Abdulbary Yahya – Do Not Prevent The Woman From Going To The Masjid – Umdatul Ahkam
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The speakers discuss the history of Islam, including the legal system for women to pray and the importance of protecting them from bad behavior. They also touch on the negative impact of the Prophet's rule on men and women, including problems for their health and safety. The speakers emphasize the importance of not allowing women to go out in public, as it is a sign of lack of respect and justice for the household. The speakers also emphasize the importance of fulfilling household responsibilities and helping family members in difficult situations.
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from Abdullah nama against the Hadith again the Hadith I have delivered now Marathi Allahu Anhu call. parlor Sula, he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam from Abdullah Hebner, Omar Radi Allahu Anhu that the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, either said that I had to come to El masjid for Allah Allah if Allah yamna The messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, and this is from Abdullah, Noma, either that or how do
I either start doing it, I had an Emirati who, if a if, if you're a woman
asks permission from one of you to go to the masjid that don't prevent her from doing so. Meaning you should allow her to do so. We look at the Hadith. It says Emirati who your woman meaning if it's your wife,
your
of course you have authority over and if they want to go to the masjid then don't prevent him for not prevent them from doing so.
And so he said, For Karla Villa live no Abdullah Villa Libnah Abdullah, he said who is beleived Abdullah Billa even Abdullah is the son of Abdullah Abdullah Norma he has a son by the name of Bilal. He has a son so his son Dylan says Wallahi lenana Hoonah wala Hila Nam now.
By Allah, we're gonna stop for a bit we're going to prevent them from doing so many are going to prevent the woman from going to the masjid.
Well, either he or Abdullah Abdullah turned to him for so sub and say yeah, and mass, mass I mean, to sum the whole myth Mithila who?
He said no, he scolded him. In a way I never heard him scold anyone. Well, before this will call and he said was scolding him. He said, We Roca Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. waterpolo Allahu Allah Lanham. Now Han said I tell you that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said don't prevent them from doing like I tell you that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said this. And then you say you're going to prevent them from going to the masjid. And in another narration, let them know ima Allah masajid Allah, so do not prevent the servant of Allah, the female servant of Allah, the houses the sajit of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. So from this hadith, we gain a couple of things first,
either Senate had, I had either staff that had come, if
one of you if you're if you're a woman in raw to whom is your woman here, and this
is
the word women is us. Because it could mean your wife. And it also could mean your daughter. It also could mean your mother, it could be your sister, and so forth. So the woman in your family, they want to go to the masjid. Either Masjid do not prevent them from doing so. To go to the masjid to do what? To go to the masjid to
pray, of course, they want to go pray, then that's fine. And that's why the
you know, the scholars have mentioned that this is the to the masjid to pray. And so if they said if somebody were for example, if your wife says or your daughter says, I want to go to the masjid. Why? Oh, I heard that I'm a new match. I totally know what the new match it looks like
that are you allowed to prevent her? Yes, you can. Because the meaning of the Hadith by default, is that if she wants to go to pray to do an act of worship, then you can prevent her from doing so. But if it's just to look at the masjid to see the masjid, then that's that falls out of the category of what's mentioned in this faith. And Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best. And he says fella young fella, now do not prevent her material and friend her for what did not prevent her from going to the masjid. And so here finally be
so beloved Abdullah again, as I mentioned is the son of Abdullah have neuroma. Wala Hill and I'm now Hoonah so this one why did he say this? He said
This one he said this because because he did he want to go against the order of the Messenger of Allah. So Allah let him know, the reason why he said it was because he felt that the women going to the masjid in the in his day, like they were, it was too much too chaotic.
