyday business, you
		
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			can't stay at home. In fact, even
people who stay at home they
		
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			finding difficulty because of the
access to * and
		
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			everything else that you see in
normal movies, right? So what do
		
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			you do in that situation? And as I
said, you can't just do it step
		
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			four, step four is extremely
helpful. It may it's going to help
		
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			Inshallah, if you do a sincere so
far to remove the previous sins.
		
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			But then tomorrow, the problem is
still going to be facing us. Some
		
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			people of course, marriage helps a
great degree.
		
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			But again, this becomes an
addiction and a habit,
		
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			essentially, at the core of it, at
the core of it, aside from all of
		
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			the tempting factors, and all the
attraction out there. It's lowness
		
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			of Eman, that's really what it
comes down to. So spiritually
		
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			speaking, it's a low Iman that's
what it is low faith. Because that
		
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			is the battery that keeps us I'll
give you an example. If you have,
		
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			Have you have you seen these
		
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			repellents that they have battery
battery powered repellents if
		
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			you're ever in a tropical climate,
you have a battery powered
		
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			mosquito repellent. Now that's
only going to last as long as your
		
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			bust your battery lasts. Once your
battery is gone, then the
		
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			mosquitoes are gonna come Or
likewise you put a repellent on
		
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			your you know, you get the spray
the DEET spray as they call it,
		
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			right and you spray it on you but
it lasts for several hours and
		
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			then after that you start feeding
your mosquito bites and you know
		
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			that this has become ineffective.
And likewise, essentially what
		
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			we're doing is that Iman is the
battery. Iman is the repellent
		
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			So it's creating the immunity.
That's why
		
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			it's the same thing, if you take
it differently.
		
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			It also like when the cold season
comes, then you want to start
		
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			taking
		
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			vitamin C and akinesia oil and or
seeds or whatever it is that you
		
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			know, pills and tablets and things
of that nature, the whole point of
		
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			it is to keep your immune system
strong. If your immune system is
		
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			strong, then you're not going to
be affected, you're not going to
		
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			be prone to a cold as easily as
somebody else who has a low immune
		
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			system. So it's about creating
immunity. It's about create
		
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			creating a sense of protection,
removing the vulnerability, the
		
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			vulnerability, the vulnerability,
right to get a repellent. That is
		
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			what's the most important thing at
the end of the day. How do you do
		
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			that?
		
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			Well, of course,
		
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			a regimen of vicar helps to keep a
connection to Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			alive when you do your Subhanallah
Alhamdulillah when you recite your
		
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			Quran, and so on, that helps to
keep a relationship with Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala alive. Have you not
noticed that when you've done very
		
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			intense religious act, a spiritual
act, for example, hydro hombre, or
		
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			Attica for being to a very, very
uplifting Islamic program, right?
		
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			That's really, it helps. That's
what you've what we've just done
		
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			is that we've just developed a
level of immunity. We've just
		
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			recharged our battery, we've just
basically got more power. And
		
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			thus, you don't even feel like
looking, it's much easier, no
		
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			longer I mean, if I say no longer
is sticky anymore. What I mean by
		
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			sticky eyes is that when you see
something that's attractive,
		
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			you're going to notice it. But do
your eyes then just stick? Are
		
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			they just trained to stick? Or can
you easily move them away? So the
		
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			the I would say the solution to
stick your eyes is to have a fear
		
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			of Allah in your heart. To have
the taqwa level that look I don't
		
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			want to do this. I don't need to
do this to psychologically,
		
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			mentally intellectually convinced
yourself that this is bad for me,
		
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			I'm not getting anything out of
it.
		
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			I'm not getting anything out of
it. Allah says worker, you know,
		
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			in CERN is the Eve Holika Holika
Linson or Eva as one of the more
		
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			fussy and said that this actually
means that a man sees women who
		
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			look nice to him, but he knows
he's never going to have them, but
		
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			he still looks at them.
		
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			And what's the point? So,
		
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			to develop the immunity is
extremely important, but a lot of
		
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			people will tell you that they do
thicker.
		
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			They are doing thicker. They are
mashallah they are reading Quran
		
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			every day. They are reading this
be the Kabir Meade Salawat
		
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			Tomasulo allah sallallahu sallam,
but they still it may have
		
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			diminished slightly, they feel a
better sense of connection with
		
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			Allah Hamdulillah.
		
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			That will definitely happen. But
they still feel prone to these
		
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			things, they still feel
vulnerable, they still can't keep
		
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			it away. See, by that time, it's
probably an addiction. And
		
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			addiction is not so easily just
removed by doing some thicker, it
		
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			needs a much more prolonged, one
of the most effective things is to
		
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			be become number one, as the
Prophet sallallahu sallam said,
		
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			fasting. Fasting helps a lot. But
one thing that you have to realize
		
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			with fasting is that fasting is
helps a lot to curb the sexual
		
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			frustration as the Prophet
sallallahu sallam said, because
		
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			what it does is that it moderates
your body. And there's a big
		
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			reason why fasting is beneficial.
Initially, when you start fasting,
		
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			you actually it seems like a lot
of people say that they actually
		
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			get more heated up.
		
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			So that's why a lot of people in
Ramadan, they have a bit of a
		
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			challenge in the first week at
least. Just because you start
		
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			fasting doesn't mean you get all
dampened. There is a I'm not being
		
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			too graphic, but you can
understand what I'm speaking
		
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			about. I'm not being very graphic.
		
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			But eventually fasting is supposed
to moderate you. It's supposed to
		
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			put everything back into his
equilibrium because you're not
		
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			eating a lot of the desire that we
get
		
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			comes from what we eat.
		
