Aarij Anwer – During Sickness

Aarij Anwer

Reflections on the story of Ayyub (AS)

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The speaker discusses the surah and how it is designed to teach the provinces to make sense of their actions and move forward in difficult situations. They emphasize the importance of learning to accept the pain of loss and the need to be aware of it. The speaker also discusses the use of "remaine" in difficult situations and the importance of showing patience and gratitude when facing difficult situations. The segment emphasizes the importance of showing patience and gratitude when facing difficult situations, including the struggles of a woman who lost her family and her husband to COVID-19.

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			that's been laid off by the Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah he and he was
having him on wala or Mashallah sadri lessonly, MD, Wanda Dr. Melissa Annie of koko de robina at nF
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			I want to share with you all today, the story of our Prophet, a YouTube alayhis salam mentioned in
the Quran in two places prominently. His name is mentioned in, in places in the Quran.
		
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			in multiple places along with other prophets, His story is prominently mentioned in Surah, ambia,
surah number 21 and surah, Saad Surah 38. And his story and his
		
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			his life is actually a example for us, particularly for those of us who are going through
		
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			a prolonged sickness. This is a time where a lot of people are sick, maybe you know, somebody who
has contracted COVID-19. Maybe someone who is compromised in terms of their immune system is
		
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			either highly likely to get sick or a higher chance of getting sick than normal. These are difficult
times and in difficult times, we can turn to the book of Allah and find examples of prophets that
went through something similar to what we do and what we are going through. We can find examples of
prophets who went through something similar to what we're going through. And then from their
example, we can learn how is it that we can get through the situation that we are in for a UID Sam,
he went through the situation, the difficulty of a prolong sickness, and
		
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			his patience in this prolonged sickness, a prolonged sickness was exemplary.
		
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			He also Elisa Lam
		
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			went through this sickness in a very interesting way, as well.
		
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			I'll detail all those points in sha Allah. First, I will read to you the ayah of the Quran, where
this is mentioned in shallow data from sorta ambia wilhemina shape on your regime. Where are you but
even
		
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			Hamra Amy in first Naja Vina Hooper kashia de
		
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			Boer. Well, Dana, who, who misled
		
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			Dina was a
		
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			baby we
		
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			can remember job when he called on his Lord saying, I have been afflicted with great distress, but
you are the Most Merciful, of the Merciful.
		
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			We heard his prayer and relieved his suffering. we restore to him his family, doubling the number as
an act of our grace. And as a reminder for the worshipers. This is the first time his story
sequentially is mentioned in the Koran and so on number 21 Surah amea. Now, what's interesting about
this, a few points that are fascinating about this particular reference.
		
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			This is a sutra that was a early or this is a surah that was revealed earlier in life of the prophet
in the meccan era of the life of the apostles.
		
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			And the prophets also at that point was facing adversity. He was facing persecution, he was facing
rejection
		
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			For some outright animosity from people who used to be his close friends and family members, so he
was going through a tough time in trying to make sense of the world, and how the sudden change that
has happened. How do you cope with that? Sounds familiar, because now even though
		
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			the circumstances are different, we are experiencing a sudden change in our world.
		
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			All of a sudden, everything that was normal is no longer normal. The lifestyle we used to live, we
no longer live, we're all essentially mostly all of us are in quarantine, at our homes,
		
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			the items that you could buy without blinking an eyelid. Now you have to wait
		
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			in line to get
		
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			I'm trying to buy some medicine for my kids. And I ordered it off Amazon, Amazon says we're going to
ship with you April 23. a whole month later. So have a look at some Amazon ship stuff like overnight
here in Canada, everything is just gone out of out of whack. So this surah is one of the purposes of
the sutra is to teach the provinces how to make sense of how to understand and then how to move
forward in situations like that happen. That's one interesting point about total MBA. The second
interesting point about MBA is it is a pseudo dimensions profits and the doors of profits to profits
in difficulty as they are supplicating Allah subhanaw taala asking him for relief in their
		
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			situations. This for example is highlighted right here as you see with a US a certain percentage of
Navajo with that's in with a newly This is us and he said I'm Jonah is very famous de la ilaha illa
and Anika in the consuming of volume in that's highlighted in the
		
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			story of zecharia. Zachariah is another boy who landed on the arrabida Tom the phone don't enter
anything, Lord, don't leave me airless and you are the rest of IRS meaning give me a child.
		