And maybe before during the time of the prophets, Allah, Allah, Allah is and the woman were, when they come to the masjid, when they came to the masjid, they were shy, they were quiet, they were after they finish, they would go right away. And then the characteristics of the women during his during the time of the tabular, in the mean, time, after the
after the profits of the life, I'm going to have the companions and, and the generations that came afterwards, like their characteristics, and the actions that they did changed. And so that's why it was and we're not talking about you might say well look at this, this is so so unfair, right then the prophet sent along to don't provide them. The Why would someone say something like this? The reason is because they realize how different it was before you know how different it was before. And so that is why we have another Hadith in Sahih Bukhari and the hadith is from from Idaho, they love and listen to what she said. We're not talking about some mess. Sahabi may also hobby we're talking
about the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Aisha, Radi Allahu Allah, one of the most knowledgeable, one of the most well known for her knowledge and well known and also of course, he is the wife of the prophets of Allah who anywho so in the Mother of the Believers, she said, the other aka Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Miranda Nisa, the man who
said, If the woman in the Messenger of Allah saw this, what do you want me to doing? And this is not coming from a man, right? It's coming from a man, especially nowadays. What are you guys talking about? What are you talking about? Right? So this is a man this is a this is a woman who is saying this. She said, if the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would have seen what the women were doing now
that some lemon are gonna come ammonia to Nisa, or Benissa you, just like the woman of the Israelites were prevented from going to the masjid.
Like the woman of the Israelites were prevented from going to the masjid. Of course, you might say why Allah Subhana Allah knows best. Allah created us and Allah subhanho wa Taala gave each men and women their roles and gave each men that each each of men and women, their roles, anyone, everyone who fulfills the roles. Allah subhanho wa Taala in sha Allah, Allah subhana wa will reward them greatly. And that's why for a woman to pray in her house, she will get more reward for men to pray in the masjid. Then, of course, that is the default for men. And a woman prays at home and a man prays in the masjid, because they have different roles. And sometimes when you mix those things up,
sometimes when the women get together, and I say that the men when they get together, they don't do it. But some some women, when they get together, you're going to the masjid for reward. But the opposite may happen. Why? Because they like to sit down and what backbite and sit down and, and talk about other people, you know, like, because it's the nature of some women, you know, some women they like to talk, there's some some women like to slander, not that the men don't do it. But generally, a lot of times you have this, when the women get together, they like to they're more detail oriented when they are talking, you know, like, for example, if someone were to call me, you know, some every
single time I would, I would mention some news to either my mother or my wife, they would ask for more information. Right? Like if I said for example, if I said oh, so and so I heard so and you're just I just got news as so and so gave birth. And then immediately when my wife or my or you know, somebody under the woman, the family, they would ask how was it a boy or girl? And I would tell them that it was a boy and Hamdulillah you know as a boy Oh, what did it look like? Do you look more like the the father or the mother like
like, you know, like those details like I don't war was, was the labor difficult? What happened? What time? Like when I hear the news and somebody told me that I never even thought about asking them that boy or girl. That's it. Right? For some people. This is not why girls not enough. They'll continue to talk all the little detail
and so forth. It's just the nature, right? And so if somebody comes to the masjid, and you know, I'll have that there's good speech. And then there was, of course, speech that is, you know, contrary to the principles of Islam, and also it's considered, you know, some of some of it's considered inappropriate. And so sometimes, you know, when when we get together, the more like that, generally the more likely to talk and ALLAH SubhanA knows best. And that's why sometimes, you know, when the, I know personally like, this masjid, I don't know what happens in the women's side when there's a lot, but I know like in the German Muslimeen, whenever there's a lecture, I always asked
my, my mother, or my wife, like, Did you guys hear the football?
We couldn't hear everybody was talking.
Like I couldn't hear. They said, I didn't know I was trying to stay next to the microphone, just to listen. But everybody was just talking. Like it's very difficult to hear. And of course, they're separated from the men. Yeah, and separated from the lecture, but at the same time, you see, that that particular that's more you know, Allah subhanho wa Taala created men and women differently. So when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, don't prevent a woman from coming to the masjid, yes, you don't prevent them, but their houses are better for them. Their houses are better for them. And the reward is greater for them when they pray at home, than if they were to pray in the masjid.
