The Greatest Love story of all the times explained in detail.
Abdul Nasir Jangda – A Love Story, The Messenger Pbuh And Khadija
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The Islamic association of carrollton holds a webcast with participants, where they are asked to leave comments about the webcast. Khadija, a woman who was once a successful businessman and eventually passed away, talks about her past career and future business deals, including her past career and future business deals, the importance of marriage and family in society, and the upcoming wedding of the Prophet sallavi. She emphasizes the need for individuals to be aware of the challenges of marriage, including finding a partner who is a working business professional and has a strong passion for their partner. Best Buy is also highlighted as a positive source of marriage.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah who Allah Allah He was fbh Marine shala before we even get started, wanted to appreciate all the brothers and sisters that came out in person to attend the event and wanted to apologize to everybody tuning in online for the later start. We were mistaken. We thought that salata nyjah was still at 745. And time had switched to 8pm. So that was an oversight on our part, and I apologize for that. But under law, we're starting pretty much immediately after solid tonatiuh. So hopefully, you can still tune in and stay with us. inshallah, I wanted to start off by of course, welcoming everyone to the webcast by Quran Weekly,
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So the topic for today obviously, very appropriately titled was a love story, which we could call the ultimate love story. And it's, of course, in regards to the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam, the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him and his beloved wife, Khadija radi Allahu Allah, may Allah be pleased with her. I wanted to really keep this
a healthy balance between the obvious the presentation of the story I wanted to tell the actual story, so that we're able to really feel, you know, what the relationship was like, and how strong the emotions were, and the real presence of love, that we are able to learn from this beautiful story of the life of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, but at the same time wanted this to be beneficial in the capacity that everyone who is able to take home some knowledge, some beneficial information about the life of the Prophet sallallahu sallam.
So what I'd like to start off by presenting to you is a little bit of a snapshot of who these two individuals were. So first and foremost, we have Mohammed Abdullah Abdullah, Mohammed Abdullah, who was the son of Abu Talib sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was born in this great city of Mecca. He was born into an extremely noble family. His grandfather was of course a unified leader of Arabia, Abdulmutallab and his father was a very young, bright, intelligent, talented,
very sought after young men. by the name of Abdullah, he was the apple of his father's eye, he was very beloved to the entire family. And he passed away at a very, very young age, while his wife, Amina, was expecting their first and their only child who would be Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The prophets a lot of them, therefore was basically born a couple of months after the passing of his father. So he was born to a single mother, the prophets a lot SLM.
In spite of his father not being there, he always had a loving and a very positive presence male presence in his life primarily provided by his grandfather of the McDonald. Eventually the mother of the profits, a lot of them would also pass away when he was only six years old. But again, that did not lead to him being deprived of love, but he was loved by his grandfather,
unconditionally, his grandfather would not do anything without his beloved grandchild who he loves so much. And he had taken full responsibility for them. His grandfather would pass away two years after his mother passed away at the age of eight. And at this point in time, he didn't have any direct family members. His grandfather passed away his parents were gone. He didn't have any siblings.
But now he was in the care of his uncle Abu Talib, and I will call him loved him like one of his own. So again, there's a very interesting balance. The prophets a lot of them suffered the loss of these people very early on in his life, which without a doubt is tragic.
For an individual, but at the same time that did not deprive him of love, because the law always blessed him with a loving presence in his life. And he was raised by his uncle as one of his own. He loved him very, very much and looked after him. Now the prophets a lot of the time as he was growing into a young, mature man, He's unbelievable. Talib, who took care of him, was a very noble man, but was a very simple man when I say simple, I mean, of simple, humble means. He was not a very wealthy individual, because he was such an ethic, ethical and moral person, that he would not earn any money through unlawful means. And so he every penny that he earned was earned honestly. So because of that
he had a very financially tight situation. He was he wasn't very wealthy, did not have an abundance of wealth. And he had many, many children. On top of that he was caring for his nephew, Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now the prophets, Allah decent feeling this and realizing this wanted to help out at home. And so he asked, Can I go and get a job. Now, because of being from coration, Banu Hashim, a very respectable family in Makkah, it wasn't appropriate, it wasn't deemed appropriate for a young man of this lineage in this family to take some type of odd job. But rather, they said, there's only two jobs that are people are allowed to do our men are allowed to engage in,
we do business, but you're obviously too young to go and, you know, embark on business, and the profits a lot, SLM said that I want to start a business with my own money. Like, I'd like to come up with my own seed money. And since I don't have that right now, I don't feel comfortable borrowing or taking money from someone being a further burden on someone and starting a business. So he said, Well, there's only one other job that it's okay for people of our family to engage in. And that was to be a shepherd. Because shepherding wasn't just the job, shepherding was training, you learn being a shepherd. And the prophets, a lot of them later would actually tell us, every single prophet and
messenger that was sent at one point in time in their lives, served as a shepherd Shepherd animals,
and looked after animals, goats and sheep and livestock. And the benefit in that was that you learned how to care for a flock, you learned how to be patient, yet diligent. And so the prophets, a lot of them. So the Qureshi is understanding that this is a noble job, that in
teaches character. So the prophets, a lot of them started working as a shepherd, as a young man. And he continues on working, gathering up some money. And eventually he goes into the marketplace as a young man of 1819. He was about 1415 years old when he starts working as a young shepherd. And at the age of about 1819, he actually ventures into the marketplace, he's got a little bit of money to get started initially worked as a broker where he didn't have enough money to again, buy and sell goods. But what he was doing was that he was brokering deals between other merchants and businessmen, he would introduce buyers and sellers to one another, and get paid a commission, which
is hard work, but it's good work. And the profits, a lot of them started working in this manner. And he would immediately instantly became known for his honesty, and he developed a reputation for his integrity. And that's where that title started to develop a solid amine. Do you have anybody you'd recommend for me to hire as a broker for my merchandise? I just came back with a caravan full of all these goods from Syria from sham. Do you have anybody you'd recommend for me to hire as a as an agent who can help me find some buyers. And immediately they said, there's a young man, a Cheb, a sodic. I mean, there's a truthful, trustworthy, honorable young man that definitely would recommend.
And that was basically the prophets a lot. He said him. So he started engaging in this job in this in this work, and eventually led him to the point where now he's earned enough money to start buying and selling goods on his own. And now he was officially into the marketplace has a businessman. And he worked very, very diligently and he worked very hard. He became known for his hard working reputation, because again, he would never ever dare earn a single penny, in an unlawful means by undercutting somebody else's business by under selling or short selling someone. Never Never. So he worked hard, but he worked correctly. And he engaged in business in this manner until finally, he
received the business proposition.
And who do you receive a business proposition from? He received a business proposition from a woman by the name of Khadija bint hoilett. Now, let's switch on over and understand who this woman is, because we're going to pick up the story from here. So Khadija was a very again respected
A woman, she again came from nobility. She was from a very good family and Quraysh her father, who a lid was actually quite revered as a leader in Makkah, there's, there's a story that's narrated the the authenticity, the narration is a little weak. But nevertheless, it talks about the fact that there was an individual in Mecca,
who in one point in time due to some type of beef or some type of conflict that he had with some of the leaders of Quraysh. He basically wanted to * he wanted to steal the allegedly as what? The Blackstone that's the sacred relic that we have there in Makkah, the Kaaba. He wanted to rob that he wanted to steal that and take it to Yemen.
