Abdullah Oduro – Iman Cave – The Muslim Marijuana Epidemic

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The speakers discuss the addiction and potential harm that comes with smoking marijuana, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and embracing its use as a means of addiction. They also touch on the transition from young men to men with a history of addiction to drugs and the importance of following rules and boundaries. The Mah eminent act is seen as a way to avoid harm and should be respected, with the potential benefits of detoxing from a drug addiction and the importance of following rules and boundaries. The conversation shifts to the topic of addiction and the potential for negative experiences to be "byproduct."

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			One of my students comes to me
with their cousin. She's like 1415
		
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			year old girl. And I told her that
I really appreciate you coming
		
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			here. She was like, Look, I do not
find any serenity, any peace in
		
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			the prayer. I find peace by
smoking weed. I find peace by
		
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			rolling one up. Lighten up a
spliff, a blunt, you know,
		
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			whatever it is. That's why I find
my peace. Right?
		
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			That is definitely some type of
addiction. But she mentioned she
		
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			was addicted to it. And she was
happily addicted to it wasn't like
		
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			she was coming to me like solve my
problem, right? No, she was more
		
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			like, convinced she was expressing
her. Yeah, her happiness. He was
		
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			more like convinced me that
there's something wrong with this.
		
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			I remember when I became Muslim,
you know, I can listen, guys like,
		
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			look, the wheat is from the earth,
bro. Oh, man, I just heard that so
		
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			many times, right.
		
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			It's not It's nothing. It's worth
what's wrong with it? What's
		
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			right, we just want to Earth call
us my brothers. And let's allow
		
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			one day. He actually is only gonna
tell us he lit it up. So he lit it
		
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			up and he passed it after the
prayer immediately, immediately
		
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			after. And I remember I'll never
forget and I was That's it not to
		
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			pray for that. But I was like, Oh,
should we be doing this man? And
		
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			then one of those like bruises
from the earth.
		
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			Call you bugging, bugging me? I'm
telling you. You bugging. You're
		
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			tripping out? You're weird? Yeah.
So okay, video games. All this is
		
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			a form of, you know, getting that
dopamine which brings a sense of
		
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			pleasure. And hopefully
transferring that dopamine
		
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			response to something more
euphoric, that deals with the
		
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			shitty Avila which Allah has
legislated. But like weed man, do
		
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			you see that it is prevalent with
young men? And how do you counsel
		
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			in that? What advice would you
give in that regard? It's very
		
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			prevalent. There's no doubt it's
not most of the Muslims are in the
		
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			400% for the Muslims. But if
someone is convinced that it's
		
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			okay, if they don't want to hear
the other side, like this young
		
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			woman, then there's not really
much we can do about them. In
		
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			fact, that's true for any type
person coming for counseling.
		
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			Right? Okay, so why are you here?
Because my mom wanted me to be
		
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			here. Okay, okay.
		
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			You don't really want to make the
changes, it's not really a whole
		
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			lot we can do. Right. So the first
is recognition. And a lot of times
		
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			that's lacking, there's not a
recognition, that recognition of
		
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			the that, like marijuana is a
haram substance, right. So until
		
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			that changes, it's very hard to
take a step. Now for those that
		
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			are it's going to be, it's going
to be a process just like any
		
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			other type of addiction. It also
depends how severe it is. Right?
		
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			So somebody smoking every now and
then is different. If somebody
		
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			lighten it up seven days a week,
five times a day, right? That's
		
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			different. So if it's less severe,
maybe we can get by with less, if
		
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			it's very severe, then we may need
to take more drastic steps such as
		
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			inpatient or outpatient clinics,
detox, so on and so forth. I found
		
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			anecdotally,
		
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			in our communities, it's, it's
kind of like a social thing. So a
		
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			lot like it's like,
		
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			people will stop it when they're
not in that environment. Right. So
		
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			they're they,
		
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			they change, you know, they were
all in high school together, they
		
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			were smoking. And then after they
graduated, like, when's the last
		
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			time spoke on that since high
school? Right? Oh, like six months
		
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			ago. So that's not an addiction,
right? That's just, that's just a
		
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			bad habit that flares, every
literally literally, where's
		
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			everything
		
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			that lights up every now and then.
So it's just kind of depends on
		
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			the severity, but if they don't,
if they're not going to accept
		
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			that this is not something they
shouldn't be doing, then it's
		
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			gonna be hard, you know, to go
anywhere. So what would you say?
		
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			What would you say to the brothers
that are convinced that it's not
		
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			harmful? If Allah subhana wa Dyana
told us to do something, there's
		
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			benefit if he told us to stay
away, there's not benefit, whether
		
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			we recognize all that benefit, or
recognize all the harm, it doesn't
		
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			matter. It's still we still have
to follow it. You can find
		
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			anything you want, about darn near
anything and you can justify
		
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			anything and people are doing that
with core beliefs and it's not
		
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			right and they can do that. So I'm
not here to argue with them on
		
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			that.
		