So here
when, when beloved Abdullah he said boy, Allah He, we will prevent him from doing so. Right? The reason is because he saw how the women were during his time compared to the woman before and he also probably Allah knows best maybe heard from Aisha herself. She even said so. Now Anna another Sahaba so happy so, so habia Oh, Manuel, meaning Aisha Radi Allahu Anna, who said if the Messenger of Allah so what you guys are doing now? He would have prevented you guys all you guys from going too much it right. So what is the ruling on it? The ruling on that is that you're still you should not prevent women from going to the masjid. Right. Unless, unless, unless they do not feel the conditions.
Unless there's a difference. There's another reason for number one is that if them coming to the masjid causes a lot of great causes a greater fitna. Sometimes there's fitna in times of fitna in terms of problems, and you know that there's going to be problems when they go and fit to that Allah knows best what kind of fit maybe because of danger. Maybe because of let's say, you know, if she goes, she walks into the masjid, you know, the neighborhood is not safe. Right? You don't prevent her from but you know what I'm not I don't want you to walk at nighttime. I don't want you to go to the masjid. You're not preventing her to go to the masjid. Because you don't want her to go to the
machine? No, you're preventing her for her own safety because the road is not safe. The time is not safe, the neighborhood is not safe. And so he said, You know, I don't want you to go because it's a little bit dangerous out there. And if you want to go then we'll go together, if you have to go but you know, you know, we'll go together. She wants to go and then maybe you're not there. She's here she might call and you might be at work. Or you might be somewhere else. And she goes, Can I go to the masjid for a shot tonight? And he goes, No, no, no, I'm not gonna let you go today. Tonight. Why? Because this neighborhood is not saying
I don't want you to walk out there for your own safety or personal safety. So there could be fitness that's caused by the women themselves. Or there could be danger that may result as a as a, you know, maybe harm that may happen as a result of her going. And Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best. Also
is the kind of them going to the masjid will cause something that caused them to suffer something haram to happen or do something haram then of course, that's something else. That's another. That's another thing also, that's one of the can another condition. Also, another condition some of the scholars have mentioned is that as long as you know, like, like women, men and women, they're going into the masjid and it's causing them to like, you know, like, let's say the road is small and it might be you know, it might be there's a lot of intermingling as a result of some fitna intermingling amongst men and women. And so if you're afraid that those types of things, things that
are not appropriate are happening meaning things that are not appropriate, haram wise, you know, we understand like that there are things that are haram that are going on, then that's something that's another thing that another thing that you're not allowed to, you can actually prevent prevent her from doing so or if a woman goes out
Not with perfume. Like she adorned herself. Right? And she's, you know, because why? Because that's prohibited. It is prohibited for a woman to go to the masjid with perfume. Because it attracts people who when she goes outside, not just the message is going outside and wearing perfume.
Just like for men, it's prohibitive for a man to go to the masjid after he eats onions.
Because it's gonna bother people. But if a woman going and wearing perfume, a man wearing perfume, it's okay. It's permissible for a woman to go in causes fitna and there are, there are specific Hadith which we'll get to in sha Allah that mentioned that you're not a woman is not allowed to go out. And if she does, so it's, it's actually considered a major sin. And Allah Subhana Allah knows best for
if there's a place specifically for women, meaning there's a specific door for them. They're not entering from the same door where it's causing fitna so if you have a door for men a door for a woman, just like the time of the Prophet
right, there has a door for a man men and a door for a woman so that there wouldn't be any intermingling other types of sword. And so, the Masjid a woman should also pray at the at the back, and she will get more reward and sha Allah for praying in the back of the Masjid. Like some of these things that we're mentioning right now. Like, you have a lot of feminists that were like, No, that's not fair. Like this is this is not something that we're making up you understand. This is Allah, the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala knows what's best. And that's why right now people are so you know, so they're always trying to challenge the rule of Allah Subhana Allah, to the point where some
massages now have men and women praying next to each other,
on the same line, next to each other.
