Abdullah Hakim Quick – Women in the Ummah
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The importance of separating from falsehood in Islam is highlighted, as men and women are more important than women in the physical presence of individuals in different countries. The challenges faced by the Muslim population in society, including the lack of capitalism and the need for practice of Islam, are discussed. The importance of education and women being empowered to participate in the community is also highlighted. The segment highlights the importance of strong wellies for men and women, particularly for married couples, and provides insight into the history of drugs and drug addiction. The importance of women in Islam is also emphasized, along with the use of drugs in the Middle East.
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And May peace also be extended to his family as companions to all those who call to his way and establish his sunnah to the Day of Judgment. As to what follows my beloved brothers and sisters, I begin with the greeting words of paradise As salam Wa alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
Alhamdulillah we thank Allah subhanaw taala for this opportunity again, in the glorious month of Ramadan, to be able to reflect upon some of the issues that are facing the Muslims.
And Allah subhanaw taala had informed us in Serato Baqarah and the oft repeated verses, shahada Ramadan Allah the unzila fee Hill Quran, who Dunlin NAS were Bayona 10 Min alHuda. Well, for Khan, that the month of Ramadan is the time in which the Quran was revealed guidance to humanity and clear evidence to separate truth and falsehood. And this comes from the guidance
and from the for con.
And that for con, that ability to separate truth from falsehood is an extremely important challenge to Muslims today, when there is so much information. There are so many different opinions. And there are literally systems, huge economic systems battling for power in the world. And so,
for the believers, for those who want to merely submit to Allah azza wa jal
in many, many cases, it appears to be extremely confusing. But one of the great blessings in the month of Ramadan is that during the daylight hours, we continue with our normal activities. But we're not eating we're not drinking. We're not involved in sexuality. And so by taking away these animal desires, the desires to eat to procreate, then we literally are changing our condition in the world itself. And you could say that this is like an angelic state, because the angels do not have desires, you have aluminum or maroon, they do what they are commanded. And so,
this angelic state allows us to look at things to analyze, not just surface understanding, but to go through the surface and to reflect upon the essence of the issues that we are looking at. Today, we want to look at a very serious issue that I consider to be
after Tawheed and shirk, after monotheism and polytheism. I consider this to be
one of the top five issues that Muslims have to face. And I also firmly believe that if we do not deal with this issue in the proper way, according to the Koran itself and the example and guidance of Rasul Allah so seldom that this could lead to the destruction of the house of Islam, a building can go up that does not have a strong foundation. This particular area is Women and Islam. It is the area of the women
and this is an area that in
Many cases is sort of put to the side. It's not really given its gravity and its weight. But when we look at the Muslim world itself, when we look at our communities, we recognize that a large percentage of the community are women.
And if you count also, girls,
then we're talking about possibly 40% or more of the community, we're talking about a huge percentage of the community.
Youth, males make up a large percentage. And adult males make up a large percentage. But women
make up an extremely important part of the community. And maybe I should even turn it around and say, 60%, if you look at women and girls, it may be more like 60%. But we're talking about a crucial aspect or a crucial part
of the house of Islam.
And I ran into this issue, personally, in traveling throughout the Muslim world. And I traveled as a young Muslim,
innocent, having read the books and the descriptions of Islam, from the sources, and then traveling in the Muslim world. And
as I traveled
in the Muslim world itself,
I began to find that there were realities on the ground, that were not the same as what is ideally projected.
Okay, we have a model in front of us, and we have reality. And our struggle is to get to the model to get as close to the ideal as possible. What I found in many countries that they were, there was a lot of attention being paid to the graves, the graves of saints and individuals in one country, and I won't say which country it is.
I walked down the street and went through the bazaar, and then came into the masjid area, there was a grave, and they were people they're worshipping
at the grave and praying and doing Muslims and non Muslims at the grave. Okay, and it was a big courtyard.
And then
the time for us, okay. And they call the other night, as I was going toward the main prey area, which is under the closed spot. I want to describe it too much, because some of you will know what I'm talking about.
You got it already.
As as I was going toward there.
Most of the people stayed at the grave.