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			What we're saying is ultimately
why why are we refraining from
		
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			this because Allah subhanaw taala
has given us boundaries and
		
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			guidelines to live it right.
There's no end to justification
		
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			well you know, if I if I protect
myself then I can have relations
		
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			with with anyone I want. And I can
be really I can really protect my
		
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			right there's no there's no end to
that. So it's just opens up a
		
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			slippery slope and doors go back
and forth. It's not there's no end
		
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			to it. Now it reminds me the verse
is versus foundational, you know,
		
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			when the last month autism I
started when I started Yes. Aluna
		
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			kanila how many will make
		
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			the people ask you about liquor
and gambling? Wolfie, Hema if Moon
		
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			kebenaran woman left
		
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			earliness he said, tell them that
in both of those things are great
		
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			sin and benefit there is Yeah.
What is the Mahamat act bottlemen.
		
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			That's, he said, but the sin is
much more than the benefit in
		
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			those things. And how who knows
the benefit Allah? That's what he
		
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			said. We don't you know, if Allah
subhanaw has legislated it, that's
		
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			what we say submit and well done.
It is we hear and we obey. It's
		
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			not a condition for our worship to
know the reason of the ruling.
		
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			Right. Right. And that's the
ultimate submission. And that is
		
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			where, I humbly feel. That's the
transitionary point from that
		
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			young boy to being a man,
		
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			a Muslim man, a responsible man, a
purposeful man, a Transcendent
		
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			Man, where he says, oh, Allah is
not pleased with this, I'm not
		
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			going to do it simply simply
because Allah, Allah is not
		
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			pleased with it. And I think the
challenge is to or they have to be
		
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			okay with that. Right. Right. And
that is the drip of water. That's
		
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			the process, you know, that first
day of 5g is going to be, you
		
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			know, 90% of the time, he was
thinking about that I'm just, I
		
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			guess I got to do this.
		
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			And that's where it becomes, you
know, an unseen force where law
		
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			affects your heart. And that's
what I want to say about this girl
		
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			in my mind, as we talked for, like
four or five hours is this this
		
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			youngsters like what I was saying,
in my mind, just like you said,
		
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			it's not my job here to convince
you. Like you already seem
		
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			convinced. And the attitude of you
asking is like, you prove to me
		
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			that this is like, we're not gonna
go in there. And we know, if
		
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			everybody stays, it stays in their
lane. Oh, it won't be any what is
		
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			it? There won't be any accidents.
Everyone stays in their lane.
		
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			Right? So let's just make sure
that okay, are you coming to get
		
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			advice and trying to find out?
Firstly, What's your connection
		
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			with Allah? What do you think
about a lot come to find out?
		
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			There was some doubts in Allah in
general, right? Before even this
		
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			issue? Yeah, this is a byproduct,
sometimes the guy's got a little
		
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			let a little stress off, man. And
that, and that may do it for them.
		
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			You know what I'm saying? So
there's healthy outlets, and
		
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			there's all kinds of ways to let
off stress. Exactly. What are some
		
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			of them? What are some? What would
be a good swap? Because me
		
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			personally, I mean, sports is a
huge thing. If I'm able, like,
		
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			it's literally my drug, I call it
my month doesn't mean, you're
		
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			gonna play soccer again, it's like
almost, you know, 12 a month. If I
		
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			don't do this, I'm either gonna
just get depressed, or go a
		
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			different route. So this is my
outlet like this is even if I
		
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			don't win, even if I have a
horrible match, I get my body gets
		
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			that relief. Now I'm able to get
her off off of me. And I think I
		
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			think Subhanallah it's, it's kind
of transferring that dopamine
		
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			release, because you find your
pleasure. It's euphoric. I mean,
		
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			there's nothing like a buzzer
beater moment. Yeah. You know, I'm
		
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			saying where it the Time is
winding down, and you make that
		
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			move and then or your teammate
makes it and then it's just the
		
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			crowds going wild internally, and
then externally as well. There's
		
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			nothing like that. But then
allowing that also to be a buzzer
		
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			beater moment within some type of
even though that can be bad. Yeah,
		
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			it is. It is. Definitely, but to
where when it's okay. I had those
		
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			alone moments as well. When I'm
reading the Quran while I'm
		
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			praying or I'm sitting with good
companions. They're talking about
		
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			good things. Yeah. You know, I
think those it's really that
		
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			element of transferring that
dopamine from smoking weed from
		
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			*, which we'll talk about,
from, from, you know, from video
		
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			games, to where they make that
conscious choice to do these
		
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			things that they know are better
for them.