Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Bangalore Tour 2018 An Intellectual Person’s Path to Success

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speakers emphasize the importance of intellectual input and personal development in achieving success in the workplace, emphasizing the need for a comprehensive approach. They stress the negative impact of social media usage and the importance of creating a "has been a great" concept for digital marketing. They advise not to think that one cannot be used for the right reason and dedicate some one's time to providing service and providing good deals. They also encourage people to take their own time and dedicate themselves to their deduction, and to make a legacy.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al Hamdulillah Hamden cathedral a

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uban Mubarak and fie Mubarak Kennedy, gamma your Hebrew Robina

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were the children who are men a word of a salatu salam O Allah say

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you dill Habib Al Mustafa sallallahu

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alayhi wa aalihi wa sahbihi wa Baraka was seldom at the Sleeman

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Kathira on Ilario meet Dean

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Amma bad

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but who call Allah Who Tabata Koba Phil Quran emoji they will for

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cloning Hamid Bell who is Toumba Yuna tone fee sudo Latina who

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tolerated so the Kola hula team, I'm standing up because I've had

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some late nights in the last few days and I don't want to fall

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asleep while speaking to you.

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So I'm going to stand up so I can move around the bits and keep it

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fresh. I want to first thank our speaker and our great shake, as it

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Mullah Muhammad Madani, for,

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for for his kind words, clearly, I don't deserve them and but the

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situation is the way it is May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless him,

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and may Allah subhanaw taala accept him and the work that he's

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doing in the Indian subcontinent and the benefit of that in other

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places as well is probably not unknown to to you all. So may

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Allah subhana wa Tada grant him even greater and accept Him in sha

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Allah. So our dear anima dear mushy Dear brothers, dear sisters,

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I see some young young people as well some young girls, young boys

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I see as well. I hope I don't stand here and waste your

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afternoon. I know you've waited for a long time already.

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We make dua for those who mashallah worked very hard to put

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this, this event together. And we ask Allah subhanaw taala to accept

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it and make it useful. Let us start with the topic. Can you just

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give me is it possible to give me the topic again. Now this topic

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here is sounds like a very pompous topic

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of intellectuals and intellectual persons path to success, which

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assumes that if you're here, you must consider yourself to be

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intellectual.

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That means that this is it seems to assume that if anybody is not

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intellectual, they shouldn't be here.

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Right?

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So I don't know what intention you came with. But we're all here now.

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And whatever the situation is, to be honest, the first time when

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this was presented to me, I was averse to the topic. It just

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sounds a bit too self dignifying a bit too, too self purifying,

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elevating. And, but if that works here, hamdulillah it works. Right?

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We're here now. If you don't consider yourself intellectual, or

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you do consider it's irrelevant. Because if Allah has given us a

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lot of gray matter in the mind, in the brain, that we can use

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mashallah to accomplish something in this world, then we want to

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also use it to accomplish something in the hereafter as

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well.

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What I'm going to speak about today may not be just may not be

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just on one particular topic or one particular subject.

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I want to just bring over various different points, thinking points,

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I want to just throw ideas out there, just to get us to think

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where are we in this regard. Everybody here, in general has

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their own reality that they deal with their own family situation,

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work situation, personal situation, they have particular

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person perspectives, they have particular goals, certain

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ambitions in what they want to do in life. So it's difficult to give

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a particular way forward, everybody that are a particular

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way that works for everybody. That's why what I want to speak

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about today are things that will make us think about our own life

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and our own situation. And in sha Allah, help us to think of those

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matters that we may not have been thinking about that are important,

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both from a faith and a worldly perspective. It's very easy for

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career oriented people to become blind of everything else.

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If I'm very career driven, and there's something that there's a

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there's a glass ceiling that I assume I want to break through

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this glass ceiling, then I become so focused, so tunnel visioned

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that I don't think about anything else. Sometimes I will probably

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neglect my family, neglect my social circle if I have one,

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neglect extended relatives, and of course, then neglecting your

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religion, neglecting your own health, sometimes neglecting your

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own health sometimes. That's why a comprehensive human being from an

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Islamic perspective is somebody who gives due to everything, all

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the needs. And that's what we're trying to create the balance. And

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I think that is the biggest challenge for for certain driven

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people, if I say, driven people.

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So in in that sense, I'm going to be talking about several different

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things. Let me give you an example. The discussion has that

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Maulana Muhammad Mandisa brought up here was about general

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interaction with people of other faiths. That's a nice term to use

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people of other faiths, Islam and other faiths. How is our

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interaction, and one of the things that was mentioned is that we need

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to change our perspective, we need to start looking at everybody

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else, as someone that we can work with for the ultimate or higher

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goal, how we can share our good values by displaying it on our

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cell first, by enacting it first. This has been one thing that I've

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spoken about a few times now. It's very easy to claim that our

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messenger sallallahu alayhi, wa sallam was the greatest

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personality. There's no doubt about that. It's very easy to say

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the Quran is the best book. But at the end of the day for somebody

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who's not going to read it, who is not going to study the life of the

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prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it's just a claim they're

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going to be listening to from the mouths of Muslim people.

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How do they know that what we're saying is true? Maybe what we're

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doing in our life contradicts what is supposed to be good character,

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prophetic, good character. So we claim Robert Southern lorrison was

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like this. And his o'clock were like this. And his conduct was

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excellent. And he had sublime characteristics. But how do we

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prove it to people that that is the case, we can't force them to

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read a Syrah or a biography of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, we

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can't always force everybody to read the Quran, we have to become

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manifestations

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of the Quran and Sunnah.

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And that has a greater impact. And that will hopefully Inshallah,

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turn the tide. If there are people out there creating animosity and

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hatred towards Muslims or against Muslims rather than a, somebody

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asked the question yesterday,

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Islam has become maligned and criticized on a world stage, what

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is our responsibility? Well, our responsibility is that we don't

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have CNN in our hands. We don't have the BBC or hands. We don't

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have anything that is up to that level that has such a widespread

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that has such mass impact. We don't have anything like that. So

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our responsibility is at a local level. That's our responsibility.

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shaytaan will make us think that we need to change the global

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scene, but then we forget the local scene. Really, it's the

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local scene that we have to start to make a change out. Now, one of

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the contentions if I'm to start dealing with some of the issues of

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some of the principles of life, let's call it this can apply. If

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you're a student, do we have any students here who are still

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studying? Put your hands up, please? Okay. All right. So that's

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maybe about 10% 10 to 15%. Our students, I'm assuming the rest

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would be business people or employers employed or employers,

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right, working the working class as such. So now, there's a few

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things I want to mention is whatever you're doing in whatever

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field you are, you must be able to excel in that field.

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You must be able to excel in that field.

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So you do your best. In Islam, we have a concept of concept called

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exon, which means to make something excellent. to beautify

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something, it comes from the word husen. Which means to

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cause something to make something as beautiful as possible. I don't

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mean just make yourself look beautiful with a lot of makeup.

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Right or with nice clothes. That's just one aspects. But in

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everything you do, if you're building a masjid, we'll make sure

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that it is excellent in the way you build it. Which means think

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about everything including the smell of the Masjid. Most people

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build good mustards, beautiful mustards, but they forget

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that there is a

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fragrance is also part of Islam. plebe, which basically means God

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sent the prophets, Allah some loved good scent, he hated bad

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scent. So, in fact, studies show that good sense, they create the

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right, he helped to create the right right atmosphere. If you go

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to some of these prominent

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global brand hotels, they actually have, they spend money with some

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Olli factory scientists or engineers to create the perfect

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scent for the mood that they want to give and create for their

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guests. So if you go to the Hilton, you go to certain others,

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there's a certain scent,

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perfume fragrance that they will actually have designed to convey

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their mood. And massages need to think about that maybe I'm talking

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on a very high level here. But in sha Allah I it needs to be

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mentioned, because nobody even is concerned about this. In

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everything we do, we need to show perfection because perfection is

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what people appreciate.

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In the way we work, I was in Sri Lanka

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few days ago, and one of the scholars there told me that one of

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the biggest problems we have here is that nobody

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trust anybody's word anymore.

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People are not willing to trust your word. And the reason is that

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people are generally let down too often. So for example, if I tell

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you that I'm going to come in 10 minutes, then it becomes half an

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hour.

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If I tell you I'm going to be there in two minutes, it actually

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doesn't mean to means 20. So for example, we went to a hotel,

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actually, the hotel we were staying in and move this up, he

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was dropping us off to the hotel, but he had to come inside, there

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was no parking. And the parking attendant said You can't park

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here. So he said, Just give me five minutes, I only need to five

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minutes, we're gonna go upstairs, collect something and come back

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down. And the person was unwilling.