And only a few people made salata, Lhasa, and I recognize that some of those people were Muslims. So they pay more attention to praying to the saint than praying to Allah subhanaw taala that this began to inform me as to what the problem is, the contradiction the difference between our ideal and our reality.
In some countries, as you enter in, in order to get your position or to get things done, you got to give a little bribe a little ritual, a little baksheesh. And then you can get things done.
Right, but this is not the Islamic model. And so as I was traveling through one of the countries and we pass some mud dresses, and the brothers said to me,
you know, these are current schools, and I said, mashallah, he said these are for the boys. So I said, Okay, do you have current schools for the girls? And he said, No, no, no, no, brother Abdullah? No,
we don't have for the boys.
Okay, and then I'm saying to myself, what religion is this? This is not what I was reading in the original sources. This is something different. It is, it is an emphasis, which is being,
you know, placed upon the males within the community.
And in some cases, they even looked at educating the women as a problem.
The more you educate them, the more problems you're going to have.
And this is the opposite of the Prophet Muhammad SAW Solomon his companions.
In one case, we had a halacha session for sisters in the Jeremy moss some years ago here in western Toronto.
And in one of the discussions, we were talking
The above culture, and one of the women said in her country, and I'm not going to say which one it is, she said, that I was taught that a woman would not enter Paradise, unless she got a beating from her husband.
I didn't make this up.
She said she would not enter paradise. Unless she got a hiding or beating from her husband. They said, What religion is this? What are you talking about? But that was what they were taught in their folk culture. So the difference between the folk culture, and the reality of Islam, in some case was a huge case, because a huge difference between the two. And
what I also found, and this was disturbing, and I'm being very honest with you, because this is a serious topic,
that even brothers, who were Islamic movement people.
Now, I'm not talking about a regular Muslim, who just makes a lot and fasten Ramadan and heats halal food. No, I'm talking about somebody who's dedicating themselves to Islam, to Islamic education, Islamic movement, Masjid, whatever it is, this is what I mean by a movement person, militarism. So this person is now committed, okay, I found a phenomena happening from the 70s and 80s 90s, it's still there. Were even committed Muslims, males, fat, you know, spent a lot of their time controlling their wife.
And they felt that the more that they controlled her,
if they locked her down,
put her on the side, wrapped her up.
The more she was locked down is the stronger he felt he was in a state of Islam,
the more she was locked down. And some would even pride themself at how much control they have over their wife. And the results of this are obvious, because many of the movements where
this macho Ristic attitude came amongst the brothers. And I found this on the ground, in many of the movements, where the where the brothers could not get along with each other. Or if somebody disagrees with another one, they turned to violence, right? In these cases where they kept women out of Islamic activities.
When they had power, when Allah gave them power,
they start fighting each other.
They were too cold,
they were too much of a stick and male dominated oriented, they did not have that balance, that Allah subhanaw taala has given male and female. And there's a reason for it. And so we want to look at this, because this is a serious issue for the younger generation. And it is one of the hot issues. One that is confusing a lot of the Muslims. And so I want to touch on this with you, and to share with you some information that I've been sharing with communities and discussing all over North America and Europe, discussing this situation, so that we can start to think about this to implement this in our own lives.
When we look at the Muslim world,
we find that the Muslims have gone through a lot of changes, especially in the last 50 years. And if you look at the Muslim world, you will find that from the 19th century, it was around 1885 or so there was a big conference in Berlin amongst the European posts. And in the Berlin Conference, the European powers took a map of the world, and they literally divided the world into sections of interest. So they said British, you take that pot, French, you take this Italian, you take this Dutch, Belgium, Portuguese, Spanish, they did divided up into sections. And they went forward to establish the colonial period. And this is not just a period where they had forts are they had
compounds on our coastline. The colonial period is where they conquered our countries.
And because of the technology that they had,
and the backwardness that had hit the Muslim world, and other parts of the so called Third World, they were able to go into the Muslim countries with small numbers and play one tribe against another tribe, or one group against another group. And they were able to
To conquer large populations and large bits of area, and they established this colonial period. And
in the colonial period,
they, we find that
they established
capitalism.
And capitalism, to put it in simple terms is the free market system, where you have private ownership, and everybody has their own property, you have rich and poor.
