AbdelRahman Murphy – Thirty & Up – Treasury Of Imam Al-Ghazli #11

AbdelRahman Murphy
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The speakers stress the importance of finding deeper relationships and staying away from prohibited activities to protect one's health and prevent accidents. They also emphasize the need to protect one's wealth and defer their decisions to oneself. The speakers emphasize the importance of trusting Allah and not trying to avoid negative consequences. They also mention upcoming events and events in October, including a community event and a social event. They encourage people to attend and join them for prayer, but also emphasize the importance of staying away from harm and deferring decisions to oneself.
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Okay, salam alaikum.

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Ooh, loud.

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Bismillah, bismillah, walhamdulillah, wassalatu wassalamu ala rasoolillah.

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Welcome home, everybody.

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As-salamu alaykum for coming through tonight.

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Beautiful night here on Tuesday for our continuation

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of our reading of this amazing text called

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Qunooz al-Ghazali or Qunooz al-Ghazali, The

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Treasury of Imam Ghazali compiled by Dr. Mustafa

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Abu Suayy.

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So, last week, alhamdulillah, we were able to

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have a a guest, Sheikh Naveed Aziz.

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We had a wonderful conversation, alhamdulillah, about the

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nature of relationships and how all relationships need

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to go beyond just the bare minimum and

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the transactionality of those relationships.

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They need to find something deeper in order

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to keep that bond as strong as possible.

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This week, our conversation gets a little bit

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different and it's less about it's less about

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the direct relationship that a person might have

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with one another, but it talks more about

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the relationship capacity that a person has based

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on their own internal spiritual strength and state,

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right?

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So, we believe as a part of our

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understanding, the Prophet, alayhissalatu wassalam, he said, inna

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fil jasadi mudgha, idha salahat, salahal jasadu kullu.

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He said that in the body, there is

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an organ, there is a piece of flesh,

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that if that piece is good, if it's

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healthy, then everything else will be healthy.

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Wa idha fasadat, fasadat al jasadu kullu.

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And if it is corrupted, then everything else

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will be corrupted, the body and everything else.

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Ala wahi alqalb, he said, verily, it is

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the heart.

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So, this hadith, very well-known hadith narration,

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very strong narration, it imparts upon us a

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really really important belief, which is that nothing

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can be successful, nothing can be wholesome or

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good, if a person's heart is not good.

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And so, if anyone wants to know like

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why things are not going well for them

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or why things are not, the first place

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they need to look is internally, the absolute

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first place.

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It's too easy to blame other people, you

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know, it's too easy to look around and

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say, what is happening to me, but it's

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less easy, it's much more difficult for a

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person to say, what am I contributing to

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this in terms of my own problems, right?

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The self-inflicted wounds.

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And really, if every relationship, whether it was

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marriage, or whether it was work, or friendships,

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or anything, if everybody was just a little

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bit more concerned about their own spiritual state,

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as opposed to what other people are doing,

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then we would find a lot more solutions,

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right?

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If I came to the table saying, what

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am I doing wrong?

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And they came to the table saying, what

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am I doing wrong?

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Then we would both come to the table

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willing to fix our own issues.

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But if I'm coming to the table saying,

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you're doing this, and the response is the

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same, there's very few of those situations are

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going to be remedied or rectified.

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So here, Dr. Mustafa, he includes a passage

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from the Ihya, from the Ihya al-Muddin.

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And this passage talks about the importance of

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being a righteous person, being a pious person.

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We talked about the word righteousness or piety.

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And these are words that are familiar, but

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they're still in a weird way abstract, right?

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So if I say pious or righteous, everybody

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generally thinks of an image in their head,

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and usually those images are physical in their

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meaning, right?

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So if I say a righteous man, a

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lot of people instantly start to imagine, like

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a person with a beard and a kufi,

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and maybe a thobe, and that person's in

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the masjid, and they're praying.

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And all of those are in fact or

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could be in fact like aspects of righteousness.

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If you say a righteous woman, right?

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We figure what the dress is, the hijab,

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the abaya, etc.

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Praying, reading Qur'an, the masjid.

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So all these things are not wrong, right,

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in and of themselves, but righteousness and piety

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go far beyond the external.

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It doesn't mean that the external are not

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important, but they go far beyond that.

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And the Prophet, peace be upon him, he

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tells us that a person's true piety, a

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person's true righteousness is not limited in the

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way that they dress, or to the way

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that they speak, or the way that they

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talk and walk, but it's everything.

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It's the moral compass that's inside of them

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that pushes them, and that directs their behavior,

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and their actions, and holds them back from

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certain things, okay?

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So Imam Ghazali here, I'm gonna go ahead

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and read this, and we'll talk about how

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he gave us levels.

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You know, everything in life has a stage,

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right?

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One, two, three, step one, two, three.

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Nothing is accomplished at the end of something,

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right?

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By skipping the beginning or the middle.

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You always have to go through stages.

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If you wanna get good at something, you

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have to start in a stage that might

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actually be, doesn't even look like what you

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were hoping to accomplish, right?

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For people, this weekend we had the run

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for refugees, right?

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Which is like a popular now, Alhamdulillah, Dallas

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staple, third year.

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And I showed up to this run for

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refugees, I was a liar.

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I was not going to run, okay?

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I showed up fully capable and ready to

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walk for the refugees, okay?

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Meaning that my intention was not to run.

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But then, subhanAllah, I get there, and my

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son starts to run, and he's seven, and

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so if he starts to run, then I

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gotta run.

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And I have never run a 5K before

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Saturday, right?

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Yeah, I know, and I finished, and I'm

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here, I'm alive.

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I made it, and I actually had a

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decent time.

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But he beat me, Alhamdulillah.

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But the point being is that everything takes,

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if I said, you know what, the first

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thing I'm ever gonna run is a marathon.

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The first thing I'm ever gonna run is

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a marathon.

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Then many people who have run before, right,

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runners would say like, hey, you're skipping some

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steps.

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You know, you might wanna try running a

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mile, right?

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See if you can finish that, and then

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a 5K, 10K, half marathon.

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See how you feel, and then, yeah, you

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can work up to that.

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Nobody ever starts by saying, I'm gonna reach

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the highest, most ultimate goal.

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So Imam Ghazali, same thing with spirituality.

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Many people aspire to become spiritually elite without

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realizing that there are steps along the way.

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So what does he say?

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He says, إِنَّ الْوَرَعَ لَهُ أَوَّلٌ وَهُوَ الْإِمْتِنَعُ

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عَمَّا حَرَّمْتَهُ He says, the beginning of piety,

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the first rung on the ladder, is when

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a person, الْإِمْتِنَعُ عَمَّا حَرَّمَتْهُ الْفَتْوَى The beginning

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of piety is when a person can say

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that they have the strength and the ability

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to stay away from the things that have

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been prohibited from Allah and His Messenger.

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Right?

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That this is what the legal code says.

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So the beginning, the first step into this

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journey of becoming a spiritually strong person with

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Allah is asking yourself one question.

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Do I have the ability to stay away

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from the things that are prohibited?

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Okay?

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And this isn't talking about doing this at

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an infinity, you know, at a level that's

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infinite, meaning that you don't ever falter.

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No, of course, everyone makes mistakes.

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But this is talking about as a behavioral

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practice, as a practice of principle, do you

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stay away from these things that are impermissible?

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Right?

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That's the entry, that's the introduction to piety.

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And then he says, this is the piety

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of those who are upright.

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He says, وَهُوَ وَرَعُوا الْعُدُولِ وَلَهُ غَايَةٌ وَهُوَ

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وَرَعُوا الصِّدِّقِينَ This is the piety of those

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who are truthful in their faith.

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It's no small deal.

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Right?

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He says, this is no small accomplishment.

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If you can stay away from things that

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are haram, and from the side of responsibilities

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just kind of, you know, what's the word,

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just pass.

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Right?

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Just the five prayers, just this, but you're

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staying away from the haram.

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He says, you're from the صِدِّقِينَ You're like

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from the truthful in your faith.

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Okay, so that's the first step which is,

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piety is so all-encompassing that when a

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person puts forth any effort, Allah rewards you

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by giving you a higher status than really

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we deserve.

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Right?

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If you pray, Allah gives you more reward.

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You don't get one reward for prayer.

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You get one times, 70 times.

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If you pray in Jummah, you get more.

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Right?

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If it's more difficult, you get more.

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If you make wudu with cold water, you

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get more.

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If your feet are hurting, you get more.

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If your knees are aching, 30 and up.

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Right?

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If your knees are sore, if your back

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is hurting, you get more.

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For every جزاء من جنس العمل, every effort,

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every atom of difficulty that you encounter in

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doing good, Allah rewards you for that.

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It's not like, oh, I prayed maghrib, so

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what did I get?

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You get one maghrib.

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No, you pray maghrib, you get thousands of

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good deeds based on how you were able

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to traverse the path of difficulty.

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Okay?

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But here's the thing.

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As much as Allah is generous, as much

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as He is infinitely generous by rewarding us

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beyond measure for accomplishing what we would call

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just from a purely identifiable purpose, a practical

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purpose, He's calling it the bare minimum.

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I don't mean to denigrate it, but I'm

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saying the entry level.

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Allah gives us reward for doing what is

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entry level.

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Imam Ghazali is saying it is not a

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sustainable lifestyle if you want to be close

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to Allah.

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It's not sustainable.

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If a person wants to be close to

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Allah, they cannot settle for just doing the

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bare minimum.

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Because maybe for a while it'll work.

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Maybe it'll work for a while, but eventually

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something's gonna happen.

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Either the person is going to become desensitized,

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the person is going to become lazy or

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tired, you're gonna hit traffic, it's gonna be

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a particularly long day or long week, and

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you're going to have that thing that's just

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gonna bump you off of the track, the

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straight path that you've been on.

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And that bump that you encounter is going

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to be so unprotected.

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You're not gonna have any form of pushing

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back because you're just doing the bare minimum

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that that bump is gonna push you off

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of this bare minimum track that you've been

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on.

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My teacher used to say this very practically.

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He would say, what's the purpose of the

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sunnah prayer?

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The sunnah prayer, we know, is not obligatory.

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If you don't pray sunnah, you're not sinned.

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Right?

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It's called sunnah.