And some, some speculation is there that he was actually hired to do so. Now, when he was hired to do so, and he was about to set out on this plan, waited, the father of Khadija he grabbed a few individuals, and basically went there when they found out about his plan and stood guard there at the mcca said, No, no, no, absolutely not. We're not going to allow you to take this from the GABA, from Bay to LA Sharif, we're not going to let you take this and desecrate and violate vandalized the Kaaba. And they defended the Kaaba. So he was known for such acts of nobility and guarding the sanctity of the city of Mecca. So he's a very respectable man. And her uncle was also known as a
leader amongst his people, as well. And so now at this particular time, we're talking about this woman Khadija. So she was her mother was also from a family of nobility. She was from the lineage of Ahmedabad, Louie, Louie and her father was also from honorable noble lineage as well. And so she was born into this very respectable family, she grew up with a high level education, she was very cultured, very sophisticated, she was known to be very elegant, very beautiful, very sharply intelligent. And it said that she had been married twice before. She had been married twice before, unfortunately, or rather than in the sense, we can say fortunately, because it eventually led to the
profits, a lot of these sell them. But in either case, both of our previous husbands had actually passed away, she was widowed twice. So the reason why I say unfortunately, I must have obviously caused her a lot of pain to lose two of her husbands. And it's again mentioning loosely in some books of history, that she had three previous children. She had two sons from her very first husband, by the name of Hala, and Hindi, which were typically regarded or considered female names, feminine names, but nevertheless, she had two sons, and that was what her first husband,
Malik, Woody was known as he was known as Abu Hala. And then her second husband, she had a daughter from her second husband by the name of hinda. So holla hinden hinda. In either case, she's been widowed twice. And at this particular time, due to just what she inherited from her own father. There's some different narrations that say that her father was still alive. But most are more authentic narrations that her father had passed away. And her mother had passed away due to what she had inherited from her parents, and both of her husband who had also passed away, and then she had very intelligently because she was very, very intelligent. She had very sharply very intelligently
she had invested that money and started a business
and her business flourished. Allah subhanaw taala bless her business, and she eventually became a very wealthy woman, and she was known by titles in Makkah. Some of the folks of Mecca referred to her as the Princess of Makkah amela to Mecca Amira to polish, the Princess of Quraysh, some of them referred to as Khadija Al kubra, the great Khadija. So she was known by these different titles, and she was very, very well respected amongst her people, because not only just simply because of her wealth, wealth came later, she was primarily respected amongst the people because she was a intelligent, elegant woman of great ethics and morality. And so she was respected for a character
above everything else, and you're already starting to see some things line up. Now at this particular time. There's a little bit of a difference of narration, what do we typically know how old was Khadija? When she married the prophets a lot, he said when she came across the prophets of Salaam, how old was she 40 that's what the popular narration says. And that is an authentic narration. There are some other narrations that place our age a little bit younger, such as their generation from ignore a bus that says that she was 28 years old. Some say that she was 35 years old. In either case, the popular narration and the most widely accepted narration is that she was 40
years old at this particular time. Now she was looking to hire someone to go into business with she wasn't looking to hire an employee. She wanted to hire a partner mudaraba what is called in the Arabic language and
was actually preserved. This was the profits of lobbyists whose first experience in Moldova, and he actually later on decades later would preserve this as an Islamic practice and would encourage this type of business, because it is a very good equitable, fair type of conducting business. And that is, you go into a partnership instead of lending money and borrowing money from people and to people, because that's the system of usury and interest, which leads to either complete loss or complete gain on one side or the other. It's a high risk, high reward type of situation. And that's not that creates, oftentimes, more often than not, it creates suffering amongst people and creates
imbalance in the socio economic order. But metadata buys the type of business where you go into business together, one person might have money, the other person has the ability or the time, and they basically become partners in their business. And both will share the profits. And both will share to the losses. And so she was looking for a partner, and she was asking around, I need a partner, I want to partner, obviously, because of being a woman, I cannot go out and travel all the way to Sham and conduct my business myself. So I need somebody that's trustworthy, that isn't going to try to take advantage of me because I'm a woman back at home in Makkah, and is going to think
that he can rob me or that he can swindle me from my money. So I need somebody respectable. And she eventually was referred to Abu Talib, the uncle of the prophets a lot. So I'm not the uncle of the profits, a lot dissembled on him, was extremely protective of the profits, a lot of them and up till this point, he himself had had preferred that the profits a lot. He said, I'm not travel outside of mcca
without needing necessity, but the Abu Talib realizing that Mohammed is a grown man, now, he's 25 years old. He wants to go out and make a living and be a respectable businessman, and settle down and start a family. He actually tells Khadija, that if you are asking for references might seem a little biased, but you will never find anyone more trustworthy than my nephew asked around. And the second that she asked around, she immediately was told Mohamed, you mean Assad. I mean, the truth will lend to trustworthy.
And so she calls for a meeting with the prophets, a lot of the prophets, a lot of them goes to her. And they basically sit down and discuss the business proposition.
And they agree to the business terms, that the profits, a lot of them will go on her behalf as a partner.
And we'll go there, buy the goods and sell the goods or whatever, make whatever exchange of merchandise that needs to be done, and then come back with the profits. So now that he basically sets out, Khadija sends a servant of hers, by the name of Mesa on this business trip, just to kind of accompany him, help him out, give him a hand. And also just make sure everything is on the up and up. Not that she didn't trust the prophets a lot, he said, but at the same time, this is only intelligence, even the Quran tells us when you go into a business deal, then write down your contract, write down your terms, make a couple of witnesses now because I don't trust you that I'm
doing business with you. Obviously, I wouldn't do business with you if I didn't trust you that be foolish to do business with somebody you don't trust, but you document things you make witnesses. So similarly she sends a servant of hers. Now they go on this trip and it's a longer story, maybe another story for another day inshallah. But he sees a lot of very interesting things. Number one, he seizes integrity, he sees his honesty. Then he also witnesses some miraculous events where he sees clouds providing shade over his head, the profits a lot of them stops at a place and take shade under a tree. And then this monk wanders up and basically is like who is this man and Mesa da says
that's Mohammed diviner, Abdullah Al Rashid Al Hashimi as a man of Qureshi Abu Hashim by the name Muhammad, Hassan Abdullah. And he says, No, no, no, you're mistaken, because I have it written in Scripture, that the man that will sit down under the shade of this tree, at this particular point in time will actually be a profit of the last and the final times, will be the profit of last times. Nobody walks in as a man, and Mason was blown away and then he sees clouds providing shade over his head, and all these different miraculous things. He witnesses trees bending down to provide a shade over the profits a lot of the Sun while he's resting under the shade of a tree and the sun moves, so
the shade moves, but he sees the branches of the tree shifting to continue to provide shade for the profits a lot of the time, and Mesa was blown away.
Eventually they come back to Makkah and the profits, a lot of them has made twice the profit that Khadija the Allahu taala Anna has ever made on any of her business investments. And so she's equally impressed by just the sheer bizarre kind of blood
thing of this business transaction. Then she asks Mesa, what did you find? And he says, This is by far the most noble man I've ever dealt with.
I've never seen character like his, he is honest, he is trustworthy, he is considered he is caring, highly noble character. And then on top of that, he says, and by the way, between the two of us, I seen some unbelievable things.
