Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Developing Immunity in a HyperSexualised Society
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Learn her off murder Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi wa Salatu was Salam.
Why does she even know Celine why? He was so happy about raka seldom
at the Sleeman cathedral, Ilario Medina, Amma Bard,
literally in the last three days, three to four days if to get to be
more accurate about I think it was the last three days, I got two
calls, and both from different countries.
And both of these calls were of the same nature.
They were pretty much saying the same thing. The first lesson he
called me, and we've had you know, we've we've been connected for
quite a while.
He's in a country in Europe. And the other person is also from
somewhere within the extended European countries. Basically, he
says, Look, he's a young guy who has been trying to get married for
a long time.
But he can't, there's just a number of factors, right, we've
which I've discussed with him before this discussed before, just
can't get married, finding the most suitable person while he's
studying, can't get a house yet, so on and so forth, not religious
enough. He can't find somebody religious enough, numerous things
that just make it very difficult for him to currently get married.
So he says, How can I remain steadfast on my bean? If that
can't happen? So obviously, within that there's a number of number of
issues that he's raising as to what he's asking about. Clearly,
the discussion is not that I can't get married. So how do I get
married? That wasn't the discussion, because we've had that
discussion before. The point is, how does he remain steadfast in a
state that he can't currently be married?
Number two, another person called me for the first time from
somewhere else. He's originally from Pakistan, but is a PhD
student somewhere else in Europe. And he says that the temptations
are just too bad for me. While he may be fixed up, he can't bring
his wife over. So initialized to just get married then.
But that was obviously not a practical solution that was gonna
happen. So he's just saying, How do I remain steadfast? And I'm
saying you're asking for a miracle. To both of these,
basically, my first response was that you're asking for a miracle.
But that's to say that you're asking for a miracle is merely
saying that there's no answer to it? And that's the wrong answer,
to give. So that was just just to kind of make them think that look,
this is going to be difficult, but you're you have to really
work hard to solve this situation. First and foremost, both of these
people asking me the question,
tell us two things. Number one, it tells us that this this is a
massive frustration across the board for a lot of people, even
for married people.
While they may have an outlet to remove their sexual desire, or to
fulfill their sexual desire, the overstimulation of our society
where everything is sexualized
makes it very difficult, even for people who have who are married
for both men and women. By the way, this is not just a man thing.
For a lot of women, this is a case, it may not be for some
women, but it is for other women, and which is quite shocking. When
you first hear about that you think this is a man problem with
the increased testosterone. But there are problems with with in
the over sexualized culture that we live in for women as well.
Maybe less than men, hopefully. But there is. So even for married
people, it's a difficulty. So for unmarried people who have no
recourse to anything, what do they do?
So I said, it's like asking for a miracle. You don't want to do the
solute solution. You don't want to find a solution. The Prophet
sallallahu sallam said something as simple as if you see, it was
talking from a man's perspective, that if you see a man, if a man
sees a woman that kind of attracts him, and then gives him an urge a
sexual urge, then come home and fulfill your sexual urge with your
wife, for she has what she has, that was our idea that wants your
sexual urges been fulfilled, then your sexual drive would have
calmed down.
But when you don't have a wife, then it makes it even more
difficult.
Now the Sahaba Of course, you don't hear
within the sahaba. You
There were very few cases of Zina that you hear about. And of
course, you know, they used to get married multiple times. So they
had many outlets in that sense and so on their situation was a bit
different to ours. That's not a norm for us. So it basically the
responses that I gave and then I came back I then in order to speak
about it more, I said what do other people suggest about
controlling sexual desire? So we find that there's a number of
steps.
First and foremost, the thing which will drive sexual desire a
lot of people think in fact one of the brothers just
are told me that I've done so much. So far, every time I do is
too far when I feel really guilty, I do step four, I seek
forgiveness. And then after that, within a short time, I feel very
good for a while, and then after that it breaks again.
So, I said, Yes, exactly, you're putting the AC on, you're having a
wash, let's just say that you're having a really nice hosel. And
then you're going back in the dirt. So you're gonna get dirty
again, don't think that just one step forward is going to be
sufficient for you to then remain pure and chased afterwards. And
for these desires to go, there's a number of places where these
desires come from. And that's what the problem is. So he needs a very
holistic look.
In fact, in my research that I was doing online to try to find ways
of controlling sexual desire, aside from one place that talked
about the medical condition of *, and, you know, over
sexual desire, an overdrive in sexual drive in sexuality based on
they said that it could be a bipolar order or some other some
other disease of that nature or some other problem of that nature.
