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Alrighty, assalamu alaikum, bismillah, bismillah walhamdulillah wassalatu
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wassalamu ala rasoolillahi wa ala abihi wa ashabihi
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ajma'een Welcome home everybody, it's good to
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see you, alhamdulillah Okay, number 18 Okay, so
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last week, Imam Ghazali, he talked about what
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it means to repent and last week's conversation
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was effectively defining something not in the literal
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definition, but in like the feeling, the experiential
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definition of something So he said that repentance,
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and he described it as like the aching
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of the heart, right?
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We experience this like all the time, when
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you feel feelings of guilt and remorse You
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know, you toss and turn, there's like a
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restlessness You feel maybe like your appetite disappears,
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you're not hungry anymore Maybe you feel a
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little bit sick to your stomach So all
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of those physical expressions of repentance are in
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fact what makes repentance, repentance In order for
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it to be considered authentic, sincere, there has
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to be a feeling I'm not saying you
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have to feel those things, but you have
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to feel something And whatever it is that
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allows you to feel that, whatever reflection or
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whatever thought it is that allows you to
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feel that That is the flame, that is
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the charcoal, right?
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That keeps the heart warm when it comes
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to tawbah, when it comes to repentance So
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he mentioned that, he said repentance is defined
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as when your heart aches over the sins
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that have happened that you've done And he
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says that it is something that can't be
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muted, can't be stopped You know, you can't
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change your mind about it You know when
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you feel this sense of remorse where it's
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just kind of like occupying your thoughts You
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go through your day, you might go to
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work, you might go throughout your day But
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you feel like constantly in the background of
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your mind, there's this feeling of remorse and
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regret And so he said that it's something
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that cannot be sealed, it can't be kept
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away And he says that as a result
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of that pain, as a result of that
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emptiness You then start to think about, okay,
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what can I do to rid myself of
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this And you decide that I need to
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stay away from whatever caused me this I
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need to abstain from it, I need to
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be a person who abstains from this And
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I need to promise myself that I will
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be free from the action that caused me
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this feeling And then finally the last moment
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of repentance, he quoted Sahih al-Tustari, this
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famous scholar And he said that repentance is
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when a person التوبة تبديل الحركات المضمومة It's
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when you replace all of the negative actions
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that you do بالحركات المحمودة With things that
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are good So you commit, you promise yourself
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That instead of saying things that are bad,
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that are evil I'm going to replace that
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with good things Instead of doing business that
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is from haram, I'm going to replace that
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with good business Instead of looking at things
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that are haram, I'm going to only let
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my eyes look at good things You know,
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one of the things that one of my
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teachers used to say He said that don't
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be surprised if you are used to listening
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to things that are like haram Or watching
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things that are haram If your eyes and
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ears start to fall out of love with
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things that are pure Because just like you
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have a palate, like you enjoy certain types
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of food He said the nafs enjoys certain
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types of things And when you train your
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nafs to love bad things It's like a
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kid who only can eat candy If you
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give a kid who's only had candy fruit
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They'll say the fruit is sour, it's not
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good Because it's not artificially sweetened So the
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nafs that's indulging in haram Whether it's with
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your eyes or with your ears or whatever
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You know, even backbiting Like there's a certain
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type of conversation That after a person has
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backbited long enough Like it's no longer fun
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to talk about your day You know, if
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you try to remove people from the conversation
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See how much conversation stops If you say
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let's not talk about people Right, so there's
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a certain level that you kind of have
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to reprogram yourself a little bit And that's
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what Sahih al-Tustari, he says, rahimahullah So
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the next chapter, and this is what the
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author, Dr. Mustafa, he did Is he talked
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about the core, like how to repent What's
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the flame that keeps that repentance going And
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then he takes from the ihya, another section
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Where he talks about an important trait That
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every person has to have When it comes
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to coming to terms with their own sinfulness
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With their own awareness of their vulnerabilities and
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mistakes So the chapter is going to address
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something But that only makes sense if we
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all agree on one thing And that is
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that we all have our struggles You know,
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one of the things that's important to acknowledge
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And this is 30 and up, so we
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get to the point where like Hopefully no
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one here is trying to impress anybody else
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Alright, I know hard work, it's a little
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bit different You know, when we come here,
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there's really no impressing for anybody else Even
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the couple, mashallah, that dresses in the same
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color every week Alright, my man right there
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They're not impressing anybody else, that's for them
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You know, beauty for the self So there's
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a certain switch There's a certain switch that
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just flips When a person kind of loses
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interest In what others think of them, right?
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And we tend to associate it with like
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young age But there's also like an older
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version of this I know like the desis
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in the room Like we pay for like
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certain weddings or cars or houses We want
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to live in a certain area or live
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a certain lifestyle Why?
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Because we think that that would give us
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some kind of capital Some kind of currency
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with people around us Where do you live?
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Oh, I actually live in Frisco Oh wow,
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Frisco, right?
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Like where do you live?
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What's your zip code?
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And then you share And these are like
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weird flexes that people have Alright, where do
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you drive?
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Where do you work?
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You know, there's the one brother I told
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you guys about I think I mentioned him
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or like I asked him what he did
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for work And he said healthcare Which if
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you've ever met a doctor in your life
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They never say healthcare I'm a physician, right?
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So he goes healthcare And I'm like, I'm
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thinking in my head I'm like, are you
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a dietician?
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And I said, okay, what kind of healthcare?
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And he's like, I work in a hospital
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And then it took me like six questions
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to get to He's a physician And then
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I go, my brother's a doctor So we
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start talking about medical school and whatever And
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he goes, where did you go to med
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school?
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He goes, Connecticut And in my head, I'm
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like, I know nothing about Connecticut Except for
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UConn, that's it But other than that, they
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don't have a professional sports team The Patriots,
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okay, yeah, whatever We all know, they're in
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Boston, right?
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And Sharon So then we kind of dig
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deeper And he's like, oh yeah, New Haven
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And I'm like, isn't Yale there?
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Did you go to Yale?
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And he's like, I did And I go,
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how long?
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He's like, I went for undergrad And I
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go, okay, cool, where'd you go to med
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school?
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He goes, New Haven I was like, you
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can just say Yale We've already established, like,
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that's where she went Like, you know The
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point being is, it was like a 15
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-minute conversation To like pry that out of
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him Which normally, an Ivy League doctor Would
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have that on their hoodie Like, Ivy League
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doctor Walking around, wanting everyone to know So,
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there is a little bit There's a tiny
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bit of This that could carry on But,
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Allah knows best There's a point in everyone's
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life Maybe it's, I don't know, when you
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have Your own family Your own things to
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worry about Maybe when the circle of people
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That you care about, their opinion about you
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shrinks I don't know There's a point where
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you stop really worrying And you stop really
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seeking that appraisal And that praise and that
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approval from people And that's really, subhanAllah One
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of the points when you start to understand
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that I need to really live for me
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You know, it's me and Allah And I
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have to live with my own focus on
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my own heart And beyond everything else Like,
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whether or not people are impressed Or unimpressed
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That's really out of my control All I
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can do is be impressive to Allah I
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want to be impressive to Allah Like, I
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want on the Day of Judgment To show
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up and Allah SWT to say I'm so
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happy to see you That's what I want
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Like, I don't care if people are happy
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to see me It doesn't mean that I'm
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mean or rude No, but what it means
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is that my focus My aspiration is with
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Allah Is with the Divine There's a statement
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that the scholars say They said, مَجْهُولٌ فِي
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الْأَرْضِ مَعْرُوفٌ فِي السَّمَاءِ You want to be
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a person that's anonymous On the earth And
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you want to be famous in the heavens
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Like, you want to be a celebrity Be
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a celebrity with the angels Don't be a
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celebrity down here It's irrelevant Nobody here can
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help us on the Day of Judgment But
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the angels are the ones that will be
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What, making du'a for us Seeking istighfar
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for us, etc So he says And this
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is kind of like the transitionary point now
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He says that every sin that a person
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has Out of all the sins that people
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have There are There's a trait There's a
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moment Where a person has to realize That
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this is a battle Right?
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It's not like an on-off switch It's
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not a moment where a person says Like,
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I'm going to do this Or I'm not
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going to do this We talked about this
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at heart work a couple weeks ago It's
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like, when you decide That I'm no longer
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going to do this anymore That's the beginning
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of the journey Right?
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When you decide, for example Like, I'm no
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longer going to neglect my prayer That's not
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the end of that decision That's the beginning
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Now comes the work Right?
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The commitment is a big step But now
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comes the work So he says This title,
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he says Is patience with your sins You
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have to have patience You have to be
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a person that understands That the sins that
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you have Are a work in progress And
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I'm not talking about performing them I'm talking
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about ridding yourself of them So it's a
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long passage So we'll go straight to the
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English He says The most difficult kind of
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patience That anybody can have And struggle with
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Is the patience Against sins that have become
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all too familiar Right?
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There's a certain level of like Integration into
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the fabric of the person Where they think
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that This is just a part of who
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I am And we say this a lot
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We try to excuse our sins By saying
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things like Yeah, I'm just an angry person
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Or I have a very loose tongue We
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almost try to essentialize it We say this
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is part of who I am As opposed
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to saying I'm working on it Right?
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Admitting that it's not a part of us
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But it's something that we're struggling with Okay?