Now, at this particular juncture,
some narrations mentioned that they actually did a couple of more business deals, because everybody's making money, why not? So they do a couple of more business deals and they've grown very comfortable and doing business together. And it's, it's profitable for both. There's a lot of trust. There's no fear of any, like cheating going on in terms of business. And so they continue doing business and eventually the narrations mentioned that one of Khadija or the laquanda Khadija one of her friends by the name of Nafisa,
one of Khadija, his friends by the name of Nafisa. All right, she comes to her deja, and she says, how's businessman going? And she says, never been better. It's amazing. Really? What? Why is it working out so well? You know, I found his business partner Mohammed young man, honest, noble, high character, amazing young men.
And it's just been, there's been nothing wrong, nothing to complain about. It's awesome.
So she says, you know how DJ, you've been single for quite some time now. It's been a while since your second husband passed away.
You You need to get remarried. You need to think about getting married again. And what I should mention on the side here is that because of Khadija radi Allahu taala and her being who she was. She was extremely sought after she was receiving proposals every single day.
At the same time, on the other side of the profits, a lot of them they're actually the books of Sierra in his heart. I'll work at many, many historians, scholars of the Sierra the prophetic biography mentioned, even the prophets, a lot of them was receiving marriage proposal now. He's a young man, great character, noble character comes from a great background.
And now he's very successful in business. He's doing well making money. He was receiving marriage proposals as well. And his heart just wasn't settled with any one of the proposals he was receiving. So every day it was almost, and there's even an aeration wearable. taalib kinda has to talk with him, too. He's like, you keep turning down proposals. Come on, man. You're making my life difficult. They're breaking my door down.
Come on, you got to say yes. And so now they're both receiving marriage proposals in here. Howdy, just friend Nafisa says, What do you got to think about getting married? And she's like, yeah, you know, I have thought about it. I just just, it'll take the right person. Listen, I've been there twice.
It would have to be the right person.
And so now her friend Nafisa says that what about Muhammad?
And Hadith aradia. laquanda responds by saying, You know what?
I've actually been considering it as well.
It seems like it would make for a very, very good proposal.
And in fact, some of some of what she says to her friend, Nafisa, what Khadija says to a friend who's suggesting the proposal from the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. Some of that is actually mentioned in the narrations as well.
That she says that I have thought about him.
I not I know not only him, but I know his family as well. He is extremely well respected amongst his people. Well, Amanda, to who his honesty and trustworthy trustworthiness is well known for his new quality he, his beautiful character, is witnessed and experienced by everyone was said that they had easy he, he's always honest and noble in his speech.
And so I don't find, you know, this, this would be an ideal proposal.
But how do I go about doing this?
So her friend says, Let me handle this. All right, this is the first matchmaking Auntie of all time, okay. Everybody knows what I'm talking about. It's the first matchmaking Auntie in the history of Islam, okay. All right. So she says, Let me handle this. I got this. So she goes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she says,
Have you considered Khadija
and she says that
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ratio seven. She comes from a very, very noble family. What are the Mona Sharon? She is one of the most dignified and honorable of the women of Quraysh.
She is blessed by Allah subhanho wa Taala with numerous blessings in her life in her life.
Would you consider a proposal from Khadija and the prophets a lot? He says, of course, what better proposal could there be than someone like Khadija, the nobility of Khadija, the character of Khadija, the integrity of Khadija, so the prophets allottee. Some says, I need to go and talk to my uncle about this, I need to go and consult with him.
And so you find the balance here the profits, a lot of them is a man a lot of times, you know, we deal with this marriage situation, where we got these 25 year old mommies boys who can't even wash their own, like socks themselves. The problem is awesome is a man. All right. He's been working since the age of 14, he's been shepherding sheep and goats. He's been running around in the marketplace as a broker, he started off investing very, very small and buying little merchandise and selling it here and there. He's built himself up from scratch, and he's supporting his uncle and helping his uncle out financially. So don't get this wrong. In fact, in fact, the profits a lot of
them very soon would even take the youngest child of his uncle, who lived and raised him himself to ease his uncle's load. So he's a man don't get that mistaken. But at the same time, a man being a man also means that he respects and recognizes the fact that my uncle, both my parents were gone. And my uncle raised me since the age of eight, and looked after me, like one of his own cared for me more than he cared for his own children. I'm going to go and just go off and get married and show up one day and be like, guess what? Surprise, surprise, like, No, that doesn't work that way. I have to consult with him, I have to talk to him. You know, like we say, quote, unquote, get his blessing.
You know, talk to him, consult with him. shuda. Get his advice, his counsel, he's got wisdom. He's got knowledge. He's got experience. And more than than everything, he loves me. He loves me so much like a child of his own. And so he goes to his uncle Abu Talib. And he says, Yeah, me. My dear, beloved uncle. This proposal from Khadija has come to me. And we'll call him again, says it's a great proposal.
And so now he says, we need to make this official.
So Abu Talib and generations mentioned that hums out of the Allahu taala. And who was there as well, the uncle of the prophets a lot. He's someone who's also his milk Brother, brother through raba. He was nurse, they were nursed by the same woman through labor, the slaves that used to belong to Abu lahab. So Hamza are the Allahu taala. And who is with them as well, because he was an uncle to the Prophet system. But they were very close in age. They grew up together. So he was kind of like that young, cool uncle of the prophets a lot he sent him who was also very protective of the Prophet system, kind of like as a younger brother. So Hamza in Abu Talib, they go, some narrations even
mentioned that Ibis is also there, another uncle of the prophets a lot he saw them, and they go to the uncle of Khadija. And they basically, officially properly respectfully propose, here's our young man, Muhammad, who would like to marry your niece, and this respectable woman of your family, Khadija.
And they all agreed to the proposal, and they decide to go ahead and get married. And some of the narrations mentioned that the prophets allottee some, however,
doesn't hesitate in regards to the proposal but says, You know, I need a little bit of time to kind of get some things ready for marriage, financial responsibilities, respectfully, I need to present a mother, a marriage gift to my wife. So doc Mahathir, right, so I'm going to need some time to get ready, and Khadija are the Allahu taala. On her says, none of that is necessary.
We don't need any of that. None of these fancy schmancy business
what we're looking for is happiness, to share a life together.
And so they are able to expedite the marriage, right? young people want to get married, you want to get married quick, you want to get married fast, then stop thinking about doing that, you know, $80,000 wedding, and you can absolutely get married quick and you can get married fast. All right, so do what's within your grasp in your control. We don't want to sacrifice that. So the profits, a lot of these are the Allahu talana fix a date for marriage very soon. And they get together, and the profits algorithm presents the malherbe the sadhak of 20 camels and 20 camels isn't nothing to really scoff at. So again, there's that fine balance in the life of the prophets. A lot of them were
it's not extravagant.
It's not extravagant, but at the same time, he's not a he's not, you know, cheapening out over here either. 20 camels, young camels, which basically, I don't even know how to estimate it, but you
Probably priced at at at least $20,000.
So that's a matter of the product that he offers very respectable. Because you also have to identify who you are, where you're at in life and also who you're proposing to who you're trying to marry.