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			That's undeniable that it comes
from what we eat a lot of the
		
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			desire that we get built up, it
comes from what we eat. And of
		
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			course, we've got the external.
The industry is like this, the
		
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			society's become like that.
		
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			And people have just been taking
advantage of it. It's an
		
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			impossibility to be in that
society and be totally protected.
		
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			It's so difficult environment. I
won't call it an impossibility
		
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			because Allah can protect whoever
He wills. So one is the vicar. The
		
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			second most effective thing that
helps in this case to develop the
		
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			immunity is for somebody you can
get a reminder from so it is to
		
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			have good company right the good
company have a che the good
		
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			company have good friends, this is
an additional thing but that also
		
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			just helps to create the immunity.
Now, as
		
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			As I said, there's people who are
in this situation who are doing
		
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			these two things to a certain
level. But they're still
		
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			vulnerable. And this is where many
of us miss the actual miss a very
		
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			important problem here. And what
it is, is that we are working on
		
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			ourselves spiritually. But we are
physical beings, we are
		
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			physiological beings. diet plays a
big, big part and big role in
		
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			this. So I've spoken to a few
people.
		
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			I've spoken to a few people who've
used these things themselves. I
		
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			believe there was one person who
said that he was extremely
		
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			sexually promiscuous, until the
age of, I can't remember his exact
		
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			age, but was an age of 20. And
then for seven years, he just
		
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			stayed away from everything, until
he got married. I can't remember
		
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			the exact ages. But it was this
long period where he stayed away
		
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			completely after being after
pretty much doing everything and
		
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			anything. That's what he mentioned
clearly to me, right. And then
		
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			after that, he got married
Hamdulillah.
		
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			But he suggested and then I've
heard this suggestion from others.
		
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			And then there's some, there's
some things that I found online
		
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			that speak about it from a non
religious perspective, just purely
		
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			from a physiological and spiritual
perspective, that are very
		
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			effective. And I think that this
is what it is, because I've seen
		
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			so many people come and say that
we're doing our vicar and so on,
		
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			but we still can't muster that
same.
		
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			That same energy to completely,
you know, we don't have the
		
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			strength to avoid still, what is
the problem? So let's look,
		
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			let's look, look, look over a few
things. Firstly, I'll tell you
		
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			what I found through these through
online, which seemed to be
		
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			mashallah correspond with and
confirm what I've learned
		
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			otherwise. And I mentioned those
things. First and foremost, what
		
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			they're saying is that people on a
spiritual journey may wish to
		
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			control their *, right? They're
trying to be just, you know,
		
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			politically correct. So you're
talking about people on a
		
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			spiritual journey might wish to
control their sexual desire, so
		
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			that they can focus on less
spiritual, worldly pursuits. Other
		
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			individuals find that overactive
* drive is out of sync with
		
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			their partner * drive, or if
they have no partner than a high
		
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			* drive might only result in
frustration, right. So this is a
		
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			genuine problem. There are a lot
of Muslims out there, obviously,
		
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			this will affect everybody that
their partner is not up to how
		
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			much they want. And then that
causes massive sexual frustration,
		
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			due to that actually causes a lot
of marital problems. And then
		
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			there's no communication. Right.
And it could either be that
		
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			they've got an extremely overly
sexual drive, or the other person
		
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			just has an extremely low sexual
drive. I know we're being very
		
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			open today. But this is an
important discussion, because it
		
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			affects spirituality, probably
more than so many other things
		
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			today, so many other things,
marriages are breaking up. And a
		
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			lot of the time, this frustration
at the bottom of it, right and
		
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			behind it. He says you can control
your libido with some simple
		
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			lifestyle changes. and a high *
drive is not necessarily a bad
		
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			impulse if you can find a way to
make it work in your life. And
		
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			this is set in a very secular
format, right secular contact. But
		
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			again, if you're if you do have a
if you do have a nice, decent
		
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			suitable spouse, then hamdulillah
there's nothing wrong with a good
		
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			sexual drive, that it's a good
thing. There's nothing wrong with
		
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			that, as long as you got the right
intention, right motive and so on.
		
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			The first suggestion is to talk to
your doctor if you got to
		
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			extremely, you know, high *
drive. For most people, I don't
		
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			think it's a very high * drive.
I think it's just an addiction.
		
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			Right? And doctors are going to be
happy to help you or not gonna be
		
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			able to help you with the sixth
edition. Addiction to looking at
		
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			things. Right, especially if you
don't have an outlet. If you if
		
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			you don't have a spouse, then
what's the doctor gonna give you?
		
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			Right? Sexual suppressants I'm
gonna meet you maybe need anti
		
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			*. But I don't know if
there's such a thing that is anti
		
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			* with this * but I
don't know if there's anti *
		
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			like the opposite of it. Right. So
first he talks of course, if
		
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			somebody has an overly sexual *,
you know, an overly hype, hyper
		
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			* drive, then maybe in that
case, you can speak to a doctor
		
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			because there are medications that
reduce your libido. Right but I
		
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			don't know if you want to go in
that direction. That's all
		
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			chemical stuff, possibly that we
don't want to have to deal with
		
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			that because we just want to deal
with it in a nother way. Insha
		
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			Allah, I mean, you've got these
hunger suppressants and all of
		
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			these
		
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			other suppressants of all these
other things, but unless their
		
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			natural, you don't want to really
go into that. The next thing that
		
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			they talked about here is that
consider your reasons for wanting
		
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			to lower your * drive if you
want to control your libido for
		
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			religious reasons as talk to your
spiritual advisor so he told me
		
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			talk to your shake. Right so they
even suggesting that don't be
		
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			embarrassed because he has likely
dealt with this issue before and I
		
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			guarantee you that's a massive
problem. So they probably have
		
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			dealt with it right any shape you
go to you're probably dealt with
		
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			it.
		
