Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Cannot Marry Who You Want
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I am a divorce girl I wanted, I waited to marry, I wanted to
marry, he wanted to marry me too. But family didn't expect me. He's
getting married to somebody else, how do I get myself out of this
depression? This is something that we've actually covered several
times in the past, you just have to understand that at the end of
the day, not everything works the way you want it to. And there
could be so many wisdoms in that, that you just don't know right
now. Right. So since you've lost the person right now just have to
look at the positive side of it. Because if this was supposed to be
good for you, you would have had it, but it's not. So thank Allah,
that maybe there's something and then move on. The longer you cry
over this and fuss over it. The longer you the more you are
spoiling your chances of finding somebody better, better, yes,
better. I say that, because
through various different experiences, sometimes you think
something is the best. And you think I need to get this and then
you lose it and you feel
totally
at loss that you know, there's going to be nothing better, then
Allah subhanaw taala gives you something but Nina in the world is
always better things is always better things. When it comes to
people, there's an emotional attachment that ensues, which
makes you feel that this is the best person.
Right. And when you don't get them, you feel like you've lost
the best person, nobody can fit their shoes, fill their shoes,
that's completely wrong. Allah can make you satisfied. So stop
feeling like that. And understand that maybe there was something in
here that I can't understand, I have to trust in Allah.
And let me look for some because the longer you're going to cry
over this, the longer it is going to take you to get over and to
find something better. And you're going to miss a lot of
opportunities. There are many fish in the sea, as they say, right? I
had one person called me once and basically their proposal had
broken down, and they hadn't even got married, their proposal had
broken down. And she was fretting over why it had happened. So she's
basically saying that okay, maybe it was because I said this on this
day, maybe because I didn't do this on this day. Maybe it's
because of this email or this word that I used. Or maybe it's because
of this dress I wore and I'm like why are you wasting your time for
this person is gone. Forget it now. Right? It's you can't you
know, you don't have a time machine that you can go back and
Okay, change your address, or change your statement, or do
things differently. It's finished. Why cry over spilt milk.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam is telling us rissalah Mayan Farooq,
you need to go and avidly seek out that which is to your benefit,
what attaches and do not sit back enfeebled. Do not sit back and
just be weakened. That's not what life is about. Anybody will tell
you that.
I would suggest that you listen to this talk that I have called Don't
be depressed you don't know your future. Because that really helps
to understand the whole decree aspect of it. Right, that there is
another force out there there is Allah's understanding of
everything that we're going to do, which he had from before. And he
does things to the for the best. And there's numerous examples,
right? of where things went wrong. The people felt really, really let
down. But later on, they found that that was the best thing that
had happened to them. Right, that was the best thing that had
happened to them. And really, you got no other way to think because
you can sit back and cry forever, and he's not going to come back.
So think of it that way. And just ask Allah subhanaw taala to give
you something better, keep doing the Istikhara prayer for the next
best thing in sha Allah. And may Allah give you that