Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – ARE YOU A HATER

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speakers discuss the concept of "will" and how it can be used to remove from hearts and hearts. They explain that "will" refers to the state of the heart and the malevolent state, and that signs of a physical or mental condition related to the "harvest of" the heart can lead to health issues. The speakers also discuss various signs of an insha Allah, including bad thoughts, anger, and desire to see a person, and stress the importance of avoiding bad language and being mindful of one's actions. They also emphasize the benefits of natural antibiotics and other natural products, but emphasize the importance of being aware of one's actions to avoid future negative consequences. The speakers also emphasize the importance of remembering history and the potential for regret and regretting others.
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And I think the really good example that hits it home is, if

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you go to any hospital, you see a number of nurses and doctors and

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other, you know, health experts down there, they are in a place of

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a huge amount of misery, they would rather not be there because

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I mean, illness is not something that you want to be around

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sickness is not something that you want to be in touch with. Right,

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however they're there. But they treat the people who have the

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sicknesses, they treat the people with these illnesses, because

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while they don't like the illness, and they don't like the sickness,

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and they'd rather not be there, but they like the people, they

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don't hate the people that hate the sickness, the hate the

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illness, but they treat the people as human beings, because the idea

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is, we can get rid of this. So similarly, we are all doctors, for

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our society and community, all nurses in that sense, Muslims are

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supposed to be those who bring about good to others and ease to

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others. So if there is a person who is doing evil, and if we treat

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them with evil as well, because we have made them out to be an evil

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person, so we hate the person, then there is less likelihood of

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reform. Whereas when it's very clear, and you make it very clear

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of your sincerity of hating the act and not the doer of the act,

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you can actually bring them closer because you can actually show that

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compassion to the individual differently, not for the deed, but

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for the person.

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim, Al hamdu lillahi Hamden cathedral to

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even Mobarak can feel more economically familiar, but I'm

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gonna weigh Allah Jalla Jalla who am Manuel was Salatu was Salam O

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Allah. So you will have you will Mustafa SallAllahu, Derrida

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are they who are the early he will be he was raka was seldom at the

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Sleeman girthier on Eli Yomi, Dean,

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America.

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We're going to look at a

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really important personal, emotional, psychological and

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spiritual issue.

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And we find the mention of this in

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a verse of the Quran in surah Al Hijra verse 47, Allah subhana wa

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Tada says

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one is there another Murphy so don't worry him in relation to one

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another. So Rudy, motorcar baleen

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so Allah says regarding the people who will enter Paradise after

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having done the good that they have done in this world, Allah

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says that we will extract and remove completely remove any hill

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that's in their heart, any hill that they find in their *,

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we will remove them, they will be brothers under a pseudonym with a

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call Abilene and they will be brothers, brethren, sitting on

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thrones and stages, honorary positions essentially motorcar

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built in facing one another.

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What is this concept of grill? What is it that ALLAH SubhanA wa

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Tada will remove any remnants of any remainder of and thus there

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will be none of this in paradise, but there's a lot of it in this

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world unfortunately.

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And while there's a lot of hidden in this world, it's not something

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that everybody has to have. It is something that a person can choose

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and can make an effort to remove as well in this world and thus

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become more like the people of paradise and thus, inshallah

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become more entitled and worthy of being in paradise if we can remove

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the reel in our hearts. So what exactly is this little ZIL is

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obviously an Arabic word as Allah subhanaw taala uses in the Quran,

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and the concept of

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real is

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as if I if I give you the deck, if I give you the dictionary

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definition of real, this is what it says it says real is Ranko

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Ranko essentially easier word hatred,

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ill feelings, bad ideas. The other thing the dictionary says

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malevolence.

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malice, spied. These are all words that define really right rein and

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learn.

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In another definition, it says or latent rank or something that

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resides in the heart and expresses its ugly head every now and then

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or

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abundantly. Most of the time if you let it get out of some people

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have latent Ranko. Some people have extreme Branco, they just

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hate everything and every every one and they just have as bad

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thoughts as you know as anybody could muster up.