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			Number three is avoid section now
it's getting to the real stuff.
		
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			Avoid sexual stimuli
		
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			Session, this is extremely
important sexual stimulation is
		
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			where the problem is, do not view
* or read explicit
		
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			books. In fact, I'm going to go
lower than that. A lot of people
		
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			who are addicted to *,
they and it's like any other
		
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			addiction, they say, whether it's
alcohol or drugs, or whatever the
		
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			case is, even if you stayed away
for a while, even several months
		
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			or a year or something, when you
then see anything that similar to
		
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			that, even on a lower level, it's
not pure *, right? In
		
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			the modern sense of * as
such, right? I don't know where
		
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			the barriers currently, right. But
anything that you see that is a
		
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			bit revealing, is gonna then give
you flashbacks, it's just the way
		
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			the brain works, and the shaytaan
works with it. So then you you
		
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			want more, because that's not
enough, you've been used to a lot
		
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			more than that, in *
used to a lot more than that, you
		
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			know, maybe years ago or months
ago. And then suddenly, you see,
		
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			you've been away for a while. And
then suddenly you see something,
		
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			whether on outside or on a picture
in a picture online, on TV,
		
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			whatever, you just need to avoid
all of that. Don't say I'm only
		
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			going to do this much. Because if
* has been the problem,
		
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			then people will probably
generally say that, Oh, I can
		
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			allow myself to see things that
are explicit, but not *,
		
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			because at least is better than
*. But that is the
		
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			slippery slope that is the hotel
quality shaytaan that is basically
		
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			the steps that it will take you
because they will never suffice.
		
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			If you're in your mind, we've got
space for something much more
		
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			intense than something less
intense is not going to do it for
		
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			us, it's just going to push us to
eventually get they're going to do
		
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			a bit bit bit until he gets to
that point.
		
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			So that's why they saying pay
attention to your thoughts to see
		
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			whether there are specific
objects, settings, or people that
		
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			evoke the sexual response in you,
and then avoid them as much as
		
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			possible.
		
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			Then they say something else. And
there were three suggestions that
		
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			that individual told me who said
he was very sexually active for a
		
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			long time. And then he stayed.
Number one, I'll just mention it
		
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			because he's going to mention some
of these points here. This article
		
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			is gonna mention something
similar. What he said is, number
		
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			one, avoid meats. I've heard this
from numerous people. And I can
		
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			guarantee you that this will have
a benefit. Avoid meats, especially
		
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			red meats, and even chicken as far
as possible. That's going to be
		
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			very difficult for most people,
because most of the diet consists
		
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			of that. But it's not impossible.
In our home, as I said, we've had
		
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			meat in the last two weeks, we've
had some qurbani beef that was
		
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			given to us, we wish we finally
pulled out the last of the meat we
		
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			had in the freezer. We had that
few days about probably about a
		
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			week ago. And I think before that
there were some chicken nuggets,
		
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			some, some some chicken pieces,
some chicken * that we had,
		
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			that was the end of our meeting
two weeks, that's all we've had in
		
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			terms of meats, right? Just those
two bits. That's all we've had.
		
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			Other than that hamdulillah we've
had good food, right? So it's a
		
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			possibility
		
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			that this really, really helps to
manage the * drive. That's not
		
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			what we're doing it for. Right?
You know, that's not why we're
		
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			doing we're doing it for other
reasons, because meat is just
		
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			generally not the products awesome
eat it when he had it. And he ate
		
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			it well when he had it. But for
most of the time, he didn't have
		
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			it, and he didn't eat it. And I'm
one of the Alon mentions in the
		
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			Moto Mr. Malik Hadith that it has
an addiction. But meat, the reason
		
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			why meat is a problem, right? What
is the so called science behind it
		
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			as the increases testosterone,
which is in a human men need
		
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			testosterone, you can't do without
it, you need some. But if you have
		
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			an imbalance in the estrogen and
the testosterone, then you can
		
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			have some massive, massive
problems. Women need a certain
		
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			balance, men need another balance.
Otherwise men can start producing
		
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			* if they have the opposite
balance. So you need a balance and
		
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			you don't need you don't need
access. And you don't need it to
		
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			be too short meat having too much
meat. And if you look at the
		
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			world, the industry right there we
were talking about the ocean.
		
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			There's hardly any fish left now
in you know in the shallower
		
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			waters where they used to
generally fish. So these trawlers
		
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			are going into the deep now and
the fishing from they're literally
		
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			just killing them destroying the
marine life to such a degree that
		
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			I don't know if they can be
replaced. There are so many types
		
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			of fish that they're saying that
they are really, if not if they're
		
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			not extinct yet they're on the
verge of extinction. Right just to
		
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			be able to go and find fish
whenever you want whichever one
		
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			you want. Sounds like a very good
thing to do. But it's not
		
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			sustainable. And a seeing the
hands of that. You were never
		
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			meant to have that. We were never
meant to be having meat every day
		
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			and fish every day or fish and
meat every day. You know the way
		
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			people are doing today especially
when you've got the money right to
		
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			do to do these things. These are
not these are unnatural to do they
		
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			are natural products but they are
it's unnatural for us to consume
		
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			them the way we do. So meat has a
massive impacts of cut down on it.
		
