Abdul Rahman Chao – 2024-08-24 – Jumuah 8-23-24

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Companion of the

Prophet

saw them tells us

that his mother, umus, on the occasion of the Prophet sallallahu

alayhi, wasallam marrying Zainab

Josh, that when he got married, she made some dessert called heis.

And heis is like a date paste that you add butter in it and milk in

it and sugar in it. Already has a lot of sugar from the dates, but

it's like a sweet dessert, and it's very filling. So to celebrate

the wedding of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he

was given this a.

You could say, like a vessel filled with heis this dessert,

she said to her son, give this to the Prophet sallallahu Alam. It is

my humble gift to him and send him my Salam

anisme brings this to the Prophet Sallam and the Prophet sallallahu

Sallam accepts it accepts this gift, this wedding gift. And he

said to Anna spimalik, go ahead and invite from Medina the people

you want to invite, but also invite certain people that you

want. So the total number of wedding guests at the Zoet of the

Prophet Sallam for this occasion was around 300

as narrated by anestimate.

So

the people, the guests, started coming to the house of the Prophet

sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam. And they all, they, obviously, all of

them couldn't fit.

And so they would come in batches 10 at a time, there would be that

dessert, and they would come in, they would eat, and then they

would leave.

And Anas me Malik says that whenever one would whenever one

batch of people would leave, and I would lift the vessel. He said

that he was not sure how much there was left, because he never

thought that this would be enough for 300 people. But it was from

the miracle of the Prophet saw them that this little amount of

hayas was enough for 300 people, anime from one of the signs of the

of the honesty and the miracles of the Prophet SAW.

But at the very end, there was a group of them who were talking and

lingering in the apartment of the Prophet sallam. And the Prophet

sallam, was

to put it simply, was annoyed from them

because they had finished eating, and they were just talking and

staying. In fact, they were staying so much that the Prophet

Sallam got up, left his house to go and talk to some of his other

family members, to his otherwise, like Aisha, radiAllahu anha,

and he came back and they were still sitting there. And another

nation he left again to send them a signal that it was time to

leave, because they were sitting around and kind of waiting for

more conversations to happen.

And on the second time when the rabble came back, then they got up

and they left. And for this occasion, Allah sent down a verse

and he says, Yeah, you Hala, Dina, Amanu, lad, Hulu, Bucha, Nabi, Ill

you then, ALA, Kum ELA, time in Rana, in a while, I can either do

it Hulu for either time to find a rule while I must study Hadith in

nadal ekum, Canada, you who

believe, do not enter upon the dwellings of the Prophet,

sallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam, except when you are permitted to

do so,

and except when he invites you for food, not that you are coming

early in advance, waiting for the food to cook, wala king, but when

you are invited, then enter, and when you are finished eating from

the meal, then disperse and leave, and Do not stay around looking for

conversation. For verily, that indeed, a noise bothers the

Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he is too modest for

his Tahi minkum. He is too modest. He is too

shy to tell you to leave. But Allah is not shy from the truth

brothers and sisters, this verse teaches us about this

characteristic of Al Haya, of modesty, that even the Prophet

salallahu alayhi wa sallam had great amount of hayah. Sallallahu

alayhi wa sallam, that even though something was bothering him, he

didn't lash out at his companions, brothers and sisters. Al Haya,

this word is very difficult to translate into English because it

depends on the context in Arabic,

and because of that, the English translation will be different. So

sometimes in certain contexts, in certain Hadith, it will mean

modesty. In certain contexts, it means shyness. In certain

contexts, it means embarrassment, and in certain contexts, it will

even mean shame.

Not the toxic kind, but something that you feel a little bit bad

about,

brothers and sisters. This word of Al Haya, it comes from the Arabic

root word of life Hayat, it's from the same root. And Ibn Al qayyim,

he remarks on this and he says that it is because modesty and

shame, modesty and being and having shyness is something is a

noble characteristic, that if you have it, it will give life to your

heart. And when you don't have this characteristic, this kind of

this kind of mannerism, of having shyness in your heart. It actually

can kill your heart. It makes your heart die,

brothers and sisters, the prophet Sallam tells us that Al haya

modesty is a part of our faith. Faith is not just something that

is inside the heart, but it's something that manifests. It's

both ways, and the Prophet said him, says Iman, who build on was

abuna shorba, wafiria. Build on was situna shorba. Faith is 70 or

so number of branches, and in a separate narration, 60 or so. It

is not about the number, but is to show you the plethora of how vast

faith is and how it is expressed. Ala ha paulah, ilaha illAllah. Wa

adna ha imatola, Tariq, well, haya Usher but to Minal Imaan, the

highest of iman is saying, La ilaha illAllah. There's no god

worthy of worship except Allah, Allah, and the lowest of iman is

to remove a harm you or something foul or something harmful from the

road. And the process said, What does he say? Well, haya U show a

batun Minal Iman and modesty is a branch of iman

of faith.

Perhaps, if we were to look at all of the good characteristics that

the Prophet, sallAllahu, Sallam teaches us, all of those good

characteristics, the bedrock of it is to have modesty. And the

Prophet saw them, he says, In nali, kuli Deen, in holuqan,

wahulu Qul, Islami al Haya, for every religion, there is good

manners and good characteristics, but and the characteristic, you

could say, the core of Islam's adab and characteristic is Al haya

to have modesty.

