AbdelRahman Murphy – Jumuah Khutbah 07-10-22
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The importance of love and engagement in relationships is discussed, citing examples such as the need for healthy relationships and the difficulty of achieving perfect love. The speaker discusses the definition of love and how it can be defined differently by various people, including the Prophet's message. The importance of love is emphasized, along with tips on changing one's behavior and embracing the Prophet's teachings.
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the question of what it means to love someone is a very difficult question to answer.
Everyone has different measurements of what it means to love and to be loved. And this is why when people have relationships, like parents and children or like spouses or friends, there is sometimes a gap between what somebody says and what somebody does and what somebody feels. So it's very possible that spouses can be married to one another. And one of them could say that I love you. But the other does not feel that love, because there's not the expression of love that the spouse is waiting for.
Same with children. Same with parents, children can say to their parents, I love you. But there could be a gap and vice versa. And these are different topics for different times I saw the parents get nervous for a moment. These are different topics for different times. Today's topic is about a love that is universal to everybody because not everyone in here has the same role in life, except for the fact that we are all believers in Allah hamdulillah and we all follow his last and beloved messenger Muhammad Sallallahu sallam. And when it comes to love that is between people. That love is not mandatory, meaning friends don't have to stay friends forever. Marriages can unfortunately end
families can pull apart those are things that are all within the realm of possibility. But if somebody claims to be a Muslim, there is a love that is an obligation. That is mandatory. And it's not mandatory because a person doesn't want to do it, but they're forced to but it's mandatory in the same way. That food is a necessity.
But breathing is a necessity that drinking water you have to do it. It's not that you don't want to and you have to but it's that you need to in order to survive. So in order for a person's faith to survive, understanding, loving the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam is an obligation. It's something that every person has to think about. What is my relationship with the messenger SallAllahu sallam? What is my connection to him? What is my level of love with him the Prophet sallallahu sallam said in a hadith narrated in Bukhari and Muslim, it's narrated that the Prophet SAW Selim said Allah You know, I had to come Hatta Hakuna, I have that delay, that none of you
really truly have conquered and completed the mountain of Eman of belief, meaning that you may have come in through the front door, but you haven't quite explored the entire experience of true Eman until when hat to Hakuna, I have the delay I until I in that person's heart and more beloved to themselves.
mentality he while he when nasty edge brain that I am more beloved to to that person than even themselves than even their children, their parents and all of humanity. There's a funny story about this because again, this narration sounds overwhelming. It sounds a little bit in isolation, it sounds a little bit challenging. And I want you to know that you're not alone. Because it's easy to love somebody more than people of course, you can say I'd love someone more than a stranger or this or that. But then as soon as you start getting to things like parents and children and even then yourself, there's a natural, almost human response, which is wow, that's a lot. So you're not alone.
Guess who also felt this way. None other than the great companion to Ahmed. Ahmed Abdullah Hassan, when he heard this hadith, he went to the Prophet SAW Selim and he told the prophet yesil Allah, I love you more than everyone, I can promise you that. No one in my life means more to me than you. You have to assume a lot except me.
