Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Communicating Properly on WhatsApp

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speakers discuss the benefits of writing in WhatsApp, including personal discipline and accountability, privacy issues, and the use of text messaging. They stress the importance of personal discipline and accountability, writing letters of apology, avoiding confusion and mistakes, and avoiding wasting time. The speakers also emphasize the importance of avoiding wasting time and being a good writing partner. The importance of knowing one's emotions and avoiding double-standing is emphasized.

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			Hamdulillah he won't be known. I
mean, Salatu was Salam o
		
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			Allah and I mean,
		
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			he was Safi Adjumani a mother,
we're going to be covering
		
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			inshallah to two sets of other.
We'll be looking first Inshallah,
		
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			at the adverb of correspondence.
		
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			In terms of correspondence, many
things have moved, moved on from
		
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			what it used to be, for hundreds
of years, since the time of
		
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			writing.
		
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			There are discussions that writing
		
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			was
		
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			not something that people always
did. People corresponded in
		
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			different ways.
		
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			And it was only after a certain
prophet who's, they say, is the
		
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			first person to write. So writing
is also something that took place
		
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			today, we also write that the
medium of writing the speed by
		
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			which correspondence reaches
somebody else is quite amazing.
		
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			And day by day, it's getting
faster and faster.
		
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			Since the last few weeks, since
WhatsApp has started allowing
		
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			calls, I've received calls from
people that I've never received
		
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			calls from. The thing is that my
100, I keep my Wi Fi and
		
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			connection of people complain a
lot, like put my phone keeps
		
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			beeping?
		
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			Well, it's not going to beep
unless you want it to beep. It's
		
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			all in your hands, you can
literally control everything on
		
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			the phone today. My phone keeps
beeping, they keep complaining,
		
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			well stop it beeping, then
		
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			just put your Wi Fi off, put your
data off. I don't have any battery
		
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			left halfway through the day,
they're looking for a plug.
		
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			They're in your car, they want to
plug it What's your problem, you
		
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			got a new phone, half the day is
gone, and your battery's gone.
		
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			Phones are getting only better in
terms of battery life, they're
		
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			supposed to be getting better, but
we're taxing them out of the
		
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			beyond their status. So believe me
on WhatsApp, most of it is a big
		
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			waste of time. There is you know,
there's the useful, but a lot of
		
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			it is a lot of waste of time, you
don't need to be in all of those
		
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			groups. And it's just one of those
things where I I'm on groups, I'm
		
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			not on any social group, all my
groups are all to do it all.
		
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			But even then,
		
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			there is the useful and there is
not not as much useful. It's all
		
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			useful, but you have to have a lot
of time for it. So literally, if I
		
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			look at my whatsapp, right now, I
will be 1000 messages behind on
		
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			many of these groups. So before
what I would think is one day when
		
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			I have time, I will go through all
of them because there are some
		
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			useful things among 10 things I
said there may be one thing
		
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			useful. But finally I gave up. So
I have there was once I had 13,000
		
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			messages in our group. And then I
said okay, now I give up
		
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			officially I give up. So I clicked
it. And I read the last few
		
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			messages and then it built up
again. And it builds up every two,
		
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			two days, 1000 messages and I just
can't keep up anymore.
		
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			So it's not it's just really these
things.
		
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			A big waste of time. In many
cases, you will spend hours hours
		
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			doing that. What Hakimullah with
Monash uni thumri says in this
		
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			chapter on the adverb of
correspondence, he says do not
		
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			read the letters of others. Now
remember, he's coming, he's
		
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			talking about a time when there's
no Twitter, there's no WhatsApp,
		
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			there's no email. It's literally
hard case writing. Somebody came
		
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			to me the other day. And he's had
a problem with a family member.
		
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			And he wants to apologize. And he
apologized in a WhatsApp message.
		
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			And the response was also like a
WhatsApp message. They didn't
		
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			accept the apology. I said, is
your apology only worth a WhatsApp
		
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			message? You know, it was a big
problem. Not a simple problem, you
		
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			know, police were called and, and
now you want to apologize by
		
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			whatsapp. You must be joking.
		
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			Instead, write a letter, do some
tahajjud give some sadaqa. Like if
		
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			you really want to make them feel
they have to feel you mean it. If
		
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			they're not going to entertain you
physically, then the minimum is
		
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			that you go out of your way to
write an email if you don't a nice
		
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			long email, or a handwritten
letter of apology.
		
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			Manasa retana is obviously writing
at the time of letters. However, a
		
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			lot of this we can apply. People
say you should people, the orlimar
		
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			should tell us that adverb of
WhatsApp and at that time was
		
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			messenger, MSN Messenger this it's
the same thing.
		
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			It's the same thing except that
it's just a bit more frequent. So
		
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			one has to be more controlled, or
writing a letter, get a paper, get
		
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			the right words, make sure you've
spelt it correctly have the tip x
		
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			there. You know, it was an effort.
It was an effort. So
		
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			people say
		
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			less.
		
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			But now it's so easy to say
things. Do not read the letters of
		
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			others. If a letter is not
intended for you do not read it.
		
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			So there's privacy issues here.
And people, sensible people know
		
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			that. But from a Sharia
perspective as well, it's an
		
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			Amana,
		
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			you are not allowed to read
somebody else's letter, just like
		
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			it's not right to eavesdrop on
someone, it's the same thing to
		
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			read their correspondence. So if
somebody's gave you their phone to
		
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			use or whatever, and then they
went out somewhere, for whatever
		
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			reason, you can start looking at
their browsing history, for
		
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			example, or their WhatsApp
messages. And you know, some
		
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			phones they have, they pop up the
message, the next message or
		
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			whatever, and you should avoid, it
should be avoided. It's all about
		
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			personal discipline, this case,
whether somebody finds out or not,
		
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			is not the point. It's all about a
personal discipline, it's all
		
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			about personal accountability. And
the more we are more personally
		
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			accountable to ourselves for these
things, when nobody else is
		
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			looking, that is how much closer
we'll be to Allah subhanho wa
		
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			taala. Because we only do it for
the sake of Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			because Allah is watching.
		
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			Do not read any correspondence,
which is in front of a person,
		
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			perhaps the correspondence was
meant to have been kept hidden
		
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			from you, for example, somebody's
message pops up, you know, on
		
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			their screen,
		
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			even if the paper is in front of a
person,
		
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			even if the paper in front of a
person happens to be printed
		
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			matter. So it's a magazine, or
it's something else for that
		
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			matter. Of course, if it's kept
there, as one of those waiting
		
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			room magazines, you know, like
those things, sometimes people
		
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			keep those in the house, if they
don't want to speak too much. And
		
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			they keep magazines. So when
guests come, they'll actually be
		
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			able to
		
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			look at the magazines or these big
books, the table books that you
		
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			have and things like that.
		