And so he offers this as the method as a gift, and they get together and then they basically have a feast, where the official marriage proposal, the job in the pool, right where he proposes, and she accepts the proposal. All of that is done and conducted. Some narrations mentioned that it was the uncle of Khadija who oversaw the marriage, I'm out and some narrations mentioned that it was actually the brother of Khadija radi Allahu taala. Allah who oversaw the marriage and basically accepted the marriage proposal and kind of gave Khadija away in marriage into the marriage of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So there's narrations of both effects. In this situation,
there's a very, I don't know there's there's a very interesting narration that talks about but it's it's declared as being weak by a lot of the scholars because the
the father of Khadija radi Allahu anhu, a lid, it's established that he had passed away before this time. But there's a narration that talks about that when they do actually get together for the wedding. And her father's there to give her away, give her hand in marriage to the prophets a lot. He said them that during the party or whatever, he becomes intoxicated, and after a while he see kind of passes out wakes up and sees a party going on. He's like, what's this party going on? Like, your daughter just got married. And he's like, I don't remember marrying my daughter off. And they're like you just did. And so then the profits allowed him comes to talk to him. And then he's
like, well, I don't remember doing it. But even if I didn't, All right, now you're married. So it's just an interesting story that basically everybody's got in law drama, okay. It's not something new. Even the profits, a lot of them had to deal with a little bit of drama from his in laws, but it's a weak narration. So either way, either the uncle of Khadija rhodiola Juan Hmm, I'm going to have no asset Excuse me, I'm gonna have no I said, gives her away in marriage, or that it was her brother who gives her away into the marriage
of the he gives her away into the marriage of the profits a lot he sent him. So now they basically get married and they settle down with a family, they start a family together.
Now let me I'm going to tell you two things about the next part of their life before we transition on to the major event, of course of their life that they did together that they conducted together. So I'm going to tell you two things about this next phase of their life. Number one, is that they were married very happily, very, you know, they enjoyed nothing but happiness and good times, for their entire marriage of 25 years. They were married for 25 years. And we're gonna gonna we're going to go through those 25 years and understand what happened in the course of 25 years. The first 10 years, the first 10 years.
One very fascinating thing from the life of the prophets a lot he said them, when you read the books of Sierra and I'm talking about the most classical, the most detailed, the most detail oriented, most authoritative books of the prophetic biography when you read them, you read about the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him getting married at the age of 25.
But then, something remarkable something very interesting happens. The next major historical event that is recorded in the life of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is at the age of 35.
And that event is when the Quraysh there was a flood in Mecca, and the Kaaba was somewhat damaged. And they needed to renovate the Kaaba, the beta law, the Sacred House of God in Mecca. The renovation of the Kaaba, in which we know the prophets a lot even played a major role correct. For those who might not remember will quickly once they're renovating the cabin, they get it all together and put together and everything's good to go. Now they need to put the Blackstone digital password back into its proper place.
Now a dispute breaks out, well, who's going to have the honor of doing so?
So they're arguing they're fighting the different families are saying we get it, we get it, and everyone's getting bent out of shape. And some people are about to draw their sword some people are starting to push and shove each other yell and scream at each other. Everyone wants this honor of holding the black stone in their hands and putting it back into their place for God knows how long
it's been centuries. It's been generations since Alhaji last word was last moved. Because the renovation had been done for a very long time, a few generations.
So now this dispute is breaking out. So what do they do? How do you go about handling this situation?
So finally, some narrations even say that somebody had a dream.
And some narration say that it was just kind of occurred to somebody, a wise old man who said that all right, this is what we're gonna do. This is not going to get settled between us. Everyone's going to keep fighting. It's not the way to do this. The next person that walks through that door
to narrations one nation says he will put put it back into place. Secondary nation says he will decide who will put it back into place.
All right, so they're all basically now sitting there.
You know, just
biting their nails, cracking their knuckles, they're all nervous and fidgety, who's gonna walk through that door and everybody's hoping that some moron doesn't walk through the door.
And next thing you know the best case scenario, Mohammed Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam walks through that door.
And the narration mentions when the prophets a lot, he said walks through the door. Everybody inside the Kaaba just let out a sigh of relief. They were like, Oh, thank god who that was a close one. Right? Good thing it was not a boo, gentle guy, right? So
everybody's relieved. Like man, good, good thing it was him.
And so then they're like, they rush up to the profits a lot in the province that someone's coming for his daily throw off of the GABA where you would come due to offer on the Kaaba, just meditate, connect with the Kaaba think on, you know, just life and all of its realities and its truths. And so they all surround him, they all huddle up around him. He's like, what's going on? So, you know, we've been doing the Renault, the renovation of the Kaaba, and he's like, yeah, it's like, well, we need to find a way to put this stone back into place. And eventually, to summarize the profits a lot. He some suggests a beautiful plan, he takes his own shawl, his own blessing shawl, and he says,
hold corner, the corners of it, put the stone he picks up the stone and puts it in the middle of the shrine, he says, Now lift up the shawl all the way up to where the stone is placed. And then he picks it up with his blessing hands, and he puts it into place and everyone's happy, and everything's good to go. That happened when he was 35 years old, 10 years after he was married.
The interesting thing to me
is that at 25, he gets married, then there's no major events. And when I say major event, of course you received Prophethood revelation at 40. So I'm not talking about revelation, but I'm talking about in terms of maybe something in the community, something major event in terms of business or life or community or politics or something. There's no other major events recorded for a decade.
And we know the profits, a lot of them is intelligent, talented, respected, sought after for all different types of roles in his community. Then why is he not majorly involved in any type of endeavor in his community for 10 years? Well, because he was involved in the most important task, and that was building a home and building a family.
He has just gotten married. He was spending time with his wife. They were having kids. They were raising a family. They were raising beautiful children.
I mean, we talk about Zainab animal costume, and Rokia and Fatima radi Allahu taala on hoonah.
Right, we talk about these noble illustrious women.
They just materialize out of thin air.
But they weren't the product of prophetic tarbiyah
the prophetic upbringing
so he spent time with his kids.
He sat with his kids, he played with his kids. He fed his kids tuck them in at night. Talk to them spoke to them played with them.
That's what the prophets a lot of them invested a decade of his life into.
See when the prophets allowed him and he noticed divine revelation is given at 40. And most of his kids are grown up at that time.
And the prophets, a lot of them especially in the Medina era, where now he's an elderly man, his children are all grown up all married. He's got grandchildren now. And we see the emphasis that he places on family all the time.
talks about the importance of marriage, the rights of the spouse, raising your children spending time at home, being a good family person. Look at the gala comfy rasulillah he was sweating Hashanah. He didn't just he didn't preach without practicing Well,
he led by example. He had raised a beautiful family focused on his family and his children and then he preached to the community do the same.
So it's very important to understand this time of the prophets a lot isms life. So now the next
15 years of his marriage from the time of when he was 25 years old, the 15 years of their marriage life together Muhammad and Khadija radi Allahu taala and Houma. All right. They had six children during this time.
six children, the first of their children was a boy by the name of Al Qasim. And that's where the kunia, the nickname of the prophets, a lot of abou costume comes from.
Again, very tragically, Qasim reached the age of a year and basically passed away before his second birthday.
So it was a very tragic loss for this, this couple.
Secondly, they had a daughter by the name of Xena, who live who grew up and lived a full life she got married, she had children, etc.
Their third child, second daughter was by the name of Lucasfilm, who would later on be married to the famous halifa Companion of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him by the name of Earth man and what I found are the Allahu Allah be pleased with him.
The third daughter and fourth child that they had was a girl by the name of Rokia, they named Rukia.
And she would also grow up. And after all, muku would pass away very tragically, very young, she would fall very ill and she would die, then ruqayyah would become would be married later on to Earth, madam Norfolk.
And then their fifth child, their fourth daughter, was a girl by the name of Fatima,
Fatima, who again was the only child of the prophets, a lot of them who outlived him. And she passed away six months after he passed away.
And she would have children she would have two sons by the name of Hassan, and Hussein or the Allahu taala, and Homer. And they would be just the heart and soul of the prophets a lot to him, he loved them so much.