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			All these prophets are mentioned in the moment of their door as they are beseeching Allah as you're
asking Allah subhanho wa Taala. And are you well Islam is mentioned in the same in the same
situation he is beseeching Allah asking Allah for his help.
		
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			That is the lesson for us. That's lesson it Firstly, for the prophets alum that in these times where
everything is kind of thrown out of
		
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			thrown into chaos, you turn to Allah and ask him for strength, for guidance for a way out.
		
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			That is what the problem was being taught. And that's his how he lives is also constantly
supplicating and enacting with his Lord, that is the lesson for us very, very much. So in these
times, that we should become now. Like, we should start making the law.
		
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			As
		
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			always, your hand is our best defense to make sure that we don't get contracted, or we know contract
COVID-19 making God just as perfectly just as with not much intensity. That's what we need to do.
That's the lesson from the sooner okay. Overall as a theme of the surah Are you ready Salaam, other
prophets in this surah their example teaches us that in these times, we reach out to Allah Allah.
		
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			Chef assadi Rahim Allah the scholar of the seal, it contemporary scholar from Saudi Arabia. He says
that when you Elisa Lam was asking Allah for help.
		
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			He says, Put yourself in a lucky birdie. I highly enough see.
		
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			Oh, I know who my lover men who love love. He says when you are a histogram is asking a lot for
help. He does two things. Number one he mentions to Allah, his situation, how he is afflicted by
		
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			how is afflicted by calamity.
		
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			Hello is in a bad situation, he is sick.
		
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			And then he says the second thing he does will be Rama Tim obioma de la de La Masia allama and then
the second thing he doesn't resolve is
		
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			the mercy of Allah. He reaches out and asks ask Allah for the His mercy, the expansive Mercy of
Allah spawn tada first level level level so Allah responded to him. So two very interesting things
are in the DA of a human a Salam.
		
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			O Allah be aneema Sania
		
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			I am in a bad situation, well under a hammer rahimian and you are the Most Merciful of merciful.
This is called a toast. This is seeking a Lost Planet Allah seeking His help seeking His help by
mentioning our helplessness, and then seeking his help, by mentioning his perfection, both things a
Uranus alarm does. And that is the way we should make love. When we are sitting, whatever situation
we might be in, but particularly in this situation, considering somebody who was sick.
		
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			We don't complain of our trials or tribulations to people we try not to do that. Because that
becomes something of a sum. It could be or it could venture over into ingratitude to Allah subhanaw
taala.
		
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			What we do is we complain to Allah,
		
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			we turn to Allah. And the way we turn to and complain to Allah is through our door. The prophets of
Allah abuses say that Aloma iriga lafa wati wati lotta Haley, how are
		
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			you say Allah, I complained to you about the weakness of my situation. And the lack of power I have,
this is in the time where the Prophet Sallam was, you know, expelled from barf, ever, he turned to
Allah complained to a love of his weakness. That's what we do. We have the example of Prophet
Yaqoob. And they said, um, when he is
		
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			his grief stricken, he's really, really sad.
		
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			And his sadness, you know, you can just tell somebody who's sad to get over it with it or get on
with it. It doesn't work that way. If a person has lost a child, or they don't know whether your
child is the child is lost, and they have no news of this.
		
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			You can just say to them, okay, get over your luck, you know, go on with your life. Sometimes you
just can't, because the the pain is, is there. And Islam, we're taught to accept that this is a
reality, people go through pain, people go through difficult situations. And there's a natural
reaction to it, which is crying. And there's nothing wrong with that. The problem becomes when we
start to pin that blame on a loss of data, or become people who are pessimistic or become people who
complain and are become frustrated in the way we deal with things outside and other things, become
very frustrated with them. That's when the real problem is that sadness, grief, going over and
		
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			crossing the boundary into something else affecting other things. But the grief itself or person is
afflicted by it. You know, sometimes it takes years, and maybe at times a person never gets closure
for it. But what is clear what's important and what's clear is, we don't see something that is a
port that doesn't lead is displeasing Allah, Allah, and we don't let that incident define the rest
of our lives. jacobellis lm No, was not like you know, if you read through the use of he was very
thankful to Allah, he was patient, and he would say, you have any of us so we use quality assumere
Oh Allah, don't despair of the mercy of Allah. This is a man who is dealing with his own grief. But
		
