Aashiq Hill – Msa 2016

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The speakers discuss the importance of religion and marriage, as well as the need for justice between multiple wives and a pure society. They also touch on the Bedoum and why people resort to pornography and the importance of moderation and regular sex. The speakers emphasize the need for regular sex and the importance of men in their relationship.

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			The
		
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			is normally very boring and dry. They normally
		
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			always give you the dry comments,
		
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			like, you know, the of the of that.
		
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			That's normally very, very boring for Allah.
		
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			So inshallah, I I ask him, he say,
		
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			what do you want? What is the objective
		
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			behind the lecture? And this is more intimacy.
		
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			So I'm going to be very frank. I'm
		
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			gonna speak about matters of intimacy.
		
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			That's gonna make some of you uncomfortable,
		
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			but that's to do with this. Really important
		
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			breakdown in marriages,
		
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			*,
		
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			all of these things are life in our
		
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			communities. Why? Due to the due to the
		
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			lack of intimacy.
		
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			So I'm gonna deal with these matters inshallah.
		
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			And if you're feeling over talking, inshallah, the
		
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			teaching is overrated.
		
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			I will also be speaking about in laws.
		
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			You know?
		
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			I will give you tips and advices.
		
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			This this issue of marriage,
		
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			it is a major context,
		
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			It is a major thing in the life
		
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			of a Muslim. And the prophet
		
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			put me and you in a beautiful tradition.
		
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			He said
		
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			that
		
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			the
		
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			this is normally if you teach marriage. Mullah
		
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			Mu'adhkari is in a world of his own
		
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			in in regards to the things that remains
		
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			in suhada. SubhanAllah. I learned the law. But
		
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			when it comes to the issue of marriage,
		
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			the first thing that the women state,
		
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			You understand? That's the first thing they want
		
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			to know. What are threats?
		
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			So inshallah, I will mention a few things
		
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			inshallah.
		
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			Hopefully, this is the first time you will
		
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			learn these things. So they ask I'm I'm
		
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			a listen to this inshallah. Intimacy, being the
		
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			main topic. I know you guys are, good
		
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			stuff. We will discuss that inshallah. I won't
		
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			be in the
		
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			in sexual intimacy and other matters inshallah. That
		
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			we will discuss in detail. That's why we
		
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			go to the next one. That I can
		
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			inherit from one another. To inherit from one
		
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			another versus
		
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			when husband we have
		
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			and wife inherit from husband.
		
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			Number 3,
		
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			the the life of lineage. If I'm adding
		
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			my wife, she's my wife. The kids that
		
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			are born from that marriage are my kids.
		
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			So that's,
		
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			the rights that each of us enjoy. Allah
		
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			states in the Quran, and Allah proves this
		
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			concept of rights and obligations by stating. And
		
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			for them, the women, are rights similar to
		
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			what is upon them. So like women have
		
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			obligations,
		
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			they have rights as well. Like males have
		
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			obligations,
		
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			they have rights as well.
		
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			What are those
		
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			rights that are particular to the female,
		
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			the Dawid?
		
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			Dawg. Allah commands that we have to pay
		
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			our dawg. Is there any specific amount that
		
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			the dawg should be? Any specific amount?
		
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			No. Any specific amount?
		
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			The husband takes the wife away. Do you
		
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			see why? No.
		
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			No
		
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			maintenance. The
		
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			one who has a lot should spit on
		
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			his wife, and the one that does not
		
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			have a lot should still spit on his
		
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			wife. So maintenance is the obligation of the
		
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			and the right of who? The right of
		
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			the spouse. Is it obligatory for my wife
		
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			to do well?
		
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			Is it obligatory?
		
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			No. Is it obligatory for me to support
		
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			my wife? Yes. Yes. The matter of
		
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			finance is a really, really important matter of
		
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			subhanallah. Imagine, as one lady says,
		
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			she says,
		
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			does money bring happiness? Quick quick question.
		
