Abdelrahman Badawy – Plug in to the patterns of Allah
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The speaker discusses the importance of parenting children in achieving their potential, as children are often scared and angry. They emphasize that children are not justified and that this is a natural hedge against suffering and pain. The speaker also touches on trusting in Allah's plan and the cycle of malice and weakness that comes with it. They provide examples of how different individuals can experience their oppression and how it can lead to graduation from their past. Lastly, they emphasize the importance of trusting in Allah's plan and the importance of trusting in God's plan for achieving a graduation from one's past.
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Alright. So now we're all on the same
page. That's the visual we have. A parent
taking their young child to the doctor. Right?
The child usually gets this fear of going
to doctor's office. Correct? So let's say it's
time to put an appointment and a child
has to get a shot.
And child, let's say, is 3 years old.
Right? And they're about to go in and
they've they've they're smart enough now. They've clocked.
They've understood that I'm gonna take a shot.
Right?
What are they doing? Are they smiling or
are they crying?
What do you think? They're crying. Right? They're
sad. They're anticipating. They're scared. They're, you know,
they're pulling at you. You know, you're trying
to drag them to the no. No. You
have to do this. No. I don't wanna
do it. I don't do it. And they're
crying and they can't understand. They cannot understand
why they have to feel this pain. They
can't understand why they have to go through
this experience.
But you understand as a parent, right?
No parent likes to see their child cry.
No parent likes to see their child in
pain or in fear, but yet you still
take them and you force them to do
it against their wishes. Right? And the way
that you console them is
the way that you justify this experience that
they had to go through is you tell
them, it's for your own good. You tell
them the alternative is worse. If you're sick
and you don't get your medicine or you
don't get your shot and and you don't
get your God forbid, you know, may Allah
protect us on our children. If they need
surgery, if you don't get the surgery, it's
worse. The alternative is worse.
So this is how you are justifying it
and it's correct. It's a correct justification. You
tell them look, this is better for you
if you only knew.
And finally you tell them,
one day you'll understand insha
Allah. Correct? So far so good, we're all
on the same page. So all these justifications
are perfectly true. And the kid, Insha'Allah, when
they grow a bit older, they will understand
and they will be grateful.
And this is one experience
out of the 100 that we as parents
do with our children.
Is that
so many things, you have a higher vantage
point.
Your expertise, your knowledge, your experience
tells you why they have to go through
this experience that they don't want to go
through. And this experience that may cause them
some suffering, some pain in exchange for avoiding
a greater suffering and a greater pain.
This is the analogy,
the parent and the child here. This is
the analogy of a person who is tapped
in, tuned in to the patterns and the
signs of Allah
and the one who is not.
Now putting aside children adults, we're all adults.
2 adults. 1 of them is tuned in
to the patterns of Allah. They have a
better understanding of why difficulty has to happen.
They have a better understanding of when it
happens, how to process it as we discussed
in the Khutba.
They have a better understanding of when it's
happening,
of what they can expect next because we
talked about it's a cycle. Everything Allah puts
in this world is cyclical. I mean, it
happens in stages. So if you're very in
tune with the stage that we're in now
as an Ummah, as an individual, as a
nation, as a world, you get a lot
more calm about what stage comes next.
I'll give you an example.
This is mentioned by scholars throughout, history where
they said, when when the enemy of Allah
would get extremely transgressive,
when they would get extremely arrogant,
when Firaun said,
When I frown, he was a tyrant for
many many years. But when he reached the
point where he said, you know what? I'm
your lord most high.
I don't know of any lord for you
besides myself.
When he reached that peak arrogance,
this the people who have knowledge of the
signs of Allah,
they would get reassured as nasty as it
is, as horrible as it is to see
a tyrant reach peak arrogance, a part of
them would say, you know what,
because Allah never allows a tyrant to remain
in peak arrogance for long.
So the scholars would say when the when
the Turiyan reached its limits and pass its
limits, when the transgression reach pass its limits,
there would be a consolation there. As much
as it hurts, doesn't mean you'll be happy,
but there's a consolation that
we're in the last stage of the oppression.
And what comes after is exactly what came
to Firaun and to every tyrant in history.
No tyrant has ever lived forever. No tyrant
has ever kept their oppression going forever, and
no tyrant ever will. So
when you're tuned in to the patterns of
Allah, you are like the parent who can
see a bit further, who can understand and
say just bear with patience and say, this
is for the greater good. And say, you
know what? I see I know where this
lands. I know where the story ends. Alhamdulillah.
And I'll give you a few examples,
today Insha'Allah. And of course, first off, the
prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam taught us,
How wonderful is the case of a believer.
Everything there is good for him and everything,
and this can only apply to a believer.
If he finds prosperity or ease in his
life, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that's
good for him. And if adversity befalls him,
if difficulty befalls, he endures it patiently and
that is also good for him. Everything is
part of God's plan. There's a reason for
everything that happens even if you don't fully
grasp it at the moment. Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala is reassuring you.
Allah knows and you know not. And Allah
will reassure the hearts of the believers in
the next life. If he doesn't do so
in this life, he will reassure you and
you will get to see the bigger picture
and you will know why it had to
happen. And you will know what value it
brought to you. You know the famous hadith
in which the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
says, when the believers who live a comfortable
life when they come to the day of
judgment, and they see the believers who live
the difficult life and the
magnificent reward that they receive, the enormous reward
that they receive, believers who live comfortably their
entire life will be jealous.
You know this hadith you've come across it
before?
They'll be so jealous that the hadith continues,
prophet says, they will wish that they could
go back to this dunya and have their
skin cut up with scissors.
Just to be able to match that kind
of reward.
SubhanAllah.
Meanwhile those who suffered, those who lost everything.
Another hadith,
though the poorest of the believers will enter
paradise
so much earlier than the rich because there's
less to account for on the day of
judgement. One hadith mentions even 500 years before
the rich.
So subhanallah, there's so many things that again,
when you tap into these things, you start
piece the puzzle and you say you know
what? I find reassurance in everything that happens.
I find it easy to have tawakkul to
trust in Allah no matter what happens. I
lose my daba say alhamdulillah. This was written
from Allah.
Yeah. Of course. Be careful.
The prophet said, tie your camel and have
tawakkul. You can't do either or. Tie your
camel meaning, you know the famous story that
Sahabi asked him when he came to the
masjid, he put he was gonna leave his
camel out. And, you know, back then that's
how they park. Right? They they tie the
camel to the post. So the Sahabi, he
was a new Muslim and he said, well,
you've taught us about this concept called tawakkul
and trusting in Allah. So does that mean
I stopped tying my camel because, you know,
it's God's plan. If he wants my camel
to go, he'll go. The prophet said no,
no.
Tie it and trust. Because if you don't
tie it, you haven't done your part. And
you say, well, I trust a lot. Well,
now, of course, it's gonna wander off. If
you leave your house unlocked and you go
for a vacation for 6 months, you haven't
done your part at all. But guess what?
When you do your part, doesn't mean you
guaranteed success. Right? That's where you have your
tawakkal. Oh, Allah, whatever you decree, my camel
may die of of illness.
If Allah decreed it, that was completely out
of my hand. It wasn't negligence on my
part. I did what I could. In which
case you say, I fully trust in Allah's
plan. Allah planned this. Allah dwelled it. And
that's that's where Tawakkul plays its role. Right?