Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Crooked Rib

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speaker discusses the concept of "med strict" in the Bible and how it relates to the concept of "med strict" in the Bible. They explain that "med strict" refers to the concept of "med strict" and that straightening a woman is impossible. The speaker also discusses the misunderstandings of men and women in regards to their behavior and encourages women to focus on their emotions and intentions. They emphasize the importance of finding the right balance between expressing one's love and being a loving and healthy person.

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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said to men, he is
		
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			audiences men. So he's talking to
men and he is referring to women,
		
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			right? Because married men are
married to women. Treat your women
		
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			well treat women well,
		
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			for they are created from a rib.
		
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			And the most crooked part of parts
of the rib is the upper part. If
		
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			you try to straighten it, you will
break it. But if you leave it, it
		
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			will remain crooked, crooked. So
treat women well.
		
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			So what does that mean?
		
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			The main thrust of this hadith,
right the main maksud a main
		
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			objective and message about this
hadith is that you must treat your
		
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			women with gentleness that's what
the prophesy was me saying, right?
		
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			If we removed all contentious part
of our Well, what do you mean by
		
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			being created from a ribbon ribbon
crooked? What are you talking
		
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			about? If we just ignore that for
the moment because the message of
		
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			it is that you need to treat your
women well, that's the message
		
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			okay? So you should treat your
women with gentleness and you need
		
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			to treat them well. And you need
to abandon any hope of making them
		
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			perfect and straight in your mind.
They're going to remain crooked.
		
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			You must exercise beautiful
patience in dealing with them
		
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			because Allah says we're into
Spirou highroller come Allah
		
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			Hoover photo Rahim. But that you
be patient is better for you.
		
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			Allah is Most forgiving, very
merciful.
		
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			So you're either going to exercise
patience in avoiding marriage
		
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			altogether. If you think that you
can't deal with crookedness, avoid
		
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			marriage altogether.
		
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			That's a difficult one.
		
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			But if you do marry then in your
interaction with them, you must
		
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			also exercise patience, because
patience is going to be part of
		
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			your life. Whether you get married
or you don't get married. You have
		
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			to be patient.
		
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			What is it now now that we've
understood the main objective of
		
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			the Hadith? What does it now mean
about creating being created from
		
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			a rib? Right?
		
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			There could be three reasons for
this. It could be more reasons,
		
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			but I've come up with three
reasons from what I've studied.
		
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			Number one being created from a
rib can literally refer to the
		
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			origin since our mother Eve
alayhis. Salam how are they a
		
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			Salam was created from the highest
Rebbe, wa salam, as numerous
		
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			narrations tafazzin, etc. Tell us
I mean, you know, it says, Allah
		
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			mentions that in the Quran as well
that however the sun was created
		
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			from other monies around, the rib
isn't mentioned the Quran is
		
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			mentioned in the Hadith, right.
But it's mentioned that he was
		
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			created, she was created from him
in the Quran. So she was created
		
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			from the highest group of other
mighty Sudan, which happened to be
		
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			also the most crooked one.
		
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			Now, if you take a rib, you will
probably break it. Before you can
		
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			straighten it. It's impossible to
straighten. If you try to
		
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			straighten, it'll break it.
		
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			Furthermore, the second point here
is that why are the ribs even
		
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			there? Why do we have ribs? It's a
cage if have you ever seen ribs,
		
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			right? If you see a cross section,
the skeleton of a rib section, you
		
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			will actually see that they
		
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			partially enclose and protect the
chest cavity. With as many of our
		
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			vital organs they're the heart and
the lungs, they literally protect
		
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			the heart and the lungs.
		
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			And they are curved on both sides
of our bodies, both the front and
		
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			the back to create a cage to
provide the maximum protection
		
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			they could not have been straight,
it would have been a blemish, a
		
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			fault. If they were straight, they
curved and that's what makes us
		
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			look perfect our torso, etcetera,
right. So they could not have been
		
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			straight. And this is obviously a
sign of Allah's protection,
		
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			perfection.
		
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			The Crooked rib then,
		
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			is the whole crooked idea here,
the premise or some is just using
		
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			from the whole biology of the of
the rib. Right. But then there's
		
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			another meaning as well, which is
the third point that
		
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			well, this is still the second
point about the protection that a
		
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			woman just like she's being
created from the rib which is used
		
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			to protect the the essential
organs. A woman has all the
		
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			characteristics required to
perform her function of protecting
		
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			her family and children.
		
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			So if a man tries to change a
woman to be like him,
		
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			she would not be able to perform
her function, which is mercy and
		
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			protection of her loved ones.
		
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			So you can't make your wife like
you.
		
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			Right.
		
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			It can also be taken
metaphorically and figuratively
		
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			in the women from a man's
perspective, this is not whether
		
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			this is the reality or not, but
from the way the man views it or
		
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			the way generally men view I don't
I
		
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			I don't necessarily view it like
this. But the way men generally
		
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			view it is that they think women
are.
		