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And but then finally, we convinced him we went upstairs and move this

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up told me that this the reason is because we will say five minutes,

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but we'll come down after 20 minutes. And there's other people

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whose caused me want to go out. So we made sure that we went up and

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we quickly came back down down within five minutes, just to show

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that there's somebody who keeps His words. Now this isn't to say

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just Muslims don't keep their word, but even the people of other

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faiths, they don't keep their word, it becomes a manhole, it

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becomes an environment. This is the problem. Imam Shafi

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Rahmatullahi Allah he says that you need to travel

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or sir farofa enough is Safaree humsafar. Ed, you need to travel

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because traveling, he says has five benefits. And one of the

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benefits he mentioned in traveling is that you will be able to

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understand and reform your character. How do you reform your

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character, and behavior when you're traveling? The way you do

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it is that when you're living in one particular society, one

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particular community and culture, certain bad habits have become

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assimilated into that culture, and become normal in that culture,

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tolerated in that culture. And people just deal with it. People

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will just deal with it. No longer do you even think it's a problem.

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For example, if we're used to doing rebuts, backbiting and

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Anytime somebody's discussion comes, I'm willing to talk about

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them, somebody else is willing to talk about them. There's nobody

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who feels bad about it, I think it's okay to do so then what's

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going to happen is, everybody starts doing that. But when you

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then go to another culture, another place where people don't

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speak like that, they don't do riba so easily. They don't

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criticize so easily, they have more patience, then you will start

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saying that, Oh, this is my problem, you will start seeing

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that through the reflection of that. So that's one of the

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benefits.

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In your work, you must do the best. And I've seen where the

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benefit of that comes about many Muslims, rightly so. And in some

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cases wrongly, so they're always complaining that we're not given

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our rights.

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Our rights are not taken into consideration.

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We want to go for Friday prayer from work. They don't let us go. I

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want to keep a beard at work, but they don't. They're causing

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problems. I want to wear the hijab I want to cover myself up when I

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go to work for for women, they cause discrimination.

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You see, that's a reality we're going to have to deal with if

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that's the reality. That's just something we can't change it

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overnight by magic. There's no magic here.

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Right? You agree there's no magic here. The way you have to change

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that is by showing your value.

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As a human being, by being a Muslim, you have to show that when

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I work, I work well. For example,

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if you're saying to your, to your employer, where you work with your

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office manager wherever he is that I need to pray, so I need to go

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and make my daughter prayer. And instead of taking 10 minutes,

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which you could do, or 15 minutes, you take half an hour. You don't

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need to, but you do, then basically, you're giving off the

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wrong impression. They're going to think well, let me get somebody

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who doesn't need to pray. Right? Let me get somebody who doesn't

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need to pray. Why should I get somebody who's going to ask for

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these things. So we have to pray. So we have to ask for it. There's

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one friend who I have. He works for a housing association. He's an

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IT person. There's a certain niche

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Housing Association managing software, which there's very few

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technicians, it technicians who can manage that software. He is

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one of them. He was invited to come to work for in West London

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for a particular housing association.

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And in the interview, he said look,

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especially in the winter, because in London, in England, in the

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winter, the Fajr is about seven 730. In the morning, the hair is

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at about 1231. The hair is at three o'clock, our service at

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three o'clock. McGreevy is at four o'clock. So all of these will come

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in work time, go ahead of us and Maghrib, within a few moments of

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each other will come in work time. So

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I'm going to have to pray. So I'm just mentioning this from before.

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So they said, Okay, we will research into this. And we will

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check because they want to make sure that he's not just making

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excuses. So in the next interview that Alhamdulillah we went and we

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researched and we see that Muslims do pray. So we will be hiring a

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room in the hotel next door for you to be able to go and pray in

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whenever you want.

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Now, he was surprised. He says I don't need a hotel room. I just

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need a small space in a corner of a room somewhere. Don't waste your

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money.

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Right, don't waste your money. And so then they found a storeroom,

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which they cleaned up put a carpet in there and they said okay, this

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is for you.

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The reason why he can do this is because he shows capability,

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quality commitment. If you're going to be constantly taking

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shortcuts, and trying to use your Muslim cut, it's gonna be a

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problem.

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Just to Ramadan's ago, he showed me his schedule that the company

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has sent him and he showed him there how it said they had, they

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had a shortened schedule for him. And he said, Ramadan, Ramadan,

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Ramadan, they understand he's fasting. And in nowadays, the fast

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is very long in Ramadan because McGreevy is at 920 in London, and

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Fajr can finish by one sorry, say Saturday finishes by one 115 120.

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So you're fasting for most of the day. So they have themselves

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without him asking. They've given him these are non Muslims. They

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have given him a shortened schedule, and some days he can

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work from home.

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The reason is that he is providing an asset to them quality. If

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you're not the best at what you do, then you also want to fight

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for your rights, it becomes difficult in the climate we're

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speaking about. That's the problem. I got another friend.

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He used to work. He's half Egyptian and half Palestinian,

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this was in America. And he used to work for superconductor

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technology. This was about

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15 years ago, 1520 years ago, when the mobile phones first came out

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where the cell phone first started becoming popular. So

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superconductor technology is used. He used to work in a firm and

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he would refuse to he was a very good worker, but he would refuse

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to attend the annual general meetings, because they used to

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serve wine there. So he made it very clear that I'm unable to come

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because you serve wine there, I cannot, according to my faith, sit

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on the same table on which wine is being served.

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So for two years, three years, he missed the meeting, but he was a

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very, he was an asset to the company. He used to be also

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committee member of the Masjid. He was you can say to a certain

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degree, my line manager in the masjid. Right. So he would give

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time to the masjid he would give time to work. Friday evenings he

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would take off from work, but he would work extra every day. Right

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at his company.

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One year,

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his supervisor called him and he said, we've got the Annual General

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Meeting and a few in a few weeks, or a few days, or whatever it was,

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can you come? He says, Well, you know, my policy, I cannot come

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because of x, y, and Zed. You know, because of this reason. He

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said, Now you can come this time, because we've changed our policy,

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and no longer will we be serving alcohol in our annual general

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meetings. The only reason they would do this is because he's an

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asset,

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become an asset become somebody to be valued.

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Right? If you consider yourself an intellectual, you need to be

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intellectually, I mean, we need to be valued. We need to be able to

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provide value. I'll give you another example. I know these are

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maybe exceptional examples. I know that this is not going to work for

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magic for everybody. Right? I understand that. I'll give you

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another example.

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Another friend of mine, he's an army. He's got a big beard. And he

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works. He works in a very niche it firm that does.

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Finance Management Software.

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Right. It's something systems, I don't want to mention the name

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it's in America. It's actually owned by a Hindu, an Indian Hindu

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in America. It's actually owned by an Indian Hindu. And he's a Muslim

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who works there. And he's very clearly overtly Muslim. Right? He

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doesn't, He's not shy about it. He's not embarrassed about it.

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He had a mortgage on his house. He had a $500,000 property. And he

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had, he had a mortgage on his house, maybe 300,000, left or

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whatever. And after hearing about the curse of mortgage and haram

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and former one Ramadan, he was feeling very upset, making Laura

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dua to Allah subhanaw taala.

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And he said, how he was making dua that Allah Allah, get me out of

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this, relieve me of this burden, I don't want to be in this sin.

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Now, it's so much money to be able to pay off your mortgage so

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quickly. His salary may have been 70 $80,000 a year maybe, right at

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the time.

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Allah put in his mind, he is a very bold character. He's a very

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bold character outspoken, no doubt about that, right? very

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extroverted, extroverted person. He wrote an email the night

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before, to his boss, the Hindu

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boss of the, of the of the company, that

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now you will be you will be, this will be unbelievable for you. He

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said, I know this sounds this may sound I mean, I'm paraphrasing, I

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know this may sound strange, but is it anywhere possible that you

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can pay me this coming year salary upfront?

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Now imagine asking your pasta, give me this entire next coming

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year salary in advance, 77,000, whatever it is, and I will then

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work for free for the whole year.

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That was the bargain he offered.

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He said there's no harm in trying the worst comes to us, they'll say

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no, but there's no harm in trying now most of us will probably not

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even try, you need to be very bold for this. And you need a certain

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level of Tawakkol.

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The next morning, he goes to work. And the boss is standing there. He

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says, you know, he called his name and he said, I got your email,

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please go and see human resources, they'll they'll work with you on

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this. He went to the finance department, whatever it was. And

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they said, Look, this is the offer we're giving you,

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we will give you

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your next your coming year salary upfront.

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But then because you will have no salary for those 12 months. For

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the rest. For the 12 months, you will not be receiving a salary

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because you've received it in advance, we will give you half the

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salary of next year, or each month for this month for the month of

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this year.