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And so he says that The most difficult
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kind of patience Is with those sins that
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have become familiar And he says Habits constitute
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a fifth nature Right?
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It's part of your existence It's part of
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your Who you are Right?
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So if you have like the body The
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soul, the heart He says Habits is kind
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of like An integral part of who you
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are He says then If a habit Is
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combined with lust Meaning if that If your
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desires If your indulgences Become something that is
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like on repeat He says then These two
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things combined together Become like Shaitanic warriors against
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you Shaitan already has enough Ammunition Against people
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With his ability to Tempt And to put
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these ideas Into the hearts and the chests
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of people But now When the nefs Allows
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those ideas To go from being One, two,
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three times To being something that's everyday He
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says Shaitan has basically Put you into a
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rhythm Right?
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And allowed now The rhythm to be his
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ally One of the scholars One time He
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talked about Why is it the case That
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people sin And then in Ramadan When Shaitan
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is locked up People still continue to do
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the sin So for example I struggle Eleven
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months of the year Ramadan comes The hadith
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says That Shaitan Is Chained up In Ramadan
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He doesn't have the same power The same
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access over You know Influencing As he does
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The rest of the year But subhanallah I
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still struggle With the same struggles And we
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were reading this In one of our books
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And the scholar said That Shaitan basically Trained
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us He spent eleven months Kind of Putting
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us in a regimen Right?
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A training plan To do a certain action
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Or to neglect A certain obligation And then
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when he leaves We basically show How good
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of a student We are to Shaitan And
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we keep that sin going And my sheikh
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Who was reading the book with us He
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said Yeah Have you guys ever heard about
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How they train elephants For the circus Which
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by the way Circuses and all of that
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Are like demonic things But The elephants for
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the circus I apologize if Everyone here is
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a big fan Of the circus apparently But
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They torture the animals effectively So we should
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not Support those things So But they basically
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In order to train the elephant To stay
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in the ring They They basically Shackle One
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of its legs And they put a peg
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A stake in the middle And that radius
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Is all it's allowed to know And so
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this elephant That's used to like roaming In
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the wilderness In the plains Right?
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Of Africa and whatnot This animal That's used
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to having this Virtually unlimited Expanse of land
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To like Experience life You know?
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Is now trapped To this thing That's maybe
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like What?
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A thirty foot diameter?
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And the chain around its foot Is only
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fifteen And it has to walk In circles
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And then subhanallah During the show Because the
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chain would be Like unsightly Right?
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They unshackle it But Because the elephant Isn't
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aware It still continues To only walk in
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that circle So my teacher said This is
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us in Ramadan Shaitan has us chained To
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our desires For eleven months And then in
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Ramadan We get unshackled But we still keep
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going Right?
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But If we're sincere That's a good opportunity
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To change Like if the elephant Wanted to
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It could just Run away But it doesn't
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Because it's been trained So he says That
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the two soldiers of shaitan Become lust Like
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that desire And the habits That this person
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develops And They join their forces Against the
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people Who are Spiritual soldiers of Allah Subhanahu
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wa ta'ala The religious Passion And power
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In those people Would not be able to
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Suppress These effects Of lust and habit He
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says furthermore If an act of Disobedience Can
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be performed Easily Then having patience Is very
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difficult If something's Within reach It's very tough
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You know That's why they say Like if
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you're trying To eat healthy Just don't buy
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it If you have something In your pantry
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And you try to avoid it That's really
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hard But guess what If you don't have
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it It's somehow A lot easier Right?
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So just don't buy it I see people
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looking At each other Don't do that That's
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not nice Right?
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So you have chocolate In the pantry But
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you don't want To eat chocolate Why are
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you Torturing yourself?
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Why are you Torturing yourself?
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Right?
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So all of these things Right?
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Are indications Of the patience That we have
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to have So when you're in a stage
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Where your Iman Or your spirit Is not
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like Super strong Part of the wisdom Is
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strategizing And not putting yourself In a situation
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Where you're going to Have to have This
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amazing patience Because you can't Call on that
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all the time You can't go out there
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And score 50 every night Like you got
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to be able To put yourself In a
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situation To succeed So then he says An
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example Is patience Against the tongue The sins
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of the tongue Like backbiting Lying Showing off
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Praising oneself Directly or indirectly And various types
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Of joking That hurt people's feelings He says
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All of this Is so easy To do
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Right?
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He's trying to give Examples of things That
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are easy to do He says belittling Or
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mentioning the deceased While mocking them Their conducts
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And their positions For doing so Is backbiting
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While self-praising Inwardly He says All of
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this Is something that's too easy The tongue
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is very slippery Right?
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Both physically And also metaphorically It's a very
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Very slippery thing It can get away with
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a lot If I say a word If
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I say a statement If I say a
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phrase As soon as the sound disappears It's
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as if it never was said And we
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think That we got away with it Right?
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If I say something I think that I
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got away with it Why?
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Because it's only Stuck in people's memories And
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I can always Challenge them Or gaslight I
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never said that I didn't mean that Right?
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And now it's me Versus this person So
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the tongue Is a very very tricky thing
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To control And that's why The hadith of
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the Prophet Peace be upon him Said every
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morning Every single morning The body In the
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spiritual realm Wakes up And looks at the
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tongue And says Right?
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Remember Allah When it comes to us Right?
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The arms The hands Everything The eyes They're
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all speaking to the tongue And then All
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these limbs Say to the tongue If you
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are successful We will be fine But if
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you fail We are all doomed The tongue
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Abu Bakr as-Siddiq He used to walk
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around Medina And he used to do this
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Like holding his tongue So people would ask
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him Like are you okay?
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He says yeah I said what's the problem?
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Why are you doing that?
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He said I'm so worried About what this
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might do Some of the companions Used to
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keep Date pits in their mouths Some even
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small stones Why?
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Because they wanted to kind of Make it
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difficult for them To say things Okay?
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They wanted to challenge themselves Again Why?
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Because being patient With your tongue I mean
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raise your hand Let's do this fun activity
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Who struggles saying things That you regret saying
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later?
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Absolutely And half of you are lying right
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now Right?
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So The one half are being honest The
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other half is just not being You know
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You're too busy texting something You're going to
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regret later No The point being is It's
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something It's very challenging It's very challenging Okay?
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So Imam Ghazali says These are the things
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That are really difficult Okay?
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He says the ego has two desires One
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is to deny the other And to confirm
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itself To deny the other And to confirm
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itself You can think of it this way
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The ego generally Wants to put down everybody
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else And wants to elevate oneself Okay?
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He says thus This person inherently Has given
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themselves A state of lordship Right?
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They've made themselves Higher than they are Since
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longing for it Isn't a part of their
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innate nature But it is the opposite of
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servitude Which one is commanded So Imam Ghazali
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says Our struggle Is that we innately want
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To put others down And lift ourselves up
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But the ideal Muslim Actually humbles themselves And
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raises other people They do the inverse Okay?
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And the Prophet Actually says That whoever lowers
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themselves Whoever humbles themselves To Allah Allah will
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raise that person Like they won't have any
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choice If a person is humble Before Allah
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Allah will elevate their status Before the eyes
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and hearts Of everybody And then he says
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Whoever raises themselves Like boastingly Before Allah Like
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elevates themselves And as a part of that
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Lowers other people Allah Ta'ala will humiliate
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that person He will humiliate that person And
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the Hadith continues and says This person will
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become so degraded In the eyes of everybody
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That they will see that person worse Than
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a rabid dog If you see like a
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dog in the street And they have like
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foaming at the mouth And it looks unsafe
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Nobody wants to come near that dog No
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one's like Oh cute Like no one People
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are like Get away, get away This is
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the same analogy The Hadith says Is the
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person who what?
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Who pumps himself up Before Allah Subhana Wa
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Ta'ala Does not humble themselves So now
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Dr. Mustafa he says Allah Ta'ala prays
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in the Quran This is the explanation In
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numerous verses Those who have patience It's one
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of the traits in the Quran That is
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the most celebrated Right?
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And it's The funny thing is It's not
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a very exciting trait You know Nobody is
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like What are you looking for In a
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You know In a this or in a
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that You're hiring somebody You're marrying somebody What
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are you looking for?
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What are you excited about With your vacation?
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I'm excited to be patient InshaAllah I'm really
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excited Like whenever Allah tests us We miss
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a flight We're late The check-in's not
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ready For the hotel I'm really looking forward
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To being patient Nobody says that Right?
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So it's not like It's not a very
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like Glamorous trait to have It's only something
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That's appreciated By wise people Only really wise
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people Can look at someone and say Wow
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they're really patient SubhanAllah And they can appreciate
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that And it's not necessarily Even directly attributed
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To like express religiosity Like sometimes people That
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are the most Visually religious Are like the
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least patient And sometimes people That maybe are
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not The most visually religious Are like the
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most patient Right?
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So it's not even one of those things
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That you can like tie together So what
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is it?
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It typically is connected to As the Quran
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says A few of these traits Allah Ta
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'ala says That he is with those Who
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are patient To have patience And to forgive
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So one of the traits That leads to
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patience Is are you forgiving or not?
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If you're a forgiving person You'll find yourself
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Being more patient Forgiveness is one of those
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things That unlocks patience One of the reasons
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why We can't remain patient Is because we
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haven't forgiven We're still angry We hold things
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We start to fester We start to have
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grudges And that refuses To let patience exist
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To be patient Like the messengers Allah Ta
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'ala says Who strove hard Who worked hard
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Right?
