Abdulbary Yahya – Love For The Sake Of Allah

Abdulbary Yahya
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The speakers discuss the importance of love and respect in religion, giving gifts and sharing experiences to attract others. They stress the importance of treating others with respect and love, respecting others' natural feelings, and showing appreciation for oneself and others. The treatment of detention by Muslims is discussed, and viewers are encouraged to visit each other and tell their brother about their love for their partner. The importance of showing appreciation for oneself and others is emphasized, and it can lead to problems and problems in the future.

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			In Al Hamdulillah Hina Ahmed who wanna stay
		
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			when Himanshu fusina Satya Melina Maria de la ilaha illallah wa Taala Heidi Allah eyeshadow Allah
Allah Allah Allahu la sharika wa shadow Mohammed Abu hora solo Amma bad as you can see I'm carrying
this microphone I actually asked for it on purpose so that any phone rings No just kidding. Like I
know
		
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			hamdulillah I'm really glad to be here
		
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			in Malaysia and it's actually one of the
		
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			most diverse crowd actually that I've seen or I've ever been to and in I've been in America, England
and Canada and you know that's pretty diverse up there. But But Mashallah like right here from left
to right, right to left, you have all kinds of faces, you know, the world is here, as I realize my
shoulder, so, in Islam,
		
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			love is a natural. It's a natural feeling, of course the law subhanho wa Taala puts in all of us.
		
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			But
		
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			what is the greatest love of all? I'm not talking about the song Okay.
		
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			What is the greatest love of all, and what is the strongest love of all, the greatest love of all
and the strongest love of the mind is the love for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala the Messenger
of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, I will set up an oral Eman and hug bufala he will
bufala the strongest bond of a man is loving for the sake of Allah and disliking for the sake of
Allah. Meaning when you love somebody,
		
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			there's a natural love that you have. Because somebody might have done something for you specific.
But when it comes to loving for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala you love that person
unconditionally. You don't need the United States, in Europe, in Canada and other Western countries
where they do celebrate Christmas. If you ask people there.
		
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			What is the most
		
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			stressful time of the year for them?
		
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			What's the most stressful time of the year they'll tell you it's
		
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			the holidays, Christmas time. It's supposed to be a time of happiness.
		
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			A time of Cheers. But when you really ask him they're very stressful.
		
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			You might ask why? Why is it the case?
		
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			It's a time for love.
		
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			But why are they so stressed out? Well, we're gonna get back to that. And I'm going to give you the
answer to that inshallah.
		
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			But let me tell you, what the first words of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were
when he went to Medina
		
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			Abdullayev, Mr. Lamb.
		
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			He said, and he was, by the way, a Jew
		
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			that he later on accepted Islam.
		
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			But he heard he said, I heard
		
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			from the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam upon his arrival in Medina, the first words
that came from his mouth were
		
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			Are you happiness,
		
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			Shu salam, what
		
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			was in our hand, was so loopy lately when Estonian that hudl agenda to be Salam. O people, spread
this Klansmen spread peace, give the greetings of peace.
		
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			This is one of the suddenness traditions of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam is the
greeting of peace of saying Assalamu alaikum.
		
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			And when you say assalamu Aleikum, believe it or not, it's a it's an act of worship.
		
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			You will be rewarded for greeting another person with the salams.
		
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			And when a person greets, and he says Assalamualaikum May peace be upon you. He will get 10 rewards
when he says assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah. He will get 20 when he says assalamu aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato. He will get 30 rewards, as mentioned in many a Hadith of the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam in Sahih, Bukhari and Muslim. So
		
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			the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			mentioned the importance of giving slabs of greeting each other with this greeting and in fact, it
is the first step
		
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			To enter Paradise, it's your first it's one of the actions that will help us to enter ourselves.
		
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			The paradise of Allah subhana wa tada the Messenger of Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah He has sent me
said like that whole agenda to me. No, you will not enter Paradise until you have faith until you
believe. Well I do mean we had that happen, and you shall not have faith until you learn to love
each other. Till you love each other. Often I do lucam Allah Shea in his effort to move to harbor
Tom, would you like me to show you something if you were to start to practice it you would love each
other? He said after Salah. So giving salaams is the first thing that helps you bond with another
person. And when you give Silla hands, you don't just give salaams to only people you know, the
		
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			Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said
		
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			when it's near the Day of Judgment
		
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			amongst the signs of the day of judgment when I shot this min ash razza
		
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			aku acuna Salam Anil Malika
		
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			amongst the signs of the day of judgment
		
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			or that is that a person will give salaams because the only people he knows or to acquire of such
some information, like you know, now nowadays you might walk
		
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			by somebody, and the person was Assalamualaikum. Brother, did you did you see a book that was here?
Now, you know that brother is a Muslim.
		
