Abdulbary Yahya – 1st Seminary Of Knowledge 2012 Lecture 4 A 2 Of 2

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The importance of finding a trustworthy mechanic for car repairs is discussed, as it is crucial to avoid trouble and maintaining respect for the internet. The use of the Quran for teaching and reciting the word of God is emphasized, along with the importance of following rules and practicing manners. The importance of shaming children for doing things and finding practical steps for parents to follow in their own care is also emphasized. The need for people to practice at night is also emphasized, along with the importance of trusting children for growth.

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			Put him in jail. And so when you
		
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			when you want to know, or you want your car fixed, right? When you want your car fix,
		
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			you don't know who to go to. And when you don't know which mechanic to go to, you know, you're
supposed to go to a mechanic, right? So you got that, okay? But you have to find someone who is
trustworthy, right? You ask around, you ask around, see who's trustworthy or not. Because you don't
want somebody fixing this part and they held a mess of other parts, try to get you to come back and
get right. You want somebody trustworthy. When it comes to the dean, our religion, it's even more
important than our car. But we just go to anybody
		
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			you hear about this, you just read on the internet, okay? You don't even know where it's coming
from. Maybe it's just some dude, somewhere is just writing, you know, and you're taking your deen
from that person.
		
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			And so that's why you have to be careful of where you are taking it from our Dean is very, very
important. And it's something that we should be careful with. And so even remember, I said Mr. Malik
Rahim, Allah, he was very, when it comes to his manners and so forth.
		
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			And the way he learned the way he taught, is full of respect for the poor and the sooner.
		
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			In fact, every single time before he gave a talk,
		
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			before he gave a talk, out of respect, or before he would read the Hadith of the message of a lots
of lightning. So out of respect, he would make Wilson
		
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			not just will do.
		
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			And he would always be in a state of will do and where the nicest clothing and put on the best
perfume. What out of respect, because he knows how great the Quran and Sunnah is. And that's why
when you show respect for something, when it's important to you, what is what happens? you memorize
it. So that's why any mathmatical Rahim Allah, He used to make will do. And he used to be very
respectful when somebody speaks about the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah sort of like that. So he
would listen. And when he would speak, he would not tolerate anyone that's disrespectful, that would
raise their voice or not listening
		
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			to the ideas of the messenger of a loss of the lightning. So much so that Abdullah
		
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			he said, One day, I was with the mathematic
		
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			and he was, you know, because the during those days, you're in the masjid is just this, this dirt on
the ground and so forth. And so he was narrating a hadith.
		
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			And
		
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			Scorpion,
		
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			Scorpion stung him 16 times.
		
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			To the point
		
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			where his face started to change.
		
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			They could see the pain in his face.
		
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			But he would not stop reciting he did not want to stop in the middle of a Hadeeth. He continued to
recite and he stayed calm and still out of respect for the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And so they came to him afterwards. They say, yeah, Bob Dylan. Look at
Minka. Atiba saw something strange did it. And you see his students. They saw that because my mother
kept on talking. They didn't say anything. They didn't want to disturb him. That's the kind of
manners that they had with their teacher with the man. And so they said, Afterwards, he said, we saw
you. I suddenly saw something strange today. We saw Scorpion keep on biting you for 16 times. And
		
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			you continue, he didn't stop.
		
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			or young. I wouldn't be like, get the scorpion out. No. And the men of the Hadith I don't stop out
of respect for the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah. So even though he was in pain.
		
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			And so when he was asked about that, he said now yes, it allowed in the Hadith. He also did a
		
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			respect for the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah, Allah. So not going to stop in the middle for a
little scorpion. This is the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah.
		
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			And so sometimes even the Quran is being read
		
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			as we just talk, and that's the word of a law. The word of your Creator
		
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			are creators speaking to us
		
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			and we speak away because you know, if you want to speak to a loss of a hammer that stand up and
pray, if you want to hear what Allah has to say to you, then you recite the Quran and when the Quran
is being recited, sometimes we're so disrespectful,
		
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			that we leave it as if it's just a dormant like, white noise or something like that, just to do
what? To, to block out the traffic noise. That's why you turn on the poor and that's what we use the
Quran for. That's what some of us unfortunately do.
		
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			With the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam. He did not
		
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			even move
		
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			even through all that pain. And Allah Malik Rahim, Allah,
		
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			He said, If you want to answer when somebody get asked a question and you answer in front of them,
pretend that you're sitting between that there's you you are between the Hellfire and paradise,
because
		
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			it's not permissible for anyone to say anything on behalf of Allah subhanho wa Taala something that
he does not know. And alima Malik Rahim, Allah also was someone who was very respectful. He never
spoke about this person and that person,
		
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			you know, in a way that would he would he didn't go around looking for, for the faults of people. So
sometimes some of the some of the some of the things that people do nowadays, the so called students
of knowledge, the only thing that they're doing, they're looking for faults of people
		
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			looking for faults of the people. And you know, there's nobody who's perfect, you have to
understand, there's no one that's perfect. If you keep on looking for faults of people, you in the
end, you will have no chance. You will have no scholar.
		