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			With its that disk, of course, if
it's intended for anybody to look
		
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			at them, there's nothing wrong
with that, you know, like, if
		
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			they've got something under stack
of women, then you're I can I can
		
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			I look at this and you put it out
there wasn't there for the public
		
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			necessarily. It was underneath
something. Yes, it was just there
		
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			in front, different issue.
		
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			What have you when Ahmed says he
says it is quite possible that the
		
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			person concerned does not wish it
to be known that he has in his
		
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			possession, that type of
literature, that he reads Harry
		
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			Potter books, for example,
		
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			or DNR * or whatever else
people are reading this,
		
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			it may just be that, that they
don't want you to know. Because
		
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			then you may
		
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			associate things with them. It may
not be theirs. In fact, you may
		
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			just they may be somebody else's
book that
		
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			some people when sitting by an
acquaintance or friend have the
		
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			habit of picking up letters,
printed paper, etc, which may be
		
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			in front of the desk is not
permissible to do so. I remember
		
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			we were sitting in Africa, and the
food was brought in so one of us
		
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			took the took a picture of it,
because it was unusual, you know,
		
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			desert life kind of food. So then
the host, he said, let me see, let
		
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			me see the picture. So he took the
phone, and then he literally
		
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			started flicking through.
		
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			Somebody shows you one picture,
you can't take the liberty to go
		
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			backwards or forwards. It's a man.
		
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			Then on the topic of writing,
right, very clearly, the topic
		
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			should should be should not be
expressed ambiguously. Right very
		
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			clearly, whether you're writing by
hand or email or text, but in
		
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			fact, especially text messages,
there is room for so much
		
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			confusion in text messaging, thus
WhatsApp etc. Because people are
		
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			very liberal in the way they they
don't express themselves properly.
		
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			It's not supposed to be a self
containing letter. It's a short
		
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			short message. Some people are
used to just firing off 10
		
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			Different WhatsApp messages that
are then connected together. Some
		
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			people like to write self
containing once one has to be
		
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			careful that what you're writing
is going to be understood.
		
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			Especially with WhatsApp what what
happens. And I mentioned WhatsApp
		
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			a lot because it is an extremely
popular and a very common
		
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			facility that's used. So that's
probably why the discussion here
		
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			but it would apply to anything of
similar nature. Sometimes what
		
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			happens with these things is that
you've sent off two messages, two
		
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			statements. Third and fourth
statement, you couldn't because
		
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			your whatsapp went off, sorry,
your your connection went off. Now
		
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			on the other hand, the person has
just suddenly reached half the
		
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			message and it may cause a
catastrophe, you know, and
		
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			likewise, there's room for a lot
of misunderstanding in, in short,
		
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			short messages anyway. There's
been breakups of marriages and all
		
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			sorts of things just because of,
you know, especially when there's
		
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			a underlying issue going on, then
people will generally take things
		
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			more than negatively. So one has
to be just extremely careful.
		
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			So, do not write ambiguously be
		
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			Be very clear, be very clear. And
if you know and people should
		
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			know,
		
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			some people have the ability to be
comprehensive in their writing.
		
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			Some people should realize that
they're not very comprehensive in
		
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			the way that they do. Right,
ambiguously. It's a person's
		
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			recognition.
		
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			Some people write ambiguously,
they should know that they've been
		
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			they've probably been told, you
know, once you've been told to one
		
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			time, two times three times, oh, I
misunderstood your text. Sorry, I
		
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			thought it was something else,
then understand that you've got a
		
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			problem here? Because if you don't
know
		
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			that that's worse, because one is
that I don't know. And I don't
		
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			know that. I don't know. How long
are we going to carry on like that
		
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			for?
		
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			Because that, if we've made that
mistake, two, three times that
		
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			people have misunderstood us, they
must be problem with us and not,
		
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			unless it's the same person
misunderstanding, then maybe it's
		
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			the other person.
		
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			But one should always be self
critical as much as possible
		
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			first.
		
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			And so so many times, what happens
is that because the WhatsApp thing
		
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			is just so fast, when you write a
message, you, you don't look at
		
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			it, and a lot of us are using
predict was called predictable
		
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			text. And it makes some serious
mistakes. Sometimes it will
		
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			change, you know, it will, it will
do some crazy things sometimes.
		
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			And if you're in a hurry, driving,
and you're writing text me that's
		
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			extremely, extremely dangerous.
But even in general, we don't
		
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			always look and we just in the
heat of the moment you to respond
		
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			quickly, you just do it. And that
little, just crazy.
		
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			I get questions on WhatsApp from
around the world, literally from
		
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			other countries. And I know, you
know, once you're on a few groups,
		
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			then everybody gets your number.
And then I just don't entertain
		
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			them. I don't have the time for
questions. People will write you
		
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			anonymous questions from around
the world. from Canada, from
		
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			Norway, from you know, wherever,
anonymous, anonymous, who are you
		
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			introduce yourself? What is this
like an exam question?
		
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			In fact, what they're asking for,
there is no name. Nothing is bad.
		
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			Adam
		
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			says completely bad Adam.
Sometimes I'll say who are you? I
		
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			want to stay anonymous.
		
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			Okay, then please email me. This
is my personal phone. You know, I
		
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			you could be getting me in trouble
here. We have to be careful these
		
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			days, you could be getting in
trouble. Please answer my
		
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			question. I said, Look, I'm giving
you a facility, email me,
		
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			anonymous email, make up a name, I
don't care. Right. But when it's
		
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			on my personal phone, right, which
is not for fatwah service, then I
		
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			need to know who you are.
		
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			So sometimes they don't even want
to reveal themselves and they want
		
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			to contact you it's one has to be
careful. That's that's what I'm
		
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			trying to say. And he's bad at
that anyway, in each letter,
		
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			that's why he says your write your
address fully. Now when you know
		
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			you don't do that by email,
generally, but you have to write
		
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			your name. He's assuming that the
name will already be written.
		
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			That's why he say write the
address fully. It is not the duty
		
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			of the addressee to remember one's
address, which may have not been
		
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			furnished in earlier letter. He's
saying that because generally they
		
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			need to write a response. So you
may have had some correspondence
		
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			before with an acronym with a
Mufti or anybody else for that
		
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			matter. And you've provided your
address first time around. Now you
		
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			you've written another letter
after several months, and you
		
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			don't write your address, they're
gonna have to go through all of
		
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			the letters. And if they like some
people, they just get rid of
		
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			everything, however, and there's
no way to know. Because especially
		
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			in those days, it was much more
complicated. Nowadays, you could
		
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			just fire off another human, but
most people will not, they will
		
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			send you an email, if they don't
get a response. They'll just think
		
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			that you don't want to respond.
And they will just think things.
		
