Abdal Hakim Murad – Silence in Fasting

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The importance of treating one's mouth as a cage for restraining behavior is discussed, along with the use of blue light during sleep and distractions during busy months. The use of the head and head is a subtle thing, and the use of the head is a subtle thing. The use of the head is a subtle thing, and the use of the head is a subtle thing.

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			Sunita here Rahmanir Rahim
SallAllahu ala Sayyidina Muhammad
		
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			in seydel in Vietnam Marcelino
Allah earlier he was here at Mount
		
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			Sinai
		
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			moving on through the
		
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			austere, but deep days of the
month of Ramadan
		
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			considering the culmination,
		
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			hoping that the day's past have
not been idly and uselessly spent,
		
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			we consider
		
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			how the entire moral life of the
believer is tied up with spiritual
		
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			discipline that Ramadan represents
Ramadan is a kind of matawa or
		
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			more tested a kind of scrutinizing
figure that watches us carefully
		
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			and makes us aware of the divine
awareness. In sha Allah, we don't
		
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			look at the Haram in this month.
In sha Allah, we don't consume or
		
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			eat the Haram in sha Allah, we
don't miss our prayers in sha
		
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			Allah, we're just better. We're in
a state of St. Karma a little bit
		
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			more in this month. And one of the
gifts that Ramadan has is that we
		
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			realize, first of all that
actually we can do it. So many
		
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			people who are unfortunate enough
not to say their prayers outside
		
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			the month of Ramadan, realize in
the month of Ramadan, that
		
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			actually they can do it. And they
don't have an excuse, and they are
		
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			able to maintain the practice
after the month is done. It's a
		
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			step up. For so many people. It's
really all fair. It's all good.
		
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			It's all blessing. It's a divine
gift.
		
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			One of the things also that our
heightened sensibility during the
		
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			month
		
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			alerts us to is the importance not
just of restraining what goes into
		
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			the mouth. But what comes out of
the mouth by way of
		
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			love. Well, Hadith. idle talk,
futile talk, forbidden talk.
		
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			In sha Allah we remember in this
month the importance of treating
		
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			the mouth as a kind of cage and
making sure that the teeth shut in
		
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			anything that is inappropriate.
		
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			The hadith says and it's a sound
Hadith
		
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			manlam Yada al Khatib watercolors
or whoever does not renounce lying
		
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			and bearing false witness. Allah
has no need of Him. And yet I Tama
		
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			who was a robber of him, leaving
aside his food and his drink. So
		
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			this suggests that this is really
important.
		
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			We need to engage in kufr Listen,
keeping back the tongue
		
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			is an ancient wisdom and it's an
eternal wisdom because what
		
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			Ramadan teaches us is fundamental
aspects of being human and of
		
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			being sacred. There's nothing out
of date or specifically MIDI, it's
		
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			all about, we know these are the
immediate problems that we have
		
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			all of our individual internal
problems
		
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			are related directly to the
solutions that Ramadan is
		
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			offering.
		
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			So we have this principle of
slumped silence, which doesn't
		
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			necessarily mean taking a vow of
silence. Like how's Meriam but not
		
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			saying so much. And perhaps when
the blood sugar level is low, and
		
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			we're feeling less ebullient and
defiant. We're not so inclined to
		
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			chatter away this level will
Hadith
		
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			level Hadith talking about things
that don't really matter in Sharia
		
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			is not haram.
		
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			But it's considered technically to
be Terkel Allah. In other words,
		
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			renouncing what would be better.
You could say something that
		
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			people will benefit from.
		
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			There's an embarrassing pause in
the conversation, you want to fill
		
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			it with something you've got
guessed, you can talk about
		
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			Chelsea's chances. Now that
Abramovich is no more Well, fine.
		
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			Nobody's going to say that's an
Islamic but you could also say I
		
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			read a hadith recently that I'd
never heard of before. And this is
		
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			it does anybody know have you
ended up to legitimate way of
		
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			filling that time?
		
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			So watching more aka the things
that we say in this month.
		
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			And
		
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			one aspect of this also, it seems
to me is that ALS is an age of
		
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			communication, mass communication,
excessive communication, everybody
		
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			up to their eyeballs in messages.
		
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			Some images and messages shot at
us bombarded at us by mega
		
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			corporations that are competing
with each other for our attention.
		
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			And we are so jaded that they have
to use more and more exciting and
		
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			extreme images and messaging. And
nobody knows when that will stop.
		
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			But it's become quite, quite crude
and quite extreme. And it's often
		
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			designed by psychologists and
neurologists in order to make the
		
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			brain light up. When we see some
image or whatever it might be.
		