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			But you would not have given Salaam Still, if you didn't know if you didn't need something? Need
some information from him? You only stopped so that you would could ask him a question.
		
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			And so but as Muslims, we should always give slams is the first thing that brings us together. I
remember when I first graduated from the Islamic University of Medina, I wanted to revive this
sooner. So I start everybody who might pass by. I would give Salam Salam aleikum whether I knew that
person or not. And every time I would give Salaam that person would stop salonica Yes, brother, Do
you need something?
		
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			Salaam Alaikum. Yes, brother, Do you need something? No, I don't need anything. Why? Because
		
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			people are so used to somebody giving something only when they need something. And that's one of the
signs of the Day of Judgment, meaning people will no longer have that sooner that bond, the
companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to give salaams even if they were
		
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			cut off or partitioned by just a wall, or a tree or anything like that. So you want if you want to
start building the bond between yourselves, when you see any Muslim, give some lamps to them,
believe it or not, you might give some lamps to them right now in the halls at the university. But
then when you go back and you when you're when you're out there in, in the malls or somewhere else
in the city, and you meet that brother again, if you gave some Amsterdam, that bond has already been
created, because you gave some Amsterdam, even if you didn't know him. So it's the first step to
building the bond and loving each other is to greet each other with the celebs.
		
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			And you know, when you love each other, for the sake of Allah, one of the ways to increase her love
is to give gifts, the prophets of love said after Salaam will act time, after time, it means feed
the people feed the poor, help others give food to others. And so anytime you have something shared,
sharing with others, builds love.
		
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			And so you have to learn to share with others. And that is that is why
		
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			the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
		
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			I didn't know what that was.
		
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			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so but I was gonna throw it away. I'm speaking about love,
man, we can be violent. Right?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Sharing. You see what happens with the phone.
		
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			Like, every time it goes off, it's like, oh, what are you saying?
		
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			He's like, cuts you off? Like
		
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			I don't know. And you know, the worst part is
		
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			if your own phone goes off, oh, man, that's like, that's like, you know, that's the worst if you're
embarrassed and you hate yourself for no but you still
		
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			Love yourself, but still, you know what I mean?
		
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			But the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam said,
		
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			will apply my time, meaning feed others and share with others, and
		
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			give others food, help others, because it builds love. And he said also, he said, when you make in
the bathroom, or
		
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			when you make soup, or you make some kind of food that has a lot of broth, increase the broth, and
then give some of that to your neighbor.
		
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			And the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam also said hi due to Habu exchange gifts, and you will
love each other
		
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			exchange gifts, and you will love each other. And so let's get back to the topic at the beginning
that we spoke about exchanging gifts as Muslims, it is so natural for us to exchange gifts. But is
it only for certain occasions? No, it is a sooner that we should always practice, we should always
give gifts. That doesn't matter if it is eat or not, if there's an occasion or not, in fact, the
best gifts, although are the ones that the person whom you're giving to is not expecting, that's
when they appreciate it the most. And believe it or not, even if it's something that's cheap, not
even that valuable. If you give to somebody and they're not expecting it, they're going to be very
		
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			happy with it. And they'll take it with a smile and a hug. And, oh,
		
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			you shouldn't have any money be just a candy bar.
		
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			Right? Maybe touring gets that's expensive camera.
		
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			Right? You know, one week one or two, but they're very happy. Now let's get back to those people who
are stressed out in, you know, on the holidays, when it's time to exchange gifts, you are you are
expected to give.
		
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			And so you have to spend a lot of money on buying gifts, and most of these gifts are things you
don't really need, the things that you want, and you're buying things that you know, the other
person might not really need it. And so you're spending a lot of money,
		
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			many times wastefully.
		
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			Because this society right now it's a materialistic world, where people are
		
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			where the TV, the billboards, all the media, everyone is telling you to buy things you don't need.
With money, you don't have to impress people you don't even like.
		