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Not just getting 70,000 upfront, but in every subsequent month for

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the next two years, you will get half a salary.

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Now isn't that a better deal than what Ian he had even hoped for?

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That works for him. Um, if you write an email to your boss today

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to do the same thing, I don't know if it's gonna work. Right. If you

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have historical and his doors, maybe it will work. But what I'm

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trying to say is that you have to be creative, but you have to be an

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asset. You have to be a true believer, true to your faith, but

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also committed to your work in England and in the West in general

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in America, etc. The problem we're having is that we got to extremes

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of people

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in the workplace. In the media, the mass majority in the middle

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they are not heard of.

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We've either got one extreme who wants to assimilate

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completely,

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they want to not to be seen as being any different.

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They want to fit into the culture. So they will even go to pubs and

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clubs. They will have their happy evenings with, you know where the

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beer is flowing or the wine is flowing. They will do all of these

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things. They even changed their name from Mohammed to Mo, a salam

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to Sam, and so on and so forth. They don't want anybody to know

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they're a Muslim, because they believe that this is going to

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stunt their career, this is going to stop them climbing up the

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ladder. So they've given up their faith, or it's a very silent

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faith, very concealed faith, very personal faith. They don't let

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anybody know they tried to dress they try to act, they try to fit

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in completely. And that's one extreme, then you've got the other

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extreme of people who are going in there who want to even wear you

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know, traditional dress, even in a corporate environment where it

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becomes difficult to do so. Right. In some cases, they insist on it,

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which causes some animosity, sometimes

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they want to take their breaks for salaat, which is fine, but then

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they take extra time and then they constantly say you're

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discriminating against me if they don't give you enough time.

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There's in London, many hedge packages are only two weeks or two

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and a half weeks. Indian hedge packages are generally six weeks

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or eight weeks, mashallah you guys have lots of Baraka. Right? When

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Indian comes, they come for a very long time, which is understandable

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because a lot of people have saved up for their entire life, and they

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want to enjoy it because they may not be able to go again. But for

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people who are in the mashallah economically, have greater

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stability and disposable income. If your company doesn't allow six

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weeks, and you have to perform hajj, we'll go for two weeks.

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Nothing wrong with that Allah will give you tofi to do it again. So

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don't be insistent. Where you have to balance balance, your

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insistence to also your capability and your asset. What how much

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assets are you providing to the company? How far can you push it?

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It's easy to say I'm going in England, we have discrimination

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laws, if the employer doesn't allow you to pray, doesn't allow

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you to wear hijab, then you can take them to court, right? Why do

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you want to do that? Where you can try to make it work otherwise?

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Subhanallah we have some extremists, in a sense, one

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sister, she's an ecobee. From America, she wrote to me, and she

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said that her husband

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this is just complete misunderstanding. Her husband

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couldn't find a job in which it was 100% You know, segregation and

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so on. So then he sent his wife to work with the niqab.

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Now, that's unmanly. Forget being an Islamic it's unmanly as well,

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purely from a man male perspective. Thus, masculinity in

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crisis, right? He forced her to go to work, because because of this

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because he couldn't find a so called kosher job, meaning a job

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that fit 100% with the way he wanted things.

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So you have a lot of other said, you have these two extremes. We

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can't be this extreme. We can't be this extreme. We need to be in the

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middle. We need to be assets, we need to work hard. And for that

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you need to study hard if you're still studying, and there will be

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discrimination because that's the nature of the world we're living

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in right now. What are you going to do about it? We just have to do

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our best and try to use our mind as best as possible to try to help

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that situation. We have to the second problem that we're dealing

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with is the social media.

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From a productivity standpoint,

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from a productivity standpoint, social media is very detrimental.

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And the reason I say this is because social media in itself is

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not haram to use Facebook or Twitter or WhatsApp for that

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matter or even Instagram to a certain degree is not haram. They

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are not intrinsically haram things.

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But their usage can be haram that's why I have a I've compiled

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a dua for Twitter, compiled a dua for Facebook, and all of these

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other social media sites. The DA is Allahumma inni as a locum in

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Haiti however Haiti mafia, when they're also becoming shadowy,

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however shadowy mafia, if you're going to use it if you have to use

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it, either you know for your your work related or whatever other

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reason you use it for read this to our which basically means

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Allah I asked you for the best of it, and the best of what is

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contained or for the best of what is produced. And Oh Allah, I seek

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Your protection and refuge from the evil of it and from the evil

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of what it contains.

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When I went into university, I remember when I went to university

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for my for my Master's and PhD, this was the DUA that I read.

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Because while universities provide mashallah, a lot of a lot of

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knowledge, a lot of expertise, studies, etc. Clearly, there are

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also a lot of fitna and challenges and temptations that are there for

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men and women. So I wanted to protect myself, I found this to be

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a necessary evil, you can say, if you want to call it an evil, I

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don't necessarily call it an evil. But if you want to term it as

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such, just as a, as a metaphor, that let me go there. I'm a

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happily married person, I don't want to go there and get messed

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up. Right? Because this is a big challenge in places like that,

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because of the close interaction and even in the workplace. So my

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daughter was, Oh Allah give me the best of this. And for what it's

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created, and let me avoid and protect me from the harms of what

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there is or what the potential harms they may be. Because that's

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what that's that's what you get. So you can use this doll for any

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such environment like this. We want to be guided by Allah in

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everything that we do. Now.

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Speaking about WhatsApp, how many people here do not use WhatsApp?

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Put your hands up please. If you don't use WhatsApp, right, I'd be

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surprised 1234

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Anybody in the system is no use WhatsApp, okay, maybe five or six

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there may be 10 People here do not use WhatsApp, which is probably

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about 5% if even that much, mashallah WhatsApp is the most

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popular. And because it's free now, you don't even have to pay 69

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cents or something like that a year was Capoeira humble, was

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Gilbert, who centuries ago moved him, like, you know, just

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basically bombard the system.

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Way down the system. You know, what we have to understand at the

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end of the day, is that there's resources that are being expended

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even in it, there's energy, there are data centers, they take up a

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huge amount of electricity, right there, our electricity has to be

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generated. This takes the natural resources of the world, it's all

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effected, and we think it's just the push of a button is just

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there. No, there is a there is a payment, right there is a cost. We

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never think about these things. Number two, forget just the normal

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natural cost of it. The other course we have to remember the

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other thing we have to remember is that there's a time cost involved

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in these things. You will know it people will know if you read the

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you know the latest reports on things that these things are not

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created by accident, the addictiveness of Instagram and the

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addictiveness of even WhatsApp when you see when you send a

00:33:05 --> 00:33:08

message and you wait for the one tick and the other tick, and that

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there's two ticks and then the green and the feeling it gives you

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the dopamine rush that it provides you This is all based on our

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enough's. Right the study is on the knifes the psychology behind

00:33:20 --> 00:33:24

it, millions have been spent in trying to figure out the best way

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to keep people hooked on games, children, adults, everybody,

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husbands wives, the works in the time of the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wasallam.

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The complaints were from the women that their husbands were not

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coming to bed, they were neglecting them in bed. Why were

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they neglecting them? Not because they were out with their friends,

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our team too late. Not because they were sitting on their

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laptops, watching haram things. The complaint was that they don't

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come to bed because they because they were doing tahajud all night.

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They were doing tahajud all night.

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A woman came to the Amara, the hola Juan

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and she started saying she couldn't say clearly she started

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saying my husband he is constantly engaged in worship, and he prays

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all night and so on and so forth. So Almighty Allah and said

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mashallah wonderful husband you have, he's so pious, he's so

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righteous, right?

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So she said it again. And Amara. They kept praising the husband

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saying, mashallah, what a wonderful, pious religious husband

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you have. There was another Dabiri who was sitting there, one of his

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companions, and he said,

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That's not what she's saying. She's complaining about her

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husband, she's not praising her husband.

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Do any of the women have that complaint about their husband that

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you praise too much?

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That would be a good complaint still. Today unfortunately, the

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emails we get is that my husband sits watching * even

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until two o'clock at night.

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And she's there complaining, I'm saying this openly because it's a

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reality. And the problem in India problem is that your internet is

00:35:08 --> 00:35:10

probably the cheapest in the world.

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It's the cheapest in the world. I mean, from what I'm seeing, I

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mean, I haven't been everywhere, but it's extremely cheap. And when

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I was sitting on the flight from Sri Lanka to hear both people next

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to me, were on Netflix, at least one of them the other one was

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watching some other movie. And Netflix, I don't know, how have

00:35:26 --> 00:35:30

you seen Netflix? By the way? Do you know what Netflix is? Right? I

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looked at it a few. Because everybody was talking about

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binging on Netflix. So then, my friend he gave me the access. So I

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checked and Masha Allah, I mean, you can literally entertain

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yourself for the next 72 hours and,

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and just go from one movie to the next. There is so much algorithm,

00:35:51 --> 00:35:56

and psychology that's gone into presenting the offerings on there

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in such a way that you just want, as soon as one movie finishes, the

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next one starts.