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			he also knows that Allah Mercy is there and we cannot be people who are despairing, become hopeless,
never. Okay. We became we remain as hopeful and allows mercy as many as we can be. But Jaco will
notice when he is in his tough situation. He says in a school bus be Wahoos me in a law says I
complain of my pain and my grief to Allah. I don't complain to you people. I don't complain to
		
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			Other people. I don't make it a point that I say something that negatively affects my Eman. But I
complained to my Lord in my blog that positively affects my Eman that makes my Eman go up, then I
don't say something to people that will make me lose hope in my situation. I say to Allah, and that
gives me more hope about my situation. That is what we're taught that we turn to Allah and we ask
Allah in times of sickness, the doula, excuse me is one of the most amazing weapons that we have.
One of the most amazing remedies that we have an our prophet or you Elisa Lam is teaching us that
he's teaching us to really go out
		
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			by mentioning my complaining to a lot about our weakness of our sickness. And then seeking a lot of
help by His perfection by His Majesty. That is one thing that we learn from the story of you. Elisa.
		
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			Are you what I said um, is mentioned in the Quran as well. Are you worried another boy who is
mentioned in the Quran? As was Robbie? Donna? Are you what is another ababu Anima Sania shape all we
know? Meanwhile, this is in Surah number 38. That mentioned our servant a you mentioned our servant,
are you if you look at the books of the season,
		
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			we have some very interesting background about who you Valley Salaam was we we mentioned already how
he's how Allah describes him dealing with the situation that he was in. But let's take a look at
historically what is the scribe of a human is that even though our boss says as narrated by or as
reported by an author B.
		
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			It says Soumya or you
		
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			know, whoever lovely dialectically had, he says Are you his name as such because he would turn to a
lot in all times, other is to turn back to a lot of hanadama there's a lot of also used to make when
he will come back from home that he will not he Runa
		
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			we are coming back home and we're repenting to Allah, Allah.
		
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			Or a word also from the same route is something that is described as a positive characteristic,
someone who turns back to a loss pantalla
		
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			the name of a youth has in it, that quality that he was very quick to turn back to Allah subhanaw
taala and we notice that from his Dorough he was so he besieging the law school passionately in that
amazing dorm.
		
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			He says that, you Vanessa lamb, in the room there Malin of him, he was from the Roman Empire, or he
was, you know, ethnically Roman, that is basically somebody who is, you know, a Caucasian, that is
how they described in the books of Hadith. He had lots of money. And when he was a righteous man can
burrata T and Rahim and bill Mr. King, he was very good to the people who were who needed help. And
he would take care of the orphans and the widows, I would
		
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			honor his guests.
		
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			And share given the anomala he was a thankful person to a lost pantalla. But then his life turned
upside down. His life was rapidly changed. He was afflicted mechana assawoman albula. Like
		
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			Nikita says that he was struck by a very difficult calamity family. He was one of the he were just
happy. He is a person who had wealth and children and a healthy fat and he was healthy. He was
wealthy, he had kids and he was healthy. So
		
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			he was afflicted, in his wealth, he's lost his world. He was afflicted in his kids, as mentioned by
even goofier and others, his children died.
		
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			His children passed away. And then for Talia, to move to the Effie Jessa D and then finally he was
also afflicted in his help.
		
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			And he was afflicted in his health you will do them beside anybody and he with a type of leprosy,
others mentioned
		
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			That he was in a situation where
		
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			the,
		
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			his body was basically decaying. Like he became paralyzed, and his body became just essentially
starting to peel away his skin, his flesh started to rot and this pus, all of that started to come
wash that individual by law, his his, his,
		
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			his trial became very severe.
		
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			The order of events, some scholars mentioned that initially he lost his family and both and then his
help some mention like sad that he became sick first and then his family passed away. And then his
wealth also deserted him whatever he owned, he started to lose his his his wealth, as well as value
the value of his wealth. Irrespective of the order, the idea is a person goes from being healthy,
wealthy, and having family to having nothing at all. And all those that what am yep coming who
Seguin Silva, who was all that was left of him was his heart and his time, his heart in the sense of
he was still beating normally like physically, but also his heart, spiritually, his spirits were
		
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			good, and his tongue was there, he was able to utilize, was able to speak, unable to move.
		
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			And that is a situation he found himself to be and he was left with no one in his family see was the
only person who was who was left with him was his wife, as she used to, you know, attend to him, she
remained with him and tended to him.
		