Everywhere else was telling you how to increase your sexual
desire. Every other article I read was that these are the foods that
dampen your sexual desire. So cut down on them and do this instead,
don't take too much Maryon, and you know, do this instead, it was
the opposite way to increase the sexual desire as though people
don't have enough. It's really weird. It just tells you the the
trend of the society. And along with that, if you see what's
happening right now, with this Harry Weinstein problem, and
everybody's coming down, not just him, but so many others. And it's
all coming up, because now people have found enough courage to speak
out. And it's just recent, may Allah protect us, but it's just
really sad. How were these kinds of accusations are flying not just
against non Muslims, but against Muslims as well.
So clearly, that's a very sexualized industry, that the same
person who's been there accused, he's been in the movie business
for decades, producing movies of that nature, where everybody is
expected to act in a particular way. I mean, the same people who
are then accusing him are still coming on, even when they're
coming to voice their accusation to tell their stories
to speak about their sexual harassment, which is really bad,
of course, you know, regardless of what the circumstance was, it's
just bad anyway.
They're coming, still dressed
in a very unhelpful way.
So when they come for something like that, they still don't get it
that there is still the problem is on everybody's part, not just from
one side. Yeah, maybe it's more from one side than another side. I
don't want to blame the victim. But that can't be an excuse
either. For, you know, not making them culpable as well, or not
making them guilty as well for something not making making them.
The reason sometimes, the industry has been made such such an such
it's taken, it's been taken to such a sexualized level, that even
while you talk about sexual harassment, you have to dress in a
particular way, because you can't be seen dressed in any other
modest way, for example.
But that's not our topic. Let's just get back to it. How do we
deal with this situation? Where if you're going to school, if you're
going to college, if you're going to work? Are you just going
outside? You know about your normal, everyday business, you
can't stay at home. In fact, even people who stay at home they
finding difficulty because of the access to * and
everything else that you see in normal movies, right? So what do
you do in that situation? And as I said, you can't just do it step
four, step four is extremely helpful. It may it's going to help
Inshallah, if you do a sincere so far to remove the previous sins.
But then tomorrow, the problem is still going to be facing us. Some
people of course, marriage helps a great degree.
But again, this becomes an addiction and a habit,
essentially, at the core of it, at the core of it, aside from all of
the tempting factors, and all the attraction out there. It's lowness
of Eman, that's really what it comes down to. So spiritually
speaking, it's a low Iman that's what it is low faith. Because that
is the battery that keeps us I'll give you an example. If you have,
Have you have you seen these
repellents that they have battery battery powered repellents if
you're ever in a tropical climate, you have a battery powered
mosquito repellent. Now that's only going to last as long as your
bust your battery lasts. Once your battery is gone, then the
mosquitoes are gonna come Or likewise you put a repellent on
your you know, you get the spray the DEET spray as they call it,
right and you spray it on you but it lasts for several hours and
then after that you start feeding your mosquito bites and you know
that this has become ineffective. And likewise, essentially what
we're doing is that Iman is the battery. Iman is the repellent
So it's creating the immunity. That's why
it's the same thing, if you take it differently.
It also like when the cold season comes, then you want to start
taking
vitamin C and akinesia oil and or seeds or whatever it is that you
know, pills and tablets and things of that nature, the whole point of
it is to keep your immune system strong. If your immune system is
strong, then you're not going to be affected, you're not going to
be prone to a cold as easily as somebody else who has a low immune
system. So it's about creating immunity. It's about create
creating a sense of protection, removing the vulnerability, the
vulnerability, the vulnerability, right to get a repellent. That is
what's the most important thing at the end of the day. How do you do
that?
Well, of course,
a regimen of vicar helps to keep a connection to Allah subhanaw taala
alive when you do your Subhanallah Alhamdulillah when you recite your
Quran, and so on, that helps to keep a relationship with Allah
subhanaw taala alive. Have you not noticed that when you've done very
intense religious act, a spiritual act, for example, hydro hombre, or
Attica for being to a very, very uplifting Islamic program, right?
That's really, it helps. That's what you've what we've just done
is that we've just developed a level of immunity. We've just
recharged our battery, we've just basically got more power. And
thus, you don't even feel like looking, it's much easier, no
longer I mean, if I say no longer is sticky anymore. What I mean by
sticky eyes is that when you see something that's attractive,
you're going to notice it. But do your eyes then just stick? Are
they just trained to stick? Or can you easily move them away? So the
the I would say the solution to stick your eyes is to have a fear
of Allah in your heart. To have the taqwa level that look I don't
want to do this. I don't need to do this to psychologically,
mentally intellectually convinced yourself that this is bad for me,
I'm not getting anything out of it.
