Abdullah Oduro – Porn Addiction – The Biggest Threat to Muslim Men – Iman Cave Clips

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how is that detrimental

to

a young man's development? There's a lot to

discuss there. I think someone referred to it

as the * demic.

Wow. Okay. Right? Okay. It's, it's out there.

It's widespread.

And the exposure is getting younger and younger.

Last last I saw the research, I was

like as young as 9. Oh my gosh.

And a lot of times, it's not even

intentional.

Right? And this is very important when it

comes to those

who surround the person with the addiction to

help them. Because a lot of times, it's

unintentional exposure. What 9 year old

is going on intentionally looking for stuff. Right?

Something pops up, something at school. Right?

And so that can lead to that. The

problem with,

with this particularly for men is it's basically

Shaytan

twisting something which naturally we have

inherent in us. We have a natural attraction

for women. As a matter of fact, it

is the greatest tribulation.

Mhmm.

As prophet said in Bukhari and Muslim that

I have not left a temptation

greater for men. It's not

diminishing women's status by any means, but this

is a reality. Now, we want to pretend

it doesn't exist. That's fine. You can go

live in here. You know? Fantasy. But we'll

live in reality here. Mhmm.

So this is a a great trial and

tribulation for men. And so, this

is the ultimate

form of exaggerating that. You know, we talk

about dopamine. Dopamine,

when we walk when you walk in here

to do this, there's a hit of dopamine.

It's like, oh, we're going to have fun.

Right?

Now, what what these dictions do is they

get us to

unnatural levels of dopamine that we weren't designed

to handle. And so now that becomes the

norm. You see? So now,

if you can just swipe

or type in a web address and you

can see anything you want, and you you

can see 20 different women in an hour,

Now, when it's time for the halal relationship

Mhmm. It's not as appealing because Mhmm. That

person is not artificial.

That person,

has emotions.

That person has ups and downs. Right?

And this is the greatest thing for for

young men who are on the edge or

not involved that

that's it it can vary. There's a high

probability it's going to affect you

later on when Allah gave you an outlet

to make it halal, which is through marriage.

Right. Right? Right. This whole thing like dirty

and all that. No. No. There we have,

etiquette as Muslims, of course. Mhmm. But, alhamdulillah,

within a context of marriage.

So if if some young brother's watching there,

he's like, oh, I I know I saw

some or my friends are watching it. Just

be warned. This could this could

affect your life for

years years to come. And it may even

affect it in other ways, which maybe for

the older audience, they would understand

as well. Yeah. So that's that's why, again,

it goes back to prevention is is the

most,

that's the most important thing. In terms of

other things that can happen to your question,

we find, it's not unusual

to start on something more tame

and then it gets

in the more more

nastier and nastier and you'll find the person

will be saying after a year, they're like,

man, I remember I just started out, like,

watch some provocative

videos, you know, music videos or something. It

wasn't

*,

but now I can't I like, I'm disgusted

with myself, but I'm getting, like, what's happened?

True. It's it's just like a substance. You

build up tolerance.

Right? That's why the drug dealer on the

on the, playground, the first hit is free.

Mhmm. He wants to draw you in. They

draw you in. Yeah. And then so so

this kind of gets them in and then

but after a while, that's not enough. Yep.

So you need Right. You need something more.

You need something more. Right? Yes, SubhanAllah.

And it's actually growing in young Muslim women

as well. Not at the same levels of

men, but absolutely prevalent. So I've, you know,

I'll I've worked with clients that

you see, like, you know, they maybe they

had an, you know, an affair or did

other things.

Where did it all start? Mhmm. It all

started with a *.

Really? And that's where it started. It it

creates a fantasy that they want. It's just

about to reality. It's a fantasy and they

want and they have fulfill that fantasy. Yeah.

Right? Subhanallah. And there's so much that comes

from this. I mean, subhanallah, you think of

and it just reminded me. I remember,

it was an 8 year old boy. He

received this from his friend a small strip

of paper,

and it had a a a a it

was like an address on there, like an

email address. He went on there and it

was a * site.

So then he went and told his mom,

come to find out that 8 the other

8 year old boy was giving this to

other 8 year old boys in the classroom.

Mhmm. Right? So it's kinda like That's insane.

Yeah. But you you find just like you

mentioned, it's a natural thing within us to

be, attracted to the opposite gender.

Maybe now with even 8 year olds,

which is about a good 7 years before

even puberty hits. You know?

But sometimes, it's like the 8 year old

has maybe 15 year old brother, 6 year,

that they wanna be like. Right. Yes. And

then they're sick, which is natural Yes. Which

is normal, which is good. Right? Or they

may catch their father.

Okay. Uncle. Right. Yeah. Doing some of these

things. Right? And say, okay, boy, you watch

this and then, you know, or learn from

this. Right?

What I've seen is that subhanallah, it creates

unrealistic expectations, makes them very responsible. It's a

really good book.

The boy crisis.

I want you to know, he talks about

how, you know, the effects of of *

and from that is

it takes this this very this very honorable,

union between a man and a woman and

it cheapens it. Yeah. To where when you

look at now I've seen, you know, young

men, you look at young Muslim women, you

know, at these conferences, Islamic conferences,

and they look at them as a piece

of meat. Yeah. They rate Man. They just

start rating them. Start rating. Start rating them.

That's like a go to every single guy

you'll talk to if there's women that pass

by

7 out of 10.

Really? Yeah. Yeah. 100%. That's crazy. You could

be I mean, man, it doesn't even matter

what the age group is. You could be

with like a bunch of 30 year olds

maybe who are even married and it was

just it's just a joke. I mean, it

became a joke but in reality it did

start in a very dark place.

Interesting.

Interesting. Yeah. Interesting. Yeah. So, you just look

at them as as as a body. Like

you said Yeah. It's a conquest. It's

And that is very unhealthy for the Muslim

man. That's gonna be responsible because it takes

them on a more of an animalistic approach.

Right. And that's where, you know, sometimes they'll

find themselves, you know, if you imagine, imagine

if you combine all 3 of these, right?

Video games, weed, and *.

I mean, you you probably will be someone

that doesn't know doesn't know how to communicate

to her in the future when you speak

to a potential father-in-law,

you don't know how to talk to him.

Yep. He's gonna look at you like, yo,

can we hold a conversation?

And you're not the responsible. You probably you

probably have a job or degree maybe, but

you don't seem like you have any goals

or ambition

because you're always on weed and then you

may look at the female, his daughter,

as someone that is just a piece of

meat, someone that is not someone that you

would respect and honor that's going to be

a future mother. Wife and a mother. Yeah.

Wife and a and that's why it's the

beauty of the the son of the prophet

when he says your mother, your mother, your

mother, when he asked the prophet who has

the most right of my companionship.

I think I think it's crucial

always as Muslims, this is connected to a

higher purpose. Right.

I I can give you a secular argument

against,

marijuana. I can give you a secular argument

against *. And those can be useful. Mhmm.

But that's not what it's all about. Because

eventually, you it's it's going to end with,

well, if you don't have any belief in

something else, well, then as long as you're

not hurting anybody,

you can do whatever you want. And and

what is the argument against that? If you

don't have any purpose,

if you don't think you're gonna be, you

know, resurrected and questioned, then

let's be honest, we would just do whatever

we want. Right? If we didn't have Islam,

who knows what life would be? Islam. Yeah.

And that's why it's it's a it's a

foundation. It's the anchor that brings it all

together. You take it back. It it is

a nest it's a core component. It has

to be part of this process for anyone

trying to get out of these things. If

it's not,

you know, then there's this, there's a huge

hole that's not going to be fixed.