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So that's the concept

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have real Now what's really interesting is that there's

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another word which is related to that that comes from the same root

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letters, which is rain and lamb or double lamb. And that is wool. So

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that's not the word used in the Quran here, although that is used

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in other places. So ZIL is the state of the heart that is a state

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of hatred and malevolence against somebody and bad thoughts and

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spite. And hold is actually mean actually means a neck shackle a

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neck collar, one of those that you put prisoners in so that they

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can't move.

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So that you keep them captivated, I in color, or something else

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around the neck. That's what wool refers to

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a ring or a collar of iron, which is put upon the neck, a shackle

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for the neck, or for the hand or collar for the neck or pinion or

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manacle for the hand. That's what it says.

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And the pillar of that is other URL and that's used in the Quran

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of Allah al the plural of hula that's used in the Quran. For

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those who will have iron around their neck, show that they

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captives that they are in trouble.

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So that is what Allah subhanho wa Taala promises to remove from the

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hearts of all of those that will enter into paradise so that

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there's not even any latent hatred, latent possibility of

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heart feeling.

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I mean, imagine a world without hard feelings. Imagine a world

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without bad thoughts. Imagine a world without hatred, that's

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paradise for you. For some people, this is just impossible for them

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to imagine. But to be honest, if Allah subhanaw taala gives

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somebody for the Ian who hired and to yerba as Allah promises, that

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whoever does the certain good deeds, we will

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give them a an excellent life and an excellent life is like the life

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of paradise. So make paradise on earth for yourself by removing the

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hard thoughts and the bad thoughts from the heart. So, let us talk

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about this. And let us talk about the sign. So today, hopefully, in

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the time that we have will be able to cover what this is exactly.

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Beyond this linguistic meaning which from which you could have

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already understood what we're talking about. And then some signs

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of whether we have it or not, because it's very difficult to

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determine, especially within ourselves that we have a certain

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spiritual problem, spiritual problems are very difficult to

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detect, because we love ourselves. And we constantly justify why we

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have certain things, we don't notice them while we notice them

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in somebody else. So we're going to talk about, you know, several

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signs of this insha Allah. So firstly, it means to have a bad

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thoughts about somebody to create bad thoughts to conjure up a bad

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ideas about somebody and then to hate them for that reason. This is

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actually one of the most destructive traits of the heart.

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And the reason why it's so destructive. It's I think it's

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similar to miserliness. Because the other person who you hate may

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actually be enjoying their life, as long as you don't express some

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of that hatred. But this is consuming you within because evil

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thoughts are bad for you. Evil thoughts are bad, because even

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according to psychology, when a person has constantly ruminating

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with bad thoughts, they have a negative hormone cortisol, which

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is constantly dripping, and that creates stress and depression and

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creates anxiety and great problems. And that leads to them

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other physical, medical, physical medical conditions. So while it

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might start off as a psychological condition, it eventually

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eventually becomes manifest as a physical condition. And people are

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wondering what's wrong with a person in the physical state, but

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it's comes due to this. And I think the, at the you know, while

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it's a psychological physical condition, eventually, it actually

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comes from a spiritual problem. And for much of that, this is what

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Allah subhanaw taala discusses for us in the Quran. So it's an

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extremely destructive trait of the heart. It's a spiritual problem.

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And, you know, it gets really bad. This is relating to something

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which might upset you, right? You dislike something you don't like

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the way something looks, you don't like the way something seems you

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don't like the way somebody speaks. You don't like somebody's

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relationship, you don't like the way they dress. You disagree with

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something about them, or whatever the case is, and then eventually

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see, you can disagree with somebody there's nothing wrong

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with disagreement, as long as it's for the right reason and for the

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you know, with the right facts, I mean, there's going to be

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disagreements in the world.

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There's many people that disagreed with others, but that should not

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then grip the heart such that you start hating this person and it's

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a really, really difficult thing to do sometimes, especially if the

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other person starts there.

