Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Curing the Social Media Addiction (WhatsApp Groups, Twitter, FaceBook, Instagram)
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The conversation discusses the negative impact of social media on addiction and waste of time, as well as the importance of shaping one's appearance. The speakers emphasize the need for flexibility and avoiding double-standing to avoid feeling like they are wasting time. They also touch on the use of language and language detection to improve user engagement and address issues with harm and confusion.
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My dear respected
brothers.
So a few of you told me that you're on Facebook.
I think more would have started revealing themselves once we get
more familiar inshallah.
A few more. We're on Twitter for some reason. Twitter seems to be
more popular. I thought Facebook was more popular. But with you it
seems Twitter is a bit more popular than WhatsApp Masha. Allah
was like everybody's at mass scale, adoption of WhatsApp.
And what was it for Snapchat? How many of you on Snapchat?
Just you, you think it's there's a few of your brothers at the back
there.
Snapchat brothers.
Anyway, so
I'm on Twitter. Right? So if you want to follow me, please do.
Right?
I'm just trying to tell you that these things are not intrinsically
haram.
So let's start with that. Okay, so we're not saying that these things
are intrinsically haram intrinsically means something by
themselves being so bad, and so haram, that you can't even go near
it.
People are struggling to understand these modern means of
communication.
These are very simple means of communication very efficient, very
fast. You can broadcast to literally 1000s, if not millions
of people within an instance, something that is unprecedented.
Something that was very difficult, probably virtually impossible to
have done in the past. But now it's very easy. And at this point,
I think it's a test phase. We've only been doing this for the last
decade or two if that much. So I believe this is the test case
we're going through in terms of the harms and the benefits.
Clearly we can see a lot of the benefits. But in terms of the
harms, we're still flirting with them. We're still discussing them.
They're still being analyzed.
A Muslim, a believer, anybody who's concerned needs to be just
careful about what they do, because anything that becomes an
addiction, whether that be something Halla like food food is
halal. when food becomes an addiction, it's a problem.
To eat sandwiches, with Halal cheese, halal egg and cress
sandwiches is halal. But it depends on how much you cheese
cake is halal. If it's if the ingredients okay, it's just how
much you do how addicted you become to these things. It's just
like with everything else.
What is at the bottom of this? Why is there even a problem? Why are
we even mentioning it today? Why did the organizers even consider
that this be a topic of interest? Or maybe even necessity? Why they
should be brought up? Why do we even have to waste our next 45
minutes, half an hour whatever it may be on this topic? Well, the
reason is that at the bottom of this, there's an essential aspect
of addiction, huge problem of wasting of time. And then of
course, beyond these aspects of addiction wasting of time, it goes
into the pure haram and forbidden and numerous other harms are being
created, marriages are being broken. Families are breaking
down, people are turning against one another and numerous other
issues on a spiritual level. On a personal spiritual level, we have
a number of issues because a lot of these things make a person
heedless, negligent. They occupy a person's time to such a degree
that what is important, then you don't do you have to remember that
this is something so pervasive. It is something so occupying
and so addictive,
that it's worse than going to a coffee shop. There's only certain
times of the day, maybe certain times of the week that you can go
and visit a friend and waste your time. These were the past times of
the past. This is what people used to complain about. My husband is
always at my friend at his friend's house. He's always out
with his friends.
My wife's always at her mother's house, as though that's a crime.
But you know what I mean, these were the complaints of past times,
my husband comes late back from work. Today, the husband is in the
house, wife's in bed husband somewhere else on in front of a
screen until two o'clock in the morning.
Complaints are different. Now, when you have to go out for a
pastime. There are certain physical restrictions and
inhibitions that you have to go through. Like you have to want to
go out, the weather has to be right. Other friends should be
coming around.
They should be all of this come together. But today, you don't
have to worry about anybody. There's only somebody out there
willing to speak to you. And the more WhatsApp groups you're on,
the more memory it is. And the more Facebook friends that you
have, then there's going to be somebody somewhere in another
country, maybe even somebody who's miserable in their room, they
willing to speak to you. So it's all of these miserable people that
come together that are basically wasting their time in this virtual
world.
For example, give it us there was a major Hadith scholar whose name
is
Carnaby, Al Carnaby. He was a indulgent individual, he would
have been on Facebook in his earlier life. If Facebook existed
at that time, he would have been on Facebook, he would have been on
Twitter, he would have been on Snapchat, he would have been doing
all of that. Right That that was that was he was doing everything
that showed the same kind of tendencies of people who are on
these things today. One day, there was a huge Hadith scholar at that
time, he wasn't a hadith scholar at all, he was just a normal
individual just very addictive to having a good pastime used to
drink. And they used to have parties.
One day on his street, suddenly, there's this huge entourage of
people a big shake is coming down with a number of people behind
them. So he gets interested in like, Who is this? What's going on
here? And then maybe there was some all about there's some you
know, when you see this huge, imposing look, looking individuals
very awesome appearance. This is who is this? Somebody said this is
sharp?