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			He's a very stingy person. My husband, extremely
		
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			stingy. He doesn't spin. Prophet
		
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			He
		
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			gives the
		
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			judgment.
		
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			Think what you supposed to get.
		
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			And that it's supposed to come to your
		
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			child
		
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			with
		
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			It is based upon the custom and the
		
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			agreement of the spouses.
		
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			If my spouse is,
		
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			agrees that, inshallah, I will buy the groceries
		
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			and I will buy the clothing and stuff
		
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			like that, and then maybe give a pocket
		
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			money, R500 every month.
		
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			That is. Differs from society to society. Perhaps
		
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			in your areas, the is about 10,000 bucks
		
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			a month. You get that?
		
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			From place to place, the risk from capital
		
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			to capital.
		
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			Whatever is a need of that
		
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			will be that will be the number 5.
		
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			Kind and proper treatment to treat your spouse
		
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			well.
		
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			Said that the believers who are also competing
		
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			their faith, the people that have the best
		
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			iman, the highest level of iman are those
		
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			believers that keep their wives, the best. Subhanallah.
		
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			You can be standing in a running up
		
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			and down the stairs looking like big shit
		
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			and speaking and saying nice things, Subhanallah.
		
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			But if you're not speaking your wife properly,
		
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			then
		
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			to speak about
		
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			sexual relations
		
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			in general, to discuss the legality of it.
		
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			What is this permissible? Is that permissible? Fine.
		
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			Pray god that that's permissible.
		
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			As for, you know,
		
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			in the bedroom and stuff like that.
		
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			And she is intimate with him.
		
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			The next morning comes and he exposes her.
		
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			How will your friends look at that wife?
		
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			How will your brothers look at that spouse
		
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			of? How will the sisters look at the
		
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			husband? You understand? We don't want that. We
		
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			want a pure a pure society.
		
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			Justice between multiple wives?
		
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			Explain anyone justice between multiple wives?
		
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			Obviously, if you have more than one wife,
		
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			otherwise,
		
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			bless you.
		
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			She needs a 1, a 3, 4 bedroom
		
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			house. But my married sister, Sumeya,
		
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			was no kids. Does she also need a
		
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			5 bedroom house? No. Obviously, you have to
		
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			adjust and you have to be fed. If
		
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			this one has a place to live in,
		
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			that one should also have a place to
		
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			live in. If my wife
		
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			or a waste is a certain a weight.
		
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			We won't discuss numbers and stuff like that.
		
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			And I buy her a certain amount of
		
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			material, should I buy the other one?
		
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			No. I have to
		
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			and stuff like that. Prophet said, he's the
		
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			one who gets a slave girl. He manies
		
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			her and he teaches her religion. He teaches
		
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			her a deed. He gives her good ada
		
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			and good training. So he teach her a
		
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			deed. What do we mean by teaching the
		
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			deed?
		
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			You know? Those things that are incumbent upon
		
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			her, those matters I must teach her. If
		
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			I'm unable to teach her, then she has
		
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			the right to go seek to that knowledge.
		
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			To defend the honor, to defend you what's
		
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			honor, not to expose the secret and stuff
		
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			like that, made from enemies and stuff like
		
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			that.
		
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			It's more a responsibility than an honor. You
		
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			understand? It's not like I'm the boss in
		
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			house. I'm the dictator when I say it
		
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			goes. No.
		
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			Everything is done upon and,
		
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			consultation and stuff like that. But the one
		
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			who leads the pack is obviously is obviously
		
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			the husband. To wait to be obeying all
		
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			that,
		
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			I'm sorry, to be obeying those matters,
		
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			then that we're not,
		
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			in the disobedience of Allah.
		
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			Like the like the like the stuff there.
		
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			K.
		
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			Medical relations, that's the like of spouse as
		
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			well. How many amongst many people, wherein in
		
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			the books of the scholars, you will find
		
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			many scholars think that they write in the
		
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			mercy
		
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			that
		
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			Okay. You're not sleeping. Okay. I'm going to
		
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			laugh. Okay. She should not be dua without
		
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			his permission. Authentic ahad even this matter. Obviously,
		
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			if you have an understanding with your husband
		
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			that he does not mind that he be
		
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			duaus, then should there be a problem?
		