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Hate first, then it becomes even more complicated, then it's the

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person who's more connected to Allah that will resist that will

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resist this, but look around. How many people is this destroying? Is

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it destroying you? Do you have anxiety issues based on griefs and

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worries of things that, you know that upset you, or that have not

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even happened? Right? According to many, many statistics, there's a

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huge percentage of things that you may be worried about and even

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anxious about, I've got another talk on that subject. And the

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statistics show that it probably won't even happen.

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Now, look at this example, right? If we were to see sometimes in

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order to reconcile this, sometimes somebody does bad to you, or they

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do a bad act. Sometimes somebody is

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doing some evil acts. And you know, we're supposed not to like

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evil acts, you know, we're supposed to have a displeasure

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towards evil acts when we're supposed to hate evil acts. So how

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do you reconcile that with somebody who's doing evil acts?

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Well, the simple thing is, I know, sometimes this is very, very

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difficult, but I think I've got an example today, I think that really

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hits home. You know, the point is to dislike the act and not allow

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it to dislike the person even though it's the person who's doing

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the dislike act disliked act. So you dislike the act. And that's

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something that you can actually work on, so that you can actually

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separate between the person dislike the how do you separate

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between the person dislike act, when you hate the act itself, and

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then you see that sometimes the person has reformed themselves,

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then you'd be fine with that person, because you'd be happy for

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that person. Not that you'll remember that now for the next

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2030 years, and never forgive that person, even if he's sober. And

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repentance has been accepted by Allah subhanho wa taala, because

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you never hated the person, you actually hated the act itself. And

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I think they're really good example that hits it home, is, if

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you go to any hospital, you see a number of nurses and doctors and

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other, you know, health experts down there, they are in a place of

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a huge amount of misery, they would rather not be there. Because

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I mean, illness is not something that you want to be around.

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Sickness is not something that you want to be in touch with. Right,

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however they're there. But they treat the people who have the

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sicknesses, they treat the people with these illnesses, because

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while they don't like the illness, and they don't like the sickness,

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and they'd rather not be there, but they like the people, they

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don't hate the people that hate the sickness, they hate the

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illness, but they treat the people as human beings, because the idea

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is, we can get rid of this. So similarly, we are all doctors, for

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our society and community, all nurses in that sense, Muslims are

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supposed to be those who bring about good to others and ease to

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others. So if there is a person who's doing evil, and if we treat

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them with evil as well, because we have made them out to be an evil

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person, so we hate the person, then there is less likelihood of

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reform. Whereas when it's very clear, and you make it very clear

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of your sincerity of hating the act, and not the doer of the act,

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you can actually bring them closer because you can actually show that

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compassion to the individual differently, not for the deed, but

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for the person.

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So it's just just be like a doctor or a nurse where you where you

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don't like the illness, but you do everything for the person

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themselves. So,

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there is a

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam displayed this, on one

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occasion, he showed disapproval of

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foul smelling plants, for example, the garlic, the onion is another

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example of that. So he expressed the disapproval of it. Now, this

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happened during the conquest of Haber, right, the they had

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suddenly chanced upon this and they entered the castles, people

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were very, very hungry. And because they were very, very

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hungry, they they they found the garlic and then they went to the

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masjid and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam smelled the odor

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of garlic, and he said, Whoever eats from this foul smelling

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plant, or this foul smelling food should not come close to our

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messages. So the way that people took this was a good teaching of

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the profit and loss and the way the Sahaba took it. They said

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hermit hermit, you know, this food item is haram. Now it's been made

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private and it's been made, and you're not allowed to eat this

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anymore. This reached the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and

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the person said, Yeah, you had nurse in the who? Lisa B Darim.

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Oh, people. This is not a matter of making something unlawful. Ma

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Hala Julio, Lisa B. Remo Mahal, Allah holy. This is not about

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making something that Allah has made halal. This is not about

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making that haram that's not what I'm trying to do. Well, I can

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shedule ratoon

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corollary haha, it is it is just a food product, it's a tree, it's a

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plant, I just don't like I just dislike its odor.

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Because there's a lot of other benefits. So natural antibiotic,

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there's a lot of other benefits to, for example, the garlic.