And then finally, his sixth child, which was his second son, was the name of was by the name of Abdullah.
Abdullah, a lot of times there's confusion. Some historian, some writers of this era have said that the prophets a lot of them had another son from Khadija third son with Khadija by the name of Paul Hill. And that's actually a mistake because Abdullah he was known by the nickname of a thought. And the reason why he was called barrhead was he was born after revelation came.
He was born after revelation came. And so that's why he was known as a thought hit. That he was born in the era of Revelation. And he also passed away very, very young seminarians even mentioned that he was he passed away while still an infant. And again, it was very tragic for them. The prophets, a lot of them did have a seventh child, a third son, who would also pass away while he was still young, by the name of Ibrahim, but that would be later on from another one of his spouses from another one of his wives, mighty of cryptopia. So this, this, these were the six children that him and Khadija had together. And they had two sons, four daughters, both sons passed away very, very
youngest babies, and the four daughters would outlive their mother Khadija.
Now the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam reaches the age of about, you can say 38 or 39.
And they've built a beautiful home and they they have a beautiful family.
This couple has grown together deeply in love. There are some narrations that talk about the Khadija that she never, they never argued they never fought.
They never had any difficulty or adversity with one another.
It was peace and happiness, love and affection, kindness and mercy and forgiveness.
And when he reached the age of 3839, the prophets a lot of the some had a very interesting experience.
He started to see dreams at night, he
started to have dreams at night.
And what would happen is the next day, the dream would come true.
Like whatever you saw in his dream would occur in the next day. And then so the first time you're like, Okay, then the second time, third time, fourth time, and it became a daily event, someone saw that he just expected it.
I wrote Yeah, I saw that. And that was to get him to just kind of trust his heart.
To be comfortable with having knowledge with being given knowledge that was not available, was not possible to be attained anywhere else.
And once that started to happen, then he really started to reflect and deep thinking very, you know, think very
deeply
and that's when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam decided, I need to kind of get some time away. I need some time to reflect,
I need some time to just invest, and to do some deep thought, deep reflection, get away from the noise.
And that's when he tells his wife angemon telling her I have these dreams, and whatever I see comes true the next day. And she tells him, don't worry, just trust your heart. Everything has a purpose and a reason.
I forgot to mention one thing, very interesting thing. When she receives a proposal from the profits a lot of someone that old proposal happened. Back then 15 years before this conversation, she saw a dream. So first, her serving Mesa tells her that I saw these miraculous things, clouds providing shade trees providing shade is mom saying what he said. And then she saw a dream
that she walks out of her out of her home into the courtyard of her house. So there's kind of like an open space almost like a front yard. But the front yard would have the wall around it so that you would have privacy. So she walks out of the home out of the door into the courtyard. And she sees that the sun descends down into her into the courtyard and fills her entire home with light.
And this is right around the time when she receives a report from her servant about the prophets a lot. He's him and what he was like on the business trip. So she goes to her cousin by the name of what acaba nofal, who is a Bible scholar. He was one of the few people amongst the Arabs who was knowledgeable about the Bible. He was Christian, you know, Bible scholar, and he was actually translating the Bible into Arabic, and trying to preach Christianity amongst the Arab tribes. So he comes, she goes to him, and she says, you know about some of this type of stuff. This is the report I got about this man I've been doing business with, and then I see this dream. And now I've got a
marriage proposal from him as well. I just need to consult with you.
And that's when Wanaka nofal says that. If the monk said that about him, then that means that he is destined to become that Prophet of the Last Times. And this is just the dream that you out of the sun, descending down into your courtyard and filling your home with light. That is a sign of great blessing, divine blessing coming into your home, say yes to the proposal. So you can't forget the fact that that's in the mind of God, God, Allahu taala. Anna, she's ready to support her husband. So now he tells her, I'm having these dreams. And she says, it's all good. It's all for a purpose. Just trust, what's going on.
Then he comes around and tells her I need some time to reflect to think I need to get away for a little bit. And she says, absolutely. How long do you need to go for at least a couple of days, I'm going to go find a nice spot in the mountains not too far away. But I need a secluded nice spot where I can go in I can reflect, she packs them together some food, some supplies some clothes, and sends them off very lovingly. And the profits a lot of the same goes outside of Macau finds a mountain by the name of New Japan mood. And then he finds a small cave by the name of hate or Hara. And he actually chose that spot because when he sat at the mouth of the cave, he could see the Kaaba
from there.
And he sits down and he begins to meditate and reflect and pray and think over here.
And it would be gone for a few days at a time. And he would come back down and go back home, spend a few weeks at home a month or so at home and pack up some stuff and then go again. And this way he would kind of come and go take a few days here and there. One time I mentioned that he was gone. And Khadija helped him pack the stuff that he was taking. So she knew exactly how much food he add. And when they go when he goes she realizes that he's been gone longer than what he had food for.
So she packed some food and some supplies together. And she actually goes outside of Makkah and climbs up the mountain and the profits a lot. He's me sitting at the opening of the gate, and he sees it he says What are you doing here? And she says I got worried about you. I want to make sure that you are okay. I brought some food for you.
So this is what their relationship was like one of understanding and facilitating and providing an accommodating one another.
So we know that blessed day when the prophets a lot him receives divine revelation.
And so now the prophets a lot a solemn comes back down from the cave.
And he comes home and he's shaking and trembling, overwhelmed by this profound experience.
unlike anything any a human being has ever experienced. There has been there have been many a messenger and prophet before him, but he just received the Quran
most powerful
In sending human beings ever at so he's overwhelmed shaking and trembling.
And he comes home and he tells his beloved wife, Khadija rhodiola and her dusty Rooney Duffy Rooney, zombie Louisa Milani Cover me, wrap me up in a blanket in a shawl.
The Allahu taala on ha wraps him up and covers him up.
And then she asks him that tell me what happened.
Tell me what happened. And the prophets a lot ism tells her the entire experience
that is Angel, he came to me
and he said the following words to me and he recites the grantor and tells him of the Divine responsibility that has been placed on his shoulder.
Khadija radi Allahu taala Anna, the wife of the Prophet sallallahu sallam,
and we see what marriage what it really culminated.
She sits down next to him. She takes his hand.
She looks him in the eyes.
And this is what she says to him. This is how she defines 15 years of marriage.
six children later,
the death of two of those children.
everything they've been through,
listen to what she has to say.
This is her summary of her husband.
czar she explains and defines him.
She says Kela voila, he
she has absolutely nothing to worry about. I swear to God, lie you Zika Allahu abuddin. God will never ruin you. He will never abandon you.
Why am I so confident in saying this?
What do I know about you? After 15 years of sharing morning and evening, day and night
after sharing a life with you.
What can I say about you? In Nicoletta Salah Rahim
in Naka, La Silla Rahim.
You're good family, man. You take care of your family, you love your family.
What to carry water, carry a beef.
You honor your guest. Somebody shows up at your doorstep, you go above and beyond
any type of social obligation
to honor somebody who comes at your door.
What color
you look for people, you look for people, you go out searching for people who have fallen through the cracks, who are overlooked and neglected and downtrodden by society and you go and you grab them by the hand and lift them back up.
What taxable or do you go and give to those people? Who Can't you take care of those people can take care of themselves. You look for those people. What's your in Orlando even?
And you are always the first one waiting there. Whenever there's a good cause, that's who you are.
There's no way that God would ever abandon you, that God would ever forsake you. I refuse to believe it. Think about the conviction she has. What is her husband telling her
and think about his honesty and his character and his integrity and his nobility.
