Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P21 217C Tafsir Al-Ahzab 5
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The history and practice of Islam are discussed, including the use of pronouns and adoption. The importance of obeying the Prophet sallam and not to fear them is emphasized. Discussions also touch on controversial topics such as the use of names and missing people, and the use of "right of birth" to describe missing people.
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Now over here we see two Jahai practices being abolished.
Right? What were these two daily practices? First off Lee Hall, and secondly, off at the money. All right. Now when it comes to the hall, this aisle makes it clear that pronouncing li ha is something that
is not going to affect the marital status.
Right? Because if a man says to his wife, you're like my mother, it doesn't turn her into his mother. Right? And he didn't pronounce the words of divorce. So he wasn't actually divorce. However, pronouncing jihad is a major sin, which is why in total Magetta, the details of it are revealed. All right, and we see that a punishment is given to the man who pronounced li ha, against their wives. All right. So the details of this are in silicon Bucha Adela. The second practice was a funny
right off the beneath, of underneath from even to make someone your son.
Now, one thing over here, many Muslims, they think adoption is something not allowed in Islam. You can't adopt a child, you can't raise a child. This is incorrect. Understanding what is not allowed is that you give that child your name.
Meaning you can raise children in your house, children who are not yours, and you treat them like your family. There is nothing wrong in that, whether they are relatives or they're not. There's nothing wrong with that. In fact, there's something that's highly encouraged in our religion. What is prohibited, however, is that you must not give them your legal name. Why?
What's the big deal? What's in the name?
lineage, remember that in our deen, one of the objectives of the laws that we are given is protection of lineage, right? So that child if he grows up, knowing that, okay, this is my surname, I belong to this family, but I don't belong. It's, you're neither here, nor are you there.
You understand, you feel like you belong to the family. But you know that you don't actually belong. Many times it happens that children are raised, and they're not even informed.
They're not even informed. And what happens, they grew up with false identity. And then when they're told about the reality, it's like a bomb on their heads, literally, it shatters them.
And remember that with the name, also, there are many rights as well as certain responsibilities. So for example, inheritance,
right, and then certain responsibilities also towards the family. So anyway, these two practices are being abolished over here,
or the rule home. Allah says, call them meaning adopt them, keep them, but call them meaning call these children, Li obey Him, by their fathers meaning by the names of their biological fathers, who it is up to sell to more just in the law near Allah, in the sign of Allah, this is more fair, it's more fair to the child. It's more fair to the society. And it's more fair in general because it's a true statement. Otherwise, you're faking it
right? For in Lom then if not thoroughly MO You know about a home their fathers so the question that you asked that if the child's biological father is not known, then Allah says for a while no calm then still they are your brothers. Meaning then you don't make them your children that you give them your surname, you treat them like your brother's fifth Dean in the religion.
So then you can give them a name like
Abdullah.
You understand? You can give them a name like Abdullah you could also give them a name such as you know, many women for example, the name will be Fatima BV.
You know, in certain cultures, it's like that in Pakistani culture, for example. BV basically means, what does it mean?
Something like mme Okay, something like that. It's something honorable that you call someone BB. So this is why they would many girls are given such names, right. So, a name like that can be given. You understand? So in this ayah What Allah subhanaw taala is saying is that if you don't know their fathers, even that should not be a reason for you to give them your name.
They are like who they are like your brothers indeed. Your sisters indeed. What and Mo Alikum. Ma Li is the plural of the word molar who is Mola Mola is basically freed slave
because many times this adoption would happen.
How that somebody would buy a slave or get a slave. That child is very close to the family, family has a lot of affection for him. And then eventually the child, you know, he set free. And he's declared the son, the adopted son of that family. All right. So in that case, because especially if it's a slave, if he was a slave, he probably doesn't even know who his father is where he's from.
You understand? You see in Arab society, so many people were actually slaves. All right. And with Islam, what happened? So many slaves were set free. All right. And once they were set free, who do they identify themselves with? You understand? This is something that's very difficult for people that will do I belong to, who am I related to? Because many slaves were taken into slavery as children. They were kidnapped and sold into slavery. They didn't even know where they were from. They didn't even know their own names or the names of their parents. How could they know their surname? All right. So then, how are they known?
Allah subhanaw taala says they are your moheli. What does it mean? Meaning you call them molar off so and so.
Like for example, when we look at the books of Hadith, we learn about roommate molar of them will follow on will follow one of the companions. All right. She had a slave who was roommate, she set him free.
When he was freed, what's his background? Where's he actually from Allah Who Arla maybe he didn't even know I don't know exactly if he knew or not. However in the society he was known as homemade Moeller on will follow.
Likewise, we learned about crib crib, molar ignored verse.
So you see there is a link over here.