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Are you a person Who works hard?
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Do you generally Like to work hard?
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You know Subhanallah There's a Our age group
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We can talk about this There's this like
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Constant now conversation About Gen Z Anyone here
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Gen Z?
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No?
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Yeah?
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A couple Okay it's okay Don't take it
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personally You're here You're working hard Mashallah Okay?
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Yeah You're good But there's this Constant conversation
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About Gen Z And like You know They're
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They're Let's say They're like Oil and water
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Aversion To hard work Okay?
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Oil and water Aversion to hard work I'm
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not going to talk About anybody Except for
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my kids Because they're mine So I can
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make fun of them So You know You
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Kids are hilarious Subhanallah Like the The idea
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of working hard Is so This is why
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they say Right?
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Like tough times Create great men Great men
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create good times Good times create weak men
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Weak men create tough times Like we're definitely
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In the weak Weak men create tough times
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Like we are there Like You know It's
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like you are here Like that's where we
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are Okay?
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Like you go Somewhere And it's like An
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amazing experience You're like Taking your kids And
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like What do they say?
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Like you're walking And your kids are like
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My legs are too tired I don't want
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to walk I'm like You're on vacation You
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don't want to What do you mean?
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Right?
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The best was that I took my kids
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for Umrah last year And I explained to
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them And they were hyped Mashallah Mashallah I
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was actually just Looking at pictures last night
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That's why it's fresh And I was showing
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my My family was over And I was
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showing them Like some of the pictures And
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I was like Yeah here's us at the
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Kaaba And here's us in Tawaf And then
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It was just Musa Holding my hand My
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son And then it was Mehreen And they
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were like Where's Iman?
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And then the next picture Was her on
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my shoulders So I made Tawaf With my
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daughter on my shoulders Which is fine It
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is what it is But It was funny
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because I asked her like Why What's wrong?
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My legs are tired I don't want to
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walk I go It's okay mom It's okay
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And I did Sari In a wheelchair Pushing
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her Right?
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She's totally healthy Pushing her And Musa Right?
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And then we get back To the hotel
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And I'm like Who wants to get ice
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cream?
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They're like And they jump And like they're
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ready Legs are all of a sudden Healed
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magically You know?
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I'm like one of those Christian pastors right?
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Daughter jumps out Of the wheelchair We should
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have done that Actually in the Sahen Like
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framed a miracle So The point being is
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like Sometimes people Now she's five He's seven
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Like they're allowed To like have those You
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know But imagine now A person's like 17
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Or like 25 Right?
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And this is the kind So It translates
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over It's not just corporate It's not just
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at the home It's spiritual Right?
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Do you Do you want to come to
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Tarawih?
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No, no I don't want to come We
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didn't have a choice as kids When I
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was a kid I was like Hey you
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want to come to Tarawih?
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No It was like Get in the car
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Before you knew it You were in the
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car And there was a Never mind I
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don't want to get my mom in trouble
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You were there And you know what?
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Like homework Do it at the masjid Sit
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in the back And it was just One
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of those things And Alhamdulillah I'm all the
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more Grateful for that I'm all the more
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Grateful for the fact That my dad and
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mom Were really Really insistent On understanding What
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it means to do Things you don't want
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to do You have to And all of
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us in here Are nodding Because we're part
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of that We understand what I'm saying Right?
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You get it Right?
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And it's the same With spirituality All of
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us have to adopt A mentality that It
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may not be The easiest thing But I
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have to do it And I'll understand Why
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I have to do it Once I've done
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it I'll understand You know Fajr is not
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easy man Like Fajr is not easy Fajr
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Waking up for Fajr And then starting your
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day After having a late night Is not
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easy But when you get up And make
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wudu And these days The water is cold
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00:25:17
Right?
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It's getting colder There's a hadith That actually
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says The winter months Are the months of
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00:25:22
the believer And there's a few reasons why
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Number one is because The time for prayers
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Is like squeezed So we can do basically
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Dhuhr, Asr, Maghrib, Isha' And one wudu Okay?
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Just don't have a hummus Okay?
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And then Fajr of course is there And
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the water you make wudu with Is cold
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And so you get more reward For making
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wudu with that Because it's not comfortable All
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right?
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You can fast Fajr till Maghrib Is a
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lot shorter Than it is in the summer
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So this hadith Is kind of explaining to
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us Like this idea Of the benefit is
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there But only for people Who are willing
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to work for it And once you make
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00:25:57
wudu In Fajr And then you sit there
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And you pray And you're done praying There's
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00:26:02
this feeling Of accomplishment When you say Salaamu
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00:26:04
alaikum wa rahmatullah Salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah It's
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00:26:07
almost as if You climbed a mountain Right?
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00:26:08
You climbed out of your bed But really
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00:26:11
You scaled much more altitude Than a mountain
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00:26:12
Right?
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You climbed to Allah Salatul mi'raj al
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00:26:17
mu'min So we understand As believers That hard
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work Is part of the process And that's
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00:26:21
what Dr. Mustafa is saying here That the
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messengers That we look up to That we
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follow They worked hard To enjoin patience Upon
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oneself To remind yourself Allah says To be
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patient In a good way What does it
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mean To be patient In a good way?
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Being patient And in a way That doesn't
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announce And broadcast to everybody Look at how
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00:26:42
patient I am Because you're sort of Deflating
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00:26:45
the effect Of your patience We said last
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night In heart work You forgive somebody And
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you remind them That you forgave them That's
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00:26:53
the Antithesis of forgiveness Forgiveness Is when you
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You act as if Nothing happened Right?
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00:27:00
Hey Don't worry about it Let bygones be
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00:27:03
bygones It's forgotten Water under the bridge If
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00:27:04
you say Something is forgotten You can't then
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00:27:08
Remind somebody So with patience It's important This
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00:27:11
is why Yaqub When Yusuf A.S. I
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00:27:13
want you to think Of how difficult this
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00:27:14
is You know a lot of us Kind
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00:27:16
of feel like Oh it's easy to say
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00:27:19
It's easier said than done Yaqub The story
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00:27:21
of The story of the prophet Yaqub His
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00:27:25
son For all he knew Was dead For
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all he knew His other children His other
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00:27:34
sons Stole One of his youngest children One
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00:27:37
of his babies And went out with him
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After promising They would take care of him
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And left him for dead And they came
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00:27:43
back Saying he's dead And they brought back
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00:27:48
A * shirt Like And what does he
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say?
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He says I know I know That something
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inside of you Has You're working on something
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00:28:00
You're scheming This is a scheme But I'm
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00:28:01
going to be patient He didn't just say
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00:28:03
I'm going to be patient He said I'm
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00:28:05
going to be patient With a beautiful Patience
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00:28:07
When you look at the Tafsir What does
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00:28:07
this mean?
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00:28:11
It's a very rare Arabic expression You don't
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00:28:13
find this Often times in the Quran Or
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00:28:16
in the Hadith The Tafsir says It's patience
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00:28:18
In a way Where the people around you
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00:28:22
Can't tell that you're struggling That's patience That's
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00:28:25
beautiful patience You're not broadcasting You're not fishing
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00:28:29
For compliments You're not fishing For attention Ugh
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What's wrong?
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00:28:33
Nothing Well since you asked It's like Oh
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00:28:36
no They didn't ask You groaned Right?
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00:28:39
Demanding the ask Like that's why They said
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00:28:39
what's wrong?
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00:28:42
If you didn't Clear your throat Four times
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00:28:46
They wouldn't have asked So being patient In
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00:28:48
a way Now Some people will say Oh
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00:28:50
but Then I need to vent I need
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00:28:51
to be with people That's okay But did
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00:28:52
you vent to Allah First or no?
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00:28:55
Because if you Vent to other people Guess
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00:28:55
what?
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00:28:58
They'll listen They'll say oh man That sucks
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00:28:58
Right?
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00:29:02
And then eventually They'll say that's crazy That's
00:29:02 -->
00:29:03
crazy They'll pick up the phone And say
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00:29:06
that's crazy That person is not Going to
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00:29:08
help you That person is listening And that
00:29:08 -->
00:29:09
might feel good But then they're like That's
00:29:09 -->
00:29:12
crazy What?
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00:29:15
Oh my That's crazy They want to end
00:29:15 -->
00:29:19
the conversation They're done They're done listening And
00:29:19 -->
00:29:20
you're like Can you believe that?
00:29:20 -->
00:29:23
They're like I can't believe That's crazy And
00:29:23 -->
00:29:24
they move on Meanwhile You could have spent
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00:29:26
like I don't know Five minutes Calling upon
00:29:26 -->
00:29:27
the creator Of the heavens and the earth
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00:29:33
Saying oh Allah You know You're the one
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00:29:35
Who makes things easy Just make this easy
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00:29:36
for me Right?
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00:29:37
And then you can go Vent to somebody
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00:29:39
And listen to how crazy Your situation is
00:29:40 -->
00:29:40
Right?