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			That's the problem. So you're wasting money. And you know that, you know, you have to buy a lot of
gifts. And then, of course, you're expecting a lot, you're expecting some gifts also, from everybody
else. So sometimes, a person will receive some gifts, he might have spent 300 on a gift for his
brother. And his brother is a little bit cheaper than he is and he buys for him. Something that's 50
it's $50, for example, you spent 300 he spent 50. But you know, it's the holidays, it's about
giving, right? But deep down inside, you get to this guy just bought me a $50 jacket.
		
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			You know, you know what I mean? Like I spent 300 hours on him, in the back of your mind. I don't
care what kind of person you are like, you know, I was I knew that he wanted that. But you know, I
wanted something else, at least something more expensive than this. Right? And but believe it or
not, you know that that whatever he just bought for you for $50. If he would have given that to you
at any time of the year, you would have been jumping up and down.
		
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			You would say, Oh, you're so kind. You're so nice. But why are you mad now?
		
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			Why deep down inside you have a smile but inside you're burning.
		
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			Why? Because you were expecting more.
		
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			So that's why as Muslims, it's not suddenly it's not part of Islam, to give gifts to eat.
		
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			But it's part of Islam to always give gifts. Just like in Islam every day is Mother's Day.
		
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			Muslims everyday is aid for us. But I want you to do something. If you want to change your
relationship in your family, and amongst your friends and amongst the people around you, every time
you enter that supermarket, I want you to buy something for somebody. Even if it's just one candy
bar
		
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			your friend when you give him that candy bar, he will say,
		
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			What's this for?
		
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			Give it to him said because I love you.
		
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			For the sake of Allah
		
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			it's dangerous to say I love you sometimes.
		
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			Like you know, what's gone, what's going on with society nowadays? I just said that people are
thinking crazy thoughts.
		
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			Like, can we have some love here?
		
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			So
		
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			do this, especially if you're married.
		
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			Let me give you some advice, guys.
		
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			Okay, sisters also, but especially the guys.
		
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			Girls, they love flowers.
		
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			Right? As guys, Mr. Flowers, man, it's gonna shrivel up in three days. Right?
		
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			You know,
		
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			get them even if it's cheap. Because your goal is to score points.
		
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			They will not remember what you bought for them. But they will remember how you made them feel.
		
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			So you make them feel love.
		
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			Even if it costs you just $2 it works.
		
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			I'm talking about guide sisters also,
		
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			with your family,
		
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			give gifts. And it increases this love for each other.
		
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			A diamond ring is good.
		
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			But you can't afford diamond rings every month right? Once in a while we can afford it you know your
wife and I pretty sure we appreciate it. But trust me, if you gave 40 things
		
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			it will be worth actually more than that diamond ring in terms of the weight in how you make them
feel because it's consistent.
		
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			And the same way. So when you love somebody, one of the ways to increase the love
		
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			is to love is to give gifts. But let me tell you something, just the regular love isn't going to
last. It has to be for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala people always speak about loving for the
sake of Allah. What is the love for the sake of Allah, let me tell you,
		
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			when you love somebody for the sake of Allah,
		
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			whatever you're doing for them, you're doing it because of your love of Allah subhanho wa Taala
because you want to be the best Muslim that you can be and earn the pleasure of Allah because of it.
So, if you are a husband, or wife,
		
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			you are you are going to try to be the best husband you can be. And the best wife you can be.
Because you know that Allah loves a person who tries to follow the way of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam and the Messenger of Allah, Allah Allah. So remember what he said? How you can? Hi
eurocom Lisa ecomo Anna Hi, eurocom Lisa,
		
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			the best of you are the best towards their woman, and I'm the best towards my woman.
		
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			So
		
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			you want to be the best Muslim that you can be? And you want to follow the example of the Prophet
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Did you know when the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam? When he would enter his house? What was the first thing that he did?
		
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			First of all, he would brush his teeth. Use the sea whack cleanses teeth, guys, the cleansing of the
teeth is for a reason. Okay.
		
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			The first thing you do, you come home you give your wife a kiss
		
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			was the Prophet the Prophet Solomon romantic?
		
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			First thing that he did,
		
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			he would brush his teeth.
		