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			Sometimes people say I did send
you an email, can you please
		
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			respond to something? So there's
just confusion like that. So give
		
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			them the details. Now, in this
case, with email, and with phone
		
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			numbers, and everything, all of
that is automatic anyway, so it
		
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			does minimize that kind of
confusion nowadays, if in a letter
		
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			references made to a matter, which
was mentioned in an earlier
		
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			letter, then include a copy of the
earlier letter. This will save the
		
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			adresi the inconvenience of
searching for the earlier letter.
		
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			Now, the example of this is you
receive a question.
		
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			It's not clear. Sometimes what
happens in the fatwa
		
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			situation is that people will
write you a question.
		
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			Unfortunately, they don't know how
to ask the question, and that's
		
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			fine, understandable.
		
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			So it has many possibilities. Now
the only way to answer that is to
		
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			write a commentary. If this is the
case, if you mean this, then this
		
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			is the answer. If you mean this,
then this the answer, and if you
		
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			mean this, then this is the
answer. We don't have time for
		
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			that. That's writing a book. A
sharp, a commentary, a gloss.
		
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			Right, Harsha.
		
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			We don't have the time. So we'll
quickly stand back and say, Okay,
		
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			can you tell us exactly what you
mean by this, that and the other?
		
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			Another response you'll get will
be a fresh email with no trail of
		
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			the past correspondence. Very
difficult. We're not answering
		
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			questions each day. Right? It's
difficult. You might look at it
		
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			after a week. And now you've
forgotten your I mean, personally
		
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			speaking, I probably receive about
100 emails a week minimum on
		
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			questions, minimum. So you can't
remember the full details of
		
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			everything.
		
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			So keep the correspondence.
		
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			I mean, I'm probably turning this
too much into a question answer
		
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			footwear issue. But it's, this is
just general correspondence with
		
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			people as well. Unless you've got
reason to hide what's been
		
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			discussed before? Yes, for
example, if you've given a bank
		
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			account details or something like
that, then you're not, then in
		
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			that case, what you should do is
you should remove it from any
		
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			further because it's just going
back and forth, back and forth.
		
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			And that's an insecure. So you've
sent your bank details over for
		
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			somebody to maybe pay you or
whatever. And then after that,
		
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			there's been a continuum of, you
know, did you receive the money?
		
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			Well, then remove that, that is
the that is the most secure thing
		
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			to do anyway.
		
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			Do not write so many questions in
a single letter, which pose an
		
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			inconvenience to the addressee
after receiving a reply. Right,
		
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			the right the further questions.
		
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			Okay, now, this is very specific,
because a lot of people used to
		
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			correspond with the author with
Hakimullah mutt. So you know,
		
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			sometimes you do receive a
literally a questionnaire 20
		
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			questions. And it feels like an
examination question. You're back
		
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			in the examination chamber. That's
how he feels. You know, there's
		
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			not there's not many, there's no
pleasant greetings or anything
		
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			like that. It's just 20 questions.
No, Jazak Allah, maybe even in
		
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			that case? That's an examination
question. They don't thank you for
		
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			answering the questions today. If
the adresi is one, I used to get
		
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			really frustrated with that. But
we're told to be you know, we're
		
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			told not to get frustrated with
that because at the end of the
		
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			day, we have to deal with people.
		
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			Somebody is ignorant, it's the you
don't make yourself ignorant, you
		
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			know, you you just have to answer
people's questions.
		
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			If the addressee is one who has
many occupations do not encumber
		
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			him with the request to convey
your Salaams to others.
		
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			So you write, you know, you write
your question or whatever, and
		
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			then I say, Please give you a mesa
lamps to so and so as well. You
		
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			probably won't remember. Right.
And
		
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			it's just additional a this is the
you know, this is coming from
		
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			somebody who's very particular
about his time, and is every
		
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			moment of his time is accepted. So
you one has to think that way as
		
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			well. Do not impose such a task on
any of your seniors.
		
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			It's not respectful to give them a
task to do, unless of course, a
		
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			genuine salaam to your family,
something like that. If the it is
		
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			disrespectful to write to a
person, a request pertaining to
		
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			something, involvement in which is
not appropriate for the adresi
		
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			when a reply is warranted in
closer
		
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			I think the self reply, the way
that the reply paid, self
		
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			addressed envelope is probably
obsolete.
		
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			Nowadays, you know what, it's
quite strange. I have in the last
		
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			few years, I have actually
received two questions by letter
		
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			literally with a stamped addressed
envelope. And you know, the worst
		
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			thing is, I haven't been able to
respond to those two.
		
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			I confess it's just, you know, you
just about do the emails, but now
		
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			to hand write something and go and
posted Allahu Akbar.
		
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			Do not write legibly, no, in such
faint pencil, which makes reading
		
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			difficult.
		
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			Do not cram the words know the
lines, one on top of the other.
		
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			Now, on the internet, I mean,
obviously an email, if you
		
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			sometimes people write with a
really funky fonts, and the worst
		
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			part which I haven't seen much of
recently, or maybe people just
		
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			don't write to me like that
anymore. They're not you know,
		
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			the,
		
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			the text is writing the shorthand
to say you they write to you, and
		
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			all that, because I would never
entertain those. Anytime I would
		
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			receive any question with those
kind of shorthand, I would reduce
		
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			on the back and say, Please write
it again. I don't understand what
		
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			you're saying.
		
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			Because that was extremely
disrespectful. It is not
		
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			permissible to utilize the
stationery of one's employers for
		
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			one's private letters. And this of
course, goes with lots of things.
		
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			Unless of course, they find out
they doing booming business and
		
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			they don't mind then it's all
fine.
		
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			I remember somebody who's got a
bakery business and he was asking
		
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			somebody to make him
		
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			signs to put up in his business,
please, the employees must not eat
		
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			the pistachios and almonds and
cashews. They're very expensive.
		
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			And they were just mashallah
		
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			India McLeod.
		
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			It's not that bad, but you know,
so they
		
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			This happens many people, they use
the employers, stationery,
		
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			printing, a lot of these things
happen, unfortunately. Right? Some
		
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			people justify because they may
work for the civil service, it's
		
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			communal property they say or
whatever
		
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			these things are, one has to be
careful about what they're doing.
		
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			Of course, something you know,
when one has to be answerable to
		
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			the people that is, it's owned by.
		
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			If you've got permission, then
it's okay. If you've got
		
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			permission, generally with
companies, if they're booming
		
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			business like Google, they have
different types of canteens and
		
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			cuisines and all sorts of things.
Your business goes down inside,
		
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			they'll start putting the
restrictions on, this is the way
		
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			things work nowadays, some people
instead of sending a prepaid self
		
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			addressed envelope includes stamps
to cover postage, this is
		
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			incorrect.
		