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00:29:43
So he says There are those Who have
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00:29:45
a good patience Allah Ta'ala says And
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00:29:47
then he says Paradise is the reward For
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00:29:49
those who have patience Really the reality is
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00:29:51
Subhanallah You're not actually patient For anything that
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00:29:54
you're Going to get here One of my
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00:29:56
teachers We used to go to him And
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00:29:58
say like man Life is unfair And you
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00:30:00
know We used to complain And it was
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00:30:02
before class So we'd sit there And we're
00:30:02 -->
00:30:03
like Just sitting with him And he's like
00:30:03 -->
00:30:03
How is everything?
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00:30:06
We were in college So we're complaining Life
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00:30:07
is unfair sheikh And blah blah blah And
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00:30:09
all this and that And he says yeah
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00:30:11
If life was good Jannah wouldn't be as
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00:30:14
good Like life just kind of Has to
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00:30:17
be bad It's the way it is The
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00:30:19
dunya is not meant To be perfect And
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00:30:20
that's the reality That's why when people Start
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00:30:23
talking about this Existential doom I'm like oh
00:30:23 -->
00:30:24
my god What's going to happen?
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00:30:26
I'm like I don't know But like Jannah
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00:30:28
is where We're going to go So like
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00:30:30
we'll figure it out We'll figure it out
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00:30:31
Inshallah Right?
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00:30:34
And the reality is Like if times are
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00:30:36
tough If life is difficult Like halas We
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00:30:37
just have to find power In our faith
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00:30:39
and keep going Right?
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00:30:41
Because Jannah is our Ultimate goal We're just
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00:30:43
in a hotel Right now Sometimes it's a
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00:30:45
nice hotel Sometimes it's a motel Things like
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00:30:46
We just got to figure it out Until
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00:30:48
we arrive At our final destination May Allah
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00:30:51
make it easy He says patience Is the
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00:30:53
best reaction To any external harm Done by
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00:30:56
others It is a virtue That requires not
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00:30:58
acting On the negative feeling That you have
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00:30:59
How do you know You're patient?
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00:31:04
You don't act You wait This is a
00:31:04 -->
00:31:08
culture In which immediate action Is demanded Do
00:31:08 -->
00:31:10
you have a statement?
00:31:10 -->
00:31:11
Do you have a statement?
00:31:11 -->
00:31:12
And if people say I don't have a
00:31:12 -->
00:31:15
statement yet You're like How could you not
00:31:15 -->
00:31:16
Have a statement yet?
00:31:17 -->
00:31:18
You're like I just came out Of the
00:31:18 -->
00:31:19
bathroom What happened?
00:31:19 -->
00:31:21
Like you don't know The reality is Subhanallah
00:31:22 -->
00:31:26
The Prophet He says Deliberateness is from Allah
00:31:29 -->
00:31:33
And haste is from Shaitan So think about
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00:31:34
How you respond To situations That you don't
00:31:34 -->
00:31:39
like If you respond With haste You might
00:31:39 -->
00:31:41
be Being influenced By somebody That's not your
00:31:41 -->
00:31:44
friend And that's where The words come from
00:31:44 -->
00:31:46
That's where Those things That hurt people Those
00:31:46 -->
00:31:48
little daggers That we shoot out That's where
00:31:48 -->
00:31:51
they come from You know Just because iMessage
00:31:51 -->
00:31:54
has an Undo send feature Doesn't mean That
00:31:54 -->
00:31:57
you can Act quickly It's best For you
00:31:57 -->
00:32:01
and I And our spiritual health To just
00:32:01 -->
00:32:02
give ourselves A second You know They say
00:32:02 -->
00:32:05
Let the dust settle Can't see clearly When
00:32:05 -->
00:32:07
there's so much Happening So much chaos And
00:32:07 -->
00:32:10
commotion So you come home Or something happens
00:32:10 -->
00:32:12
You get a message I've learned this From
00:32:12 -->
00:32:14
my friends Who are older than me Which
00:32:14 -->
00:32:17
by the way One of my best Advices
00:32:17 -->
00:32:19
that I give To young people Especially Is
00:32:19 -->
00:32:20
that you need To have friends That are
00:32:20 -->
00:32:22
older than you You can't be all Part
00:32:22 -->
00:32:24
of the same age group And you also
00:32:24 -->
00:32:28
Should not be Like the old friend Because
00:32:28 -->
00:32:30
you're not That wise You gotta have friends
00:32:30 -->
00:32:32
That are older than you 5, 10, 15
00:32:32 -->
00:32:36
years Because they're like They're like Road signs
00:32:36 -->
00:32:39
later down They just tell you things You
00:32:39 -->
00:32:41
know And you ask them And in the
00:32:41 -->
00:32:44
moment Where you're completely Disheveled Emotionally You don't
00:32:44 -->
00:32:46
know what They'll be like Look, I've been
00:32:46 -->
00:32:48
through this Or they can say Hey, this
00:32:48 -->
00:32:50
is actually Really serious You need to think
00:32:50 -->
00:32:53
about it And that kind of That sage
00:32:53 -->
00:32:55
experience Advice Is so invaluable It saves us
00:32:55 -->
00:32:58
From so many mistakes Every time That I
00:32:59 -->
00:33:01
Call someone Who's You know Older than me
00:33:01 -->
00:33:03
And I ask for advice The response I
00:33:03 -->
00:33:07
get Is Hmm And they start Asking questions
00:33:08 -->
00:33:10
And if I don't know The answer They're
00:33:10 -->
00:33:11
like What do you think about this?
00:33:12 -->
00:33:12
Has this happened yet?
00:33:12 -->
00:33:15
I say no They say just wait Just
00:33:15 -->
00:33:17
be patient And that's not what The nefs
00:33:17 -->
00:33:19
wants to hear The nefs wants to Spring
00:33:19 -->
00:33:22
into action Fix the problem Solve it Handle
00:33:22 -->
00:33:23
it Take care of it Right?
00:33:24 -->
00:33:26
But The heart of a believer Says you
00:33:26 -->
00:33:28
know what I need to give myself Time
00:33:28 -->
00:33:31
to be able To listen To what it
00:33:31 -->
00:33:32
is That my heart Is going to tell
00:33:32 -->
00:33:34
me to do And in this moment It's
00:33:34 -->
00:33:36
way too chaotic So he says patience Is
00:33:36 -->
00:33:39
the best reaction Be a person of patience
00:33:39 -->
00:33:42
You know Subhanallah And this is not to
00:33:42 -->
00:33:45
say Anything critical Look at the worst calamity
00:33:46 -->
00:33:48
To ever have happened On the face of
00:33:48 -->
00:33:50
the earth The passing of the Prophet Muhammad
00:33:50 -->
00:33:53
Sallallahu alayhi wasallam That's the worst thing To
00:33:53 -->
00:33:54
ever have happened Was that the Prophet A
00:33:54 -->
00:33:57
.S. Passed away Okay?
00:34:00 -->
00:34:04
Both of them From the Kibara Sahaba Abu
00:34:04 -->
00:34:07
Bakr And Umar R.A Many people Name
00:34:07 -->
00:34:10
their kids Umar Abu Bakr is like You
00:34:10 -->
00:34:13
know The Prophet A.S. Best friend Look
00:34:13 -->
00:34:16
at the response To the passing Of the
00:34:16 -->
00:34:20
Prophet A.S. Umar Is in the front
00:34:20 -->
00:34:24
Of the masjid Word is spreading That the
00:34:24 -->
00:34:26
Prophet Has died Okay?
00:34:27 -->
00:34:29
People are coming To the masjid To figure
00:34:29 -->
00:34:32
out What's going on Umar Out of his
00:34:32 -->
00:34:33
strength And his love For the Prophet He
00:34:33 -->
00:34:38
says He has not died He's yelling at
00:34:38 -->
00:34:40
people He's saying He's not died Don't say
00:34:40 -->
00:34:43
he's dead He's not died yet People say
00:34:43 -->
00:34:44
What happened then?
00:34:44 -->
00:34:47
He goes Well Just like Musa Went to
00:34:47 -->
00:34:49
go to Allah And then came back To
00:34:49 -->
00:34:50
his people The Prophet went to Allah And
00:34:50 -->
00:34:53
he's going to come Back to us Just
00:34:53 -->
00:34:55
You know what they say Like denial He
00:34:55 -->
00:34:56
had so much love For the Prophet He
00:34:56 -->
00:34:59
just did not want To hear it And
00:34:59 -->
00:35:01
then People keep talking I think he died
00:35:01 -->
00:35:02
He might have died I heard he died
00:35:02 -->
00:35:04
He keeps hearing this He says Whoever says
00:35:04 -->
00:35:06
He died I'm going to kill that person
00:35:08 -->
00:35:12
He says that Finally Abu Bakr is sitting
00:35:12 -->
00:35:14
In the back of the masjid He's quiet
00:35:15 -->
00:35:17
Tears in his eyes You know why?
00:35:17 -->
00:35:19
He just came From the house Of the
00:35:19 -->
00:35:21
Prophet Peace be upon him His daughter Aisha
00:35:22 -->
00:35:26
He just was the one That looked at
00:35:26 -->
00:35:28
The lifeless body Of the messenger Kissed his
00:35:28 -->
00:35:30
forehead And said You were beautiful in life
00:35:30 -->
00:35:33
And you're beautiful in death He walks over
00:35:33 -->
00:35:37
He sits Tears in his eyes And he
00:35:37 -->
00:35:41
says Omar Everyone gets quiet He says Sit
00:35:41 -->
00:35:49
down Omar like a child Sits Starts crying
00:35:49 -->
00:35:52
Because he realizes If anyone knows It's Abu
00:35:52 -->
00:35:57
Bakr Starts crying Abu Bakr recites the verse
00:36:02 -->
00:36:07
And there are other prophets That came before
00:36:07 -->
00:36:09
him Omar said I knew this verse But
00:36:09 -->
00:36:11
when I heard it It was as if
00:36:11 -->
00:36:13
I heard it For the first time Like
00:36:13 -->
00:36:15
shook him Right?