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			And then when you don't have scholars to follow what ends up happening. The shaper becomes your
scholar becomes your man.
		
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			You don't realize that's when you start looking for the faults of people. You'll find the excuses
for them and for nobody is perfect. And Allah Malik Rahim Allah He said, I dropped to NASA, will
Medina leonessa Milburn, Medina, lanta kulambu, I saw people I, I was able to meet people. I mean,
he was
		
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			old enough to meet at people that they did not have any thoughts. They didn't have too much of that
didn't have too much power, are you things are bad, but they kind of have a real business. But they
always started to speak about the faults of people, I was looking for faults in people
		
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			that I definitely have.
		
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			And so other people because they started speaking about the false so people, people started making a
false upon that person.
		
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			So people started looking for their faults, even if they didn't have the people will look look for
their faults, and then make up stuff about them. And then he said, Well, I dropped a drug to NASA
and Bill Medina can No, no, you said there are people in Medina that I've met before, that they did
have faults for setup for a second to an openness, but they did not go around looking for people's
faults, they did not try to expose people's faults and so forth for a second and as I know, you beat
him. And so people also did not speak about their faults, also. So when you start looking at
people's faults, then of course, people are going to start to look at your faults, and you start
		
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			looking for this, these people's faults and so on and so forth. And it starts to increase and it
causes more problems for everybody. And, and so
		
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			when it comes to
		
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			seeking knowledge, also a mathematical him who used to be one of those, that whenever he learned he
would apply right away. And this is very important for the students of knowledge. When you're
seeking knowledge. When it's someone there's something that you find out that it's the Sunnah, the
way of the Messenger of Allah sort of life. So you have to apply it. You have to put it into
practice, because the students of knowledge are not applying the Sunnah. They're abandoning the
sadhana, then the to the normal people that are on the regular people who are banned in the forum.
		
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			The regular people who are abandoned by which is obligatory
		
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			so you should look
		
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			at the pseudonym for your personal self as if it's mandatory as a student of knowledge, as somebody
who's practicing who's trying to follow the parameters certainly look as it looked at as soon as it
is mandatory. And that's why the profits of a lot anyway some there are certain things that are good
enough for us.
		
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			mandatory upon the prophets of
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala says yeah you have Muslim men whom Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, this fo
our postman who can either I was in la
		
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			de la jolla who is covered up. Yeah, you have Muslim in La, la, la, la La stand up at nighttime,
except for a small portion of it. You know, tahajjud prayer is mandatory by the prophets a lot.
		
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			So for us, we had that, take that as a lesson. If you are a teacher, if you are a student of
knowledge, you're the person that people look at all martial law, this is the person representing
Islam, the sooner to use should be fine. You should look at it should apply it because if you
abandon it, everyone will abandon also the mandatory that this assortment if you abandon it, but the
problem nowadays, you know, the sudden Is there any time of the companions and the time when the
great scholars of the past when somebody says that the sooner that we put into practice nowadays,
you know, when somebody says, Oh, it's so no, and then he's I don't have to do it right.
		
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			That's what it means. The sudden that the people nowadays I don't have to do it.
		
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			But you know, when
		
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			Allah Manik Rahim Allah He used to sit down after budget, he used to never sit, he used to sit
wherever we were, he prayed in the masjid. And he used to not talk to anyone. And he needed nobody
would would talk to him also, when he would remember our loss of Hanoi, I said that until sunrise,
and then afterwards, he would go to his halophyte go to the students, and go to the people or net
close to him, and we get some lamps to them who's Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu. And
then he would speak nicely and kind to him kind to them. So this was, this was even medical akima
and this is my family because of his great respect for the son of the prophets of Allah subhanho wa
		
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			Taala raised his status. And that's why also Imam Malik he was someone who was very, very well
mannered. And he was very shy also, shyness is all good, is really shy in the sense also very
spiteful, that he would not eat
		
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			and the place where people would see him because he would be embarrassed, just eating in front of
other people. You know, like, sometimes sometimes, you know, some people walk around eating this and
that, but he would not eat and he would not. He was the type of person
		
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			that was very respectful the sun and for Medina and the people of sculpt the scholars and the people
of knowledge. In fact, did you know that Imam Malik never never rode on a donkey or horse or any
animal in Medina? Is it haram to ride? No, it's not. It's just out of his respect. out of his
respect for what he says la COVID Medina. Medina, tiene fi Hi, Jessica rasulillah.
		