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			And as they were running out of money,
		
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			she would go out and work for people she would go and you know, service as a maid cleaning people's
homes, doing their chores, and then whatever she would earn from that she would come and provide for
a una set up. This shows by the way that you know, in these tough times a couple has to stick
together. We have to we can't just give up on our family when they're on in. in difficult times.
This is like natural, something that's very logical, but also from the stories of the prophets. We
know that the
		
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			like someone like us and his wife stuck around with him and supported him. And she not just
supported him but provided for him in this difficult time.
		
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			Also, we see it from the Prophet Salaam Khadija Yolanda was the first supporter of the Prophet
alayhi salatu salam, the first one to verify. Yeah, you're right. You know Allah will Nick and ally
of Zika level other than Allah will never disgrace you. She was the one who took him to what aka
Ivanova, her, the the Christian monk, her cousin, explaining to him what has happened and what are
called verify to the puzzle and that this is actually Angel gibreel This is not some nightmare.
You're not going through any
		
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			you know going through anything that is cause for concern you are been chosen as a prophet, Allah.
So this shows that that the spouses have to stick together. And one of the things we're taught in
the plan is to make the offer that have been I have learned I mean as lagina was already Athena
core, what are you? What do you know him Allah, our Lord, give us spouses, that
		
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			spouses and kids our family, that is going to be kurata iron that will make our eyes cool. This is
an expression for someone crying tears of joy.
		
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			Either when you see them, or when you think of them, or when you
		
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			experience something from them. You don't cry tears of anguish, you cry tears of joy or water is
		
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			something that cools the eyes and make us leaders for for the righteous. This is the idea that we
should make this something we should make dua for and receive a love for because this is one of the
greatest things a person can have a family that will support them in their Deen and in their dunya
in good times and bad times. Now
		
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			because he says about a you are SLM
		
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			he says well odds care now you know we lucky a you Elisa Lam royerton Sabri will be here you drop
Alma Sanofi garlic. You will esalaam is an
		
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			an example or he is exemplary in
		
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			Displaying patience, and the example of people who should display patience. But he is the one who
represents that. Why is that?
		
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			Number one, when he was afflicted by all of these calamities when he was afflicted by losing his
money, losing his children, that's no joke. That's one of the most difficult things a person can
imagine going through. And then he also lost his his own health.
		
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			But let me
		
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			ask the medical, in that situation, as mentioned, but when
		
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			he started, he continued to remember a lot and in fact, remember a lot in a very beautiful way as an
advocate.
		
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			That is a sign of a righteous person, a person who, when the going gets tough, has the ability to
say Alhamdulillah, Allah is still my Lord, Allah will take care of me still, despite all that I'm
going to
		
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			one about a Ura salam, he showed how to live that.
		
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			The Prophet told us that when we have something that's bad that happens to us, you know, we say and
hamdulillah when something when something good happens to us, they say Al Hamdulillah, when
something bad happens, we say in that Illa he was in the era he Raji rune, we are we we are from
Allah, and we will return to Allah as well meaning this is a lesson plan. Law has something written
for us. And we believe in that if and when something happens that we don't like we say Alhamdulillah
Allah,
		
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			all praises for Allah in all times, and all should in all circumstances. So that is a number one
thing that's mentioned about a US alarm, that even after he lost everything, he remembered a lot and
thanked Allah and continue to do so despite his circumstances, and that is the level a person has
transcended to a level of being or living with gratitude. And by default, de facto being patient in
a very beautiful way. Okay. Now, number two about thinking about his suffering was what was rubia
Anna who maka, Phil Bala, Madonna, he
		
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			he remained sick for a long time.
		
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			It was said that he was mentioned it was mentioned that he was sick for seven years, seven years and
some months. That is the opinion of has an anniversary.
		
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			The others mentioned that he liked what he said he was sick for three years. Others say that he was
mentioned that he was sick for
		
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			17 years or 18 years. The exact figure is a matter of debate amongst the scholars of the year. But
the point is, it was a long time. If you take the average and say it's seven years, eight years, and
we take the opinion of Hassan, roughly here, that is still a really, really long time
		
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			to be
		
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			paralyzed, to be in a situation when you have after having everything you lost, literally
everything.
		