I'm not getting anything out of it. Allah says worker, you know,
in CERN is the Eve Holika Holika Linson or Eva as one of the more
fussy and said that this actually means that a man sees women who
look nice to him, but he knows he's never going to have them, but
he still looks at them.
And what's the point? So,
to develop the immunity is extremely important, but a lot of
people will tell you that they do thicker.
They are doing thicker. They are mashallah they are reading Quran
every day. They are reading this be the Kabir Meade Salawat
Tomasulo allah sallallahu sallam, but they still it may have
diminished slightly, they feel a better sense of connection with
Allah Hamdulillah.
That will definitely happen. But they still feel prone to these
things, they still feel vulnerable, they still can't keep
it away. See, by that time, it's probably an addiction. And
addiction is not so easily just removed by doing some thicker, it
needs a much more prolonged, one of the most effective things is to
be become number one, as the Prophet sallallahu sallam said,
fasting. Fasting helps a lot. But one thing that you have to realize
with fasting is that fasting is helps a lot to curb the sexual
frustration as the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, because
what it does is that it moderates your body. And there's a big
reason why fasting is beneficial. Initially, when you start fasting,
you actually it seems like a lot of people say that they actually
get more heated up.
So that's why a lot of people in Ramadan, they have a bit of a
challenge in the first week at least. Just because you start
fasting doesn't mean you get all dampened. There is a I'm not being
too graphic, but you can understand what I'm speaking
about. I'm not being very graphic.
But eventually fasting is supposed to moderate you. It's supposed to
put everything back into his equilibrium because you're not
eating a lot of the desire that we get
comes from what we eat.
That's undeniable that it comes from what we eat a lot of the
desire that we get built up, it comes from what we eat. And of
course, we've got the external. The industry is like this, the
society's become like that.
And people have just been taking advantage of it. It's an
impossibility to be in that society and be totally protected.
It's so difficult environment. I won't call it an impossibility
because Allah can protect whoever He wills. So one is the vicar. The
second most effective thing that helps in this case to develop the
immunity is for somebody you can get a reminder from so it is to
have good company right the good company have a che the good
company have good friends, this is an additional thing but that also
just helps to create the immunity. Now, as
As I said, there's people who are in this situation who are doing
these two things to a certain level. But they're still
vulnerable. And this is where many of us miss the actual miss a very
important problem here. And what it is, is that we are working on
ourselves spiritually. But we are physical beings, we are
physiological beings. diet plays a big, big part and big role in
this. So I've spoken to a few people.
I've spoken to a few people who've used these things themselves. I
believe there was one person who said that he was extremely
sexually promiscuous, until the age of, I can't remember his exact
age, but was an age of 20. And then for seven years, he just
stayed away from everything, until he got married. I can't remember
the exact ages. But it was this long period where he stayed away
completely after being after pretty much doing everything and
anything. That's what he mentioned clearly to me, right. And then
after that, he got married Hamdulillah.
But he suggested and then I've heard this suggestion from others.
And then there's some, there's some things that I found online
that speak about it from a non religious perspective, just purely
from a physiological and spiritual perspective, that are very
effective. And I think that this is what it is, because I've seen
so many people come and say that we're doing our vicar and so on,
but we still can't muster that same.
That same energy to completely, you know, we don't have the
strength to avoid still, what is the problem? So let's look,
let's look, look, look over a few things. Firstly, I'll tell you
what I found through these through online, which seemed to be
mashallah correspond with and confirm what I've learned
otherwise. And I mentioned those things. First and foremost, what
they're saying is that people on a spiritual journey may wish to
control their *, right? They're trying to be just, you know,
politically correct. So you're talking about people on a
spiritual journey might wish to control their sexual desire, so
that they can focus on less spiritual, worldly pursuits. Other
individuals find that overactive * drive is out of sync with
their partner * drive, or if they have no partner than a high
* drive might only result in frustration, right. So this is a
genuine problem. There are a lot of Muslims out there, obviously,
this will affect everybody that their partner is not up to how
much they want. And then that causes massive sexual frustration,
due to that actually causes a lot of marital problems. And then
there's no communication. Right. And it could either be that
they've got an extremely overly sexual drive, or the other person
just has an extremely low sexual drive. I know we're being very
open today. But this is an important discussion, because it
affects spirituality, probably more than so many other things
today, so many other things, marriages are breaking up. And a
lot of the time, this frustration at the bottom of it, right and
behind it. He says you can control your libido with some simple
lifestyle changes. and a high * drive is not necessarily a bad
impulse if you can find a way to make it work in your life. And
this is set in a very secular format, right secular contact. But
again, if you're if you do have a if you do have a nice, decent
suitable spouse, then hamdulillah there's nothing wrong with a good
sexual drive, that it's a good thing. There's nothing wrong with
that, as long as you got the right intention, right motive and so on.