Sharp, but if not hedgehog is one of the great Hadith scholars,
you'll see me not most of the Hadith books. He's one of the
early narrators of the first three centuries, first three to four
centuries, and he's in the books of Hadith. Somebody sharper, so
you know what he said? You can in English, it would have been what's
a sharp?
Like, who shall he says warmer short? Like, what's the short bar?
And I'm sure I'm sure there's another slang way of saying that.
Right? Like, what the heck is a sharp, you know, he said, he's a
big Hadith scholar, and so on. So now this day, you can tell he's in
another world. And a lot of these people are in another world. They
don't care about society anymore. When you get really addictive in
these kinds of things. You don't care about society anymore. People
can let you down. You got friends online that you don't even know.
They're there for you. 24 hours, right? So he goes up to him, and
he says Hadith Honey,
give me a hadith. This is his attitude. This is his style of
speaking. He says, relate to me a narration if you're a hadith
scholar relate to me a narration shot by looks at him. Now you
know, Hadith scholars, what you have to understand is that they
had a lot of respect for their knowledge and this is why they are
where they are. In terms of the way they used to sit to narrate
the way the class had to say Imam Malik Rahim Allah is is when he
used to come out from his room to come and teach in the masjid. He
used to make it a big celebration in the sense that he used to put a
special Imam on there were special garments that he used to put on
their special borehole or fragrance that used to be
would you call it dissipated at that time, there was a special
place to sit and there was Pin drop silence in that gathering.
That was the respect they had Imam Buhari and these other great
scholars who were who used to go to other teachers when they used
to hear that such and such a scholar in such and such area has
a hadith that, you know other people don't have, they would go
there travel there to look. On one occasion he went somewhere. And he
observed him making salad. And in his salad, he saw that he wasn't
bending his toes. You know when you're in such that when you're in
such that you bend your toes towards the Qibla you don't keep
them like this, you actually bend them right? He saw that he wasn't
doing this he walked away he says I can't take Hadith from him. He's
not acting on the narration. They were very particular. They add up
their respect towards the Hadith and so on was very, so when he
looked at this guy he had you can think he had red trousers on or
something like this, which is a bit weird in those days. Right? I
mean, today I know people wear pink shirts and all sorts even men
do that. But
you can imagine how a person is dressed maybe I mean it didn't
have those
Is NY caps in those days but you can just imagine the cap the other
way around going give me a hadith brother. You know? So the Sheikh
said to him, he said to him, you don't look like us, you know,
like, like, you look like Min us herbal Hadith. You're asking me
for a hadith but you don't look like a student of Hadith. So you
know what he does now?
He pulls out a knife, a dagger, he says her destiny, a joke. He says
you better give me a hadith otherwise I'm going to attack you
with this. I'm going to wound you with this.
There was something weird going on here.
So how sharp are the Iranian Allah he says, Okay, fine. So you
started relating a hadith. And the Hadith he related was that the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, either for cattle
hire for Al machette.
The Prophet sallallahu sallam said that if you lose modesty,
chastity, shyness, specialness, then do as you wish.
Once you lost it, then you will do as you wish. That's what he's
saying. He's not permissive. He's saying that if you lose any kind
of shyness, any kind of bashfulness and respect, then you
will do as you wish, because you will have no barriers, your
barriers would have all been broken. You have no taboo, all
taboos are gone. That's what he said to him. Now, this impacted
him this was a moment of hidayah. Right. This was a moment of
guidance of enlightenment.
He went back home, he must apply he was Arab. He must have pondered
over these things. He was waiting for a party party was at his
place. He was waiting for people to come over.
But this impacted him so much. He says you know what?
He told his mother when my friends come feed them, but tell them that
I've gone and I'm I'm finished now. And he broke all of the
bottles of wine that they had for the party. On the way he broke
because these were Muslims. They were Muslims, but they've just
been a bit lost for a while. This was a moment of enlightenment, he
broke all the drink by spilt on to drink away when my friends come
feed them.
So
he ends up in Madina Munawwara
and then there is no looking back he becomes a great Hadith scholar
to such a degree. Now today, you will see his name mentioned in the
main six books, you will see his name mentioned there that had
definite Carnaby you. And he is a great Hadith scholar.
This was a Shalabi a guy who is to be in drink, who had probably been
addicted to Twitter if there was such a thing, because he's waiting
for his friends. Right? He just couldn't tell them he didn't
couldn't give them update you have tell his mother to do it. Today,
it's just much more easier.
So we've had this kind of a problem throughout our time
because the human issue.
