Abdul Nasir Jangda – Salah In Focus P1 2
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The importance of prayer and creating more focus on salon's life is discussed, along with the sadness of a couple's loss and the importance of family members in society. The speakers emphasize the need to learn from experiences and recount personal experiences, particularly in regards to the loss of family members and the person who accepted Islam. The importance of learning from the loss of others is also emphasized.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah
Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
hamdulillah. It's nice to see everyone good to, you know, Mashallah meet the community and heard a lot about the community and Mashallah a lot of the great programs that are going on, from the masajid, to the hosting of different speakers and programs, building blocks, who Marshall are hosting this particular program. And they've handled a lot of the logistics of this program. So very grateful for the opportunity to be able to meet the brothers and sisters, we were able to actually host 10 brothers from Minnesota, they were sent by building blocks to come and get some training in Dallas, a few months back. So since then, you know, they kind of came with a message, the message
was we came to Dallas, you got to come to Minnesota. So I figured it was high time that we did set that up. So I'm very excited and very happy to be here.
The topic for today is salon infocus, which very simply put is to create more focus in regards to our salon not just put the focus in our prayer, but for us ourselves to create a little bit of focus in regards to salon, meaning what this salon mean to us. What is our perception of salon? How do we view it? How do we see it? How do we perceive it? That's the core focus of the program today. And of course, then we will talk about putting focus into our prayer and creating crucial and developing concentration, focus quality within our prayers. But first and foremost, what I'd like for us to do is kind of maybe take this as an opportunity to shift our view our perception and our focus of the
prayer.
In order to do that, like you heard in the title of the talk, the historical significance of prayer in Islam. So I figured let's talk about what role has prayer played within what role that it's served within the history of our Deen in our religion. In order to understand that it talks about that, I'd like for us to go back to what could easily be called the most tragic moment from the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. There were some very testing and trying times in the life of the messengers a lot of a sudden, and that comes with the territory, it's part of the job description. But when I say personally, personal tragedy, I mean, personally speaking as a personal
human tragedy, what was the most difficult personal moment from the life of the prophets all of a sudden, is what is described by scholars what is pointed to be the end of the 11th, or the beginning of the 12th year of prophethood? Not hedger, aka Caesar was only 10 years, right? I'm referring to Prophethood. So when the Prophet of Allah salon, he said was about 51 years old.
At that point in time, the prophet of Allah Salafi, some suffered what was one of the most trying and testing times of his life, and what can easily be called the greatest personal tragedy from the life of the prophets, a lot of a sudden, what occurred at that time was first and foremost, and this is mentioned interchangeably. Some mentioned one person mentioned the other first, but regardless, we're going to talk about both of them. So first and foremost, what we'll talk about is that the wife of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, Khadija de la Mancha, deja bien, who is the wife of the prophets all of a sudden passed away.
Now, one of the most very common complaints, you know, that I made to my own community that I share with you here today, is that it's very unfortunate. It's very tragic today, for us as Muslims as believers, that when we talk about Islam, when we talk about the Quran, particularly when we talk about the life of the prophets, Allah Hmm, the serum, it has a very, either it has a very Wikipedia like approach. You know, Wikipedia is right, right, when you open it up. If you're in school, you definitely know what Wikipedia is. All right. That's how all these kids get by these days. One of my cousin's he graduated, I bought him a shirt and said, it had a picture of the graduation cap, and he
said, Thank you, Wikipedia. But um, so, one approach, unfortunately, people have Today's a very Wikipedia like approach. What that means is,
we read through the life of the prophets a lot. So like you would read an article on Wikipedia. You can skim through it, okay. Okay. All right. All right, next, next, next next, you know, you just click Next, you just click on the next sections. You just click next, next, next, next, next, next, and you just go through it, like you're reading just random, factual information online. That's one very unfortunate approach. The second unfortunate approach that we have today, when studying the life of the prophet of someone learning anything about our Deen for that matter is we have an entertainment like approach
What is entertainment? entertainment is if you've seen
a TV show an episode of a TV show once. If it comes on again, do you sit and watch it again?