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			Again, this is just added, but I'm
just reading this, although most
		
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			of us may never do this. But this
is just to give you an
		
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			understanding of the thought
process. He says, don't just send
		
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			a stamp because then the person's
the Mufti or whoever the scholar,
		
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			whoever it is, will have to or
anybody will have to find that
		
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			envelope and address it. It just
takes time when it's a busy,
		
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			period, then don't do that. And
you might think, well, when you
		
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			write a letter to the home affairs
department, or the DL, DVLA, or
		
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			whatever, you don't have to do all
of this, well, of course not. You
		
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			Cha you get charged for that. Your
taxes go there, they have
		
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			secretaries to do all of these
things on am I don't have that.
		
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			What am I don't charge for fatwas,
this is a free service they're
		
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			doing. So don't expect the same
kind of setup and facility for
		
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			that Miss, clearly, I just want to
make that very clear. And it's
		
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			actually because we're living in a
time when the state does not
		
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			sponsor the scholars to do this.
Whereas in the under the earth
		
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			money Khilafah this was the case
they had the
		
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			who they call the the Sheikh Al
Islam, the sheikh, who Islam of
		
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			the earth money empire in
Istanbul, they had a proper
		
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			system, and they still have
somewhat the same kind of system,
		
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			where it was state sponsored, they
were state run, it's a state what,
		
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			you know, part of the Oklahoma
etc. And they have people working,
		
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			they had the clerks working, and
all of this, it was a paid job. So
		
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			professionally done, everything,
all of that was that came in, was
		
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			then handed over to somebody and
done properly and everything. I
		
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			mean, even today in big madrasahs,
where they have a double Iftar
		
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			they have staff, but again, it's
all based on donations there. So
		
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			they just can't be as organized as
you know, another office with
		
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			proper flows and systems and, and
everything in place.
		
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			So we're living in a different
dimension, we're living in a
		
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			different kind of dimension. And
then we complain when we don't get
		
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			the same kind of response.
		
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			As we do in a professional
organization, there's a big
		
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			difference between these two kinds
of organization just because lack
		
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			of funds Money Talks these days.
That's what it is.
		
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			Another thing is do not be
wasteful. When with writing paper.
		
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			I've noticed this especially you
know, when I'm when I've there's a
		
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			course or something, and people
have to send letters, sorry,
		
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			questions. They'll take the whole
a4 sheet, write a small question
		
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			on there and send it forward. And
you have to then remind people
		
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			that look, just tear that strip
off and keep the rest. Just write
		
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			the question at the bottom, take
the strip because it's just a
		
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			question that's coming in, we're
not going to write on their
		
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			response. So we don't need any
extra space.
		
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			The worst part is when I was
principal at the mother, so you'd
		
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			get sometimes a request for leave
or whatever, written shabbily
		
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			on half an envelope.
		
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			You know, like the back of an
envelope that says clean and
		
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			literally like a TED talk on
envelope, they will write on them
		
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			say no, you're not gonna have I
won't give you leave. This is so
		
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			disrespectful. So yes, at the same
time that we're not wasting paper.
		
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			We also have to have some kind of
person and Jamal in what we're
		
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			doing Air sign in what we're
doing. You can't just write get a
		
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			torn kind of paper and take that
		
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			these things have changed now.
		
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			But paper was so valuable and at
premium, and people weren't well
		
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			off that I remember. One of the
oldest students in Madras are
		
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			telling us when I first joined
darlin berry that hasn't mana used
		
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			to Matata sub done with baraka to
him and his brother. They were not
		
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			well off and they were studying.
And the paper that they had the
		
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			books that they had, they would
literally write so small that they
		
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			could fit three lines into one
line space,
		
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			just so that they could get more
in.
		
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			Now for us, it's a whole different
game, you know, it's just a
		
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			different thing. The quality of
the paper was also not
		
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			Have archivable quality so after a
few years, it gets a yellow and
		
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			you know, it gets brown. And it's
just the way things are nowadays,
		
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			books are on acid free paper. So
they are, they can last for 10
		
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			years. That's why we publish all
of our books on that kind of
		
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			paper, make sure it's of archival
quality that it will live for 100
		
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			years without becoming brown on
the sides. And also, when I first
		
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			went, I remember I'd gone to
American doctor friend who gave me
		
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			these, these notes, you know,
those sticky notes, you get the,
		
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			to the post it notes, but these
were larger ones from the medical,
		
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			you know, the doctor has given
them free for other pharmaceutical
		
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			companies and on quality paper. So
I take them to India, and I gave
		
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			him some of the teachers and
they're like, Wow, this is so nice
		
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			paper this is because there was
that yellow paper, that thin paper
		
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			that just about, you know, kind of
survives. And I said this is the
		
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			stuff they give out for free in
the West. You know, so it's a and
		
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			this is still the case in many
places. It's still the case in
		
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			many places like it's still like
that. We just take all of this for
		
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			granted.
		
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			I mean in Mauritania went to one
of the students room and it's on
		
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			our documentary as well but what
they use for counting is what I
		
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			saw is the lid a plastic lid of a
bucket or something and there was
		
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			sand on it I said What is that
for? Is that for tamari? Would you
		
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			name is that mean it's all sand
anyway? Why have you got this bit
		
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			of sand in this lid?
		
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			So then he went like this and made
these indentations and then he
		
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			said when we're memorizing
learning our lesson, then we clear
		
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			them one by one so it says counter
so to use the most basic things
		
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			like that people still do that in
the world for us. You know we'd we
		
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			probably order a timer or order
something like that to do with you
		
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			know, because we everything's
available now Amazon dot you
		
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			know.com Dakota, UK, whatever.
It's all available.
		
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			So we will particular things for
everybody. So he's saying here if
		
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			the paper is of good quality, then
use both sides to write on don't
		
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			wasted Do not waste that was
assumed that there must have been
		
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			not so good quality paper where
you could only write on one side
		
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			because the other side would be
unrightable afterwards.
		
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			And Allah subhanaw taala says in
the Quran, do not waste very
		
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			wasteful, wasteful ones are the
brothers of the Chateau shaytaan a
		
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			Seraph, which is Musa Fein and
Allah subhanaw taala. This is
		
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			Mobis theory and actually the
brothers of shaytaan. It's worse
		
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			than Israel. There's two concepts
in our in in Arabic. One is a
		
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			Seraph and one is the belief
		
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			that the the brothers of shaitan
is rough is to go beyond the limit
		
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			in something that is of use, but
just to do an extra where you
		
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			could have done it with something
less you an extra and did more,
		
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			but it's halal and so on. The
theory is when you spend you waste
		
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			Money in what is not appropriate,
what is not of benefits, what is
		
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			maybe even haram or wrong, then
you are the process of shaytaan in
		
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			doing that. So in Arabic is very
particular in in the nuances of
		
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			particular actions. Okay, if do
not use extravagant titles or
		
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			flattery when writing, be
moderate, you know, don't don't
		
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			just
		
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			use those kinds of things to get a
better favor or whatever. Have
		
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			respect, though, for people.
		
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			What I've noticed is that the way
South Africans, right, they have
		
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			everybody's a Mataram. So there's
like deer, mataram, you know,
		
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			mataram, Sheikh, whatever, they've
got some specific other.
		