Like, there's a reason why that doesn't that's not permissible. Like, how are you going to have for sure?
How are you gonna have a few, and the fifth and the church and the synagogues. And they if there's intermingling, like in the church, you know, I remember what the synagogues I think they lit more
conservative in that aspect. But in the churches, what did the board of the people find, you know, the spouses, like during service, they're looking at each other, they're looking at, they're trying to their eyes are looking at each other. And so,
in the masjid, there's a section for women and a section for men. And also,
if a woman prays in the masjid, if a man let's say, the man makes a mistake, a woman the for the woman they should clap at the spirit will mean this. The prophets of Allah Allah He alayhi wa sallam said this via for the men who say souhan Allah when the Imam makes a mistake, but if it's a woman, can she correct the Imam? Yes, she can. But she can correct it with the clapping, clapping so that the Imam knows that the woman praying behind and he she's clapping, that means he realized he did something wrong. Him He maybe he did something wrong, so it's to remind him, so a woman can remind. So it shows that that is permissible. But she in prayer, he should not say subhanallah why? Because
her voice maybe fits in there for the men you have to understand. It's not there's nothing wrong with the women, right? It's just that's a weak spot for the men. Do you understand? It's a weak spot for the woman there are a lot of men the greatest fit for them is is women.
That's a big fit to get married. Is Pfitzner before they get married, is Pfitzner right and so the profit that's why the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, matter October the fifth net and he Allah will either really mean Nisa, I have not left behind a fitna greater for the men, more harmful for men than women. More harm or fitna what is the fitna?
Different types of trials and tribulations. There are some times you don't want to you know we don't want to do that. That's haram and then the shaitan causes whispers to the women in your family member your wife and said that she says well, you know, so and so did does it.
So our neighbor and his you know, his his Sunday we went to study in Medina.
Stuff like that, right? And so like, okay, they did it. That's fine, right? But you know,
where's that coming?
From sometimes it's the fitness, the fitness coming from that. And sometimes for men, they can't control themselves. Right? And so you have to control the situation. And that's why the biggest, you know, there are a lot of problems. Like, for example, the prophets, Allah. He said, when he's making VR, he said in the last hour or so I found this out when he made me out, he was shake hands. Well, you know, when they were when they would take covenant, he would shake hands, with the men, and when the woman would reach the hands out to try to shake his head in the loudspeaker, and they said, I don't shake hands with woman. And it's not something that is, it's not like, it's bad in terms of
the new moon woman integrating now. But there are some things that may cause fit there. And that's why you have this, me too. Fat me too. thing that's going on. Right? And it's just, it's coming out and, and the offices and so forth, and many families are destroyed as a result of it. I've actually heard somebody said a a sister, right? They was a sister. And he actually, you know, of course, she wasn't Muslim before. Right. And, and, and she said, You know, when she heard the Hadith, that the Prophet some that didn't used to shake hands with women, right? He said, You know, if my if my husband, my previous husband would follow this ID, we wouldn't be divorced.
She said we wouldn't be divorced. And that's the reason why we're divorced, is because it goes around shaking hands. Well, now not only that, when you might say let's just shaking hands. Number one is the Pfitzner for the man. Number two, there's jealousy from the woman's side. Now you shake a woman's hand, and she'll know like, Oh, I knew were shaking it that way. I know.
That was a little bit longer than usual. Right? But Bobby, shake your shake your hands. It was two seconds. I saw that that was like, cancel. I go and shake with Cindy.
Right? So there's also jealousy, and that causes problems also. Right? And so there's so many things. If Allah Subhana Allah says, prevents us from doing something then you then it's best for us. And if he says don't prevent women from going to the masjid, right, as long as they fulfill the conditions, and it's not causing fitna and so forth, then
we're not allowed to prevent women from doing so. So, Abdullah Abdullah Abdullah Abdullah, he said, Well, Allahu Allah, I'm going to stop them. And so that's why his father, his father, scolded him, yelled at him in a way that he never yelled that he's never yelled anyone before. Why? Because he said, We Roca are Rasulullah he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. metropolo wala *, alumna ohana. So I'm telling you that the prophets of Allah Islam said this, they'll prevent them and you didn't, you're gonna say I'm gonna prevent them?