Now even our buffalo Warren who was really good to crib grave Amin, a hadith or narrative from him. Can you think about the level that he got in that society? Right, so he was known as Kure Mola in our best we learned about NAFTA. Mola IV neuroma
the freed slave of who are the Levin Erma Radi Allahu Anhu. So, again, Allah subhanaw taala says here that if you set your slaves free, you don't call them your own son. You call them who Mola off, so and so. All right. Well, ASR Aleikum and there is not on you do not own any sin femur concerning that which don't you ERD be of it, meaning any mistake that you've made so far, you don't need to worry about whatever has happened has happened. Don't worry about your past mistakes, just fix them now and move on. So for example, they don't allow our new he was known as a been Muhammad Sallallahu sallam. After this he was known as Zaven Haritha. Why because the name of his father was known. And
if it wasn't known, then then what would be done?
molar the freed slave of who? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam Right. Or if he wasn't a slave, and he was just adopted by the Prophet salallahu Salam then in that case, any other name would be given. Okay, like for example, Abdullah would be given. Okay, so when Azar Aleikum, Jr, Han female, Tommy, any mistake that's been made so far, no sin on you, while I can but mad that which thumb that Globacom your hearts intend Dharma that from thermodyne meme doll? What does thermwood mean? Deliberate, intentional deed? What can Allah Hula, hula Rahima And Allah is Ever forgiving and merciful. So Allah will forgive the past mistakes if you correct your present state. So what does
this ayah show to us the prohibition of giving adopted children your surname. Why? Because it's an injustice. It is a lie. Of the objective of the fear is the preservation of lineage. Truth hurts sometimes, but eventually it is the only comfort.
We learned that the Prophet sallallahu sallam said he who claimed for another one of his fatherhood beside his own father, knowingly that he was not his father to him, meaning a person says so and so is my father. And he knows that he's not actually his father. He pretends to belong to that family, whereas in reality doesn't belong to that family. The Prophet sallallahu sallam said then paradise is forbidden
because a person is living a lie. In another Hadith we learn he who claims anyone else as his father besides his own father or makes one his molar other than the one who freed him. There's the curse of Allah, that of his angels and that of the whole mankind upon him.
So this is a serious matter.
And what else do we learn over here if something was done in mistake, then that is forgiven because we pray to Allah Allah Bonilla to fitna in Messina, I thought No. But what is deliberate than that is something that people are held responsible for. Now this Surah Surah Al Aqsa, it has a very powerful beginning, basically, the prophets on a lot of sentiment is directly addressed over here, right? And there is no indirect command, it's all direct, that you must obey Allah. And you must not pay heed to what the opponents of the religion criticize you with what they tell you, you must fear Allah and obey Allah, because you are His servant, and he will question you. Now, you may have heard
of, actually, you may be very familiar with various controversial issues about Islam.
Like for example, can you think of any controversial issue when it comes to the personality or the life of the prophet Sallallahu? alayhi wasallam Can you think of any?
Okay, the fact that he had many wives, all right, any other controversial issue about Islam? Yes.
Okay, you know, things that people you know, they throw at you and they try to you know, make you feel like what are you going to do about it? How are you going to answer this? Okay, the marriage of the prophets of Allah Islam to Aisha, Radi Allahu anha. Okay. Okay, the various battles that were fought in the life of the prophet Sallallahu wasallam. Okay.
Okay, the fact that the Prophet salallahu Salam about married to the divorced wife of his stepson, which inshallah we will learn about in the sutra? What about hijab? Isn't that such a big issue that's raised about Islam? Right hijab? And specifically, what about the hijab? The face veil? Right? Likewise, when it comes to Islamic history, we also learn about this particular Jewish tribe that lived in Medina and the prophets on alongside them had their men executed, and the women and the children were enslaved. Right? I mean, these are all issues that are brought up. And you know what all of these issues are actually mentioned in the sutra.