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			Go to white meats, if you have to,
right start with that first. But
		
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			otherwise really cut down on that.
The second thing that he mentioned
		
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			is cut down sugars. Sugar is a
massive stimulant. Right, just
		
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			generally, especially the refined
sugars that we're having, which is
		
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			pretty much everything today. So
cut down on your sugars, if
		
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			somebody seriously wants to do is
they'll have to do this kind of
		
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			thing and see what benefit it
gives them.
		
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			Cut down on your sugars cut down
on your meats.
		
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			Number three, you need to release
the you need to release release,
		
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			basically,
		
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			your physical, pent up strength
that needs to be released. So find
		
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			a martial arts find an exercise,
find whether that be some kind of
		
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			Halal yoga, whether like it can be
some kind of jujitsu, some other
		
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			martial arts, running whatever
there has to be an activity that
		
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			you do. Because without that
activity, all the energy that you
		
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			have built up with the foods that
we eat, and just the naturally
		
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			natural reaction in our bodies. If
we don't release it somehow, then
		
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			it wants to release it through
sexual activity. For some people,
		
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			the only physical activity aside
from walking is sexual activity.
		
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			Right? It's not good enough. And
when you can't have sexual
		
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			activity, because you don't have a
spouse, or your spouse isn't
		
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			around or whatever the case is,
right? Then you need a sexual, you
		
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			need another outlet to release
your physical energy. So can you
		
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			see these are very hard. And these
are some very solid, you know,
		
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			practical ideas. So just that's
why the person was saying I do my
		
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			toolbar I do my thicker but it
doesn't have any effect. It's
		
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			going to have a bit of an effect,
but you're allowing other
		
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			stimulants to come within you.
		
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			What else did he say? So he said
yes,
		
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			no meats, cut down and sugar and
cut down meat cut down and sugar
		
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			and have a physical exercise.
That's what he said basically,
		
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			then, if I go back to this now,
it's step number four was engaging
		
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			your body in sports is as exercise
in yoga, keep your body busy and
		
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			active so that you don't feel
physically frustrated. Physical
		
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			frustration is bad, because then
you comes up with all of these
		
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			various different problems. Number
five says do not masturbate. don't
		
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			masturbate. Don't think that that
will release your don't think that
		
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			that will release your section.
And he may do for that moment, but
		
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			then it becomes a habit, you'll
want it again, then you just have
		
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			to keep wanting and then that's
haram, it's wrong to do. So you
		
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			can't respond to something with a
haram because then you just want
		
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			to do it again afterwards. And
then in order to for a lot of
		
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			people when they must obey, then
they have they need stimulants for
		
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			that. So then that adds a number
of other problems to try to get
		
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			yourself under control without
having to resort to these things.
		
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			If you find yourself becoming
aroused, that says think of non
		
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			sexual images, I don't know how
that's gonna do for people but
		
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			like, what do you think of is just
don't even go there. It's just
		
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			always have this meditation in
mind that look, this is a test
		
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			from Allah and in America are
three usara that with every
		
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			difficulty comes easy. So I'm
having to go through a difficult
		
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			period when I get married
Holocaust, you know, Inshallah,
		
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			that would be much more
pleasurable. Think of sober and
		
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			patients that Allah gives. Great,
great, great.
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala gives a lot
of promises for people who make
		
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			supper, and who are patient. In
fact, some of the highest rewards
		
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			are for people with patients. This
is the source of patients, because
		
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			it's physical patients that you
have to you have to endure from
		
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			committing something haram. And
even if you don't feel like
		
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			committing haram, but you feel
like why can I get married? Well,
		
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			there must be reasons why you
can't get married, right? Go and
		
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			figure out those reasons why you
can't get married, if you
		
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			genuinely can't get married, well,
even sober, in that case is still
		
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			going to help you and inshallah
the fruits of it will be wonderful
		
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			once you once you do once you do
get married.
		
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			And then it says, Pursue non
sexual relationship with people.
		
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			Right? Meaning have Don't Don't be
around people that are generally
		
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			talking about this stuff. I mean,
from what I hear on certain
		
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			groups, not necessarily Muslims,
but others. I mean, because he was
		
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			on the talk show the other day,
just speaking about
		
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			that the whole point is about
flaunting who you're dating. So he
		
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			says that the guy was saying that
when I was 17, I used to do this
		
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			as well, which is that if I've
hooked up with a really nice
		
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			looking girl, then I'll take a
picture and say, Look what I've
		
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			got. So it's just a commodity they
were doing, you know, they just
		
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			had a commodity that they were
flaunting. And this is the kind of
		
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			things that would be passed around
on an all male group men do these
		
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			crazy things. Right? So don't do
that don't be with such people who
		
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			are constantly talking about *.
We're constantly talking about
		
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			members of the opposite gender.
We're constantly talking about
		
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			these kinds of haram things,
because they're not very helpful.
		
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			And you can imagine it's not very
helpful at all.
		
00:30:04 --> 00:30:07
			Number seven, he says abstain from
alcohol and drugs, especially if
		
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			you feel that they lower your
inhibitions and cause you to do
		
00:30:09 --> 00:30:12
			something you may regret later
that speak in a very mainstream
		
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			level. Right? I'm talking about
people who are not into alcohol or
		
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			drugs, right, but they're still
finding difficulty. So that the
		
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			other thing is you have to keep
busy. Right? So I would say out of
		
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			those main three things, cut down
on the meat, cut down on the
		
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			sugar, increase an exercise, add
an exercise, and number four, get
		
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			an activity that you're busy and
something that you can pursue
		
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			something that you enjoy doing,
whether that be, you know, some
		
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			extra curricular work necessary,
or if you enjoy your work, start a
		
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			business. You know, do a business,
if you want to sell things online,
		
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			keep yourself busy, right? Go and
help out volunteer, right, that
		
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			gives you satisfaction. It'll help
with the frustration. You have to
		
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			stay busy, you have to have no
time for anything else. That's
		
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			when it helps, so that your mind
doesn't wander then you find other
		
00:31:00 --> 00:31:05
			outlets for these things. So as I
said, these things are not simple.
		