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			Even the way they speak is a bit
different. They won't say you,
		
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			they'll refer to you and the third
person does more than I want to
		
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			come. There's mostly someone to
come like which move this up. You
		
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			know, when you're not used to it,
you have to get used to that kind
		
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			of right, that kind of speaking is
should that be done? It's a
		
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			message. It's just the nature of
some people some message?
		
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			Is it sooner to do that? Not
necessarily. It's similar to be
		
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			respectful. This is what's
considered respect there.
		
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			hamdulillah Do you understand?
They can't say somebody who
		
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			doesn't do that is disrespectful.
We're not saying that sunnah in
		
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			particular. But it's a sunnah to
be respectful. This has to be
		
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			understood because a lot of people
confuse matters here. Then they
		
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			start labeling things better and
better and part of Sharia and not
		
00:29:41 --> 00:29:44
			part of Sharia. It's the confusion
is there.
		
00:29:45 --> 00:29:49
			Some some people just have a
message of doing something.
		
00:29:49 --> 00:29:51
			There's a massage aspect. For
example.
		
00:29:52 --> 00:29:57
			There are certain communities were
speaking about Kurama what is the
		
00:29:57 --> 00:29:58
			message
		
00:29:59 --> 00:29:59
			they love though
		
00:30:00 --> 00:30:00
			stories.
		
00:30:02 --> 00:30:07
			And they will speak about the
special miracles of pious people
		
00:30:07 --> 00:30:10
			and so on. And that's that is the
common discussion. And he loved
		
00:30:10 --> 00:30:11
			that discussion.
		
00:30:12 --> 00:30:14
			There are some communities where
they hate that discussion.
		
00:30:16 --> 00:30:19
			If you really ask them, but do you
believe in the Kurama? To Alia,
		
00:30:20 --> 00:30:24
			they don't say, Yes, we do. But
they are their massage is such
		
00:30:24 --> 00:30:27
			that they want to dismiss it as
much of it as possible. Whereas if
		
00:30:27 --> 00:30:31
			you take that same story to that
first community, they will be more
		
00:30:31 --> 00:30:35
			than willing to accept it, then
you've got communities in between
		
00:30:35 --> 00:30:40
			them is arduous to accept, but not
to obsess over it. Do you
		
00:30:40 --> 00:30:44
			understand, it's not the only
discussion they have, there's more
		
00:30:44 --> 00:30:45
			to life than just that.
		
00:30:46 --> 00:30:50
			Kurama they completely agree with,
they do have stories of Kurama
		
00:30:51 --> 00:30:54
			but that's not all they're
speaking about. Whereas some,
		
00:30:54 --> 00:30:58
			that's all they're speaking about.
And it can be heavy for the person
		
00:30:58 --> 00:31:00
			who's not from that community.
		
00:31:01 --> 00:31:03
			So it's just about understanding
the message.
		
00:31:05 --> 00:31:08
			Because somebody asked me the
other day that you know, we also
		
00:31:08 --> 00:31:09
			speak about Kurama
		
00:31:11 --> 00:31:13
			but why is it that when there's a
Kurama have kind of an
		
00:31:13 --> 00:31:16
			unbelievable Kurama sometimes you
know, the kind of more extreme
		
00:31:16 --> 00:31:20
			Kurama says such of another group
were willing to dismiss it.
		
00:31:21 --> 00:31:23
			A lot of the time this happens as
well the beginning on to a bit of
		
00:31:23 --> 00:31:27
			a different subject, but sometimes
what happens is that people
		
00:31:27 --> 00:31:31
			because they have a high regard
for their mache, their alma their
		
00:31:31 --> 00:31:35
			elders, if something's coming from
them, then they're more willing to
		
00:31:35 --> 00:31:39
			accept it, even if it's kind of a
bit abnormal, like a bit beyond
		
00:31:39 --> 00:31:41
			the thing, but when it comes from
another groups,
		
00:31:43 --> 00:31:46
			mache, then oh, that must be x.
You know, that must be an
		
00:31:46 --> 00:31:49
			exaggeration, or that must be this
data, the other
		
00:31:50 --> 00:31:54
			it's a massage issue, you know, as
humans, we must understand this
		
00:31:54 --> 00:31:59
			the way humans are. So if we're,
if we wizened up on this, then
		
00:31:59 --> 00:32:03
			it's easier to understand. But
again, it's a massage issue, a
		
00:32:03 --> 00:32:06
			kind of approach and a temperament
issue that some people just speak
		
00:32:06 --> 00:32:10
			about karma more than others.
Like, we're not going to deny it,
		
00:32:11 --> 00:32:13
			but it's not something we speak
about all the time because that's
		
00:32:13 --> 00:32:18
			not the objective of life as the
Sufis will tell you that these are
		
00:32:18 --> 00:32:20
			side issues anyway.
		
00:32:23 --> 00:32:26
			But for some communities, this is
what they keep the keep say Imana
		
00:32:27 --> 00:32:29
			really, this is what keeps the
Eman of they just know these
		
00:32:29 --> 00:32:33
			stories and speak about them and
tell everybody else Hamdulillah
		
00:32:33 --> 00:32:37
			that same we're not going to deny
it but we don't have to speak like
		
00:32:37 --> 00:32:40
			that either. But we don't want to
be completely dry as well.
		
00:32:41 --> 00:32:44
			So I think it's really nice to be
in between I think that's where we
		
00:32:44 --> 00:32:45
			are we're kind of in between
		
00:32:48 --> 00:32:52
			he was saying do not use
extravagant titles. Do not be too
		
00:32:52 --> 00:32:56
			brief in writing address elders
with appropriate titles of respect
		
00:32:56 --> 00:32:58
			a lot of people I mean I haven't
gotten used to this but they'll
		
00:32:58 --> 00:33:02
			just say dear brother please help
me out. Okay, I'll help you out no
		
00:33:02 --> 00:33:05
			problem you know there are people
who are like that their brother
		
00:33:05 --> 00:33:10
			which is fine hamdulillah but I
you know, some of them I will not
		
00:33:10 --> 00:33:13
			be used to that and they will take
offense to that you know, I'm used
		
00:33:13 --> 00:33:15
			to it now I'm used to it I've been
called the brother so many times
		
00:33:15 --> 00:33:19
			and 100 I'm your brother you know
it's fine. But they will be or the
		
00:33:19 --> 00:33:22
			more you call them dear brother
you know by sub Editora kilo you
		
00:33:22 --> 00:33:25
			know, when I come on my be
monitored respectful. They may not
		
00:33:25 --> 00:33:27
			say anything, but the people
around them would be a bit
		
00:33:27 --> 00:33:32
			offended. Some people denigrate
Allah ma. I was sitting at one
		
00:33:32 --> 00:33:37
			table. And somebody mentioned
that, okay, he's an island. He's
		
00:33:37 --> 00:33:43
			he's just a concerned brother.
Like, for some reason, I don't
		
00:33:43 --> 00:33:47
			know what level of ale he requires
for an aroma and of course, you
		
00:33:47 --> 00:33:51
			know, nobody in this time and age
you very do we'll find the other
		
00:33:51 --> 00:33:54
			Malik has an adversity, but that's
how we all are.
		
