Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Becoming a High Value Person
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Now today when you're looking online on social media, there's
this big discussion of high valued individuals and you know, you have
to be a high value women are looking for high valued men.
Right? And men are looking for high value women. And then there's
all of these other weird terminologies online like you have
to become the big G or is it the top G? Right so the top G right,
anybody know what that means? The top G
Bismillah R Rahman Rahim hamdulillah Alhamdulillah wa
Salatu was Salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad, while early he was happy
or darker was seldom at the Sleeman cathedral, Eli AMI Dean a
mother called Allahu Taala woman absolute COVID amendment, Dara
Illa. Allah Who me la sala hyung Wakanda in the middle Muslimeen.
So in this verse, Allah subhanho wa Taala is saying is that who
better
in statement than the one who can invite to Allah, and who can
proudly say I'm a Muslim, that's a really interesting idea, Allah is
saying that the best statement is from such a person was able to
proudly say that I'm a Muslim, I just give you a very simple
scenario, let's just say that you are now a big business person,
actually not a big business person. But you work for a big
corporate company or something like that. And you have a meeting
with a very, very important client, you need to get this
contract signed with this guy from another companies and non Muslim,
for example, and you go out to eat to a restaurant,
and
it's dinner time or something. So he orders a wine or a champagne,
you know, it cost a lot of money. And he said, like, which champagne
would you like to have from here? So this is the way you react?
You're like, you know?
Yeah, I can't have that. I'm a Muslim. I don't, I can't drink.
What impression Have you just given to this guy?
You made your, you basically made yourself out, right? In this
particular posturing. On the other hand,
the other option would have been,
you know, I don't drink. You don't have to even say you're a Muslim
or not. I don't drink you know, drink is pretty much the root of
all evil in this world. So I'm, I'm just, I don't drink.
Just, you're saying the same thing. But look at the way you've
said it.
In the first one, he's gonna start feeling sorry for you, because
you're feeling sorry for yourself, you're suddenly like, you know,
there is gonna be Chara like, you know, poor guy, man. He can't
drink or you're missing so much. Right? Whereas the other guy, he's
gonna make the other guy think that you're right, you know that?
You're right, he's probably going to say, Yeah, you're right. We
shouldn't be drinking, and so on. So it's about being proud of your
faith, not in an arrogant way. But in a very considerate way, right,
genuinely recognizing the beauty of the system. So what I'm finding
very interesting today, I'm so excited and actually honored to be
here is that this mosquito? Mosquito with the sequel, The
towhees, Boys School, was obviously created as an
alternative with a lot of efforts. And Russia, a lot of the students
here, your parents sent you here for a very particular reason, they
paid a lot of extra money, then to go to a free school, they could
have gone to a free school, but they rather sent you here with a
big idea in mind. Now that it's all in the past, and several years
have passed, do you think that we in sha Allah, we're hoping to
Allah, that we are fulfilling the dreams and ambitions and the goals
and purpose of our parents, they went through all of this efforts,
from different areas, lots of money, to bring us to where we
are, right? And hopefully Allah subhanaw taala accepted,
otherwise, it just be a big waste, right? So that that is really
interesting. So it's a really good idea to have these kinds of alumni
meetings, because you obviously meet friends and exchange ideas,
see where people are get exchange good ideas. That's a very
important thing. So one thing that I want to speak about today is a
relate to your Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. One day
the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam. He's sitting with a
gathering of people, and he says to this one individual, right, so
what do you think of that guy?
Mr. Blue, I've forgotten your name. What do you think of that
guy?
That guy up there.
Locally, look, look. What do you think of that guy?
So that's what the Prophet said last Sunday. He said to him, What
do you think of that guy? So he said, Oh, he is
One of the most honorable people of the area, meaning people listen
to him.
If he goes on us for a girl, he'll get it. He'll get her. If he puts
in a word for you for a job or something, you'll probably get the
job like he's well respected. He is a
highly esteemed high value individual among people, right?
Professor, some didn't say anything. And then a short while
later, he asked the guy again, he said, What do you think of that
guy? Now? What do you think?
Good guy.