The first suggestion is to talk to your doctor if you got to
extremely, you know, high * drive. For most people, I don't
think it's a very high * drive. I think it's just an addiction.
Right? And doctors are going to be happy to help you or not gonna be
able to help you with the sixth edition. Addiction to looking at
things. Right, especially if you don't have an outlet. If you if
you don't have a spouse, then what's the doctor gonna give you?
Right? Sexual suppressants I'm gonna meet you maybe need anti
*. But I don't know if there's such a thing that is anti
* with this * but I don't know if there's anti *
like the opposite of it. Right. So first he talks of course, if
somebody has an overly sexual *, you know, an overly hype, hyper
* drive, then maybe in that case, you can speak to a doctor
because there are medications that reduce your libido. Right but I
don't know if you want to go in that direction. That's all
chemical stuff, possibly that we don't want to have to deal with
that because we just want to deal with it in a nother way. Insha
Allah, I mean, you've got these hunger suppressants and all of
these
other suppressants of all these other things, but unless their
natural, you don't want to really go into that. The next thing that
they talked about here is that consider your reasons for wanting
to lower your * drive if you want to control your libido for
religious reasons as talk to your spiritual advisor so he told me
talk to your shake. Right so they even suggesting that don't be
embarrassed because he has likely dealt with this issue before and I
guarantee you that's a massive problem. So they probably have
dealt with it right any shape you go to you're probably dealt with
it.
Number three is avoid section now it's getting to the real stuff.
Avoid sexual stimuli
Session, this is extremely important sexual stimulation is
where the problem is, do not view * or read explicit
books. In fact, I'm going to go lower than that. A lot of people
who are addicted to *, they and it's like any other
addiction, they say, whether it's alcohol or drugs, or whatever the
case is, even if you stayed away for a while, even several months
or a year or something, when you then see anything that similar to
that, even on a lower level, it's not pure *, right? In
the modern sense of * as such, right? I don't know where
the barriers currently, right. But anything that you see that is a
bit revealing, is gonna then give you flashbacks, it's just the way
the brain works, and the shaytaan works with it. So then you you
want more, because that's not enough, you've been used to a lot
more than that, in * used to a lot more than that, you
know, maybe years ago or months ago. And then suddenly, you see,
you've been away for a while. And then suddenly you see something,
whether on outside or on a picture in a picture online, on TV,
whatever, you just need to avoid all of that. Don't say I'm only
going to do this much. Because if * has been the problem,
then people will probably generally say that, Oh, I can
allow myself to see things that are explicit, but not *,
because at least is better than *. But that is the
slippery slope that is the hotel quality shaytaan that is basically
the steps that it will take you because they will never suffice.
If you're in your mind, we've got space for something much more
intense than something less intense is not going to do it for
us, it's just going to push us to eventually get they're going to do
a bit bit bit until he gets to that point.
So that's why they saying pay attention to your thoughts to see
whether there are specific objects, settings, or people that
evoke the sexual response in you, and then avoid them as much as
possible.
Then they say something else. And there were three suggestions that
that individual told me who said he was very sexually active for a
long time. And then he stayed. Number one, I'll just mention it
because he's going to mention some of these points here. This article
is gonna mention something similar. What he said is, number
one, avoid meats. I've heard this from numerous people. And I can
guarantee you that this will have a benefit. Avoid meats, especially
red meats, and even chicken as far as possible. That's going to be
very difficult for most people, because most of the diet consists
of that. But it's not impossible. In our home, as I said, we've had
meat in the last two weeks, we've had some qurbani beef that was
given to us, we wish we finally pulled out the last of the meat we
had in the freezer. We had that few days about probably about a
week ago. And I think before that there were some chicken nuggets,
some, some some chicken pieces, some chicken * that we had,
that was the end of our meeting two weeks, that's all we've had in
terms of meats, right? Just those two bits. That's all we've had.
Other than that hamdulillah we've had good food, right? So it's a
possibility
that this really, really helps to manage the * drive. That's not
what we're doing it for. Right? You know, that's not why we're
doing we're doing it for other reasons, because meat is just
generally not the products awesome eat it when he had it. And he ate
it well when he had it. But for most of the time, he didn't have
it, and he didn't eat it. And I'm one of the Alon mentions in the
Moto Mr. Malik Hadith that it has an addiction. But meat, the reason
why meat is a problem, right? What is the so called science behind it
as the increases testosterone, which is in a human men need
testosterone, you can't do without it, you need some. But if you have
an imbalance in the estrogen and the testosterone, then you can
have some massive, massive problems. Women need a certain
balance, men need another balance. Otherwise men can start producing
* if they have the opposite balance. So you need a balance and
you don't need you don't need access. And you don't need it to
be too short meat having too much meat. And if you look at the
world, the industry right there we were talking about the ocean.