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			There's not good for us,
particularly in the month of
		
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			Ramadan, which would be a time of
stillness and contemplation. So
		
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			that we are actually present in
our prayers.
		
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			Just as it's hard to concentrate
on a piece of serious work on
		
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			reciting the Quran, or even hard
to go to sleep, if if the few
		
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			minutes beforehand, you've been
bombarded with 50 new text
		
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			messages sending you this or
worrying you about that it's the
		
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			human brain can't just be switched
on and off when it's lit up by
		
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			this messaging. So in the month of
Ramadan, we need to be switching
		
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			off from those messages.
		
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			And psychologists have done many
studies of young people in
		
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			particular, and that overdosing on
social media, and texting, and
		
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			notifications, and the endless
bombardment.
		
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			And they come up with all kinds of
new acronyms. One of them is FOMO.
		
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			Fear Of Missing Out, young people
really don't want to miss the
		
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			latest video about who is doing
what. And so they watch it. And
		
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			you can see them on trains, and
they're plugged in. And they're
		
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			just scrolling and scrolling and
looking at whatever is new, so
		
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			that when they text their friends
back, or when they talk to them
		
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			physically, which still sometimes
happens, then they're in the loop.
		
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			And the status anxiety that comes
from not having seen the latest
		
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			video is eliminated. And this is
really very unhealthy because the
		
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			brain is really designed for a
very simple lifestyle, a hunter
		
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			gatherer lifestyle when there
aren't millions of stimulations,
		
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			and people are sitting back and
looking at the clouds, and
		
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			wondering when the wind will
change so that perhaps the herd of
		
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			bison will come their way. That's
really what we're for.
		
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			We're not designed for this
overload of messaging.
		
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			Still less for this overload of
really trivial messaging.
		
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			And so it seems to me that one of
the things we can do to get more
		
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			out of the fasting month is just
to switch the devices off.
		
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			So many people go through their
lives with the latest mobile
		
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			phones, checking them every two
minutes.
		
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			That's never really useful. Maybe
if you're in a certain line of
		
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			work, you're a journalist or
something, you have a deadline you
		
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			have to catch the late maybe most
of us are not like that. Most of
		
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			us can check their messages, maybe
five times a day Max
		
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			and not right before going to
sleep because you're really going
		
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			to do something about it when
you're about to go to sleep. And
		
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			in Ramadan, we really need to
watch our sleep and to make sure
		
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			that we get that proper sleep.
		
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			That REM sleep.
		
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			Because Fajr is still early, Tara
is still late. Most of us have to
		
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			work. bosses don't like it if you
take a chi Lulu and nap in the
		
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			early afternoon. And towards the
end of Ramadan, there can be real
		
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			fatigue setting in which can
diminish what we get out of the
		
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			out of the fast.
		
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			So yeah, switch it off. Before
going to sleep, there should be a
		
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			good Ramadan practice. I would
suggest no blue light screening
		
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			between Witter a prayer and going
to sleep. That blue light from the
		
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			screen is something that
replicates aspects of the spectrum
		
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			that daylight uses and therefore
the brain is programmed to, to
		
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			wake up when it sees that kind of
light. Keep it off at night.
		
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			I have students who report that
they've even found that they have
		
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			texted while asleep. Sleep texting
is a phenomenon now, apparently,
		
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			this can't be good. In some
universities, surveys indicate
		
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			that students send 3000 texts a
month. This is not good. What
		
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			percentage of them is really
useful to their moral or their
		
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			spiritual law, their academic
lives. Maybe five of those
		
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			messages might be so this Islamic
virtue of subject of silence of
		
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			recognizing the value of
contemplation of avoiding useless
		
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			talk has to be extended into the
digital realm nowadays, and it's
		
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			very unfortunate in some of the
mosques, it's annoying when
		
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			somebody's embarrassing ringtone
goes off in the middle of the 17th
		
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			Raqqa. And everybody at
		
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			1000 People are wondering, is he
going to switch it off? How long
		
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			is it going on for? Is it going
to, that's really bad 1000 people
		
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			have that I've added disrupted.
		
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			That we should really generally as
a routine, keep our phones off
		
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			during the month of Ramadan, on
during working hours if that's
		
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			necessary for your work. Switch it
on if you need a lift back home.
		