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			And you remain in that state for seven years. And while you remain in that state, you're still
thankful to Allah, that is an incredible, incredible example of gratitude and patience. This is was
mentioned of how he long he was. He says that the sapkota Lama you had told me in the last about a
long that his the flesh of his of his body started to fall off because of the decaying this
		
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			because of the decaying nature of his disease,
		
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			social halala it was a disease that paralyzed him but also it was painful, probably was a very
difficult sight to see. Yet you remain patient and thankful to Allah. Allah is narrated that his
wife said for all the homework to Lama Paula, what do you who, when his sickness was extended care
		
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			going on and on. She said, oh you asked a love for, for relief. He said I have lived 70 years. So he
had other issues of your inner center. So he had to help clean on the law he and Osman Allahu
Sabina, Santa Allahu Akbar. Look at the attitude. It says for 70 years old bugging me good health.
		
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			Is it too much for me to remain patient, but Allah has tested me for 70 years. Take this is a an
amazing expression of patience, and understanding that there is a point
		
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			of what is happening towards it may be you may not understand it right now. But Allah has wisdom.
The most immediate effect is when we go through tough times. And we're patient, that is a way for us
to ascend in paradise. Because Allah says in the manual for sabi Raja humble it is up the people who
are patient, a lot gives them their reward, with no account, meaning their reward is unlimited.
Their patience is are bound by time.
		
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			So their reward is not bound by anything either. And that's an incredible thing, we have a story of
the woman who came to the Prophet, and she said that I am afflicted by, you know, seizures, ask the
Lord that I am,
		
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			you know, that he chose me, the prophet said, Well, I can leave the door. Or if you remain patient,
through this difficulty, Allah will give you Jenna as a, as a result, as a consequence of that. She
said, I'll choose General, but just make sure that when I have seizure, my, my body does not get
exposed, and the profit window after that. So the idea is, we understand a sickness to be something
not just an immediate thing, not just a worldly thing. We think of sicknesses and difficulties with
this wide angle view, from the angle from the view of adonia. And if a person is suffering, and
they're sick and extended Lee, they're sick.
		
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			We believe that this person is ascending ranks in Paradise,
		
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			they're climbing the ranks to the highest levels of Paradise, as long as they remain patient. And if
that sickness consumes them,
		
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			inshallah, Allah then may be the cause of them entering a very high level of paradise. That is how
we see it. If that is the mindset of the believer
		
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			who is sick, that would allow that person to be able to remain patient, as they either work through
their sickness as they're treated to the sickness and inshallah cured. Or if that extends for a
while, they remain patient and hopeful, that gives us that mindset of this is all good, this is not
all lost, there is something to be gained here while I'm sick. That's the mindset that the the Quran
gives us, when it comes to understanding diseases, particularly the mother some also instructed us
by the way that every disease has a right liquidity there in the world.
		
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			So, we seek the cure, we take the means, whatever we can, but we understand that as we are treating
ourselves and finding the cure, the extending disease does not hold us back. It does not set us back
in the sense of the world or the acid, it may actually propel us in the asset in ways that maybe
other people can be propelled. So we understand this. This is something that a UVA Salaam teaches
us.
		
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			It's narrated in the books of see like
		
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			a lobotomy and others that even that, it was this difficulty was not easy to bear, right?
		
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			He was suffering extensively. So, in a release at our half you surah Tinto you owe us at least other
half you saw the puppy a one day the wife of a you she met a person who was a doctor, but in fact
there was a police disguised as a doctor. So at least said to the wife of you, that your husband is
sick. And if
		
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			if you want if he wants to, he can become better get household, he should take just a bomb, a flying
		
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			and you should
		
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			sacrifice, sacrifice it in the name of this particular item. This to me is on me, Bucky Fuller. And
if you can do that, you will become better. Now, as humans, you know, the suffering of a you was so
long, his wife is the one who is really bearing the burden along with her husband, because she is
working and supporting him and tending to him, her life is also turned upside down completely. Here,
it seems like a doctor is offering a solution to her.
		
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			So she goes and tells her husband, this is what I heard from a doctor to undo it. And you will
recognize that this is something that's unacceptable, this is shift. So he said he said attacchi and
hubbies, the wicked evil came to you let you know this is someone who was not in thinking of our
interests as someone who's trying to misguide us, and He won't do anything sacrificing this will not
show me in any way.
		
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			And then he takes an old he's a lucky aleja in Berlin to an edge. And actually the key me at agenda,
he says that if I, I swear by a lot, if I become cured, I'm going to last you 100 times. Now this is
an interesting development.
		