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Sunnah, one of its meanings is that if

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a person does it, they get reward.

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And if they don't do it, there is

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no fault, there's no blame.

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That's the definition of sunnah in Islamic law.

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Okay?

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However, my teacher said, and this is amazing,

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I love how really intelligent people think, not

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me, him.

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He said, praying sunnah is the best protection

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for your fault if you regularly do it.

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And we all were like, what does that

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mean?

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You know, we're like, we thought we were

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like listening to Yoda, just speaking in like

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kind of like code.

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Right?

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And we're like...

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And so we asked Mr. Shaykh, what do

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you mean?

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Can you elaborate?

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He said, if you only pray fard, it's

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good.

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That's what Allah asked for you to do.

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That's what Allah obligated upon you.

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However, traffic, life situation, running late, it happens.

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We've all been there.

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And now all of a sudden you're looking

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at the clock, and you're looking at the

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time to pray, and you're doing the math.

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You become a really good mathematician as you

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start to pray and get older.

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You're like, I have exactly six minutes.

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Right?

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I have 54 minutes.

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I have to do this.

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I have to do that.

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And I have to pick up the kids,

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and I got to drop them off.

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And I got to make sure, do I

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have wudu?

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Right?

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And you're like, you know, yeah, I have

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wudu.

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You know, you go check, make sure you're

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listening for the toilet.

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Is it refilling?

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Okay, yeah, I have to make wudu.

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There's all these things that happen.

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And then if you're only, if the time

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that you allot for, for fard is the

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bare minimum, eventually life will overcome you.

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It will overtake you, and you will miss

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the fard prayer.

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And this happens.

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No one has to raise their hands.

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We're not, this isn't that kind of support

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group.

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Right?

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Prayer Misters Anonymous, you know, PMA.

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But it is what it is.

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We're all adults here.

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We've lived long enough.

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And we've all missed prayer out of our

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own poor planning and negligence.

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Right?

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Could have been done better.

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So my teacher said, if a person lives

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life on the edge, eventually they fall off

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the edge.

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But if a person lives life while accommodating

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for things like sunnah, and while saying, you

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know what?

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I don't just need four minutes to pray.

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I actually need 10 minutes or 15 minutes.

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I need to make wudu.

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I got to find a spot.

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I got to pray my sunnah.

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Then I have to get up and pray

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my fard.

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And then I have to get up after

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praying my fard and pray my sunnah.

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That entire block of time takes much longer

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than just the fard prayer which takes a

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few minutes.

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But now if you get pushed off track,

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by 10 minutes, you didn't miss your fard

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prayer.

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You just missed the sunnah which is not

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consequential if you miss it anyways.

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So my teacher was saying that if you

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live your life with the bare minimum in

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mind, eventually you won't even be doing the

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bare minimum.

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But if you live your life with the

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bare minimum plus one, plus a little bit,

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then when life throws something at you, you

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will be prepared.

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And you will have a buffer to absorb

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the contact and keep running, right?

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It was a football country, right?

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The yards after the catch, right?

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Yards after the contact.

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The person bumps you and you keep going,

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right?

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The greatest athletes learn how to absorb contact

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and keep playing.

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Finish the layup, run, keep the run going.

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Spiritually, the greatest Muslims have to learn how

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to do that as well, okay?

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So he says the base and the foundation

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of this is to remember to stay away

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from the things that Allah has prohibited.

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Now he says the next level are those

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people which are the friends of Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala.

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And he says those people, وَذَلِكَ هُوَ الْإِمْتِنَعُ

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مِنْ كُلِّ مَا لَيْسَ لِلَّهِ مِمَّا أُخِذَ بِشَهْوَةٍ

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He says these people are able to not

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only stay away from the things that are

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definitively haram, categorically haram.

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He says but these people when they're engaging

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in their life, they're walking down the path,

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they're also able to look at a situation

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and say, okay, this thing legally might not

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be haram so to speak.

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I could probably find a ruling or I

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could probably, I've heard that it's not bad,

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right?

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Just staying up late, what's the issue?

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Just having another plate of food, what's the

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issue?

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It's just spending a little bit more than

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I should, what's the issue?

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And technically all of the examples I gave

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are not impermissible.

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A person can stay up late as long

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as they don't miss Fajr, right?

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A person can eat more if they want

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to as long as they don't cause themselves

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sickness as a result of it.

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A person can spend more than they should

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as long as it's not affecting their zakat,

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right?

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Two and a half percent annually on saved

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wealth and then after that you're allowed to

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buy technically whatever you want, right?

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Charity and sadaqah, donating to relief efforts in

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Gaza, donating to relief efforts, building wells, building

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schools, that's not obligatory, right?

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So you could technically live your life by

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just paying two and a half percent being

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like, that's all I have to do.

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But he says that person has put a

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cap on their own growth when it comes

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to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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They've put a cap.

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Allah does not mandate that a person has

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to read, for example, the seerah, the life

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of the Prophet ﷺ.

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It's not mandatory in the Qur'an.

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Allah did not mandate that a person has

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to read a certain amount of pages of

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the Qur'an every day.

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This is not a mandatory thing.

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But if a person doesn't do this, what

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becomes the state of their heart after a

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few months or years?

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Dehydrated, completely and totally withered.

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And then they start to wonder.

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They say, you know, I do all of

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the things that I'm supposed to do.

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I was just doing my son's homework with

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him.

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Sorry, he was doing it.

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My son and I, I was watching my

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son as he was doing his homework, okay?

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And we've all been in school.

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And for those of us who have kids,

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we've all seen the people that do their

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homework just so they can turn something in.

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And those who do their homework so that

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they actually benefit and learn from whatever they're

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supposed to be learning from.

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So there have been some nights, and you

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know kids, they're temperamental, just like us, really.

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And my son, there are some nights where

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he writes with the penmanship of like Walt

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Whitman.

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It's like beautiful, right?

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And there are some nights where he writes

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like a doctor.

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It's completely illegible.

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And I look at him and I say,

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no offense, Dr. Salman.

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And I look at him and I say,

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and I say, Habibi, your teacher's not going

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to be able to read that.

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And you know what he says?

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It's done, isn't it?

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I did it.

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I can read it.

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And again, truth be told, he's in second

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grade.

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You know what?

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He probably, his teacher probably won't call me.

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My wife's also the vice principal.

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So teacher probably won't call me and probably

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won't complain about his handwriting.

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But I know that that exercise was pointless.

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The point of the exercise, right?

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Now you purposefully, willingly, completely neglected what the

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actual benefit was supposed to be.

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You were supposed to actually do the exercise

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and benefit from it.

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Instead, you use the same amount of time,

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the same amount of time, think of this,

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to do something and obtain nothing at all.

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Now, you ready for this?

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It's easy for us to pick on kids,

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but we do the same thing.

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How long does it take to pray properly?

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Four minutes, five minutes?

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How long does it take to rush through

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prayer?

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Four minutes, five minutes?

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What's the difference?

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Thirty seconds?

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Forty-five seconds?

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I saw someone here today driving out the

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parking lot, speeding, and I stopped them.

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I actually got in front of the car.

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I was like, stop, and they stopped.

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And I walked over them, and I wasn't

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going to yell, and I said, look, wherever

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you're going, I promise you, driving five miles

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per hour faster in the parking lot is

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not going to get you there faster.

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But you're putting kids' lives in danger.

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You're going to hit someone's car.

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You're going to do something dumb that you

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regret.

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And you realize that if you look at

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Google Maps and you find that ETA on

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there, it's not going down at all because

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you floored your car.

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You floored the pedal to go there.

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I said, you wasted all of that for

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what?

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It's the impression of efficiency.

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When we speed through our prayers, we're not

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actually accomplishing anything faster.

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We're just skipping out on the benefit.

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So Imam al-Ghazali, he says, a person

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enters into the spiritual path by stopping what

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is prohibited.

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But they grow in the same path and

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become more of a beneficiary when they realize

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that whatever they're doing, if they did it

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with purpose and with intention, they would find

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a yield that was much more different than

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when they do it absentmindedly.

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Just like my son's homework.

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Just like how we behave.

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I know that we pick on kids because

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it's easy, but it's the same thing with

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adults.

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And so Imam al-Ghazali, he finishes and

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he keeps continuing.

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He says, so what then is the intentionality?

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What is the part of your soul where

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you can benefit and derive the most?

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It's not only staying away from things that

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are haram because quite frankly you already know

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that this is bad.

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Imam al-Ghazali, he's not trying to be,

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what's the word, condescending.

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He's not saying like, oh, you know.

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But he says, look, if you have an

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ayah or a hadith, if you have a

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verse or a statement of the Prophet ﷺ,

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and it says this is impermissible, he's like,

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it's already laid out for you.

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What's even more impressive than that, that's impressive.

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But what's even more impressive is when you're

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able to hold yourself back from something that

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doesn't actually have a source or a text,

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but you know, you know that when you

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indulge in this, it takes away from your,

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the health of your heart.

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You know that.

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You know that as a result of staying

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up late and watching things, that your Fajr

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is going to suffer.

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You went from the Fajr of a person

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who's aware, who's cognizant, to the Fajr of

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a zombie.

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Where you pray Fajr and you're like, did

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I, how many rakah did I just pray?

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Right?

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You and I know that.

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You and I both know, Ramadan is coming

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soon, may Allah give us Ramadan.

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Five, six months away, subhanAllah.

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You and I both know the feeling of

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a person who's praying after eating way too

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much iftar versus somebody who is able to

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hold themselves back.

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We know the difference, right?

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You and I both know when we walk

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into our closet or we look at our

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clothing, right?

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We see it's laundry day and you're like,

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who has so many clothes?

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And you realize it's you.

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I saw a meme that was hilarious.

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It was like laundry goes so well until

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it's time to fold, right?

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And that's when you're like, this is way

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too much.

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I have to call Marie Kondo, right, ASAP.

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You and I both know that as we're

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buying more things and the excitement, right?

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All of the synapses that are firing, all

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those moments, the excitement of getting something new.

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And then we know that when we get

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that thing and we wear it a couple

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times or we use it a couple times,

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all of the novelty wears off and then

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we look back behind us and there's a

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pile of virtually the exact same thing just

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sitting there.

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The shoes, the clothes, the shirts, the pants,

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the toys, the gadgets, all that are the

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same.