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			And then he would go to his wife and the last thing that he would do and he would leave his house
with what? And while he was in his house, what would he do?
		
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			He would help his wife in with the chores.
		
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			Okay, so now you want to be the best Muslim you can be. You want to follow that example. So you come
home and you help your wife
		
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			There will come a time in which your wife or your spouse, your husband,
		
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			you can have arguments, you can have clashes as with any relationship. So, let's say
		
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			you got into an argument. And she was or he was in the wrong.
		
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			So the guys, you come home, right? You say to yourself,
		
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			dude, I want to be the best Muslim that I can be, but I know she doesn't deserve this.
		
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			Right? Deep down inside, you say, you know, she doesn't deserve it.
		
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			You know, you might be saying it. But you know what you say, you know what, I'm not doing it for
her.
		
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			I'm doing for the sake of Allah. Because I want to be the best husband I can be. So even though
		
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			you might be angry at her, but your treatment towards her does not change. Because you know that to
be the best Muslim you can be to, you have to treat your woman kindly, which means you have to treat
your mother kindly. You have to treat your daughters and your wives with the utmost of respect with
the most love that you can give them.
		
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			Even if you feel they don't deserve it, you do it for the sake of Allah, even if they feel if they
don't appreciate your appreciate it, you're doing it for the sake of Allah. Because I know some
sisters for example. They're like cooking. And they they're preparing a wonderful meal to impress
their husband. Right? It's like,
		
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			I know a sister.
		
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			Like she went with
		
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			you know, one of my,
		
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			you know, one of her friends to a
		
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			to a restaurant. And it was a Japanese restaurant, so she never had had sushi in her life. So she
learned how to make sushi. You know what sushi is? You guys know what that is? Right?
		
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			You know, like in the poor countries they call that bait Mexican.
		
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			Yes, that raw fish, right? That sushi. Okay. Now the brother he's Somali. Somalis first. They don't
eat fish. Okay.
		
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			Anyway, Somali here. Mashallah.
		
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			You guys are fishermen. You guys. Hello. Many fish. Right? You eat fish? Yeah. See, I told you. So.
I mean, if you don't eat fish, I'm gonna give him raw fish.
		
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			You understand? So she liked this further sushi. So she started to learn how to make it. And so
she's making like, oh, man, this is good stuff. And she spent so much time making it.
		
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			And her husband comes home
		
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			and sees the sushi.
		
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			And he's like, Oh, no.
		
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			Oh, no.
		
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			It's not what I'm seeing. Right? This is rubbish.
		
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			Any other effects? Okay.
		
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			Don't get me wrong fish. Imagine how bad she's feeling. She's trying so hard.
		
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			What's going to happen after this?
		
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			He doesn't know she spent six hours first learning, trying to go to the store get ingredients for
it, to try to impress her. She liked it so much. And he didn't even try it.
		
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			Oh, what do you do?
		
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			We're not saying that. I mean, he's in the wrong Of course. You know, like, first of all, as a
Muslim. You never complained about food, especially your wife's cooking. Okay? This and even if your
mother's cooking is better, don't say.
		
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			You should just say Oh, I love your cooking. Man. Your cooking is the best. It's okay. By the way.
You know what? In Islam, when you're praising your spouse, it's okay to lie.
		
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			When you're praising them only don't lie about other things. Okay. You can say like, Honey, you're
the most beautiful woman in the world.
		
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			Yeah, you know, the other woman The more
		
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			you understand, but that's okay. You can still say that she's the most beautiful woman in the world.
And you're not lying. Because that type of speech is permissible in Islam, when you're praising each
other, exaggerating that praise. It's okay. That's something that's permissible, but the Messenger
of Allah, Allah has never complained about food. Never man Abba Rasulullah sallallahu he never
complained about food. If he liked it, he would eat it. If he didn't, he would leave it alone. So
that sister that poor sister spent six hours and her husband coming home, complaining
		
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			Oh,
		
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			what do you think she's saying?
		
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			What would you say?
		
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			And you guys, give me an answer. And you spent so much time trying to impress him, he is coming home
stinky and complaining. You understand? Do a six hours trying to impress him, and you're like
waiting for him hoping that he puts in his mouth and says, Oh, honey, oh, so good, right? Oh, no,
you didn't get any of that.
		