Okay, so they established this capitalist system. And they tried it in the Muslim world. Now, the Muslim world, in most cases had kings, and royal families. So, the kings and royal families, they got right into this, because they would be on the top of the capitalist system. This is the feudal system that has, you know, the rich and the poor people. And this was tried in the Muslim countries, but it failed. It failed to meet, especially when the 20th century came.
And when people were now struggling for their rights, and they wanted independence, the capitalist system was falling apart. So therefore, a news when a new system came up, called socialism. And this is the system of sharing. When you don't have rich and poor, everybody's supposed to be equal.
So the wealth is divided amongst the people. So they call it the socialist system, which eventually they hoped would go into a communist system. Okay. And socialism seemed like a very interesting system to the Muslim world. And so many Muslim countries started to develop this socialist movements were developed in Muslim countries, and took over large swaths of areas.
North Africa, the Middle East, many parts of the Muslim were the Socialists were were rising in these countries.
But the problem with socialism is that socialism has baggage. Now what do I mean by baggage, it brings something with it. Socialism brings atheism.
Because the hardcore socialists, they don't believe in God.
They believe in a materialistic system. Okay, so if you believe in God, they consider religion to be the opium of the people. That's what they called. So if you become too religious, it's like smoking opium, you're gonna get high with religion, and you're useless in society. And it reached the point where in Tunisia, and I can say the country, one of the leaders called Bourguiba,
he actually said he decided one year, he was going to ban Ramadan, he's going to say, no more fasting in my country. Because when you fast, you sleep too much. And we need work. So this year, you're going to work extra for Ramadan, there's going to be no fasting in Tunisia. And the Muslim world rose up against him, and he had to take it back.
But the fact that he had the nerve to say this, showed the weakness,
right. And but the Muslim saw by moves like this, that socialism is not going to work. And we're still suffering from this now. The Baptist party that was in Iraq, and now in Syria, still the confusion in Syria, you can take trace it back to the Baptist party to a certain to a great extent.
So socialism, not going to work.
So what happened in a nutshell, is that from the 60s, from the 60s, whenever the election was called in a Muslim country, and you can see it up until now, whenever there is election, if there is an Islamic party, who is running for power, they will win the election.
If you have a democratic election, in any of the Muslim countries right now.
And you have an Islamic party, in it against a capitalist or a Socialist Party, atheist, whatever. More, you know, in most cases, nine out of 10 cases, the Islamic party is going to win the election. Because Muslims gave up on capitalism, they gave up on socialism. And the only thing that was left is Islam. But the problem for the for the Muslim parties, for the Muslims who gain power is how do you practice Islam in the 21st century now?
Because we went to sleep for a couple 100 years, and the world changed. There's a world economy now. This technology now this internet, like the world
change. So how do you practice Islam? In the 20th century? That is the challenge of the Muslim countries. That's what the younger generation is going to have to go through? How can we practice our Islam, and yet still be part of the modern world? Right and not lose the technology but maintain our value system? Right? How do we do this?
This is not our topic tonight. But I want to use that as an example. Because women in Islam, were facing sort of a similar issue.
And that is that the Prophet SAW Selim, when he came to the Arabian Peninsula, he found an extremely oppressive society. If a family had too many girl children, they would literally the father would take one of the girls and bury her life. Could you imagine this? And his descriptions of a person burying his daughter, she's playing with his beard.
And he's burying her like he got too many girls. It's going to be a problem.
You know, cold, you have to be to do something like this. That's where the revelation came.
And it addressed it directly.
Infanticide. It also was a case where unlimited amount of women could be married a man could be married to 25 women. And when he dies, his son inherits all of the women, including his mother.
That's how socialists, that's how chauvinistic and you know, seriously oppressive, they were right. That's the environment. So when Islam came, and then established rights for everybody, a man has a right a woman as a right.
Revelation for everybody. This was a total revolution. Nowhere in the world, not in Europe, not in China, not in India, nowhere did women have rights. So Islam established rights for women in this dark period, and then spread the different parts of the world. Over the centuries, you have healthy Islam, and you have weak and sick Islam.
In the colonial period, I believe, we went down into a dark stage, the lights were going out, the men became frustrated.