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			I will not write
		
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			on in a city that has the body of the process of how am I supposed to write isn't how I know it's
not wrong? And you might say, well, we'll look
		
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			like he's way exaggerating. No, his he's not telling you to do this. He's not telling you to do it.
So you have to understand also there's a difference between water and Shara.
		
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			This is where people make mistakes and there's a lot about your, your own consciousness. Keep it to
yourself. You do it. Okay, no problem. But don't make it harder for other people. Also, don't tell
Well, you shouldn't. You shouldn't know. Like, for example, obviously you're sleeping. Right when a
person
		
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			sometimes is sitting and they're stretching their legs towards the table.
		
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			Let's say somebody stretches a lake for the Qibla you say? You push the pupils leg. Megan.
		
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			Do you understand for yourself, you know out of respect. There is principle when it comes to respect
for the Qibla Yes, we have a hadith. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not split and he
forbade us from spinning towards a direction and added respect for the dribbler. Yes, there is that
that but when it comes to straighten your legs, there is no specific Hadith or anything like that if
somebody feels uncomfortable doing so when they feel like that's disrespectful, then it's okay.
Don't say hey, you know what? Nobody says? Yes. But I don't want to.
		
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			That's like a man. Remember, he did stretch his legs towards the house? Obviously, ma'am, is how do
I know it's not wrong? But I have a great respect for his teacher. He didn't do that. But he didn't
tell people to do it. Also, he did not dress for them. So that's why you have to differentiate
between law and shadow. What is your cautiousness? And shum is that what that what is the rule that
which is the rule so you differentiate when it comes to adapt and things like that, but you have to
have manners when it comes to seeking knowledge. When we speak about, you know, some of the great
scholars of the past. It was because of their manners before anything else and they used to always
		
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			do
		
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			tandem with the element under contract and learn manners before you seek knowledge. And the people
who learn manners seek knowledge in that way. A loss of when when they're sincere, allowed magnifies
their, their efforts and, and the effects that they have on the owner becomes very great. Let me
give you an example you don't even alleman Buhari, right and even Buhari or even loss of Han Allah.
		
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			Allah man al Bukhari
		
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			everybody knows any member
		
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			but you know when the thief the thief he gets Paloma sobre la he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and
easier Hadeeth new saying is that authentic Hadeeth or not, I never heard that before. The whole
tape says provato hi
		
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			alleman bohart his name,
		
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			puts the omitted piece
		
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			puts the old back piece
		
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			that's because of the sincerity of these individuals, that you see their books all over. And that's
why this insecurity of Mr. Malik that you see as mawatha still being the, you know when you
mentioned what, but that's the only one and he is the one that started collecting ideas. So the
first collection, real collection of Hadith relate to fit and so forth. And after that other people
started collecting and putting together books of Hadith and so forth. And so, he was you know, the
first real famous book relates to the hadith of human what
		
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			Allah and Allah Malik Of course, also, he had, you know, you had, he also faced a lot of hardship
and a loss of high tests people here because of a fatwa because of problems with the Amir at that
time, and the cousin of a
		
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			blue Javelin sword, he, he had a mathematic worked
		
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			to the point where his shoulders dislocated
		
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			and it's just so he had to go also all the aim was also went through a lot of difficulties. And this
is a part of a test trial that a lot of wants to raise their status because the prophet SAW them
said they said danesi, Bella, allambie athermal and felafel amta The people are tried and tested the
most are the profits and then those who follow in their footsteps. And so we asked Allah Subhana
Allah to
		
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			grant us and give us knowledge increases that knowledge and help us to apply what we learned a lot
		
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			about Allah, show us the truth as it is the truth and help us to follow it. Well, I didn't advantage
about it and show us the falsehood as falsehood which was administered down by and also help us to
abstain from the phosphate, which is a federal
		
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			law which
		
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			have an EMA Malik's parents influencing
		
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			This is a you know, all the great scholars are the great scholars of the past. They
		
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			had super mothers
		
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			they had super mothers
		
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			mother he was an orphan also and his mother's father passed away
		
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			while he was still young, and it was his mother who took care of him.
		
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			And Eva Malik was also the same in America him Allah His mother used to
		
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			put him I forgive him I put clothes on him you know and every morning for fight you would wait wait
bring him to the masjid have the message of a loss of a livelihood setup and EMA and this is a
madman was the same also. And this was like the window around 10 years of age for us at 10 years of
age. The thing is, we're always looking at we're always looking at the children. And we look at that
they're sleeping. Oh, you know, like, you know, they're so
		
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			comfortable. We don't want to disturb them. Oh, you know, they're only 10 years old. Right? But he
The thing is you have to get them used to the worship of Allah if you love them, then you want to be
and you want goodness for them. And you want the best for them. That the best that you can give your
children is the is the deen is the knowledge of Islam and the etiquettes of Islam. And you know the
knowledge of the Quran and Sunnah that's the best that you can give your children and say my Malika
Rahim Allah when he grew up when he was very young, his mother used to take care of him and used to
bring him to, to the masjid and used to,
		
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			you know, provide whatever he needed to make sure that he grew up in an environment in an
environment where there were scholars there are good people.
		