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			No. Obviously not.
		
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			The
		
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			there.
		
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			The matter of intimacy,
		
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			imagine Allah speaks about it in the Quran.
		
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			But one thing that Allah never makes mention
		
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			of,
		
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			the epic word for intimacy is what?
		
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			Is.
		
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			Have you heard about the word?
		
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			What is a?
		
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			A group of people. Right? So
		
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			comes from the same root.
		
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			Means to come light.
		
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			So if you put it on a certain
		
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			vector, you say, jama'ah,
		
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			2 people combining, subhanAllah, 2 people sign with
		
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			1. You get that? So the Quran speaks
		
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			about intimacy, but David doesn't use the term
		
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			6 or for that matter, jima. It uses
		
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			the terms touching
		
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			when you move against your wife like that.
		
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			That's what the Quran. The Quran teaches us
		
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			Adam. How to deal with the matter with
		
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			the matter of intimacy, subhanallah.
		
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			The sunnah, subhanallah.
		
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			So many ahadith.
		
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			Yeah. Subhanallah.
		
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			Indeed, Allah is not shy of the truth.
		
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			Is this, this, and that allowed?
		
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			Companions, female
		
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			so many so many actors. I'm gonna give
		
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			you a few examples.
		
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			The scholars speak about something called.
		
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			Means
		
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			that's the fucking the thigh.
		
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			Okay? Tafid means tafid means the die. The
		
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			scholars wrote about impermissibility
		
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			of your wife satisfying you
		
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			by placing your organ
		
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			be in between do you see the soft
		
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			part here? And rubbing it. So hang on
		
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			a look. Think about it.
		
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			Why? You're fulfilling your need. Like how we
		
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			learn the fiqh of salah even though the
		
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			fiqh of salah clause is like, the fiqh
		
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			of Hajj, we also have to learn about
		
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			the fiqh of intimacy, the fiqh of sexual
		
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			relations, the fiqh of the Bedoum.
		
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			This fiqh is never discussed. Is it?
		
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			So I'm sure that today we will discuss
		
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			it. Why do people resort to *?
		
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			Why do they resort to a dolly? Because
		
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			many times the wife would say, no. That's
		
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			not permissible.
		
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			But because she does not know the fiqh
		
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			of the bedroom, the fiqh of intimacy,
		
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			the thick of sexual relations
		
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			is a breakdown in the in the marriage.
		
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			Next slide.
		
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			One of the objectives of marriage is what?
		
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			Performant of sexual sexual desires like.
		
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			We have sexual means. You understand? We are
		
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			attracted to the opposite *. Like I always
		
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			speak about and I mention to my wife,
		
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			Simon, is it something wrong, inherently, to being
		
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			attracted to the opposite *, even if you're
		
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			married?
		
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			No. It's natural.
		
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			You'll always be attracted to the opposite *.
		
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			Like, when you are married, obviously, you know
		
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			how to curve that. You know how to
		
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			control that trauma. So one of the objectives
		
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			of marriage is the fulfillment of sexual desires.
		
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			Often, a spouse will refuse to engage in
		
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			a form of sexual activity,
		
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			mistakenly believing believing it to be a normal,
		
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			which could easily sour the relationship.
		
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			Therefore, we study the do's and the don'ts
		
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			and stuff like that. Lack of intimacy leads
		
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			to the breakdown of marriage problems,
		
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			which in turn leads lead to divorce.
		
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			Couples are not satisfied, etcetera, etcetera.
		
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			That's the reason why we're discussing this problem.
		
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			But you have to speak about it. If
		
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			we are not gonna speak about it,
		
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			who will move the India's is gonna check
		
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			on Google.
		
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			So we don't want that. We don't want
		
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			people to check on Google because on Google,
		
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			you're gonna get the opinion of Frank, Simon,
		
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			and Ibrahim and all these type of characters.
		
