Abdul Rahman Chao – 2024-08-24 – Jumuah 8-23-24
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The Prophet sall campaigns on wedding gifts and emphasizes the importance of having strong faith in one's beliefs to avoid harmful behavior. The use of "has been" in certain contexts is discussed, including in a statement about staying in a certain place. The importance of having a strong faith in one's beliefs to avoid harmful behavior is emphasized, along with the importance of caution and shyness in men. The speaker emphasizes the need for caution and caution in behavior and language to avoid causing harm.
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Salaam, Alaikum, Allah, Allahu.
Ish Ya,
swallow
Hai, Swa,
O
hai VA,
Allah. Allah,
Oh my
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in Alhamdulillah, when I odo Bella, him in Surely unfosina,
Allah, ILAHA.
Kathiram
Companion of the
Prophet
saw them tells us
that his mother, umus, on the occasion of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi, wasallam marrying Zainab
Josh, that when he got married, she made some dessert called heis.
And heis is like a date paste that you add butter in it and milk in
it and sugar in it. Already has a lot of sugar from the dates, but
it's like a sweet dessert, and it's very filling. So to celebrate
the wedding of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he
was given this a.
You could say, like a vessel filled with heis this dessert,
she said to her son, give this to the Prophet sallallahu Alam. It is
my humble gift to him and send him my Salam
anisme brings this to the Prophet Sallam and the Prophet sallallahu
Sallam accepts it accepts this gift, this wedding gift. And he
said to Anna spimalik, go ahead and invite from Medina the people
you want to invite, but also invite certain people that you
want. So the total number of wedding guests at the Zoet of the
Prophet Sallam for this occasion was around 300
as narrated by anestimate.
So
the people, the guests, started coming to the house of the Prophet
sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam. And they all, they, obviously, all of
them couldn't fit.
And so they would come in batches 10 at a time, there would be that
dessert, and they would come in, they would eat, and then they
would leave.
And Anas me Malik says that whenever one would whenever one
batch of people would leave, and I would lift the vessel. He said
that he was not sure how much there was left, because he never
thought that this would be enough for 300 people. But it was from
the miracle of the Prophet saw them that this little amount of
hayas was enough for 300 people, anime from one of the signs of the
of the honesty and the miracles of the Prophet SAW.
But at the very end, there was a group of them who were talking and
lingering in the apartment of the Prophet sallam. And the Prophet
sallam, was
to put it simply, was annoyed from them
because they had finished eating, and they were just talking and
staying. In fact, they were staying so much that the Prophet
Sallam got up, left his house to go and talk to some of his other
family members, to his otherwise, like Aisha, radiAllahu anha,
and he came back and they were still sitting there. And another
nation he left again to send them a signal that it was time to
leave, because they were sitting around and kind of waiting for
more conversations to happen.
And on the second time when the rabble came back, then they got up
and they left. And for this occasion, Allah sent down a verse
and he says, Yeah, you Hala, Dina, Amanu, lad, Hulu, Bucha, Nabi, Ill
you then, ALA, Kum ELA, time in Rana, in a while, I can either do
it Hulu for either time to find a rule while I must study Hadith in
nadal ekum, Canada, you who
believe, do not enter upon the dwellings of the Prophet,
sallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam, except when you are permitted to
do so,
and except when he invites you for food, not that you are coming
early in advance, waiting for the food to cook, wala king, but when
you are invited, then enter, and when you are finished eating from
the meal, then disperse and leave, and Do not stay around looking for
conversation. For verily, that indeed, a noise bothers the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he is too modest for
his Tahi minkum. He is too modest. He is too
shy to tell you to leave. But Allah is not shy from the truth
brothers and sisters, this verse teaches us about this
characteristic of Al Haya, of modesty, that even the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wa sallam had great amount of hayah. Sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, that even though something was bothering him, he
didn't lash out at his companions, brothers and sisters. Al Haya,
this word is very difficult to translate into English because it
depends on the context in Arabic,
and because of that, the English translation will be different. So
sometimes in certain contexts, in certain Hadith, it will mean
modesty. In certain contexts, it means shyness. In certain
contexts, it means embarrassment, and in certain contexts, it will
even mean shame.
Not the toxic kind, but something that you feel a little bit bad
about,
brothers and sisters. This word of Al Haya, it comes from the Arabic
root word of life Hayat, it's from the same root. And Ibn Al qayyim,
he remarks on this and he says that it is because modesty and
shame, modesty and being and having shyness is something is a
noble characteristic, that if you have it, it will give life to your
heart. And when you don't have this characteristic, this kind of
this kind of mannerism, of having shyness in your heart. It actually
can kill your heart. It makes your heart die,
brothers and sisters, the prophet Sallam tells us that Al haya
modesty is a part of our faith. Faith is not just something that
is inside the heart, but it's something that manifests. It's
both ways, and the Prophet said him, says Iman, who build on was
abuna shorba, wafiria. Build on was situna shorba. Faith is 70 or
so number of branches, and in a separate narration, 60 or so. It
is not about the number, but is to show you the plethora of how vast
faith is and how it is expressed. Ala ha paulah, ilaha illAllah. Wa
adna ha imatola, Tariq, well, haya Usher but to Minal Imaan, the
highest of iman is saying, La ilaha illAllah. There's no god
worthy of worship except Allah, Allah, and the lowest of iman is
to remove a harm you or something foul or something harmful from the
road. And the process said, What does he say? Well, haya U show a
batun Minal Iman and modesty is a branch of iman
of faith.
Perhaps, if we were to look at all of the good characteristics that
the Prophet, sallAllahu, Sallam teaches us, all of those good
characteristics, the bedrock of it is to have modesty. And the
Prophet saw them, he says, In nali, kuli Deen, in holuqan,
wahulu Qul, Islami al Haya, for every religion, there is good
manners and good characteristics, but and the characteristic, you
could say, the core of Islam's adab and characteristic is Al haya
to have modesty.