Today, it's Facebook, and Twitter and WhatsApp tomorrow, it's going
to be something else. And it's only getting darker. They're
talking about the dark web. Now what I mean about that here
is that
right now, they are to make things easier to replace human beings
with computers, they're getting computers to learn things on how
things are done. So that computers can figure these things out. You
can take an image of a dog, right, or a cow or whatever it is, throw
it into Google, and it will find you very similar similar images of
a similar kind of cow. And it will even describe it to you. How can a
machine do that? Because it's had so much programming done. Now one
is that you program into it, and program a programs a program
telling it exactly and they understand the program, they
understand its limits. However, right now the whole discussion is
in the MIT review. Just read it recently. No longer are the
software developers and the IT people behind these programs, no
longer can they even understand and keep up
with the capabilities of these of the software that they are
developing. And the reason is that the way they're being developed is
by artificial intelligence. The way they're developing this AI,
this artificial intelligence is that they're developing it by I
forget what they call it. Essentially, they feed so much
information into it of various different levels, layers. And the
machine just learns, learns, learns, learns and starts to put
all of this together until it can do things even faster than human
being, how it's done, how you can curve it, no longer many of the
software people can even understand that anymore. And this
is a reality. This is not science fiction we're speaking about.
Nothing even has come out of it yet. But it's all the Sci Fi stuff
that they will be speaking about. This is where
It's getting to you can see it, it's there that no longer are they
able to understand the artificial intelligence that they've created.
It's too complex. It's just too complex.
Because he's been taught in various layers, all of those
layers have come together, human can understand one layer at a
time, but the computer understands all of those layers together,
almost as if he's got his own brain, almost.
So it's only going to get more difficult. The kinda you're
talking about sexting being a problem today, of sending pictures
of yourself to somebody else, which unfortunately, a lot of
people do, and especially the women, the girls are,
unfortunately, worse off in that case, right? Because it's not
generally a man thing men do. A lot of the time, it's the men that
do the grooming, and that are the abusers on this case. And women,
unfortunately, it's just the natural tendency within a lot of
young girls that they want attention. And young boys want
attention as well. But generally with girls, they want a lot of
attention. And thus they're willing to do this. They're
willing to do this.
And people are abusing them in this regard.
Now, let's just take things one by one WhatsApp, WhatsApp is a free
service, do they still charge that yearly fee of 56 pence? So I don't
know how much it was. I mean, I remember paying that a while back
then I think they've stopped right. Facebook owns it now
they'll find a way to make their money if they're not already doing
so. Right. So creepy company, unfortunately. I mean, everybody
knows that. But everybody uses it. Right?
So it's free to use, it doesn't take much data. As soon as you put
your Wi Fi on even at the airport, or whatever your whatsapp comes
through first before any emails or whatever, because of the
algorithms that use right.
The problem here is many fold on a different level for younger
people, for men, and for women, let's just look at it
individually. For young people, it is the best way to be less
productive. If you want to be less productive, and you want to waste
your life, then stay on WhatsApp.
You will be entertained throughout the day because there'll be
different people sending you various different videos, little
snippets, little comments, little remarks, and so on and so forth.
And you can just go from one to the next one to the next one to
the next. And waste your time.
If you want the most efficient way to be less productive, and not and
to waste your youth, your young life and to grow up and remember
this is a test phase WhatsApp is only about I don't know 556 years
old. So we're still going through that in terms of the studies in
terms of what's going to happen.
All the precious life and time is being wasted. The Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Hadith sahih al Bukhari that there
are two netmail There are two bounties to favours of Allah, on
people that people are moving on via cathedral Mennonites. Many
many many people are Mark Boone in there the word Mark Boone comes
from Harbin. Harbin means to be profitless to basically lose out
in business in a trade in a transaction. You're doing business
but you're not making anything. Right. That sounds bad, that's bad
for any business. The other opinion the other meaning of
Heaven is to not have an opinion to be weak in your approach to
something to not understand the situation fully to have a
formulate a proper opinion. So you misunderstand something. Both of
those meanings apply. In this case, the professor Lawson said
there are two bounties which many, many people an abundant number of
people,
either
because of it being profitless not getting anywhere, or they are
missed, and they have a huge misunderstanding towards it as
well for us. That means you're
being healthy and being free. Now, when people are young, they're
generally healthy.
The generally free as well, because you don't have that many
responsibilities unless you're a very students, a serious student.
Not always Are you free and healthy, though. Because you could
be healthy in your young life or you could be working
then when you become old and disabled or maybe sick, right? So
what is saying is that if you don't it both of those can be
taken independently. And the idea is that if somebody doesn't
benefit from their health, they will not be able to benefit in
their sickness, because sickness psychologically has its own way of
occupying you. Think about it. When a person is sick. Do you feel
Do you feel excited about praying Salat when you're sick? Or do you
feel better about praying so that when you're fine when you're sick
you like make an excuse that I can't pray I'm sick I don't just
don't feel like doing well though. It's much more difficult to do
we'll do at that time. So if you can't do something, when we're
Fine, unhealthy, then how much do we expect to do it when we're
sick? Sickness generally follows health. So sickness could come.
And the other one is that when you're free, and you can't do
something, and you're occupied with distractions, through
Facebook and everything else, then when you get busy, how will you do
anything then.
So it's a really thought provoking narration that one needs to really
think about.