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			Now, if you
		
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			did all of that, for the sake of Allah,
		
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			because you love your husband, for the sake of Allah, you know that the reward from Allah has been
written for you. And that reward will be greater than anyone can ever give you.
		
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			So next time, even though he didn't appreciate it, you might tell him, you know, I spent six hours
really trying to because I love you explain it to him, maybe because he doesn't understand. Cuz
guys, you understand guys sometimes, you know,
		
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			for a woman, she sometimes a woman expects you to understand before she tells you, like us guys,
we're not that smart.
		
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			You understand, you gotta tell it to us. We're like simple minded.
		
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			You tell it to us, sometimes we just don't understand. You know, it is important to tell us is okay,
we just don't think the same way.
		
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			And so
		
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			if you did it for the sake of law, you would continue to be the best wife you can be. Because you
say, you know, honey, I know I did this, but I did this to be the best wife that I can be. And the
reward will come from a lot. And so a lot. Whether he appreciates it or not, you know, Allah knows
it.
		
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			So you will continue to be the best wife. At the same time, the brother will continue to help his
wife in the house with the house chores, because he knows, that's what the best husband does.
		
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			And so you can tell sometimes, you know, like, you come home and you clean the house, because you
want your mother to, like be impressed with you. And then your mother comes home. And she says, she
tells you Oh, thank you.
		
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			Thank you.
		
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			Or Thank you.
		
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			Even though a smile didn't do anything, your elder brother or elder sister didn't do anything, you
did it, but they got all the reward, or they got all the praise, then are you gonna stop doing if
you didn't do it for the sake of Allah, you would say, I'm not gonna do that, again, like I did all
of that. And he got praised for it again, look.
		
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			But you know, if you did for the sake of Allah, Allah still sees it and he knows you did it. Allah
subhanho wa Taala will give you the reward greater than anything that you can get in this life.
		
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			And so
		
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			the man who loves his wife for the sake of Allah, He will continue to be the best husband. Because
you're competing to be the best son. He'll continue to be the best person, the best daughter that
she'll be continued to be the best daughter. Why? Because you're doing it for the sake of Allah.
Because you know, being kind to your parents to your mother, for example, you know, that is very
rewarding. You will get a lot of hand loves that. And so that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam when he was asked, when he was asked by companion who said, O Messenger of Allah, Who has the
most right, for my good companionship mean for me to treat them, well, who has the most right? What
		
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			did the Prophet sallallaahu Some say? Your mother, then the companion asked again, who next? Your
mother then he asked who next? But he said, Your mother Subhana Allah, I want you to listen to this
Honey, do you know this was an Olympic race, the mother would have gotten the gold, the silver and
the bronze. And the father would have gone home crying.
		
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			That's how much respect she should have. And so you be kind to her because it's such a rewarding
deed. And then you will continue to do so even when they become old and grouchy. And they don't
understand anything anymore. Right? Well, we think they don't understand it anymore. All the time,
but you continue to respect them.
		
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			Because you're doing it for the sake of Allah
		
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			because you love them for the sake of Allah.
		
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			So when you love somebody for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala it doesn't change. You love them
because they are
		
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			Good people, because they are someone who, who loves Allah or is very pious or, you know, whatever,
even though Believe it or not, we might it's not just it's not just with with people only. It's a
great thing to have that mercy in love. Let me give you a story and tell your story that the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam told us
		
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			he said there was a woman and this is in Sahih Muslim, and also cibo Hari said there was a woman who
Sorry about that, I think,
		
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			you know, that I thought that was like a time for me to stop talking.
		
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			I was like, oh, man,
		
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			because I have a problem. I always forget to tell people tell me when to stop. Because in Seattle,
you know, they say, never give a woman a telephone. Or she had the value microphone.
		
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			So
		
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			when a person do you see that this bothered me? What was I talking about? There's a woman of course,
she was very, very thirsty. She came across a well.
		
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			And she went in because she was very thirsty, and she drank it. She was quenched.
		
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			When she came out of that, well, she saw a dog.
		
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			She saw a dog licking the wet ground around the world because he was so thirsty. And so she said to
herself, you know, this dog is just as thirsty as I was, before I went down into that well to drink
the water. And so she returned to the well and filled up her socks are her leather socks, with
water, and she gave water to a dog. And by the way, the Prophet Solomon said this woman was a
prostitute.
		