00:31:05 --> 00:31:08
			They're not as simple as just
making Toba. Toba is very helpful
		
00:31:08 --> 00:31:11
			in releasing all the past sins.
That's what it's for. But the
		
00:31:11 --> 00:31:15
			future, if you're still going to
allow out if you're still going to
		
00:31:15 --> 00:31:20
			allow things to come into our
life, which stimulate us in the
		
00:31:20 --> 00:31:24
			wrong way. And we don't break down
those stimulations, then we're
		
00:31:24 --> 00:31:28
			going to be back to square one
very soon. So holistically
		
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			speaking, there are the three
things. If we take all of these
		
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			physical recommendations that I
mentioned, which is to avoid your
		
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			sugars and your meats and do an
exercise, they would be considered
		
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			to be your practical and dietary
measures that you need to take.
		
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			Then number two, we must make Toba
and number three, is to do
		
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			thicker, because that's what's
gonna get the heart strong. And
		
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			what really helps to, to drive all
of these things is the love of
		
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			Allah subhanaw. Taala is the love
of Allah. And ideas in mind, like
		
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			I want to stay a pure person.
		
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			If you don't think this is wrong
to start with, then you're never
		
00:32:10 --> 00:32:12
			going to succeed in this because
what's the problem with it?
		
00:32:14 --> 00:32:16
			They'll tell you a little bit of
*, what's wrong with a
		
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			little bit of * is fine.
There's a lot of people who
		
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			propose who proposed that idea.
You can't listen to that. Because
		
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			the little bit ends up being a lot
anyway, and even a little bit is
		
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			haram to start with. So it's
extremely important to have the
		
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			spiritual aspect which will build
the heart and eventually inshallah
		
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			we will be able to avoid the gays.
So you're walking through, you're
		
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			going to the masjid, you're going
to university, you're going to
		
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			work you're walking through,
there's going to be so many things
		
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			you will see I have respect for
these individuals, even if they
		
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			don't have respect for themselves,
because of the way they dress.
		
00:32:53 --> 00:32:55
			Right, they may not have respect
for themselves, doesn't mean that
		
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			we don't respect people. We
respect them because they're human
		
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			beings. And we want to work within
the parameters that Allah subhanaw
		
00:33:02 --> 00:33:06
			taala has placed down for us,
which is for everybody's benefit.
		
00:33:06 --> 00:33:09
			And those parameters are that we
respect individuals by not looking
		
00:33:09 --> 00:33:12
			at what we're not supposed to look
at, unless it's done through
		
00:33:12 --> 00:33:15
			license, which is through a
marriage. That's what we allowed
		
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			any kind of sexual look at
anything sexual encounter with
		
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			anything has to be done within the
Sharia. Because that is what makes
		
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			it makes it helpful. That's why if
we're to quickly reflect over the
		
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			the problems that we've seen
currently in the in the media,
		
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			with all of these accusations of
sexual harassment and so on, and
		
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			the some of them must be right, if
not all of them, they must be
		
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			right, right? Because you just
can't have so many people. How
		
00:33:40 --> 00:33:42
			would you prove that somebody
sexually harassed you? 20 years
		
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			ago, when you've got no footage?
You've got no, that you've got
		
00:33:47 --> 00:33:49
			nobody who's witnessed it? How do
you prove that
		
00:33:51 --> 00:33:54
			the way they prove it nowadays is
that the second person comes
		
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			along, and the third person comes
along, and the fourth person comes
		
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			along, and you look and you say
that, hey, these guys aren't
		
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			friends, they've never met each
other. They could never have
		
00:34:01 --> 00:34:04
			agreed to do this. So literally,
what they're doing is they're
		
00:34:04 --> 00:34:07
			using what you call the water,
right in Islam, which was called
		
00:34:07 --> 00:34:11
			the water that way you get to such
a level of contiguous
		
00:34:11 --> 00:34:15
			transmission, and report that you
look and you investigate, and you
		
00:34:15 --> 00:34:19
			find this could not have been a
conspiracy. Right? There must be
		
00:34:19 --> 00:34:23
			something about this. I'm assuming
that that's basically where the
		
00:34:23 --> 00:34:26
			proof of this comes from. But
either way, whatever the case is,
		
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			if you look, if you look in the
industry, if there were three
		
00:34:29 --> 00:34:33
			things that Islam tells us to do,
right, one is from the Hadith and
		
00:34:33 --> 00:34:37
			too often the Quran, then we would
minimize a lot of these problems,
		
00:34:37 --> 00:34:40
			there's always going to be
problems because humans are
		
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			failings, women have failings and
men have failings. The failing of
		
00:34:44 --> 00:34:51
			the feigning of men, right males
is that they can't they they can't
		
00:34:51 --> 00:34:55
			control themselves. They can
easily lose their control when it
		
00:34:55 --> 00:34:58
			comes to the opposite gender is
just a natural thing within them.
		