That she would literally she would follow him to the moon.
She would trust him no matter what.
And that she said that. I have no doubts about the fact that this is the truth. And that this is good, because this is who you are.
And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
tells her that's fine, but who will believe this message?
And she says I believe this message, a shadow a lie in the lower shadow Anika Rasulullah.
And then she even helps him. However she can whatever she knows. She takes him to her cousin what acaba nofal. She said he knows he talks about this type of stuff. He talks about profits, and revelation and angels and God and divine inspiration. He talks about this stuff.
I'll do what I can. And she takes the profits a lot of these into her cousin and introduces them and the profits a lot. He talks to what a carbon nofal and he says you are the Prophet.
I wish I could be there when your people will oppose you. I would help you and I would aid you and I would support you and I would
Stand by your side if that day would come. And that's why what are called be nofal is considered a believer. He said yes, you are the prophet of God. This is the truth.
Now what happens at this particular point in juncture
something very, very beautiful. The prophets Allah He sent him all right, Allah subhanaw taala provided the prophets a lot of them away. A means to be comfortable with the responsibility and the message that he was given to find some strength and some conviction to strengthen and nourish his soul. And the Quran definitely is nourishment for the soul. But something the prophets Allah asylums himself could engage in something he could access to provide him comfort when he was looking for when he needed it most. And so gibreel the angel Gabriel jabril comes to the prophets a lot he seldom takes him with him strikes the earth, a springs comes forth from the earth and he says this
is from the well of Zamzam. This is an offshoot a branch of the well of Zamzam being provided for you here so that and then he shows him will do gibreel Allison shows the profits, a lot of them will do and then the profits a lot of them makes will do. And then jibberish stands up and shows them how to pray to cause this before the five times daily prayer, just how to pray to the cause, so that he can talk to a lion pray when he needs it. Either Hazara bajo de la sala, whenever any situation came up, he would immediately go to his prayer. Guess what the prophets a lot he some does, with this new Salah this will do this purification in this prayer that he just learned, he rushes back home to his
beloved wife.
The first believer, his strongest supporter, his rock, he goes home to her, and he grabs her by the hand and he says, Come on, I have to share something with you. I have to show you something amazing.
And he takes her there, and they make will do together.
And then he stands up with her and he says now follow after me. And he shows her how to pray and they pray together.
And it is that day. Later that night,
when they are actually standing and praying together. When the nephew of the prophets a lot isn't the son of that uncle who cared for him his entire life and raised him. I will call him his son Ali. Vitali, bro, the Allahu taala on who? He's a young boy, a young man at the age of 10. He sees them praying these his mother Muhammad, What are y'all doing? And the prophets, a lot of him explained to him, What is he man and what are we doing?
And he accepts the Psalm and becomes Muslim. And there's an aeration about a man who would later on become Muslim. He says, I came into very early early days,
the very early days.
And outside of the house of the prophets a lot. He said them, I saw this man is a handsome men. He comes and stands.
And then this young boy come and stands next to him. And then this very dignified woman she comes in, she stands behind them. And then he raises his hands and ties his hands and they do the same. And then he goes into record and do they do the same. And then he goes into sujood prostration puts his face on the ground, and they do the same and I'm watching this and I'm just amazed.
And I asked my host whose name was Ibis, the uncle of the prophets a lot of time I say Wait, what's that?
That's amazing. What is that? says you know that is says no, because that's my nephew Mohammed.
She's you know that woman is he says no, it's that's his wife Khadija. And that boy, that's that's my nephew.
That's my nephew. Excuse me. I refer to Allie is not the nephew of the person, the cousin of the producer. Our boss says that that's my nephew, ie the son of Abu Talib, my older brother.
And they prayed together as a family.
And from that point on her deja radi Allahu taala and her stood by the side of the prophets, Allah Lisa.
And every single time the prophets who loves him had a difficult experience when he stood up on the mountain of Safa and the then Abu lahab, you know, curses him and talks bad about him and says rude and crude thinks them, it was Khadija that the prophets a lot of him could go home to and that he could talk to and that he could confide in and that he could see comfort in. And not only did he see love in her eyes, but he saw faith in her eyes.
And that reaffirmed the strength and the conviction of the prophets allottee Center.
This is what the prophets A lot of us have alluded to when he said that somebody who gets married,
forgot the stock Milan is funny man that person has completed half their faith
when
Marriage and faith are intertwined.
And your faith your unified collective together, the faith that you share your unified collected faith, collective faith in a law strengthens your love for one another and your faith, your love for one another continues to unify you in your devotion and dedication to Allah. That was the marriage of the prophet SAW someone Khadija. That's that love story.
And so, now what happens? Hadith are the Allahu talana. And the prophets, a lot of them had money had wealth.
And they realize that many poor people in Makkah slaves in Mecca, are accepting Islam, and they start spending their money, the profits, a lot of them can't take out time anymore to go on business trips, and go and make more money he's got to preach, he's got to teach. She's got to spread the message far and wide. And Khadija every single morning, wakes up
and is standing there with him at the door, telling him go out there and spread this message far and wide.
And on top of that, on the other side, while he can go out and do business anymore.
There are constantly slaves who need free,
who become Muslim and are being tortured because they're Muslim. So they need to be freed.
So they're spending their own money freeing the slaves, feeding the poor looking after people sending people off to Habesha to East Africa, to escape persecution to go and live there in freedom and in safety. They spend their money in sending these people off making sure they're okay.
Finally, the time comes where eventually a lot happens during this time. Over the next six, seven years, a lot happens.
And they finally the McKinsey Quraysh the opposition to the message of the profits a lot of them, they decide that the only way to really handle incurved this issue
is to
boycott Muhammad, his family and his followers and his supporters.
kick them out from Mecca and isolate them and boycott them.
So Abu Talib rounds up the clan. All the believers all the followers all the supporters, including the prophets, a lot of his beloved wife Khadija and their children
and they go into the Shiba, Vitaly
a place some property some landable Taliban outside of Makkah.
And they are isolated there for three years. Nobody will do business with them. Nobody will trade with them. Nobody will lend them any money. Nobody will provide them any food. Nobody will deal with them in any way, shape, or form. Nobody will show them any kindness. And they spend three years like this. days would go by where people wouldn't have food to eat and water to drink.
Babies would cry because they were hungry and their mothers would cry because they hadn't eaten anything to be able to nurse their babies. children died babies died there were graves of babies and children.
Many many people died during this time. Dozens of graves were dug. During this time. The cries in the screams of women crying over the passing of babies and children could be heard all the way into Makkah.
People became sick, malnourished, very very ill.
Until finally through again the help of a loss Portela miraculous means the boycott was lifted. And everybody came back into Makkah. And it said that during this time Khadija who was a lot older now, she came she became very sick and very ill.
And they came back from this boycott in the share of ob Talib and she passed away a few months later.
And that harshness of those three years.
Not just the physical hardness, harshness, but the emotional difficulty watching these people struggle, caring for them, loving them. He was like a mother to all of them.
Her heart just couldn't bear it.
And a couple of months later, she was bedridden for a few months.
And the profits alarmism was so distraught this entire time.
Until finally one day she breathed her last and she passed away.
You know,
a real tragedy for us, is when we read see it all when we talk about the life of the prophets, a lot of them, we jump straight from the death of Khadija right into his marriage to Isaiah, and in his marriage to soda.
There are narrations which talk about the fact that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was so devastated. He's a single father.
Two of his daughters are not married.