And then we find abuse coming back in.
We find that happening. We find certain things happening in our families festival, we traveled to different countries. These things never happened before. But they started to happen within our countries. And Allah knows best it could could be part of that frustration that Muslims felt that male Muslims felt because the power was taken away from them by the colonial system, so take it out on their family. And so the man then became Thai radical, so the women of Islam in the 20th century, just like Muslims, were looking for a way out of capitalism, right. And they went to socialism. Women needed a way out, there were many bright Muslim girls. They needed a way out of this, which
direction you're going to go in. Right? Muslim men seem to be oppressive. A system was coming up in the 20th century. This was called the feminist movement.
And the feminist Women's Liberation Movement, which came out of Europe, came to the Americas. It was fighting for the rights of women. And there was a lot of truth in that movement. Because women in Europe and America, they did not get the same salary to Catholic Christian church. Up until the 20th century, many churches believed that a woman did not have a soul.
That was a belief amongst them. We didn't 1400 years ago, we knew that. But up until the 20th century, many of the churches said a woman is a soulless creature.
So women were extremely oppressed in Europe. They were oppressed here as well. So the feminist movement was fighting for wages, fighting for rights.
Muslim women looked at the feminist movement, and they said, maybe that's the way out for us. So you started to find Muslim feminists.
Okay. This is a Muslim woman who wants her liberation, and she takes on the feminist movement, but similar to the socialist movement that has baggage in it. It carries atheism, right? feminist movement has got baggage, because feminist movement also has atheism. And in some extreme cases, it works against the family. It will actually break down your family.
So, the feminist movement, it started Trump
falling apart. And then you started noticing from the 60s 70s 80s, you started noticing women in hijab. All over the Muslim world started coming, I traveled to Tunisia. That was an early 2000s. And I was surprised when I went to Tunisia. And that was, you know, that socialist society where they banned the hijab. You know, it was a really bad place for Muslims struggle. There were two or three of the women were wearing hijab.
Another strange thing was many of the women who were wearing hijab and returning to their Deen, they were educated women.
This was a phenomenon going on.
So now women are coming back into Islam, they don't see the feminist system, you know, as a solution. They come into Islam. The challenge is, how can a Muslim woman,
gain her rights, understand her role in Islam, within the limits of Islam,
without having to go to the feminist movement. This is a really serious issue. And this is on the ground. One of the big issues facing Muslims in the university systems, those coming up now, especially in Europe and North America, but in some parts of the Muslim world as well. And so
this oppression and this baggage,
the solution, as it was with socialism, and capitalism, is to go back to the Islamic system, which is not socialism, and it's not capitalism. You have individual free your property, but there's no control like capitalism, who pays the cat, you have Baitul Mal, you have a treasury house. And so you have a socialist system without the force. Without the terror of the socialists, you can share your wealth. Similarly, within Islamic teachings, there is room within our teachings for women to gain their rights. But this is going to require a new analysis of the role of male and female
and a new analysis of women in Islam.
One of the key issues is the relationship of men to women. Now we know that you know Allah subhanaw taala has made men the leaders, the Quran is saying I'll reach out Ohkawa Munna Allah Nisa, right be ma Fidel, Allahu Babu, whom Allah Azza wa Bhima. Unfair Pullman and Wally men are, maintain us and protect us of women because Allah has given them an advantage, and they pay from their wealth.
Co hwam, the Emir
the man is the Emir of the house. But what does the Emir mean? This is a power relationship in our societies. We have a problem too, in our Jamaats what is the Emir of the Jamaat mean? What is the leader me? In many of our countries, the leader is like the king like figure, the Sultan figure.
And everybody's low. And in some countries, the Emir when he drives from his house to his office, the police are standing on the street two hours before to protect him when he comes by like, what do you run in from it?
What are you afraid of? That's not the Islamic system. When the Christians were
when the Romans were defeated in Jerusalem,
and the patriarch of Rome, wanted to give the keys of the city to the Khalifa, the leader of the Muslims, they said go to Medina. And they went and they found a mayor Momineen Omar Abdullah, Hatha Raja Lama,
where did they find him? They didn't find them in a palace surrounded by by slaves and gods. They said, look under that tree over there. He's sleeping under the tree on this, you know, stone with his turban, and he's laying down sleeping by himself. That's a mirror meaning. So he has no fear of his people.