It's rerunning you turn on the TV and it's there. rerunning the episode, you watch it again. Now you've seen it. So you change the channel.
Okay, if it was really good, then maybe you watch it a second time. But if it's coming on for the third time, you've seen it twice already. It's coming on for a third time you watch it.
You don't? You don't. Alright. Well, let's just say that you serve through the channels and there's nothing good on, then maybe you'll just sit there and watch it a third time, but you're kind of half watching in half paying attention, you already know what's gonna happen. If it comes on for the fourth time, do you sit and watch it?
No, of course not. Absolutely not. All right. If you do, then there's something wrong. Right? Then you need to get some help. But other than that, you don't sit and watch something over and over and over again, if you read a magazine article, once you read the newspaper yesterday, you shouldn't read that same newspaper again today. Of course you don't.
But unfortunately, today, our approach when studying Deen, especially the life of the process is very similar.
I heard that story already. I read that article already. I read that chapter already already listened to a lecture about it. And we just move right on. But we never actually stopped to try this was we never stopped to actually understand what was going on. What that was the been like, what that experience were the prophets a lot he sort of was like. So when we talk about the passing of the wife of the prophets a lot, he said, I want you to understand. This was his wife.
He had been married to the profits of the promises I'd been married to her for more than 25 years.
And to give a little bit of an idea of what 25 years means, raise your hand if you're under the age of 25.
All right. That's half the people in this room.
Half the people in this room are under the age of 25. I want you to imagine
that the prophets a lot of a sudden, had been married to Khadija the a lot more uncommon longer than half the people in this room have been alive.
What that must have been like to spend 25 years of your most personal intimate life experiences your most intimate moments with another human being to share with another person.
what that was like
how attached you are to that person, how much love there is between these two people, how well they know each other, they understand each other.
So she passed away, she died, he lost his wife, the love of his life,
his partner in life
for the trouble the other one is soulmate.
So imagine how tragic that is for a person. Then on top of that she's the children. She's a mother of his children.
Imagine having to look your children in the face small children, having to look them in the face and try to explain to them that their mother is not coming back. How painful how gut wrenching how heart wrenching. That would be
how difficult that can be. You know, you can only know that experience if you've been through it yourself.
I was giving a lecture one time. And a brother came up to me. I don't know what that's like me. I just want to protect all of us in our families.
The brother came up to me afterwards and said, you know what you talked about Really?
It really affected me. It really hit home for me. I said why? And he told me his own personal story.
He told me that about a year ago. He's young brother, probably about 30 years old.
He said about a year ago came home one day. And you know, he thought his wife was you know, they it was nap time when the kids would take a nap and his wife would also take a nap with the kids.
And after a while the kids woke up and he went to go check on the kids because he heard the kids were awake. And he found his wife was lying there. motionless. He was a doctor. He jumped right in and checked her and she had been dead for some time this past week.
And he told me about the effect that had on him.
Like how it just completely destroyed his world. He said for two weeks he didn't even get out of bed.
He just laid in bed just crying just feeling sorry for himself. Because nothing made sense. What was he supposed to do now? What was he supposed to tell his kids? Like what how was he supposed to move on with his life? It just completely tore him apart.
met another brother.
And he told me that
you know about he said actually five years ago he was there with his two sons 17 and 50
10 years old
you know Mashallah youth.
And he came up to me afterwards and said that what you talked about is exactly what I went through five years ago, I came home from work. You know, my sons were running around playing, doing what boys do.
And I went to my bedroom to check, you know, say Salaam to my wife, I didn't see her in the house. And I found her collapsed on the ground, and I checked her, she was dead,
said five years later.
And now me and my sons were just starting to recover from losing the most important person in our lives.
So imagine what that experience was, like from the profits.
How difficult and how painful that was.
She was his wife. She was the mother of his children. And from even from the perspective of prophethood, Nebraska, she was his first and most loyal supporter and follower. When the prophets a lot of them came back with divine revelation from the cave.
Khadija was a loved one who was the first person he spoke to.
When he was shaken up, she was unweld his hand and told him Don't worry, it's all going to be okay.