Modesty is something that you are born with and something that you
learn as well. And we know that from the story of Adam, alaihi,
Salat, salam, which is proof of in itself, that Allah gives every
human being a level of modesty. So when Adam and Hawa, when they ate
from the tree and it exposed their private areas, they automatically
had a level of modesty. So they started what taking the leaves
from Jannah to cover themselves as for modesty, as being something
that is acquired, that is something learned. The Prophet saw
him one time, said to this companion, and I know that there
are various versions and narrations, he said to him, you
have two characteristics in which Allah loves. And he said, What are
they? And he said to this companion, he said it is al helmu
wal hayah. He says it is forbearance, Yani, to have
emotional calmness and equanimity, not freaking out and Al haya and
to have modesty.
And the companion said, O Messenger of Allah, is this from a
long time back, and he was he born with this? Or is this hadith, or
is this new? That's something that I've acquired. He said, Salah,
Salem. No, it is from before that you were given these two
qualities. So this companion said, Alhamdulillah, that Allah has
given me these two qualities, that he loves,
brothers and sisters, how modesty is practiced depends from culture
to culture, but more importantly, it is what Islam teaches us.
The Prophet one time passed by a man who was berating his brother,
his fellow brother, stop having so much modesty. Stop being so shy,
stop being timid. And the Prophet sallam said, No,
don't say that to him. Leave him alone, for modesty brings nothing
but goodness. And in another narration, the person says, for
modesty is a part of Iman awala Kumu Sai, Muslim mean first of you
in Nahu, Allah, Alhamdulillah.
WA salatu, wa salam ala, rasulallah Ali. He was the prophet
sallam, our example, paragon of virtue, the best of mankind. He
was one of the most modest people. He had the most amount of haya and
shame and and shyness. He was never vulgar. In fact, many people
misunderstand this hadith because there's a hadith of RAM in which
he is described as having more modesty than an unmarried woman in
her private chambers. This hadith is not saying that rasalam is a
woman wala Hasha. It's saying that the characteristic of modesty is
not something only limited to women that we expect of but it is
a characteristic men should also have as well, because we live in a
society Muslim or non Muslim, where they say that women should
be demure and quiet and have shame and men should be loud and brazen
and whatnot. The Prophet Sallam is being described as this. Why it's
not being described as as a unmarried woman, is that it is in
her silence. So
the Prophet said that when he saw something that he didn't like, he
didn't just started blasting people. But the Hadith says if he
didn't like something,
we could see it in his face. We could see it in his face, but he
didn't become vulgar and start cursing and start swearing.
Brothers and sisters,
we live in a time where many people compartmentalize Hayat in
the way, how it manifests. So sometimes people think of Hayat in
the way, how someone should dress, how a sister should dress, how a
brother should dress, or perhaps the way how they speak. But
brothers and sisters, having modesty is all of that, but more
importantly, to have modesty in your heart towards Allah, because
when you don't have modesty towards Allah, then everything
else depends on it, then those things are in jeopardy. The
Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, in a narration, he said to
his companions, he said, is sahihu min Allah, have shame, have
modesty, have shyness from Allah. So the companion said, Ya
Rasulullah in a stehi Alhamdulillah, O Messenger of
Allah, we all have shame and modesty and shyness.
The Prophet Sallam says, Lay sadaq, not in that way that you
think, Well, I can mean Allah, Haq haya and tafa or raswamah. Wah,
wah, wah. Have higher
from Allah, the
true meaning of Hayat with Allah, it means you are careful with what
is in your mind. Yani, how you think, what goes into your mind,
what you learn, and you are careful with what goes into your
stomach. And you are careful,
and you remember. You frequently remember death and you and whoever
wants the akhira, whoever wants the akhira, they will leave the
glitter of this dunya. And whoever does that, they have, indeed have,
they indeed have inquired this characteristic of having having
true modesty towards Allah. So having haya with Allah brothers
and sisters means that even when you are alone, you stay away from
what is haram. Just because no one sees you, no one can recognize
you, maybe you're not a visible Muslim. It doesn't mean that all
gloves come off and you can be foul and rude and immodest,
brothers and sisters,
we live in a time where Elon Musk has told us, and he has packaged
freedom of expression as a bedrock of democracy, where he says that
Twitter, now known as x,
is the de facto public town square, so anyone should be able
to say anything, no matter how racist it is, no matter how vulgar
it is, no matter how disgusting it is, no matter how rude the
pictures are, there should be no censorship, because that's freedom
of speech. And
brothers and sisters, think about what social media has done today.
Things that people would not say to your face are
being done behind a computer screen, behind a cell phone,
bullying that would not be done brazenly to your face is now done
people will just destroy a person's reputation over social
media.
Someone posts something vulgar and rude on Instagram or any of these
social media.
Companies, and you have people that are just completely
shameless,
and so brothers and sisters, when it comes to Al Haya,
it means
that you apply it correctly. So when it comes to learning the
truth and learning what is correct and knowing what is right and
wrong, teaching your kids about what is puberty, teaching them how
to clean themselves. There is no haya in that you shouldn't be
embarrassed of that. If you are embarrassed from teaching them
that, then you're leading them astray. You have to teach them the
truth. Having haya also means that you speak up for what is right,
when something is right. And when something is wrong, you speak up
and say that is wrong. We ask Allah to bless us with this
characteristic in Allah,
Allah Muhammad, wala Ali Muhammad, Kamal, Salahi wala Ali Brahim, Ina
kahim Ahmed, wala Ali Muhammad, kama Baraka, alaibrahim, Allah
alibrahim,