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			That's important.
		
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			That's important. That's important.
		
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			When a man sits listen to this, Hari.
		
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			When a man sits
		
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			on top, basically, it means amidst her full
		
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			parts, her arms and legs, he sits on
		
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			top of her, exerts pressure on her, and
		
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			the true path becomes completely upon him.
		
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			That's gonna open a can of worms now.
		
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			Imagine. If anyone need you that second before,
		
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			you hear that way? The year before besides,
		
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			the sisters at the democratic class,
		
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			you hear that before, India's?
		
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			All matters of sexual relations
		
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			are allowed
		
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			unless proven and permissible. That means the scope
		
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			is empty.
		
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			We view 6 everything's how long, except, you
		
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			know, certain things in a span. But the
		
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			opposite is true.
		
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			Everything is allowed. We come to intimacy
		
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			except those limited scenarios that the blind sunnah
		
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			speaks about. Limited. Let's say limited. Keyword over
		
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			there. So that's one that's intimacy one one,
		
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			Part of your course who have memorized,
		
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			Now sudden versus,
		
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			the reason of.
		
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			Then you get something called
		
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			and the reason why the have seen something.
		
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			Something happened.
		
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			That's the occasion, and the prophet did the
		
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			response. That's only
		
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			And then you get something in the as
		
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			known
		
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			as.
		
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			And the reason why it companionship something.
		
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			So this hadith is directed by Abdullah ibn
		
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			Mas'rul. Why? Because Husband, the great cleric of
		
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			the Muslims, he came to him, and Abdullah
		
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			al Mas'kru was at the age of 8
		
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			years old. And he said, oh, Abdullah,
		
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			virgin
		
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			daughter.
		
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			And Abdullah Mas'kruh,
		
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			you made that young girl enough. Energy's gone.
		
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			State is gone.
		
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			If you have that inclination in terms of
		
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			you have a desire for sexual relations,
		
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			because it will cause you to lower your
		
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			eyes.
		
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			It will cause you to protect your prior
		
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			parts.
		
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			If you cannot do that, they fast.
		
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			Fast, inshallah.
		
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			The next,
		
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			objective of intimacy is fulfill the life of
		
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			your spouse. Like you have desires,
		
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			your spouse also has desires. So you have
		
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			all those desires. A removal of harmful fluids,
		
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			you get that? You know what they call
		
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			this part of your body?
		
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			Have you? Yeah. What? They call this Baghdad.
		
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			Not Baghdad.
		
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			Baghdad. You mean the, you know, Baghdad. The
		
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			back of dad. You get that? So the
		
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			removal of harmful fluids.
		
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			The very, very famous,
		
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			very, very important method,
		
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			sexual enjoyment, SubhanAllah.
		
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			We said that Allah will share the truth,
		
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			and if Allah will share, well, we
		
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			what do you think we came in? How
		
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			about to make an impact of me? I
		
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			wasn't gonna.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			That's an excellent answer. As often as the
		
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			need arise. So
		
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			When your wife is free from the situation,
		
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			then approach your wives.
		
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			And the question at the heart of his
		
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			sister, every so often without listening fixed at
		
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			a specific frequency. So if you feel the
		
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			need twice a week, thrice a week, 10
		
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			times a week, whatever the case may be,
		
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			couples the first works with different folks. Everyone
		
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			different in this matter, in this, in this
		
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			very, very important issue.
		
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			So how regular?
		
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			It may so often. You know, you you
		
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			decide you marry and you decide that.
		
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			Islam does not fix a specific limit or
		
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			distinction on how often the government may engage
		
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			in
		
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			Likewise like what Lamar had mentioned, a lack
		
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			of this is problematic. We have to agree
		
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			with that. Many people will know. Those who
		
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			are not ready, those who understand, you'll get
		
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			that. Oh, I don't know.
		
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			Lack of it
		
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			will need to will need to feel failure
		
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			to manage.
		