Like, how could you say such things? How could you go against?
How could you say such things like that, like straightforward like that? Right? You may be you might be able to say something like, you know, you might be able to say like, you know, the women are doing this. Or don't, why did he get mad at him? Because it seemed to contradict openly against the words of the Prophet sallallahu is I mean, that's really improper. That's an improper way to express it, even though he may be trying to express something that's legitimate, like eyeshadow, the Lavon was trying to express. Right? So that's more appropriate to say, you know, I don't think issue women should be going to the masjid if they keep on doing it like this. You know, they come to the masjid.
And all they're doing is backbiting you know, honey, I don't think you should be going.
I'm not going to prevent you, but I don't think you should be going. Right. And so that's why we get a couple of another Hadith. Okay. We get another Hadith from Omar Omar Ilhan Omar Rohit Barbara de la ha who did not like
he did not like that his. That one you know one of his wives used to always go to the masjid.
She used to always go to the masjid. And he didn't like that. He didn't like that his wife was always going to the masjid. But he never prevented he never prevented her. I'm delighted now my Radi Allahu Anhu his son, he said kind of Tim rotten the aroma touch Hello salata Malaysia Phil Gemma well wishes Gemini for the message.
The there was a one of the wives a woman who is you know, one of the ones on photography Lavon
Who she used to love to go? She would go to pray the fajr prayer and the prayer in congregation in the masjid. And so it was said to her, right and she knew that Hamas liked that. She said to her limit the hygiene. So it was said to her, the meta routine our title Amina, I know Maria Cara has advocate for yoga. So why is it that you continue to go when you know that Omar does not like it? And you know how Gelasius is very jealous. Like he has rira right? You know, he's very protective of his weapon. So he doesn't, he said, Well, you know that he doesn't like it. Why do you keep on doing it? Right? So she says, what might you have now? Onion herrings, and why does if he if he didn't
want me to go, then he would prevent me from doing so. Like, why what's preventing him from from Prevent, what is stopping him from preventing me?
And so he said, You have no cola Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, let him narrow email Allah masajid Allah. The only thing that's preventing him is because the prophets Allah, Allah has ever said, Don't stop, don't prevent the female servants of Allah, from the houses of Allah, from the houses of Allah, the female servants of Allah, from the houses of Allah. He said, that's what's preventing him. Otherwise he would not let you go up. He doesn't want you to go up. But he respects the word of the prophets, Allah Allahu wa sallam, above even his own desires. You know, he puts the word of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam prioritizes it before his even his own
desire. And of course, in another narration, let him know Iman, Allah masajid Allah and this is the other narration that's mentioned. And why is this mentioning this specific narration is very, very,
very subtle, and its benefits also notice he says, the prophets of Allah who said, Let him narrow, ima Allah, don't prevent the female servants of Allah,
from the houses of Allah.
What does that mean? That means, you know, these women who are under your authority, your wife, your daughters, you know who they are, they are the servants of Allah.
And they belong to Allah. They are servants of Allah. They are your wives, your daughters, but still above and beyond that, they are the servants of Allah, and the servants of Allah. They should not be preventing, prevented from the houses of Allah subhanho wa taala. Also, like it's not your house.
It's not your house, it's not my house, it's the house of Allah, and the servants of Allah, these female servants of Allah, they don't belong to you. They are the servants of Allah. So if Allah says, Let them go to their house of Allah, then you let them go to the houses of Allah Subhana Allah. And so masajid Allah, meaning, you know, if they want to go, and they want to worship Allah Subhana Allah, and if it's for, you know, the acts of worship for a bad day, and so forth.
