Abdullah Oduro – Manners of the Mindful – Good Expectations

			He doesn't believe in me. Have you ever said that to yourself?
		

			You don't believe in me? Has that ever been told to you,
		

			when someone realizes that you don't believe in them, if they are someone that you're in close
proximity to, in frequency, a family member that you are at home with, you know, every day hours in
the day, imagine walking around a person that you know, or in your mind doesn't believe in you.
Imagine being the person that has said a statement to that type of person. If you're the father
saying it's your child such as you are lazy, you are mean, you are arrogant, you are spiteful, you
are stingy you are this, it is as though they have no opportunity, or chance to change that. Those
statements can really hurt someone that you may care about. But they may not believe it. Because
		

			those statements It is as though it defines that person. And that can emanate from what is known as
su oven. Bad assumptions, unfavorable thoughts, bad opinions about people. Allah says in the Koran
in the chapter 100, verse number 49, chapter number 49, where Allah Subhana Allah says, Oh, you who
believe avoid many assumptions or thoughts or judgments For verily, many of those thoughts,
assumptions or judgments is sinful, why? Because it is not a fact. It is something that you are
assuming, and made a judgment about, to where people will people may use it as facts. And this is
what we see in social media and magazines and tabloids, talking about people's lives that really
		

			doesn't increase our demand at all. But it's built off of speculation. And that speculation can be
detrimental to the world. Why the world, because if you say it in a community at a workplace, you
know, in your home in the mosque, something that is not factual, but it's a statement. That is a bad
judgment and assumption about someone. The next time that person you told sees that individual that
you spoke about the automatically going to have that bad thought and assumption.
		

			Multiply that by 10 on yomo. Juma, for instance, that splits up a community that brings bad
assumptions about people. So when we look at this personal one, we have to realize that we should
put ourselves in that person's shoes, realize that we should be sympathetic. also realize that when
we have that practice,
		

			we have that practice of putting ourselves in their shoes. It makes us humble, because we realize
that we need to use the mirror more and look at our own mistakes. Because if someone was to see your
mistakes, and they had bad thoughts and assumptions about you, they would close many doors of
communication of interaction, the splitting communities. So let's make sure that we have these good
thoughts about one another, that we're optimistic and that we give each other a chance. Because when
someone sees that you give them a chance, this is an opportunity to feel that you believe in me.
cinematic camera. It's a library cat. Thank you.