Modesty is something that you are born with and something that you

learn as well. And we know that from the story of Adam, alaihi,

Salat, salam, which is proof of in itself, that Allah gives every

human being a level of modesty. So when Adam and Hawa, when they ate

from the tree and it exposed their private areas, they automatically

had a level of modesty. So they started what taking the leaves

from Jannah to cover themselves as for modesty, as being something

that is acquired, that is something learned. The Prophet saw

him one time, said to this companion, and I know that there

are various versions and narrations, he said to him, you

have two characteristics in which Allah loves. And he said, What are

they? And he said to this companion, he said it is al helmu

wal hayah. He says it is forbearance, Yani, to have

emotional calmness and equanimity, not freaking out and Al haya and

to have modesty.

And the companion said, O Messenger of Allah, is this from a

long time back, and he was he born with this? Or is this hadith, or

is this new? That's something that I've acquired. He said, Salah,

Salem. No, it is from before that you were given these two

qualities. So this companion said, Alhamdulillah, that Allah has

given me these two qualities, that he loves,

brothers and sisters, how modesty is practiced depends from culture

to culture, but more importantly, it is what Islam teaches us.

The Prophet one time passed by a man who was berating his brother,

his fellow brother, stop having so much modesty. Stop being so shy,

stop being timid. And the Prophet sallam said, No,

don't say that to him. Leave him alone, for modesty brings nothing

but goodness. And in another narration, the person says, for

modesty is a part of Iman awala Kumu Sai, Muslim mean first of you

in Nahu, Allah, Alhamdulillah.

WA salatu, wa salam ala, rasulallah Ali. He was the prophet

sallam, our example, paragon of virtue, the best of mankind. He

was one of the most modest people. He had the most amount of haya and

shame and and shyness. He was never vulgar. In fact, many people

misunderstand this hadith because there's a hadith of RAM in which

he is described as having more modesty than an unmarried woman in

her private chambers. This hadith is not saying that rasalam is a

woman wala Hasha. It's saying that the characteristic of modesty is

not something only limited to women that we expect of but it is

a characteristic men should also have as well, because we live in a

society Muslim or non Muslim, where they say that women should

be demure and quiet and have shame and men should be loud and brazen

and whatnot. The Prophet Sallam is being described as this. Why it's

not being described as as a unmarried woman, is that it is in

her silence. So

the Prophet said that when he saw something that he didn't like, he

didn't just started blasting people. But the Hadith says if he

didn't like something,

we could see it in his face. We could see it in his face, but he

didn't become vulgar and start cursing and start swearing.

Brothers and sisters,

we live in a time where many people compartmentalize Hayat in

the way, how it manifests. So sometimes people think of Hayat in

the way, how someone should dress, how a sister should dress, how a

brother should dress, or perhaps the way how they speak. But

brothers and sisters, having modesty is all of that, but more

importantly, to have modesty in your heart towards Allah, because

when you don't have modesty towards Allah, then everything

else depends on it, then those things are in jeopardy. The

Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, in a narration, he said to

his companions, he said, is sahihu min Allah, have shame, have

modesty, have shyness from Allah. So the companion said, Ya

Rasulullah in a stehi Alhamdulillah, O Messenger of

Allah, we all have shame and modesty and shyness.

The Prophet Sallam says, Lay sadaq, not in that way that you

think, Well, I can mean Allah, Haq haya and tafa or raswamah. Wah,

wah, wah. Have higher

from Allah, the

true meaning of Hayat with Allah, it means you are careful with what

is in your mind. Yani, how you think, what goes into your mind,

what you learn, and you are careful with what goes into your

stomach. And you are careful,

and you remember. You frequently remember death and you and whoever

wants the akhira, whoever wants the akhira, they will leave the

glitter of this dunya. And whoever does that, they have, indeed have,

they indeed have inquired this characteristic of having having

true modesty towards Allah. So having haya with Allah brothers

and sisters means that even when you are alone, you stay away from

what is haram. Just because no one sees you, no one can recognize

you, maybe you're not a visible Muslim. It doesn't mean that all

gloves come off and you can be foul and rude and immodest,

brothers and sisters,

we live in a time where Elon Musk has told us, and he has packaged

freedom of expression as a bedrock of democracy, where he says that

Twitter, now known as x,

is the de facto public town square, so anyone should be able

to say anything, no matter how racist it is, no matter how vulgar

it is, no matter how disgusting it is, no matter how rude the

pictures are, there should be no censorship, because that's freedom

of speech. And

brothers and sisters, think about what social media has done today.

Things that people would not say to your face are

being done behind a computer screen, behind a cell phone,

bullying that would not be done brazenly to your face is now done

people will just destroy a person's reputation over social

media.

Someone posts something vulgar and rude on Instagram or any of these

social media.

Companies, and you have people that are just completely

shameless,

and so brothers and sisters, when it comes to Al Haya,

it means

that you apply it correctly. So when it comes to learning the

truth and learning what is correct and knowing what is right and

wrong, teaching your kids about what is puberty, teaching them how

to clean themselves. There is no haya in that you shouldn't be

embarrassed of that. If you are embarrassed from teaching them

that, then you're leading them astray. You have to teach them the

truth. Having haya also means that you speak up for what is right,

when something is right. And when something is wrong, you speak up

and say that is wrong. We ask Allah to bless us with this

characteristic in Allah,

Allah Muhammad, wala Ali Muhammad, Kamal, Salahi wala Ali Brahim, Ina

kahim Ahmed, wala Ali Muhammad, kama Baraka, alaibrahim, Allah

alibrahim,