When he said, Okay, fine, Khadija I have no doubt about the message, I'm confident. But who's going to listen, who's going to accept this? You see, these people have Mako who's going to listen and accept this.
She was the one who said you're worried about somebody accepting this, believing in this eyeshadow, La Ilaha, Illallah, WA Chateau and Nicaragua.
She's the first one to accept Islam. Imagine losing her what that must have been like for the prophets.
The prophets are loving someone through this tragedy.
And then on top of that, Allah subhanaw taala, tested the Messenger of Allah ceylonese him and made him the most amazing role model and the best example possible by putting him through another test and another tragedy.
The scholars have seen I mentioned that about three months before or after the passing of Khadija la de la Mancha. All of this happened within six months.
Three months apart from the passing of Khadija body along with the uncle of the prophets, Alison of Abu Talib passed away.
Now, again, if we were to just talk about the story, like we talked about any other story, the uncle of the profits, a lot of a sudden passing away dying, then that's okay. That's sad. Somebody uncle dies. It's definitely sad. It's a family issue. But it doesn't, you know, it doesn't change your life.
And uncle is an uncle, somebody you see every now and somebody Of course, you have love for you feel bad that he passed away. But it's not like you lost your parents.
But again, we have to understand who this uncle was. This was not some ordinary uncle. This was a platonic.
This was the man who raised the profits a lot. who raised it.
I'm going to ask a series of questions. I like to call them Sunday school questions. All right, because there's stuff that we learned when we were kids at the masjid.
How old when did the father of the Prophet Solomon pass away?
Everybody.
Before he was before he was born, how old was the profits a lot, even when his mother passed away.
Six years old, the kids all know because they learned it. All right, six years old.
And who took care of the Prophet says him after his mother passed away.
His grandfather, then how old was a prophet salani, someone whose grandfather passed away,
eight years old.
And he had no biological siblings. He didn't have any brothers or sisters, from his parents.
I want you to try to put that together in your head in your heart. By the age of eight, this child had lost everyone never knew his father, mother is gone. Grandfather is gone and doesn't have any older brothers or sisters to take care of. He was alone in this world.
from a human perspective, he didn't have any family.
It was his uncle who took care of him at that time. I won't call it
bubble. Dali was an amazing person.
You know, when we talk about, you know, an uncle or someone like that taking in an orphan and caring for him. It's oftentimes kind of a sad story. They get abused, they're not treated well. They're not given proper food or a place to stay.
Or they didn't treat the prophets or something like that.
You know, a lot of times we say that he treated him like one of his own.
I will tell him didn't treat the process of like one of his own. He treated him better than he treated so
he would care for the person
So in such a way that he wouldn't even care for his own children, he would worry about the process of instead of audible.if, he wouldn't even need food. when he'd come home in the evening, and his wife would make him food, and he was a leader of his tribe, he was a very important man. He was like a city councilman of Mecca.
Right. So he's a very important man, and his sons and his family would all sit there and they're all waiting for the Father, the head of the household, who's a big person. He's a very important man. They're all sitting in waiting for him to come so that they can have dinner together. After he sits down that everybody sits down and they start eating dinner together. Except the problem was when I would come home in the evening, who would ask Where's Mohammed?
And he would refer to him as his son, you say, where's my boy? Where's my son?
And he would refuse to sit down and eat until he first saw that when his family would tell him No, no, don't worry, he already ate. Nope. Where's mama?
Where's my boy.
And then they would finally go and get the process that he was a little kid at 10 years old running around doing what kids do. Because finally fetch him they would go and get him. And he would come to Ableton Live. And he would say, son, have you eaten food? And so you're already a
kid?
So yeah, already, you say, Okay, okay, then he would sit down, and the family members would say, we told you that he already had to check on it. I can't eat. I physically, I can't eat until I know that Muhammad is he.
There is a beautiful narration in the Sierra, which talks about how, you know, I will talk about a very large family had many children.
And in the morning, what the procedure was, was that his wife, the mother, of the kids of the children, she would prepare a lot of food and she would kind of all put it together.