There's hardly any fish left now in you know in the shallower
waters where they used to generally fish. So these trawlers
are going into the deep now and the fishing from they're literally
just killing them destroying the marine life to such a degree that
I don't know if they can be replaced. There are so many types
of fish that they're saying that they are really, if not if they're
not extinct yet they're on the verge of extinction. Right just to
be able to go and find fish whenever you want whichever one
you want. Sounds like a very good thing to do. But it's not
sustainable. And a seeing the hands of that. You were never
meant to have that. We were never meant to be having meat every day
and fish every day or fish and meat every day. You know the way
people are doing today especially when you've got the money right to
do to do these things. These are not these are unnatural to do they
are natural products but they are it's unnatural for us to consume
them the way we do. So meat has a massive impacts of cut down on it.
Go to white meats, if you have to, right start with that first. But
otherwise really cut down on that. The second thing that he mentioned
is cut down sugars. Sugar is a massive stimulant. Right, just
generally, especially the refined sugars that we're having, which is
pretty much everything today. So cut down on your sugars, if
somebody seriously wants to do is they'll have to do this kind of
thing and see what benefit it gives them.
Cut down on your sugars cut down on your meats.
Number three, you need to release the you need to release release,
basically,
your physical, pent up strength that needs to be released. So find
a martial arts find an exercise, find whether that be some kind of
Halal yoga, whether like it can be some kind of jujitsu, some other
martial arts, running whatever there has to be an activity that
you do. Because without that activity, all the energy that you
have built up with the foods that we eat, and just the naturally
natural reaction in our bodies. If we don't release it somehow, then
it wants to release it through sexual activity. For some people,
the only physical activity aside from walking is sexual activity.
Right? It's not good enough. And when you can't have sexual
activity, because you don't have a spouse, or your spouse isn't
around or whatever the case is, right? Then you need a sexual, you
need another outlet to release your physical energy. So can you
see these are very hard. And these are some very solid, you know,
practical ideas. So just that's why the person was saying I do my
toolbar I do my thicker but it doesn't have any effect. It's
going to have a bit of an effect, but you're allowing other
stimulants to come within you.
What else did he say? So he said yes,
no meats, cut down and sugar and cut down meat cut down and sugar
and have a physical exercise. That's what he said basically,
then, if I go back to this now, it's step number four was engaging
your body in sports is as exercise in yoga, keep your body busy and
active so that you don't feel physically frustrated. Physical
frustration is bad, because then you comes up with all of these
various different problems. Number five says do not masturbate. don't
masturbate. Don't think that that will release your don't think that
that will release your section. And he may do for that moment, but
then it becomes a habit, you'll want it again, then you just have
to keep wanting and then that's haram, it's wrong to do. So you
can't respond to something with a haram because then you just want
to do it again afterwards. And then in order to for a lot of
people when they must obey, then they have they need stimulants for
that. So then that adds a number of other problems to try to get
yourself under control without having to resort to these things.
If you find yourself becoming aroused, that says think of non
sexual images, I don't know how that's gonna do for people but
like, what do you think of is just don't even go there. It's just
always have this meditation in mind that look, this is a test
from Allah and in America are three usara that with every
difficulty comes easy. So I'm having to go through a difficult
period when I get married Holocaust, you know, Inshallah,
that would be much more pleasurable. Think of sober and
patients that Allah gives. Great, great, great.
Allah subhanaw taala gives a lot of promises for people who make
supper, and who are patient. In fact, some of the highest rewards
are for people with patients. This is the source of patients, because
it's physical patients that you have to you have to endure from
committing something haram. And even if you don't feel like
committing haram, but you feel like why can I get married? Well,
there must be reasons why you can't get married, right? Go and
figure out those reasons why you can't get married, if you
genuinely can't get married, well, even sober, in that case is still
going to help you and inshallah the fruits of it will be wonderful
once you once you do once you do get married.
And then it says, Pursue non sexual relationship with people.