00:36:16 -->
00:36:17
What's the difference In that situation?
00:36:18 -->
00:36:21
Omar was responding To the chaos of the
00:36:21 -->
00:36:24
moment But Abu Bakr understood The importance of
00:36:24 -->
00:36:28
patience Scholars learn They later said About that
00:36:28 -->
00:36:30
specific moment They said If Abu Bakr did
00:36:30 -->
00:36:36
not Gather everybody Then We could have seen
00:36:36 -->
00:36:40
Really serious division But here's the crazy part
00:36:40 -->
00:36:43
Abu Bakr gets up And he announces The
00:36:43 -->
00:36:46
prophet Has passed away Whoever worshipped him Know
00:36:46 -->
00:36:48
that he has died But whoever worships Allah
00:36:48 -->
00:36:51
He's ever living Will never die This is
00:36:51 -->
00:36:53
his best friend Saying this statement Okay?
00:36:54 -->
00:36:57
Now you fast forward And the tribes of
00:36:57 -->
00:37:00
Medina Are all trying to figure out Okay
00:37:00 -->
00:37:03
There's grieving There's mourning They're trying to figure
00:37:03 -->
00:37:06
out What life is like The companions literally
00:37:06 -->
00:37:08
They said that There was no light In
00:37:08 -->
00:37:11
the city anymore It was just dark The
00:37:11 -->
00:37:13
prophet Has gone Like who do we answer
00:37:13 -->
00:37:16
questions People are sitting They're weeping And then
00:37:16 -->
00:37:18
the question Starts to come up Which is
00:37:18 -->
00:37:18
what?
00:37:19 -->
00:37:20
Who's the leader?
00:37:21 -->
00:37:22
Who's the leader?
00:37:22 -->
00:37:24
And you have some of these tribes These
00:37:24 -->
00:37:27
clans In Medina That are trying to figure
00:37:27 -->
00:37:29
out Okay Like who's going to be in
00:37:29 -->
00:37:29
charge?
00:37:31 -->
00:37:34
And Omar He learned from that day The
00:37:34 -->
00:37:39
importance of being Deliberate and patient He didn't
00:37:39 -->
00:37:40
freak out and say I swear to God
00:37:40 -->
00:37:43
If you leave Because they were starting to
00:37:43 -->
00:37:43
say You know what?
00:37:44 -->
00:37:46
Maybe all the people Who were governors before
00:37:46 -->
00:37:49
Should just become governors again Like we went
00:37:49 -->
00:37:52
through Our prophetic era He's gone You were
00:37:52 -->
00:37:54
a governor You were a governor The tribal
00:37:54 -->
00:37:55
leaders Let's all just have A committee of
00:37:55 -->
00:37:57
leaders Right?
00:37:58 -->
00:38:03
Like basically suggesting A masjid board Basically Omar
00:38:03 -->
00:38:06
says no way He takes these people To
00:38:06 -->
00:38:09
Abu Bakr al-Siddiq Who's sitting in a
00:38:09 -->
00:38:13
garden Just maybe 200 yards Outside of Masjid
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Nabawi And he goes It's called It's the
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garden of the tribe And he says How
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many of you If I were to tell
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00:38:28
you That this man Was our imam Our
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00:38:31
leader The one who led the prayers While
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the Prophet Was sick How many of you
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00:38:35
Would agree to take him As your leader?
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00:38:37
They all said we're good We sign in
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00:38:39
Like put our hands in Give bayah We're
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00:38:43
done Abu Bakr In that moment On the
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00:38:45
day that The Prophet Passed away on a
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00:38:49
Monday He taught Omar How to be Deliberate
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00:38:51
and patient Not to respond Not to react
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00:38:56
So patience is always The best response In
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00:38:59
any extreme situation That comes to you from
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00:39:01
outside It is a virtue that requires Not
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00:39:05
acting negatively It is the right reaction Toward
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00:39:09
one's difficult Socioeconomic circumstances It is the appropriate
00:39:09 -->
00:39:12
reaction Towards physical pain Imam Ghazali takes patience
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00:39:15
One step further Having patience against One desire
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00:39:18
to do wrong One's desire to sin Especially
00:39:18 -->
00:39:21
when sinning habits Have been formed He says
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00:39:23
that sin and habit Are two of the
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00:39:25
soldiers of shaitan When they go hand in
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00:39:28
hand They have an alliance Against the soldiers
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of Allah They are a force to reckon
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00:39:33
with And mere religiosity Cannot fix them If
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00:39:35
the sin is easy to perform It becomes
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00:39:37
even more difficult To have patience And then
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00:39:40
he gives the examples Of these sins He
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00:39:42
says the dynamics Of a healthy relationship With
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00:39:45
oneself and others Is based around controlling the
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00:39:47
tongue The abuse of which Is the reason
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00:39:50
why Many relations go sour It is also
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00:39:53
the reason Why many achievements Are undermined Because
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00:39:56
of what one says When Mu'adh bin
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00:39:58
Jabal Asked the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam About
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00:40:01
a single deed That can pave an entire
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00:40:03
way To paradise The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
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00:40:07
Enumerated the pillars of Islam Emphasizing charity And
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performing prayer Yet he said On top of
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everything comes Restraining the tongue The price for
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00:40:15
letting A tongue loose is very high It
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00:40:17
is tantamount To giving up One's potential place
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00:40:19
In paradise I want to read to you
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guys One or two hadith And then we'll
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go to Q&A By the way, the
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00:40:23
Q&A is open We've got a lot
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00:40:24
of questions 30 and up If you go
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00:40:25
to slido.com Type in 30 and up
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Inshallah I want to give you some Perspective
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On why patience With sins is really important
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Number one Is a hadith That Ibn Abbas
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narrates for us It's an authentic hadith And
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he tells us That the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
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00:40:45
Wasallam He says That there is not a
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00:40:49
single Believing servant of Allah Ma min abdin
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00:40:55
mu'minin Illa walahu dhanbun Every single mu'min And
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by the way That word is kind of
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00:41:00
An indication here as well Because Muslim Is
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00:41:02
like the entry level believer Mu'min is like
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00:41:05
a strong believer So he says Ma min
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00:41:08
abdin mu'minin There is not a single servant
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00:41:10
Of Allah that is strong In their faith
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Walahu dhanbun Except that they have A single
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00:41:23
sin Almost like attached to them Ya'taduhu That
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00:41:30
it is Habitually part of their life Alfainata
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ba'da alfainata Aw dhanbun huwa muqeemun alayhi La
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00:41:40
yufarikuhu hatta yufarikud dunya That they commit this
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00:41:42
sin habitually And it never leaves them Until
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00:41:45
they die Like there is a sin That
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00:41:47
everybody basically Whether it's one sin Or whether
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00:41:50
it's like The act of disobedience In different
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00:41:53
ways Throughout your life That everybody carries with
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00:41:57
them And it's different for each person Okay
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00:42:02
And he says In explaining this It's actually
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00:42:05
a very interesting hadith Because in some ways
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00:42:06
It kind of like It kind of like
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00:42:09
validates you Like you're like wow That's crazy
00:42:09 -->
00:42:10
I didn't realize That this was part of
00:42:10 -->
00:42:13
the Divine wisdom of Allah That this is
00:42:13 -->
00:42:15
something That we struggle with But in other
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00:42:17
ways It's a little bit scary Because you're
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00:42:19
like Okay So is there any point Like
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00:42:22
how do I fix this So the Prophet
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00:42:25
peace be upon him He says Innal mu'mina
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00:42:33
khuliqa muftanan The believer was created Tested This
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00:42:36
is part of your status You're always gonna
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00:42:39
be tested Don't ask why life's not fair
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00:42:41
Because it was never actually Part of the
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00:42:44
agreement Alright I know it's kind of a
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00:42:51
sour deal Tawaban nasiyan idha dhukira dhakara The
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test that you have Is three parts Number
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00:42:59
one Will you be repentant Or will you
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00:43:01
be forgetful That's the first part Sorry it's
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00:43:04
two Will you be repentant or forgetful So
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00:43:06
when you commit the sin That's been stuck
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00:43:10
to you For your whole life Are you
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00:43:12
just gonna like Submit to it and concede
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00:43:13
And say like Oh this is who I
00:43:13 -->
00:43:16
am I'm just not a person who prays
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00:43:20
Or are you gonna have the courage Because
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00:43:21
tawba takes courage Are you gonna have the
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00:43:26
courage To say oh Allah Again Again ya
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00:43:31
Allah Right Like I'm so disappointed in myself
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00:43:34
ya Allah Please forgive me Like is that
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00:43:36
Which one are we gonna be The one
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00:43:39
that prefers The comfort of ignoring the sin
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00:43:43
Or we deal with the Courage of having
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00:43:45
to come to terms with it Every single
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00:43:49
time And then he says Idha dhukira dhakara
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00:43:51
The true believer is the one that when
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00:43:54
He or she is reminded Of that sin
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00:43:57
They remember Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala They
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00:43:59
turn back to Allah That's the first hadith
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00:44:01
that I wanted to share The next one
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00:44:05
Is that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Made
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00:44:08
this very difficult life And that guilt and
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00:44:10
that pain And all of the anxiety that
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00:44:12
we experience As a result of it He
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00:44:16
made it part of the design strategy When
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00:44:19
he says Qala ma yusibul muslima Min nasbin
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00:44:24
wala wasbin Wala hammin wala huznin Wow He
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00:44:28
says nothing harms a believer Whether it's illness
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00:44:32
or hardship So you get sick Anyone here
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00:44:38
sick right now Raise your hand Sickness Cough
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00:44:40
Who has allergies?