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			That's why you need measures in
		
00:35:00 --> 00:35:02
			in place, because the default is
something as in studies will show
		
00:35:02 --> 00:35:06
			you that studies show they hooked
up a guy, a few guys, several
		
00:35:06 --> 00:35:08
			guys, in fact, in a study, they
hooked their minds up, you know,
		
00:35:08 --> 00:35:11
			their brains up. And then they
showed them pictures of beautiful
		
00:35:11 --> 00:35:14
			women are beautiful and not so
beautiful and you know, various
		
00:35:14 --> 00:35:16
			different types of women. And they
saw how the brain just box up
		
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			whether you like it or not. It's
just a natural reaction in men,
		
00:35:20 --> 00:35:23
			right? And somewhat in women like
that. Women have another issue
		
00:35:23 --> 00:35:26
			that they want to reveal
themselves. Right? Even if it's
		
00:35:26 --> 00:35:29
			cold outside, they want to reveal
themselves. It's just another
		
00:35:29 --> 00:35:32
			nother problem that women have.
It's some, it's something that
		
00:35:32 --> 00:35:32
			happens.
		
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			You have to take these things into
consideration. So number one, the
		
00:35:37 --> 00:35:39
			Hadith says that when there's two
people in a room, a man and a
		
00:35:39 --> 00:35:43
			woman in a room alone 30 is going
to be shaytaan you need to avoid
		
00:35:43 --> 00:35:46
			that. Now I know in our busy in
our modern lifestyles is difficult
		
00:35:46 --> 00:35:49
			to do that sometimes. But to be
very frank, I mean, you can make
		
00:35:49 --> 00:35:51
			up an excuse I'm claustrophobic,
please leave the door slightly
		
00:35:51 --> 00:35:55
			ajar. Right? If there's a room
with a window, it's better to use
		
00:35:55 --> 00:35:57
			that that people can actually look
in. So you know, it's just to try
		
00:35:57 --> 00:36:01
			to cut down on that, while keeping
the practicalities into
		
00:36:01 --> 00:36:03
			consideration if you can't avoid
them completely. That's number
		
00:36:03 --> 00:36:05
			one. Number two, Allah says in the
Quran, that
		
00:36:07 --> 00:36:10
			a cool minute and Khalil meaning
Yeah, who do when upside him?
		
00:36:10 --> 00:36:15
			Wherefore do Furuya just don't
look, lower your gaze? Right? If
		
00:36:15 --> 00:36:18
			you look first, don't keep your
eyes on the ISP so sticky that
		
00:36:18 --> 00:36:21
			they continue to look but be able
to look away, look down. So that's
		
00:36:21 --> 00:36:26
			another thing. But now the whole
industry is the whole movie
		
00:36:26 --> 00:36:30
			industry, which is a massively
corrupt industry from ground, you
		
00:36:30 --> 00:36:34
			know, from, you know, from from
the actual foundations. And these
		
00:36:34 --> 00:36:37
			things were inevitable they've
been going on for years. That's
		
00:36:37 --> 00:36:38
			why everybody's saying that.
		
00:36:39 --> 00:36:42
			Everybody knows about it. And
nobody just spoke about it.
		
00:36:42 --> 00:36:45
			Because people are too powerful.
These are just a mix of a number
		
00:36:45 --> 00:36:49
			of factors here that's just kept
this underground. But it's that
		
00:36:49 --> 00:36:51
			same industry that tells women to
dress in a particular way. And
		
00:36:51 --> 00:36:54
			then they feel that that is their
freedom. That's why you've never
		
00:36:54 --> 00:36:57
			heard in this discussion here.
Have you ever heard in this entire
		
00:36:57 --> 00:37:00
			discussion that's been going on
for the last month or two or two
		
00:37:00 --> 00:37:04
			months or three months, or
whatever it is that they've never
		
00:37:04 --> 00:37:08
			never mentioned that women should
dress modestly? No, women should
		
00:37:08 --> 00:37:13
			have the right to dress as they
want. But men should just be able
		
00:37:13 --> 00:37:14
			to control themselves.
		
00:37:16 --> 00:37:19
			And that's why there's a very good
article I read somewhere which
		
00:37:19 --> 00:37:21
			said, which was probably the one,
the only one that I read that
		
00:37:21 --> 00:37:23
			actually said
		
00:37:24 --> 00:37:27
			we keep blaming the men. But when
it comes to the women, they want
		
00:37:27 --> 00:37:30
			to dress up very attractively.
		
00:37:32 --> 00:37:35
			And if the wrong guy hits on them,
that's when they get angry. If
		
00:37:35 --> 00:37:39
			he's the right guy, then it's not
not a problem. If it's somebody
		
00:37:39 --> 00:37:42
			like Weinstein, then yeah, they've
got a problem with that. But if
		
00:37:42 --> 00:37:44
			it's anybody else that it would
identify that that is a
		
00:37:44 --> 00:37:47
			fulfillment of why they dressed
the way they do.
		
00:37:48 --> 00:37:50
			I'm not saying all women dressed
like that, for that reason, some
		
00:37:50 --> 00:37:52
			just do it because that's the
trend of the time and they feel
		
00:37:52 --> 00:37:55
			out of place to do otherwise they
many motivations, so I don't want
		
00:37:55 --> 00:38:00
			to judge any woman's motivation.
But there's definitely their dress
		
00:38:00 --> 00:38:04
			to kill. Right? Dressed to Kill
spiritually. Absolutely. Right.
		