Right? Meaning have Don't Don't be around people that are generally
talking about this stuff. I mean, from what I hear on certain
groups, not necessarily Muslims, but others. I mean, because he was
on the talk show the other day, just speaking about
that the whole point is about flaunting who you're dating. So he
says that the guy was saying that when I was 17, I used to do this
as well, which is that if I've hooked up with a really nice
looking girl, then I'll take a picture and say, Look what I've
got. So it's just a commodity they were doing, you know, they just
had a commodity that they were flaunting. And this is the kind of
things that would be passed around on an all male group men do these
crazy things. Right? So don't do that don't be with such people who
are constantly talking about *. We're constantly talking about
members of the opposite gender. We're constantly talking about
these kinds of haram things, because they're not very helpful.
And you can imagine it's not very helpful at all.
Number seven, he says abstain from alcohol and drugs, especially if
you feel that they lower your inhibitions and cause you to do
something you may regret later that speak in a very mainstream
level. Right? I'm talking about people who are not into alcohol or
drugs, right, but they're still finding difficulty. So that the
other thing is you have to keep busy. Right? So I would say out of
those main three things, cut down on the meat, cut down on the
sugar, increase an exercise, add an exercise, and number four, get
an activity that you're busy and something that you can pursue
something that you enjoy doing, whether that be, you know, some
extra curricular work necessary, or if you enjoy your work, start a
business. You know, do a business, if you want to sell things online,
keep yourself busy, right? Go and help out volunteer, right, that
gives you satisfaction. It'll help with the frustration. You have to
stay busy, you have to have no time for anything else. That's
when it helps, so that your mind doesn't wander then you find other
outlets for these things. So as I said, these things are not simple.
They're not as simple as just making Toba. Toba is very helpful
in releasing all the past sins. That's what it's for. But the
future, if you're still going to allow out if you're still going to
allow things to come into our life, which stimulate us in the
wrong way. And we don't break down those stimulations, then we're
going to be back to square one very soon. So holistically
speaking, there are the three things. If we take all of these
physical recommendations that I mentioned, which is to avoid your
sugars and your meats and do an exercise, they would be considered
to be your practical and dietary measures that you need to take.
Then number two, we must make Toba and number three, is to do
thicker, because that's what's gonna get the heart strong. And
what really helps to, to drive all of these things is the love of
Allah subhanaw. Taala is the love of Allah. And ideas in mind, like
I want to stay a pure person.
If you don't think this is wrong to start with, then you're never
going to succeed in this because what's the problem with it?
They'll tell you a little bit of *, what's wrong with a
little bit of * is fine. There's a lot of people who
propose who proposed that idea. You can't listen to that. Because
the little bit ends up being a lot anyway, and even a little bit is
haram to start with. So it's extremely important to have the
spiritual aspect which will build the heart and eventually inshallah
we will be able to avoid the gays. So you're walking through, you're
going to the masjid, you're going to university, you're going to
work you're walking through, there's going to be so many things
you will see I have respect for these individuals, even if they
don't have respect for themselves, because of the way they dress.
Right, they may not have respect for themselves, doesn't mean that
we don't respect people. We respect them because they're human
beings. And we want to work within the parameters that Allah subhanaw
taala has placed down for us, which is for everybody's benefit.
And those parameters are that we respect individuals by not looking
at what we're not supposed to look at, unless it's done through
license, which is through a marriage. That's what we allowed
any kind of sexual look at anything sexual encounter with
anything has to be done within the Sharia. Because that is what makes
it makes it helpful. That's why if we're to quickly reflect over the
the problems that we've seen currently in the in the media,
with all of these accusations of sexual harassment and so on, and
the some of them must be right, if not all of them, they must be
right, right? Because you just can't have so many people. How
would you prove that somebody sexually harassed you? 20 years
ago, when you've got no footage? You've got no, that you've got
nobody who's witnessed it? How do you prove that
the way they prove it nowadays is that the second person comes
along, and the third person comes along, and the fourth person comes
along, and you look and you say that, hey, these guys aren't
friends, they've never met each other. They could never have
agreed to do this. So literally, what they're doing is they're
using what you call the water, right in Islam, which was called
the water that way you get to such a level of contiguous
transmission, and report that you look and you investigate, and you
find this could not have been a conspiracy. Right? There must be
something about this. I'm assuming that that's basically where the
proof of this comes from. But either way, whatever the case is,
if you look, if you look in the industry, if there were three
things that Islam tells us to do, right, one is from the Hadith and
too often the Quran, then we would minimize a lot of these problems,
there's always going to be problems because humans are
failings, women have failings and men have failings. The failing of
the feigning of men, right males is that they can't they they can't
control themselves. They can easily lose their control when it
comes to the opposite gender is just a natural thing within them.