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00:44:44
Texas allergies Yeah alright mashallah Okay So you
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00:44:47
know you're cursing your allergies You know that
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00:44:48
day where there's dust in the air And
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00:44:50
you're like I hate this I hate my
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00:44:52
nose Wish I could just you know get
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00:44:55
rid of it Got this headache Nasbin wala
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00:44:59
wasbin Any affliction Any hardship Any illness that's
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00:45:02
afflicting you And then he says Wala hammin
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00:45:06
wala huznin Not just physical How many of
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00:45:08
us have anxiety over things How many of
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00:45:11
us have grief that we're experiencing Subhanallah He
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00:45:14
says that anxiety That grief That sickness That
00:45:14 -->
00:45:22
hardship He says Wala ghammin hatta ash shawkati
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00:45:26
yushakuha Even something as small as a thorn
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00:45:28
That just pokes you in the hand Or
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00:45:29
pokes you in the leg You walk by
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00:45:31
a rose A rose bush And it just
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00:45:34
gets you so quickly He says Illa kafarallahu
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00:45:38
biha min khatayahu Accept that Allah will erase
00:45:38 -->
00:45:41
your sin as a result of that You
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00:45:42
know a lot of us have heard that
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00:45:44
Like Allah will forgive you for your difficulty
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00:45:46
Even the prick of a thorn But the
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00:45:50
full hadith is so comprehensive Anything in your
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00:45:54
life that causes you discomfort Erases your sins
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00:45:57
Don't curse your discomforts Be patient with them
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00:46:00
Don't curse the things that are cleaning your
00:46:00 -->
00:46:04
book Be patient with them Right Generally speaking
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00:46:06
Of course if there's something that's critical That's
00:46:06 -->
00:46:08
life threatening Okay we deal with things as
00:46:08 -->
00:46:10
they come But once we've done our part
00:46:10 -->
00:46:13
And dealt with it as it came We
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00:46:17
say what I'm gonna be patient Another financial
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00:46:19
issue I told you guys about the water
00:46:19 -->
00:46:25
heater My water heater exploded Alhamdulillah I have
00:46:25 -->
00:46:26
to say it You know I always tell
00:46:26 -->
00:46:28
people this Look As a Muslim we're very
00:46:28 -->
00:46:31
lucky We're very lucky You know why Because
00:46:31 -->
00:46:34
we believe in Qadr We believe in predestination
00:46:34 -->
00:46:36
Like we're like nothing I could have done
00:46:36 -->
00:46:38
You know like your mind starts playing tricks
00:46:38 -->
00:46:40
What could I have done You're like nothing
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00:46:44
actually Nothing So I wake up in the
00:46:44 -->
00:46:45
morning My water heater is spraying water in
00:46:45 -->
00:46:50
my garage Pre car wash Okay Luckily I
00:46:50 -->
00:46:52
caught it early Because it was Fajr time
00:46:52 -->
00:46:53
It was time for me to take the
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00:46:57
kids to school So I'm like okay I
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00:46:58
called the plumber Came out in like 30
00:46:58 -->
00:47:01
minutes I was like Allahu Akbar Dude this
00:47:01 -->
00:47:03
is awesome I knew praying Fajr on time
00:47:03 -->
00:47:07
works Guy comes Takes care of it Quick
00:47:07 -->
00:47:10
charge You know relative to what it could
00:47:10 -->
00:47:11
have been 100 bucks I was like okay
00:47:12 -->
00:47:14
What kind of I'm not gonna ask any
00:47:14 -->
00:47:15
questions You know I'm like okay You know
00:47:15 -->
00:47:16
you found it It fell off a truck
00:47:16 -->
00:47:20
Okay it fell off a truck Take a
00:47:20 -->
00:47:24
shower Water's warm Alhamdulillah Okay good Travel to
00:47:24 -->
00:47:27
Toronto Have to go teach a class there
00:47:27 -->
00:47:30
Mehreen calls My wife Musa just had basketball
00:47:30 -->
00:47:34
practice Sweaty She goes hey the water's freezing
00:47:35 -->
00:47:37
You know the only thing Worse than a
00:47:37 -->
00:47:39
broken water heater Is a broken water heater
00:47:39 -->
00:47:44
When you're in Toronto I go okay She
00:47:44 -->
00:47:46
goes yeah it's cold Musa's not showering And
00:47:46 -->
00:47:50
he Like Needs a shower after practice okay
00:47:50 -->
00:47:53
I'm sitting here Get back Call the same
00:47:53 -->
00:47:56
plumbing company The guy goes Oh yeah whatever
00:47:56 -->
00:47:58
that guy fixed Was not the problem I'm
00:47:58 -->
00:48:02
like This is great news Thank you Comes
00:48:02 -->
00:48:03
and checks it out You know what he
00:48:03 -->
00:48:05
says I've never seen this problem before Oh
00:48:05 -->
00:48:09
excellent I love being the first Alhamdulillah Keeps
00:48:09 -->
00:48:13
adding Keeps adding By the way Taking cold
00:48:13 -->
00:48:16
showers And showering at the gym Right The
00:48:16 -->
00:48:17
whole time And my wife and I Are
00:48:17 -->
00:48:19
just sitting there laughing And we're like Subhanallah
00:48:19 -->
00:48:21
Subhanallah You know with With great privilege Comes
00:48:21 -->
00:48:25
great challenges Ends up He has to replace
00:48:27 -->
00:48:30
The water heaters Two of them Of course
00:48:30 -->
00:48:32
Because whoever built the house Thought 50 gallons
00:48:32 -->
00:48:34
is not enough This house needs 100 gallons
00:48:34 -->
00:48:38
of hot water Right Genius David Weekly Mashallah
00:48:38 -->
00:48:42
Okay The point being is What ended up
00:48:42 -->
00:48:44
thinking What I ended up thinking Was gonna
00:48:44 -->
00:48:45
be 100 dollars Ended up being A lot
00:48:45 -->
00:48:47
more than that And now we're eating lentils
00:48:47 -->
00:48:50
For the next couple months But the point
00:48:50 -->
00:48:54
is Subhanallah If I saw that In any
00:48:54 -->
00:48:56
other way Except that Allah Was clearing off
00:48:56 -->
00:48:59
my sins Then I would be In a
00:48:59 -->
00:49:03
very dark place But me My wife My
00:49:03 -->
00:49:06
kids We all believe in Allah And we
00:49:06 -->
00:49:07
believe in The Prophet Peace be upon him
00:49:08 -->
00:49:10
So at least that night As we're sitting
00:49:10 -->
00:49:15
there Mourning My bank account Praying janazah over
00:49:16 -->
00:49:20
What was once A checking account We sit
00:49:20 -->
00:49:21
there and we say You know what Allah
00:49:21 -->
00:49:23
If this is the reason Why you took
00:49:23 -->
00:49:24
away all my sins I'll do it again
00:49:25 -->
00:49:27
And I'm not trying to be dramatic I'm
00:49:27 -->
00:49:29
not trying to be inspirational I mean that
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00:49:31
Wallahi If this is it Ya Allah If
00:49:31 -->
00:49:34
this is it If this trial That you
00:49:34 -->
00:49:37
put me in That you put in my
00:49:37 -->
00:49:38
path I'm walking And there's a trial If
00:49:38 -->
00:49:41
that's the reason Ya Allah Why you clear
00:49:41 -->
00:49:43
my book Of all of my sins Lord
00:49:43 -->
00:49:45
knows how many there are Oh Allah That's
00:49:45 -->
00:49:49
enough for me That's enough And for everyone
00:49:49 -->
00:49:50
in this room You have a different thing
00:49:50 -->
00:49:55
In your path For me It's water heaters
00:49:56 -->
00:49:59
For you It could be Job instability It
00:49:59 -->
00:50:01
could be Not finding a spouse It could
00:50:01 -->
00:50:04
be Chronic illness It could be Family drama
00:50:04 -->
00:50:06
and trauma It could be You name it
00:50:06 -->
00:50:08
You know You name I mean really like
00:50:08 -->
00:50:10
We all could go on the room And
00:50:10 -->
00:50:12
have a different test That we have Everyone's
00:50:12 -->
00:50:17
struggling with Right But maybe that test And
00:50:17 -->
00:50:19
you dealing with it In a beautiful Patient
00:50:19 -->
00:50:21
way Is the reason why On the day
00:50:21 -->
00:50:24
of judgment Allah will tell you Enter in
00:50:24 -->
00:50:28
peace You dealt with it patiently Right And
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00:50:30
on that day You're gonna look back And
00:50:30 -->
00:50:33
be like What water heater What test What
00:50:33 -->
00:50:38
trial What sickness Subhanallah Every second Every moment
00:50:38 -->
00:50:42
Every instance Of patience Is not forgotten by
00:50:42 -->
00:50:45
Allah You will forget it But Allah will
00:50:45 -->
00:50:46
not forget it May Allah give us To
00:50:46 -->
00:50:49
be able to be patient In moments that
00:50:49 -->
00:50:53
we find difficult Okay let's do some questions
00:50:53 -->
00:51:03
And some answers inshallah Alright number one On
00:51:03 -->
00:51:05
the topic of patience Any advice If someone
00:51:05 -->
00:51:07
you're talking to For marriage Keeps ignoring your
00:51:07 -->
00:51:13
messages sometimes So No it's a good question
00:51:13 -->
00:51:16
It's a good question So you need to
00:51:16 -->
00:51:19
determine What the reason is Right Are they
00:51:19 -->
00:51:21
like Are they actually working Like are they
00:51:21 -->
00:51:25
busy With something If they are Then I
00:51:25 -->
00:51:28
think you need To have a conversation And
00:51:28 -->
00:51:30
figure out What is the good expectation To
00:51:30 -->
00:51:35
have For communication If they're not This could
00:51:35 -->
00:51:38
be An indication that It's not a good
00:51:38 -->
00:51:44
fit Alright Allah make it easy I know
00:51:44 -->
00:51:46
Islam tells us Not to remind our parents
00:51:46 -->
00:51:47
Of the wrongs they commit But if the
00:51:47 -->
00:51:49
wrongs They are committing Are very big How
00:51:49 -->
00:51:51
should I go about that Yeah so Islam
00:51:51 -->
00:51:54
Of course We talk about Respecting And listening
00:51:54 -->
00:51:57
to parents Of course But remember Every person
00:51:57 -->
00:52:01
has A Haqq Every person And Islam does
00:52:01 -->
00:52:03
not give This is a very important point
00:52:03 -->
00:52:05
Can everyone Can everyone lock in real quick
00:52:05 -->
00:52:10
While Islam gives Certain people In relationships Responsibilities
00:52:10 -->
00:52:13
And rights over others Islam never gives The
00:52:13 -->
00:52:15
right To anybody To take away The rights
00:52:15 -->
00:52:20
of people Okay Understand this Islam gives Certain
00:52:20 -->
00:52:23
relationships Right So for me as a parent
00:52:23 -->
00:52:26
I have a right Over my children Okay
00:52:26 -->
00:52:28
That if I ask my children To do
00:52:28 -->
00:52:29
something As long as it's not haram Then
00:52:29 -->