In the case of many youth, in the case of many youth, you're going
to have people sitting, once you've got a phone, you're going
to have, you're going to be sitting in a room, your father's
day, your mother's there,
maybe even an uncle, your brothers and sisters are there. But you're
in another world. Sometimes they're holding a conversation,
you got another conversation going with somebody else, many, many
miles away. What happened recently, is,
there was a wedding sisters at a table, real life story, I mean,
I'm not making any of this up. So they will probably about six
people on that table. Five of them are speaking to one another, and
one of them for a whole hour or something, whole hour or something
is on their phone.
Until finally these guys, they were polite in the beginning, they
didn't say anything. So maybe it's something important, maybe some
business some they losing a big deal, they have to, you know,
conduct a business I can, I can appreciate that. You're a big
businessman, you just got a deal, you can't miss this deal. Because
you know, you have to give a lot of sadaqa in Ramadan, I can
understand that. But this is just total disregard for humanity, like
beer Beer robot, you know, like, have no sentiment for anybody find
a sermon, * was going on with you, like somebody spoke up
eventually. And then I think the person kind of probably, and they
don't know how to do, they don't know how to speak to people
anymore, because they only know how to speak behind the veil
behind the screen. So a lot of these people don't even know how
to speak to other people. They've lost the social ability to do so.
So these are the problem with youth, generally, one should never
reveal anything. One should never reveal anything.
Subhanallah did, you know the stories that we get one story that
I got recently was that there is somebody
who's a learned woman Islamically learned
with a cousin, she got involved.
And the idea was that they would be married together.
Because of that, through WhatsApp, slowly, slowly, they developed a
relationship and ended up committing haram.
But then later realize that no, they can't get married together.
Her justification for allowing herself was that we're going to be
married anyway. That was the point of weakness.
That doesn't justify, if you're going to get married to somebody
until you don't get married. They're just like a stranger. I
know cultures give it more importance than what it is. And
once somebody gets engaged to somebody, they think it's like a
mini marriage. And they actually have the engagement like a mini
marriage. And then after that, they encourage you to start
getting to know each other, give gifts to each other, creating this
unbreakable emotional attachment. And then after that something goes
wrong. And it's a very, very difficult
why the topic is not married, I don't want to go in there, because
that's a big topic. But it's been facilitated through things like
WhatsApp and so on. Because it's so easy, and you think there's a
barrier, but the human sentiment is still there. So you still feel
that connection, and you're still drawn in. So one has to be very
careful. Just because you are interested in somebody or engaged
to somebody, you cannot reveal yourself to them. You can't send
* pictures of yourself. You can't start flirting with them. I
mean, flirting is small business today we're talking about sexting
is normal for a lot of young people, especially for young
girls, and this needs to be avoided.
Now let's talk about fully grown men, fully grown men. The problem
here is the distraction and the occupation, the the the amount of
heedlessness, it creates it, you come out of your productivity
because I'll tell you just look at it this way. If I'm on my phone
right now,
if I'm on my phone right now, and I'm doing something I'm
translating a book or something I've done, I'll tell you, this is
what happens to me I'm translating something right or I'm writing a
fatwa. Suddenly, I see a blip on my phone. So I go to check that
out my whole train of thought on there, which was required to stay
in a mode and a flow has just been disrupted. I only look at this for
three seconds. It's not important. I go back, it takes me about 1020
seconds to get back in mode. It's like a train that's going it's
going to reach its destination cover many more miles faster if it
continues, but as it stops, it takes a while for it to restart
and this is exactly what it does. And if we cancel what
I have done with my whatsapp. The only notifications I get on here
are from proper text messages.
Right that those people generally have to pay for. Okay. And that I
know is going to be my if somebody sends me a text me, I know it's
important. There is no point having notification of WhatsApp.
Because he's always on the notifications only because there's
always a message isn't there?
With WhatsApp, there's always a message, I'm on several groups.
And these are all groups that I'm on. I'm on one family, Hutton
group. And I'm on several Olimar group. I can't keep up. There was
one group, I needed somebody's phone number from that group.
And an alum and Omar group. But I was about I think, maybe about
1000 messages behind. So I said, You know what, and this is one
group that I tried to read, some I just, I just can't bother anymore.
I've liberated myself from many groups. I don't feel bad anymore,
right. But this particular group, I tried to read.
So I thought, okay, it was about 11 o'clock at night. So I needed
that person's number, right? So I started reading, because you can't
check the people on the group until you've gone through the
message. And once you've gone down, you have to go and look back
up to the last message you haven't read. And that's just too much of
a hassle, say reading took me two hours.
And at the end of those two hours, I thought this is showed how long
it takes. Everybody's doing this every day, though. You're doing 20
minutes, 15 minutes, 10 minutes throughout the day, you're doing
this.
I just realized this because it was a large chunk of time. And I
had to go through those message just to keep up many of the other
groups either the day I stopped keeping up is when I liberated
myself. No longer do I feel obsessed with making sure I step
stay on top, they can be going on about stuff. Some of it is useful.