00:33:56 --> 00:33:57
			There was an argument in the
masjid
		
00:33:59 --> 00:33:59
			they're arguing
		
00:34:00 --> 00:34:05
			that the Imam Saab watches TV. Now
you can imagine this is a very old
		
00:34:05 --> 00:34:08
			argument because now everybody is
on YouTube, even if they don't
		
00:34:08 --> 00:34:11
			have a TV in the house, even
people who hate pictures and who
		
00:34:11 --> 00:34:14
			don't take pictures or whatever
they are going to watch. YouTube
		
00:34:14 --> 00:34:17
			is very few people who don't want
to watch a YouTube video very hard
		
00:34:17 --> 00:34:19
			to combine there probably are
people like this
		
00:34:21 --> 00:34:24
			is solid permissible behind the
Imam because he watches TV.
		
00:34:26 --> 00:34:28
			That was the question. And all
these old guys they will arguing
		
00:34:28 --> 00:34:33
			about it. So a friend of mine as a
Maulana he was there.
		
00:34:34 --> 00:34:37
			He said, Do you watch TV? Do you
watch Do you don't like? Yes, yes,
		
00:34:37 --> 00:34:40
			yes. Okay, that's fine. Your
numbers is fine. Your salad is
		
00:34:40 --> 00:34:43
			fine behind him. Because you watch
TV as what your salad is one, stop
		
00:34:43 --> 00:34:43
			arguing.
		
00:34:46 --> 00:34:49
			The letter should be written in
the language of the addressee.
		
00:34:51 --> 00:34:52
			If you want an answer, I'm
assuming.
		
00:34:55 --> 00:34:57
			And if you think well, there's
Google Translate. Well, why don't
		
00:34:57 --> 00:34:59
			you use Google Translate to send
		
00:35:00 --> 00:35:02
			to them in English, or whatever
else.
		
00:35:03 --> 00:35:06
			So Hala, we get questions from
places like India and Pakistan.
		
00:35:07 --> 00:35:11
			And my first response is please
contact a local Mufti there.
		
00:35:11 --> 00:35:15
			Sometimes they write English in
the right order in English, and
		
00:35:15 --> 00:35:19
			they send it like that. It's quite
difficult to read that, you know,
		
00:35:19 --> 00:35:22
			and like, just as the local
scholars, but because the local
		
00:35:22 --> 00:35:25
			scholars are probably not online,
then they just find the Western
		
00:35:25 --> 00:35:28
			scholars online. That's why they
contact you sometimes
		
00:35:29 --> 00:35:33
			in the internet has made it's a
very interesting thing that goes
		
00:35:33 --> 00:35:37
			on in the world. Now it's RGB, you
can literally cater your data can
		
00:35:37 --> 00:35:42
			reach the world now, where, you
know, that's why we record these
		
00:35:42 --> 00:35:47
			classes, so that other people can
in sha Allah benefits, and Allah
		
00:35:47 --> 00:35:48
			except
		
00:35:50 --> 00:35:54
			when there is a need to discuss
more than one subject in a single
		
00:35:54 --> 00:35:56
			letter, do not write confusingly,
		
00:35:57 --> 00:36:01
			obviously speaking from
experience, but don't basically
		
00:36:01 --> 00:36:05
			merge one question into the two
separate topics. And number number
		
00:36:05 --> 00:36:09
			them if you can. But I have
learned that if you expect too
		
00:36:09 --> 00:36:12
			much from your this is obviously
trying to teach people so it's
		
00:36:12 --> 00:36:18
			good. But as an alum who's
responding to this, you know, if
		
00:36:18 --> 00:36:19
			you get frustrated with these
things, then
		
00:36:20 --> 00:36:23
			your life can become quite
miserable. So you have to overlook
		
00:36:23 --> 00:36:26
			a lot of these things and just try
to get by help people, because
		
00:36:26 --> 00:36:28
			answering questions is 100%
return.
		
00:36:29 --> 00:36:34
			If I give a buy on, if I write a
book, they say the statistic is
		
00:36:34 --> 00:36:37
			five to 10% return rate on that,
that people will take it and
		
00:36:37 --> 00:36:40
			implement it. But as multicell
months, I've said he goes when
		
00:36:40 --> 00:36:43
			you're somebody asks you a
question, they've come with a
		
00:36:43 --> 00:36:47
			particular problem and a need, and
you respond to them, that's 100%
		
00:36:47 --> 00:36:51
			rate of return. So that's why one
has to do that very lucrative
		
00:36:51 --> 00:36:55
			business, by the way, very
lucrative. As long as we can avoid
		
00:36:55 --> 00:36:59
			the mistakes very lucrative,
inshallah this is obviously
		
00:36:59 --> 00:37:00
			encouragement for the Allama.
		
00:37:02 --> 00:37:07
			So Imams, you get this, the perks
of this through being an Imam,
		
00:37:08 --> 00:37:10
			because that's when people will
know you if you're just a regular
		
00:37:10 --> 00:37:13
			argument that nobody's going to
come and ask you a question. You
		
00:37:13 --> 00:37:16
			have to then establish yourself as
somebody who can do that. You have
		
00:37:16 --> 00:37:19
			the title, Mufti does help. But if
you're an Imam, people are gonna
		
00:37:19 --> 00:37:23
			come and ask you the Imam
questions. So the perk of this job
		
00:37:23 --> 00:37:26
			is that you get this lucrative
business going on the side, this
		
00:37:26 --> 00:37:28
			investment in your hereafter.
		
00:37:29 --> 00:37:34
			An important letter, here, this is
an important letter, or a letter
		
00:37:34 --> 00:37:36
			for which a reply is required
should be sent by post not with a
		
00:37:36 --> 00:37:40
			person who happens to be just
passing by. Again, this just
		
00:37:40 --> 00:37:44
			depends, but nowadays, people
hardly send letters anyway. In
		
00:37:44 --> 00:37:48
			general, do not just think before
you write, do not just write
		
00:37:48 --> 00:37:50
			whatever you feel.
		
00:37:51 --> 00:37:55
			Always consider the feeling of the
adresi. This is the secret of any
		
00:37:55 --> 00:38:00
			good writing, believe me, this is
the secret of any good writing. In
		
00:38:00 --> 00:38:02
			fact, even in the publishing
industry, this is what they say
		
00:38:02 --> 00:38:05
			says don't write what you want.
Write what the reader wants, if
		
00:38:05 --> 00:38:07
			you want your book to be popular.
		