You see, it's a completely different concept of leadership. As our tradition say, say a Delcom, hottie Mohan, the leader of the people is the servant of the people. So the Prophet SAW Selim showed that leadership is not hierarchy, not up down.
It's more like a circle. You see up and down is master slave leader followers, President
members
right top bottom, but the circular one is that the leader
is equal to other people in terms of materially,
but they have more responsibility. So somebody has got to take the responsibility. It's must, Leah. That is what a leader really is in Islam. And so that concept is completely different that the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim showed in terms of the leadership within our community, and the leadership and the family is the same. The Emir of the family. The father, is the emir, but it does not mean he is the Fed own. He's not a pharaoh, right? He's not a tyrant. Some men think that, you know, they're the leader. So everything, everything they say, is the law. whether they're right or wrong.
Anything they say is the truth. Anything they say must be followed. But that's not the way it was in the time of the Prophet Muhammad, Salah Salem, his his companions could question him, right. And you'll see later even with the great philosopher, that in some cases, even women questioned.
They were able to question the Prophet Mohammed Salim himself, about issues pertaining to the religion. And so the leadership then it's a completely different concept. It's more of a circular concept, right where the husband then recognizes the strength of his wife. He recognizes the strength of the wife. And he makes the decision as an Emir should based on Shura
mutual consultation, just like the Emir in the Jamaat is supposed to make the decision.
What happens on the ground, in many cases, is something different.
We find in cases, women locked out, even Islamic movements, and I went to some conferences, hamdulillah it's changed now. But I remember going to conferences, and they had the men's section and the women's section, and the men were talking about, you know, Tawheed, and they were talking about Islamic economics and, you know, Islamic faith and jurisprudence, and the women were talking about Islamic cooking, what is the latest? Samosa, the design is the most that you can make, you know, Islamic economics, that's what they were talking about, right? The men were talking about, you know, the fic. Right of the world, right. And
it was totally unbalanced Alhamdulillah. With more education, it's changing now. It's changing. And we're reaching that point, and Muslim women are speaking up for themselves. And this is where Muslim women need to see that they can speak up for themselves within the context of Islam, and not have to go outside of Islam to feminism in order to gain solutions to the problem, because the rights had been granted, clearly, by Allah subhanaw taala.
One of the great scholars in West Africa, that I studied very deeply check with men. It had been foody. It was man, dan Fodio. They called him Rahimullah. He was of the Fulani people, or the desert, great Maliki scholar. He challenged his society, women were being oppressed, ignorant, locked down, confused somewhere else. And he said to the brothers to the society, educate the women.
It's compulsory,
because the prophets are seldom said tolerable.
He said,
tolerable alien for either other coolie Muslim.
seeking knowledge is compulsory on all Muslims, that's male and female.
Later, he find he found that the women were not been educated. He took a bold stand as a young scholar, and he said, I'm establishing a halacha for women after salata, Lhasa,
and if your husband does not obey you disobey him
and come to the Halacha, this is bold.
And they came to him and they said, How dare you say this? What's your proof? And he said, the Prophet SAW salem said, let's talk a little Mark Luke, Fremont Seattle Holic. There is no obedience to the creation when the creation disobeyed Allah. So in other words, the leadership of a man in his house is not based on the fact that he's a man.
It's based on the fact that he submits to Allah subhanaw taala. And once his submission goes
And then ta also goes, obedience also goes. So in other words, if a Muslim women may Allah forbid is married to a man
and customs say that you're married to him for life, you have to be married to him. And this man, you may Allah forbid, stops making solid drinking wine,
doing stealing, going outside the faith, she does not have to remain married to that man.
Not just because he's a man that she has to remain, she goes to her Wali, she brings in her family, and they deal with this man if this man does not practice Islam, then the Sharia gives her the right to live under the law of Allah.
