Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Dealing other people’s quirkiness

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speaker discusses the importance of being pragmatic and not overdoing things to avoid causing harm. They stress the need to have certain goals and eliminate things that cause misery. The conversation also touches on the upcoming return of the beast and the potential for better things to come for them.

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			Sometimes, when you have to deal
with different people, whether
		
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			you're a student, and they are
your teachers, or you are a
		
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			teacher, and they are your
students, or they are your
		
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			employer, or they are your
workers, what we have to
		
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			understand is that you're not
going to react to everybody in the
		
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			same way.
		
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			You're not going to be able to
react to everybody in the same
		
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			way.
		
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			You can't just hit it off with
everybody. You can't just be
		
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			congenial. You can't just be, you
just can't feel the same kind of
		
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			connection with everybody says
natural human. Now, the one place
		
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			that I've seen where somebody
actually discusses this and tells
		
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			you how to deal with it is Imam
Shah Rouhani. And we've actually
		
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			covered this in a double saba.
		
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			In the other Osama series that
we've done, it's on YouTube,
		
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			a double sword, but the etiquette
of companionship, he deals with
		
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			pretty much all of these things,
that sometimes there's just
		
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			somebody that you don't like them
because of their behavior. There's
		
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			nothing wrong with them. But
there's some little quirky actions
		
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			that they do that put you off.
They're a nice person, but maybe
		
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			they just keep touching their nose
a lot. And you just find that
		
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			really, or maybe they just have a
weird look to you. I'm saying to
		
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			you, because they can be
completely normal weirdness is in
		
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			the eye of the beholder, generally
speaking. And just like other
		
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			people are weird to us. A friend
told me when I said that about
		
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			somebody, you said to me, you
probably read as well for other
		
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			people. So that's an absolute
possibility, right? So he says,
		
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			what you should do for these
people. And this is something we
		
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			have to do for ourselves really,
is that you must think that I
		
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			shouldn't think like this, you
must start making dua for them,
		
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			you can go and maybe give them a
gift or something like that. And
		
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			then try to see that try to
overlook these aspects with
		
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			certain people, especially if
you're in the kind of lower
		
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			position and you have to respect
certain people, your teacher, your
		
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			employees, or whatever the case
is. And you can't just then in
		
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			that case, you just have to accept
that as long as you're not doing
		
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			anything wrong. As long as you are
not overstepping the boundaries,
		
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			and you're fulfilling the rights
of one another. That's fine. You
		
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			can't just be cool. Why can't you
just be cool, like everybody else?
		
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			Well, that's just not gonna
happen. That's not his nature.
		
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			That's not her nature.
		
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			So we have to understand these
boundaries. And the more we become
		
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			less idealistic, then the easier
it is, and more pragmatic than
		
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			it's actually easier to live in
this world. Idealistic means you
		
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			want everything in an ideal. In
your mind, the idea is in your
		
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			mind, right?
		
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			That's how you want the world to
be.
		
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			The world isn't going to be like
that. The world is very different.
		
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			So you have to be pragmatic. You
must have ideals. But don't be
		
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			idealistic, that it depresses you.
But you must have ideals.
		
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			Otherwise, if you don't have
ideas, then at least have ideas
		
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			for yourself. And the more we come
closer to the day of judgment
		
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			on a slightly different notes, the
prophets Allah, some did say that
		
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			there will come times of those
fitna, so he was asked, okay, what
		
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			should we do? He says, your job is
to pay back whatever is owed by
		
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			you. And if something is owed to
you,
		
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			then you leave that alone, because
it's gonna cause a greater fitna
		
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			to try to pursue it. I don't think
we're there yet. Hamdulillah we do
		
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			have some semblance of the law in
this country, at least. But in
		
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			other places, it's like that. We
look at the Rohingya people. You
		
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			think they can go and get a hug,
they don't even have a hug. They
		
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			don't even have a passport. They
don't even have immigration. They
		
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			don't even have residential rights
in the country. For so many
		
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			decades. Now they're in a bad
quandary. May Allah make it easy
		
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			for them because how are they
going to go back?
		
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			So the ethnic cleansing is, that's
what's taking place. May Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala bring about better
for them in sha Allah from this
		
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			difficulty because in the mercerie
usara that is what's important in
		
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			the matters to you. So this world
is a short time to live in.
		
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			Whoever Shaheed they've gone to
Allah subhanho wa Taala among
		
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			them, I know it brings a lot of
misery but whoever has become
		
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			Shahid among them, they are they
are shaheed they are shaheed and
		
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			the miserable life they may have
been living in that turmoil, that
		
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			turmoil that they had then Allah
is taking them to a better place
		
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			and those in the camps May Allah
subhanaw taala bring about
		
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			goodness there for them better for
them inshallah.