That's why you need measures in
in place, because the default is something as in studies will show
you that studies show they hooked up a guy, a few guys, several
guys, in fact, in a study, they hooked their minds up, you know,
their brains up. And then they showed them pictures of beautiful
women are beautiful and not so beautiful and you know, various
different types of women. And they saw how the brain just box up
whether you like it or not. It's just a natural reaction in men,
right? And somewhat in women like that. Women have another issue
that they want to reveal themselves. Right? Even if it's
cold outside, they want to reveal themselves. It's just another
nother problem that women have. It's some, it's something that
happens.
You have to take these things into consideration. So number one, the
Hadith says that when there's two people in a room, a man and a
woman in a room alone 30 is going to be shaytaan you need to avoid
that. Now I know in our busy in our modern lifestyles is difficult
to do that sometimes. But to be very frank, I mean, you can make
up an excuse I'm claustrophobic, please leave the door slightly
ajar. Right? If there's a room with a window, it's better to use
that that people can actually look in. So you know, it's just to try
to cut down on that, while keeping the practicalities into
consideration if you can't avoid them completely. That's number
one. Number two, Allah says in the Quran, that
a cool minute and Khalil meaning Yeah, who do when upside him?
Wherefore do Furuya just don't look, lower your gaze? Right? If
you look first, don't keep your eyes on the ISP so sticky that
they continue to look but be able to look away, look down. So that's
another thing. But now the whole industry is the whole movie
industry, which is a massively corrupt industry from ground, you
know, from, you know, from from the actual foundations. And these
things were inevitable they've been going on for years. That's
why everybody's saying that.
Everybody knows about it. And nobody just spoke about it.
Because people are too powerful. These are just a mix of a number
of factors here that's just kept this underground. But it's that
same industry that tells women to dress in a particular way. And
then they feel that that is their freedom. That's why you've never
heard in this discussion here. Have you ever heard in this entire
discussion that's been going on for the last month or two or two
months or three months, or whatever it is that they've never
never mentioned that women should dress modestly? No, women should
have the right to dress as they want. But men should just be able
to control themselves.
And that's why there's a very good article I read somewhere which
said, which was probably the one, the only one that I read that
actually said
we keep blaming the men. But when it comes to the women, they want
to dress up very attractively.
And if the wrong guy hits on them, that's when they get angry. If
he's the right guy, then it's not not a problem. If it's somebody
like Weinstein, then yeah, they've got a problem with that. But if
it's anybody else that it would identify that that is a
fulfillment of why they dressed the way they do.
I'm not saying all women dressed like that, for that reason, some
just do it because that's the trend of the time and they feel
out of place to do otherwise they many motivations, so I don't want
to judge any woman's motivation. But there's definitely their dress
to kill. Right? Dressed to Kill spiritually. Absolutely. Right.
And then that it was a it was a woman who was writing this and she
said, you know, we keep saying that it's men. And yes, it is men
I would agree it's men men have a problem is no doubt about it. But
it's women as well. It just depends on who's attacking them,
or who's giving them too much attention, then if it goes the
right way, then it's fine. But if it goes the wrong way then they
complain.
So
that's number two. And number three, Allah subhanho wa Taala
talks about you have any other market and Zina Alikum Lieberson
you are so article militia when he was to talk about the article
highly recommend it Lahaina along with the karoun which is oh bunny
Adam are Children of Adam we have caused we have given you clothing.
We have given you clothing so that you can cover your nakedness.
whole point of clothing was to cover your nakedness. But then
Allah says that yeah, that's physical clothing you will cover
your nakedness with but you need the inner drive. Remember that
inner drive that I was speaking about the strong heart, the strong
Iman, while he Burswood Taqwa vertical height is really the
labors of Taqwa.
That is the superior form of Libous doesn't mean that you shed
your outsell the boss and you become denuded. And say you've got
Taqwa because that one assumes that you're going to cover about
side you're going to be modestly dressed. Then Allah subhanaw taala
says, Yeah, Benny Adam, what's after that?
The next verse.
Life tienen que shaytaan Yeah, Benny Adam life Denon negotiate on
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and then we'll have a Serato becomes takim the Oh children of
Adam.
The shaytaan should not mislead you.
He should not mislead you and he should
Not caused you to become destroyed I'm giving my own interpretation
here just like he caused your forefathers your your parents,
them and how are they salaam to come to be to come out of
paradise? And he says What does Allah say?
Uh huh Raja awake urgently. NZ oh and Huma de bas Omar by having
their clothing removed from them because when they ate from where
they were not supposed to their clothing, they became denuded in a
sense, the clothing was removed. Clothing is very important. It has
a very important aspect in Islam.