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And companies know this.

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And companies know that they can test you,

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right?

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Apple knows that every year we're going to

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put out the same phone that does nothing

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different.

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And those chayoteen, they sit there and laugh.

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Wallahi, they sit there and laugh.

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They know.

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What can we do differently this year?

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Oh, just make the camera 0.6 megapixels

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better.

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Come up with something that actually doesn't do

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anything differently.

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But then the entire world, I need it.

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And then they start to compare what you

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have and what they are offering.

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And you start to feel what?

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So deficient.

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You buy a car and you're like, wallahi,

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I never need a new car again.

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Alhamdulillah.

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Then the new version comes out.

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They're like, oh, you know that one thing

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that kind of bothers you a little bit?

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We fixed it.

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And you would actually be, I had a

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friend who used to design the MacBook Pro.

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He worked at Apple.

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He was part of the engineering team.

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And he said that we actually identify.

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We get data.

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We test and survey prototypes.

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We get data and we decide what things

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to fix and what things to leave.

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And we have a list of things that

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we leave so that we can, what?

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We can have new models every year.

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Because we're not going to create the perfect

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laptop.

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That's bad business.

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If we make the perfect car, the perfect

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laptop, the perfect this, that's bad business.

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We're going to go out of business.

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We need to make things that are imperfect

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so that we can keep improving upon them.

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Right?

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And that's why there's a clothing company called

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Patagonia.

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I don't know if you guys ever have

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heard of this company.

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The CEO said something crazy a couple years

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ago.

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He actually said people have way too many

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articles of clothing.

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And he said people need to stop.

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They had a record year for sales and

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he goes stop buying our clothes.

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He said relax.

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And then they even had a buyback thing

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where they're like we'll buy your clothes back

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if you have too many from us.

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Because he understood.

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And again, I'm not, you know, وَلَا نُزَكِي

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عَلَى اللَّهِ أَحِدٌ Like I'm not saying this

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person's like the prophet.

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Like he's still a business person.

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But at the end of the day, this

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is what ethical consumption looks like.

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So Imam Ghazali, a thousand years ago, is

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saying the same thing.

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He's saying what do you buy?

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Do you really need it?

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Do you really need it?

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What are you indulging?

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Do you really have to indulge in that?

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You think that by indulging in something you're

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gaining.

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Oh, yes, this experience.

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Oh, yes, this moment, this hotel on vacation,

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this food item, this, this, this.

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But subhanAllah, what you're actually doing is you're

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actually losing on the ability to have what's

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called self-discipline.

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It's much more valuable to be able to

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say no to yourself than be able to

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get to a point in life where you

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can say yes to everything.

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A lot of us aspire in our careers

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to earn to a point where we don't

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have to say no.

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But subhanAllah, maybe Allah is holding things back

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from us to be able to develop the

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muscle of no.

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Right?

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May Allah Ta'ala protect us.

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So then he says, This includes things that

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are earned through lustful or reprehensible means.

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And they have various degrees of precautionary steps

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between them.

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So it's not that everything is going to

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be equally dangerous, but everything has a starting

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point.

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Okay?

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He says the stricter that a person is

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on themselves, the more disciplined a person is

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on themselves, he said the lighter that their

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burden will be on the Day of Judgment.

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So the natural question is, look, why do

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we even do all this?

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Like if Allah made it halal, then why

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am I making it haram?

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No one's saying to make it haram, by

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the way.

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Enjoy your pastries.

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Please enjoy your pastries.

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I'm sorry we sold out.

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We got hit hard today, subhanAllah.

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Enjoy your matcha.

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Right?

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But everything in moderation.

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Do you have the ability to say no?

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Do you have the ability to hold back?

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I remember one time, if anyone's been for

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umrah before, may Allah invite us all.

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So umrah is such a jarring experience for

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a lot of us who go from America

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for hajj and umrah.

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Because you usually sign up to go with

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a company and their primary business is hospitality.

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Like if you sign up to go with

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a travel agency, they're not trying to send

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you to like a two-star hotel.

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That's against their business model.

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They want to put you in a nice

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hotel.

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That's what their job is.

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Okay?

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So they put you in these nice hotels

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and you go there and you're like, wow,

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this is nice, you know?

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And you go to the breakfast buffet and

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it's like the biggest breakfast buffet you've ever

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seen in your life.

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And you're like, this is nice.

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And then you start to have these interesting

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thoughts where you're like, but I'm in Mecca

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right now.

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And I remember this.

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Like I remember seeing this and being like,

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I'm in Mecca, in hajj.

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We were in tents in Mina and there

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were some groups, really, really expensive groups, and

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they were having lobster.

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Can you believe that?

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I've never had lobster in my life at

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this point.

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Okay?

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And I did not have lobster for the

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first time in the desert of Saudi Arabia.

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I promise you that.

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Okay?

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And I remember that.

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Listen to this.

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But this is really important because how many

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of us in here, we hear this, we

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get upset.

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Saudis.

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Wasteful people.

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We start getting angry with them.

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Same thing happened on hajj.

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We're sitting in hajj and all these young,

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pious brothers come and like, Astaghfirullah.

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And they say, Astaghfirullah is a ghayn, not

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a khaa.

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But anyways, continue.

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And they say, we should not be having

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this indulgent, luxurious food.

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And they look at the buffet and they're

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like, look, chicken, beef, little drool, you know.

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Chicken, beef, this, this, this.

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They start going down the line, right?

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And we let him finish.

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He was really upset.

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I remember he was like, this is not

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hajj.

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This is not hajj.

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This is hajj of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi

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Wasallam.

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I said, you flew a plane here, brother.

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Relax.

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If you want to make that hajj, you

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got to leave a year early on camel.

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Alright?

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You did not, you flew a plane here.

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You got to chill.

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So I said to him, I said, look.

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I was there with Mufti Kamani, Sheikh Mubeen,

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myself, Sheikh Abdul Nasser.

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He's sitting there and he's going off.

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I said, okay.

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And then I said, do you see Mufti

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Kamani?

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He goes, yeah.

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Because it was lunch time.

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I said, do you see what he's eating?

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Mufti Kamani is sitting there eating a Clif

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Bar.

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Like a, like a small animal, just nibbling

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and then that's it.

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Did you see Sheikh Mubeen?

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He goes, yeah.

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He's having some saltine crackers.

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Sheikh Abdul Nasser is having a cup of

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coffee.

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I was eating, I think, some like dried

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fruit that I brought.

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Some apricots.

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I said, do you see what we're eating?

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He said, yeah.

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I said, forget the fact that this is

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strategically so that we don't have to use

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the bathroom on hajj.

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But I said, do you see that we're

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not indulging in those things?

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And he said, yeah.

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I said, okay.

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No one's forcing you to do it.

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So you're getting really angry.

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But who are you really angry at?

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Are you angry at the hospitality company for

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doing their job?

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Or are you angry at yourself for wanting

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it?

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Are you disappointed that in the middle of

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hajj you're yearning for the chicken fajitas?

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And you heard about the lobster and the

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tiramisu and the sushi in program six.

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And more than anything you're like, I should

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have just paid more.

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I said, are you angry at them or

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yourself?

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And he said, wallahi, I'm angry at myself.

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Because I want to be here and not

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want those things.

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I said, good.

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This is the beginning of the journey now.

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You have to be able to say no

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to yourself.

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And being able to say no to yourself

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can't happen unless whatever you do, whatever you

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say no to is within reach.

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If it's not within reach, there's no no.

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You can't get it anyways.

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Guess what, guys?

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I told myself today, no Rolls Royce.

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Okay, you can't afford it anyways, Abdurrahman.

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There's nothing impressive about that.

00:31:06 --> 00:31:08

But if I said, Abdurrahman, you have a

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shopping cart that is full.

00:31:10 --> 00:31:10

Right?

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Not the real one, the digital one.

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Who shops in real life anymore?

00:31:13 --> 00:31:13

The digital one.

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And you can afford those things.

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But you looked at your heart and you

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said, you know who needs clothes more than

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you?

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A lot of people.

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And it would be better off to donate

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this than it would to give more to

00:31:28 --> 00:31:30

yourself when you already have a closet that's

00:31:30 --> 00:31:30

full.

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And you emptied it out.

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That is actually impressive.

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That's what he's talking about.

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It's not impressive to say no to things

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that are far off.

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Or haram.

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That is impressive in a sense if your

00:31:41 --> 00:31:41

heart's not in love with it.

00:31:42 --> 00:31:45

But what's really impressive is when you have

00:31:45 --> 00:31:46

it right in your grasp.

00:31:46 --> 00:31:47

And it's not haram.

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And you can afford it.

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And no one would question it.

00:31:51 --> 00:31:53

And you still ask the question, do I

00:31:53 --> 00:31:53

really need it?

00:31:56 --> 00:31:57

And then he says, the person who is

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able to be disciplined in those moments, whether

00:32:00 --> 00:32:02

it's with your dinner plate, whether it's with

00:32:02 --> 00:32:03

your closet, whether it's with your credit card,

00:32:03 --> 00:32:05

whether it's with your car, whether it's with

00:32:05 --> 00:32:06

your house.

00:32:07 --> 00:32:07

Right?

00:32:08 --> 00:32:09

Do we really need this?

00:32:10 --> 00:32:11

Or do we just want it?

00:32:11 --> 00:32:14

He says, that person who masters those questions

00:32:14 --> 00:32:20

will have a very, very smooth, a very

00:32:20 --> 00:32:21

smooth journey on the Day of Judgment.

00:32:21 --> 00:32:22

May Allah give us that.

00:32:22 --> 00:32:27

And he says, and for this person, they

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will cross the bridge, it's over the Hellfire,

00:32:30 --> 00:32:30

very quickly.

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A lot of people are going to cross

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it and it's going to be very, very

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difficult.

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And the reason why it's going to be

00:32:37 --> 00:32:39

difficult is not because the bridge, you know,

00:32:40 --> 00:32:41

SubhanAllah, I was reading a commentary on this

00:32:41 --> 00:32:43

and they said that there's a bridge on

00:32:43 --> 00:32:43

the Day of Judgment.

00:32:44 --> 00:32:44

Right?

00:32:44 --> 00:32:45

For those of you, to give more context.

00:32:45 --> 00:32:48

There's a bridge that goes over the Hellfire.

00:32:48 --> 00:32:48

It's called the Sirat.

00:32:48 --> 00:32:49

It's one of the tests of the Day

00:32:49 --> 00:32:50

of Judgment.

00:32:50 --> 00:32:51

You may have heard of this.

00:32:51 --> 00:32:53

Think back to your Sunday school, your teacher

00:32:53 --> 00:32:54

who's teaching you this when you're four.

00:32:57 --> 00:32:58

And that's a little joke.

00:33:00 --> 00:33:01

And apparently everyone here is the teacher who

00:33:01 --> 00:33:03

teaches this when they're four, because no one

00:33:03 --> 00:33:03

laughed.

00:33:04 --> 00:33:08

So he says, on this bridge, the bridge

00:33:08 --> 00:33:10

is actually going to be very similar for

00:33:10 --> 00:33:12

everybody in terms of the crossing.

00:33:13 --> 00:33:14

But for some people it will feel different

00:33:14 --> 00:33:16

not because of the bridge itself, but because

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of the burden that they're carrying.

00:33:18 --> 00:33:20

The sins that they carry.

00:33:21 --> 00:33:22

So he says the person will cross the

00:33:22 --> 00:33:23

bridge faster.

00:33:24 --> 00:33:26

And then the farther they will go when

00:33:26 --> 00:33:27

they go to the scale and they finally

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see their deeds being weighed, you know, when

00:33:31 --> 00:33:32

you're looking at something, you don't want to

00:33:32 --> 00:33:33

be close at all.

00:33:35 --> 00:33:38

If you're really, really, really anxious about something,

00:33:38 --> 00:33:40

you don't want anything to be close.

00:33:41 --> 00:33:43

You know, if you're nervous about your favorite

00:33:43 --> 00:33:45

team, winning by one is not fun.

00:33:46 --> 00:33:47

It's not.

00:33:48 --> 00:33:48

Alright?

00:33:49 --> 00:33:50

At my son's soccer game this weekend, they

00:33:50 --> 00:33:51

won two to one.

00:33:52 --> 00:33:54

My heart rate, my Apple Watch was like,

00:33:54 --> 00:33:55

you're having a cardiac episode.

00:33:56 --> 00:33:57

Like you need to go get yourself checked

00:33:57 --> 00:33:58

in.

00:33:58 --> 00:33:59

It was so nerve-wracking.

00:33:59 --> 00:34:01

I would rather they have won by ten

00:34:01 --> 00:34:02

goals.

00:34:02 --> 00:34:03

Don't, put my heart at rest, please.

00:34:03 --> 00:34:04

I don't want to be nervous.

00:34:05 --> 00:34:05

Right?

00:34:06 --> 00:34:09

Barely winning anything is never a fun experience.

00:34:09 --> 00:34:11

Of course, after it's all said and done,

00:34:11 --> 00:34:12

Alhamdulillah, but it's not a fun experience.

00:34:15 --> 00:34:15

Barely, barely.

00:34:17 --> 00:34:19

Just barely beating out your sins on the

00:34:19 --> 00:34:19

day of judgment.

00:34:20 --> 00:34:23

Although, of course, it's better than the sins

00:34:23 --> 00:34:26

weighing more than your good deeds, but it's

00:34:26 --> 00:34:27

not going to be a fun experience.

00:34:27 --> 00:34:29

So he says, for the person that disciplines

00:34:29 --> 00:34:33

themselves in this life, the scale has not

00:34:33 --> 00:34:34

even come close.

00:34:34 --> 00:34:37

The sins will be all the way far,

00:34:37 --> 00:34:38

super light.

00:34:38 --> 00:34:40

And the good deeds will be heavy.

00:34:41 --> 00:34:42

It's like the sin won't even register for

00:34:42 --> 00:34:44

them on their scale.

00:34:44 --> 00:34:45

May Allah grant us that.

00:34:46 --> 00:34:48

And then he said, the ranks of people

00:34:48 --> 00:34:50

in the hereafter, they vary according to these

00:34:50 --> 00:34:51

degrees of piety.

00:34:51 --> 00:34:53

So, let's quickly do a little bit of

00:34:53 --> 00:34:55

the Dr. Mustafa Abusoy analysis and then we'll

00:34:55 --> 00:34:55

move on.

00:34:55 --> 00:34:56

We have a Q&A open by the

00:34:56 --> 00:34:58

way, slido.com and then you can type

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in 30 and up.

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Oh, the questions are already loading up.

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So Dr. Mustafa Abusoy, he says, and I'll

00:35:05 --> 00:35:06

read this to you, it's very short.

00:35:06 --> 00:35:09

He says, personal taste and personal opinion and

00:35:09 --> 00:35:13

customs are not the source of a person's

00:35:13 --> 00:35:13

behavior.

00:35:14 --> 00:35:18

He says, revelation from Allah and the guidance

00:35:18 --> 00:35:20

of His Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam should be

00:35:20 --> 00:35:22

the source of how we behave.

00:35:23 --> 00:35:24

We should think differently.

00:35:25 --> 00:35:28

We should not seek to spiritually fit in.

00:35:29 --> 00:35:31

It's a big misnomer.

00:35:32 --> 00:35:36

People who fit in don't accomplish different goals

00:35:37 --> 00:35:39

than people that they're fitting in with.

00:35:40 --> 00:35:42

If I seek to be the same spiritually

00:35:43 --> 00:35:46

as those that I know have no lofty

00:35:46 --> 00:35:48

spiritual aspirations around me, I'm just going to

00:35:48 --> 00:35:49

remain the same.

00:35:49 --> 00:35:52

If a person wants to achieve something great

00:35:52 --> 00:35:55

with their faith, they have to desire to

00:35:55 --> 00:35:56

be greater.

00:35:57 --> 00:35:59

Not than others, but than themselves.

00:35:59 --> 00:36:01

They have to increase their own expectations.

00:36:02 --> 00:36:04

So then he says, the first degree of

00:36:04 --> 00:36:05

piety is do not cross over the boundaries

00:36:05 --> 00:36:06

set by Allah.

00:36:07 --> 00:36:09

And then he says, the higher degrees include

00:36:09 --> 00:36:11

abandoning even lawful things because why?

00:36:12 --> 00:36:16

They border on introducing you into prohibited actions.

00:36:16 --> 00:36:19

And he says, not only should a person

00:36:19 --> 00:36:21

seek out that which is lawful, but a

00:36:21 --> 00:36:25

person should be concerned about the means by

00:36:25 --> 00:36:27

which they're seeking out this lawful thing as

00:36:27 --> 00:36:27

well.

00:36:27 --> 00:36:33

For example, he says, piety should include not

00:36:33 --> 00:36:35

engaging in doubtful business matters.

00:36:36 --> 00:36:38

Not doing things that are unethical.

00:36:39 --> 00:36:40

I was having a conversation the other day

00:36:40 --> 00:36:45

with somebody and they were talking about using

00:36:45 --> 00:36:47

what's the word?

00:36:48 --> 00:36:50

Using memberships at places.

00:36:50 --> 00:36:52

And they were like, we look so similar.

00:36:53 --> 00:36:54

Just use mine.

00:36:56 --> 00:37:00

And everyone got quiet and then we all

00:37:00 --> 00:37:02

just finished praying Isha and they're like, yeah,

00:37:02 --> 00:37:03

let's not do that.

00:37:04 --> 00:37:05

They self-corrected.

00:37:05 --> 00:37:07

They realized that this was not ethical.

00:37:08 --> 00:37:11

And whatever you're saving, the membership is like

00:37:11 --> 00:37:13

20 bucks, 30 bucks, you know, like a

00:37:13 --> 00:37:14

stretch lab these places.

00:37:15 --> 00:37:17

Oh, we look exactly the same.

00:37:17 --> 00:37:19

Both of our names are Abdullah.

00:37:19 --> 00:37:20

Just go.

00:37:21 --> 00:37:23

The reality is that you might be tricking

00:37:23 --> 00:37:24

the person, but Allah sees everything.

00:37:25 --> 00:37:27

And these types of behaviors are not befitting

00:37:27 --> 00:37:27

of a Muslim.

00:37:28 --> 00:37:30

So he says part of this is to

00:37:30 --> 00:37:32

make sure that you operate and you trade

00:37:32 --> 00:37:36

in accordance with what is ethically the standard

00:37:36 --> 00:37:36

for Muslims.

00:37:37 --> 00:37:40

It means that you only accept money that

00:37:40 --> 00:37:43

is wholesome, that is gained by lawful means

00:37:43 --> 00:37:44

and that which pleases Allah.

00:37:44 --> 00:37:47

A person should never engage in any economic

00:37:47 --> 00:37:49

practice which goes against Islam.

00:37:50 --> 00:37:53

This is why he says in theory opening

00:37:53 --> 00:37:56

casinos and opening institutions of gambling could create

00:37:56 --> 00:37:57

many jobs.

00:37:58 --> 00:37:59

But he said because they go against the

00:37:59 --> 00:38:03

fiber of Islamic law, it would be reprehensible

00:38:03 --> 00:38:04

for a person to do so.

00:38:04 --> 00:38:06

Likewise, you can now use that analogy for

00:38:06 --> 00:38:07

anything else.

00:38:08 --> 00:38:10

He said Imam Ghazali highlights the fact that

00:38:10 --> 00:38:13

one should be completely conscientious about one's income.

00:38:14 --> 00:38:17

People should protect themselves from what they earn,

00:38:17 --> 00:38:19

making sure that they do not create any

00:38:19 --> 00:38:20

harm as a result of it.

00:38:21 --> 00:38:23

And negligent behavior with this regard could prolong

00:38:23 --> 00:38:25

one's judgment in the year after.

00:38:26 --> 00:38:28

Allah Ta'ala will ask every single person

00:38:28 --> 00:38:30

in the Day of Judgment about their wealth,

00:38:30 --> 00:38:33

specifically how they earned it and also what

00:38:33 --> 00:38:34

they did with it.

00:38:34 --> 00:38:35

May Allah Ta'ala give us a good

00:38:35 --> 00:38:35

ending.

00:38:36 --> 00:38:37

Ameen Ya Rabbil Alameen.

00:38:39 --> 00:38:39

Okay.

00:38:40 --> 00:38:41

Let's do some Q&A inshaAllah.

00:38:41 --> 00:38:43

We have some interesting ones here.

00:38:51 --> 00:38:51

Okay.

00:38:52 --> 00:38:53

What is the cut-off time for Tahajjud

00:38:53 --> 00:38:53

prayer?

00:38:54 --> 00:38:56

Does 10 minutes before Fajr still count?

00:38:57 --> 00:38:58

Yes, actually.

00:38:58 --> 00:39:00

The cut-off time for Tahajjud prayer is

00:39:00 --> 00:39:01

the Adhan for Fajr.

00:39:01 --> 00:39:03

When a person hears the Adhan for Fajr,

00:39:04 --> 00:39:06

or when a person knows that Fajr has

00:39:06 --> 00:39:08

come in, I should say, then that is

00:39:08 --> 00:39:09

the end of Tahajjud prayer.

00:39:10 --> 00:39:11

So if you want to pray Tahajjud, if

00:39:11 --> 00:39:14

you're awake that early, then that is good.

00:39:15 --> 00:39:17

Could you please make a collective dua that

00:39:17 --> 00:39:19

I get my green card soon so I

00:39:19 --> 00:39:21

can perform Umrah and maybe even join you

00:39:21 --> 00:39:21

on one of your trips.

00:39:21 --> 00:39:22

Ameen.

00:39:22 --> 00:39:23

May Allah Ta'ala make it easy.

00:39:23 --> 00:39:25

Whatever situation anyone's going through, this one included,

00:39:26 --> 00:39:27

may Allah Ta'ala facilitate it in perfect

00:39:27 --> 00:39:27

timing.

00:39:28 --> 00:39:30

What is the ruling on making wudu with

00:39:30 --> 00:39:31

your socks on?

00:39:32 --> 00:39:34

Our work bathrooms are not clean, and then

00:39:34 --> 00:39:35

it's like the green vomit face.

00:39:35 --> 00:39:37

I don't want to remove my shoes in

00:39:37 --> 00:39:39

there, and I don't want to delay my

00:39:39 --> 00:39:40

Asr.

00:39:40 --> 00:39:40

Okay.

00:39:41 --> 00:39:43

So the ruling with making wudu with socks

00:39:43 --> 00:39:50

on, there are some conditions, but preliminarily wudu

00:39:51 --> 00:39:54

generally needs to be an act in which

00:39:54 --> 00:39:56

the water makes contact with the skin.

00:39:56 --> 00:39:58

That is the general ruling, right?

00:39:58 --> 00:40:00

So hands, face, arms, hair, etc.

00:40:01 --> 00:40:04

Ears, mouth, of course, nose, feet, all of

00:40:04 --> 00:40:07

these are the requirement for a wudu is

00:40:07 --> 00:40:08

that they touch the skin.

00:40:08 --> 00:40:09

Now once a person is in the state

00:40:09 --> 00:40:12

of wudu, they can then put on a

00:40:12 --> 00:40:12

pair of socks.

00:40:12 --> 00:40:15

Now these socks, they have conditions.

00:40:15 --> 00:40:18

So the scholars, it's hard to demonstrate.

00:40:18 --> 00:40:19

Some say they have to be made of

00:40:19 --> 00:40:21

a material that's like synthetic, like leather.

00:40:22 --> 00:40:24

Some say no, it can be cotton, but

00:40:24 --> 00:40:25

it has to be like thick.

00:40:26 --> 00:40:28

Some say, well it can be a normal

00:40:28 --> 00:40:31

thickness, a normal size cotton, but it has

00:40:31 --> 00:40:33

to be one that is not porous.

00:40:34 --> 00:40:36

It doesn't like let things quickly go in

00:40:36 --> 00:40:36

and out.

00:40:37 --> 00:40:39

So some say like a dry fit sock,

00:40:39 --> 00:40:40

for example, would qualify.

00:40:40 --> 00:40:43

No matter what opinion you choose, the condition

00:40:43 --> 00:40:44

is the same, which is that you have

00:40:44 --> 00:40:45

to have wudu before you put the sock

00:40:45 --> 00:40:45

on.

00:40:46 --> 00:40:48

If you have wudu before you put the

00:40:48 --> 00:40:50

sock on, what you now are allowed to

00:40:50 --> 00:40:52

do is an action called masah.

00:40:52 --> 00:40:54

Masah means to wipe over.

00:40:55 --> 00:40:57

And that simply means that you make the

00:40:57 --> 00:40:59

full wudu, and when it comes time to

00:40:59 --> 00:41:01

wash the feet, you take water, you run

00:41:01 --> 00:41:03

it over your hand, and then you wipe

00:41:03 --> 00:41:04

over the top of your foot.

00:41:04 --> 00:41:05

You do that with your right foot and

00:41:05 --> 00:41:06

with your left foot.

00:41:08 --> 00:41:10

This state of wudu and sock can only

00:41:10 --> 00:41:12

be kept for 24 hours.

00:41:13 --> 00:41:14

And if you keep your socks on longer

00:41:14 --> 00:41:16

than that, there's other problems in your life

00:41:16 --> 00:41:16

probably, right?

00:41:17 --> 00:41:19

So, no, but realistically, right, you have the,

00:41:19 --> 00:41:21

the reason why this ruling is important, the

00:41:21 --> 00:41:23

24 hours, is because people used to keep

00:41:23 --> 00:41:24

their socks on for a long time, right,

00:41:24 --> 00:41:26

in the desert of course, and traveling and

00:41:26 --> 00:41:26

whatnot.

00:41:27 --> 00:41:29

So you can't go, you know, everlasting with

00:41:29 --> 00:41:29

this.

00:41:30 --> 00:41:30

It has to be reset.

00:41:30 --> 00:41:31

The wudu has to be reset.

00:41:32 --> 00:41:34

So if you do make your wudu before

00:41:34 --> 00:41:35

work, and you have your sock on, your

00:41:35 --> 00:41:37

sock qualifies, etc.

00:41:38 --> 00:41:39

It has to go above the ankle, for

00:41:39 --> 00:41:39

example.

00:41:39 --> 00:41:41

There's some conditions so you can look up,

00:41:41 --> 00:41:42

you know, what those are.

00:41:43 --> 00:41:45

Then you can wipe over your sock, inshallah.

00:41:45 --> 00:41:46

May Allah make it easy.

00:41:48 --> 00:41:49

I'm 45 and I've never been married.

00:41:50 --> 00:41:51

What advice can you give to those who

00:41:51 --> 00:41:53

are content being single and have accepted that

00:41:53 --> 00:41:55

marriage may not be their nasib?

00:41:55 --> 00:41:56

May Allah make it easy.

00:41:56 --> 00:41:58

Now this is a very mature question.

00:42:02 --> 00:42:04

In life, there are situations and there are

00:42:04 --> 00:42:09

moments in which a person realizes that something

00:42:09 --> 00:42:12

that they aspired for will simply not come

00:42:12 --> 00:42:13

to fruition in this life.

00:42:14 --> 00:42:18

And some of those realizations come with things

00:42:18 --> 00:42:21

that are very heavy, and some come with

00:42:21 --> 00:42:23

things that are moderate in heaviness, and some

00:42:23 --> 00:42:24

come with things that are lighter.

00:42:26 --> 00:42:30

This, obviously, marriage, being married, finding a companion,

00:42:31 --> 00:42:33

is something that, of course, weighs heavily on

00:42:33 --> 00:42:34

a lot of people.

00:42:35 --> 00:42:37

And the reality is that what you said

00:42:37 --> 00:42:39

at the end of your question is exactly

00:42:39 --> 00:42:40

the answer to the first part of your

00:42:40 --> 00:42:43

question, which is the key is to be

00:42:43 --> 00:42:45

content with whatever Allah Ta'ala has decreed.

00:42:45 --> 00:42:46

Now, of course, this is a lot easier

00:42:46 --> 00:42:47

said than done.

00:42:48 --> 00:42:48

Right?

00:42:48 --> 00:42:50

If everyone was content with everything all the

00:42:50 --> 00:42:51

time, we'd never get upset with anything.

00:42:52 --> 00:42:53

You know, you'd get a flat tire and

00:42:53 --> 00:42:55

you're like, this is Allah's decree.

00:42:56 --> 00:42:56

You know?

00:42:56 --> 00:42:58

You call AAA, they don't show up, you're

00:42:58 --> 00:42:59

like, well, Allah decreed that too.

00:42:59 --> 00:42:59

You know?

00:43:00 --> 00:43:02

And ideally, you want to get to a

00:43:02 --> 00:43:03

place where that is how you respond.

00:43:04 --> 00:43:05

But you're human.

00:43:05 --> 00:43:06

And I'm human.

00:43:06 --> 00:43:06

We're all human.

00:43:07 --> 00:43:08

And we're all going to have moments where

00:43:08 --> 00:43:11

our humanness, our humanness shows.

00:43:12 --> 00:43:15

So, what you do, and my advice for

00:43:15 --> 00:43:16

anybody, and I know this is specific to

00:43:16 --> 00:43:18

marriage, but this could also apply for having

00:43:18 --> 00:43:18

children.

00:43:19 --> 00:43:22

This could apply for, there's a brother I

00:43:22 --> 00:43:24

met the other day who said I have

00:43:24 --> 00:43:26

diabetes and I'll never be able to fast.

00:43:27 --> 00:43:28

And he was young.

00:43:29 --> 00:43:30

And he said, what advice can you give

00:43:30 --> 00:43:30

me?

00:43:30 --> 00:43:32

Because Ramadan, a big part of it is

00:43:32 --> 00:43:34

fasting and I can't partake and I feel,

00:43:35 --> 00:43:37

you know, spiritual FOMO, he said.

00:43:37 --> 00:43:38

I thought it was pretty funny.

00:43:38 --> 00:43:39

He goes, I feel spiritual FOMO.

00:43:39 --> 00:43:40

Like, I see people around me fasting and

00:43:40 --> 00:43:41

I can't.

00:43:41 --> 00:43:43

So, he goes, what advice can you give

00:43:43 --> 00:43:43

me?

00:43:43 --> 00:43:45

So, the point being is everyone has their

00:43:45 --> 00:43:47

thing that is withheld.

00:43:48 --> 00:43:49

And just because one of them is more

00:43:49 --> 00:43:51

obvious doesn't mean that someone's not struggling with

00:43:51 --> 00:43:52

something.

00:43:53 --> 00:43:54

Okay?

00:43:54 --> 00:43:56

But the key is to realize a statement

00:43:56 --> 00:43:58

of Hassan al-Basri rahimahullah, where he said,

00:43:58 --> 00:44:00

become convinced of two things and life will

00:44:00 --> 00:44:00

be a lot easier.

00:44:01 --> 00:44:03

Number one, whatever was good for you and

00:44:03 --> 00:44:05

written for you will never miss you.

00:44:05 --> 00:44:07

And whatever was not good for you and

00:44:07 --> 00:44:09

not meant for you will never hit you,

00:44:09 --> 00:44:10

no matter how hard you try.

00:44:12 --> 00:44:14

If a person can become convinced, he was

00:44:14 --> 00:44:16

asked, someone asked him, how did you achieve

00:44:16 --> 00:44:18

your level of piety?

00:44:18 --> 00:44:20

How did you achieve that?

00:44:20 --> 00:44:21

He said, I became content.

00:44:22 --> 00:44:22

They said, how?

00:44:22 --> 00:44:23

And that was his answer.

00:44:24 --> 00:44:25

How did you become content with Allah?

00:44:26 --> 00:44:28

In all situations, he said, I became convinced

00:44:28 --> 00:44:29

of two rules.

00:44:30 --> 00:44:31

Whatever was written for me, I couldn't run

00:44:31 --> 00:44:32

away from it.

00:44:33 --> 00:44:34

And whatever wasn't written for me, I could

00:44:34 --> 00:44:35

never catch it.

00:44:36 --> 00:44:37

It was just never going to happen.

00:44:38 --> 00:44:39

And once I became convinced of those two

00:44:39 --> 00:44:43

principles of life, I left it to Allah.

00:44:43 --> 00:44:44

I tried my best.

00:44:44 --> 00:44:46

When I wanted something, I went after it.

00:44:47 --> 00:44:49

When I didn't want something, I avoided it.

00:44:49 --> 00:44:50

But it doesn't matter.

00:44:50 --> 00:44:53

At the end, whenever things finished and were

00:44:53 --> 00:44:56

processed, whatever state I found myself in, I

00:44:56 --> 00:44:57

said, this is from Allah.

00:44:57 --> 00:44:58

And I accepted it.

00:44:59 --> 00:45:01

And I moved forward with that being my

00:45:01 --> 00:45:03

real state, my current state.

00:45:03 --> 00:45:04

So may Allah ta'ala make it easy

00:45:04 --> 00:45:05

for all of those.

00:45:05 --> 00:45:08

I'm not saying for a person to give

00:45:08 --> 00:45:08

up.

00:45:08 --> 00:45:09

I'm not saying that.

00:45:09 --> 00:45:09

Right?

00:45:10 --> 00:45:11

If you want to have children and it's

00:45:11 --> 00:45:13

a struggle, you're allowed to seek means.

00:45:13 --> 00:45:14

If you want to get married and it's

00:45:14 --> 00:45:16

a challenge, you're allowed to try, you know,

00:45:16 --> 00:45:17

different events and different.

00:45:18 --> 00:45:18

That's all.

00:45:18 --> 00:45:19

There's no prohibition of this.

00:45:21 --> 00:45:23

But what is prohibited is when a person

00:45:23 --> 00:45:26

tries and it doesn't come to fruition.

00:45:26 --> 00:45:29

And as a result of their trying and

00:45:29 --> 00:45:34

their, you know, the delay, they begin to

00:45:34 --> 00:45:35

question Allah.

00:45:35 --> 00:45:36

That's prohibited.

00:45:37 --> 00:45:38

Right?

00:45:38 --> 00:45:39

You can feel the frustration.

00:45:39 --> 00:45:40

You can feel the pain.

00:45:40 --> 00:45:41

That's allowed.

00:45:41 --> 00:45:44

But the tongue can never utter that which

00:45:44 --> 00:45:45

goes against Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

00:45:45 --> 00:45:49

Because, imagine subhanAllah, on the Day of Judgment,

00:45:49 --> 00:45:51

when everything is laid even, you get to

00:45:51 --> 00:45:53

watch the director's cut of your own life.

00:45:54 --> 00:45:55

And you get to see all the narrow

00:45:55 --> 00:45:56

misses.

00:45:57 --> 00:45:58

And you get to see how everything played

00:45:58 --> 00:45:58

out.

00:45:59 --> 00:46:00

And everything will make sense.

00:46:00 --> 00:46:01

You know, on the Day of Judgment, one

00:46:01 --> 00:46:02

of the biggest gifts is that there's no

00:46:02 --> 00:46:03

questions anymore.

00:46:04 --> 00:46:06

There's no more like why or how or

00:46:06 --> 00:46:06

why not.

00:46:07 --> 00:46:08

All of it will become obvious.

00:46:08 --> 00:46:10

You get to watch the entire thing.

00:46:10 --> 00:46:13

And imagine the foolishness and the embarrassment that

00:46:13 --> 00:46:16

every person will have for the feelings of

00:46:16 --> 00:46:18

rebellion they had towards Allah when all Allah

00:46:18 --> 00:46:20

wanted to do was protect you and preserve

00:46:20 --> 00:46:20

you.

00:46:22 --> 00:46:23

Imagine that.

00:46:23 --> 00:46:24

How shy you are.

00:46:25 --> 00:46:27

Like when you look at somebody and you

00:46:27 --> 00:46:28

were doing your best to help them.

00:46:28 --> 00:46:28

And they get upset.

00:46:29 --> 00:46:30

And then later they find out that you

00:46:30 --> 00:46:31

were just trying to help.

00:46:31 --> 00:46:32

Look how red their face turns.

00:46:33 --> 00:46:34

Right?

00:46:34 --> 00:46:35

Look at how embarrassed we become when we

00:46:35 --> 00:46:37

realize that we were avoiding people that were

00:46:37 --> 00:46:38

just trying to help us.

00:46:39 --> 00:46:41

Now on the Day of Judgment, imagine that

00:46:41 --> 00:46:41

feeling with Allah.

00:46:41 --> 00:46:45

So, as much pain as felt, always meet

00:46:45 --> 00:46:47

that pain with trust in Allah.

00:46:48 --> 00:46:49

Experience the pain.

00:46:49 --> 00:46:50

That's normal.

00:46:50 --> 00:46:50

You're human.

00:46:51 --> 00:46:52

But meet it with the trust of Allah.

00:46:52 --> 00:46:53

Subhanahu wa ta'ala.

00:46:54 --> 00:46:54

Okay.

00:47:03 --> 00:47:05

I don't want to ask this one, but

00:47:05 --> 00:47:05

I feel like I have to.

00:47:07 --> 00:47:09

If twins are born, both during daylight savings,

00:47:10 --> 00:47:12

the first one is born at 1.45

00:47:12 --> 00:47:13

and the second one is born 30 minutes

00:47:13 --> 00:47:19

later at 1.15, which one is legally

00:47:19 --> 00:47:19

older?

00:47:23 --> 00:47:25

Imam Ghazali writes an entire book about people

00:47:25 --> 00:47:26

who have too much time.

00:47:28 --> 00:47:29

And one of the things he writes is

00:47:29 --> 00:47:31

that they ask funny questions.

00:47:32 --> 00:47:34

Oh, this is a good one.

00:47:34 --> 00:47:35

I'm going to make a lot of people

00:47:35 --> 00:47:36

mad about this.

00:47:37 --> 00:47:38

Chick-fil-A is closed on Sundays.

00:47:38 --> 00:47:40

Does that make them people of the book

00:47:40 --> 00:47:40

technically?

00:47:41 --> 00:47:42

It's a good question.

00:47:43 --> 00:47:44

The answer is no.

00:47:44 --> 00:47:47

That's not what qualifies somebody in the Sharia

00:47:47 --> 00:47:48

to become Ahlul Kitab.

00:47:49 --> 00:47:50

Okay.

00:47:50 --> 00:47:52

That's not what the qualification is.

00:47:52 --> 00:47:54

There is in fact a difference of opinion

00:47:54 --> 00:47:57

in slaughter methods, okay, for the halalness of

00:47:57 --> 00:47:57

a meat.

00:47:58 --> 00:48:00

That is not mentioned in any of the

00:48:00 --> 00:48:00

books of Fiqh.

00:48:01 --> 00:48:03

If the butcher is closed on Sundays, that

00:48:03 --> 00:48:06

is a condition of their Christianness.

00:48:06 --> 00:48:07

That's not the case.

00:48:07 --> 00:48:08

Okay.

00:48:09 --> 00:48:12

The conditions of eating meat that is slaughtered

00:48:12 --> 00:48:16

by the people of the book still follows

00:48:16 --> 00:48:21

the same slaughter method of the Muslim.

00:48:23 --> 00:48:24

That is the big question.

00:48:25 --> 00:48:26

The big question is the slaughter method.

00:48:27 --> 00:48:27

Okay.

00:48:28 --> 00:48:33

Is the animal dead before the blood vessels

00:48:33 --> 00:48:33

are cut?

00:48:34 --> 00:48:37

Because that is technically not considered permissible for

00:48:37 --> 00:48:37

us to eat.

00:48:38 --> 00:48:40

Which is unfortunately in America a very common

00:48:40 --> 00:48:43

method of slaughter which is a bolt to

00:48:43 --> 00:48:45

the brain before the arteries are cut.

00:48:45 --> 00:48:47

And the second thing is, is there a

00:48:47 --> 00:48:48

mention of God?

00:48:48 --> 00:48:50

Now the scholars differ on this.

00:48:51 --> 00:48:55

The Shafi'i school primarily allows for eating

00:48:56 --> 00:49:00

certain types of meat never dead, never pre

00:49:00 --> 00:49:03

-killed before slaughter, or before cutting.

00:49:04 --> 00:49:07

But they allow the certain conditions to be

00:49:07 --> 00:49:11

not explicitly stated like the mention of God's

00:49:11 --> 00:49:11

name.

00:49:12 --> 00:49:14

And then the Hanafi school and the other

00:49:14 --> 00:49:16

schools primarily do not allow this.