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They give you a suggestion, they do that in YouTube, it's just to

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keep you hooked. A lot of science has gone into this.

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The report shows that some of the founders are the people at the top

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end of these things have these facilities, they don't even let

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their children have access to these things. Because they know

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the shaytani is behind it. They know the potential problems behind

00:36:26 --> 00:36:30

it. They want their children to be productive, like they were.

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This is the opium for the masses that they've created.

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We must be careful about this. So when Amara alone heard from his

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companion that oh, she's complaining about her husband, he

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says, Okay, since you are understood her case, you need to

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deal with it. So he said, Okay, let's call her husband. Now,

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what's interesting is that both of them were poets, both the husband

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and the wife, they were both poets. So they're both speaking in

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line in verse, the husband is saying, oh, you know, my love for

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Allah and my love for the novel is keeping my side away from the bed

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and et cetera, et cetera. And then she gets to respond. She says, oh,

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Khalifa, oh, Judge, don't become deceived by his pretty words, you

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know, make sure that you tell him to do what's right, and so on and

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so forth. So finally, the judgment was that

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the judgment that this this companion gave is that the husband

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is allowed, in every four days, he's allowed three days for his

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worship at night. He doesn't have to come to bed. Right? He said,

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Every four nights, the wife must have you in the bed.

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So amaro the loan said, Where did you get that judgment? From?

00:37:44 --> 00:37:47

What's the basis of your judgment? Because it's very interesting

00:37:47 --> 00:37:50

judgment. Does anybody know where this judgment came? What's the

00:37:50 --> 00:37:53

background of this judgment? What's the basis?

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What is it?

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Yes.

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What is the basis of the four wives? MashAllah the men

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understand this, don't they? Right? So, basically, he said that

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a man is allowed up to four, he has decided in those days, they

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used to do two three was normal for them, he has decided not to

00:38:18 --> 00:38:21

his suffice with one. So because his other three options, he can

00:38:21 --> 00:38:25

use those for worship instead. But every fourth night, which he would

00:38:25 --> 00:38:29

have, which he would have been bound to come to the wife, then

00:38:29 --> 00:38:33

you must, then then he must come to the wife. So those were the

00:38:33 --> 00:38:37

kinds of complaints that women would bring to the Prophet

00:38:37 --> 00:38:39

sallallahu, some of the Sahaba today,

00:38:40 --> 00:38:45

just some time ago, one very dignified, respectable individual

00:38:45 --> 00:38:50

from my community came to me and he's complaining about his wife.

00:38:51 --> 00:38:54

Not that she speaks too much, or she does this. So she doesn't

00:38:54 --> 00:38:57

know. He's saying she's constantly on WhatsApp.

00:38:59 --> 00:39:02

And I just thought back and I said in the time Rasulullah, sallallahu

00:39:02 --> 00:39:06

alayhi wa sallam, the wives would complain about the husbands for

00:39:06 --> 00:39:10

worship. And today, you've got dignified men complaining about

00:39:10 --> 00:39:12

their wives that when they're cooking, they're on WhatsApp, so

00:39:12 --> 00:39:16

maybe extra salt or less salt, or extra miniature, you know, less

00:39:16 --> 00:39:19

marriage, or when they go to bed. She's still on the WhatsApp for

00:39:19 --> 00:39:23

sending the rest of the messages. And he's waiting to speak to her.

00:39:24 --> 00:39:29

Now, this is not a woman problem. This is just an example. Men and

00:39:29 --> 00:39:30

women are both into this.

00:39:31 --> 00:39:35

Men and women are both doing this is just in this case, it happened

00:39:35 --> 00:39:39

to be the woman who is the proliferator of this problem. It

00:39:39 --> 00:39:42

is so addictive. My children I've got four children.

00:39:43 --> 00:39:48

One is 21. Other one is 18. And then I've got a 11 and ate

00:39:50 --> 00:39:52

both my two older ones

00:39:53 --> 00:39:57

when they were young, until they got a cell phone, right.

00:39:58 --> 00:40:00

And the two younger ones even until now

00:40:00 --> 00:40:05

out their main hobby is to read a book. If it can't be on the

00:40:05 --> 00:40:09

computer, they only allowed two hours on Saturday and Sunday, two

00:40:09 --> 00:40:13

hours each on Saturday and Sunday to be on either do gaming or

00:40:13 --> 00:40:16

whatever they want to play. They're not allowed. Otherwise,

00:40:16 --> 00:40:20

it's just not on. Right? It's very restricted. But after the two

00:40:20 --> 00:40:25

hours finish, to remove them from their Allahu Akbar, you have to

00:40:25 --> 00:40:28

send them to rehabilitation. I even tell them, Look, you've got,

00:40:28 --> 00:40:32

you've got addiction problems. You've got withdrawal symptoms,

00:40:32 --> 00:40:35

even my six year old, sorry, eight year old now, I tell him, you've

00:40:35 --> 00:40:38

got withdrawal symptoms. That's why I'm not going to let you do

00:40:38 --> 00:40:41

next week. So when they try to calm down, right?

00:40:43 --> 00:40:46

They read books. They read books.

00:40:48 --> 00:40:52

Right? How much did they read, one of my son's teacher complained

00:40:52 --> 00:40:55

that from going from one class to the next, he's reading a book as

00:40:55 --> 00:40:59

he's going up the steps, he may fall and hurt himself. The

00:40:59 --> 00:41:03

punishment for them is that you're not allowed to read a book. Okay,

00:41:03 --> 00:41:05

for next two hours. You can't read a book, or for today, you can't

00:41:05 --> 00:41:07

read a book. That's their punishment.

00:41:09 --> 00:41:13

I mean, when I was young, I used to read 13 books a week, my wife

00:41:13 --> 00:41:16

used to read lots of books. I don't think it's genetic. Right?

00:41:16 --> 00:41:19

You know, we can't say everything is genetic. I think there's a

00:41:19 --> 00:41:24

reason for this. When you have young children read to them,

00:41:25 --> 00:41:29

the mother and the father read to them be to them stories of the

00:41:29 --> 00:41:33

Prophet read to them other nice, moral based stories, even if

00:41:33 --> 00:41:37

they're not from the Quran, sunnah. Get them, make them

00:41:37 --> 00:41:41

understand that books have very interesting stories. Otherwise, if

00:41:41 --> 00:41:44

you want your children to read and you say just read, read, read, and

00:41:44 --> 00:41:46

they don't read, because they want to be on the screen, then you

00:41:46 --> 00:41:50

haven't told them why they should read, you haven't created in them

00:41:50 --> 00:41:54

the inspiration to read when you've read to them, and they

00:41:54 --> 00:41:58

understand now psychologically, they connect a book to a good time

00:41:58 --> 00:42:02

a good story, then they will want to read themselves. In Ramadan, we

00:42:02 --> 00:42:07

said they're going to read though we tell them some to read so much

00:42:07 --> 00:42:10

Quran as well, etc. But if you want to read now, he then prepared

00:42:10 --> 00:42:13

a special box of books that were only Islamic books that in

00:42:13 --> 00:42:17

Ramadan, you can read Harry Potter and everything else you must read

00:42:18 --> 00:42:19

Islamic books only.

00:42:20 --> 00:42:22

I'm just telling you this just for inspiration.

00:42:24 --> 00:42:27

There are a few big books, Khalid bin Walid book, it's like a

00:42:27 --> 00:42:29

special study on how they've been worried in about, I don't know,

00:42:30 --> 00:42:34

three 400 pages very in depth study. There's another two volume,

00:42:34 --> 00:42:39

big to volume copy of the conquest of the sahaba. Right in English.

00:42:39 --> 00:42:42

Even my seven year old, he was seven at the time, he read the

00:42:42 --> 00:42:46

whole thing. And other one about twice they read it. I haven't even

00:42:46 --> 00:42:47

read it yet.

00:42:48 --> 00:42:52

If you treat, if you focus on giving the right kind of

00:42:52 --> 00:42:56

interaction to your children, then that is how you have to nurture

00:42:56 --> 00:42:58

them. Because you can't just tell them do this and that you have to

00:42:58 --> 00:43:02

create that in and spend time in doing that. So

00:43:04 --> 00:43:08

when it comes to WhatsApp, for example, there's a lot of abuse of

00:43:08 --> 00:43:08

WhatsApp.

00:43:11 --> 00:43:14

Everything that you hear that comes on WhatsApp, you forward.