And then he says shaytaan sees you from where you don't see them.
shaytaan can see you from where you do not see him.
And in Niger, Anna shell Tina Olia the Levine Allah, you will be
known and we have made the shaytans
intimate friends with those who do not believe we made shaytaan
intimate friends with those who do not believe.
And this is where the whole trend is coming from from Shaytaan. And
we have to deal with it. Right? I can't tell somebody who calls me
to pack your bags and go somewhere else. Because there's fitna
everywhere. It's on your phone if you want it. That's why the most
important thing is to try to mitigate wherever you can. Like
this brother, he says, at home, I don't have internet I've cut it
down. I don't have I don't have internet at home. The second
brother that I spoke to, I don't have internet at home. I said what
about your phone? He says not I've blocked it. You can tell that he's
frustrated. He's got problems. And he's taken measures, but he still
feels the needs. So in the WHO Eurocom who have kabhi lumen
heikkila Tirana Homina Jana shell Tina, ODI, Allah, Allah, you know,
and then Allah subhanaw taala speaks about his straight path.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the Tofik it's not easy. It's a
challenge for everybody. Right? But we ask Allah subhanaw taala to
help us and hopefully this has been useful for us to see what we
indulge in too much to try to cut down on those things. And there's
a lot of benefits in doing this. May Allah subhanaw taala give us
that tofi can May Allah allow us to go to him pure when we leave
this world finally that we've been able to spend time in this world,
we've been able to deal with our frustrations use them in the
rightful manner and not in the wrongful manner and may Allah
subhanaw taala give us purity and chastity working with the owner
and Al Hamdulillah Allah him under Salam Inca, Ceylon Dubach they are
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we ask You for Your Mercy, Your blessing your protection of Allah
we ask You for Your guidance of Allah we ask you for purity of
Allah we ask you for your love of Allah we ask you for good company
of Allah, we ask that You grant us the ability to stand up in the
middle of the night and pray to you. We ask that whenever you want
us to be praying to you of Allah that we ask you for the energy and
the strength to do that of Allah, we ask that You grant us the
ability to be where you want us to be. And to stay away from where
you do not want us to be. Oh Allah assist us and help us of Allah.
Everybody hear this is the desire of Allah but we have failings we
have weaknesses.
We have shortcomings of Allah, we have weaknesses. We have
shortcomings. We have challenges of Allah, we have temptations of
Allah, you've put us wherever you've put us for a particular
reason. Oh Allah allow us to take the best of it. Oh Allah allow us
to realize the best of it. Or Allah allow us to realize whatever
we can that is beneficial for us in terms of this world and the
hereafter. Oh ALLAH blessed us in what you have given us. But oh
Allah protect us from the evil of what's around us. And Allah
protect us from protect us from that evil of allah God grant us
Yaqeen in our hearts grant a strength in our hearts grant is
conviction in our heart, oh Allah make us immune. Oh Allah grant us
and remove the vulnerability of Allah. O Allah. Grant us
protection from seeing and hearing and touching and saying that which
is displeasing to you? Oh Allah allow us only to say those things
that are pleasing to you. Oh Allah allow us to only be part of
pursuits which are permissible and bless it. Oh Allah choose for us.
Oh Allah and choose the best for us. Oh Allah guide us. Oh Allah
guide us. Oh Allah protect us protect our progeny until the day
of judgment of Allah make us role models of the guided ones. Make us
him
arms of the guided ones, our law makers, imams of the guided ones
make us force for good change. Oh Allah accept every one of us here
for the service of your deen of Allah We ask that you
protect us from all forms of all forms of disgrace and humiliation
in this world and in the hereafter. Oh Allah we ask that
You grant us, You grant us baraka and self dignity. You grant us
respect and chivalry of Allah you grant us courtesy, you grant us
taqwa, you grant us purity, you grant us blessing of Allah, that
you make us of those who are considered to be forces for good
and Oh ALLAH for, for those who are seem to be to have a positive
outlook, and those who are able to assist and help others. Oh Allah,
we ask that you forgive us, whatever wrongs that we have done,
and make all of the remaining parts of our life are blessed,
blessed a blessed situation, make the best time of our life the last
time the last moments of our life and make the best day of our
existence the day that we stand in front of you. Oh Allah, we ask You
for acceptance. We ask You for relief of problems from all of our
Muslim brothers and sisters around the world and from all humanity.
And we ask that you bring back humanity to the insane insomnia
today in CRN O Allah, we ask that you send your abundant blessings
on our messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam that
you allow us to take him as our role model and to emulate him and
grant us his company in the hereafter. Subhan Allah beaker
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