00:49:17 --> 00:49:18

I'm not here to tell you what to

00:49:18 --> 00:49:19

follow.

00:49:19 --> 00:49:20

I'm just here to tell you that what

00:49:20 --> 00:49:22

is agreed upon by all schools is that

00:49:22 --> 00:49:25

if the animal was considered dead before the

00:49:25 --> 00:49:27

veins or the arteries were cut, it's technically

00:49:28 --> 00:49:30

considered what's called in English carrion.

00:49:30 --> 00:49:32

Carrion, right?

00:49:32 --> 00:49:33

It's considered dead meat.

00:49:34 --> 00:49:34

Okay.

00:49:34 --> 00:49:37

So we cannot eat that at all.

00:49:37 --> 00:49:39

So Chick-fil-A, you know, I want

00:49:39 --> 00:49:40

those best, man.

00:49:43 --> 00:49:44

I avoid it but I want those best.

00:49:45 --> 00:49:45

Okay.

00:49:45 --> 00:49:48

Adoption in Islam, is it allowed?

00:49:49 --> 00:49:49

That's the question.

00:49:50 --> 00:49:53

Adoption, there is a concept of taking care

00:49:53 --> 00:49:55

of orphans for sure.

00:49:55 --> 00:49:57

And those orphans, in some senses of course,

00:49:57 --> 00:49:59

can come and be fostered and even live

00:49:59 --> 00:50:00

with the host family.

00:50:01 --> 00:50:03

There are some conditions for adoption, right?

00:50:04 --> 00:50:06

It can be challenging of course, right?

00:50:06 --> 00:50:09

One of the main conditions that's mentioned is

00:50:09 --> 00:50:12

that the child needs to be aware that

00:50:12 --> 00:50:15

they have a family lineage that is not

00:50:15 --> 00:50:17

your family lineage, but they have one.

00:50:18 --> 00:50:20

Meaning that their name can't be changed, you

00:50:20 --> 00:50:21

cannot hide their history, etc.

00:50:22 --> 00:50:23

All that has to be there.

00:50:23 --> 00:50:25

There's also some other conditions and stuff.

00:50:25 --> 00:50:28

So generally, yes, adoption as a concept is

00:50:28 --> 00:50:28

allowed.

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But of course, Islam, as with other things,

00:50:31 --> 00:50:33

has conditions and prerequisites.

00:50:33 --> 00:50:35

So that can be a longer topic for

00:50:35 --> 00:50:36

a different day inshallah.

00:50:42 --> 00:50:43

Oh god.

00:50:46 --> 00:50:47

Is it haram to get Botox?

00:50:49 --> 00:50:50

To look good for women?

00:50:50 --> 00:50:50

What about men?

00:50:50 --> 00:50:53

What if I want a little...

00:50:53 --> 00:50:54

What if I want to get rid of

00:50:54 --> 00:50:55

some...

00:50:56 --> 00:50:57

Why women only?

00:50:58 --> 00:50:59

Just trying to be fair.

00:51:00 --> 00:51:01

The room got quiet.

00:51:01 --> 00:51:04

Okay, so everyone's waiting on the edge of

00:51:04 --> 00:51:05

their seats.

00:51:05 --> 00:51:06

They're like, I have an appointment at 9

00:51:06 --> 00:51:07

o'clock, can you please tell me?

00:51:08 --> 00:51:10

Look, I don't know.

00:51:10 --> 00:51:11

I actually don't know.

00:51:11 --> 00:51:12

I do a lot of reading on this

00:51:12 --> 00:51:13

because I get asked this question once a

00:51:13 --> 00:51:14

week.

00:51:14 --> 00:51:16

Usually right before the appointment.

00:51:17 --> 00:51:19

I will say this.

00:51:19 --> 00:51:19

Okay?

00:51:23 --> 00:51:25

I was once listening to a lecture by

00:51:25 --> 00:51:27

a sheikh who was asked about social media.

00:51:29 --> 00:51:31

And they asked him, what's the ruling?

00:51:33 --> 00:51:34

And this was early on.

00:51:34 --> 00:51:36

This was like in 1990-something.

00:51:37 --> 00:51:37

2000 maybe.

00:51:37 --> 00:51:40

I'm trying to think.

00:51:41 --> 00:51:42

Do I have to take my shoes off

00:51:42 --> 00:51:42

on a fly or not?

00:51:43 --> 00:51:43

So I was trying to imagine.

00:51:44 --> 00:51:46

And he said, I don't know.

00:51:47 --> 00:51:48

And he actually said something really powerful.

00:51:48 --> 00:51:49

He goes, it's too early to know.

00:51:51 --> 00:51:53

And I remember subhanAllah him saying that.

00:51:54 --> 00:51:55

And the questioner being like, what does that

00:51:55 --> 00:51:55

mean?

00:51:55 --> 00:51:56

It's too early to know.

00:51:56 --> 00:51:57

He goes, we don't know the effects.

00:51:59 --> 00:51:59

Right?

00:51:59 --> 00:52:00

Something is judged.

00:52:00 --> 00:52:02

If there's no clear direct evidence of something

00:52:02 --> 00:52:07

being permissible or impermissible, then you can infer

00:52:07 --> 00:52:12

permissibility or impermissibility based on the causal and

00:52:12 --> 00:52:15

the operative effects of the behavior, the action.

00:52:16 --> 00:52:16

Okay?

00:52:17 --> 00:52:19

So he says, I don't know.

00:52:19 --> 00:52:21

And he goes, we'll find out.

00:52:22 --> 00:52:24

And now 20 years later, you have the

00:52:24 --> 00:52:26

Surgeon General saying that there's actually a mental

00:52:26 --> 00:52:29

health crisis that is caused by the rampant

00:52:29 --> 00:52:32

usage of social media, particularly amongst teenagers.

00:52:34 --> 00:52:36

You literally have a medical body, the head

00:52:36 --> 00:52:38

of the medical body or the medical community

00:52:38 --> 00:52:41

in America saying that teenagers should not be

00:52:41 --> 00:52:42

using social media.

00:52:43 --> 00:52:43

It is dangerous.

00:52:44 --> 00:52:46

It is harmful for them.

00:52:46 --> 00:52:47

Okay?

00:52:48 --> 00:52:49

And I remember the time when the Shaykh

00:52:49 --> 00:52:51

said this, people were like, oh, cop out.

00:52:52 --> 00:52:53

Just say it's halal or haram.

00:52:53 --> 00:52:54

Don't run away from the question.

00:52:55 --> 00:52:56

But he was smart.

00:52:57 --> 00:52:58

And he was like, look, I might feel

00:52:58 --> 00:52:59

a certain way, but I'm not going to

00:52:59 --> 00:53:01

project that onto the Sharia because that's a

00:53:01 --> 00:53:02

serious thing to do.

00:53:03 --> 00:53:04

You cannot take what I feel and say,

00:53:04 --> 00:53:05

Islam says this.

00:53:05 --> 00:53:05

No.

00:53:06 --> 00:53:07

Because you have to have evidence.

00:53:08 --> 00:53:10

But at the same time, you also have

00:53:10 --> 00:53:13

to be wise enough and observant enough to

00:53:13 --> 00:53:14

watch and see the effects of these things.

00:53:16 --> 00:53:18

So, I don't know what the ruling on

00:53:18 --> 00:53:19

Botox is.

00:53:20 --> 00:53:21

I've never done it, believe it or not.

00:53:21 --> 00:53:21

I know.

00:53:23 --> 00:53:26

How can you maintain this face without that?

00:53:27 --> 00:53:27

So I don't know.

00:53:27 --> 00:53:30

And I know a little bit about the

00:53:30 --> 00:53:32

science, but not enough to know anything really

00:53:32 --> 00:53:35

effectively about the harm of it.

00:53:36 --> 00:53:40

But I will say that the trend of

00:53:40 --> 00:53:45

a person wanting to do this is concerning

00:53:45 --> 00:53:46

and worrying to me.

00:53:48 --> 00:53:50

And I would say that, especially as a

00:53:50 --> 00:53:53

father now of a daughter, I would try

00:53:53 --> 00:53:55

to encourage her not to think that this

00:53:55 --> 00:53:58

is something that she needs to do in

00:53:58 --> 00:54:00

order to appear any certain type of way

00:54:00 --> 00:54:03

and that Allah made her as beautiful as

00:54:03 --> 00:54:05

she is, just the way she is.

00:54:05 --> 00:54:07

That would be my answer without fiqh in

00:54:07 --> 00:54:08

it.

00:54:08 --> 00:54:09

Okay?

00:54:09 --> 00:54:12

Now, this is not an indictment against anybody

00:54:12 --> 00:54:14

here if you do this.

00:54:15 --> 00:54:18

But it's just me saying that maybe in

00:54:18 --> 00:54:19

2055, we'll know.

00:54:20 --> 00:54:25

But that my heart, my inclination, my gut

00:54:28 --> 00:54:31

is telling me that it's probably not something

00:54:31 --> 00:54:33

that is necessary.

00:54:34 --> 00:54:34

Allah knows best.

00:54:41 --> 00:54:43

Okay, this is the last question, then we're

00:54:43 --> 00:54:43

done.

00:54:43 --> 00:54:45

Is it bad to make dua over and

00:54:45 --> 00:54:47

over and over for something that just seems

00:54:47 --> 00:54:48

not to be meant for you?

00:54:49 --> 00:54:50

It's never bad to make dua.

00:54:51 --> 00:54:53

It's never bad to ask Allah for something.

00:54:54 --> 00:54:56

It's like saying, is it bad to pray?

00:54:57 --> 00:54:58

Or is it bad to fast?

00:54:58 --> 00:54:58

No.

00:54:59 --> 00:55:00

Making dua is fine.

00:55:00 --> 00:55:01

It's good.

00:55:01 --> 00:55:02

It's excellent actually.

00:55:03 --> 00:55:06

But there comes a point in the making

00:55:06 --> 00:55:09

of dua in which a person should hand

00:55:09 --> 00:55:11

over the answer to Allah.

00:55:12 --> 00:55:13

Just hand it over.

00:55:14 --> 00:55:14

Right?

