Abdullah Oduro – Hadith #5 Speech and Respect, The Honor of Women in Divine Creation

			Abu Huraira Radi Allahu Anhu narrated that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		

			said,
		

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			this hadith and Abu Huraira is very important in regards to men's treatment of women, whether it's
your younger sister, your older sister, your mother, your auntie, your grandmother, your neighbor,
any woman that you see, one huge sign of the strength, and the X level of excellence of your
masculinity is how you deal with women, particularly how you what you think about them, and how you
deal with them based on those thoughts.
		

			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam first thing he says, he says he believes in Allah and the
hereafter, if he witnesses any matter should talk in good terms, or keep quiet. This is important
for Amen.
		

			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, act kindly towards woman. So notice right after he
mentions an aspect of our Eman, our belief in Allah. It's a conditional sentence. He says, Whoever
believes in Allah and the Last Day ties into Rokita ties into our belief. As we talked about Elon
Musk's earth, there was a physical appearance, he tied it to this belief, the physical appearance of
him being skinny didn't matter as much as his belief did.
		

			The promise awesome said me not only is better than the movement of life, that the strong Muslim
movement is better than the weak men, but in both of them are good, tying it to a man that is
strong. Here, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ties to Eman again. And I want to hone in on
that. Because we have to remember as men that want to be real men, and that want to live on this
earth, as a masculine, with masculine excellence, it is tied to your aqidah it is tied to your
belief, rather, it is founded in your belief, everything starts from your belief, man. It starts
with your belief in God, once your belief in God is strong. And it's founded in that and it's
		

			anchored in that that purpose is what everything else trickles down from. And that's the difference
between the strong Muslim man and those that do not worship any God. Because when you connect it to
Allah subhanho wa Taala The sky's the limit. Allah subhanho wa Taala blesses you and takes things
away, blesses you by taking things away. And you as a man with that connection, know how to deal
with it in a much more transcendent fashion. meaning beyond yourself beyond people, you won't rely
on people, you rely on Allah subhanaw taala.
		

			So here are the prophets of Allah and he was someone started off by giving a conditional sentence on
belief, whoever believes in Allah on the last day than they should speak and when that when they
face the situation any matter, he should talk in good terms or if not keep quiet, very interesting.
Right after that, he says, is supposed to be nice at 11 at kindly towards women. It is as though
there is an implication of, or the setting or the welkom is where he told men to be quiet and only
speak good. Be wise, don't always talk you don't always have to talk. Sometimes when you do, it can
be detrimental, especially to a female, especially to one of the most special people in your life,
		

			your wife, your sister, your mother, grandmother, etc. Family. He says treat them kindly. So from
treating them kindly, is knowing when to be quiet and not to argue.
		

			So that's the first point is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam immediately connects
masculine excellence with
		

			the way we speak. And how he ties it to speaking or high ties it to being good to women. So as it is
as though he is saying one of the most important factors for a man in regards to women, is if you
don't have anything good to say to them, don't say anything. Just leave. Don't continue the
argument. Don't feel that you have to win the argument. And winning the argument is a sign of your
masculinity or your authoritative nature. Let the fact that you walk away doesn't mean that she's
won the argument number one, the fact that you walk away means that you don't want to deal with that
you're not going to be someone that's going to be so emotionally invested to where you go back and
		

			forth with them. The second point
		

			is where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, At kindly towards women for a woman is
created from a rib and the most crooked part of the rib is the top
		

			that the creation of Allah subhana wa Tada is intentional. When Allah subhana wa Allah created
however,
		

			min bully, Adam, as the province was salam mentioned that the Allah subhanaw taala. Created,
however, II from the rib of Adam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is reminding us men that
the woman is crooked from is is created from the rib. And he said we're in. He said, they're rarely,
the most crooked part of the rib is the top. What we really want to capture here is the perfection
of the creation of Allah, you know, it's interesting.
		

			Allah subhanho wa Taala says, like, the Holocaust in Santa Fe actually took away the Verily We have
created men in the best fashion. So our creation of our body, our faculties, the the functionality
of these faculties is perfect. But how we use them is imperfect. The fact that Allah made me a man,
and gave me limbs and gave me eyes, ears, that's what's universal with women. But then he gave me
certain emotions that may be more in me and less in women and vice versa, he gave me testosterone
that is more in the male and less than the female and estrogen, which has the opposite effect more
than females and less than males. All of that is intentional. All of that is from Allah. All of that
		

			is a manifestation of a harlot or Rasik. And the creator, the provider,
		

			a helical burial, Massawa, all of this is on purpose, and it's perfect, but how we use them is
imperfect. Sometimes, we may use the faculty of our voice, our voice, our mind, our heart, in a way,
that is not befitting putting down our wives speaking down to them, screaming at them, right, using
words that could that could pierce their heart, that is not st saw Minisatellite ah, that is not
treating women kindly. So recognizing the creation of Allah subhanaw taala that she's created that
way. And the way she is, you know, some men will complain, men are too emotional, or they don't get
us they're not supposed to totally get you. That's the whole point.
		

			And you will not totally understand them. That is the whole point. That is the whole test. That is
the beauty of joining in a union. Allah says that, you know, Allah makes it to where
		

			you are not going to totally understand and get along with them. But when you look at the bigger
picture, and firstly, understanding that Allah is a creator and created you created her, and that
union is a godly union, to form a child Subhanallah amazing. So the creation of Allah is intentional
on purpose and is perfect, do not try to change the nature of the female. And that's where the
Prophet SAW Allah Salam goes on, which is the third point. He said,
		

			at Kati, towards women for women is created from a rib.
		

			And the most crooked part of the rib is a top, if you attempt to straighten it, you will break it.
And if you leave it, it's crookedness will remain there. So at kindly towards women, don't try to
say I'm going to straighten her out. I'm going to show her, she's going to see who was the boss. You
know, unfortunately, this one strong sign of a of an E masculine man is the one that beats his wife,
the one that hits women, the one that cannot control his anger, his emotions, overpower him, to
where he has to physically prove that he has more power, he feels there's no other way to exert and
show his value, his masculinity, his authority, his leadership, his honor, his respect to way
		

			deserves respect, except hitting her. That's not going to bring you respect. It only look in her
eyes makes you makes her look at you as lesser of a man.
		

			And this is very important, because someone can fear you, but they may not respect you.
		

			So when looking at this third portion, the Prophet SAW Allah who it was Salam is reminding us Do not
try to straighten her out, except her for who she is. She may have more of an emotional attachment
or maybe emotional over certain things that you are not. The question is, Are you patient with that
level of emotion that she has, she may not be that consider of certain things that you are
considerate of? Are you patient with that character aspect of character. Now there are certain
aspects of character that may require therapy, because the fifth draw the fitrah, again, has been
changed, whether it's society being the way that she was raised by the closest people to her or her
		

			environment, or both. We mentioned the Hadith of the fixer.
		

			It's important for you as a man to know that when you're dealing with your little sister, your
mother, your friend,
		

			your grandmother, cousin, whatever, auntie, whatever the case may be, except the fact that they're
different. They're not supposed to be like you, except the fact that they are different. What your
responsibility is, is to treat them with kindness.
		

			because if you are planning to be a protector provider, preside are the one that leads. The leader
has to be patient, because they are following you for a reason.
		

			May Allah subhanaw taala make us of those that are effective leaders that's founded in male
excellence and masculinity that's beneficial for ourselves, between ourselves and Allah, between
ourselves in our own desires, and between ourselves and our families, primarily, the women and
females around us. So don't worry Rahmatullahi we're better cattle