00:43:16 --> 00:43:20

That is a massive draining of resources and of people's time

00:43:20 --> 00:43:24

resources. Because when I receive a message, and I'm not interested

00:43:24 --> 00:43:27

in it, but you're not interested in it, you just forwarded it

00:43:27 --> 00:43:30

because it sounded nice. You did not practice upon it. You just

00:43:30 --> 00:43:34

sent it to me. I received that same message from five groups.

00:43:35 --> 00:43:38

What am I going to read it each time or we're going to delete?

00:43:38 --> 00:43:44

Delete is an effort. Right? Deleting is time consuming. Right?

00:43:44 --> 00:43:47

All of that is time consuming takes the resources of your phone

00:43:47 --> 00:43:48

it takes resources of everything.

00:43:49 --> 00:43:58

That's why my principle is that only forward those things which

00:43:58 --> 00:44:03

impacted you so much that you actually made it made some

00:44:03 --> 00:44:06

difference in your thinking or your life then forward that

00:44:06 --> 00:44:08

another is don't just forget everything that comes your way.

00:44:08 --> 00:44:14

You don't need to write. In fact, sometimes people forget things

00:44:14 --> 00:44:18

which are completely wrong, made up inaccurate.

00:44:20 --> 00:44:23

Then you could actually be guilty the Prophet sallallahu sallam said

00:44:23 --> 00:44:28

that none of that it is sufficient for a person to be classed a liar.

00:44:28 --> 00:44:31

That he just conveys everything they hear.

00:44:32 --> 00:44:38

The hadith has enough guidance to even provide etiquette Facebook

00:44:38 --> 00:44:42

and WhatsApp and all of these things. It's amazing. If you look

00:44:42 --> 00:44:44

you'll find the guidance for it even though there was no

00:44:46 --> 00:44:47

even a dream of these things before.

00:44:49 --> 00:44:54

So only for that which really benefits you.

00:44:55 --> 00:44:58

Number two, have you seen how many people have been killed on

00:44:58 --> 00:44:59

Whatsapp?

00:45:01 --> 00:45:03

such and such a person has died.

00:45:05 --> 00:45:07

That's the message you get, and suddenly says, no, no, no, no,

00:45:07 --> 00:45:11

he's in terminal illness. He's not died yet. He's still around. And

00:45:11 --> 00:45:13

then you get another message and another message come on.

00:45:15 --> 00:45:18

You know why you forwarding these things for why you perpetrating

00:45:18 --> 00:45:23

ignorance, don't be party to this. Be very careful what you forward,

00:45:24 --> 00:45:25

stop wasting your time with them.

00:45:27 --> 00:45:27

Then

00:45:29 --> 00:45:32

they find ingredients about something that is 10 years old,

00:45:32 --> 00:45:37

and they send stories which are 10 years old. The other thing is, do

00:45:37 --> 00:45:42

not send forwards to everybody on your list without taking

00:45:42 --> 00:45:46

permission, don't spam them. Unless it's something which you

00:45:46 --> 00:45:47

want to tell them directly.

00:45:48 --> 00:45:53

Somebody came once from India. And he says, Can I have your number? I

00:45:53 --> 00:45:56

gave him my number. Within a few hours, I started getting forwards

00:45:56 --> 00:46:00

from him. I said, mashallah, what is this? That I give you my number

00:46:00 --> 00:46:02

to get forwards? Like, did I subscribe to your news channel?

00:46:03 --> 00:46:05

When did you become BBC or something?

00:46:06 --> 00:46:07

Like,

00:46:08 --> 00:46:11

talk to me, tell me something speak to me. Why are you sending

00:46:11 --> 00:46:14

me forwards for so I generally write, please subscribe or

00:46:14 --> 00:46:18

unsubscribe me. I get I receive too much. I don't have the time.

00:46:18 --> 00:46:21

And he said, okay, okay, and then they unsubscribe you. Right?

00:46:23 --> 00:46:27

This is just a massive problem. Don't send spam to people. Now, I

00:46:27 --> 00:46:29

don't know if anybody else is going to tell you this. But I feel

00:46:29 --> 00:46:31

very strongly about this. Because I have to constantly go through

00:46:31 --> 00:46:35

and delete, delete, delete. It's a it's a big, big waste of time. And

00:46:35 --> 00:46:39

I'm not even on many social groups. I'm only on religious

00:46:39 --> 00:46:42

groups. And most of the people on there are older Ma. And even they

00:46:42 --> 00:46:45

do this. So can you imagine what other people are doing?

00:46:46 --> 00:46:49

Right, you have to be very careful how much watch you send, just

00:46:49 --> 00:46:53

because it's a free service, do not abuse it, do not abuse it.

00:46:54 --> 00:47:00

So that's social media, use social media. But don't abuse it. Because

00:47:00 --> 00:47:05

today, it is Facebook and WhatsApp. Tomorrow. I mean,

00:47:05 --> 00:47:08

virtual reality, augmented reality is already here.

00:47:09 --> 00:47:14

It's already here. And there's a lot of haram in it. The whole *

00:47:14 --> 00:47:18

industry is capitalizing on this, to give you whatever pleasure

00:47:18 --> 00:47:22

somebody wants, you can design your pleasure, right? I don't want

00:47:22 --> 00:47:26

to give people ideas, I'm just speaking, frankly, that we need to

00:47:26 --> 00:47:32

learn our way in this, we cannot just close our eyes and say It's

00:47:32 --> 00:47:35

haram, or we can't close ourselves, we're not going to use

00:47:35 --> 00:47:38

it. Because we do use these things. And it's halal to use it

00:47:38 --> 00:47:39

in the right way.

00:47:40 --> 00:47:46

But we have to be very clear about the harms of it. So right now it's

00:47:46 --> 00:47:50

virtual reality, augmented reality, and the future with AI is

00:47:50 --> 00:47:53

going to bring some other really, really crazy things is already

00:47:53 --> 00:47:55

there, you guys have been the industry, you may already know

00:47:55 --> 00:47:59

about these things, it's only going to get more deeper and

00:47:59 --> 00:48:02

darker if we can use the term because they have this whole

00:48:02 --> 00:48:07

concept of deep knowledge or dark knowledge, you can say. So what

00:48:07 --> 00:48:12

are we going to do, we need to place ourselves position ourselves

00:48:12 --> 00:48:14

in the correct way, making sure that our heart is in the right

00:48:14 --> 00:48:17

place so that we can work on these things.

00:48:21 --> 00:48:25

Then moving on to again, the intellectual person, as an

00:48:25 --> 00:48:29

intellectual person, how do you want to use the intellect that

00:48:29 --> 00:48:31

Allah subhanaw taala has provided you?

00:48:32 --> 00:48:33

That's a big question.

00:48:34 --> 00:48:38

Allah has provided you an intellect. So what do you want to

00:48:38 --> 00:48:38

do with it?

00:48:41 --> 00:48:43

Are you just going to use it to get a good job?

00:48:45 --> 00:48:50

To further your career for just selfish reasons. So you can have a

00:48:50 --> 00:48:51

nice house in

00:48:53 --> 00:48:55

what's a good area here?

00:48:56 --> 00:49:00

What's a top class area you want to house there? You know, whatever

00:49:00 --> 00:49:03

you said, Bangor was too big for me. Right? 13 million people. It's

00:49:03 --> 00:49:06

actually bigger than London doubled. It's nearly double the

00:49:06 --> 00:49:12

population of London. It's crazy. Right? So you just want to have

00:49:12 --> 00:49:15

the biggest house and you want to have the greatest influence. Now

00:49:15 --> 00:49:17

you can have these things, but they're not gonna bring you

00:49:17 --> 00:49:18

satisfaction.

00:49:20 --> 00:49:25

You have to remember that just yesterday, we had a discussion

00:49:25 --> 00:49:30

with one of the brothers and the discussion of modernity, modernism

00:49:30 --> 00:49:36

came up, right? We people still use this in a loose way. Right

00:49:36 --> 00:49:41

that he is not very modern. She is very modern. He's very modern. I

00:49:41 --> 00:49:45

just want to let you know that this is a term from history. Now.

00:49:46 --> 00:49:52

The moderns were the people in the 1960s when modernity was

00:49:52 --> 00:49:59

introduced. Modernity came in the 1960s to approximately 1990

00:50:00 --> 00:50:04

To 1000s, after which post modernity has taken place. So

00:50:04 --> 00:50:07

moderns were those people at that time, were still using those

00:50:07 --> 00:50:10

terms. Let's stop using those terms. Because you can be a modern

00:50:10 --> 00:50:14

Muslim, there's nothing wrong with being a modern Muslim, I consider

00:50:14 --> 00:50:17

myself to be a modern Muslim. Modern should not be a negative

00:50:17 --> 00:50:23

term. Modern just means that I mean, if you're using WhatsApp, if

00:50:23 --> 00:50:26

you're using cars, if you're using laptops and iPads and you're a

00:50:26 --> 00:50:30

modern person, what else does it mean to be modern? Modernity

00:50:30 --> 00:50:33

doesn't have to be on being modern in our context doesn't have to be

00:50:33 --> 00:50:35

a negative thing. Right.