accept myself. You have to swallow it's hard for me to take you and to put you in the position of my heart and to take my desires and what I want and to remove them from that place. So the Prophet saw some smiled and he told him, not yet Yama, not yet. And the scholars they talk about what does this mean this not yet. One of them said that this means that you haven't experienced true complete Eman yet which is one meaning and the other is that Ahmad, you will get there. This is a process it takes time. You can't expect to accept Islam or start practicing or start praying. And the next day all of a sudden you're like I love the messenger more than everyone including myself. It's a very, very
difficult process well worth it but like climbing a mountain. And so the Prophet Muhammad SAW some he says this and I wanted to dedicate today's thought to how to accomplish this. How to achieve this because it's possible as Allah describes these people in the Quran, people that we hope to never be like, he says are the bIllahi min ash shaytani R Rajim Jaco Luna be FYE and Malaise if you call Ruby him, when he describes the hypocrites he says they say things with their tongue with their lips that they don't mean it's not actually in their heart. You might say Hakuna Matata for whom Allah Tala asked a very powerful question. Why do you say things that you don't do? See, the Quran is filled
with challenges and from those challenges is the challenge of living sincerely. If you say you love someone mean it, if you say you love the messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam, you have to spend some time exploring what that means. So today's quote, but let's talk about what that means. Now. How do we define love? Everyone has different ways to define love. That's why they talk about the love languages. People experience different ways of love. People sometimes want to be praised people want gifts. People like to be done you know service acts of service, can you vacuum can you clean? Can you take care of the kids? Some people like quality time some people like no words, just a nice hug
or a firm handshake. These are different ways that people experience love. So the scholars when they talked about loving the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, they said like what does it mean to love the Prophet salsa? And there's different levels but one of the best definitions that I found that I really loved was the the definition of emammal Junaid emammal Junaid Rahim Allah He said that to love someone by definition means at Tbilisi, fatty he that you exchange this person's characteristics for your characteristics. You You willingly compromise you willingly give up something right and it's true. When you love somebody, you start to do what they love, even if you
don't love it. Last night I was building Legos.
Spoiler alert, I don't like Legos. Right? Minecraft Legos. Why? Because my five year old son is into that and
So for me 45 minutes of my night, building Legos and coloring, Cinderella with my daughter, these aren't things that I would choose to do. I have other things that I prefer but when you love somebody, you switch out what you love with what they love. Right? Many of us do this when we have friendships, where you want to go eat, you have a preference, but you say, You know what, wherever men, well you choose. And you know, you want to go to noodle wave.
You know, you want to go somewhere that you prefer, right? But you say you choose, right, wherever you want to go. Because your love for that person. You're deferring now. Right? You have a spouse, you're married, you said, well, where should we go? What do you want to do this and that? No, you choose, right? This is a sign you might want. Janine said, this is one of the signs of love. So how do we do this with the prophets, Allah,
the Prophet sallallahu Sallam taught us and gave us delivered, right? That his job was what? To recite the book, to purify, to teach the book and the Wisdom, recite the verses to purify teach the book and the Wisdom. He gave us the methodology of how to live a life of closeness to Allah. He told us that you want to be on the straight path. This is it.
It's not about knowing what is right or wrong. It's about making the choice. That's the difficult part. All of us know that we have to pray five times a day, at certain times. That's not a difficult concept to understand. The other day, someone said, is Islam really easy because I heard the Hadith of the Prophet SAW, Selim said, Islam is easy, and I don't think it's easy. I said, it's easy to understand. And it's easy to implement if your heart is into it. But man, there are challenges. You know, it's a straight line straight lines. If you tell someone how do I get there, just go straight. That's easy, right? But this line has ups and downs. So it's not easy sometimes to choose Federer
oversleep, right. It's not easy to choose Load over lunch. It's not easy to choose Austin over getting home early, melted over eating dinner, I shot over laying down a relay. These are not easy choices. But these are signs of love. Because every claim has to have proof. If I say that, I love you, I have to show it. I can only reaffirm and read and remind you that I love you so many times, until you eventually come back to me and say, I don't feel loved. You said you love me. But I don't feel it. You didn't express it the way that I can see you just keep saying it and promising me but in between those statements, I don't experience it.
So how many of us we have that relationship with the Prophet souls. We love you at us a little law, but then for three, four months, where's the expression? So emammal Junaid says one of the quickest ways that a person can start to develop this love is that you start to exchange your characteristics for his and I'm going to tell you at the end of the day, something that's really amazing Subhanallah now, there's a narration the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salam he is narrated to us about an individual that was a sheikh Miguel, give this hold the last week, July be right in July be the companion brought the law on who was somebody that was known that hadith says Roger wooden Dyneema which means
that he was a very like, not not attractive person, according to society, okay. And everyone he was he was unattractive physically, unfortunately, that's what he was known by. And then also, he was unattractive in his lineage, meaning that no one knew what tribe he came from what family he came from, he was basically a stranger. And in Arab society, this is basically like, You're a nobody. You have nothing.