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			This happens when people are sick, this is a profit of a low, okay. And now he has, in a way made an
error in judgment, not the end judgment of I have to
		
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			like he went and did something that's unacceptable Islam, like sacrificing to another god or idol.
That's something that's completely acceptable. But he perhaps lost his composure a little bit. And
he at this moment, took the oath that he is going to lash his wife 100 times. That is something
again, that's unacceptable. If the you know, the, we're taught to be good to us, our spouses that
also said the best of you are ferrochrome. O'Hara calm Heroku Lee,
		
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			the best of you are those who are the best to their spouses. That's the person who has the best
character, one who is good, you know, to the people outside that are strangers, but terrible with
their own family. That's not a good character, that's not a person who has praiseworthy
characteristics. Perhaps this is a person who is living a double life to be honest with you.
		
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			So, the, the problem, and that's what we're talking about, as soon as the Prophet is not slow. So
here perhaps there is a slip up from a man who is suffering and his disease is extended. And that
happens, people who are sick people who are an extended period of difficulty, you know,
		
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			normally will make mistakes, the chance of making mistakes in that situation is even higher. So we
should be understanding of that. And that's not the end of the world as we'll see. Now, the wife of
a you, she kept on supporting her husband, she started to she kept working, but then stuff became
tough for them. She wasn't able to find work anymore. People didn't need her services anymore. For
them Mr. Ali hadelich half a UB Allah you were a Jor halaqaat menjadi How
		
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			then when situation became tough, she wasn't able to find work, she's afraid that she can provide
for you. She shaved her head okay. Not the entire thing but parts of her hair and she would take
that and she would sell her here and as a you know, for it should sell her here get money, buy food
and take to you the food
		
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			are you willing to sell was as she's bringing this food? He's noticing that this is perhaps
something different is about this. So she would say me Nina like each other.
		
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			And she would you know, basically like answer by misdirecting not telling him that she's shaving her
head. You know, they were were this thing called SEMA. Sema will be something that would be like a
bandana that kind of covers the head, like a hijab away. And so she would wear like a hijab type,
you know, cloth on her head. So she could hide the fact that she's sharing parts of her of her here.
		
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			And then she continued to do that until basically she had to shave all of her head selling her hair
off for the sake of getting money to provide for you. And then eventually you will recognize
something is up and he says, I'm not going to eat until you tell me exactly what you're doing. So
she will do it. And then she took off and when he saw her that he has had she has sacrificed
		
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			So much. She's even sacrificed her here for him. He made the Animus on your door or under hammer,
although you are a harm has touched me, and you are the one who is the Most Merciful of all people
who have mercy. So Pamela, this is a show the struggle of the one who's struggling, right, the one
who was caring for the sick, it shows that the one who is sick sometimes will say irrational things
will do irrational things will make mistakes. That's just how it is. That's how we are as human
beings, what happens at those moments should not define us. And the sacrifices one makes for another
one that a wife makes for a husband, that a husband makes for her for the wife should not be glossed
		
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			over should not be forgotten. In fact, they should be commemorated, they should be you know,
celebrated by the couple. Because this is something that shows true love.
		
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			That shows true love and devotion to each other. Are you well SLM was patient, but the thing that
made him ask Allah to bring the cure now was seeing his wife suffer.
		
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			And somewhere in the sense that she had, she had nothing left she couldn't work, she had to sell her
hair, and that's what pushed him over the edge. And that's what a last month cured him. How to lock
your usnm he was cured autocode marriage Alec has a Mutasa Lombardi mushara stamp your foot here is
a cool water for you to drink and for you to wash in and drink. So he washed this himself with this
water and he drank it and that was a cause of cure for him. And nobody says it says a lot Dali
hemella who the who is an enormous lahoma who
		
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			will have a seminar but says that he was given his family and as well, I N and the exact same ones.
This means according to some of them have a city that I love, brought his kids back to life and gave
him a you know, doubled his kids and doubled his money. This is the position that some of us have
taken a little while and exactly what is Allah? What Allah did but it is definitely within reason
and possibility that Allah miraculously brought his kids that passed away back to life. return them
back to a una Salaam
		
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			What do you mean, besides that, I will holla Illa you he says a lot reveal to you that I am going to
return to you your your family your wealth, and I'm going to double for you your family and your
world. First This is we had a map take a bath with this water for in Fiji shippo that is going to be
your cure.
		