And this is established directly from the early followers of the Prophet Muhammad, so sell them directly from the relationship or from the revelation. And so
obedience to Allah subhanaw taala
the proper relationship between male and female. Also the concept of marriage has to be is misunderstood. Many women
don't understand what marriage really is. Many of the males don't understand it. What is an Islamic wedding? Most people say well, it is baraka and mashallah Tabak Allah, you're you're married and you know, it's all over we sign this. No, it's not just that.
When you marry, you marry according to the book of Allah and the Sunnah of the Prophet saw something. That's why you're married.
Right. And so this is a lot of information.
And in many cases, and it's in Sharia, a woman has the right to stipulate certain conditions. This is called shrewton akot, the conditions of the marriage contract, she can stipulate certain things. So maybe they live in a foreign country, and she wants to visit her family, you know, once every three years or she wants to finish your education, whatever, she can stipulate that in the marriage contract itself. This is within the laws within the Sharia, and the Wali, the father or the Wali, The Guardian, who gives her away is supposed to maintain his relationship. So if something is happening in that relationship, if violence is happening in the relationship, then the Wali can
actually step in.
And
in one Muslim country, I'm not saying which one it is.
The wellies was strong, there was some violence going on. So in this country, when they were about to get married,
the man would come over to the house of the girl.
And then they would be sitting in the measureless. And so now he didn't see her, so he's gonna get a chance to see it. So she's helping to serve the fruit.
Right, so he's seeing it right.
And you're there relating.
And then you know, so we get some time and you can even talk to her whatever, a little bit. At the end of the food, the father then takes the, you know, the young man, and then gives them some punches. And the brothers and the uncles they hit him, right. And the father says, if you touch my daughter, this is what you're gonna get.
You understand this.
So he was putting that in the mind. If he ever thought of violence on that girl, he's going to remember that in back of her I reached out there are men. In Baca see the concept of wali
while he is not just sign the papers now when they go, I'll see you later. Like some religions, they put a.on their head and they say goodbye forever. If he dies, you go on the fire with him.
No man, that's not what Islam is. Islam gives rights to everybody under the law of Allah subhanaw taala. And for those sisters who have embraced Islam,
and do not have a relief from their family, the provinces seldom said as Sultan walima and latterly Allah, that the authority becomes the guardian for those women who do not have guardians. And so therefore, it's crucial for our community. And we need to have a bigger discussion about this here. And maybe if people desire we can go into this in details. But you know, through education, our community needs to have wellies for the new Muslim sisters. Preferably a married couple, and the brother becomes the guardian to at least be able to represent it's more like a walk heel. Right, not like a wali because he doesn't have you know, decision making power but he represents her. Right and
and so
This is crucial for the community to provide people like this for Muslim sisters. And so it is it is so important for our community to be sensitized
to liberation, that we are liberated, not only from the chains of shirk. Toe He liberated us, but we're also liberated from oppression and abuse in our families.
And when we go to the time of the Prophet Muhammad so seldom we find that you know, the Sahaba yet,
Radi Allahu on Hoonah the Sahaba yet, female companions were illustrious companions. The first person to embrace Islam was a woman, a dijo Rhodiola was
the first person to die for Islam was Samaria. Rather allawah
Isha radiola Juana memorize over 2000 Hadith,
she reported the second most amount of Hadith amongst all of the companions. Female right.
And you'll see many stories I want to share with you in our limited time. Some highlights from the story of a great Sahaba yet this was home selama radula. One Ha, the hidden advisor of the project. She was like a Minister of State
Secretary of State in some countries. She's the hidden advisor. How did this come about? Her name was Hynde bit Suhail of the bento magazine. This was a high tribe in the Quraysh. And her husband Abu Salah was also Qureshi.
They were married, accepted Islam early in the early Meccan. Period. They went through a lot of the changes, and they migrated to El hubba to Abyssinia. And then they made that the Hijra to Medina. And when they reached Medina, and the police had attacked the Muslims and the Battle of betta Abu Salah MA The husband was wounded fatally and he actually passed away Rhodiola one, and the Prophet SAW Salah mom, then and the companions were very grieved by his death. He was an illustrious companion. And she was a well known woman. And she was left without a husband.
And after she finished her her period of mourning after it was over, and she was eligible for marriage. A number of senior companions came to marry her, but she was an opinionated woman, right? You think women don't have anything to say right? She's got a lot to say.