And the Prophet saw some of them he goes up behind him in the Hadith says he grabs him, and he covers his eyes while he's smiling. He says mega city had robbed, who wants to buy this servant from me, right selling this person in the marketplace who wants to buy this servant from me, which by the way, is like a really scary thing to yell in the marketplace. Because you're just one you know, you're one transaction away from being somebody's property. So
he becomes scared, right? Lawhead his name was all him. He became scared, right? Or the LeBron and he turns and he sees the smiling face of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. He sees that smiling faces is yellow. So a lot. He says Ethan will law he to Jitney Cassie then he says if you were to sell me you would find me that I wouldn't bring you I'd be very cheap. Like I would be a loss for you. If you sold me you would lose money on me. No one wants me no one loves me. Right? But the Prophet SAW said them he looks at him for calling abuse Allah Allah so lemme lacking in the law he Lonnie he says that might be the case with these people. But with Allah, your precious. Your invaluable.
What's the lesson here? The lesson here about loving the Prophet SAW Selim is that if you are somebody who loves the prophet Isaiah to Sudan, you instantly gain status with Allah. It doesn't matter how people see you know, people can look at you and they could judge you in certain ways, and they can make you feel less. But this love of the messenger SallAllahu Salama, it connects you to the one that
matters most Who is Allah.
The Prophet Muhammad SAW Salam in another narration narrated by NSB Malika de la Ron. He said that I was with the Prophet SAW Salem hottie jaaneman al masjid, we just walked out of the masjid. And he says,
we came upon and we saw that there was a person Filipina Rajan on ainda. suit that masjid, we saw a person and he was standing at the gate of the Masjid. I was reading a commentary on this hadith and I came across something I never heard before. The commentator said that this man, this Bedouin was standing at the gate of the masjid, out of shyness. And you'll see why he was shy in a second. So imagine Emma's been magical with the law and the prophets. So Salam, leaving the masjid and they come to the front door, like you leave them right now you walk and you come to the front door, and you just see a person, they're standing like this very humble, very meek, and you look and you say,
what's going on? So the Prophet SAW sent him he said to him,
he came in he said to him, you know, somebody from like, from Sudan, and this person, you can tell by their question that they're so scared.
He says, Yeah, Rasul Allah, He says, meant Tessa,
when did the Day of Judgment, when is the hour? You can tell this guy's been thinking, right? No one asked that question casually. on a Tuesday, once a day, this guy has been thinking, What is he thinking about? Well, if you're thinking about the Day of Judgment, you're obviously concerned about yourself. You're worried maybe you haven't been living life correctly. Maybe you made a lot of mistakes. Maybe you haven't done anything, right. And you go to the Prophet, you say when's the day? It's like when the students in classes say when's the exam? Because they're worried right? Now? Yes. Will Allah, the prophets, awesome, he responds, because he understands that this guy, this could be
a really tough conversation. So he responds in a practical way. He doesn't give him the science. He doesn't say, when this happens when this happens. No, he says, Now I did tell her. Tell me what have you done for it?
Tell me let's talk about what you've prepared for it. And he says, The man returned back to the Prophet so sudden, I'm with a humble face for Mikado, yes, Allah Allah, ma Tula. Kabira on cm and well, I saw that in Walla, South Dakota, you can almost feel the shyness panela yet also a lot. Unfortunately, it's the case I haven't done much at all.
standing at the gate of the messenger too shy to even walk in, doesn't see himself as belonging in these in this room. You had a School of Law met at the Tula Cathedral in Assam, which I was taught, I haven't done much. I haven't prayed much. I haven't given charity really, I haven't fasted. I'm a failure. I'm a failure. If we pause here, I want everyone to think for a moment it's uncomfortable. Think about all the times you messed up all the things you missed all the opportunities that you let slip away. Put yourself in this man's shoes. Now listen to the words of the Prophet SAW send them love. Remember this love? He says,
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there's one thing about me I'm a failure in these things. But if there's one thing I can promise you, well, that kidney also Allah will hit Biller, what else will do?