Most of it is not right. Even though they're all Elmi things,
but a lot of it is just you're going to see to see the same thing
on five different groups. And there's some people who just can't
keep their mouth shut. They just have to keep forwarding stuff.
They got nothing to say on their own. So they just forward stuff.
They forward audio and you don't know what's on it, you have to
click on it to listen to it. It's a massive brain drain that's
taking place. That's why I said we're still in a testing phase and
all of this. We don't know the harms of it yet.
A daughter, this is somebody that I know whose friend, right?
Probably 15 years old. The friend is saying my father is always on
his computer. He doesn't do anything.
What a bad image that a daughter has of her father.
Okay, if he's on his computer making business and he's earning a
living that way, or he's doing something useful, that's under,
he's always on his like, she's disregarding him saying he's
always on his he's always on his phone, or he's only always on his
computer. That's the image that daughter is going to grow up with.
Essentially what we're doing is that such parents are allowing
they think their children are weeds.
A bad thing to say by the way, you know what a weed is it just grows
anyway. And he just randomly grows and then you have to kind of pull
them out. Flowers are what you have to nurture. Are we allowing
our children to grow up like weeds? Or are we allowing or do we
want them to grow up like good nurtured flowers? For that you
have to give the good sunshine of parenting. Otherwise, weeds will
grow anywhere. And they will just crop everything.
How many women have complained Subhanallah
It's one o'clock at night and my husband is sitting on his laptop
sometimes in the same bed or somewhere else and we don't even
want to go to where what they do on that's a big problem.
Now for sisters, they're not free of this either.
I've got a dignified individual in my community, a dignified
individual in my community. Like a respectable person. He's about 40
something years old, but he's one of the respectable younger people
in our community. Not the elderly Folk is one of the you know second
generation British coming on shake I've got a problem you need to I
need to speak to you like what happened so my wife just
constantly on the WhatsApp while the cooking she's on the WhatsApp
while in bed she's on the WhatsApp.
very addictive. It's this feeling that I must keep up I must keep I
must respond. I must keep up I mean listen, I must stay stay up
to date. So it takes you into bed it takes you in the cooking it
takes everywhere. That's why the cooking gets messed up. So just
cooking. Let me just check in the cooking and checking.
I'm checking the recipe my friends group talking about the recipe and
the real life that's the case no problem recipe groups, bring them
on.
But Subhanallah this is this is what the issue is. When I heard
this person saying this I was totally surprised. You know why
I'm come
contrasting this to the Tamil Rasulullah sallallahu sallam. You
know what complaints used to come to the brothers a lot Islam.
woman came to the Rosa lorrison them, my husband
doesn't come to bed at night.
My husband doesn't come to bed at night. Why? He standing in prayer.
on Amara, the Allahu Anhu was approached by an individual in his
court person, a woman came, and she says that I am and she says in
poetry, she says that I am complaining about my husband, that
his side remains aloof from the bed. He is solid, and his prayer
and his devotion distracts him
from coming to me, right? And so on and so forth. So I'm gonna be
honest, said Marshall, wonderful. He prays a lot is very devoted. So
she said it again. And he praised him again. There was another
Tabby, another one of the companions of Amara, the alarm
standing there. And he said, Yeah, Amelia Momineen. She's not
praising her husband. She's criticizing Jasmine.
So I'm gonna do I'm gonna set Okay, fine. If that's the case.
What do you want? Said I want justice. So I'm gonna turn around
to this person. He said, since you understood the case, you're going
to adjudicate this, you're going to give a decision here.
Right? So says, Okay, bring, bring your husband in. So the husband
came, he's also a poet. And he says, Yes, you know, my devotion,
my this, that and the other keeps me away from the bed, and I stand
in front of Allah, and I'm disturbing the other, whatever. So
he's giving this you know, great praise for the worship and
everything. And then she responds, and she says, Don't listen to him.
He's trying to deceive you give me my full right, and so on. So
finally, the decision that they made, that this debate he made,
was that okay, fine, you are allowed now to spend three nights
with your worship. But one night, you must be with your wife.
Three nights with your worship one night with your wife, so I'm going
to be alone afterwards turned around to me says, Where did you
come up with that decision? How did you come to that conclusion?
He said, Look, a man is allowed to have four wives. Technically
speaking, a man is allowed to have four wives. He is decided not to
take three more which was quite common in those days. He's tried,
he's decided not to is he's decided to be monogamous,
monogamous, right. Even that's too much for him, it seems.
So now because he sacrificed the other three, he can use those
nights for his worship. But one night is hers and he must keep
that one. That's Okay, wonderful. Those were the kinds of
complaints. Today you've got a husband complaining about his wife
on WhatsApp.
Subhan Allah SubhanAllah. And it is causing rifts in families. This
in itself is causing rifts on in families. Besides the this is just
occupational time. This is the flirtation that takes place.
People catch it, you think you've got an account that nobody knows,
eventually somebody stumbles onto it.