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			You can tell me if this is wrong,
if the way you or if there's
		
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			something else. They think that
women are very emotional. They're
		
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			too chatty. Right? To talk too
much, sometimes.
		
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			They never forget things.
		
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			Right? That difficult to please.
Unreasonable.
		
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			And they can't park their cars
properly.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Among other things, that when you
get men together in a room, they
		
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			would rightly or wrongly banter
about. So we're not saying this is
		
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			the reality. But this is what men
generally when you get men, and
		
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			they're talking about the way,
this is what they do, I don't do
		
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			this, right. I honestly don't do
that. But I'm saying a lot of men
		
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			do that. These are the criticisms
I have for when women get together
		
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			to have other criticisms women.
		
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			So men, the prophets are also
missing some men, if this is how
		
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			you view your women.
		
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			If in your perspective, this is
how women are, then remember that
		
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			that's the nature.
		
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			Get over it, and look at their
positives, so that you can enjoy
		
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			them. Rather than being living a
miserable life with this
		
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			complaint.
		
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			Treat them with kindness,
gentleness, and persevere against
		
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			their crooked, so called
crookedness in your mind, where
		
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			you have no other option. You're
stuck with them. Right? She will
		
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			do things that make no sense to
you just accept it. Because that's
		
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			how women are.
		
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			Does it make sense? So he's
talking about from a man's
		
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			perspective, he's not saying
that's how women are, necessarily.
		
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			He's saying that's how you think
so well, you better deal with it.
		
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			Now.
		
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			I'm going to give you the Hadith
again, with commentary. So I'm
		
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			going to mention the words of the
Prophet saw some but with a
		
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			community to explain now, based on
what I just explained, the profits
		
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			or losses words.
		
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			When I go like this, it means
these are the words the problems
		
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			are seldom, a woman is created
from a rib and cannot remain in
		
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			one state. This is what the person
said In another Hadith, meaning
		
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			she will not always be how you
want her to be, but will waver
		
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			between sometimes being thankful
and grateful to sometimes being
		
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			ungrateful and showing in
gratitude that's going to happen
		
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			to her. Right? Obedience and
disobedience, contentment and
		
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			Diskant. Someday we're going to
say I'm very happy with you, and
		
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			sometimes say you've never done
this for me.
		
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			So if you want to enjoy her, the
professor asked me saying, enjoy
		
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			her despite her crookedness
		
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			since it cannot leave her again.
And if you do try to straighten
		
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			her, by exceeding the limits, by
using force, and you do not excuse
		
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			her waist and overlook her
deficiencies, again, because you
		
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			will end up breaking her and
breaking her means divorcing her,
		
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			and of the Hadith from Muslim.
Similarly, for women, it's not
		
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			always one sided. Similarly for
women, if they're going to try to
		
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			straighten out the perceived flaws
of their husband, whether by brute
		
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			force, or by nagging him
constantly, right? Drop by drop
		
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			nagging every day, that's going to
be extremely detrimental to their
		
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			relationship as well. What you
have to remember is that change
		
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			comes from within, you can't force
somebody to change, you have to
		
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			put the right to make the right
environment, you have to make the
		
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			right points to try to get them to
make one the change from
		
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			themselves. That's why a loving
and compassionate attitude with
		
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			Taqwa is going to obviously prove
much more effective than being
		
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			critical and repeating oneself.
That's one of the best ways to win
		
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			people over. I showed her the
Allahu anha she was very she was
		
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			very savvy in the way she used to
when the Prophet sallallahu Hamza
		
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			loved over to over right.
		
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			Once in a hadith she says that the
prophets Allah's Messenger said to
		
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			me, that I know when you're
pleased with me, and I know when
		
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			you're angry with me, he figured
her out. He says, I know when
		
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			you're angry with me, and I know
when you're pleased with me.
		
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			I said, How do you know that? He
said, When you're pleased with me,
		
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			then you generally say no by the
Lord of Mohamed, like when you're
		
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			speaking and you swear an oath you
say no, by the Lord of Muhammad.
		
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			But when you're angry with me, you
say no, by the Lord of Ibrahim. So
		
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			you take my name out.
		
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			So now, do you know what she said?
She was very young, she was less
		
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			than eight. She was only 18 When
the process and passed away, and
		
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			she got married when she was nine.
Right meaning she came to the
		
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			province and when she was nine, so
this is in between teenage years.
		
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			She said
		
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			yes, but by
		
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			Allah, I leave only your name
		
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			in words, otherwise you're in my
heart.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So she confirmed that that point
her deep rooted love, by
		
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			reassuring the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam that it was only
		
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			his name that sometimes she left
out of saying, but she was he was
		
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			always in her heart.
		
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			Allahu Akbar. I mean that this
hadith indicates to you that they
		
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			also had arguments. They also had
opportunities to make one another
		
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			angry. That's why the person was
saying to her, I know when you're
		
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			angry with me, and I know when
you're happy with me, this is the
		
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			best of creation.
		
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			They also have healthy arguments.
So what do you expect us to do?