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			Because sometimes some of us, we say we love our children, and we want them to be good, but then we
tossed them into an environment. That's not appropriate. That's not good. But we let them watch
things that are not good. So you know, sometimes it's like throwing him into the water and say,
don't get wet, then you throw him into the water, how can I say don't get wet. So don't throw them
into the water from the very beginning. So if you love your children, you know, just like the
mothers, those mothers have these great scholars of the past, they they sacrifice their time and
effort to try to have their children be raised properly. Amen. You know, Bhupati Rahim Allah was the
		
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			same, he was also an orphan. Subhana Allah, look at all these great scholars of Islam. They were
raised without a father
		
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			without a father,
		
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			because they had super mothers, and you know what, everything that people are learning from them
goes back to the mother awesome. So the other reward that the super mothers are also getting. And so
that's why, you know, we should be concerned, and make sure that our children, we put them in the
correct place, provide for them the best, because you know, when they're born, right, the day
they're born, when you hold them, you're not handled I have, I have a two month old daughter, right
and miss it very much. I haven't seen it. I've been traveling so much, I always miss it. But I'm at
FaceTime, so I get to see it all the time.
		
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			But you know, you you pick up your daughter or your son, you're like, you look at the daughter or
son, your baby and you love your baby so much. And you say, you know what, viola, I'm going to give
you everything that I can do, I'll do all that I can to give you the best.
		
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			When you have that baby, you made that vow, you made that promise. Whether you did it verbally or
not, you're thinking it right? Why don't you not Why do you not continue that when they grow?
		
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			And then five or 610 1112, you still want the best for them. So continue that and fulfill that well
outside
		
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			by SMS, which is a follow on to the show, which says in this age, what are the practical steps we
can take as parents
		
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			follow in the footsteps of the mothers of these great scholars? Yes. Mashallah. What we what we have
to understand
		
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			is that, you can't do it yourself. Okay? We can't do it ourselves. Because when we take care of our
children,
		
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			when we take care of our children,
		
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			and then and we're very conscious of what they listen to, what they learn what they watch and
everything, but you know, our, our aunts, and uncles, or cousins and so forth, they might not be the
same.
		
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			And so what ends up happening is, is our children go play with the other people's children. And
everything that you taught goes down the drain.
		
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			And they come back well, but so and so's father allows them to do it. Right. So that's why we as
Muslims, especially living in a place where we are a minority, it's very important for us to help
each other. You know, like, there's an African saying, and it says it takes a village to raise a
child,
		
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			no village, so you have to provide that environment. So the sisters, the brothers and sisters, we
have to get together. Let's say you find them, you know, alternatives where we can ourselves, teach
our children to get, let's say, you can do something, you can help your children with this for this
day, next day, maybe the other house and so forth. And if we provide for them like for sometimes,
you know, the best option sometimes is, I don't know if you guys have homeschooling and things like
that, where you can provide for them. But, you know, he tried to provide for them in environments
and help out, contribute in the masjid and bring them to the places where they are close to good
		
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			people, where they are with good people and also one more thing.
		
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			In order for you to give this to give that which is good to your children, your children have to
trust you. Your children have to love you have to come to you when they have concerns. You know,
when prophet Yusuf alayhi salam, when he saw the dream, who did he go to? He says in the law, it had
Ashura. callicarpa was shumsa Welcome or at home, Lisa God, what did he say this to his father, when
he saw something strange? Who did he come to his father, he didn't go to his friends. So when they
have concerns when they have problems, you have your your children have to trust you enough. They
have
		
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			love you enough that they will come to you instead of going to their friends because when they go to
their friends, they're not going to receive good advices.
		
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			And so you have to build that relationship with your children strengthen that relationship to the
point where you know, your your bond is strong and they trust you. So when they have concerns,
they're not going to the show, please, they're coming to you. Right? Otherwise, they're gonna go to
their friend that has a Hey, come on, man, why not? You know, why not?
		
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			Everyone else is doing it. You can have a girlfriend, man, I hope you
		
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			I'll help you. Right. So whenever they trust you, you have a good relationship with their children,
try to build them. Once you have that. Then it's easy. It's easier because you can you can tell them
what you know you can help them out. When they have their concerns. We'll know