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			And because of her love and her act, her mercy towards this dog, Allah forgave her and in another
narration, entered her paradise.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			You know, some of the scholars of Islam, they said,
		
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			not every prostitute that gives water to a dog will enter Paradise.
		
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			What is the difference between this person or any other person giving water to a dog?
		
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			It's the sincerity in your heart. So believe it or not, when you love somebody,
		
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			love them wholeheartedly, sincerely. When you love somebody sincerely, you don't want anything in
return. You're only helping them to earn the pleasure of a loss, it doesn't change. Your actions are
not
		
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			determined by the other person's action, whether they appreciate or not, you're still going to be
the best person you can be.
		
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			And that's why it's the strongest love. And that's why the companions of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, when,
		
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			after the Battle of budget, there were 70 prisoners that were captured, and they were put in the
mustard. And the prisoners were given food.
		
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			That was the best food that the families had. People would bring food from their houses, and if they
had cooked something in one side was burnt. They would give the prisoners the good side.
		
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			Meaning they would give the better part to the prisoners. Now, if you're a prisoner, you're like,
Oh, dude,
		
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			why is this? Why are these people giving me the better part and leaving for their family? The worst
part? Do you know why?
		
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			Because Allah subhanho wa Taala says, and he says,
		
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			A Muna Pam,
		
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			Allah hope be miskeen away ottimo CRR. And they give food. They provide food for others, for the
poor, for the orphans, and for the prisoners. And what why did they do it? They say in the manual
dymo commonly YG law, we are only doing it for the sake of Allah. Land reduction domain comm jaza
what Ashu Cora, we don't want any recumbents from you. We don't even need a thank you.
		
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			So this is how they treated prisoners. Prisoners got the best. And I want you to see I want you to
compare this type of treatment of prisoners to other countries who are treating prisoners. Muslims,
we don't need the Geneva Convention convention. We don't need the Geneva cold whatever they have
		
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			ours we have a higher standard
		
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			Under a
		
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			higher standard of treating prisoners, we give them even better than what we eat at home. That's
what we're ordered to do. But why do we continue to do that? Because we love Allah.
		
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			We're doing it for the sake of Allah. You don't need to thank us. You don't need to do anything for
us. Our reward is worth a lot and He will give us more than what you could ever get.
		
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			And that's why as Muslims, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said,
		
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			law you may know how to come Hata you have barely a Hema you have bull enough. See, none of you
truly believes.
		
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			Until and unless he loves for himself, love for others, what he loves for himself. He loves for his
brother when he loves himself. Do you know do you know this? Heidi? Every one of us knows this.
Right? But a lot of us we think this is a high level that you have to try to achieve. No. Do you
know what? This is the minimum requirement for every Muslim?
		
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			That's passing grade.
		
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			loving your loving for others what you love for yourself is a D minus.
		
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			d minus.
		
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			That's what's passing here. 60 right. Is it 6650? Man Dude, you guys
		
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			60 right, passing right. 60% I don't know how you do the grading grading system. That's 59 or 60.
That's 60 barely passing. Why? Because the Prophet salallahu hasn't said law. You know how to code.
None of you truly believes. None of you believed until he does this. But what's the Praiseworthy
status? Do you know what the Praiseworthy status is called ethos? Well, you see, Runa Allah unfussy
him Allah can be him kasasa. And they prefer others over themselves, even if they are truly in need
of it or in dire straits.
		
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			They prefer others over themselves. That's what Islam causes us to do. Not only to love others, like
love for others, what you love for yourself, you got to take it to next level, that's the
Praiseworthy status. The regular status is just loving for your brother, when you love for yourself.
That's minimum requirements. We don't really think about that.
		
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			And that's why in Islam teaches us to love for others, what we love for self and even greater than
that. And so
		
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			well, I want you guys to do right now.
		
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			A couple of things, to strengthen the loving to learn to love for the sake of Allah. Number one,
visit each other for the sake of Allah. Don't go for any other reason. visit each other for the sake
of Allah. Number two, I want you to tell your brother when you love somebody, say tell tell it to
them that I love you, for the sake of Allah.
		