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			But overindulging
		
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			is also calling for problems. So moderation is
		
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			very, very important.
		
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			According to some scholars, what is considered moderation
		
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			is once a week. So they say every
		
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			Friday
		
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			eve Thursday evening
		
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			or Friday morning, before full you need at
		
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			that time is the sunnah of the prophet
		
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			Why do they state this? Where do they
		
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			come with us?
		
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			Do you think it's true? They do so
		
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			good.
		
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			The plot is in a beautiful
		
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			So they say, evening,
		
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			once a week. Friday,
		
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			just before tomorrow or
		
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			Thursday evening.
		
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			For us to for us to to suit
		
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			what is best for us and stuff like
		
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			that. Islam does not specify any particular time
		
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			for engaging in or desisting from sexual activity.
		
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			It depends on the couple. Many couples may
		
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			choose any time of the day or night
		
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			for intimacy. It depends on the mood, urge,
		
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			temperament, and stuff like that. It's best when
		
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			both parties act. Oh, most probably at night,
		
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			late night, or in the case maybe,
		
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			and they can engage in the matter of
		
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			if the next life.
		
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			In terms of the
		
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			or removal of hair. Any excess excess hair,
		
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			excess, you remove,
		
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			that means puberty,
		
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			hair that grows up. It's not supposed to
		
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			grow. For sure, you
		
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			remove that hair. Beautification,
		
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			wearing nice and revealing clothing, skimpy, skimpy clothing,
		
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			and stuff like that. Very important.
		
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			Islam is not a, demon.
		
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			Alright? I have to come back over one
		
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			from the. It's a narration that says that
		
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			I said,
		
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			hide him. I, myself
		
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			Aisha, have never seen the private parts of
		
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			Rasulullah
		
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			nor has he seen my private parts. What's
		
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			that mean? Simon?
		
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			What?
		
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			Anyone?
		
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			You need an expert opinion here?
		
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			Anything in regards to sexual intimacy is allowed
		
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			and this is clear,
		
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			authentic evidence to prove otherwise.
		
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			There's no evidence to prove otherwise.
		
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			We
		
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			make it basically on the same front of
		
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			the house, but it's still to me 100%
		
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			Those people are transgressing the limits of Allah.
		
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			Allah does not give the leeway of *.
		
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			Allah does not say, please go home. Allah
		
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			has given you a wife. Allah has given
		
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			you fasting. Yeah. So Allah, you quite get
		
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			it fast.
		
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			Why did the prophet not say?
		
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			So it is not how long. It is
		
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			one language. As
		
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			for fluid that comes up,
		
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			there we have to make a distinction. Number
		
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			1,
		
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			money, sperm, according to the majority of the
		
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			scholars, is pure and not impure. It's not
		
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			nudges according to the majority. Obviously, there is
		
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			a difference of opinion of the specter.
		
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			Madi?
		
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			Is pre
		
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			Pretty similar to it. According to the majority
		
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			of the scholars, this is.
		
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			So, technically, if you can get this right,
		
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			you're doing this act, so to say, and
		
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			then give it down, you remove it. And
		
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			then you do that act and then it
		
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			over.
		
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			And in that scenario, all the permissible. And
		
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			Allah knows best. And
		
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			I'm just discussing the usual of making child.
		
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			I know it's uncomfortable, but I I I
		
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			want to discuss this because we have many,
		
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			many misconceptions about, about 16,
		
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			oral,
		
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			fallatio, basically.
		
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			Next issue insha'Allah.
		
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			It's
		
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			the opposite.
		
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			It's the opposite. When the husband uprights his
		
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			mouth, the private age of the female, but
		
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			it's not the previous who is also permissible.
		
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			Next insha'Allah.
		
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			In the law and the law is not
		
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			shy of the truth. You are not allowed
		
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			to penetrate the * of your of your
		
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			spouse. That is how long?
		
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			Next, these things will come in the Quran
		
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			and then in the Quran
		
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			and
		
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			the