00:50:37 --> 00:50:37

So

00:50:42 --> 00:50:48

there was a recent article written by a Christian, a quite a well

00:50:48 --> 00:50:49

known journalist

00:50:50 --> 00:50:55

in London, he's actually addressing the Christians, not the

00:50:55 --> 00:50:59

Muslims, but it's very interesting and insightful reading.

00:51:01 --> 00:51:06

He's saying to the Christians, secularism, and

00:51:07 --> 00:51:08

consumerism,

00:51:10 --> 00:51:13

secularism, consumerism is going to come to an end soon.

00:51:14 --> 00:51:20

Because remember, capitalism, consumerism, secularism, this is

00:51:20 --> 00:51:26

last 2030 years, 40 years. The impact of things can only be

00:51:26 --> 00:51:30

understood later, that communism, which they thought was the best

00:51:30 --> 00:51:34

thing for the people there. But now, even China, China, which is

00:51:34 --> 00:51:37

supposed to be a communist country, there's a massive

00:51:37 --> 00:51:42

disparity in the haves and the have nots. Right. So India left it

00:51:42 --> 00:51:45

socialism is becoming very capitalist, it just didn't work.

00:51:46 --> 00:51:50

That doesn't mean capitalism. Capitalism works. Capitalism is

00:51:50 --> 00:51:51

just more

00:51:53 --> 00:51:57

it is just more conducive to the knifes of the human being.

00:51:58 --> 00:52:03

That's all it is just, they they they are measuring the health of a

00:52:03 --> 00:52:07

society of a country by what people spend that the word

00:52:07 --> 00:52:08

Christmas.

00:52:10 --> 00:52:13

That's why you have Black Friday. What is Black Friday, a lot of

00:52:13 --> 00:52:16

people think it's a conspiracy that is black Joomla is not black

00:52:16 --> 00:52:21

Joomla. Black Friday is an American concept that they want to

00:52:22 --> 00:52:25

provide a lot of offers, so that people buy before Christmas time

00:52:25 --> 00:52:29

in November they buy in advance in Christmas time. And hopefully,

00:52:29 --> 00:52:34

what they can do is they can come out of the red and become black in

00:52:34 --> 00:52:37

terms of their finances. That's the idea behind it.

00:52:38 --> 00:52:42

So they measure the health, the economic health of a society by

00:52:42 --> 00:52:46

what people can buy. What people go out and buy, oh, people didn't

00:52:46 --> 00:52:51

shop enough. So that means the economy is bad. What a weird

00:52:51 --> 00:52:53

culture. They make you buy, they make you buy, they make you buy

00:52:53 --> 00:52:57

things you don't want. Forget, they make you buy things you don't

00:52:57 --> 00:53:01

need they make you buy things you don't want. Just because you got

00:53:01 --> 00:53:01

money, you just buy it.

00:53:03 --> 00:53:06

Amara, the Allahu Anhu was confronted by somebody and he was

00:53:06 --> 00:53:09

carrying a package. It was of meat. He said Ma What is this? He

00:53:09 --> 00:53:13

said, this is some meat. How the lamb on Easter Hey to fish

00:53:13 --> 00:53:18

thereto. This is the meat that I desired. So I purchased, he says

00:53:18 --> 00:53:22

Kulu mash the Haiti straight rates. Everything you desire, you

00:53:22 --> 00:53:22

just buy.

00:53:24 --> 00:53:27

Just because you got money. Disposable income doesn't mean you

00:53:27 --> 00:53:30

must buy everything. You have to be considered yes, if you've got a

00:53:30 --> 00:53:35

need, go and buy. Don't be conduce. Don't be miserly. But

00:53:35 --> 00:53:38

when you don't need something and don't just buy because you can

00:53:38 --> 00:53:42

buy. Be careful about what you do have a good intention in what

00:53:42 --> 00:53:43

you're doing.

00:53:44 --> 00:53:47

So consumerism is going to die soon, because people

00:53:49 --> 00:53:54

you can't be given satisfaction with products. Your first iPhone

00:53:54 --> 00:53:58

will give you satisfaction. Maybe your second one after two, three

00:53:58 --> 00:54:01

years will give you satisfaction. But has anybody got the latest

00:54:01 --> 00:54:02

iPhone?

00:54:03 --> 00:54:07

iPhone 10x whatever it's called. Has anybody got the latest iPhone?

00:54:08 --> 00:54:11

You got it? Did it give you any more satisfaction? The

00:54:11 --> 00:54:14

exhilaration you felt at your first iPhone? Do you still feel

00:54:14 --> 00:54:16

the same exhilaration at this one?

00:54:17 --> 00:54:20

Because they they can only progress so much. They can only

00:54:20 --> 00:54:25

provide so much. Now it's maybe platitude, right? There's only so

00:54:25 --> 00:54:29

much you can do. But this is just the nature of the world. You get

00:54:29 --> 00:54:29

tired.

00:54:31 --> 00:54:34

I only go to malls when I actually need something.

00:54:36 --> 00:54:39

I've stopped going to malls just to browse

00:54:42 --> 00:54:46

because he's a waste of time. And he just tempts you for no reason.

00:54:48 --> 00:54:52

Market this this whole concept of, of consumerism

00:54:54 --> 00:54:55

and

00:54:56 --> 00:55:00

you have Amazon here right now look at the psychology I'm a

00:55:00 --> 00:55:01

mashallah, they've done a wonderful job that they've

00:55:01 --> 00:55:03

literally basically put so many other

00:55:04 --> 00:55:08

businesses out of business, because they provide a wonderful

00:55:08 --> 00:55:12

service they provide, if you get prime, then you can access the

00:55:12 --> 00:55:16

videos, you can access next day shipping. And the feeling of

00:55:16 --> 00:55:20

instant gratification is wonderful. If I order something

00:55:20 --> 00:55:24

today, and that Amazon box arrives, the next day, the feeling

00:55:24 --> 00:55:26

I get of opening, that box is amazing. But then once you've

00:55:26 --> 00:55:28

opened and you've taken all the product, and then as it's gone,

00:55:29 --> 00:55:32

then I have to do it again. So tomorrow, I need another box. And

00:55:32 --> 00:55:36

the next day, I need another box. And then I'll have 50 pairs of

00:55:36 --> 00:55:36

shoes,

00:55:38 --> 00:55:39

or

00:55:40 --> 00:55:42

30 dresses, or maybe 100 dresses.

00:55:44 --> 00:55:47

Once I came back from college, I mentioned this yesterday as well.

00:55:48 --> 00:55:51

Some other day, I came back from hygiene, I found out I had too

00:55:51 --> 00:55:53

many jumpers, and it made me feel guilty.

00:55:54 --> 00:55:58

You can have new things, but get rid of the old things and donate

00:55:58 --> 00:55:58

them

00:55:59 --> 00:56:03

don't hold things just to look at and to feel good about it.

00:56:05 --> 00:56:08

That's why I don't like to talk about this. But since we're on the

00:56:08 --> 00:56:09

topic,

00:56:10 --> 00:56:14

marriages, I still don't understand, look, I'm not a woman,

00:56:14 --> 00:56:18

so forgive me, right? I still don't understand why. For the

00:56:18 --> 00:56:22

wedding day, you must buy a dress for that one day, which cost is

00:56:22 --> 00:56:25

huge amount of money, and you will never see it, you will never wear

00:56:25 --> 00:56:30

it again. And it will gather dust in in your wardrobes.

00:56:31 --> 00:56:35

Get a nice dress, I'm not saying don't, I just don't understand why

00:56:35 --> 00:56:38

it must be a certain type, just so you can show off.

00:56:40 --> 00:56:43

I just don't understand that. But as I said, I'm not a woman. So

00:56:43 --> 00:56:45

maybe there's something in there that I don't get. Alright, I've

00:56:45 --> 00:56:49

never been a woman. So I can't really relate to that. Right?

00:56:51 --> 00:56:54

I'm just saying this is just as I said, I'm gonna throw a lot of

00:56:54 --> 00:56:58

things at you just to think, right? It's up to you what you

00:56:58 --> 00:57:03

take, we ask Allah that it makes this useful. So what he's writing

00:57:03 --> 00:57:07

that journalist in London is writing is that consumerism is

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going to end soon because people are not finding the hard

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satisfaction. There's only gratification for a short while,

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then it goes, then you have to do it all over again. And then people

00:57:18 --> 00:57:22

get tired of doing it. So it's not working. People are going to be

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tired of it soon, they're going to turn back to spirituality. Because

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right now the age we're living in is a godless age. Where instant

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gratification, self

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self satisfaction. What else? What else can you say? reliance on the

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self because remember, sight, just generally anthropologically

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speaking,

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whenever prophets began to propagate previous prophets, it

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was generally the poor that joined in first. The rich came much

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later. Because generally speaking, the poor people, they have nothing

00:58:00 --> 00:58:04

else to, they need some kind of psycho. They need some kind of

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assistance and refuge. So they find it in their faith. They find

00:58:07 --> 00:58:12

it faster, wealthy people because they're a bit intoxicated by their

00:58:12 --> 00:58:15

wealth. They have so they think they're comfortable. They're

00:58:15 --> 00:58:18

confident they don't need that's why in the Quran, Allah says about

00:58:18 --> 00:58:21

the people of New holiday Islam, when they when he called them they

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said

00:58:24 --> 00:58:25

what do you say? What do

00:58:27 --> 00:58:31

I not mean? Who like whatever I call out of the loon? Should we

00:58:31 --> 00:58:34

believe in you when it's the lowly people who are followed you?

00:58:35 --> 00:58:37

Lonely people following something doesn't make it wrong.

00:58:39 --> 00:58:42

Right, okay, when lower class people go and eat, maybe you don't

00:58:42 --> 00:58:44

want to go and eat there, I can understand that. But faith is a

00:58:44 --> 00:58:48

different thing. Some people they can't be seen shopping in anything

00:58:48 --> 00:58:52

less than a certain brand. Okay, that's your problem. That's if

00:58:52 --> 00:58:55

that's what you want. But what he's saying is that soon people

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are going to be they're already getting tired, they're going to

00:58:57 --> 00:59:02

look for religion. And he's saying that Christianity is no longer

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going to provide a viable spiritual model, because they have

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diluted the faith. Anything that was complicated, difficult, it's

00:59:13 --> 00:59:19

gone. It's been interpreted away. It's left as a free. It's left as

00:59:19 --> 00:59:23

a feel good religion. For example,

00:59:25 --> 00:59:29

the swine, the pig is harming Christianity, the Bible says so

00:59:29 --> 00:59:32

the, the the New Testament, the Old Testament, the Old Testament

00:59:32 --> 00:59:33

says so.

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Right, that swine is it's forbidden flesh. But why do

00:59:38 --> 00:59:42

Christians still have it? So I have a friend who's a Christian.

00:59:43 --> 00:59:46

He's mashallah quite well, well educated in Christianity and

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Islam. So I asked him the question. I said, the Bible says,

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So how come no Christian follows this? He said, Because I think

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it's in the third century, they decided that the dietary laws will

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not be implemented. We will not fall

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or dietary laws.

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So imagine in Islam is the same thing, okay? No dietary laws eat

01:00:06 --> 01:00:06

what you want.

01:00:08 --> 01:00:11

So that was literally just taken out of the religion. What he's

01:00:11 --> 01:00:15

saying is that Christianity has removed anything that's difficult,

01:00:15 --> 01:00:19

that gives the substance to the faith. And now it's just he's

01:00:19 --> 01:00:22

saying basically that churches have nobody, they don't come. In

01:00:22 --> 01:00:25

London, there are so many churches, or church buildings.

01:00:26 --> 01:00:29

Just in one year alone. Few years ago, I read in The Economist that

01:00:29 --> 01:00:33

the year before that 50 churches had been sold, to be made into

01:00:33 --> 01:00:37

offices or palatial homes. But now,

01:00:38 --> 01:00:42

some churches that are trying to survive their big churches like

01:00:42 --> 01:00:45

this, they get maybe 50 people. And during those 50 people are

01:00:45 --> 01:00:49

immigrants, not even the locals. So now what they're doing is he's

01:00:49 --> 01:00:52

saying that most Church organizations are now becoming

01:00:52 --> 01:00:56

relief organizations. They're attracting people and volunteers

01:00:56 --> 01:00:59

by giving relief to people like feeding the poor and such, because

01:00:59 --> 01:01:02

there's no worship element that anybody is attracted to. There's

01:01:02 --> 01:01:06

no practice element that anybody is attracted to. And he's saying

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that the Muslims have it. But he also says that even in Islam,

01:01:10 --> 01:01:14

there are people attacking these very same things, to try to dilute

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the faith.

01:01:15 --> 01:01:18

And he says, You guys will probably do the same thing, you

01:01:18 --> 01:01:22

you, you will probably follow the same way as the Christians. So

01:01:22 --> 01:01:25

he's telling the Christians, you guys need to get your act

01:01:25 --> 01:01:29

together, because people are going to become Muslim. Otherwise, when

01:01:29 --> 01:01:30

they looking for religion.

01:01:31 --> 01:01:36

It's just they will be they will take our faith if we are, if we

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are going to be

01:01:38 --> 01:01:44

demonstrating it in the right way. So let us not be blinded and

01:01:44 --> 01:01:48

intoxicated by the consumerism that is available out there. Get

01:01:48 --> 01:01:51

what you want, but leave that which is in excess and do not do a

01:01:51 --> 01:01:53

Seraph as Allah subhanaw taala has told us.

01:01:55 --> 01:01:57

So now what are you going to do? Finally? I mean, the last point I

01:01:57 --> 01:01:59

will make before there's so many other points, but I'll make one

01:01:59 --> 01:02:03

more point about the intellectual keeping the same thing.

01:02:04 --> 01:02:07

If you're an intellectual, what are you gonna give back to

01:02:07 --> 01:02:07

society?

01:02:08 --> 01:02:12

What is your going to be your contribution? How are you going to

01:02:12 --> 01:02:17

thank Allah for giving you this mind? This brain? This

01:02:17 --> 01:02:22

understanding, this intellect, this diligence, this resolution?

01:02:23 --> 01:02:25

What are you going to give back to Allah? How do you thank Allah for

01:02:25 --> 01:02:26

it?

01:02:27 --> 01:02:29

The way to give thanks and sugar

01:02:30 --> 01:02:35

is by not using it in the wrong way. That's first and foremost.

01:02:35 --> 01:02:40

How can we use the bounties Allah has given us to disobey Him.

01:02:41 --> 01:02:43

That's why Hassan Busey Rahmatullah Lee has a wonderful

01:02:43 --> 01:02:47

estate far. He says, in the O Allah, I seek your refuge.

01:02:48 --> 01:02:53

I seek your forgiveness from that sin that I committed with the very

01:02:53 --> 01:02:55

wealth that you gave me.

01:02:56 --> 01:03:01

I give you something and you use it to disobey me. That feels very

01:03:01 --> 01:03:01

hard.

01:03:02 --> 01:03:07

Allah has given us intellect, ability, and everything else, we

01:03:07 --> 01:03:10

want to make sure that we can use it for the right reason. So number

01:03:10 --> 01:03:13

one, we need to do sugar to Allah, Oh Allah, I must understand that

01:03:13 --> 01:03:17

this is from you. Okay, maybe my father was very intelligent as

01:03:17 --> 01:03:20

well. And maybe my mother was intelligent, and my grandfather

01:03:20 --> 01:03:24

was intelligent. So it runs in the genes, but who made them

01:03:24 --> 01:03:28

intelligent? Who started off your gene process? How did you have

01:03:28 --> 01:03:32

that genome? Why do you have that specific type is because of Allah,

01:03:33 --> 01:03:36

it has to go back to Allah, we must recognize that, that gives us

01:03:36 --> 01:03:39

great contentment because when a person who is Allah, he feels much

01:03:39 --> 01:03:42

more content, this is going to be a topic for tonight's discussion

01:03:42 --> 01:03:46

anyway. About Kadar and reliance on Allah, that's what we're going

01:03:46 --> 01:03:48

to be doing. It's a very important topic of tonight, probably more

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important than this discussion. Because it really puts into

01:03:51 --> 01:03:54

perspective, our life, and how we react to the whole thing. It's a

01:03:54 --> 01:03:57

very important discussion tonight. Right? So number one, really,

01:03:57 --> 01:04:01

thanks to Allah, then we want to we number two, we don't want to

01:04:01 --> 01:04:05

use it in the Haram and the wrong. Number three, we want to do

01:04:05 --> 01:04:08

something good with it. Find a way that you can contribute. If you

01:04:08 --> 01:04:13

were here on Friday, for the Friday talk I gave, then you will

01:04:13 --> 01:04:16

already know this, but I'm going to repeat it. How many of you here

01:04:16 --> 01:04:19

when not in the Friday by on I gave.

01:04:20 --> 01:04:23

Oh, so that's the majority so I can repeat it? How many of you

01:04:23 --> 01:04:26

were here? We're in the Joomla. Okay, it's a minority of

01:04:26 --> 01:04:29

Hamdulillah. Because I don't like to say two things twice. I think

01:04:29 --> 01:04:33

it's boring, right? Sometimes you have to repeat things twice.

01:04:33 --> 01:04:34

Anyway.

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There's a hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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related by Imam Ahmed and others in which a Sahaba called Ahmed

01:04:43 --> 01:04:46

Abdul Hamid Radi Allahu Anhu says that my unit Allah who behaved

01:04:46 --> 01:04:51

Iran is that mother who whoever Allah intends good with, wherever

01:04:51 --> 01:04:53

Allah intends

01:04:54 --> 01:04:59

some good for he will use him. Is that mother who is their marketing

01:05:00 --> 01:05:04

stammered Sahaba was surprised. What does that mean? She said Ma

01:05:04 --> 01:05:07

start mother who ya rasool Allah, what does it mean? That he will

01:05:07 --> 01:05:11

use him? Then the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, Allah will

01:05:11 --> 01:05:15

give him the Tofik which basically means Allah will enable you

01:05:15 --> 01:05:19

divinely enable you to do something before your death by

01:05:19 --> 01:05:23

which the people around you will be satisfied with you. So when you

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die then inshallah people will make dua for you.

01:05:27 --> 01:05:30

They will say you know that sister Aisha who used to live around the

01:05:30 --> 01:05:34

corner mashallah look at the service she provided, look how

01:05:34 --> 01:05:37

helpful person she was, look at the benefit that she gave to

01:05:37 --> 01:05:40

everybody, brother Ahmed, or use of a Musa it doesn't have to be

01:05:41 --> 01:05:45

Allah ma that can provide service on a MA in a better position to

01:05:45 --> 01:05:49

provide service and to work on the deen because they know the

01:05:49 --> 01:05:52

shortcuts, they know the deals, right? Because they know that

01:05:52 --> 01:05:57

hadith and so on. But you as none of them are who are none other Ma.

01:05:57 --> 01:06:01

Right? Do not think that you cannot become a worthy of Allah.

01:06:02 --> 01:06:05

Do not think that it's only for the aroma. Do not think that you

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can also be close to Allah, that you can also provide a service for

01:06:09 --> 01:06:13

the deen, don't let anybody tell you that you cannot do that. You

01:06:13 --> 01:06:16

can do that. And sometimes you can even maybe do it better than some

01:06:16 --> 01:06:20

other even learned people. In London, we had a person in a

01:06:20 --> 01:06:23

particular city when he died, there were more people in his

01:06:23 --> 01:06:24

janazah than many other Aldermen.

01:06:25 --> 01:06:30

Why because he was such a useful person to people, providing them

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selfless service with the ability Allah had given. So you as well,

01:06:35 --> 01:06:39

us, if Allah has given us something, we want to use it for

01:06:39 --> 01:06:42

the right reason. Now you must be thinking, how can I do it, I work

01:06:42 --> 01:06:47

in it. Or I'm a housewife, or I'm a taxi driver, or whatever the

01:06:47 --> 01:06:48

case is.

01:06:50 --> 01:06:55

If you can dedicate some of your time, if you develop apps, maybe

01:06:55 --> 01:06:59

there's a nonprofit organization that wants to use your service.

01:07:00 --> 01:07:03

Maybe give them a discount, maybe give them for free. Remember, you

01:07:03 --> 01:07:05

can't your charity doesn't mean you give everything for free.

01:07:05 --> 01:07:08

Because you're not you're not a charity. You need to earn your own

01:07:08 --> 01:07:12

living. So earn a living, earn a good living, but also donate some

01:07:12 --> 01:07:16

of your expertise, some of your intellect to others.

01:07:18 --> 01:07:24

There will be a lot of us who will just be totally confused as to

01:07:24 --> 01:07:25

what can I do.

01:07:27 --> 01:07:28

I don't know how we can help the dean.

01:07:29 --> 01:07:33

Many sisters may feel that way. Feel I'm just the woman in the

01:07:33 --> 01:07:34

house. I don't know what to do.

01:07:35 --> 01:07:37

Right? Some of the brothers will feel this way.

01:07:39 --> 01:07:40

Ask Allah

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every day. This was one of the advices from one of my teachers

01:07:45 --> 01:07:49

who I consider to be extremely well accepted, beneficial and

01:07:49 --> 01:07:53

successful. And he told me this 20 years ago, make sure that no day

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passes without you performing Torah cuts of Salado Hajah

01:07:57 --> 01:08:01

and doing a DA O Allah apne, Binky. Hickmott Kedia Qubool

01:08:01 --> 01:08:06

Kerlan you do understand, accept me for the service of your

01:08:06 --> 01:08:11

religion, I don't know how I can be of service, I have no idea. Oh

01:08:11 --> 01:08:12

Allah, you accept me

01:08:13 --> 01:08:16

and keep looking. And in sha Allah, Allah will help you it

01:08:16 --> 01:08:20

could be something simple. It could be whatever, just assisting

01:08:20 --> 01:08:24

others assisting neighbors or whatever. Because when we die, is

01:08:24 --> 01:08:27

there going to be anybody to remember us? And to make bar for

01:08:27 --> 01:08:31

us? Let us leave a legacy. If you've got intellect, then why not

01:08:31 --> 01:08:34

leave a legacy. Not to say those people who don't have an intellect

01:08:34 --> 01:08:37

shouldn't leave a legacy. But if you think you've got something,

01:08:37 --> 01:08:41

then you've got more reason to give something back. Don't keep

01:08:41 --> 01:08:46

asking what your dean can do for you. But ask what you can do for

01:08:46 --> 01:08:47

your dean and for humanity.

01:08:49 --> 01:08:52

Right? Ask what you can do. And when you have that kind of

01:08:52 --> 01:08:56

motivation, you will see that our whole outlook, people in

01:08:56 --> 01:08:59

depression, say one of the antidotes to depression is that

01:08:59 --> 01:09:03

you do things for other people. You keep busy. I know somebody in

01:09:03 --> 01:09:08

London. She's a divorcee with four children. And mashallah she just

01:09:08 --> 01:09:12

keeps occupied every day. She's volunteering somewhere. I believe

01:09:12 --> 01:09:13

this is just her way of coping.

01:09:14 --> 01:09:17

If you're having husband and wife problems,

01:09:19 --> 01:09:24

then think of an activity a common activity, social activity that you

01:09:24 --> 01:09:29

can do together to help the masjid help an organization help the

01:09:29 --> 01:09:33

neighbors or whatever it will make you burn together when the profit

01:09:33 --> 01:09:35

and loss and move to Madina Munawwara there were many

01:09:35 --> 01:09:40

different tribes and they had had a lot of inter fighting before

01:09:40 --> 01:09:43

what he did was he got everybody involved in building the Masjid.

01:09:44 --> 01:09:48

So they because you have a common goal, you forget your little petty

01:09:48 --> 01:09:51

problems. If you have been having petty problems with husband or

01:09:51 --> 01:09:54

wife go and do something together and you will start seeing the

01:09:54 --> 01:09:57

successes and so on. You will start making the bonding in sha

01:09:57 --> 01:09:59

Allah. Anywhere I end my talk here

01:10:00 --> 01:10:04

I hope it's been useful. I hope it's raised some reflection in our

01:10:04 --> 01:10:07

mind, because that was the purpose. It wasn't to dictate

01:10:07 --> 01:10:10

anything to you. Right? It wasn't to oblige you to do anything. It

01:10:10 --> 01:10:13

is just to make us think where we are where we want to go. Think

01:10:13 --> 01:10:17

about where you want to be in five years, and then 10 years and then

01:10:17 --> 01:10:20

20 years and live your life accordingly. And make sure you

01:10:20 --> 01:10:23

want to go to Ghana. Make sure you want to please Allah subhanaw

01:10:23 --> 01:10:26

taala and make sure you want to leave a legacy. That's what I can

01:10:26 --> 01:10:30

say JazakAllah hair for turning up today on this Sunday. Brothers and

01:10:30 --> 01:10:34

sisters. I am only here to take your daughter. That's what I'm

01:10:34 --> 01:10:37

here for. So that's what I hope that you make some dua for me and

01:10:37 --> 01:10:41

my family. Right? That's all I hope for right and make dua for

01:10:41 --> 01:10:44

our family and make dua for the Muslim ummah, that Allah subhanaw

01:10:44 --> 01:10:47

taala elevate us. Well here with that one and Al hamdu Lillahi

01:10:47 --> 01:10:48

Rabbil Alameen

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