All right, all of these controversial issues are mentioned were in the Surah. So this was a very difficult time for the prophets on a lot of them think about a 1400 years later, we feel uncomfortable when people ask us about these matters or forget about them asking, even if these things are mentioned, somewhere we feel uncomfortable, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he was being given the very verses, all right, which contained these matters. And the prophets of Allah Sena was not being given any choice over here. You can imagine the fear the discomfort that we feel, imagine the fear and the discomfort that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam felt, all right. Imagine
the noise that is made today. If just to try to imagine the noise that was made in the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, by his enemies, both internal as well as external enemies. So right at the beginning, the Prophet salallahu Salam is reminded of who servant he really is. And this is something that we need to remember also, that we are first and foremost who servants, Allah subhanaw taala servants, our goal in life is not to please other people. It is not to satisfy others and to show to them that Oh, my religion is, you know, very this and very that and as long as you're happy with me, I don't care. No, our goal is not to serve and worship people. It is to worship who
it is to worship. Allah subhanaw taala. And the thing is that when a person does bring about change in their life, according to the commands of Allah, it is difficult because first and foremost, you have to fight against to your own self. All right. Now, you see, the commands that were revealed in the Surah did directly affected the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, the first thing that we learned in the Surah is about who the adopted sons, right that you cannot give them your own name, you have to call them by whose name by the name of their biological fathers correct. Now, wasn't this something that affected the profits on a lot of them personally? It did, right? Because
he had declared they drilled below line who to be his own son. Just imagine, now when we learn to have a command in the Quran, you know, that directly conflicts with something that we have done in our lives. It's so difficult, isn't it? But imagine the prophets of Allah is an abyss directly affected him. All right. So he is reminded over here that he must obey Allah and that he must rely upon Allah. So over here, the first command that is mentioned is with regards to who with regards to adopted children. This does not mean that adoption in Islam is impermissible. You cannot raise somebody else's child. No, it is
Definitely permissible it is definitely encouraged. But just one thing, keep facts as facts. Keep reality as reality, don't change reality, in love for someone. All right? Because this is injustice in the sight of Allah, that if somebody's name is changed, what is changed, their identity is being changed, right facts are being changed and that is unfair.
So for example, over here, last print artist has an eye on number five, that old rule homely ABA II him who accept or in the law, call them by the names of their fathers, because this is more just in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala, it is more OXA it is closer to fist, it is closer to justice. Because calling a person by their father's name is what? maintaining their identity, right? That is who they are, and changing their name to somebody else's that is changing their identity. Right? Think about it. Who are you? You are your father's your mother's child? Isn't that? And this is a link that can never be abolished? That can never be changed, isn't it? So? I mean, a person gets
married to somebody, the marriage can that end? It can end. But your relationship with your parents, can that ever be ended? No, it can never be ended. Right? When your body is a proof of that? How that you share the same features, isn't it? Why is it that sometimes when you go to the doctor's for some serious checkup or something they ask you about your family history, isn't it? Why do they ask you about your family history? Because it matters, doesn't it? So your lineage is your identity, and changing that? Changing? That is what it is changing facts and changing facts? This is injustice in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala. Right. So over here, it's made clear to the rumely about him.
Okay, good question, that if a child is adopted, and they grew up with you, in your family, do you still have to maintain hijab? Yes, because there's no blood relationship over there. Right? Just one thing to remember that if it's a child a baby, then of course the child can be nursed right from someone in the family. So that ties through to Laurel through suckling are established. All right. And Alhamdulillah in this day and age, it's really not difficult to do that. Right. I know of so many moms SubhanAllah. You know, they have adopted babies, literally. I remember a long time ago, when the earthquake happened in Kashmir, many, many, about 10 years ago, there was a friend of ours
in a hula Institute, who was expecting she had a baby. And then because she was still lactating, she adopted a child from Kashmir from Pakistan, and Alhamdulillah, she nursed the child and she had two little children to race at the same time. So you know, this is really beautiful, because that child was an orphan that maybe was an orphan, right? So such ties can be established, of course, but remember that when it comes to lineage when it comes to your own children to have a share in inheritance, right, but an adopted child does not have share in the inheritance. However, what can be done in our religion, remember, sudo Nyssa. There's two things right? When it comes to
inheritance. One is fixed shares, fixed chairs have who have the heirs that have been appointed by Allah subhanaw taala, that person has been given a choice of up to a third of your property, you can give it to somebody as we'll see you. Right. So that can be done. All right.
Okay, now, when it comes to changing the name, what about taking the husband's name after marriage?
Taking the husbands name after marriage. What about that? Huh? Okay. See, scholars they have said that how can a woman take the husband's surname? As if she is part of the same lineage? Right? She's not part of the same lineage. All right. Moreover, they say that she may get divorced or husband may die, and she may marry another man. How many times? Is she going to change her identity? Will she keep changing her surname every time she marries another man or something like that happens.
And they said that the husband is named after his own father. And what does she has to do with the lineage of her husband's father?
They also said that the husband has nothing that makes him better than his wife so that she should take his surname while he takes his father's name.
You understand? Why not the other way around? There was an article published in the BBC magazine in November 2014. And a woman she had written the article and she said that if I were to take my husband's name upon marriage, it would make me first and foremost a wife, while my husband would remain
himself. All right, introducing myself as my name and then my husband's name would mean that saying I do have fundamentally changed the answer to the question who am I? All right. And basically, this is an English phenomenon. Alright, British, particularly. And this is a very, you know, ancient tradition, which is based upon the legal principle that upon marriage that basically a woman has no identity before marriage. All right. And after marriage, she becomes her husband's possession. All right, and her state of namelessness reflected this. And in the words of one quart in the year 1341, a woman took her husband, she lost every surname except wife off. All right. So, you see, this is
something that doesn't have any basis in our religion. And secondly, if you look at it, historically speaking, this is something that goes against Islamic teachings also.
