Abdullah Oduro – Porn Addiction – The Biggest Threat to Muslim Men – Iman Cave Clips

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The conversation discusses the impact of pornography on young man's development and the importance of avoiding it. It emphasizes the need for trial andulations for men to unnatural dopamine levels and the potential impact of drug use on women and young Muslim women. The "monster's crisis" creates false expectations and holds people back from achieving their dreams, leading to negative emotions like addiction and sadness. The "monster's crisis" is essential to building a foundation for Muslims who want to avoid pornography.

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			This year, *,
		
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			how is that detrimental
		
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			to
		
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			a young man's development? There's a lot to
		
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			discuss there. I think someone referred to it
		
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			as the * demic.
		
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			Wow. Okay. Right? Okay. It's, it's out there.
		
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			It's widespread.
		
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			And the exposure is getting younger and younger.
		
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			Last last I saw the research, I was
		
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			like as young as 9. Oh my gosh.
		
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			And a lot of times, it's not even
		
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			intentional.
		
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			Right? And this is very important when it
		
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			comes to those
		
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			who surround the person with the addiction to
		
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			help them. Because a lot of times, it's
		
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			unintentional exposure. What 9 year old
		
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			is going on intentionally looking for stuff. Right?
		
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			Something pops up, something at school. Right?
		
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			And so that can lead to that. The
		
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			problem with,
		
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			with this particularly for men is it's basically
		
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			Shaytan
		
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			twisting something which naturally we have
		
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			inherent in us. We have a natural attraction
		
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			for women. As a matter of fact, it
		
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			is the greatest tribulation.
		
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			Mhmm.
		
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			As prophet said in Bukhari and Muslim that
		
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			I have not left a temptation
		
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			greater for men. It's not
		
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			diminishing women's status by any means, but this
		
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			is a reality. Now, we want to pretend
		
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			it doesn't exist. That's fine. You can go
		
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			live in here. You know? Fantasy. But we'll
		
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			live in reality here. Mhmm.
		
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			So this is a a great trial and
		
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			tribulation for men. And so, this
		
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			is the ultimate
		
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			form of exaggerating that. You know, we talk
		
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			about dopamine. Dopamine,
		
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			when we walk when you walk in here
		
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			to do this, there's a hit of dopamine.
		
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			It's like, oh, we're going to have fun.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Now, what what these dictions do is they
		
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			get us to
		
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			unnatural levels of dopamine that we weren't designed
		
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			to handle. And so now that becomes the
		
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			norm. You see? So now,
		
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			if you can just swipe
		
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			or type in a web address and you
		
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			can see anything you want, and you you
		
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			can see 20 different women in an hour,
		
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			Now, when it's time for the halal relationship
		
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			Mhmm. It's not as appealing because Mhmm. That
		
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			person is not artificial.
		
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			That person,
		
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			has emotions.
		
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			That person has ups and downs. Right?
		
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			And this is the greatest thing for for
		
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			young men who are on the edge or
		
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			not involved that
		
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			that's it it can vary. There's a high
		
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			probability it's going to affect you
		
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			later on when Allah gave you an outlet
		
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			to make it halal, which is through marriage.
		
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			Right. Right? Right. This whole thing like dirty
		
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			and all that. No. No. There we have,
		
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			etiquette as Muslims, of course. Mhmm. But, alhamdulillah,
		
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			within a context of marriage.
		
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			So if if some young brother's watching there,
		
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			he's like, oh, I I know I saw
		
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			some or my friends are watching it. Just
		
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			be warned. This could this could
		
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			affect your life for
		
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			years years to come. And it may even
		
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			affect it in other ways, which maybe for
		
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			the older audience, they would understand
		
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			as well. Yeah. So that's that's why, again,
		
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			it goes back to prevention is is the
		
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			most,
		
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			that's the most important thing. In terms of
		
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			other things that can happen to your question,
		
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			we find, it's not unusual
		
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			to start on something more tame
		
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			and then it gets
		
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			in the more more
		
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			nastier and nastier and you'll find the person
		
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			will be saying after a year, they're like,
		
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			man, I remember I just started out, like,
		
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			watch some provocative
		
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			videos, you know, music videos or something. It
		
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			wasn't
		
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			*,
		
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			but now I can't I like, I'm disgusted
		
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			with myself, but I'm getting, like, what's happened?
		
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			True. It's it's just like a substance. You
		
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			build up tolerance.
		
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			Right? That's why the drug dealer on the
		
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			on the, playground, the first hit is free.
		
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			Mhmm. He wants to draw you in. They
		
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			draw you in. Yeah. And then so so
		
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			this kind of gets them in and then
		
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			but after a while, that's not enough. Yep.
		
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			So you need Right. You need something more.
		
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			You need something more. Right? Yes, SubhanAllah.
		
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			And it's actually growing in young Muslim women
		
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			as well. Not at the same levels of
		
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			men, but absolutely prevalent. So I've, you know,
		
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			I'll I've worked with clients that
		
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			you see, like, you know, they maybe they
		
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			had an, you know, an affair or did
		
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			other things.
		
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			Where did it all start? Mhmm. It all
		
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			started with a *.
		