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			Then
		
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			that is what he did. Now he had me taken an oath, he had taken an oath that I am going to lash my
wife 100 times. So last panda now is going to help him get out of this tricky situation. rec make up
for the mistake that he made. The hose bat got a little thin, take a handful of twigs, and from that
a big one. And strike with that, but do not break your own. So he took 100 pieces of wood, and he
touched his wife with it. And that was the way of fulfilling his oath. He didn't have to break his
oath he fulfilled it, but also did not hurt his wife. In our Jelena who saw the run, we found him to
be someone who was extremely patient. Now I'm allowed to do in the web. He was an excellent servant
		
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			of Allah and he turned back to Allah in difficult times. Again, the lesson here is you will Islam
had this slip up, happens with people, especially when people are sick, we have to be understanding
of that. Or you will if someone's wife was super supportive, she sacrificed a lot. And that is an
amazing thing. That's something that is to be celebrated. That's something that should increase the
love between the husband and the wife.
		
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			The profits are some says about the person who takes care about the person rather who visits a sick
person. The Prophet is out some says that
		
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			the one mom and Muslim and
		
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			mammon Muslim in
		
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			the Muslim no one in la sala de una Alfa Malik Hata UMC? Well in either Washington in la sala de una
Alfa Malik had
		
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			a Muslim
		
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			who visits another Muslim that is sick in the morning 70,000 angels pray for him until the evening.
And likewise for the one who visits in the evening 70,000 angels pray for him until it is morning.
Okay, what kind of no hurry fulfill agenda and he has a garden in paradise. This is a reward of just
visiting a person who's sick. Okay, how much more do you think is the reward for the person who is
actually sick?
		
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			That just being patient in their sickness, how much more almost uncountable reward is for the person
taking care day in and day out versus person.
		
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			That for us folks is the example for from the life of a you Bally's alum, that his wife, she was
there she is the one not just visiting him. She's taking care of him sacrificing everything she has
for her husband. And that's an amazing level of sacrifice.
		
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			That is to be celebrated. and patience is sought. You know, we were taught to become people who
understand and develop a strength of character through these incentives that our Prophet has
provided us that when we take just visitors
		
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			as he was
		
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			the one who really showed what it means to be patient, it was extremely patient Elisa Lam. Sadie
says,
		
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			Vicki Robin, Allah made him a reminder for the ones who worship a Jana who ever attended. IBD is a
reminder for those who want to be devoted to a lost padala. And for either Omarosa, whom Isabella to
mama Saba hula hoop or others awali. Navarro, a sub Raja do who are suffering, very beautiful
conclusion. He says, if people think, and they ponder on the story of how you look at the child, he
went through, he went through an immense, intense, long difficulty, who lost his family lost his
wealth, lost his health, literally nothing left, except him and his wife, and him able to speak. And
his wife lost everything to she couldn't even work had to shave her hair to support her husband. And
		
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			what they see if people observe the situation, what you find is, this couple was patient.
		
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			They were patient, they remained in a state of
		
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			understanding that Allah is going to bring some good, and this is not all bad, and the hope is all
not lost, this is going to get better. That's what we find. That's the attitude that we find a sub.
And that's what Allah says about him in Ghana, whose father, we found him to be steadfast, someone
who is able to hold on and that's why he is an example for us, particularly those of us who are
sick, we ask Allah, Allah to allow us to
		
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			seek cure.
		
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			In the in, secure for the diseases that we are struck with, we ask Allah to give cure to those who
are second only female Donna, one of the Muslim in Allah give Shiva to those who are sick. Well if
he moved to Atlanta, or move to LA Muslim, he narrow last potluck, take care of those who are in a
tight spot.
		
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			We asked Allah, Allah to give us the patience, the beautiful patience of our Prophet Are you buddy
Salaam, who, in the moments of difficulty, kept steady, steadfast, thankful, until Allah brought
relief. We asked a lot of give us this kind of mindset. We ask a lot to allow us to make up for our
mistakes because we're humans, we're gonna have slip ups. We ask a lot to reward those who take care
of the sick immensely, without reward without without record, without limit. May Allah reward them
for taking care of those who are sick. And we ask Allah like the Prophet said to his uncle Ibis
subtle law for our life here. We ask Allah for good health and well being
		
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			I mean, Zack Monahan for attending. I just wanted to quickly plug something before I end, which is
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			alcocer.org is the site please go check it out. And inshallah if you're not able to join us on April
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