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Right. And likewise with other things, I mean with onions and

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every I mean, it's just the odor, which is the problem of it. So be

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very particular about what you dislike in somebody. And when you

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do that, you actually just do better in this world, so that it

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doesn't seem like this whole mighty mountain is upon you. So

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hate the evil, but don't hate the person. And this way in sha Allah,

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we can actually try to attract the people towards us by showing them

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that look, this is what's wrong, you're not wrong. Right? In every

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aspect of yours. Unfortunately, hearts are very small nowadays,

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they're overly sensitive, be extremely selfish. So we begin to

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hate, we begin to hate and that just makes a bigger battle for no

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reason. Now, if you look young children don't have any of this

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mashallah are mad assume and inerrant and infallible young,

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innocent children, they don't have this, the parents tell them off.

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The mother may even, you know,

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give very harsh discipline or a somewhat level of harsh

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discipline, a bad word a telling off. But they still run back to

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their parents. They don't keep that in their heart. They don't

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keep that in their heart. It's adults who do this a lot. And

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sometimes the children will learn from such adults. Because when

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they see our reaction, that we stop speaking to people so easily.

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And we start criticizing people so easy. Our children pick that up,

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and we mess up their innocence. A lot of the time people will come

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and say my child does this is very, you know, constantly mocking

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people like where did he get that from?

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Where did he get that idea from? You must have seen somebody do

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this. Children don't make this stuff up. Somebody has done this,

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somebody does this. And this is where they've taken it from

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Subhanallah humans are not supposed to we've got control over

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this. We've got guidance for this. There's what Allah subhanaw taala

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is telling us in the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has

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mentioned.

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For example, among the animals, there's one animal which is known

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for huge amount of hatred. Subhan Allah. I mean, not just for

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nothing, though, right? But he never forgets. The camel is known

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for this apparently. I mean, we don't deal with camels, but those

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who deal with camels, they know what happens with a camel is that

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if it's told off in some unjust way, and the or dealt with in a

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harsh way by the Camellia by its owner, at that point, that command

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will not do anything because the Camellia has a whip in his hand

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or, you know, has the power at that time in his subjugated at

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that time, but it will remember they say this will say about

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camels, it will remember, and this can be after months, or after

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years even that this camel will attack its owner.

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You have to be very careful with camels. Don't be like a camel. In

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fact, another thing of the camel is that a camellia needs to be

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very careful. This is something else. Contrast camels. You get off

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the camel camels a huge and you have to be careful when the camel

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is going to sit which side it's going to sit on? Is it going to

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sit on the left or the right side? So we'd say do you need to be on

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if somebody doesn't know, then you may get harmed and hit by that. So

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don't be like candles.

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And just to give an idea Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about how

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bad hatred can be and how bad this feeling of loathing and Ranko

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right can be. Allah subhanaw taala gives the examples of non Muslims

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right against Islam. Those who hate Islam, there's just so much

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rancor in the heart Allah subhanaw taala says what he can do Lavina

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Kapha rude usually Kona can be our sorry him. Semi Ruth Nicaragua, Gu

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Luna in hula, imagine

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it is

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very close, that those people who disbelieved that if they could

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basically, they would make you slip even with the eyes with their

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glands.

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When they hear the reminders, when they hear the reminders, they just

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so hated, the hatred just comes out when they hear any word about

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Islam or any good that comes from it. That if they could, they might

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not physically be able to do something, but they would do

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something even with their eyes with the with the glances. And

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above all, and then eventually they at least say in the whole

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image known that they call the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam. They call him

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the insane one. They can't find anything else. They get so angry

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that then their spokespeople have to say something about the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, even without realizing that their own

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religion and people of their religion their own ancestors used

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to do the same thing and it was completely accepted before for an

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old you know, for a person to be married at the age of 678 or nine.

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So they will make these statements because

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Currently, that is not seen as a good thing.

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But this is all done out of hatred. What are the signs to

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indicate that somewhere somebody is harboring hatred in their heart

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and rank or in their heart, especially latent, benign, that

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you can't see? But then it does come up every now and then.