I promise you, you also love I love Allah. And I love you. I love his messenger.
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Don't worry, then you might feel like a stranger. You might feel like you don't belong, but you're gonna be with who you love. You're with me? We're buddies. And on the Day of Judgment, there's an aeration says on your nucleon you don't feel lost on that day. Okay, so we talked about these narrations. Why? Because we need to understand that this moment, this idea of loving the Prophet SAW Salem is something that is not just superfluous, it actually practically changes a person, it changes your destination. A person who thinks that you know what, I have no chance, or Islam is too difficult, or I made too many mistakes. The love of the messenger can actually by this narration,
wipe out all of those gaps that you have and can bring you can expedite you fast pass to the Prophet SAW asylum on the Day of Judgment, how many of us would not want that? And it's all due to what it's all due to a person sitting and thinking and reflecting about how much they love the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Now, a lot of the stories we talk about their stories of people in the past, and this is one of the challenges we have connecting is that we hear about companions, who are incredible people who are remarkable. The Prophet SAW Saddam did not forget about you and I, the Prophet SAW Selim, there's a narration of what I call the LA Haoran where he's sitting and the Prophet SAW sent him he said, Men a shed do metti Lee hug Ben. He pronounces to these people, these companions from amongst those people who are the most in their love for Me. He said, na su yaku noona by de that he said
As people there is an entire genre of people creation that will come after me. Okay? He says, Yeah, what do I do home love Ronnie, that they would want to see me so badly. This is describing us Subhan Allah may Allah make us amongst them. They would hear my name hear my story here, my Sierra. They would laugh at the stories and cry at the stories. They would feel inspired by the stories. And they would what? Yeah, what do I have to home love Ronnie, they would want to see me so badly that they would want to be led family that they would give up time with their family and they would give up their wealth. anyone here been for ometer hudge what a description you don't have to raise your hand
sir. What a description of a piece of a person going on the pilgrimage.
It's not it's not fun to separate from your home. It's not fun to leave your kids behind and your it's not fun. It's not easy to travel for a day and stay in a hotel and deal with customs and it's not fun. But when you get to Medina when you get to Mecca when you go and visit the kava when you see the green dome isn't worth it. That's what he's talking about. It's it's a setup. So it's not to say that the Companions only are allowed the status. No, every person in this room can achieve this. In fact, another narration narrated by a person named Abu Jamal radula on he says that we were sitting with the Prophet SAW Salem, and we were sitting with obey them in a giraffe or the LeBron
and this companion. He's about up in JIRA and he said, Yes, Will Allah listen to this question so amazing. He said yeah, Rasul Allah has I hadn't played on Mina. Because the companions were like, so amazing. He said, You know, so Allah, if we think about it, is there anyone better than us? Is there anyone better than us and why? He's not starting to arrogantly, he said, what he said, a slim No, America was a hudna America. Allah, we accepted Islam with you, like we shook your hand and said, I shall do and Lana Murphy in Dallas, Texas. We shook your hand. Yeah, Rasul Allah, and we went and we went out to the battlefield next to you side by side. Is there anyone better than us? Right? Almost
like kind of there. He's feeling himself. Right. And the Prophet SAW Selim says, Now
of course, absolutely. There can be better than us. And what did he respond? Coleman Yoku? Noona min decom. You mean you're gonna be? Well, I'm you're only there will be people that will come after us.
And they will never have never seen me, but they will have believed in me.