And she would set it down in the morning when the kids would wake up, and the kids would all run out. And they would all come and they were all grab food and they would get their food and they would eat and then they would go run along, go about their way start their day. And you know, when kids kind of do that sometimes, right? Anybody who has three, four kids knows what the scene is, like, put out some, you know, some food or some cokes and chips and things like that on the table. And there's bound to be a fight. There's always a fight. Right? Mommy will give me this and dad, he's doing this and oh, you took my coke. And, you know, everybody's like going at it with each
other. Right? So same thing would happen their children. Right? Sometimes. Same thing. When we talk about history. We present them like as if everybody walked out from the Yes, Father, what is for food this morning, right? Their kids, their children, so they run out and they're all grabbing food and they're all trying to eat. And so they're elbowing and they're pushing, and they're doing this, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu sallam, you know iNec, Allah, Allah, Who can have been, he had amazing character. The remarkable thing about the promises of cinema is, even as a small child, he had amazing character, he had this dignity about him, he had this respect that he carried himself
with. So he would oftentimes come in when the when the whole melee was going on, the whole fight was going on over food, the prophets, a lot of them would come quietly would stand on the side, wouldn't get in there, and push and shove and elbow and trying to get his food, he can stand quietly off to the side, and he would let you know, all the other kids kind of get their food and finish it up. And then he would come afterwards, and whatever was left, he would take and he would just sit down quietly when needed.
Abu Dhabi, the father used to be kind of sitting off to the side, you know, like a father in the morning sitting and reading the newspaper, he just kind of be sitting off to the side doing his own thing. And he notices. And so somehow a Buddha did his morning routine was that after his wife would cook the food for the kids, a bill Dolly would first go would get a little bit of food,
put it into you know, kind of take some food aside separately. And then he would set it aside with him on the side. And when all the kids would come and they would you know crash onto the food and the profits a lot of them again, the child would come and stand off to the side quietly wait for everybody to kind of finish the fight and then he go and get his food. He would then call the process and he said Come here, come here, come here
and then he would call the profits a lot easier than moving forward, come forward inshallah so we can make more room in the back. There's not just brothers there's also a lot of sisters coming in so we can make room for them and Sheldon
go ahead and fill into the frontier inshallah. So we can make some more.
So I will probably would have some food on the side and he would see the profits. A lot of them come and stand in the back and he would say, Come here, son come here.
And he would call the profits a lot is in Londonderry.
says that he would actually pick up the profits a lot. He said, um, he would sit him down in his own lap, and then he would give him the food and then he would feed him himself.
This is what I will call it meant to the profits a lot. So he was a man who raised him. He was his parents. He was his guardian. He was the one who raised him, he was his family.
He was everything to him.
And this man just passed away. It's like losing both your parents at the same time.
The man who raised you imagine losing him.
How tragic that must have been for the profits of Madison. Anybody who suffers the loss of a parent knows the pain of it.
The process of just lost the man who raised him the one who cared for him, I will
imagine the profound pain of the profits.
But within the death within the passing of butadiene, there was another tragedy that was embedded within it, that caused the province of some great personal anguish.
And according to the
books of Sierra,
we know that, that Abu Talib accepted Islam before he passed away.
He did.
I want you to understand what that meant to the Prophet. So
imagine you are the prophet in the Messenger of Allah.
You preach to all of humanity.
There are dozens, maybe hundreds of people benefiting from you taking the message from you, their lives are changing, changing, they're all hit on their paradises are being built through you. You're the one taking this message to them. And the man who raised you, the man who took care of you, the man who is your family.
Imagine him not being able to benefit from
your own family, the men that you care about more than anyone else more than anything else.
You know, again, I don't know this personally. But I have close friends and I asked them and they tell me
that when somebody accepts Islam, somebody takes the Shahada
when somebody accepts Islam, and their family like their parents have yet not yet accepted Islam. I have a couple of very close personal friends who accepted Islam and their parents haven't accepted Islam yet.
And they tell me that the last one they made before they go to sleep at night in the first round, they make it in the morning
all about Let this be the day.