You have to play along, man, what's wrong with you? You look
around, see, who am I talking about? So you said, Yeah, that guy
is min Fukuhara Illa Muslimeen. He's from the poor Muslims. And
he's not looked upon very, you know, with a lot of appreciation.
So if he puts in a word, it's not going to be accepted, he's not
going to get a proposal and so on, is looked down upon.
Then the prophets also remarked that this guy, the second guy, one
of them is superior to a whole world full of the first one.
So what was it in the first and second, so before anybody jumps to
any conclusion that the first one is a rich guy, and this guy was a
poor guy. And that's the comparison. That's not true.
There's no discussion about the first guy being a rich guy, he may
be assumed to be a rich guy, but that's not the point. And the
second one was not
accepted by Allah. So high valued individual according to Allah,
because he's poor. Right? There was some other characteristics.
And there was some character bad characteristics in the first one,
probably arrogance, and so on, right. So that's what so the
discussion here is about, uh, the first one is a high valued
individual among people, but not according to Allah. And the second
one is a high valid individual, according to Allah, but not among
people. Now, today, when you're looking online, on social media,
there's this big discussion of high valued individuals and you
know, you have to be a high value women are looking for high valued
men. Right? And men are looking for high value, women. And then
there's all of these other weird terminologies online like you have
to become the big G. Or is it the top G? Right, so the top G, right,
anybody know what that means? The top G
What does that mean? Sorry?
Top gangsta, not top guy. Okay, well, whatever it is, so we get
caught up in all of the hype. Whereas Allah has been trying
Allah Allah has, the way he's laid out, we still hit boy school was
trying to teach us is to become highly esteemed high value
individuals. That's literally what it is. What exactly is a high
valued individual? So when I started seeing this slogan, I
started looking for it. And what I found high valued individual is
that if we compare these two people so the first guy was high
value, people the second guy was high value Quinto Allah so now
tell me who would like to be the first guy
okay, nobody who would like to be the second guy?
Okay, I would like to be either of them.
I'd like to be high valued according to Allah and high valued
according to the people. Right so the these two did not represent
Yes, in comparatively speaking I'd rather be the second guy.
But that does not represent just mutually exclusive two categories
and that's it.
The third category are the people like Abu Bakr the Allah one and
Amara, the Allah and Allah the northmen with the Allah and all of
these people who are high valued according to Allah and high valued
according to people
that's what we want to be because I think that's the idea of dough
he boy school, okay to become high valued individuals according to
Allah and the people. So there's many good schools out there that
are not faith based they want you to be high valued individuals.
They weren't you take top posts and things like that. But with
though he'd boy school it was also become high valued, according to
Allah. How do we do that? So very quickly, because I don't want to
overstay my welcome.
There's a few qualities that I
looked into, of what makes somebody high values. One of them
is to actually have some principles.
You can't be a high valued individually if you don't have
principles. The modern world does not want us to have principles.
Politicians don't want us to have principles.
That corporate world, big organizations, big companies don't
want principals because if you're a principal person, you're not
going to buy the next iPhone if you don't need it. Why would you?
Why would you when your previous one is working completely fine,
you won't come out there's no new innovation in it. Why would you
buy the next one and give a charity every year to Apple?
Like why would you do that? If you have principles that no I don't
waste money, I will
by what's useful, I want to be productive. I don't want to be
just doing things on a fed or something. So it's just convenient
for people in power, and people want to sell us things for us not
to be principled, then we just go with the wind, go with the trend,
vote for things that we don't really want to buy things we don't
really need. And basically, that's the society today, unfortunately.
So high valid individual has to have principles and he abides by
them, he sticks to them. Number two, a high valid individual is
the one who takes care of those that they're responsible for. They
can trust him.
Their parents, he's got responsibility to the parents,
brothers and sisters, children, neighbors, employees, if you're a
manager, colleagues, friends,
your you can be relied on, they know that if they call on you,
you will provide them what you need to provide, you've got that
level of compassion and care for others. So essentially, a high
valid individual is not a selfish individual.
Somebody, the easiest way to check this out is, are we going to be
missed when we die?