00:55:14 --> 00:55:18

Because if I'm making dua for something and

00:55:18 --> 00:55:20

I keep going and I say I'm not

00:55:20 --> 00:55:22

gonna stop making this dua until you give

00:55:22 --> 00:55:24

it to me, oh Allah, then this is

00:55:24 --> 00:55:25

not a dua, this is a demand.

00:55:25 --> 00:55:29

At the end of istikhara, what do we

00:55:29 --> 00:55:29

say?

00:55:30 --> 00:55:33

The istikhara dua, in summary says, oh Allah,

00:55:35 --> 00:55:36

you are the one who knows, I don't

00:55:36 --> 00:55:36

know.

00:55:37 --> 00:55:40

I want this really badly.

00:55:40 --> 00:55:42

If it's good for me in my life

00:55:42 --> 00:55:45

and in my death, in my dunya, my

00:55:45 --> 00:55:46

akhira, then give it to me.

00:55:46 --> 00:55:47

If it's not good for me, oh Allah,

00:55:48 --> 00:55:49

in my life, my death, my dunya, my

00:55:49 --> 00:55:52

akhira, then take it far away and replace

00:55:52 --> 00:55:52

it with something better.

00:55:53 --> 00:55:55

That's why the istikhara dua is so beautiful

00:55:55 --> 00:55:58

because you're actually saying I think I know

00:55:58 --> 00:56:01

what I want but I'm willing, oh Allah,

00:56:01 --> 00:56:05

in my submission to you to completely defer

00:56:05 --> 00:56:07

the decision to you, oh Allah.

00:56:08 --> 00:56:09

And that is really the essence of dua.

00:56:10 --> 00:56:11

So making dua is never a bad thing.

00:56:12 --> 00:56:14

But if the dua does not finish with

00:56:15 --> 00:56:20

deferral and really just delegating and making deference

00:56:20 --> 00:56:25

to Allah, then ultimately, what kind of dua

00:56:25 --> 00:56:25

is that?

00:56:26 --> 00:56:28

It's more of a demand than it is

00:56:28 --> 00:56:28

a supplication.

00:56:29 --> 00:56:32

So I would recommend for this person number

00:56:32 --> 00:56:34

one, continue making dua.

00:56:34 --> 00:56:36

Number two, if something seems to be not

00:56:36 --> 00:56:38

the case, there's always a difference between a

00:56:38 --> 00:56:39

speed bump and a brick wall.

00:56:41 --> 00:56:43

And if you don't know the difference, you've

00:56:43 --> 00:56:44

never run into a brick wall before.

00:56:46 --> 00:56:47

There's a difference between a speed bump and

00:56:47 --> 00:56:48

a wall.

00:56:48 --> 00:56:52

A speed bump is a not yet, now's

00:56:52 --> 00:56:56

not a good time, apply again later, etc.

00:56:57 --> 00:57:00

A wall is no, never happening.

00:57:02 --> 00:57:04

Be able to tell the difference.

00:57:04 --> 00:57:08

If the wall is present, then don't try

00:57:08 --> 00:57:10

going through it, go around it.

00:57:10 --> 00:57:11

Ask Allah for something that is different.

00:57:12 --> 00:57:13

Ask Allah to facilitate in a way and

00:57:13 --> 00:57:15

to open up doors that only He can

00:57:15 --> 00:57:16

open.

00:57:16 --> 00:57:18

But if it's a speed bump, that's where

00:57:18 --> 00:57:21

you continue to ask and you remain patient

00:57:21 --> 00:57:24

and you remain persistent and consistent.

00:57:24 --> 00:57:25

Oh Allah, please grant this to me.

00:57:25 --> 00:57:26

Please grant this to me.

00:57:27 --> 00:57:28

It's not a wall, it's a speed bump.

00:57:29 --> 00:57:31

But always at the end of it, defer

00:57:31 --> 00:57:33

the ultimate judgment to Allah.

00:57:33 --> 00:57:36

We ask Allah to make us those that

00:57:36 --> 00:57:38

have spiritual discipline, that we stay away from

00:57:38 --> 00:57:40

things that He prohibited but also stay away

00:57:40 --> 00:57:43

from things that can test us and that

00:57:43 --> 00:57:44

can test our indulgences and our desires.

00:57:44 --> 00:57:47

We ask Allah to make us those people

00:57:47 --> 00:57:48

who can make decisions that we'll be proud

00:57:48 --> 00:57:49

of on the Day of Judgment.

00:57:49 --> 00:57:51

We ask Allah to make us people that

00:57:51 --> 00:57:54

we make decisions that we will be relieved

00:57:54 --> 00:57:55

by on the Day of Judgment.

00:57:55 --> 00:57:57

We ask Allah to make us people that

00:57:57 --> 00:57:59

we make decisions that we will be excited

00:57:59 --> 00:58:01

to see on the Day of Judgment and

00:58:01 --> 00:58:03

that Allah protect us from being people that

00:58:03 --> 00:58:06

will be embarrassed or ashamed or burdened by

00:58:06 --> 00:58:07

the decisions that we made in this life

00:58:07 --> 00:58:08

when we reach the Day of Judgment.

00:58:09 --> 00:58:09

Ameen.

00:58:13 --> 00:58:14

...

00:58:16 --> 00:58:16

...

00:58:17 --> 00:58:19

I do want to announce, I didn't announce

00:58:19 --> 00:58:21

it last night but tonight we do have

00:58:21 --> 00:58:23

some events in our October calendar.

00:58:23 --> 00:58:24

MashaAllah, happy October.

00:58:25 --> 00:58:25

You thought I was going to say Halloween.

00:58:26 --> 00:58:26

Happy October.

00:58:27 --> 00:58:28

Not me.

00:58:29 --> 00:58:31

You know one of those holidays that became

00:58:31 --> 00:58:32

haram as you got older.

00:58:32 --> 00:58:35

So I did want to announce though that

00:58:35 --> 00:58:37

this weekend inshaAllah we have a few different

00:58:37 --> 00:58:37

events.

00:58:37 --> 00:58:39

We have, we've fully launched and set up

00:58:39 --> 00:58:41

our convert connections program which is meant to

00:58:41 --> 00:58:43

be a space for converts and their families

00:58:44 --> 00:58:45

and close friends inshaAllah.

00:58:45 --> 00:58:46

So please please check out our calendar for

00:58:46 --> 00:58:47

that.

00:58:47 --> 00:58:50

We also have our on Sunday the first

00:58:50 --> 00:58:52

of many we're going to call meet and

00:58:52 --> 00:58:53

greets which is going to be for all

00:58:53 --> 00:58:56

of those who are not from Dallas new

00:58:56 --> 00:58:58

to the area, moved here the last few

00:58:58 --> 00:59:00

months, year or so and you kind of

00:59:00 --> 00:59:01

want to find your rhythm and your groove

00:59:01 --> 00:59:01

socially.

00:59:02 --> 00:59:03

We're going to have an opportunity for you

00:59:03 --> 00:59:06

to come here where everybody is relatively new.

00:59:07 --> 00:59:08

I know that one of the challenges moving

00:59:08 --> 00:59:09

to a place is that it seems like

00:59:09 --> 00:59:10

everybody already knows people.

00:59:11 --> 00:59:12

It's hard to kind of make friends and

00:59:12 --> 00:59:15

break in and this is the exact reason

00:59:15 --> 00:59:16

why we're going to be hosting these events

00:59:16 --> 00:59:16

inshaAllah.

00:59:18 --> 00:59:19

Every two months or so.

00:59:19 --> 00:59:21

So this Sunday is our first one at

00:59:21 --> 00:59:21

4pm.

00:59:21 --> 00:59:23

You're more than welcome to bring yourself, your

00:59:23 --> 00:59:23

family inshaAllah.

00:59:24 --> 00:59:26

If you're new to Dallas I'll let you

00:59:26 --> 00:59:28

define what new means.

00:59:28 --> 00:59:29

I'm not going to set a time limit.

00:59:29 --> 00:59:31

We're not going to check your arrival ticket

00:59:31 --> 00:59:32

and stuff.

00:59:32 --> 00:59:33

But just you know if you're new to

00:59:33 --> 00:59:34

Dallas and you want to meet new people,

00:59:34 --> 00:59:36

Sunday inshaAllah please join us for our community

00:59:36 --> 00:59:37

meet and greet.

00:59:37 --> 00:59:39

We'll have some food, some refreshments.

00:59:39 --> 00:59:40

We'll have some conversations as well.

00:59:40 --> 00:59:40

Be fun.

00:59:41 --> 00:59:41

Light-hearted inshaAllah.

00:59:42 --> 00:59:44

We also have a couple other events on

00:59:44 --> 00:59:46

the calendar so just please check the calendar

00:59:46 --> 00:59:46

inshaAllah.

00:59:46 --> 00:59:49

We have in October 57 events for the

00:59:49 --> 00:59:49

community.

00:59:51 --> 00:59:53

And just because they might not be striking

00:59:53 --> 00:59:55

your demographic, I just want you to appreciate

00:59:55 --> 00:59:57

that we're doing a lot and this is

00:59:57 --> 00:59:59

all thanks to your support.

00:59:59 --> 01:00:02

May Allah bless you for sustaining and contributing

01:00:02 --> 01:00:05

and we've hopefully been able to try our

01:00:05 --> 01:00:07

best to fulfill the promise that if you

01:00:07 --> 01:00:08

support us we'll be able to deliver more

01:00:08 --> 01:00:09

and more inshaAllah.

01:00:09 --> 01:00:09

Jazakum Allah khairan.

01:00:10 --> 01:00:10

Take care everybody.

01:00:10 --> 01:00:11

We'll see you inshaAllah.

01:00:11 --> 01:00:13

Isha prayer is in about 6 minutes.

01:00:13 --> 01:00:14

So if you can help me with the

01:00:14 --> 01:00:15

back jacks lining up in the front.

01:00:16 --> 01:00:17

And then if you sat on the black

01:00:17 --> 01:00:19

folding chairs there are the dollies there in

01:00:19 --> 01:00:21

the hallway and you can stack them there.

01:00:22 --> 01:00:22

Jazakum Allah khairan.

01:00:23 --> 01:00:24

I'm going to head over to the Masala

01:00:24 --> 01:00:26

and join you guys for Isha prayer.

01:00:26 --> 01:00:27

Wassalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

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