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			And you know, by the way,
		
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			the people who deserve your love more than anybody else are the closest people to you. And you know,
when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked,
		
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			he was asked our message of of loss, he came to the Prophet sallallahu he said, O Messenger of
Allah, Who is the most beloved person to you? Who is the most beloved person to you? And I want you
to think about this carefully. Okay? He was asked by a companion. And imagine an Imam.
		
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			an Imam is asked this in a moment, the masjid is as a man who's the most, who do you love the most?
was during the beam, as you say?
		
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			Well, who doesn't say?
		
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			No a man unless his wife is Ayesha. regular email.
		
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			He would say me, Oh, I love Allah.
		
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			Allah, Allah and His messenger. What did the Prophet sallallaahu him say?
		
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			He said, Isaiah,
		
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			Asia. He mentioned his wife's name, all law, law law.
		
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			Right nowadays, if any mom says mentioned his wife's name,
		
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			or what
		
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			the problem is, in front of everyone, he says, I met Ayesha. My wife
		
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			Subhan Allah And then he said, No, no amongst the men. He didn't even say he's just her father. Her
father. Did he say in her father's name? No, her father. He was awesome. Dude, it's okay to show
love.
		
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			It's okay to say bye. say if you say you love your wife, it's okay. If the Prophet some did it, how
can it be taboo.
		
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			You understand how
		
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			Hi, this is terrible. So when you love somebody talent, and by the way, if your wife
		
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			let's say you have guests, and you say, you know, I love my wife, Ayesha, for example, if she's back
there in the kitchen, she's gonna start giggling
		
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			you know,
		
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			dude, man, you probably get more than candy that night.
		
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			You understand? So that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
		
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			you know, if he said,
		
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			A man came to me said, You know, I love that person for the sake of Allah. And the Prophet Sallam
said, Did you tell him?
		
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			He said, No. So then go and tell him, if you love somebody, then go and tell them
		
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			in increases that love for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. So these are like, things you might
feel uncomfortable. I know, especially in Malaysia, right? Yeah, it's true, right? They don't really
express the expression. You know, like, in certain countries, like the Arab countries, always I love
you, I love you all the time. They're more used to in other countries also, but in Southeast Asia
and dude. It's like, love is like,
		
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			he understands nothing. I love my life.
		
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			You know, like when the most wonderful people and kind people, most kinds people in the world,
Mashallah.
		
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			And so, but you got to show love.
		
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			You got to ask and tell people that you love the muscle.
		
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			And also, like I mentioned before, next time you go to the store,
		
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			buy something for somebody, one time it might be for your brother, another time before your sister,
another time for your classmate, for your friend, for your aunt, your uncle, your mother, your
grandfather, it will only cost you one or two.
		
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			But you will see that there will be love and others will love you. And that's how you enter Janna.
		
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			Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that that whole agenda had to mean who was to
mean who had to have
		
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			you will not enter Paradise until you have faith and you will not have faith until you learn to love
each other.
		
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			And the strongest Love is the love for the sake of Allah. Because it's unbreakable. Because it's
unconditional, because it's the most consistent.
		
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			Because you know the reward is coming from Allah. It doesn't matter the other person doesn't
appreciate or not, you're not doing it for them. You're doing it for the sake of Allah. But when
you're doing something like that, imagine, you're what you're like. So your spouse knows that they
are angry at you. They say to my husband, he must be the best husband in the world because I know I
would. Or you know, my wife must be the best wife in the world. Because I know I don't deserve that
kind of treatment, but she's still like this. Dude, where am I gonna find another wife like her?
		
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			You understand? But if you don't love each other for the sake of Allah, what happens if some
argument occurs?
		
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			You know, he used to he used to clean the dishes now he used to clean the dishes.
		
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			She used to cook for me before you know now she don't do it anymore. She just dropped by McDonald's
and get something for now.
		
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			Now what happened? You know,
		
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			and I gotta say Bismillah three times because I might phrase you might poison.
		
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			You understand? If you don't love each other for the sake of Allah, it doesn't last.
		
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			It's not continuous. When something happens it just breaks apart further and further. Because you
change she changes everybody's changing. Nobody wants to be together our see your face anymore.
		
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			So you gotta love each other for the sake of Allah.
		
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			Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in our circle, a man, strongest bond of a man.
I'll help bufala he will do filler, loving for the sake of Allah and disliking for the sake of
Allah, which is Aquila federal Sutherland, Bina Mohammed