00:52:31
they should do it So if I tell
00:52:31 -->
00:52:32
my son Hey Musa Can you go and
00:52:32 -->
00:52:35
give Mama the cup He should listen to
00:52:35 -->
00:52:37
me And Islam says As my son He
00:52:37 -->
00:52:41
should listen But Islam never ever Endorses people
00:52:42 -->
00:52:45
Oppressing the rights Of other people You understand
00:52:46 -->
00:52:48
So the idea That a person Can oppress
00:52:48 -->
00:52:50
somebody And say I can do this Because
00:52:50 -->
00:52:53
I'm your mom Or your mother-in-law
00:52:53 -->
00:52:57
Or your brother Or your child Islam never
00:52:57 -->
00:53:02
sanctions that One abd Cannot violate The haq
00:53:02 -->
00:53:05
Of another abd It's not okay Islam never
00:53:05 -->
00:53:08
ever Give The only individual That is allowed
00:53:08 -->
00:53:12
To institute A removal Of a right of
00:53:12 -->
00:53:16
somebody Is a court A judge The judge
00:53:16 -->
00:53:19
Can put somebody In prison Based on The
00:53:19 -->
00:53:22
fact that A crime With evidence Etc But
00:53:22 -->
00:53:24
individuals No Nobody has a right To take
00:53:24 -->
00:53:29
away Any rights Even parents Even parents Okay
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So While parents Are the highest level Of
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00:53:35
human respect That we have In our family
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00:53:39
Hierarchy There is no right For a person
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To take away The right of somebody else
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So when this person Says They're committing wrongs
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And they're very big The first question That
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I would explore Is Is this wrong Like
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00:53:50
an individual wrong That they're doing Or is
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this a wrong That is spilling over And
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00:53:56
affecting Other people And if it's An individual
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00:53:59
wrong There's a different approach But if it's
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00:54:01
a wrong That is spilling over And affecting
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00:54:03
Other people There might be A little bit
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00:54:06
more Urgency Because you have to Restore the
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00:54:10
right Of the people That are being Transgressed
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00:54:13
Okay So for example I always ask this
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00:54:15
question This is a great question You guys
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00:54:17
are going to love This one I'm standing
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00:54:20
there Talking to two Perspective You know Spouses
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00:54:23
Like a husband Talking to a potential wife
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00:54:26
Etc Right Guy and a girl Talking for
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00:54:28
marriage And I ask them I say who
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00:54:29
I ask the guy especially I say who
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00:54:32
would you listen to If your mom And
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00:54:38
your wife Told you different things No just
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00:54:39
put them In the hot spot Because I'm
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00:54:40
like It's going to happen So I'm like
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00:54:41
Who would you Who would you listen to
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00:54:52
So So Yeah one of the guys Unfortunately
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00:54:54
was like Without even thinking Was like mama
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00:54:58
Immediately Which again Comes from a good place
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00:55:01
Right Understood I get it But I said
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00:55:03
Is your mom always right Or is she
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00:55:05
wrong sometimes He goes no She's wrong sometimes
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00:55:08
I said so Really the answer is what
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He goes my wife I said no You're
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00:55:13
not getting it He said the answer is
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00:55:15
Whoever is right You take the side Of
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00:55:18
whoever is right Like sometimes Your wife will
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00:55:19
be right And your mom will be wrong
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00:55:22
Sometimes Your mom will be right And your
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00:55:24
wife will be wrong And sometimes Your wife
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00:55:25
and your mom will be right And you'll
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00:55:28
be wrong Husband Like it's just a reality
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00:55:30
No one's perfect No one's right all the
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00:55:33
time And part of being a person That
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00:55:35
understands Is that you have to be able
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00:55:37
To say look My job is to make
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00:55:40
sure That the Haqq is served Whatever is
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00:55:42
true is served I can't let a single
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00:55:45
person In my life Oppress another person Not
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00:55:46
on my watch So I'm not going to
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00:55:48
let my wife Oppress my mom I'm not
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00:55:49
going to let my mom Oppress my wife
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00:55:51
I'm not going to oppress Either of them
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00:55:52
And neither of them No one can oppress
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00:55:55
me Oppression free Right That laugh was a
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00:55:59
little bit too Yeah So Or You can
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00:56:00
take the oppression If you want right Be
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00:56:02
the martyr But you understand What I'm saying
00:56:02 -->
00:56:08
right So Understanding Sharia has Default Understandings Of
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00:56:10
what people's rights are But there are always
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00:56:12
Going to be these caveats Of understanding In
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00:56:17
Islamic law That Islam Quran Hadith Never give
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00:56:19
the right Of one person To take away
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00:56:22
the right Of another person Ever Ever ever
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00:56:27
ever Okay Allahu A'ala When you talked
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00:56:29
about How when people Humble themselves And raise
00:56:29 -->
00:56:30
others What if you Humble yourself To the
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00:56:32
point of anxiety And make others More happy
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00:56:35
than yourself Yeah Islam also Encourages humility But
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00:56:40
does not encourage Self-deprecation Allah says We
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00:56:43
gave honor To the human being We gave
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00:56:46
honor To the human being You can't dishonor
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00:56:48
What Allah has honored If you say No
00:56:48 -->
00:56:51
I'm garbage I'm worthless I'm this I'm that
00:56:51 -->
00:56:53
I'm no Right The companion That told the
00:56:53 -->
00:56:56
prophet That I'm worthless I'm ugly He said
00:56:56 -->
00:57:02
You are You are Invaluable With Allah So
00:57:02 -->
00:57:05
a human being Should never There is no
00:57:05 -->
00:57:08
Humility That is so Powerful That it should
00:57:08 -->
00:57:11
make A person feel So low Right Because
00:57:11 -->
00:57:13
you are The creation of Allah Subhanahu wa
00:57:13 -->
00:57:14
ta'ala And he gave you Hidayah Hidayah
00:57:14 -->
00:57:18
He gave you Islam Right He gave you
00:57:18 -->
00:57:21
this Beautiful Experience in life Subhanallah He gave
00:57:21 -->
00:57:23
you the ability To walk outside And to
00:57:23 -->
00:57:25
hear the The birds chirping In the morning
00:57:25 -->
00:57:27
And to see the stars Glistening at night
00:57:27 -->
00:57:28
And he gave you the ability To taste
00:57:28 -->
00:57:31
cold water And to sit and relax With
00:57:31 -->
00:57:34
a beautiful Fresh wind Like Who are you
00:57:34 -->
00:57:36
to say That you're not Something special Allah
00:57:36 -->
00:57:38
gave you these things Right So we don't
00:57:38 -->
00:57:41
We don't discount What Allah gave us Okay
00:57:41 -->
00:57:46
But we Humble ourselves Humility Is what Well
00:57:46 -->
00:57:48
Let's look at arrogance Arrogance is what Arrogance
00:57:48 -->
00:57:52
is two things It's بطر الحق و غمط
00:57:52 -->
00:57:54
الناس It's when you reject The truth And
00:57:54 -->
00:57:57
you look down On people So humility is
00:57:57 -->
00:57:59
Accepting the truth Even when it's hard And
00:57:59 -->
00:58:02
it's Never looking down On somebody That's true
00:58:02 -->
00:58:04
humility If you can do those Two things
00:58:04 -->
00:58:07
You're humble Never reject the truth Even when
00:58:07 -->
00:58:09
it goes Against you And never look down
00:58:09 -->
00:58:12
On anybody Always find a reason To find
00:58:12 -->
00:58:18
good In somebody Always الله أعلم Okay Next
00:58:18 -->
00:58:23
one I feel scared That I do Acts
00:58:23 -->
00:58:25
of worship Because I want Something from Allah
00:58:25 -->
00:58:28
I fear that I will stop Once he
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00:58:30
grants it So It's not bad To do
00:58:30 -->
00:58:32
acts of worship Because you want Something from
00:58:32 -->
00:58:36
Allah That's not bad Right That's part of
00:58:36 -->
00:58:39
the That's part of the Equation And The
00:58:39 -->
00:58:41
fear is Coming from a good place But
00:58:41 -->
00:58:42
all you have to do Is just translate
00:58:42 -->
00:58:45
The desire To gratitude That's it And so
00:58:45 -->
00:58:47
just ask yourself One question Okay Let's say
00:58:47 -->
00:58:48
that you pray For Allah to give you
00:58:48 -->
00:58:50
something Let's pray that Allah Ta'ala gives
00:58:50 -->
00:58:51
it to you What do you do?