Allah let today be the day that my parents set my family, the people I love so much. Let today be the day that they'll accept Islam. I still get text messages from my friends who are now grown up for Old Men like me now.
They have like their families and jobs and everything whenever like once a week or once every couple of weeks whenever they're going to spend the whole day with their parents.
I still get a text message in the morning
that bro I'm going to spend the day with my with my folks make do either Today's a day.
A long such a desire for your own family to benefit from this. Imagine what that must have been like for the profits.
There's actually a hadith or narration which talks about that situation.
It was a very, very old man
was a very elderly man.
And on top of that, he was very ill he was very sick before he died before he passed away.
So he had been bedridden for some time now. He's very ill like when you have an elderly like parent who's in and out of the hospital.
So he's been sick for quite some time.
The profits a lot he's him got the word. You know, I have a friend recently his mom has a lot of health issues going on.
I got a text message from him in the middle of the night. That they just called me from the hospital they said I need to come say my goodbyes.
And I showed up there to meet the friends and meet the brother and I could see him like he was visibly like shaking
because he realized he was about to say his final Salaam to his mother for the last time.
Like the pain and the anguish.
The Prophet of Allah sallallahu Sallam was given word looks like this is it for Abu Talib, now's your chance to come to the salon
to come and say your goodbyes.
The prophets a lot of some rushes to the bedside of herbal tonic.
And he sits down by the side of his bed holds his hand
tears in his eyes.
And he says uncle please.
Uncle You know how much I love you. Please
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to say it once. I know I know. I know you understand what I'm saying
to see once
the Shahada except the song.
The narration says that Abu Jamal and some of the other leaders of Croatia war against
The Prophet sallallaahu Selim, who did not want to accept Islam so that it wouldn't set a bad example in their minds, it would incur it would not say they didn't want to take something somewhere wouldn't encourage other people to accept Islam.
abou Jan started screaming loudly, the narration says, because I will tell he was an old man and he's sick, so he can already not hear too well. The process of his choked up and in tears.
So John's versus screen, I will call him. Don't forget the religion of your forefathers
screaming loudly over and over Can you imagine just screaming nonstop
to try to drown out the voice of the profits
so that the old man can understand what his nephews pleading with him.
And then I will tell him says to the promises and he says nephew, I can't understand I can't even hear what you're saying.
So the narration says that the prophet of Abbas Allah Bhagwati, who would send them
put his mouth to the ear of a platonic he touched his mouth to the ear of a colleague and whispered straight inside of his ear so that he could hear these, please.
Please, just once.
They don't have to hear. They don't have to know to say at once. I'll be your witness on the Day of Judgment, whispered into my ear on please. is crying, pleading with his uncle.
The narration says that I will finally tell the professor 70 goes nephew You know how much I love you.
But I can't do what you're asking me to do. I can't
and he passed away.
The narration says that when the prophet SAW some left the room when he exited the room, the Sahaba wrote a long line who say that we could see from the face of the process of he was crushed.
We could see the sadness, the grief the sorrow on his face. It was
he was sad. And an eye of the Quran was revealed at that time. In Nicoletta demon, Dr. Maha dementia was definitely you cannot you cannot guide those whom you have loved. Rather Allah guides whom He wills. This is not Allah reprimanding the prophets awesome. This was a luck consoling the Prophet of Allah ceylonese.
Because the narration says that the Prophet of Allah syllogism, was questioning himself. What more could I have said, What else could I have done? To try to make him understand?
Did I do everything that was in my capacity that I'm capable of?
And so Allah subhanaw taala told me,
it wasn't on you don't beat yourself up about it.
But the question that we reach it, and we'll break for select the motive, the question that we reach here is after going through tragedy upon tragedy upon tragedy like this, how does someone bounce back?
How does someone recover from this much pain from this much tragedy?
How was somebody able to come back from that?
Because going through even a bit of that would crush us completely, would emotionally just completely make us incapable? How was the profitsystem able to bounce back and how was he able to keep going on and keep moving on? inshallah wood will continue with the topic and we'll talk about what allowed the process to recover from such a huge personal tragedy. We'll talk about that after this after the page.