So
Abu Bakr Siddiq, read the law and came to her and said, I propose marriage to you. She said no.
Omar Abdullah top came to her and propose marriage to her. And she said no.
These are big people. Right?
Then, the Prophet SAW Selim
came to her and he proposed to marry her.
And she was a very opinionated person. Now look at this human relationship. Right? She said
I have certain conditions.
And I have to be honest with you and let you know. Number one,
I am extremely jealous person.
And I'm afraid that if I'm jealous of you, Allah is going to be angry with me. See how intelligence Yes. So I'm extremely jealous person. Secondly, I have a lot of children. And thirdly, up in age, right? I'm older.
The Prophet SAW Salem den said in terms of your jealousy. I pray to Allah subhanaw taala to take it away.
In terms of age,
I have the same problem as you.
And in terms of your children, your family is my family. That's a beautiful thing. In Arabic, beautiful, right? Your family is like saying Ireland was solid, right? Your family is my family. So she said I accept. I accept but CLC was opinionated. Right? She was opinionated. And she played this role all throughout the life, the prophetic life of the prophet Muhammad Salah to his death, and she turned to be the oldest. She's the last of the wives of the Prophet to die.
She was the senior amongst the women of the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him.
And to show you how she was his hidden advisor. I'll show you a narration
in this
case the narration goes that
one day on Selma came to the Prophet SAW Salem and she said, O Messenger of Allah. I do not hear Allah mentioning women in the Hijra.
She's opinionated right? Allah is talking about the hijab I don't see the women.
Then shortly after that Allah subhanaw taala revealed
in the Quran itself in the third chapter Ali Imran verse 195. Then Allah said Bismillah R Rahman Rahim, foster jab Alohomora boom and Nila ODU am Allah Amin and men come Mundaka then on top bow to combat and their Lord accepted their prayers. Never will I cause to be lost the work of any of you whether male or female.
You are offspring of one another. See this.
The rights of women, male or female, mentioned in the Quran. There is no other revealed book where it's something as clear as this. Okay? And this is OOM Salam standing up for the rights of women within Islam without going outside to another system. But within Islam, asking for her rights. Another example of how she was the hidden adviser of the Prophet SAW Salem.
After the Battle of Hubei BIA, you remember that the Prophet SAW Selim and his companions want to make Omura.
Right, this is before the opening of Mecca. The Kure stopped them.
And it seemed like there were going to be a confrontation Finally, they agreed upon a solo. It was a an agreement, a treaty. And in that treaty, the Muslims had to go back to Medina don't make over.
It's like a defeat, right.
And the companions were really upset. But it was actually a victory because later on, when they came back the next year, they had the opening of Mecca was open for them. And it turned out to be so great that Allah subhanaw taala calls it in the court and in fact Han mobila that this was an open victory. Okay, by making this treaty,
the showerhead here is that the Prophet SAW Selim went to his companions and he said, Okay, we have to break the Haram sacrifice our animals and go back. They didn't make Omer right. Everybody was frozen.
Nobody moved, because they couldn't believe it right? No, we came here to make room but we're not afraid of them.
Everybody froze and the Prophet SAW Selim as a man he felt some frustration he went into his tent on Salem was watching right she was there.
So um Salama then said to him, this is your advisor, right? She then said to him, Okay, if they're not following you don't say it to them. Do it. Because they use the following you everything you do. They do from sunnah. Right? So don't tell them to break a haram and cut here and not do it yourself. So he went outside
and then you know, he broke the Haram cut the hair sacrifice l everybody said just went along and they start doing it themselves. You see that advice? That's practical advice, that she was given to him all the way through. And because of this
she became an expert on fine points of Sharia especially dealing with foster relationship, the radar when when a woman breastfeeds a shy a child, she becomes related to the child.
So um, selama was the was the was the expert on this. And as a hobbyist used to come to her for this, also issues of Talak of divorce. So whenever there was a divorce issue, they come to him Salama, she was the expert on this. Okay, so she was phokeethra. She was an expert in these particular issues. And
she also
she narrated, she reported 387 heartbeats
came on Onsala.