I mean, it's fine, but why not miss your last name? Right? Because if you think about it all your life as a student as a, as somebody who's had a professional career, you had a particular surname, all right. And then upon marriage, all of a sudden, you become somebody else. So then do they call you miss a mother, that's your father's name or miss somebody else? That's your husband's surname, you understand what I mean? It's like losing yourself. This is what feminists say. I'm not saying that we shouldn't be feminists over here, or you know, Islam and feminism. Yay, they're together. Just look at things as they actually are. All right, we shouldn't imitate others. All right. And it
also shows to us that a woman is, you know, because we have this feeling or this understanding in our culture, that you're incomplete. If you're not married, you know, when you are missing somebody, then you are somebody. And if you're not a missus, somebody then it says, if you have no value, no, you are valuable as an individual. You know, Islam recognizes you as an individual, you have your rights, your responsibilities as an individual. Right. Now, the question is that if somebody has done this in the past, now, what should be done?
What should be done? What does Allah subhanaw taala say? Oh, the room, Lisa II him. You see in the past the Prophet salallahu Salam declared as a little dilemma on who to be Zaid Bin Mohammed. All right, what happened after the revelation of this ayah? Was it still Zaid Bin Mohammed? Because that's how he had always been called? Know? What was it then? Zaid? Bin Haritha? Correct. So a person has to correct this in sha Allah. So the rumely ABA, em who accept or in the law, and then in the case where the biological father is not known, then what should be done?
What should be done then?
Give what kind of a surname, any other generic general surname? All right. Like Abdullah? Mohammed, you know, the name Muhammad is so common within Muslims, isn't it?
Isn't it? It's like so many Muslim men. Their name is incomplete without Mohammed. Alright, so a name like that could also be given. So generic common name. Okay. And you see, this is also in Western culture that a person is given not just one name, but two names. Like for example, I don't know if you ever watched Magic School Bus, but Dorothy N. Alright, it's Dorothy. N. So why is the end there?
It's like an extra added name. Right. So something like that can be done in sha Allah. But facts should not be changed? Yes.
Okay, is the same. So the question is if the name of the Father is not given, meaning the parent who has adopted so the men, let's say his name is Ahmed. Okay, his name is Ahmed Abdullah, for example. All right, he adopts a boy. So he gives him the name, let's say, Ahmed. So instead of naming him Omar Ahmed, he named him Omar Abdullah, is that okay? No, because Abdullah is his surname. All right. What if they have a family name? Even that name should not be given? Why? Because it's mixing up the facts, you understand? So you see what this shows me? What I understand from this is that every child has the right to know who their biological parents are.
That is justice near Allah. You see, how often do we hear that a certain child they were given up for adoption? And then what happened? As I grew older, they wanted to know who their biological parents are. So they went back to their home country to find out who their biological parents are, but the eight
didn't see is not allowed to even give them the name of their biological parents. Right. And that is to protect the biological parents. And that's understandable. However, isn't that unfair to the child? Isn't it?
I watched this documentary about these two twin sisters actually, who were adopted in different parts of the world. What's the name?
Exactly? They found each other through social media. Okay, they didn't even know that they had a twin. They had no idea. All right, they found each other through social media. And what happened. Eventually they met, they got a DNA test done. And they found out that they were actually twins. But the agency through which they were adopted, that never showed that they had a twin. All right. And these two girls, they went back to the country where they were adopted from and they wanted to get in touch with their mother but the mother, no, the agency was not allowed. And so one of the twins was cool with it. It didn't really bother her it seemed but the other one, it seemed to have
affected her personality, her upbringing so much, it was like a deep pain in her. This is injustice.
Exactly. It's like you don't know who you really are, until you know where you are from. This is just part of human nature because bultaco memberhub We are from each other. So we need to have a complete sense of identity, we have to know who we belong to, we need to have a sense of belonging. So I'm like I was just saying, let's say the parents don't tell that you know, you were adopted and you're our child and they later find out it's hurtful to the parents who lied because once the kid finds out then they obviously feel bad that like I'm not from you guys. I'm not a part of your family. And then sometimes it could lead to them hurting the parents who actually raised them as a
child right? So it's nothing anything that starts from a lie doesn't really end well so it's hurtful the parent and for the kid Exactly. So the rule is simple or the room Lisa em who Axolotl in the law that is the most fair in the sight of Allah keep facts as facts. Recitation will do a rumely
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