00:58:53 -->
00:58:55
Alhamdulillah Good And then you shift The desire
00:58:55 -->
00:58:58
and the yearning To fear of losing Which
00:58:58 -->
00:59:01
is gratitude You thank Allah And you reflect
00:59:01 -->
00:59:03
about What that has given you Right So
00:59:03 -->
00:59:05
you pray to Allah For a job Allah
00:59:05 -->
00:59:07
gives you a job And then you Every
00:59:07 -->
00:59:09
day you go to work You remind yourself
00:59:09 -->
00:59:11
You strategize You say you know what Every
00:59:11 -->
00:59:12
day You can put it up on your
00:59:12 -->
00:59:13
mirror Put it on a post-it note
00:59:15 -->
00:59:18
Remember when you prayed for this Alright One
00:59:18 -->
00:59:19
of my teachers Used to say that He
00:59:19 -->
00:59:22
said remember When you prayed for this He
00:59:22 -->
00:59:23
said it at a nikah It was so
00:59:23 -->
00:59:26
amazing He said think about How much you
00:59:26 -->
00:59:28
prayed For this moment To get married to
00:59:28 -->
00:59:30
this person And Allah gave you that Think
00:59:30 -->
00:59:32
about when you walk into work How much
00:59:32 -->
00:59:35
you prayed for that You begged Allah for
00:59:35 -->
00:59:36
that And think about all the du'as
00:59:36 -->
00:59:40
You made along the way Right School Grad
00:59:40 -->
00:59:43
school Job Interview Whatever Think about how much
00:59:43 -->
00:59:46
you begged Allah How many Ramadans You spent
00:59:46 -->
00:59:48
seeking from Allah And when you think about
00:59:48 -->
00:59:50
that For even 10 seconds As you're driving
00:59:50 -->
00:59:54
in Alhamdulillah Is going to be Flowing from
00:59:54 -->
00:59:59
your lips Alright Wallahu a'lam Why do
00:59:59 -->
01:00:01
I feel a tension in my body Like
01:00:01 -->
01:00:03
it's Like I cannot relax It feels like
01:00:03 -->
01:00:06
anxiety And I can't focus in prayer It's
01:00:06 -->
01:00:07
when I overthink Yeah I mean I think
01:00:07 -->
01:00:11
therapy is A wonderful solution For somebody that
01:00:11 -->
01:00:14
is Consumed By thoughts that make them anxious
01:00:14 -->
01:00:15
Right It could be a lot of things
01:00:15 -->
01:00:18
though Could be environment Could be diet Could
01:00:18 -->
01:00:20
be something medical Could be something And I
01:00:20 -->
01:00:23
think that Starting to explore What is happening
01:00:23 -->
01:00:25
Of course spiritual Affects all of that Right
01:00:25 -->
01:00:27
We believe that du'a and salah Are
01:00:27 -->
01:00:30
like the baseline The foundation But there's also
01:00:30 -->
01:00:32
things That can make Like if I'm drinking
01:00:32 -->
01:00:34
A ton of caffeine All the time And
01:00:34 -->
01:00:36
I feel like I'm jittery Right There's a
01:00:36 -->
01:00:38
little bit of a Clear rationale there So
01:00:38 -->
01:00:40
What you eat What you put in your
01:00:40 -->
01:00:42
body How much you sleep All of these
01:00:42 -->
01:00:44
things There's a reason why Allah Ta'ala
01:00:44 -->
01:00:48
says وَجَعَلْنَا الَّيْلَ لِبَاسًا وَجَعَلْنَا النَّهَارَ مَعَاشًا We
01:00:48 -->
01:00:51
made the night As a covering Like sleep
01:00:51 -->
01:00:52
We made the day As a time to
01:00:52 -->
01:00:55
work Right This hyper fixation With staying up
01:00:55 -->
01:00:57
all night Is not healthy Allah Ta'ala
01:00:57 -->
01:00:59
even said So in the Quran Right We
01:00:59 -->
01:01:02
made the day Time for work We made
01:01:02 -->
01:01:04
the night A covering Like take it easy
01:01:04 -->
01:01:06
Chill Relax Go to sleep Go to sleep
01:01:07 -->
01:01:11
Everyone has FOMO Nothing's happening I know people
01:01:11 -->
01:01:13
That stayed up all night During the election
01:01:13 -->
01:01:15
Watching those results I was like Nothing's gonna
01:01:15 -->
01:01:17
change Between now and seven Just go to
01:01:17 -->
01:01:20
bed Right So But for this person I
01:01:20 -->
01:01:22
would say Do an inventory Of your lifestyle
01:01:22 -->
01:01:24
See how you are Meet with a professional
01:01:24 -->
01:01:27
That you vibe with You know Someone that
01:01:27 -->
01:01:28
you have Good rapport with In the name
01:01:28 -->
01:01:29
of Allah May Allah Ta'ala give you
01:01:29 -->
01:01:31
strength And make it easy Try to take
01:01:31 -->
01:01:32
that step forward And don't be too hard
01:01:32 -->
01:01:36
On yourself Take steps Right Baby steps One
01:01:36 -->
01:01:47
win at a time Inshallah Oh
01:01:47 -->
01:01:49
God We have to go to prayer So
01:01:49 -->
01:01:51
I'm gonna say this one And then How
01:01:51 -->
01:01:53
do you pursue someone In a halal kind
01:01:53 -->
01:01:55
of way That you're interested in Online But
01:01:55 -->
01:01:57
still trying to be chill About it They
01:01:57 -->
01:02:01
have a kind of Large following I'm sorry
01:02:03 -->
01:02:11
Okay Just You know I guess make dua
01:02:11 -->
01:02:13
Do things the right way Shoot your shot
01:02:13 -->
01:02:16
And then You know Expect no response And
01:02:16 -->
01:02:18
keep it moving If you get a response
01:02:18 -->
01:02:20
Bismillah If you don't Then If you get
01:02:20 -->
01:02:22
a response Try it If you don't Then
01:02:22 -->
01:02:25
It is what it is Again Islam is
01:02:25 -->
01:02:28
wonderful Because you can't change Anything that was
01:02:28 -->
01:02:30
meant to be So you just kind of
01:02:30 -->
01:02:31
Have to move on And say This is
01:02:31 -->
01:02:32
I guess What Allah wanted for me And
01:02:32 -->
01:02:35
just trust That there's something better Inshallah Okay
01:02:35 -->
01:02:37
We ask Allah Ta'ala To accept from
01:02:37 -->
01:02:38
us And to keep us in His good
01:02:38 -->
01:02:40
graces And under His mercy We ask Allah
01:02:40 -->
01:02:41
Ta'ala To make us those That are
01:02:41 -->
01:02:43
always pleasing to Him And that are patient
01:02:43 -->
01:02:45
Throughout whatever He puts us through And that
01:02:45 -->
01:02:47
we learn from those moments And get closer
01:02:47 -->
01:02:50
to Him Ameen Ameen Subhanaka Allahumma bihamdik Nashhadu
01:02:50 -->
01:02:52
an la ilaha illa anta Nastaghfiruka wa atubu
01:02:52 -->
01:02:54
ilayk Wassalamu alaikum Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh So
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01:02:56
Isha prayer Is in just about two minutes
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01:02:57
Inshallah So we'll head over To the musalla
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01:03:00
You can go through This way The hallway
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01:03:04
here For those of you who are Sitting
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01:03:05
on the back tracks If you can help
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01:03:05
us Please If you can help us