Okay, so this is now the role of a Muslim woman, you know, how important her role is, and what she is actually able to do. And whenever you see a hadith where her name is in it, you know, stop on it, because some very interesting things. I found one Hadith, which is maybe we'll have time in the future to talk about, it's a really interesting one. And this is an issue concerning intoxication.
Because when the Mongols were coming across, and conquering
in the Muslim world, they came across India. And they found in India, they found hashish, opium, they were smoking drugs. So the mangoes took this and they start smoking opium. And as they were killing people, they were actually like, selling it. They were putting the people on drugs too.
And they were drugging themself. So they became what you could call the first international drug dealers right. And then moving from country to country when they reached Syria,
shackled Islam, even Taymiyah Rahima Hola, whose family had been from Baghdad, who, whose family fled from Baghdad, because of the conquest and slaughter of Baghdad. 3 million people right.
He made a really serious fatwah because among NGOs, when they come into an area, They're bringing drugs with them, and it's going to be a lot of drug addiction. So even Taymiyah made one of the most serious factoids possible and he said, if anybody is caught dealing drugs in our community, that person is to be executed and not buried in a Muslim grave. No janazah not even in a Muslim grave. Really do you hear a fatwa like this made by a scholar because of the scourge of drugs? It was destroying the communities. Now the Shah had this hadith is
the Mongols were looking toward Egypt.
And in Egypt, which was the educational center of the Muslim world, because Baghdad had fallen to Allah ma had a debate.
This comes in this hadith as reported in Abu Dowd, and as a shadow an explanation called out al Mahmoud,
which is done by an eminent km and in the De Schutter, you will get the explanation. The Mongols were carrying drugs. So the Allah ma sat and debated. What is the position of drugs? Is that common? Is it intoxication?
Or is it not? The Hanafi school of that believed that hammer has to be what is wet and flowing. So in other words, it's got to be like wine, beer, whiskey, you know, it's wet. This hashish, marijuana ganja?
Opium, it's dry, right?
And it doesn't give you drunkenness. It gives you what Allah Ma called the Mocha Dhamma of drunkenness, the beginning of drunkenness, what we would call in modern language, we say he's high.
That doesn't mean he's drunk, right? See the difference? So the old man was saying what are we going to do about this? It's not wet. It doesn't get you drunk.
It gets you high.
So what are we going to do about this? Like chew on too much pot? Right? Like, what are we going to do about this? Right? This guy's up for 35 hours and he's running around right? What are we going to do about this?
In only my booed one of the scholars brought Hadith reported on an ohm salah. Radi Allahu anha na ha Rasul Allah Azza wa sallam and Cooley Muskegon were moved here,
on Salama, brata Hadith that the Prophet peace be upon him prohibited all forms of intoxication, whether they be alcoholic beverages or narcotics. maschere is what makes you drunk right? So Quran right? And moved here is would be narcotics. That's what makes you high. It's in the Hadith.
He said He prohibited all of it. And with that, the Olimar were able to make a complete fatwa that we agree with with this we will stop all of these drugs from coming in no ganja no hashish, no opium, none of these drugs.
You know, and this is based on the hadith of boom salah.
Okay, so these are very important sayings of the Prophet Muhammad Salah Salem, reported by ohm selama, illustrious Companion of the Prophet peace be upon him. She died at 84 years old, 62 years after the age of 84 years old last of the mothers today, may Allah be pleased with her. And so these are the Mothers of the Believers. These are the stories of Islam, where women have an illustrious
path in Islam, their rights are there. And if we practice Islam in the balanced way, then inshallah there would be rights for every sector in the community. And women can have their rights fulfilled as well as men without having to go outside of the Islamic system to another system and input this inside to bring it into give us solution, just like socialism, bringing socialism into Islam to solve
have a problem. It's not going to work, because it's got the baggage of atheism. These other systems are not going to work because they bring in too much baggage. But we need to bring back that spirit from the companions of the Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him. So we pray that Allah will give us the balance and the understanding that everybody within our community, especially our sisters, can gain the rights understand their role that given to them by Allah and His messenger and not given to them by oppressive systems or frustrated men. I leave you with these thoughts. And I ask Allah to have mercy on me and you are Kulu Kali hada was taco lolly. Welcome was salam Wa
alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh