Abdullah Oduro – Porn Addiction – The Biggest Threat to Muslim Men – Iman Cave Clips
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The conversation discusses the impact of pornography on young man's development and the importance of avoiding it. It emphasizes the need for trial andulations for men to unnatural dopamine levels and the potential impact of drug use on women and young Muslim women. The "monster's crisis" creates false expectations and holds people back from achieving their dreams, leading to negative emotions like addiction and sadness. The "monster's crisis" is essential to building a foundation for Muslims who want to avoid pornography.
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This year, *,
how is that detrimental
to
a young man's development? There's a lot to
discuss there. I think someone referred to it
as the * demic.
Wow. Okay. Right? Okay. It's, it's out there.
It's widespread.
And the exposure is getting younger and younger.
Last last I saw the research, I was
like as young as 9. Oh my gosh.
And a lot of times, it's not even
intentional.
Right? And this is very important when it
comes to those
who surround the person with the addiction to
help them. Because a lot of times, it's
unintentional exposure. What 9 year old
is going on intentionally looking for stuff. Right?
Something pops up, something at school. Right?
And so that can lead to that. The
problem with,
with this particularly for men is it's basically
Shaytan
twisting something which naturally we have
inherent in us. We have a natural attraction
for women. As a matter of fact, it
is the greatest tribulation.
Mhmm.
As prophet said in Bukhari and Muslim that
I have not left a temptation
greater for men. It's not
diminishing women's status by any means, but this
is a reality. Now, we want to pretend
it doesn't exist. That's fine. You can go
live in here. You know? Fantasy. But we'll
live in reality here. Mhmm.
So this is a a great trial and
tribulation for men. And so, this
is the ultimate
form of exaggerating that. You know, we talk
about dopamine. Dopamine,
when we walk when you walk in here
to do this, there's a hit of dopamine.
It's like, oh, we're going to have fun.
Right?
Now, what what these dictions do is they
get us to
unnatural levels of dopamine that we weren't designed
to handle. And so now that becomes the
norm. You see? So now,
if you can just swipe
or type in a web address and you
can see anything you want, and you you
can see 20 different women in an hour,
Now, when it's time for the halal relationship
Mhmm. It's not as appealing because Mhmm. That
person is not artificial.
That person,
has emotions.
That person has ups and downs. Right?
And this is the greatest thing for for
young men who are on the edge or
not involved that
that's it it can vary. There's a high
probability it's going to affect you
later on when Allah gave you an outlet
to make it halal, which is through marriage.
Right. Right? Right. This whole thing like dirty
and all that. No. No. There we have,
etiquette as Muslims, of course. Mhmm. But, alhamdulillah,
within a context of marriage.
So if if some young brother's watching there,
he's like, oh, I I know I saw
some or my friends are watching it. Just
be warned. This could this could
affect your life for
years years to come. And it may even
affect it in other ways, which maybe for
the older audience, they would understand
as well. Yeah. So that's that's why, again,
it goes back to prevention is is the
most,
that's the most important thing. In terms of
other things that can happen to your question,
we find, it's not unusual
to start on something more tame
and then it gets
in the more more
nastier and nastier and you'll find the person
will be saying after a year, they're like,
man, I remember I just started out, like,
watch some provocative
videos, you know, music videos or something. It
wasn't
*,
but now I can't I like, I'm disgusted
with myself, but I'm getting, like, what's happened?
True. It's it's just like a substance. You
build up tolerance.
Right? That's why the drug dealer on the
on the, playground, the first hit is free.
Mhmm. He wants to draw you in. They
draw you in. Yeah. And then so so
this kind of gets them in and then
but after a while, that's not enough. Yep.
So you need Right. You need something more.
You need something more. Right? Yes, SubhanAllah.
And it's actually growing in young Muslim women
as well. Not at the same levels of
men, but absolutely prevalent. So I've, you know,
I'll I've worked with clients that
you see, like, you know, they maybe they
had an, you know, an affair or did
other things.
Where did it all start? Mhmm. It all
started with a *.
Really? And that's where it started. It it
creates a fantasy that they want. It's just
about to reality. It's a fantasy and they
want and they have fulfill that fantasy. Yeah.
Right? Subhanallah. And there's so much that comes
from this. I mean, subhanallah, you think of
and it just reminded me. I remember,
it was an 8 year old boy. He
received this from his friend a small strip
of paper,
and it had a a a a it
was like an address on there, like an
email address. He went on there and it
was a * site.
So then he went and told his mom,
come to find out that 8 the other
8 year old boy was giving this to
other 8 year old boys in the classroom.
Mhmm. Right? So it's kinda like That's insane.
Yeah. But you you find just like you
mentioned, it's a natural thing within us to
be, attracted to the opposite gender.
Maybe now with even 8 year olds,
which is about a good 7 years before
even puberty hits. You know?
But sometimes, it's like the 8 year old
has maybe 15 year old brother, 6 year,
that they wanna be like. Right. Yes. And
then they're sick, which is natural Yes. Which
is normal, which is good. Right? Or they
may catch their father.
Okay. Uncle. Right. Yeah. Doing some of these
things. Right? And say, okay, boy, you watch
this and then, you know, or learn from
this. Right?
What I've seen is that subhanallah, it creates
unrealistic expectations, makes them very responsible. It's a
really good book.
The boy crisis.
I want you to know, he talks about
how, you know, the effects of of *
and from that is
it takes this this very this very honorable,
union between a man and a woman and
it cheapens it. Yeah. To where when you
look at now I've seen, you know, young
men, you look at young Muslim women, you
know, at these conferences, Islamic conferences,
and they look at them as a piece
of meat. Yeah. They rate Man. They just
start rating them. Start rating. Start rating them.
That's like a go to every single guy
you'll talk to if there's women that pass
by
7 out of 10.
Really? Yeah. Yeah. 100%. That's crazy. You could
be I mean, man, it doesn't even matter
what the age group is. You could be
with like a bunch of 30 year olds
maybe who are even married and it was
just it's just a joke. I mean, it
became a joke but in reality it did
start in a very dark place.
Interesting.
Interesting. Yeah. Interesting. Yeah. So, you just look
at them as as as a body. Like
you said Yeah. It's a conquest. It's
And that is very unhealthy for the Muslim
man. That's gonna be responsible because it takes
them on a more of an animalistic approach.
Right. And that's where, you know, sometimes they'll
find themselves, you know, if you imagine, imagine
if you combine all 3 of these, right?
Video games, weed, and *.
I mean, you you probably will be someone
that doesn't know doesn't know how to communicate
to her in the future when you speak
to a potential father-in-law,
you don't know how to talk to him.
Yep. He's gonna look at you like, yo,
can we hold a conversation?
And you're not the responsible. You probably you
probably have a job or degree maybe, but
you don't seem like you have any goals
or ambition
because you're always on weed and then you
may look at the female, his daughter,
as someone that is just a piece of
meat, someone that is not someone that you
would respect and honor that's going to be
a future mother. Wife and a mother. Yeah.
Wife and a and that's why it's the
beauty of the the son of the prophet
when he says your mother, your mother, your
mother, when he asked the prophet who has
the most right of my companionship.
I think I think it's crucial
always as Muslims, this is connected to a
higher purpose. Right.
I I can give you a secular argument
against,
marijuana. I can give you a secular argument
against *. And those can be useful. Mhmm.
But that's not what it's all about. Because
eventually, you it's it's going to end with,
well, if you don't have any belief in
something else, well, then as long as you're
not hurting anybody,
you can do whatever you want. And and
what is the argument against that? If you
don't have any purpose,
if you don't think you're gonna be, you
know, resurrected and questioned, then
let's be honest, we would just do whatever
we want. Right? If we didn't have Islam,
who knows what life would be? Islam. Yeah.
And that's why it's it's a it's a
foundation. It's the anchor that brings it all
together. You take it back. It it is
a nest it's a core component. It has
to be part of this process for anyone
trying to get out of these things. If
it's not,
you know, then there's this, there's a huge
hole that's not going to be fixed.