Just recently, somebody on his Twitter account, young guy,
retweet something that was interesting, just random retweet
of something interesting.
On his phone, mashallah is a decent young kid. He has got a
blocker image blocker, so he doesn't get images. Everybody
should have one of those. Right? So he retweeted this thing,
somebody else who would chance to find his Twitter account, check
this profile. And one of the recent tweets is done from that
same person had a very nasty picture on the
X rated picture. Like what is this guy doing? And you went to speak
to him, he says, Can I see your Twitter so he gives him his fault.
It looks and he couldn't see the picture on there. But he'd
retweeted the profile of that same person.
One has to be very careful.
Even when it comes to women just sending their two other women who
they think are very religious, it is could be possible. Not
everybody is very particular about putting their phone off or making
sure they
they look at their friends, posts and profiles. Only when they're
alone. Their husband could be sitting next to them, their
brother could be sitting next to them. They could have left their
phone on their computer on
and there's just too many ways. They say that once you're on
online, the on the online world the internet never forgets. It
preserves everything somewhere. Somebody's preserved it. Some
bought some what they call the bots, something's been preserved.
One has to be very careful what they put up there. And what this
young guy was doing, essentially, he doesn't care about Twitter
much. He's just randomly retweeting all these little we
other things like, I spoke to him, and I said to him, why are you
doing this? I can tell you why I'm on Twitter. The reason why I'm on
Twitter, because it's a good free publicity service for the programs
that you do. I'm being honest, we used to, you know, we published
books, I'm in publishing white thread and white thread press. So
you have to pay for mailing lists, you have to make sure those emails
get out to everybody. It was difficult to do all of that very
difficult in those days, suddenly, Facebook and all that comes up,
you get all of these followers, and he just tweets something, it
definitely gets to everybody for free. That's why I'm on it. And
hopefully, somebody will benefit from something that I'm tweeting,
that's those are my two benefits. I asked him, What's your why of
why you're doing this? Why are you doing this? Right now? You're
supposed to be either studying or working? Why are you doing this?
He could not say, which is oh, I just interested. He's got a few
followers. Like, who cares about what you say, anyway? Do you
understand?
So I think then he understood that, yes, I'm wasting my time. He
was randomly tweeting football stuff, this stuff, just jokes and
things like that. But there's only he's got like five followers or
something.
There's somebody they've got, there's some people who have like
3040 50 followers, but you know how many tweets they've got.
Like, they've got 30 40,000 tweets. They keep trying, but
nobody's following them.
Subhanallah this is it's a tough world that we're living in.
As I said, I'm not against, I'm not against technology. Because we
can't say these things are haram. Because there is some good that
can come from them. If you don't have to be on there, don't do
something with your life, as Sheikh was talking about leaving a
legacy doing something with your life. You can't do it through
these things. These things take I'm telling you, they take time.
They are very occupied. Anybody who is on WhatsApp is going to be
wasting, I would say at least two hours a day on his WhatsApp. If
you're serious about your whatsapp, you're going to be
wasting at least two hours on your whatsapp a day. Check the timing.
Right check the timing of how long you take. And you will notice by
the end of the day, you have to spend two hours of very, very
productive time that could have been used elsewhere.
Potent time.
So what are what are the other job? What are the etiquettes of
using these things? If you are, firstly, you're going to decide
whether you need to be on there or not, doesn't matter what your
friends say.
Doesn't matter what your friends say you are going to have your own
future. Your friends can go wherever they want. Don't destroy
your future, and your akhira for somebody else's pleasure today,
just because you have to go along with your friends just to be part
of the drama or the group.
These are
these are the few things that we must keep in mind.
On Facebook, because WhatsApp is more private. on Facebook. It's
public. Right? Everybody can see it.
The way the psychology of Facebook works is that you want to get more
likes. Why should you sufficed? With five people being your
friends, it just doesn't sound right. It's nothing to brag about
in them. So the whole focus of Facebook is to get as many likes
as possible, right? Do you agree with me is to get as many likes as
possible.
Now, in order to get more likes, you have to be interesting.
Interesting,
is a very vague term. If you've got something if you've got
substance, people will come to you. If you've got no substance,
you're going to have to make up things to attract people. Now for
a lot of people, they don't care how many likes, they don't care
who the likes are coming from. They don't care they don't they
don't care who these people are, who are liking them.
What generally then happens is you will start posting things on there
that are weird,
that are starting bordering haram wrong jokes, intimate moments,
intimate things about yourself about others, doing crazy things,
just to get the likes. Who are these people that are liking you?
Who are the shayateen anyway? Why should you care about them? Think
about it that way.
Am I getting substance from this? Am I giving substance from this?
Or am I just building up this imaginary life?
That's basically what's happening. It leads a person to haram This is
what the problem is it leads a person to haram look at what Allah
subhanaw taala says, Allah says, law you have biller who will jar
or be Sue imminent, only 11 Void him. What can Allah who sent me an
Idema
Allah subhanaw taala does not like
The evil,
badness, wickedness wrong. The bottle is made manifest and clear
and evidence. It should be hidden. If we're exposing things.
People in various poses are saying weird things or bad jokes or
whatever the cases are bad forwards. This is all going
against this Allah dislikes this. Then there's another Hadith that's
related by Bukhari and Muslim. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said that my
ummah, my ummah is forgiven, anything they do wrong, they will
be forgiven. Right? Inland moja he rune
Bucha he rune
very difference between Bucha he dune and moja Haroon right moja
hero means those people who openly do things openly do since they
will not be forgiven. And the reason is that they are basically
destroying themselves the reason is, the Prophet sallallahu sallam
said, it is
it is from the HR which means it is from exposing yourself, the
exposes of their sins are those who will not be forgiving
everybody else could be forgiven except these people.
Practice the law Some said it is from exposing yourself that a
person do an act at night. You done something wrong at night. You
messed around with somebody that you weren't supposed to do. You
get up in the morning. Allah has concealed you. Nobody knows about
what you did that night. Somebody went to a bad website. Right?
Somebody flirted with somebody at nights.
Somebody had a relationship at night that's when it all happens.
Somebody did drugs went to a club pub. Nobody knows you got away
with it. Only Allah knows.
You go and say yeah, for lung cancer. I'm a little birdie had a
cancer or whatever. You go and start telling people today it's
very easy to tell people
you don't even know who you're telling sometimes you just want to
be known you just want to be told some massive problem on narcissism
that's what it is. It's a disease narcissism is a disease which
means you just want to beat yourself up and have some kind of
following and respect with no substance whatsoever. That's why
the Kardashians that's where they are people are amazed at how they
can make money with absolutely no degrees nothing
don't if you know who they are?
Like, how do I know who they are? They're in the news every day man.
Like you know they just in the news I mean, Somalia and the
people are what it is revealed this whole analysis done on this
how do these this family make money huge amounts of money and
this popularity just based on the looks that are gonna go they've
got time it's a you know, there's certain amount of time it's gonna
go
that's how you want to make your money. I mean, most people only
you're gonna make them money making money at least most people
are wasting their time.
So then the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, This person, he wakes
up, he's been conceived, nobody knows anything about it. Allah has
kept a veil over him. He goes and tells people
this is a mudra here on Facebook allows you to be like that.
Facebook allows you to be like that.
So Fianna 30
He was once asked, you know, there's a verse in the Quran were
wholly utterly insane. Or if this is more related to the men that
humans have been created week holofoil internal or Eva, humans
have been created week. So he was asked, what is the weakness of the
man of the Insan? What is the weakness of the insaan? So now
he's talking about a man right? Because there's a man asked him a
question. He says, hola to Tamil ruble, Raju is a woman who goes
past a man.
He cannot control himself. But he looks at her. He can't control his
gaze.
Problem is that he can't have a he can't benefit from her.
He can't have a can't be intimate just has to look at her.
So what can be more of a weakness than that? That you are still
forced to look? Even though everybody that walks past you that
seems to look attractive? You can't even do anything with the
slap you in the face. Right? But you can't help but you must look.
That's the weakness of the human being as described by him.
If you want to know somebody look at their Twitter profile, because
you have only a limited number of words that you can use them.
And I'm surprised I am surprised by some people. Their profile is
all about Manchester United. Like is that your life? This is a place
where you've got to define yourself of who you are as a human
being.
And you're saying I'm from London and I'm a Manchester supporter,
like so what who cares in the world? The only people have
benefited Manchester United. They get more revenue because there's
more people. Why should you
Why should you care even if you do follow them? You've got that will
imagine if that's a definition definition of what you'll go with
from this world.
I was in Amara in February I think. And I'm in the Haram in the
Mataf. And there's a person going past and he had a Manchester
United bag with the devil full you know everything. I said Brother,
why did you bring the dividend domestic? What happened?
So look at your bag and he was so upset, not upset that he bought
the dividend the masjid that I pointed that out because I'm just
you must love that devil so much that you bring them into the MATA
with you as well. You must love it so much that really shows Masha
Allah wonderful support. Right? It just shows a it's an attitude, you
know, people who follow these things. They show the same
tendencies as religious people who become mesmerized and who become
so enthralled with Allah subhanho wa Taala is the same kind of
tendency you're willing to do for this what you're doing for your
Lord. And anybody who's into that they get a it's a competition,
then it's very difficult.
Okay. I'll give you the few things very quickly. One is the Hadith I
mentioned right at the beginning, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said, stay away from sitting around the roads.
Right? Like, don't sit around on the roads and talk. That was the
thing of the past.
Today, nobody's got time even outside, you're on your phone on
the way to that. And that's why people are snatching phones off,
right? Anyway, so the Sahaba said Yara Salah, we have to sit because
you know, this is where we discuss things we have to sit. So then the
board has said okay, fine, if you refuse, right? If you insist on
sitting rather, right? Then you need to fulfill the rights. So if
you insist on being on Facebook, on Twitter, or whatever it is,
then these are the rights humans fulfill, said okay, wha wha
COTELLIC? What are the rights? So he said you must keep your gaze
low. So I would say it's a good idea to get the image, the image
blockers right, got the buzzer, careful other, you must remove
harm, not cause harm, not contribute to it. And you need to
respond to salon. And you need to do AMR Winmar roof under here and
LaMancha to command the right and pray but the wrong if you're not
doing that online, you shouldn't be under I take the same things
for online. Thus the following 15 or so points for online stuff that
we can translate from this. Check and rectify your intention of why
you are on these things? Is it productive for you? Do you have to
be on the can you justify it? Do you have the time to waste? Is it
taking time all of these things number to ensure that anything you
post does not include backbiting tail bearing allegations, haram
flirtations and all of these things. Number three, don't be
excessive on there. So you're neglecting a lot of other things.
This is a big thing most people don't.
You can disagree with things that are on there. Just be polite or
when you disagree, because there are so many polemics that go on
online that's another fitna on another level that's among what
I'm especially always constantly talking about others. Right? One
is okay, you mentioned in a productive way, the other and they
just go on and on and on that some people are just that's all they do
online. They're just looking for things to talk about.
Verify Hadith, and other stories before you send them on.
Sometimes they're not Hadith they just cause mass hysteria for no
reason is wrong, you could be guilty of making up some attribute
something to Allah subhanaw taala or Prophet sallallahu some that is
not from there. So be very careful about this.
Refrain from conducting mixed gender sessions online on any of
these things.
If you're discussing with somebody just normal etiquette that you
must hear people out before jumping to conclusion it's so easy
to knock out a message without really hearing the full story.
Kill falsehood by ignoring it ignore most stuff be very careful
what you respond to never send a video or images that even slightly
exposes somebody's our recently on some groups, there was this video
that came around of this young teenager who's talking about a
problem with Snapchat how bad Snapchat is and the way she's
dressed. She's just got a tank top on and is knowledgeable people are
sending sounds like what is going on here. She's talking about
another evil but her she she doesn't understand that she's
doing that wrong, but she's exposed completely. And there's
people sending this out. Be very careful about don't become
desensitized because the more you see of this stuff, you become
desensitized. Choose an appropriate time to send
something. refrain from useless debate as I mentioned already.
Number 13.
Avoid the music videos. This is becoming quite normal as well.
Be aware 14
In that anything you posts can reach many, many people in a short
amount of time. And if it's wrong, if it's blasphemous, if it's
salacious, you will then pay the price of the sin for it
afterwards, be very careful what you send out.
When you write the name of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam send up
salawat and Rasulullah Salallahu Salam, thank people for writing a
beneficial post, if it requires that don't fall forward links
without opening them. A lot of the time there's the scam emails that
people just keep forwarding. And above all, just think before you
send anything, is this a source of reward for me or a source of
punishment for me?
When a person thinks of these things, and tries to keep all of
these things in mind, then inshallah they will be much more
productive online. So what I call for is regulated, useful use of
these things. May Allah subhanaw taala grant us the ability may
Allah protect us from the wasting of time and the occupation that
takes us away from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada while he read that Rana
and Al Hamdulillah
Allahumma and the Scylla wanting to salaam to Barchetta jewelry
with the Quran. Allah who many of you you have a young Mexican
history is Allahumma yeah Hannah Yemen Leila Highlander Subhana que
no condemning allottee mean Allahumma salli wa salam ala so
you know Mohamed whiner and you say you're going to Mohammed or
Burdick or Salam. O Allah we ask You for Your Mercy of Allah we ask
You for Your forgiveness. Well Allah we ask You for Your MACURA
of Allah, we ask You for Your blessing of Allah. This group here
is sitting here on this Saturday afternoon, they could have been
doing so many other things at this time. Oh Allah, we ask you for
your special mercy to envelope us. Oh Allah, we ask you to make us of
those who's living was worth living in this world of Allah of
those who leave behind the legacy of Allah among those people who
don't waste time of those people who are in touch with you. We
asked you for giving us all of our sins of Allah we ask you special
forgiveness for those sins that have now become part and parcel of
our life. And no longer do we even consider them sins anymore. Oh
Allah, Allah. We asked you for this discernment. We asked you for
understanding. We asked you for taqwa, we asked you for purity. Oh
Allah, we ask you that you
assist us and assist the entire Muslim Ummah and remove the
oppression remove the difficulties of Allah and do not make us among
the heedless once we ask you finally, that you bless all of the
people who've arranged this program and arrange this institute
arrange this place of worship and oh Allah we ask that you keep them
you keep your grant them great reward for this, oh Allah that You
give them special strengths to continue to, to deal with the
challenges and Oh ALLAH that they great amount of bobcats and
blessing and hidayah is spread from here and from all of the
maracas and all of the institute's and massage it around around the
world of Allah we ask you finally that you send your abundant
blessings on our messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam and that you grant us his company in the hereafter. So hang
on optic Robinson