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			Really? And that's where it started. It it
		
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			creates a fantasy that they want. It's just
		
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			about to reality. It's a fantasy and they
		
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			want and they have fulfill that fantasy. Yeah.
		
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			Right? Subhanallah. And there's so much that comes
		
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			from this. I mean, subhanallah, you think of
		
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			and it just reminded me. I remember,
		
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			it was an 8 year old boy. He
		
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			received this from his friend a small strip
		
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			of paper,
		
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			and it had a a a a it
		
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			was like an address on there, like an
		
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			email address. He went on there and it
		
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			was a * site.
		
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			So then he went and told his mom,
		
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			come to find out that 8 the other
		
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			8 year old boy was giving this to
		
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			other 8 year old boys in the classroom.
		
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			Mhmm. Right? So it's kinda like That's insane.
		
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			Yeah. But you you find just like you
		
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			mentioned, it's a natural thing within us to
		
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			be, attracted to the opposite gender.
		
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			Maybe now with even 8 year olds,
		
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			which is about a good 7 years before
		
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			even puberty hits. You know?
		
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			But sometimes, it's like the 8 year old
		
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			has maybe 15 year old brother, 6 year,
		
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			that they wanna be like. Right. Yes. And
		
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			then they're sick, which is natural Yes. Which
		
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			is normal, which is good. Right? Or they
		
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			may catch their father.
		
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			Okay. Uncle. Right. Yeah. Doing some of these
		
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			things. Right? And say, okay, boy, you watch
		
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			this and then, you know, or learn from
		
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			this. Right?
		
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			What I've seen is that subhanallah, it creates
		
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			unrealistic expectations, makes them very responsible. It's a
		
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			really good book.
		
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			The boy crisis.
		
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			I want you to know, he talks about
		
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			how, you know, the effects of of *
		
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			and from that is
		
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			it takes this this very this very honorable,
		
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			union between a man and a woman and
		
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			it cheapens it. Yeah. To where when you
		
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			look at now I've seen, you know, young
		
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			men, you look at young Muslim women, you
		
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			know, at these conferences, Islamic conferences,
		
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			and they look at them as a piece
		
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			of meat. Yeah. They rate Man. They just
		
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			start rating them. Start rating. Start rating them.
		
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			That's like a go to every single guy
		
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			you'll talk to if there's women that pass
		
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			by
		
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			7 out of 10.
		
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			Really? Yeah. Yeah. 100%. That's crazy. You could
		
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			be I mean, man, it doesn't even matter
		
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			what the age group is. You could be
		
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			with like a bunch of 30 year olds
		
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			maybe who are even married and it was
		
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			just it's just a joke. I mean, it
		
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			became a joke but in reality it did
		
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			start in a very dark place.
		
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			Interesting.
		
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			Interesting. Yeah. Interesting. Yeah. So, you just look
		
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			at them as as as a body. Like
		
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			you said Yeah. It's a conquest. It's
		
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			And that is very unhealthy for the Muslim
		
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			man. That's gonna be responsible because it takes
		
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			them on a more of an animalistic approach.
		
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			Right. And that's where, you know, sometimes they'll
		
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			find themselves, you know, if you imagine, imagine
		
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			if you combine all 3 of these, right?
		
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			Video games, weed, and *.
		
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			I mean, you you probably will be someone
		
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			that doesn't know doesn't know how to communicate
		
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			to her in the future when you speak
		
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			to a potential father-in-law,
		
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			you don't know how to talk to him.
		
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			Yep. He's gonna look at you like, yo,
		
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			can we hold a conversation?
		
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			And you're not the responsible. You probably you
		
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			probably have a job or degree maybe, but
		
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			you don't seem like you have any goals
		
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			or ambition
		
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			because you're always on weed and then you
		
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			may look at the female, his daughter,
		
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			as someone that is just a piece of
		
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			meat, someone that is not someone that you
		
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			would respect and honor that's going to be
		
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			a future mother. Wife and a mother. Yeah.
		
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			Wife and a and that's why it's the
		
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			beauty of the the son of the prophet
		
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			when he says your mother, your mother, your
		
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			mother, when he asked the prophet who has
		
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			the most right of my companionship.
		
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			I think I think it's crucial
		
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			always as Muslims, this is connected to a
		
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			higher purpose. Right.
		
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			I I can give you a secular argument
		
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			against,
		
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			marijuana. I can give you a secular argument
		
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			against *. And those can be useful. Mhmm.
		
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			But that's not what it's all about. Because
		
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			eventually, you it's it's going to end with,
		
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			well, if you don't have any belief in
		
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			something else, well, then as long as you're
		
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			not hurting anybody,
		
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			you can do whatever you want. And and
		
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			what is the argument against that? If you
		
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			don't have any purpose,
		
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			if you don't think you're gonna be, you
		
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			know, resurrected and questioned, then
		
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			let's be honest, we would just do whatever
		
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			we want. Right? If we didn't have Islam,
		
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			who knows what life would be? Islam. Yeah.
		
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			And that's why it's it's a it's a
		
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			foundation. It's the anchor that brings it all
		
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			together. You take it back. It it is
		
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			a nest it's a core component. It has
		
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			to be part of this process for anyone
		
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			trying to get out of these things. If
		
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			it's not,
		
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			you know, then there's this, there's a huge
		
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			hole that's not going to be fixed.