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Number one, this is the first time do you seek out others faults? Are

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you constantly in the search for others faults, and that really

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gets you going and excites you, when you hear when you see hear or

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learn about other people's faults, you enjoy listening to it when

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others mentioned it, and then you like telling others about it.

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That's not a good thing. Now remember, just because you can see

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the faults of others, that doesn't make you a better person. Just

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because you can see the faults of others, it probably shows that

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you've got faults, because you can describe the you can identify

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faults and defects and problems. That means you know, what faults

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are

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a person who is just so innocent. So if they don't even know what a

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fault is, and people can treat them in I mean, I'm not saying you

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need to be that gullible. And I'm not saying that you should never

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be able to recognize faults and even if you do need to protect

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yourself. But don't think that just because you can you're very

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good at identifying faults in others, that you are actually a

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better person necessarily, unless use look at that as a mirror.

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Believer is a

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a believer is a mirror for a believer. So yes, that's the way

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if you see that in somebody else, do I have the same problem?

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Constantly, we go back to ourselves, then that's a great

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thing. That's the first sign is not the first sign. It's one of

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the signs. Another sign is rejoicing in other people's

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misfortunes. Why would you do that? Because there's hatred in

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your heart for that person, you have no compassion.

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That's why you don't feel that this fellow human being is going

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through a difficulty or misfortune. You don't realize that

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he's a human being she's a human being. And this is a misfortune

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that comes to human beings. I am a human being it could come to me

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when I remember when I first read about this either in the works of

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Razali, tannery or shout irony. And I was like, Well, I think it

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was shot it I think in double Saba, I've got the lectures of the

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online, the etiquette of brotherhood or companionship, And

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subhanAllah he says you're a human being just like that person. So if

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this calamity can upon come upon them, it's a human calamity. That

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means it can come upon you. So be careful how you rejoice about

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others, never rejoice about other people's difficulties, or their

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sins.

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And remember the other thing that really, really, really you can

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say, put the fear of God in me a long time ago, right? was a saying

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or a narration that says that if a person has done something wrong,

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and then they have repented, in front of Allah subhanaw taala,

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Allah subhanaw taala is forgiven them. And then you censor them,

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and you go about it and you criticize them for that. Allah in

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punishment will involve you in that same issue before you die.

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I just remember reading that was like, wow, you know, you just need

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to be avoid of this. And this has been observed many times that the

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same thing happens to people who do this to others. What they say

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is what goes around, comes around.

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Now is really, really frightening. Because Allah subhanaw taala has

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inserted a rough verse 95 So at verse 99, FM, you know, my

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Corolla, for the manual Makara Allah He ill Coleman has the moon,

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do they feel safe and secure from the planning of Allah subhanho wa

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Taala Allah subtle planning.

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The only one that can feel secure from the planning of Allah is are

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those who are losers, because they don't know how Allah Allah Allah

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said, the person that has the calamity, and the difficulty or

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the problem that they're facing, and you're rejoicing that that

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person is just a human being just like you. So it could happen to

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him could happen to you. Number three, another thing that hatred

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does and Renko does for you is that it causes you to withhold any

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kind of praise or positive mentioned even right. In fact, you

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don't even want to respond to salam from them. You don't want

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forget about giving salam you don't want to respond to salam

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from them. Whereas

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that is just completely wrong. And the reason is that I don't think

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we've understood the point of Salam Salam is a Dar Salam is

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a an expression of goodness. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam said, spread Salam amongst you. That is the way you're gonna

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pay. Love said you cannot be full believers until you love one

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another and you can't love one another and less you. Should I

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tell you how you can love one another you give salaams when you

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say a Salam or Aleikum, it's not like saying hello. You know if you

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said hello the whole day, nothing would happen. It's just a random

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word.

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I have not really checked the etymology of it or the origin of

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it.

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Hello, hello, hello. The whole day makes no difference. I guess if

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you said good morning, at least you're giving some kind of dua.

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Right? You know, you're giving a good to our you're bringing some

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good but Hello, what does that even mean? It's just we've

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attributed a meaning to it. But when we say As salam, o alaikum,

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peace be upon you, and we spread this. So let's just say that we

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say one salah, and just one of our Salah, we say multiple surrounds a

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day to people, and just one Salam per day gets accepted. Can you

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imagine that much more peace is reigned in the world, in that

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area, in that locality in your family, or wherever it is. And

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especially if it's a person you don't like Assalamu alaykum May

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peace be upon you as well. And may you lose all of this problem that

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you have, and may you become a good person.

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So rather than all of that, what what people do, they would start

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backbiting these people, they would start even slandering them.

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That's another sign of hatred in the hearts,

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Allahu Akbar, even if the person has done wrong to you, right you

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there is a way to avoid the evil, the avoid the harm and still not

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hate the person for what that is. Give them an option, give them a

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chance, right? Or at least suspend judgment. Number four, you then

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start looking down at this person, you start looking down even as I

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said earlier, even if they have no repented, and even if they've

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changed, you will not forget them even after 20 years. This is a

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major issue in some of our communities. There's somebody

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who's done some wrong they fallen into a mistake they've done wrong

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not even against you. They've just done a mistake they've committed a

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sin maybe, right? Maybe they've committed Zina, they stole

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something maybe something on it now they remain for 20 years, they

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totally changed. You can tell everybody can change. But you will

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remember the whole history you have all of the data. And I don't

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know where you get even the in the retentive memory from to remember

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all of this, some people in our community, they pretty much know

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the dirt

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and the histories, the biographies of every single person, even after

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they've been reformed. You know what you should have used that

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time to memorize the Quran if your mind works well Mashallah.

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You just not willing to forgive that even though Allah may have

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forgiven them.

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And you remember so much. Why don't you do hymns of the Quran?

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I mean, our scholars used to remember the narrator's of the

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Hadith to know, you know what narration is they had and if

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they've ever done, if they've ever, you know, made a mistake in

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the narration or something like that, that's what they used to use

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their minds for.

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So, you have to remember that when people make doba and repent to

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Allah subhanaw taala Allah subhanaw taala, season sortal For

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one verse 70, right, and keep this verse in mind. But when you bet

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the law who say ye to him has,

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what can Allah who rob Rahim? These are the people who Allah

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subhanaw taala has actually turned their bad deeds into good one. So

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all the bad that they've done, that has now just been converted

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to good deeds. That's the beauty of a person who's done wrong, you

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know, for whatever reason, then when they make Toba, all the bad

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deeds actually become good. So Allah gives you a starting package

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as well, to start off with, and Allah subhanaw taala is extremely

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forgiving and merciful. So that's number four. I mean, we could

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really expand and expand and all of these, but in the short time

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that we have number a number five, you what hatred does is that it

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actually leads you to divulge things that should not be divulged

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about people divulge their secrets, even though the private

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seller license said gatherings are to be held in trust, private

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conversations, private events, private incidents are supposed to

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be held in trust, things that happen in private, not supposed to

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be for the public. This was well, yes, if there's somebody who's

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swindling others cheating others harming others, then that could be

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a justification. But otherwise, you just do it purely out of

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hatred. In fact, what the other might have mentioned that if

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you're consulted, for example, for a marriage proposal about a

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certain individual in your area, in your family, or whatever, and

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you know certain things about them, so let's just say that they

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had certain issues about them. However, that is not going to

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impact on the marriage, then you're not allowed to divulge

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that. Yes, you're only allowed to mention only as much as would

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affect that relationship. So if they've got something that's going

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to hinder the marriage or effect the marriage negatively, then you

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could divulge only that much all the time being precautious that

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you are not agree aggressing against that person and then Allah

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subhanaw taala throw their sins on you or cause you to give you this

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person that you're after. You have to be very particular. It's your

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responsibility to give the right kind of information, but you need

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to do it in the most tactful way while trying to protect that

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person as far as you can. Otherwise we incriminate ourselves

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in that and what's the point of that?

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Now the other

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problem with this is that when people reveal things about others,

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they, they're not very smart about the way they reveal things about

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others, they're not very particular about it. If you've got

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hatred and you start revealing things about others, what you will

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do is that you will not be accurate in your revelation, you

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will not be accurate in what you divulge. But you add a lot of

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spices to it. Now, while a person might be a person who's done a lot

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of bad, but now what you've done is that you've actually brought a

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lot of the bad on yourself. And that's an issue. A lot of people

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when they tell others, you know, even when it's necessary, they

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spice it up. I've seen that in many occasions, because we get

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cases that come to us, and then that, you know, one side just goes

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off on the other person, and then you ask the other person, and then

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you sit them down together. And then you actually find out that

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there's exaggeration, humans are prone to exaggeration, and only

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the discerning and careful ones will be careful about this, you'd

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rather say less than more, even in times of necessity.

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Okay, number six, eventually, you will also start mocking them,

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making fun of them. Now, mocking people and making fun of them, you

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know, if you get become that brazen about it, right? That's

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another evil of hatred of somebody. And you have to remember

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that mocking somebody. And making fun of them is not just with

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words, for example, it could be with explicitly with words, it

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could be done with the tongue. But it could also be done in gestures.

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Like, somebody goes past and you shake your head, you frown, you

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stick your tongue out, you know, whatever it is, by which the other

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person gets a negative message about the individual. If thumbs

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down or something like that, it just depends. I mean, can you

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justify it, if you can handle it, if you can't, then it's wrong. And

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then number seven, I guess, when it comes to the worst part of it

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is that you don't just leave it in your heart, you just don't leave

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it between you and you know, yourself, and you just get angry

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about it. But you actually then go and try to harm the person, it

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leads you to say bad things to derail them some way to scratch

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their car, to spoil their dress to,

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to to to basically insult them in some way to

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spill a glass of cola or drink on their, you know, on their bag or,

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you know, on their garment or, you know, whatever it may be.

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So, there's a level of jealousy that comes about and there's a

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number of other things that come out there. I mean, I'm being very

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particular when I speak about hatred, but it could involve so

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many other things. IMAMBARA Bernie, one of our great scholars

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of the Indian subcontinent, Imam, Sheikh Ahmed has said Hindi, he

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said three things. He says that if a man if a person claims to be a

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brave person of Valor, then than their tests, a brave man's test is

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in the battlefield.

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A friend's test is at the time of difficulties to see who still is

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your friend who still has your back at the time of at a time of

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difficulties, right? Otherwise, it's just a friendship of

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convenience. And number three, the alkyne the rational, reasonable,

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intellectual person, their test is in a state of anger.

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Clearly, a lot of this is caused by anger, your test is that are

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you going to go overboard? But the above if we go back to the main

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verse that Allah subhanaw taala says, that we manage that in our

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Murphy, so due to him mean religion, we don't want this

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harboring hatred in our heart. We want to give people the benefit of

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the doubt. We want to be very particular about the harm that we

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know about somebody the wrong we know about somebody, we don't want

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to lead us to then

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incriminate ourselves, harm ourself, by this in front of Allah

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subhanaw taala to for them to become a psychological problem in

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ourself and become anxious for no reason and become hearts full of

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malice and hatred for no reason. Allah subhana wa Tada allow that

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allow our hearts to be free of malice and hatred. Inshallah the

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next time, we will hopefully be able to discuss the remedies for

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this and the therapies for this. And may Allah subhanaw taala

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protect us and allow us to see this in our hearts so that we can

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actually start making a difference. Working with that

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Werner an Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen. The point of a lecture is

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to encourage people to act to get further an inspiration and

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encouragement, persuasion. The next step is to actually start

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learning seriously to read books to take on a subject of Islam and

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to understand all the subjects of Islam at least at the basic level,

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so that we can become more aware of what our deen wants from us.

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And that's why we started Rayyan courses so that you can actually

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take organize lectures on demand whenever you have free time,

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especially for example, the Islamic essentials course that we

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have on the Islamic essentials certificate which you take 20

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Short mod

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joules and at the end of that inshallah you will have gotten the

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basics of most of the most important topics in Islam and

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you'll feel a lot more confident. You don't have to leave lectures

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behind you can continue to live, you know to listen to lectures,

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but you need to have this more sustained study as well JazakAllah

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Heron salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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