Then of course,
this is also something that you don't prevent. So if she wants to go to Jumar, then you should not as long as as long as she fulfills those conditions. But if you see that she's going out inappropriately wearing inappropriate clothing, clothing, she's not going up with appropriate attire. If it's you can prevent her from going to the masjid somebody might, you know, my crown, you know, like, perfume or makeup and so forth to go into the Masjid. You say, no, no, no, I'm not going to let you go out like that. But I'm going to the mosque to the masjid. How are you going to prevent me? Now I'm not preventing you from going to the masjid I'm preventing from going to the masjid
looking like that. Because that's not something Allah ordered you to do. That's something that's haram, the way that you going out and you're not dressed appropriately. That's not something that's permissible. So you're preventing her from going out in that condition. Even if she were to go to the supermarket like that you should prevent her because it's prohibited for her from from from going out in a way that is you know, as worrying and causing a fitna when she goes out and Allah subhanho wa Taala and knows best but here we get a couple of another Hadith another benefit here, either stat than it notice the Hadith, right? Either stat than it when she
asks permission. What does that mean?
When she asks permission.
It's an indication that if a woman goes out even though she goes out she should ask and let her husband know
All right, she should let her husband know. You know, sometimes some husbands, some wives, like, where are you going? Why do I need to tell you? Like, I just want to go out? What are my goals, my business
wherever I go is my business. Now if you're going to the masjid, the Prophet sallallahu either step then it had to come Emirati. If when, when your wife when you're when your wife or when your woman asked permission. And before, that's normal. When a woman goes out, he usually asks permission from her husband, but when she does ask, then don't prevent her. She says I'm going to the masjid. They don't say oh, no, you can't go. It's just like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, lie ahead lol el mar, at the end assume I was I will do hasha Hayden elaborate ethnic
lie. It is not permissible for a woman to fast.
Meaning the Sunnah fast, of course. And her husband, who shall had means that traveling at home, he's a home builder with me except by His permission.
Which means what this is, if she wants to fast this fast thing, the good thing?
Yes, it's an act of worship, but the rights and obligations here. And that's it shows that, you know, if a woman wants to fast, and she should tell her husband that can I pass tomorrow? Can I fast tomorrow towards Thursday, I would like to fast. And he might, you know, like, No, I don't, we're gonna go out today and tomorrow.
Or maybe he doesn't want that. He doesn't want her to fast. And if he doesn't want her to fast, sha Allah, she will still get the reward of fasting.
She will still get there. Because if she normally fast, and he asked her, she asked her husband does you know, I want to fast and fast tomorrow? And he says no, I don't want you to festival.
If he has a reason for it, and so far, he says no, I don't want you to fast and you don't fast. You don't fast. And if he doesn't want you to go out, you don't go out. That simple. But you know, nowadays, it's there's a there's a lot of
there, of course, there's all you know, you have rights and obligations, right? rights and obligations. So if you're not taking care of the household, you're not going to work. You can't prevent your wife from going out. If you're not even paying for the house. That's your that's your obligation. You understand your obligation, you're not paying for the house. And we don't have they don't have she that she wants in the year your family issues, and she's the one taking care of the household. Like you're not fulfilling your obligations, and you're also trying to
fulfill,
you know, be you're not being the man in the household, you're not taking responsibility, then, you know, then of course,
that has to change. You have to fulfill those responsibilities. In order for you to have those rights also, you know, there's it's both ways, so fulfill those responsibilities. And make sure that you take care of her if he's, if he doesn't go to what let's say you go out, and then you go on your mother's house.
You go out and eat your mother's house, and your wife doesn't have food. And then she can't she can't go to work. She doesn't have any money. She doesn't have any food at home to eat. Like what are you going? What do you do? Are you at your mother's house? What kind of What kind of father what kind of husband is this? Because there's some husbands, they don't go to work at all. They just sit home and their wives are going to work.