Fatima was quite young. She's a young girl.
She was maybe 810 12 years old.
And he was so devastated at the loss of his beloved wife Khadija, he actually didn't come out of his home to sat at home with his daughter recovering.
Morning, healing.
For a few days, he was not seen outside.
And when his family members came to see him,
you could see that the streaks of tears on his face
hugging his daughter sitting there
trying to console his daughter at the loss of her mother that had said that even Abu lahab came to the door he heard the profits are some has not come outside for a few days.
That he comes to the door of the profits a lot of a sudden
and knocks the door when the profits are some opens the door and he sees the face of the profit center. Abu lahab, who's actively been campaigning against the profits a lot isn't for a decade.
He sees the face of the prophets a lot. He said them and he feels bad. And he goes and he says I'm not going to pose my nephew anymore.
Eventually, some of his cronies and his supporters and his troublemaking buddies, they eventually come to him and talk him out of it. And he goes back on this oath that he took and goes right back to opposing the profits a lot a seller. But even his heart was softened even for a minute a man like a Bula even his heart was softened. When he looked at the pain and the anguish on the face of it also lies a lot. He said, he loved her so much.
And so yes, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did eventually get remarried.
A couple of years later,
and yes, the prophets allottees him eventually left Mecca and migrated to Medina.
And yes, eventually he established the most beautiful community this earth has ever seen.
And yes, one eventually he had grandchildren
and laughed again and smiled again and had a beautiful experience and happiness and joy in his life.
But you know, something very interesting.
He never forgot Khadija
never forgot Khadija.
Never
four years after she passed away.
Four years after she passed away.
It was the Battle of blood. So longer story. But basically
his son in law was one of one of the prisoners of war. He had come into battle on the opposition side and he was captured. So his daughter eldest daughter, Zainab sends her necklace to secure the ransom of her husband.
The profits a lot of him was unaware of a lot of this situation.
When the necklace is put before him, he sees that necklace and immediately knows where he's seen it before. This is Khadija his necklace
that she passed on to her daughter, her eldest daughters aina.
And the second the prophets, a lot of them sees that necklace.
Tears are streaming down his face immediately on contact.
And the people around him are so taken aback by the immediate you know onslaught just a rush of emotions that the Prophet says it makes is experiencing some of them begin to apologize and ask Is everything okay?
And the prophet SAW some says you guys did nothing.
I just recognize this necklace belongs to my Khadija.
She gave it to our daughters aina
and seeing this necklace reminds me of her.
And of course the prophets awesome requested the companions. If you don't mind, we'll release my son in law and send this necklace back to my daughter because that's all she's got of her mother Khadija
seeing her necklace four years later,
would make him cry like that.
One time the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is sitting at home
and somebody brings a gift.
And the prophet SAW Selim immediately tells one of the young Sahaba who used to like a system
they would you know, help the officer run his errands and things like that. One of his young assistants, he tells them all right, I need you to take this
gift to such and such woman's house
and some of the family
Members of the prophet SAW Some are like Who's that? Such a nice gift? somebody sends it for you and you send it to? Like, we're not sure. I mean, is there some, somebody we don't know about? Like just Are you related somebody we're not aware of? They sincerely are asking. And he says no, that's one of his friends.
I still like to send her gifts to respect her DJ memory, to honor her memory.
When you would sacrifice an animal like bring some meat into the house or you know, cook some nice some nice food was cooked in the home of the Prophet says immediately would take some insight and say, Go give this a Khadija his friends,
go take some food to them.
Once I'm the profits, a lot of them is sitting at home.
And he hears a knock.
And it's a very distinct type of knock. And sometimes some people just kind of have to have a habit of knocking in a particular way. Like my kids, when they come to the door. They have a very particular way of ringing the doorbell. It's called non stop. All right.
Sometimes they wait till I opened the door and then they ring the bell, why they look at me and laugh. Right? So everyone's kind of got their own little thing that they do. So the profitsystem here is a very distinct door knock that he recognizes.
Whatever it was,
and he hears that, and that's the same way a DJ used to knock a door.
Same way, a DJ used to knock a door and it was her sister Hala.
They grew up together as sisters that are close in age group together. You know the lot of things they have in common, very, very similar. So she said not the door the same way that her sister Khadija used to knock the door.
And as soon as the prophets awesome heard that knock, he jumped up and ran to the door, saying Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, please let it be holla Let it be holla Let it be my sister in law, Allah.
And he opens the door and it's Hala and he invites her in sits her down and they talk for hours about Khadija
hours about mudita This is a decade after she passed away. hours and hours. Remember that time she did this or that time she did that? Remember how she used to say that? Remember how she used to do that? Remember how she used to do this?
They would talk about Khadija for hours and hours and hours and hours. On the leader wives of the prophets a lot he some eyeshadow the Allahu taala Anna even remarked, she said sometimes it seems like there's nobody else in this world besides Khadija.
Like there's just nothing nobody besides Khadija. So all you talk about any little DJ used to do that. You know what a DJ used to do it just like that's how DJ used to like to do it all the time.
One time some people asked the prophets a lot he said them.
Tell us a little bit about Khadija and the prophets a lot. He said in one narration, he says ruzicka to Baja.
hoosick to Baja.
I was given risk, risk, sustenance, a gift from God.
The roof over our head, the food that we eat, the air that we breathe.
The years that we live the minutes and the hours that we spend this, what we received from Allah, well this summer, it is Coco mama to do. Your risk is written for you in the heavens and is sent to you by God from the heavens.
He said Rosica to God sent me her love from the heavens.
God gave me her love from the heavens.
Her love was divine. What is
what can really mean her wallet? She was the mother of my children. She was the love of my life. And the mother of my children. That's who she was. In one narration they asked her tell us about Khadija tell us about Khadija. Some young companions and the prophets. A lot of them says in her cabinet. What kind of
side saying she was and she just she just was.
Where do you want me to start?
Where do I begin? I can't even put it into words. I don't even know what to tell you. She was so amazing. I can't explain it to you. You have to see her. You have to know her. You have to experience it. To realize how amazing and remarkable she was.
There's
a beautiful passage.
I'll end with a couple of things. There's a beautiful passage in his heart writes this. It's just it gets me every single time, even as Hark, who's one of the most noteworthy historians and scholars of the prophetic biography
He writes the following, I'm going to quote him verbatim. He says, Why am I not Khadija to been to Hawaii led
Khadija the daughter of who he believed, was sadaqa, to be majha, whom in Allah and she supported
and she stated that everything that came to the prophets a lot of them from God was the truth
was not who Allah angry.
She helped him and supported him and his mission was Eve
she was his biggest strongest staunchest supporter. Well, candidates Oh Wallah. Man I'm gonna be like he was really he she was the first one who ever believed in Allah and the Messenger of Allah Mohammed Salah t so she's the first member of this ummah
was some dukkah be majha I mean, who the first one to believe in the truth of Islam. For her for love will be the Alexandra Zhu Li
Allah lightened Allah God lightened the load of the prophets a lot he set them through her deja
she was a pillar that he could rest in support and lean on.
Law Yes ma'am O'Shea and yaku Minh robbed in LA he was a tech lead in LA who for years xinhui Danica in La Jolla who and who Bihar is our Raja Illa two sub B two who were too happy for Allah He what to set the coup what to how we know Allah, He Imran Nancy? radi Allahu Allah Wa, sorry to read that whole thing together, but it kind of fits together in Arabic, I'll translate it. He goes on to say God lighten the load, ease the task of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam by means of Khadija whenever he heard anything that bothered him, when people rejected him, when they, you know, reprimanded him, when they cursed him and swearing at him.