That's nothing but love. That's only love. I want you to imagine when you hear stories of these companions, you think to yourself that they're gonna be like, top 10 rankings on the Day of Judgment. You're gonna look and see all the companions. And of course, there will be a Boudicca drama of man audio to the Lord, of course, you'll see them there, but you think you're gonna be like number like 6,000,497,000 And you're gonna be way down the line. Imagine that there's a call on the Day of Judgment. Those who love the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and did not see him come to the front of the line.
Come to the front, and you look around, and the angels are pointing at you. Did you ever see him? You're like, no. Do you love him? You're like, yes. Come with me all the way to the front. Not because you prayed a lot. McAfee, McAfee admin Salah salah, obviously I'm not a lot of that. But because you love the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So God Yeah, how can we now translate and transform this love number one? Oh, there he is. He shares a few tips. The first tip he says following the Prophet SAW Selim in your words and actions and let me give you some helpful advice here. Whenever somebody hears about loving the Prophet saw them you know the first thing they do
they go home and they tell their family we have to sell the house and donate it
we have to do this we have to move let's go we're moving to Turkey apparently that's the best place for we're leaving. Right big movements big motions, multi commodity May Allah bless them preserve him and his family. I saw a quote from him the other week. In one of his classes. He says everyone gets obsessed with like the big actions he goes men do the small ones I have without met Illa dwama When I shot with the la vida she narrates on the Prophet SAW Selim the most beloved deeds Allah are those that are what consistent even if they're small, I'll share with you a narration actually collected by and written about in one of Mufti commodities teachers books, his name, the Companions
name, has had been an urban man wrote the law on how does the man no man had a very, very high status with the Prophet SAW Salem. The Prophet SAW Salem, he was somebody that was known to go in many expeditions. He was someone that prophets awesome give the glad tidings of Paradise because of his, his activity in the battlefront. He went blind towards the end of his life, he went blind. Okay. Now normally human behavior when something happens to you, there's a lot of excuses. You can say, okay, you know what, I no longer have to do this. I no longer have to do that because I'm unable to do it easily. How does have been Nomad Subhanallah he fell in love with the Prophet saw
some so much that he said, Look, I may not be able to do everything that I could do before because I lost my eyesight. But he said, there's one teaching I remember the Prophet SAW
So I learned that I can still do. The Prophet SAW said him said that whoever has somebody who is from the poor that comes to their door and ask for money, that it is a reward to go and meet them at the door yourself and give them money. That's the reward the teaching of the Prophet, I used to sell them. So out of the note, Manuel de la Ron, he tied a rope from his bed to his front door.
And whenever he heard a knock,
he would get up, unable to see he would hold the rope. And he would walk and stumble to the door. Take whatever money he had open it, the purpose of the person has said I'm gonna eat them. And I'm Elissa Keene. And he would say, Here you go about a coffee come take it. The family have inherited they said don't do this. Don't do this. You're putting wit you are exempt. You don't need to do this behavior. You can ask us and we will go do it for you easy when when? He said how can I do this when I heard the Prophet SAW Selim said that the one who does it get the reward not the one who thinks of it the one who does it. Guys, this isn't a huge deed it's not a massive action.
making accommodations for yourself to do good but Subhanallah when you love the Prophet SAW Saddam and you do it for that intention, even the small becomes huge. Even the mundane becomes magnificent. This is from the loving of the Prophet SAW Saddam so number one following the Prophet SAW Salem and giving preference to what the shitty I brought over your own. Number two he mentions is remembering the Prophet SAW so often. There's a you know, the Egyptian scholars they'll say suddenly I live Habib. Arabic. Usually they'll say that if you preys upon the Prophet SAW Salem, it will purify, clean and cure your heart, engaging in remembering the Prophet SAW Salem number three yearning to
meet him yearning to meet him reading his Sierra, learning about him telling your kids about the Prophet Solsona. You want to tell your kids so much about this person? I said to Saddam, that they asked you like When can we meet him? Where can we meet him? Right? And that's a different conversation. We'll talk later in sha Allah, Okay, number four, loving those who the prophets also loved reading about his companions. And number five, we'll finish with this. And this is one that I want to focus on. And that is changing your personality, changing who you are, to become more like Him. It's easy for us to say like this is just the way that Allah made me. You know, people have
anger issues, and they say, Allah made me like this, or they'll blame it on their ethnicity. You know, the Philistines, you know, we have hot blood, the muscles, we have hot blood, right? Everyone has hot blood. Apparently, when they get angry, they blame it on their lineage, right?