And then when their wives come home, like hey, why don't you wash the dishes? Why don't you make a meal cook for me? Allah, Allah, Allah, you forced her to go out to work. And then you want her also to take care of your Oh, like each one fulfills it. Sometimes, you know, sometimes it's necessary, especially now. It's difficult, you know, it's difficult because maybe one one income is not enough. One income is not enough. But it should be enough and you should work hard enough in Sharla to try to make sure that she you take care of them and that you take care of them. Because each has responsibilities. And also each one each of them has this right they have their rights. In Islam,
you have justice,
you have justice, you have equality and justice meaning when he when I say about equality, in the sight of Allah Subhana Allah subhana wa has already put who has certain rights. And when you say certain rights, we like for example a woman when she when you have brothers and sisters who inherited from their parents, the sister the brothers get more than the sisters. Why? Because they have financial obligations.
They have financial
obligations, whatever the woman has, she doesn't have to fulfill those financial obligations. If something were to happen, who's going to who's in charge who has to pay the bills?
It's the man, the man is the one who has a financial obligation. So that's why he gets more than the woman because she doesn't have the financial obligation as a man. So that's, that's what's called justice. And the rule of Allah is that, which is the most just most justice Sharma, who ended with that, and we asked Allah subhana to teach us the benefits and benefits. Now it's just house. Does anybody have any questions?
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when it comes to financial obligations,
if a woman let's say, one, borrow some some money, right? Before she gets, let's say she has before she got married, she has certain debts, those debts are upon her.
Those debts are specifically upon her, if she can pay it off, then if you want to help her pay off, then it's good. And if you want to help her pay off, like in terms of like, you know, into, if you want to help her pay off, and you're paying off you with the car, you can pay off debts, you know, those who are in debt indebted with, you can pay this, there's a cut off for them. And so some of the scars are mentioned, even if even normally, your children, right, and your wife, you have an obligation to you have another you can't give us a cut to them, because you have to take care of them already minutes. But if they're in a situation with related to debt, then that's a category of
its own, especially, let's say she got married to you, and she had the debts before you can give to her to pay off that debt. Even though she's your wife, because it's not really given to us fulfilling the is given to someone who's in debt, in debt. So when it comes to financial, like somebody you know, like in the United States of America and other places, also, when the person gets married, hey, you get married, immediately what happens? Okay, your bank account, you got one bank account. And that's why I don't, I don't recommend anyone to get married to have the same bank account. The man should have his own a woman should have their own. The woman should have the men
should have their own bank account and mentioned have their own bank account and everyone should be separate. Because one of the main reasons for for divorce is financial.
When when like yeah, sometimes like for example, your wife wants to help her, her parents, like and she's taking them they said, hey, you know, I went to work, why are you helping your parents? Right? But if she says, you know, this is my money here, I'm helping my parents with my money. Like, what can I say? Like, that's your but
you can give anyone you want. You want to give to your parents. When healthy parents, that's fine. I can't stop you. That's your money. You have the right to give to your parents. But you take my money to give your parents No.
Plenty of I want to get my mother. Yeah, that's fine. And if I want to help your parents out of my own good heart, then it's okay to and I see that they're needed. Okay.
Yeah, she's forcing to help her parents also, then you said, you know, that's, that's not my obligation with our help, maybe give us a cat if they're in need. And I'll help them out. And I'll get double the reward. But it's not my financial responsibility to I have to take care of you. But I don't have to take care of your whole tribe.
That takes care of your tribe also, because sometimes you get married to Google a family. You gotta take care of the whole tribe. I know. I know, Somali brothers much Allah, you know, when two thirds of their money goes back to Somalia, right? You have taken the whole tribe. You get married to another target to take care to tribes.
Isn't that right? You got no money. The brothers are struggling here day and night driving over 18 hours a day by sleeping in his car. Right and three fourths of his money set to his tribe. And we'll have the lead to good thing right. You know, it's good thing to help others but you also have to take care of your family also. Allah Subhan most of us