00:38:05 --> 00:38:08
			And then that it was a it was a
woman who was writing this and she
		
00:38:08 --> 00:38:12
			said, you know, we keep saying
that it's men. And yes, it is men
		
00:38:12 --> 00:38:15
			I would agree it's men men have a
problem is no doubt about it. But
		
00:38:15 --> 00:38:18
			it's women as well. It just
depends on who's attacking them,
		
00:38:19 --> 00:38:22
			or who's giving them too much
attention, then if it goes the
		
00:38:22 --> 00:38:24
			right way, then it's fine. But if
it goes the wrong way then they
		
00:38:24 --> 00:38:24
			complain.
		
00:38:27 --> 00:38:27
			So
		
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			that's number two. And number
three, Allah subhanho wa Taala
		
00:38:31 --> 00:38:36
			talks about you have any other
market and Zina Alikum Lieberson
		
00:38:37 --> 00:38:40
			you are so article militia when he
was to talk about the article
		
00:38:40 --> 00:38:45
			highly recommend it Lahaina along
with the karoun which is oh bunny
		
00:38:45 --> 00:38:48
			Adam are Children of Adam we have
caused we have given you clothing.
		
00:38:49 --> 00:38:53
			We have given you clothing so that
you can cover your nakedness.
		
00:38:53 --> 00:38:56
			whole point of clothing was to
cover your nakedness. But then
		
00:38:56 --> 00:38:59
			Allah says that yeah, that's
physical clothing you will cover
		
00:38:59 --> 00:39:01
			your nakedness with but you need
the inner drive. Remember that
		
00:39:01 --> 00:39:05
			inner drive that I was speaking
about the strong heart, the strong
		
00:39:05 --> 00:39:09
			Iman, while he Burswood Taqwa
vertical height is really the
		
00:39:09 --> 00:39:10
			labors of Taqwa.
		
00:39:11 --> 00:39:15
			That is the superior form of
Libous doesn't mean that you shed
		
00:39:15 --> 00:39:18
			your outsell the boss and you
become denuded. And say you've got
		
00:39:18 --> 00:39:21
			Taqwa because that one assumes
that you're going to cover about
		
00:39:21 --> 00:39:24
			side you're going to be modestly
dressed. Then Allah subhanaw taala
		
00:39:24 --> 00:39:28
			says, Yeah, Benny Adam, what's
after that?
		
00:39:29 --> 00:39:30
			The next verse.
		
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			Life tienen que shaytaan Yeah,
Benny Adam life Denon negotiate on
		
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			karma Raja away Camino Jana en
zero and Houma. Liba Houma Lilia
		
00:39:40 --> 00:39:44
			Houma so Artie Hema in the WHO
Yurakucho kabhi lumen Hi Tula
		
00:39:44 --> 00:39:48
			Tirana home in Jana shell Tina
Olia and Isla de Nila Umino
		
00:39:49 --> 00:39:52
			and then we'll have a Serato
becomes takim the Oh children of
		
00:39:52 --> 00:39:53
			Adam.
		
00:39:55 --> 00:39:56
			The shaytaan should not mislead
you.
		
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			He should not mislead you and he
should
		
00:40:00 --> 00:40:03
			Not caused you to become destroyed
I'm giving my own interpretation
		
00:40:03 --> 00:40:07
			here just like he caused your
forefathers your your parents,
		
00:40:07 --> 00:40:12
			them and how are they salaam to
come to be to come out of
		
00:40:12 --> 00:40:16
			paradise? And he says What does
Allah say?
		
00:40:17 --> 00:40:21
			Uh huh Raja awake urgently. NZ oh
and Huma de bas Omar by having
		
00:40:21 --> 00:40:23
			their clothing removed from them
because when they ate from where
		
00:40:23 --> 00:40:28
			they were not supposed to their
clothing, they became denuded in a
		
00:40:28 --> 00:40:32
			sense, the clothing was removed.
Clothing is very important. It has
		
00:40:32 --> 00:40:34
			a very important aspect in Islam.
		
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			And then he says shaytaan sees you
from where you don't see them.
		
00:40:40 --> 00:40:42
			shaytaan can see you from where
you do not see him.
		
00:40:44 --> 00:40:47
			And in Niger, Anna shell Tina Olia
the Levine Allah, you will be
		
00:40:47 --> 00:40:49
			known and we have made the
shaytans
		
00:40:50 --> 00:40:54
			intimate friends with those who do
not believe we made shaytaan
		
00:40:54 --> 00:40:57
			intimate friends with those who do
not believe.
		
00:40:58 --> 00:41:02
			And this is where the whole trend
is coming from from Shaytaan. And
		
00:41:02 --> 00:41:06
			we have to deal with it. Right? I
can't tell somebody who calls me
		
00:41:06 --> 00:41:10
			to pack your bags and go somewhere
else. Because there's fitna
		
00:41:10 --> 00:41:13
			everywhere. It's on your phone if
you want it. That's why the most
		
00:41:13 --> 00:41:18
			important thing is to try to
mitigate wherever you can. Like
		
00:41:18 --> 00:41:21
			this brother, he says, at home, I
don't have internet I've cut it
		
00:41:21 --> 00:41:25
			down. I don't have I don't have
internet at home. The second
		
00:41:25 --> 00:41:29
			brother that I spoke to, I don't
have internet at home. I said what
		
00:41:29 --> 00:41:33
			about your phone? He says not I've
blocked it. You can tell that he's
		
00:41:33 --> 00:41:38
			frustrated. He's got problems. And
he's taken measures, but he still
		
00:41:38 --> 00:41:44
			feels the needs. So in the WHO
Eurocom who have kabhi lumen
		
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			heikkila Tirana Homina Jana shell
Tina, ODI, Allah, Allah, you know,
		
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			and then Allah subhanaw taala
speaks about his straight path.
		