00:38:09 --> 00:38:12
			What What I mean by that is that
you don't write against your
		
00:38:12 --> 00:38:17
			morality, you know, against your
ethos, we're just saying that when
		
00:38:17 --> 00:38:20
			you're when I write an email, I
try to be really I try to put
		
00:38:20 --> 00:38:23
			myself in that person's mind, how
are they going to perceive my
		
00:38:23 --> 00:38:23
			email?
		
00:38:26 --> 00:38:30
			I always do that. Right. I mean,
mostly that's, that's what I try
		
00:38:30 --> 00:38:34
			to do. Sometimes you do get really
busy and you're shooting off an
		
00:38:34 --> 00:38:37
			email, you can't do that. But
that's the secret if you think and
		
00:38:37 --> 00:38:42
			put yourself in their mind, not
how you want them to think how you
		
00:38:42 --> 00:38:46
			think they will think then you
will save yourself from a lot of
		
00:38:46 --> 00:38:51
			grief in your correspondence on
WhatsApp or whatever it is. I
		
00:38:51 --> 00:38:52
			mean, Mashallah.
		
00:38:53 --> 00:38:57
			Hakimullah match was truly the
physician of the OMA, he says,
		
00:38:57 --> 00:39:01
			fold the letter neatly and
inserted correctly in the
		
00:39:01 --> 00:39:04
			envelope. Do not insert it
carelessly in such a way that the
		
00:39:04 --> 00:39:08
			adhesive on the envelope sticks to
the letter as well. This creates a
		
00:39:08 --> 00:39:11
			difficulty for the addressee.
Sometimes a portion of the letter
		
00:39:11 --> 00:39:15
			then is ripped while opening it.
So just saying be careful in all
		
00:39:15 --> 00:39:19
			of these things, because this is
Islamic exon, as they say, exon in
		
00:39:19 --> 00:39:20
			these matters.
		
00:39:21 --> 00:39:22
			And
		
00:39:23 --> 00:39:29
			do not unnecessarily write lengthy
letters. Have it concise, to the
		
00:39:29 --> 00:39:33
			point, but with sufficient
information, don't just go on and
		
00:39:33 --> 00:39:37
			on and on. This is a big problem.
What generally what I found is
		
00:39:37 --> 00:39:40
			that people will call you up and
say, mateesah need to meet you
		
00:39:40 --> 00:39:45
			said, Okay, fine. I need half hour
of your time. And I know you don't
		
00:39:45 --> 00:39:48
			need half an hour of my time.
Nobody needs half an hour of your
		
00:39:48 --> 00:39:51
			time unless they want to tell you
a story. But there's no need for
		
00:39:51 --> 00:39:55
			the story because the question is
at the end, right? So I'll say
		
00:39:55 --> 00:39:58
			look, I don't think you need half
an hour but I can give you five
		
00:39:58 --> 00:39:59
			minutes after the hour.
		
00:40:00 --> 00:40:03
			Right, you have to start that way,
then it does get to 1015 minutes.
		
00:40:03 --> 00:40:06
			But if you give them half an hour,
you know, you can't give everybody
		
00:40:06 --> 00:40:09
			half an hour. When you're new on
the game, you know, when you're
		
00:40:09 --> 00:40:13
			just new, you can give everybody
the whole day, believe me, because
		
00:40:13 --> 00:40:15
			you got nothing else to do. You
just want to talk to people and
		
00:40:15 --> 00:40:17
			you know, help them. But when
you've got so much, and so many
		
00:40:17 --> 00:40:20
			people, then you have to start,
it's not being arrogant or
		
00:40:20 --> 00:40:23
			anything like that, believe me,
it's just a lot forbid from that
		
00:40:23 --> 00:40:26
			happening. It's just the fact that
you don't have the time. And
		
00:40:27 --> 00:40:30
			you know, there's 10 other people
who want to see you as well. So
		
00:40:30 --> 00:40:32
			generally, the story is a long
story. But you don't need to know
		
00:40:32 --> 00:40:35
			that story. You don't need to know
your 10 years history, you just
		
00:40:35 --> 00:40:39
			need to know the general and get
to the point. For example, once
		
00:40:39 --> 00:40:43
			there was a divorce issue, and now
divorce responses are generally
		
00:40:43 --> 00:40:45
			given on the final words that are
said
		
00:40:46 --> 00:40:50
			not on 10 year story. But they
will start with the 10 year story
		
00:40:50 --> 00:40:54
			thinking it's pertinent and it's
not. So I listen. And then I'll
		
00:40:54 --> 00:40:56
			say, Okay, let's get to the
question first, then we'll come
		
00:40:56 --> 00:41:00
			back to it. Right? Some people
find it very difficult. They're
		
00:41:00 --> 00:41:03
			very linear. So they want to tell
you the story. You have to keep
		
00:41:03 --> 00:41:06
			telling them give me the question
first, then of course, sometimes
		
00:41:06 --> 00:41:10
			you do need to know why. So you do
have to go back. But in divorce
		
00:41:10 --> 00:41:12
			case, you generally just need to
know the last five minutes. That's
		
00:41:12 --> 00:41:16
			it. The exact words that I said,
because it really matters what was
		
00:41:16 --> 00:41:19
			said. And the circumstances under
which it was said immediate
		
00:41:19 --> 00:41:21
			circumstances not 10 year ago
circumstances.
		
00:41:23 --> 00:41:26
			The letters of he says the letters
of females should be endorsed with
		
00:41:26 --> 00:41:30
			the signature of a Muharram, male
husband, father, etc. This closes
		
00:41:30 --> 00:41:31
			the door to mischief.
		
00:41:32 --> 00:41:36
			This is quite a while and
nowadays, what generally people do
		
00:41:36 --> 00:41:39
			is that they will if a woman is
sending an email, and she's
		
00:41:39 --> 00:41:42
			married, or whatever she will see
see her husband in IFCC, my
		
00:41:42 --> 00:41:47
			husband on this, that's a nice way
of doing it these days, just so
		
00:41:47 --> 00:41:51
			that they know what's going on.
There's absolutely nothing wrong
		
00:41:51 --> 00:41:54
			with a woman asking a man for a
question. It's done.
		
00:41:54 --> 00:41:55
			Traditionally, the person often
used to be
		
00:41:57 --> 00:42:00
			approached by women. And if you
look at even in places like bulk
		
00:42:00 --> 00:42:04
			Afghanistan, because my PhD is
unshakable later Serpenti rather
		
00:42:04 --> 00:42:08
			than if you see his book, says
Jared imra, a woman came and she
		
00:42:08 --> 00:42:10
			was in the class, she started
asking this question, very, they
		
00:42:10 --> 00:42:12
			came with their partner and
everything else and started asking
		
00:42:12 --> 00:42:17
			the question, now it is very easy
for email. But there are women who
		
00:42:17 --> 00:42:23
			have who today in such a situation
that they've been told that you
		
00:42:23 --> 00:42:26
			cannot correspond. And they have a
question, it's about their
		
00:42:26 --> 00:42:29
			husband, or it's about something
foreign in their life, something
		
00:42:29 --> 00:42:33
			big issue, but they just don't
know how to ask because they feel
		
00:42:33 --> 00:42:33
			shy.
		