And it would actually hurt him.
It would cause him pain.
He would go back home to hadiza. And he would talk to her deja. Allah would remove the grief, the sorrow the concern the pain from the Prophet sallallahu sallam, by means have Khadija reinforcing him
and attesting to His truth
and the fact that he is a prophet, and he is a messenger and he speaks the truth. Every single time he dealt with some difficulty out there, he went back home to Khadija and Khadija was there to hold his hand and to look him in the eyes and to tell him you are the Prophet of Allah, you are the Messenger of Allah, you preach the truth, you keep doing what you have to do.
She was his pillar. She was his rock his support.
And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so many narrations so many beautiful narrations. I'll end with this one.
One time, the prophets a lot of them is sitting at home.
Khadija radi Allahu taala gets up and goes to, you know, the fire the stove that's burning, like right outside the door of the house.
So she steps outside to go, you know, kind of check on whatever's cooking in the fire. The stove
gibreel Ali Salam comes to the Prophet salon Isa
and he says to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, here comes Khadija. She's got a bowl of food for you in her hands, a warm, hot, steaming bowl of food, fresh food for you.
When she comes to you with this food and places in front of you,
I want you to
grab a hold of her
and tell her that God sends his salams
Allah says Salaam to Khadija.
And Allah
gives her
the good news.
congratulate her allies congratulating her that she will have a palace in paradise.
As vast and as far as the eye can see. carved out a singular out of a singular pearl.
It'll have no joints and no cracks and no, you know pillars and no support beams. one singular pearl carved out inside of it. As far as the eye can see.
There will be no noise, no difficulty, no adversity there ever. And that palace is ready. God has prepared it himself for Khadija.
And he wants to let her know that he's got it ready for her and he sends her Salaam to let her know that he
waits for her.
When the prophets Allah tells Khadija about the Allahu Allah she breaks down into tears.
That God says Salaam to me.
He knows who I am.
He sends Salaam to me.
This is who Khadija was.
When we talk about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and how amazing he was, understand the hadiza was, was a remarkable woman.
A lot of times, you know in our community in our society today, we are fascinated by we are obsessed with you know, this idea of this young love and being fanatically crazy punch drunk love, right? We're just obsessed with this idea of young people going crazy. And and you know what fascination and obsession and infatuation. what we consider to be love is like, this was their love.
What brought them together, what attracted them it was an ability of each other's character. It was a remarkable and dignified and amazing they were.
They unified them there grab the gravitate, you know, I always I don't mean to be disrespectful. We're talking about Muhammad Rasul Allah, and * Jensen Cobra de Lago and our mother Khadija, but you know, there's a little expression that the young uns have, they say game recognize game.
Right? The prophets, a lot of them recognize the nobility of Khadija and Khadija recognize the honor and the character of our salicylate de Sena. High and noble characters were brought them together. We're unified them together. They're made for each other.
And through thick and thin, think about it to experience a loss of two babies, the death of two of your children
to go through all the hardship that they went through together, for her to stand by him through thick and thin through such a difficult arduous task and mission.
For him to live on
for another 1213 years after she passed away, never forgetting about her always living with her memory. That's love.
That was the love story of Muhammad Salallahu alaihe salam and Khadija radi Allahu taala. And,
and
this is something I kind of wanted to maybe save for another session inshallah, that we need to do.
But just a little bit of advice. You know, there's a lot of younger people in our community
who are
trying to get married, interested in getting married, dare I say desperate to get married? And I understand. It's natural. It's, it's, it's a part of our Deen. It's a part of our human nature.
Number one, be understand what our Deen teaches us about marriage.
We're so sometimes focused on the superficial. That character that nobility that integrity, that honor, that is what really matters. that runs deep. That tells you more about the person than anything else. Look for character. Look for integrity, don't look for nobility. Yes, compatibility. Of course, that is the essence of compatibility and fine, there are other things and that's fine to take them into consideration. But remember that character that integrity, that nobility, as the most important factor, that is what the prophet SAW Selim meant when he said to me that the dean, that's Dean that's superficial, Dean,
we have too much of this mindset. He's got a beard. She's got a job match made in heaven. Right? We got too much of this mentality, character integrity, honor, nobility, dignity, quality character. Look at that, that tells you more about the dean and the person's relationship with the last panel rotala more than anything else, and there is also compatibility.
The second thing is this. And this is kind of tiptoeing kind of toeing the line. So I apologize if it offends anyone.
Nobody is better than Mohammed Rasulullah salatu salam, and no woman is better than Khadija radi Allahu taala and her from this oma
and look how they got married. It was very practical. It was very pragmatic.
It wasn't this type of this very sophisticated, very overly complex, super formal, complicated marriage process.
Where your neighbors cousins, aunts, uncles, barbers dog has to like be referred and be checked with in regards to the marriage. That's one extreme. The other extreme is that I don't know where like, like, just you're not supposed to even know the name or see the person that you're getting.
Getting married to.
So there's, there's a very practical Of course, there's dignity and there's honor. On the other extreme, we also have to be careful that we don't engage in in a legitimate illicit relationship before getting married. Nothing good is built on a faulty foundation.
Nothing good is built on a faulty foundation Don't try to build the structure on top of a shaky foundation.
You start off in the mossy and the disobedience of a law that doesn't end well. It doesn't
maybe somebody started off wrong, you can correct that.
But you got to come correct. You got to come correct immediately.
ASAP, right now, right here right now.
But just some general nnessee how more importantly to our elders, to our parents, and to our young people who are trying to get married. Understand that there are a lot of very interesting factors in the profit systems married to Khadija rhodiola when she was older than him by all narrations. Not a single narration mentions that, that it was otherwise like I told you there's a few different variations about her age. But all narrations agree in one thing she was older than him. She was a working business professional woman.
They got they did business together respectfully, properly. But they interacted in business professional terms. And they got to know a lot about each other, professionally.
properly.
A lot of these factors are very important.
Her friend is the one who actually first takes the proposal and suggests the idea and the profits a lot is him does get his family involved in does approach her family.
study this model of marriage and you'll understand that the flexibility and the versatility within our religion, of how to find marriage and how to approach marriage is very, very practical and very pragmatic. we ourselves have stunted the process and made it overly complex and too difficult or gone way outside the bounds and the limits of what is permissible to extremes. Either were too rigid, or were too lacks. find that balance in the middle, be practical, be pragmatic, be respectful towards yourself towards the other towards Allah subhanaw taala and respect the deen of Allah subhanaw taala and find that balance in the middle. And lastly And finally, understand that a
relationship, a marriage, a family as household that is centered around the belief in Allah and puts a las panatela at the center of that marriage and that relationship will be one that will be blessed with not just love and and
affection and compassion and mercy in this life. But it will be an eternal marriage.
That couple will be blessed with not only happiness in this life
will be will live a life of happiness together in this life, but they will be joined together and live a life of happiness for all of eternity in the life of the hereafter. May Allah subhanaw taala those who are married May Allah subhana wa blesses all with happiness and tranquility, love and compassion. And may Allah subhanaw taala keep those couples and those families that are together. May Allah subhanaw taala keep them together and happiness through thick and thin. And those who are not married May Allah subhanaw taala provide for them. Love and Compassion through marriage and May Allah subhanaw taala make their marriages a means of pleasing Allah subhanaw taala And may Allah
subhanaw taala unite you reunite them in Jonathan for those in order