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			But otherwise, keep it off. And
don't scroll during hoppers and be
		
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			hands and look at the latest
nonsense. Don't tell people where
		
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			you are. Don't take selfies. Don't
record the tearaway, all of that
		
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			stuff. And if you're doing an
ombre during Ramadan, don't say
		
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			love bake, bake while you're
holding up your phones so the anti
		
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			so and so can see what's going on
as if she doesn't know what
		
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			happens during the ombre. Don't do
that. That's become a kind of
		
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			pestilential thing in the harem.
Unfortunately, it's out of
		
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			control. So
		
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			these are
		
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			beautiful aspects of the Sunnah.
And another aspect of it which
		
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			also applies to the digital realm
as well as to our normal
		
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			conversation is
		
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			Judea, Allah argumentation.
		
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			Raising Voices in the mosque. This
is the Sunnah. This is not the
		
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			Sunnah. Please keep your baby
quiet. My baby is getting baraka
		
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			from the mosque. All of that
argumentation. If it has to
		
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			happen, take it outside, because
other people don't want to hear
		
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			and it's very bad for your inner
state. Because the soul really
		
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			needs to be in a particular
contemplative, receptive, tender
		
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			state. If the the miracle of the
Quran is really going to work, its
		
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			enchantment upon the soul. Any
kind of agitation is a veil, and
		
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			gets in the way of that Imam Malik
used to say a mirror or your
		
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			syllable lobe.
		
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			argumentation hardens the heart.
		
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			That's a subtle thing. What does
it mean for the heart to be
		
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			hard? Well, we know it
intuitively.
		
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			cardiogram isn't good to show it.
It's an inner thing. The hardness
		
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			of the heart really means an
obstruction against everything
		
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			that is beneficial to us. Because
it is the heart that conscience
		
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			the inner nature of ourselves that
perceives the subtlety in the
		
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			world, which is the basis of faith
that really understands other
		
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			people that it receives beauty in
nature that receives the miracle
		
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			of the the poor and we don't want
that to be obstructed. We already
		
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			thought that in Imam Malik says
and it causes rancor amongst human
		
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			beings that is exactly not what
Ramadan is about Ramadan is a time
		
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			for forgiveness for atonement for
support of the poor for certain
		
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			broken heartedness that makes us
more human. And this is vital
		
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			membahas Ali says Leia yen Zhu Min
shatteringly Cerny in German chi
		
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			yada, who Billy jam is sharp,
		
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			which means Nobody escapes from
the evil that the tongue does,
		
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			without reining it with the bridle
of the shadier.
		
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			In other words, Revelation, what
Revelation has said about good
		
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			speech, and the warnings that it
makes about evil speech, about
		
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			lying, about bearing false witness
about backbiting, about raising
		
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			suspiciousness about people about
a hostile glance, anything that
		
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			interrupts the natural benign flow
of human fraternity in a religious
		
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			community and introduces the
demonic principle of the of the
		
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			ego that has to be held back.
		
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			One of the early Muslims said,
Lisa, and he settled on
		
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			in ourselves to a colony. My
tongue is like a wild, a wild cat
		
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			or a lion. If I let it go, it
attacks me.
		
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			What does he mean by that? It
means that because it's following
		
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			the egotist egotistic desire to
criticize this person, or persons
		
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			not praying long enough. That
person's job isn't long enough,
		
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			that sisters hijab, whatever it
might be that's distracting us
		
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			from the real reason why we should
be in the mosque, and is usually
		
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			the result of our own insecurity
because we'd like to feel better
		
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			than others. That's usually why we
criticize them. That we're the
		
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			ones who are the victims, we get
bitten by that lion. They may not
		
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			know that we're looking down on
them may not affect them at all,
		
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			but it does affect us. Always. And
we don't want this to destroy
		
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			Ramadan, this little squishy thing
in the mouth. Keep it locked up.
		
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			Watch what you say. Make sure that
whatever you say is fraternal in
		
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			the correct Islamic spirit of
Iveta
		
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			Aloha.
		
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			So we ask Allah subhanaw taala in
this month that we might be people
		
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			of beautiful speech, that we might
be people of sober, that we might
		
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			be people who spread the wings of
kindness and mercy to the
		
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			believers who might have patience
with each other, and that the
		
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			mosques can be places perfumed
only with good speech in sha
		
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			Allah, and that our fasting is not
vitiated, or corrupted or made
		
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			mediocre or even intrinsically
violated and broken by lazy
		
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			discourse. If we have the
discipline not to eat and drink,
		
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			we should be able to summon the
discipline to restrain what comes
		
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			out of the mouth as well. Insha
Allah may Allah give us tofield on
		
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			this and accept our fasting and
accept rpm and accept our tearaway
		
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			and accept our fraternity and
accept our support for family ties
		
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			in sha Allah in this blessing
blessing month, to Chapala
		
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			normalcy Emma Komaki EMERCOM was
salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa
		
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			barakato.