00:42:35 --> 00:42:38
			There's no shyness in the faith
when it comes to these kinds of
		
00:42:38 --> 00:42:43
			issues. Right? Because you have to
ask these questions. So there's a
		
00:42:43 --> 00:42:46
			safe way of asking these
questions, of course, to avoid the
		
00:42:46 --> 00:42:50
			mischief. But no form of shyness
should prevent you from knowing
		
00:42:50 --> 00:42:51
			your deen.
		
00:42:52 --> 00:42:53
			That's important.
		
00:42:54 --> 00:42:57
			Some, some scholars were very
strict Mufti Rashid Lujan, we he
		
00:42:57 --> 00:43:02
			writes that once somebody sent a
donation
		
00:43:03 --> 00:43:07
			to the masjid to his Institute,
		
00:43:09 --> 00:43:10
			and
		
00:43:11 --> 00:43:14
			what did he say he, they sent it.
And then they also said that when
		
00:43:14 --> 00:43:17
			you receive it, please confirm
receipt as we do nowadays.
		
00:43:19 --> 00:43:24
			He he was just so runny. It just
so in independent of all of these
		
00:43:24 --> 00:43:28
			things in total reliance and Allah
subhanaw. And I don't think I
		
00:43:28 --> 00:43:33
			mean, this is very peculiar to his
situation, right? I'm not
		
00:43:33 --> 00:43:36
			encouraging this, because you
won't get away with it. Right?
		
00:43:36 --> 00:43:39
			only certain people can do this.
So he wrote back, he said, Look,
		
00:43:39 --> 00:43:44
			if he said, he said, If they
they've donated, it's to their
		
00:43:44 --> 00:43:48
			benefit. Now look at the statement
says they've donated it's to their
		
00:43:48 --> 00:43:52
			benefits. And they want to burden
us with telling them that we've
		
00:43:52 --> 00:43:53
			received it.
		
00:43:55 --> 00:43:58
			You not everybody can do that. I
mean, it's considered today,
		
00:43:58 --> 00:44:01
			today, it's considered like just a
decent steward. No, and you need
		
00:44:01 --> 00:44:03
			to know just confirmation receipt,
because where the money goes and
		
00:44:03 --> 00:44:06
			things like that, but he is on it,
he was on a totally different
		
00:44:06 --> 00:44:06
			level.
		
00:44:08 --> 00:44:09
			He was on a totally different
level.
		
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			Once it says that a letter, in one
letter, somebody posed a number of
		
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			questions. In the same letter, he
also informed that he was sending
		
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			a money order of a certain amount
of money.
		
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			For the mother for whatever the
money was, in expectation of the
		
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			arrival of the money that when I
get the money, then I will respond
		
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			the answers as well. So I can I
have to just give one response.
		
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			Otherwise they'll respond to the
answers, then I'll have to respond
		
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			with accepting, you know, the
receipt of the money. But the
		
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			money didn't come for many days.
And
		
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			after that,
		
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			he was very particular. So he just
wrote the letter and he says,
		
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			either you shouldn't not have
informed in your letter of your
		
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			intention to send the money order
		
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			or
		
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			In the same letter, you should not
have written the queries for which
		
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			replies were required. Now,
there's a few things if you
		
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			analyze this, you can understand
that he has, he has cared for this
		
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			person. That's why he's saying
this. Otherwise, he could have
		
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			just disregarded it not responded
to. But he feels it's, I get so
		
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			many emails, I can't respond to
all of them.
		
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			Right? Now he's getting a letter,
you received the letter in which
		
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			you have to respond to some photos
that have been asked, but also
		
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			acknowledge the money, but the
money hasn't come. So now you're
		
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			in a limbo. So finally, he writes,
and he says, Look, you should not
		
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			have combined these two things in
one letter, because your money
		
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			hasn't come means you haven't sent
you've delayed, obviously. But he
		
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			could have just ignored the whole
thing.
		
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			But he's so particular that he
wants to respond to it. And he
		
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			wants to teach the right way of
doing these things. So that's how
		
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			he does it. May Allah subhanaw
taala give us the trophy? May
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala give us
the ability to correspond
		
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			properly, it's such a big part of
our life nowadays, more so than
		
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			before. It was almost as if
writing letters was something that
		
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			very few people did. Now
everybody's writing to each other,
		
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			you know, through these, these
things, people are writing to the
		
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			world nowadays, you could never do
that before, unless you are in the
		
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			media. But now every person can
get himself on Twitter or
		
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			Facebook, tell the whole world
what what he's thinking, what he
		
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			wants, what he wants them to do.
And subhanAllah there's a
		
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			responsibility that goes with
that.
		
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			And that is what is important. So
may Allah subhanaw taala give us a
		
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			trophy to use these things, for
their best potential. They're a
		
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			form of that when we have to use
them, you know, but to avoid the
		
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			harms that come from them. That's
the difficult part. And that is
		
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			where most most of the efforts of
the OMA is going is on the wasting
		
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			of time on these things, less the
benefit in flaming flames of of
		
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			sectarianism of violence, the
Muslim world is on Subhan Allah
		
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			help us Allah help us the world is
on fire. I mean, there's just a
		
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			border from Saudi Arabia to Yemen.
And it could be anything So may
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala help and
protect the Muslim ummah and bring
		
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			bring back some sense of humanity
and insomnia and stability and a
		
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			focus on Allah subhanahu Uttara
This is very important. Welcome to
		
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			Darwin Al hamdu, Lillahi Rabbil
Alameen. Allah, Monticello and
		
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			Cassandra valkia Their journey
with the Quran Allah.
		
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			medical study.
		
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			Allahu Maya Hana Yama, nella Illa
Illa, Allah Subhana Allah in
		
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			Nakano, anopheline immune Allah
Hamas, Allah now shenana Cola,
		
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			hula tequila, Illa and phocoena
tougher terrain. Allah Anonima
		
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			Taheebo Cody will fairly well I'm
anywhere near Allah Who Maya Yun
		
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			metachronous studies Allahumma
Elif Bina Colombina Allah ma Sling
		
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			TV Nina,
		
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			Allah whom hola hoomans sadhana
Allah hoomans sadhana Allah
		
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			hoomans sadhana Allah homophily
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			the word well meaning you know a
minute here in humble and what
		
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			Allahumma fiddly, Moton and Muslim
ina livina Shahidullah Camilo
		
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			hernia to Rama to Allah subhana wa
Allah be corroborated the term IOC
		
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			phone was Salah when I was more
Selena Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil
		
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			Alameen