What are people going to say when we die? Man, that guy was such a
good guy, we could have just called on him and he would have
sorted this out for us. He would help us out. He would have
listened to us. He's gone now. So how are people going to remember
us? So that's a high valid individual, in the sight of people
is the one who takes care of others who people can rely on.
Okay, number four, a high valued individual is not a stingy person.
Stingy, people can't be high valued.
There's no compassion, they're
high value individual can't be a jealous person.
Because when you're jealous, you're burning inside. And it's
all competition afterwards. There's nothing you do for the
sake of the thing itself. So for example, in one particular
industry in the world, in a major industry, there's two major
players, right? There's two major players in a specific industry,
they dominate the markets. There's a consultant who's worked for both
of them. He says that the first company, what I found to be the
ethos is that they wake up in the morning and their motivation is,
what is the other company doing? How is their product today? And
how can we beat it.
Their focus is always about the other company, what they're doing
and how they can maybe surpass them. And it's all the
competition, the second company doesn't care what the other
company is doing. Company B doesn't care what A is doing. They
just want to be the best. So they get up in the morning, how do we
do a perfect product? How do we give good value for money? How do
we create a good client base, right, just without product, we
don't care about anybody else. And the second one is seen as more
successful. So a high valued individual can't be a jealous
person, they have to be, they have to be focused on the good overall,
right. And the last point, and these are not necessarily the last
point. But the last point is that high valued individual is the one
who gets to love Allah, and who gets Allah to love him.
And that requires a whole beyond, right, but I guess you know what
that entails, that is to be God conscious, that is to be focused
on Allah, that is to fulfill our obligations. That is to avoid the
prohibitions as much as possible, if we ever make a mistake, to
repent, to make amends, follow up a bad deed with a good one, to
erase it, and just try to be as good as possible in the sight of
Allah, thinking of the hereafter. These are the people who are going
to be high valued individuals in this world, and the next world.
And it's very simple for us. We learn best with role models. So
let us look around in our lives, and find and identify certain
people who are high valued like that, in the sight of Allah. And
in the sight of people. Let's see, what is it that makes them do what
they do, so that we can also become like that as well so that
we could also leave a legacy.
We also do something for our next generation, just like our parents,
in whatever their capacity was. They made the effort and that
sacrifice to get us to where we are. We may have
not been able to fulfill huge ambitions for them, but we still
got a lot of we still got parts of our life left. And what really
matters is the last point. That's why the Prophet sallallahu sallam
said another Hadith. He once said to the Sahaba, he said the whoever
Allah intends, good for, he will use him
is that mother who in Arabic is the standard of service
So have asked, What do you mean by that? What do you mean he'll use
him? So then the profit or loss explained is that before the guy
dies, Allah will use him to do something positive and beneficial,
so that the people around him are satisfied. They benefit humanity
benefits. Right? So that is the person who Allah has intended
Goodwin. So what I'm saying that we should tell our children now,
right is not that, hey, you need to grow up and be a doctor. Or you
need to grow up and be a architect and you're drumming that in their
head day in and day out. Or another way, you need to be a
Molana. We're not going to tell them that you need to be a Mufti
sob, we're not going to tell them that
we're going to tell them is when you grow up, you're going to be
such a high valued individual, that you're going to change the
world for it to be a better place, you're going to contribute and
become beneficial for real, that's what I want you to be. That's what
I really want you to be. I want you to be a productive individual.
When you grow up and help people and make a difference. How are you
going to do that? You're going to be a doctor.
You're going to be an architect. You're going to be an engineer,
you're going to be a Molana you're going to be a Mufti. You
understand what I'm saying, you're still doing the same thing. But
it's for a higher goal. It's not an end goal. Because that's very
selfish to be just an I just want to be a doctor. So what, like big
deal, right? Do it for a higher purpose. That's when it'll make a
big difference. And I guess and I believe that these are the
convictions and the principles on which though he'd boy school,
declaring the Oneness of Allah is what Tawheed means, right? Is what
it was established on from all of these mashallah individuals work
so hard. And Allah thank your parents, thank our parents for
what they've done. And may Allah allow us to continue this legacy
and make it even, even better inshallah make it even better. So
that's what I have to say does not come down here. Allah bless your
salary.
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