00:41:51 --> 00:41:55
			May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant
us the Tofik it's not easy. It's a
		
00:41:55 --> 00:42:00
			challenge for everybody. Right?
But we ask Allah subhanaw taala to
		
00:42:00 --> 00:42:04
			help us and hopefully this has
been useful for us to see what we
		
00:42:04 --> 00:42:09
			indulge in too much to try to cut
down on those things. And there's
		
00:42:09 --> 00:42:13
			a lot of benefits in doing this.
May Allah subhanaw taala give us
		
00:42:13 --> 00:42:18
			that tofi can May Allah allow us
to go to him pure when we leave
		
00:42:18 --> 00:42:21
			this world finally that we've been
able to spend time in this world,
		
00:42:22 --> 00:42:24
			we've been able to deal with our
frustrations use them in the
		
00:42:24 --> 00:42:28
			rightful manner and not in the
wrongful manner and may Allah
		
00:42:28 --> 00:42:31
			subhanaw taala give us purity and
chastity working with the owner
		
00:42:31 --> 00:42:34
			and Al Hamdulillah Allah him under
Salam Inca, Ceylon Dubach they are
		
00:42:34 --> 00:42:37
			they generally will eat Quran
Allah homea how you Yatta une
		
00:42:37 --> 00:42:43
			Bureau medical studies Allahumma
Yohanna yum in Isla Illa and
		
00:42:43 --> 00:42:47
			Subhanak Subhana Inaka nominal
body mean Allahumma Finnland our
		
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			ham now I have you know, you know
what is? Allah homophilic on
		
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			Matthew so you didn't know
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			salam Allahu Allah azza wa jal
Cubana harshita cover the croc
		
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			which are him Medtner were her
Werner female Taheebo Tada Wallah
		
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			we ask You for Your Mercy, Your
blessing your protection of Allah
		
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			we ask You for Your guidance of
Allah we ask you for purity of
		
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			Allah we ask you for your love of
Allah we ask you for good company
		
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			of Allah, we ask that You grant us
the ability to stand up in the
		
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			middle of the night and pray to
you. We ask that whenever you want
		
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			us to be praying to you of Allah
that we ask you for the energy and
		
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			the strength to do that of Allah,
we ask that You grant us the
		
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			ability to be where you want us to
be. And to stay away from where
		
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			you do not want us to be. Oh Allah
assist us and help us of Allah.
		
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			Everybody hear this is the desire
of Allah but we have failings we
		
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			have weaknesses.
		
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			We have shortcomings of Allah, we
have weaknesses. We have
		
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			shortcomings. We have challenges
of Allah, we have temptations of
		
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			Allah, you've put us wherever
you've put us for a particular
		
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			reason. Oh Allah allow us to take
the best of it. Oh Allah allow us
		
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			to realize the best of it. Or
Allah allow us to realize whatever
		
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			we can that is beneficial for us
in terms of this world and the
		
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			hereafter. Oh ALLAH blessed us in
what you have given us. But oh
		
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			Allah protect us from the evil of
what's around us. And Allah
		
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			protect us from protect us from
that evil of allah God grant us
		
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			Yaqeen in our hearts grant a
strength in our hearts grant is
		
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			conviction in our heart, oh Allah
make us immune. Oh Allah grant us
		
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			and remove the vulnerability of
Allah. O Allah. Grant us
		
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			protection from seeing and hearing
and touching and saying that which
		
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			is displeasing to you? Oh Allah
allow us only to say those things
		
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			that are pleasing to you. Oh Allah
allow us to only be part of
		
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			pursuits which are permissible and
bless it. Oh Allah choose for us.
		
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			Oh Allah and choose the best for
us. Oh Allah guide us. Oh Allah
		
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			guide us. Oh Allah protect us
protect our progeny until the day
		
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			of judgment of Allah make us role
models of the guided ones. Make us
		
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			him
		
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			arms of the guided ones, our law
makers, imams of the guided ones
		
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			make us force for good change. Oh
Allah accept every one of us here
		
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			for the service of your deen of
Allah We ask that you
		
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			protect us from all forms of all
forms of disgrace and humiliation
		
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			in this world and in the
hereafter. Oh Allah we ask that
		
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			You grant us, You grant us baraka
and self dignity. You grant us
		
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			respect and chivalry of Allah you
grant us courtesy, you grant us
		
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			taqwa, you grant us purity, you
grant us blessing of Allah, that
		
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			you make us of those who are
considered to be forces for good
		
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			and Oh ALLAH for, for those who
are seem to be to have a positive
		
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			outlook, and those who are able to
assist and help others. Oh Allah,
		
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			we ask that you forgive us,
whatever wrongs that we have done,
		
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			and make all of the remaining
parts of our life are blessed,
		
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			blessed a blessed situation, make
the best time of our life the last
		
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			time the last moments of our life
and make the best day of our
		
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			existence the day that we stand in
front of you. Oh Allah, we ask You
		
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			for acceptance. We ask You for
relief of problems from all of our
		
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			Muslim brothers and sisters around
the world and from all humanity.
		
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			And we ask that you bring back
humanity to the insane insomnia
		
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			today in CRN O Allah, we ask that
you send your abundant blessings
		
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			on our messenger Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa salam that
		
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			you allow us to take him as our
role model and to emulate him and
		
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			grant us his company in the
hereafter. Subhan Allah beaker
		
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			Abdullah is that your mi OC phone
was salam and Alamo selling Al
		
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			Hamdulillah