Look at the example of amaro de la han.
No one made such a great transformation in their life more than El Faro. Allah be pleased with him. What an incredible person. He went from being somebody that was so harsh, so difficult. This is how he described himself, so painful to be around.
And when he met the Prophet SAW Salem, in just those few years,
he completely changed.
And he was somebody that would sit there and cry. During his leadership, this person used to torture people. He used to make them cry for God cry for help. And he would go walk through the streets at night when he was in a leadership position when he was Khalifa. And if he heard anyone complain about their difficulty, he would sit and cry and beg Allah Allah don't hold me to account for what these people are complaining about. Because he was in a famine, it was difficult. There was one person that almost he used to go by, and he was eating with his left hand and almost reminded him gently eat with your right hand. And he kept going, and the man said, My right hand is occupied, you
know, it's busy. So okay, so he came by again, saw him eating with his left hand, said Eat with your right hand. This happened three times. Finally the third time almost said Look, man, this the third time eat with your right hand. And the man said, Yeah, I made about me Nene. I lost my right hand. I don't have a right hand anymore.
That almost began to cry. You know what he said? He said, How can I help you? How do you take care of yourself? How do you shop? How do you clean your house? Let me know I'll help you. This is not the automotive that people saw 20 years prior to this 30 years prior to this. The transformation was there. Loving the Prophet SAW Selim is one of the quickest ways to change the pieces of yourself that you don't like at all we ask Allah Tala to grant us this love and this transformation we ask Allah to Allah to allow us to practice all that we've heard from this whole button even more critically how there was stuff that hola hola como Lisa I don't know see me almost the manifesto
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from the little bit Alameen wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Kenny more other early he was hobbies running yadda blah. I mean, the we're going to pray in Scotland just just a second, but I wanted to give you something to take home. I mentioned the beginning. That loving the Prophet SAW Saddam is an obligation. Why is an obligation Why is it so
Critical Why is it so important? You'll find it in the books of Islam they'll say loving Allah loving his messenger.
The reason why is because in a world where you are guaranteed to make mistakes in a world that is so imperfect,
loving the Prophet ISIL to Sudan will take you to places you never thought you could get to.
It will take you to places you never thought imaginable. Despite your flaws despite your imperfections, remembering this individualized will Sadam and loving Him will, it will propel you it will launch you forward in your journey on the path to Allah subhanaw taala your love for him will fill your gaps. It will elevate your status with Allah. It will motivate you to try your best people will have seen you in this dunya and assumed the worst about your faith, by the way that you look or dress or talk or whatever people have their own weird measurements. But no one knows how much you love the prophets all sudden, no one knows how much you love. Remember the companion who stood at
the gate, too shy to walk in His love was enough for him to be with the Prophet salallahu Salam, as long as it's sincere. We ask Allah taught to give us that love of Allah we ask you to bless everyone in this gathering. Oh Allah we ask you to accept from us. Oh Allah we ask you that if anyone is struggling to give them ease or Allah we ask you if anyone is sick to give them she thought Oh Allah, we ask you if anyone has passed away to give them forgiveness, in Allahu wa Malacca to who you salute to Allah and every year you will live in Amman or Saudi while you're studying with us Nima Allahumma Salli ala Muhammad Ali Mohammed came out so later on Ebrahim or other early Ibrahim
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